Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She’s consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.
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Swipe Culture, Dating Disasters & Reality TV with Zack Peter
11/21/2025
Swipe Culture, Dating Disasters & Reality TV with Zack Peter
Why are dating shows so wildly popular? Do you ever wonder if those wild moments from reality TV have anything to do with your real-life dating struggles? What lessons—good or bad—are these shows teaching us, and how do we handle the ever-evolving swipe culture and its endless options? In Episode 421 of The Charisma Quotient, “Swipe Culture, Dating Disasters & Reality TV with Zack Peter” Kimmy Seltzer and Allison Melody sit down with pop culture expert Zack Peter to tackle these big questions, blending reality TV drama with practical, real-world advice (and lots of laughs). The conversation kicks off with stories from Zack's own journey through podcasting, his show “Disaster Daters," and his penchant for publicly sharing every dating mishap. The trio dives into the nuances of modern dating, from accidental therapy sessions over coffee to decoding signals like hair flipping and the infamous "resting bitch face." They dig deep into why meeting people in real life (especially in LA) feels so daunting, the pitfalls of dating app culture, and why commitment can feel so elusive. Throughout, Kimmy jumps in with her expert advice, challenging Zack and Allison to shift their approaches, embrace playful flirtation, and build authentic connections—both on and off screen. You’ll hear: How subconscious signals like hair flipping and body language influence flirting (and what to do intentionally!). An honest discussion about meeting people IRL vs. on dating apps, and why both can be equally daunting. What makes a “promise ring” such a hot topic—and why it might be better to skip it altogether. The impact of swipe culture and the myth of finding someone who checks every box. Kimmy’s practical, therapist-approved tips for flirting, building approachability, and meeting people outside your comfort zone. If you’re ready to step out of your comfort zone, book a free call with Kimmy here: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Rediscovering Your Spark: Renee Halverson’s Golden Bachelor Journey
11/13/2025
Rediscovering Your Spark: Renee Halverson’s Golden Bachelor Journey
Have you ever found yourself wondering if your spark has faded? Do you think it's possible to feel sexy, confident, and truly alive—no matter your age, your relationship status, or the life curveballs thrown your way? What does “age gracefully” really mean beyond creams, serums, and green juices? In Episode 420 of The Charisma Quotient, “Rediscovering Your Spark: Renee Halverson’s Golden Bachelor Journey” Kimmy and her co-host Allison join pop culture guru and podcast host of So Bad It’s Good, to peel back the layers of pop culture, personal stories, and hard-hitting dating advice. In this episode, Kimmy is joined by Renee Halverson, a standout contestant from the first season of ABC’s Golden Bachelor and former NFL Chicago Honey Bears cheer captain. Together, they dive into the real meaning of sexy confidence and aging vibrantly. Renee shares her whirlwind experience on the Golden Bachelor and how, even when stepping out of comfort zones, she learned the importance of self-focus, sisterhood, and maintaining her sparkle. Kimmy and Renee unpack not just the glamorous moments, but also the doubts, personal reinvention, and challenges faced when dating later in life—especially after years spent caretaking and putting others first. You’ll hear: What “sexy confidence” and aging vibrantly mean—beyond physical appearance and beauty routines Renee’s personal story: transitioning from caretaker to Golden Bachelor contestant The behind-the-scenes reality of casting, preparation, and life on the Golden Bachelor Honest revelations about comparing oneself to others and dealing with self-doubt The importance of female friendship, sisterhood, and support systems in later-life dating If you’re ready to rediscover your spark, book a free call with Kimmy here: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Dating Lessons from the Golden Bachelor Mansion Retreat: Golden Bachelor Recap S2 E8
11/07/2025
Dating Lessons from the Golden Bachelor Mansion Retreat: Golden Bachelor Recap S2 E8
Have you ever wondered what actually happens behind the scenes at a dating retreat inspired by reality TV? How can you bring more excitement and authenticity to your dating life, especially as you navigate dating later in life? Can reality television actually teach us meaningful lessons about forming connections? In Episode 419 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Lessons from the Golden Bachelor Mansion Retreat: Golden Bachelor Recap S2 E8” Kimmy and her co-host Allison are live in the Golden Bachelor Mansion in Temecula. They give you the full tour of the place before diving into episodes on the latest episode and Kimmy’s retreat! In this lively episode recorded Live From the Golden Bachelor Mansion Retreat, hosts Kimmy Seltzer and Allison Melody invite you into the heart of their dating retreat in Southern California—where the glitz of reality TV meets the depth of personal transformation. They kick things off with a whimsical walk-through of the mansion, sharing behind-the-scenes details and honest vibes, all while prepping for the arrival of retreat guests. The conversation weaves through reflections on the latest Golden Bachelor episode—breaking down on-screen chemistry, emotional availability, and the real-world parallels to authentic relationships. Kimmy draws insight from her experience as a dating strategist, therapist, and image consultant, while Allison keeps things raw with practical suggestions and witty commentary. You’ll hear: A candid mansion tour revealing the setup for a transformational dating retreat. A recap and analysis of the latest Golden Bachelor episode—did Mel choose chemistry or compatibility? The importance of balancing playfulness, relaxation, and deep connection when dating later in life. Why emotional availability and boundary-setting are key (and how not to be boring on dates). The power of friendship and camaraderie in the dating journey—especially when facing life’s transitions. If you’re ready to rediscover your spark, book a free call with Kimmy here: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Golden Bachelor Recap: Real Talk on Reality with Ryan Bailey
11/03/2025
Golden Bachelor Recap: Real Talk on Reality with Ryan Bailey
How does confidence play a role in dating, reality TV, and the way we present ourselves to the world? What really separates genuine connection from fleeting chemistry, especially in the sometimes surreal world of reality dating shows? In Episode 418 of The Charisma Quotient, “Golden Bachelor Recap: Real Talk on Reality with Ryan Bailey” Kimmy and her co-host Allison join pop culture guru and podcast host of So Bad It’s Good, to peel back the layers of pop culture, personal stories, and hard-hitting dating advice. This episode dives deep into the intersection of entertainment and life as Kimmy, Allison, and Ryan discuss everything from the psychology of reality TV contestants, the allure and pitfalls of influencer culture, to what "sexy confidence" really means—especially for later-life daters. With honest, often hilarious storytelling, you’ll hear candid confessions about personal struggles with confidence, lessons learned from coaching both real-world singles and reality stars, and the true magic that comes from leaning into your quirks, mistakes, and vulnerabilities. Plus, the Golden Bachelor gets dissected, from its friendships to its controversies, and we even get the inside scoop on Ryan Bailey’s own romantic journey—including the baby news and his take on dating apps. You’ll hear: Why reality TV makes confidence both easier and more complicated—and what happens when the cameras shut off. The truth behind pop culture’s influence on dating trends and the rise of influencer-first attitudes. Kimmy’s four Cs of dating: how being compelling, having chemistry, being compatible, and compromise are essential for a healthy relationship. Insights from the Golden Bachelor: friendships, disappointments, and what really goes on behind the scenes. If you’re ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Unlocking Love After Loss: Real Talk with Real Bachelors: Golden Bachelor Recap S2 E4
10/24/2025
Unlocking Love After Loss: Real Talk with Real Bachelors: Golden Bachelor Recap S2 E4
What does it really take to open your heart after heartbreak or divorce? Why do we attract certain types of partners, and how can we break free from guardedness to find authentic connection? How much should we share about our past traumas, and when is the right time to get real about what we truly want in a relationship? In Episode 417 of The Charisma Quotient, “Unlocking Love After Loss: Real Talk with Real Bachelors,” you’ll get a special look at Kimmy’s new show Dating Real Talk where Kimmy and her co-host Allison Melody, and special guests Doug and Mark—two real-life bachelors sharing candid insights. This episode explores the heightened emotions and drama of the "Golden Bachelor," but quickly goes beyond TV to extract powerful lessons for anyone dating in their second act. Kimmy Seltzer leads a lively discussion with co-host Allison Melody and two real-life bachelors, Doug Bass and Mark Primiano, about body language, pressure in dating, and the pitfalls of seeking commitment too soon, connecting reality show moments to what actually happens in the world of dating after divorce. The group tackles the differences (and surprising similarities) between men and women when it comes to vulnerability, attraction, and the pain of love lost. Plus, Doug and Mark reveal what it feels like to date post-divorce, how trauma and guardedness affect their desire for openness, and the lively banter around authentic connection versus superficial “fun.” You’ll hear: The real-life male perspective on dating after divorce (what’s different, what’s hard, and what’s hopeful) Insights from watching and dissecting “The Golden Bachelor”—and what applies to your own dating life How to recognize body language cues that reveal true feelings (and the risks of ignoring them) Candid discussion on when (and how) to share your past traumas with a new partner The power of authenticity, self-love, and real energy in attracting the right relationship If you’re ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Dating Over 50: Why Aging Is Your Superpower with Golden Bachelor’s Natascha Hardee
10/16/2025
Dating Over 50: Why Aging Is Your Superpower with Golden Bachelor’s Natascha Hardee
Have you ever looked in the mirror and questioned whether you’re still desirable or wondered if finding love later in life is even possible? What if everything you’ve been told about aging — especially when it comes to love, relationships, and sensuality — was wrong? In Episode 416 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Over 50: Why Aging Is Your Superpower with Golden Bachelor’s Natascha Hardee,” Kimmy dives deep into the powerful truth that aging isn’t a decline, but a dynamic redesign and a superpower for living vibrantly.. In this episode, Kimmy welcomes Natascha Hardy, a pro-aging advocate and one of the standout stars from The Golden Bachelor, for an honest and joyful conversation about reinvention, visibility, and reclaiming joy and flirtation in midlife. Kimmy and Natasha share transformative stories from their own lives and the lives of their clients—like the 85-year-old woman learning to flirt at a bar or the transformational moment when covering mirrors turned into rediscovering beauty in oneself. You’ll also hear funny behind-the-scenes moments from the first season of the Golden Bachelor. They explore why so many feel “past their prime” and reveal how you can cultivate radiance and confidence, rewrite your story, and connect meaningfully with others regardless of age. You’ll get expert insights on mindset, navigating the shifting landscape of relationships, and breaking free from societal expectations. From revelations about dating as a skill and tackling emotional intelligence, to actionable advice on self-love and setting boundaries, every moment is geared towards showing you how to live life large at any age. You’ll hear: Tips for reinventing your dating life, even after decades away from the scene. Why aging amplifies your wisdom, confidence, and sensuality, not diminishes it. The skill of dating: how it’s learned, practiced, and why it matters more now than ever. Real talk about emotional intelligence and the differences between how men and women approach relationships in midlife. Actionable ways to prioritize self-love, set boundaries, and cultivate community in your second act. If you’re ready to redefine sexy, book a free call with Kimmy here: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Dating Real Talk: Where Reality TV Meets Real Life Love
10/09/2025
Dating Real Talk: Where Reality TV Meets Real Life Love
Ready to transform your dating life—whether you're just jumping in, coming back after a hiatus, or navigating dating's "second act"? In Episode 414 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Real Talk: Where Reality TV Meets Real Life Love,” Kimmy shares episode 1 of her new live show “Dating Real Talk - your destination for all things love, attraction, and confidence, blending the juicy drama of reality TV with actionable, empowering advice for today's singles. In this episode, Kimmy is joined by her friend and fellow podcaster Allison Melody. Kimmy kicks off the series by introducing her own transformation story: from a “frumpy” newly single mom in LA to finding her confidence (and style!) again after divorce. Allison and Kimmy dive into how themes from pop culture—specifically, The Golden Bachelor—mirror the real-world dating experiences of those “in their second act.” Together, they unpack why taking action trumps simply “doing the work” in dating, the importance of first impressions (and the surprising science of the red dress!), and how to balance authenticity with making a memorable entrance—especially on a first date. The hosts debate the do’s and don’ts of sharing your personal story early on, discuss the concept of "trauma bonding," and offer practical advice for both men and women navigating modern dating norms. You’ll hear: The key first impression mistakes people make (and reality TV examples to avoid) How trauma bonding shows up in dating—and what true vulnerability looks like The difference between “pink flags” and “red flags,” and how to spot them early How to break the cycle of overthinking and show up more playfully on dates Real talk on where to go for a first date and why “coffee isn’t flirty” If you’re ready to get fun and flirty, book a free call with Kimmy here: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Healing Trauma, Releasing Shame & Embracing Your Sensuality: Interview with Veronica Clark
10/03/2025
Healing Trauma, Releasing Shame & Embracing Your Sensuality: Interview with Veronica Clark
Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your dating life? Do you find yourself pulling away when things get close, hiding parts of yourself, or confusing sexual attraction for true intimacy? What if old trauma or hidden shame is quietly running the show without you even realizing it? In Episode 413 of The Charisma Quotient, “Healing Trauma, Releasing Shame & Embracing Your Sensuality: Inteview with Veronica Clark,” Kimmy explores some of the deepest—and most common—blocks people face on their journey to love and connection. In this episode, Kimmy sits down with celebrated intimacy coach and somatic healing expert Veronica Clark. Together, they shed light on how past experiences of trauma, sexual shame, and people-pleasing behaviors can create invisible barriers, shaping the way you show up in dating and relationships. Kimmy shares powerful stories from her own coaching practice, including clients who unconsciously sabotage connections, avoid vulnerability, or chase unavailable partners out of old, unhealed wounds. Veronica shares her remarkable personal journey, moving from trauma and self-judgment to becoming an advocate for embodied sensuality, authentic connection, and sexual healing. You’ll hear: How hidden trauma and shame silently sabotage your love life—often without your awareness. Why people-pleasing, caretaking, and chasing unavailable partners are signs of old wounds playing out. The difference between real sexual chemistry and seeking validation or a “fix” from others. The transformative power of somatic experiencing, mindfulness, and embodiment practices. Practical tips for reclaiming sexuality, building body confidence, and healing shame—in and out of relationships. If you’re ready to unlock your true capacity for intimacy, book a free call with Kimmy here: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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ICYMI: A Real Golden Bachelorette Finds Love: Where Are They Now with Leslie
09/26/2025
ICYMI: A Real Golden Bachelorette Finds Love: Where Are They Now with Leslie
Welcome back to one of our favorite segments on The Charisma Quotient: Where are They Now? In Episode 412 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: A Real Golden Bachelorette Finds Love: Where Are They Now with Leslie,” Kimmy sits down with former client Leslie, a widow who embarked on a journey to find love in her second act. Leslie's incredible transformation and her ultimate love story will leave you feeling inspired and hopeful. Leslie joined Kimmy's coed dating retreat program after attending Kimmy’s workshop about flirting and sexy confidence. She was a relationship person with little dating experience and was finding herself feeling lost and not knowing how to put herself out there. The thought of flirting horrified her and she realized that she was closed off, guarded and in her head a lot. She also didn’t realize that she was hiding in her clothes and didn’t like bringing attention to herself. YOU’LL HEAR: The key mindset shift that helped her go from outcome-focused and burnt out to open and present in her dating life. The importance of vulnerability, self-care, and expressing your needs in attracting meaningful connections. How Kimmy’s style makeover and group retreat experience empowered Leslie to feel seen, sexy, and confident. Lessons on flirting, body language, and stepping into your femininity without feeling like you’re “trying too hard.” The turning point moment when Leslie stopped judging and allowed herself to date with curiosity—even giving men a chance she’d usually overlook. Through undergoing a style makeover, learning dating and flirting skills, Leslie became more open and vulnerable, leading her to start dating men she wouldn't have considered before. Eventually, she met someone who brought happiness into her life and is in a beautiful relationship today! Exciting announcement to join Kimmy in launching her livestream podcast Dating Real Talk premiering Sept 26 at 5:30pmPST/8:30pmEST. Go to YouTube Channel @kimmyseltzer or to join live! If you’re ready to be the next Golden Bachelor success story, book a free call with Kimmy here: Watch Kimmy’s dating retreat and later dater success stories featured in Inside Edition Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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What Is Quantum Dating? Why Everyone’s Talking About It and How to Try It
09/18/2025
What Is Quantum Dating? Why Everyone’s Talking About It and How to Try It
Have you ever wondered why dating feels like a high-stakes interview or why the pressure to “find the one” can be so exhausting? What if there were a way to approach dating that feels lighter, more playful, and actually attracts better connections? In Episode 411 of The Charisma Quotient, “What Is Quantum Dating? Why Everyone’s Talking About It and How to Try It,” Kimmy invites you to rethink everything you know about modern romance. In this thought-provoking episode of Charisma Quotient, Kimmy Seltzer introduces us to “quantum dating”—an emerging dating philosophy that flips traditional expectations on their head. Drawing from her years of coaching experience and referencing a viral term, Kimmy explains how quantum dating is less about chasing commitment and more about curious exploration. She dives into real-life stories of clients who transformed their love lives by loosening the grip on outcomes and letting each interaction become a valuable, self-revealing experience. Kimmy goes over how quantum dating helps reduce burnout, expand potential partners, and ultimately attracts more aligned, lasting relationships by focusing on connection rather than pressure. Kimmy also addresses common concerns, busts quantum dating myths, and shares her top five actionable tips to help you put this game-changing mindset into practice—whether you’re casually dating, returning to the scene later in life, or seeking something real. You’ll hear: What “quantum dating” really means (and why it’s not physics, but it is revolutionary). How rigid expectations and checklists create dating burnout and anxiety. The tangible benefits of quantum dating—like increased self-awareness, resilience, and a magnetic vibe. Kimmy’s answers to common listener concerns: “Isn’t this just casual dating?”, “Isn’t it wasting time?” and more. Five practical tips for dating with curiosity, intentionality, and presence (plus, why it’ll help you attract the right people!). If you’re ready to experiment, have fun, and put this theory into practice, join Kimmy’s virtual speed dating event on September 23rd. You’ll get real-time feedback from hand-picked dates by Kimmy and meet new people. Sign up soon at . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Emotional Eating & Dating Confidence: Interview with Amber Romaniuk
09/12/2025
Emotional Eating & Dating Confidence: Interview with Amber Romaniuk
Have you felt self-conscious or anxious on dates, unsure how to break free from the constant chatter of self-doubt and body image worries? What if emotional eating and your food habits weren’t just about the food, but were actually acting as shields keeping real, intimate connections out of reach? In Episode 410 of The Charisma Quotient, “Emotional Eating & Dating Confidence: Interview with Amber Romaniuk” Kimmy sits down with emotional eating and body confidence expert Amber Romaniuk to unpack how emotional eating, body image struggles, and self-worth are entwined with your ability to show up powerfully in love and dating. Amber bravely shares her own story—starting with childhood trauma and family patterns, leading to a battle with binge eating, bulimia, and a search for self-acceptance. Together, Kimmy and Amber explore why food and weight often become “love shields”—protecting you from rejection but also keeping you from intimacy, joy, and playfulness in relationships. Through personal anecdotes, client stories, and practical strategies, they reveal what it really takes to break free from emotional eating cycles and step into self-love and magnetic confidence. Kimmy and Amber don’t shy away from tough questions about worth, fear, and vulnerability. Instead, they share helpful steps to spot your triggers, get honest about your habits, and move from victim mode to empowered action—both with food and with love. You’ll hear: How emotional eating and body image anxieties can sabotage your dating life—and what to do about it. The concept of "love shields"—how food and weight can become unconscious protection from vulnerability and intimacy. Why control, people-pleasing, and perfectionism often hide deeper wounds that affect relationships. Practical steps to identify emotional eating triggers and start healing from the inside out. How building self-worth creates real change in your relationships—and why dating is actually working on yourself. How control and rigidity creates masculine energy when dating. If emotional eating or body image struggles have been holding you back in love, join Kimmy’s virtual speed dating event on September 23rd and get unstuck in a fun, supportive environment. You’ll get real-time feedback from hand-picked dates by Kimmy and meet new people. Sign up soon at www.stophatingdating.com. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Intentional Dating at Any Age: Coaching with Kimmy
09/05/2025
Intentional Dating at Any Age: Coaching with Kimmy
Have you ever wondered what it truly means to date with intention—and not just to find a partner, but to rediscover playfulness, joy, and your own self-worth? In Episode 409 of The Charisma Quotient, “Intentional Dating at Any Age: Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy does a live coaching session with Joni, a vibrant 69-year-old woman embarking on a new chapter after a major life transition—moving to a new country and reimagining her relationship with dating. Kimmy delves into the common blocks that can make dating later in life intimidating: fear of rejection, comparison to the past, negative self-image, the myth that it’s “too late,” and the tendency to take dating way too seriously. Through honest coaching and playful perspective shifts, Kimmy helps Joni explore and reawaken her inner “Pixie”—her fun, flirty, confident self who’s ready to be seen, connect, and have fun. During their candid conversation, Kimmy helps Joni unpack the roots of her old patterns, including childhood wounds, self-limiting beliefs, and habits of prioritizing others at the expense of herself. Together, they outline simple, actionable steps for Joni (and listeners!) to practice playful, pressure-free flirting, embrace visibility, and lean into joyful social experiences. Whether you’re dating again after a long relationship, navigating new cultures, or just looking to shake off dating dread, this episode shows that it’s never too late to embrace connection with intention—and that dating, at any age, can (and should!) be fun. You’ll hear: Kimmy’s framework for intentional dating and “dating yourself” The five common obstacles that keep people from enjoying dating later in life How childhood experiences and limiting beliefs shape our approach to love Practical advice for reigniting your playful, flirty side The importance of self-image, confidence, and loving where you’re at—now If you’re ready to start dating with intention, join Kimmy’s virtual speed dating event on September 17th and get real-time feedback and meet new people. Sign up at . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Communication Secrets That Spark Attraction: Interview with Jess Jensen
08/28/2025
Communication Secrets That Spark Attraction: Interview with Jess Jensen
Do you ever wonder why first impressions spark connections—or cause instant shut-downs? Are you struggling to translate your real-life personality into your digital presence? In Episode 408 of The Charisma Quotient, “Communication Secrets That Spark Attraction: Interview with Jess Jensen” Kimmy welcomes executive communications strategist Jess Jensen, founder of Copilot Communications, for a dynamic conversation that bridges the worlds of business and dating. Together, they break down how your presence—online and offline—makes or breaks first impressions, and why charisma is the secret edge in both arenas. Together, they reveal how presence, energy, body language, and authenticity matter just as much—if not more—than the words you say when you’re aiming to connect with others both in love and business. Kimmy opens the episode with a powerful story about transforming a socially anxious executive’s networking and dating life, setting the stage for practical tips everyone can use. Jess shares how the evolution of social media has reshaped communication and highlights the similarities between building a strong professional brand and making heartfelt connections in dating. The duo discusses the most common blunders people make with their online profiles and digital presence, stressing the importance of storytelling, approachability, and vulnerability—skills that captivate both clients and potential romantic partners. You’ll hear: Why first impressions matter even before you say “hello”—and how to control the story your presence tells The science and art behind making judgments in just 7 seconds (yes, the research is in!) Real stories of transformation: how a wardrobe change and a charisma boost led a client from boardroom nerves to romantic sparks Jess’s 5-step framework to shape your online and offline presence (with actionable tips at every level) If you know your online and offline presence needs a little help, download Kimmy’s style guides to get started with your wardrobe. Go to Then book a private session to get more personal help with some presence coaching here Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce & The Secret to Love: Compersion vs. Jealousy
08/22/2025
Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce & The Secret to Love: Compersion vs. Jealousy
Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce made headlines this week thanks to the heartwarming reaction of Travis and his brother, Jason Kelce, as they celebrated Taylor’s new album, The Life of a Showgirl. Relationship therapist Esther Perel weighed in, highlighting the concept of “compersion” in a recent Instagram reel that’s been buzzing online in relation to Travis’ celebration of her.If you have a pattern of people you date or attract in your life that tend to be competitive, jealous and critical rather than supportive and happy for your successes then this is an episode you won’t want to miss.In Episode 407 of The Charisma Quotient, Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce & The Secret to Love: Compersion vs. Jealousy, Kimmy dives into the power and importance of compersion—feeling authentic joy for the happiness and success of someone you love—and unpacks why these “cheerleader” moments are the true green flags in dating. Relationship therapist, Esther Perel, used this term “compersion” recently in an Instagram reel that’s been buzzing online in relation to the heartwarming reaction of Travis Kelce and his brother Jason as they celebrated Taylor Swift’s new album. Kimmy unpacks why these “cheerleader” moments are the true green flags in dating. Kimmy uses real-life coaching stories to illustrate how compersion and jealousy show up on first dates and far into relationships. You’ll hear about clients who kept attracting partners that would downplay their wins, make dismissive jokes, or always steer the conversation back to themselves—leaving them feeling small, unseen, and unsupported. Kimmy explains where these reactions come from and why they're red flags you need to spot early. Through practical steps, Kimmy teaches you how to identify and cultivate compersion. She outlines a powerful homework assignment to the listeners on how to conduct a “compersion check-in” on your next date, how to reclaim your power by celebrating your own wins without shrinking, and how to recondition yourself to receive genuine support—especially if it feels uncomfortable or “foreign” at first. You’ll hear: How to spot the subtle signs of compersion (and jealousy) from the very first date, so you don’t waste time on someone whose insecurity will make you feel small. A real-life client story that illustrates how someone can seem charming and supportive, but consistently chips away at your joy—and how to break that toxic cycle for good. Specific “green flags” that signal emotional maturity and genuine support, versus common “red flags” that point to competition and insecurity. A simple, three-step “Compersion Check-In” exercise you can try on your next date or even in your current relationship, to see how supported you really feel. If you are wanting to break patterns in your dating life and want a Taylor and Travis kind of love, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and find ways to attract the right partner for you Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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The 6 Dirty “F” words and Identifying Red Flags in Relationships: Interview with Sarah Intelligator
08/15/2025
The 6 Dirty “F” words and Identifying Red Flags in Relationships: Interview with Sarah Intelligator
Have you ever looked back at a breakup and wondered: Did I really miss those red flags, or was I ignoring what I didn’t want to see? Do your relationships seem to fall into similar patterns—leaving you with the same heartbreak, just with a new face? In Episode 407 of The Charisma Quotient, “The 6 Dirty “F” words and Identifying Red Flags in Relationships: Interview with Sarah Intelligator ” Kimmy sits down with acclaimed family law attorney and author Sarah Intelligator, who brings not just her legal expertise, but hard-won personal insight from her own journey through divorce and self-growth. Kimmy opens the episode by exploring the concept of red flags, explaining that most of us don’t actually “miss” them—we simply learn to explain them away. As Sarah joins the conversation, she shares her own origin story, blending her professional work watching relationships crumble in and out of the courtroom with candid stories from her personal life—including marrying young and later working through her own divorce. Recognizing the emotional and financial devastation of separation, she felt inspired to help others avoid ending up in her office in the first place, leading her to author her book, "Live Laugh, Find True Love." The heart of the episode focuses on the “Dirty F Words” Sarah has identified as the most common fail factors she sees repeatedly in relationships heading for divorce. Together, Kimmy and Sarah break down how these patterns show up during the dating process and later in long-term relationships. They highlight the importance of truly knowing your own values, understanding how fear can keep you in the wrong relationships, and why having a solid foundation—built on respect, trust, communication, and teamwork—is essential for lasting partnership. You’ll hear: The six “Dirty F Words” (a.k.a. fail factors) that show up in almost every relationship that ends in divorce—and how to notice them before it’s too late The #1 mistake daters make: confusing chemistry for compatibility, and what fundamental values really mean How fear—of being alone, of change, of not being lovable—keeps you stuck, PLUS actionable steps to reclaim your confidence and decision-making Why trying to FIX your partner never works, and what actually does build healthy, lasting love If you’re ready to stop blaming “bad luck” and instead take empowered, loving responsibility for your choices and your future relationships, hop on a private call with Kimmy to help you come up with ways to do that. Book it here Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Dating In Your 40s (And Beyond): Special Dateable Edition
08/08/2025
Dating In Your 40s (And Beyond): Special Dateable Edition
Are you navigating the dating world in your 40s—or beyond—and wondering why things feel so different? You’re not alone! In Episode 406 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating In Your 40's (And Beyond): Special Dateable Edition” Kimmy is invited onto the dynamic Dateable Podcast with hosts Julie and Yue. The conversation dives deep into the world of dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond The tables are turned as Kimmy sits in the guest seat, opening up about her own experience moving cross-country, dealing with divorce, rediscovering herself, and re-entering the dating scene as a single mom. She reveals the pivotal moment that reignited her confidence: the famous red dress story, where shopping for something outside her comfort zone became the catalyst for a complete mindset (and life) shift. The conversation dives into the real-life challenges of dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond: from evolving attraction and patterns, to balancing careers, family, and social lives, to confronting limiting beliefs about “the dating pool” at any age. Kimmy unpacks why your “second act” can be your strongest yet, and how clarity, confidence, and a willingness to try new things—whether that’s a new outfit or a new approach to flirting—can make all the difference. You’ll hear: Why dating after 40 isn’t a consolation prize — it’s often a “reset” filled with wisdom, clarity, and deeper authenticity. How to break out of old “types,” refresh your flirt game, and finally have fun again—even if you haven’t dated in decades. First-hand advice for navigating dating apps, balancing busy lives, and prioritizing your own happiness. The truth about age, attraction, and that so-called “shrinking dating pool” (spoiler: it’s all about mindset and action—not your birth date). If you are a later dater and getting caught in the friendzone often or not feeling the chemistry on dates, join Kimmy for her next co-ed interactive workshop called Unleash Your Sexy Confidence where you will learn the art of attraction and chemistry. Go to to register. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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ICYMI: Top 6 Tips to Up Your Dating Game
08/01/2025
ICYMI: Top 6 Tips to Up Your Dating Game
Feeling like your dating life is stuck in a rut? You’re not alone! In Episode 405 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: Top 6 Tips to Up Your Dating Game” Kimmy guides you through the essential steps to transform your love life from the outside in. Whether you’re returning to the dating scene after a long break or wrestling with low confidence, Kimmy shares actionable tips, eye-opening mindset shifts, and real-life success stories to help you polish up your social and flirt skills and enjoy dating again. In this episode, Kimmy covers everything from revamping your dating image, clarifying what you truly want, to breaking free from self-sabotaging checklists and learning to enjoy the process of meeting new people. You’ll discover why waiting for the "perfect time" never works, the importance of focusing on your own happiness, and how making small changes—like updating your wardrobe—can spark a sexy new confidence. Whether you’re discouraged, confused, or simply looking for a little motivation, this episode is packed with inspiration and clarity. You’ll hear: Six game-changing steps to refresh your approach—including ways to stop waiting for the “right moment” and have fun on your path to finding love Actionable advice for overcoming insecurity, building a social circle, and taking small steps toward flirting, connecting, and feeling good in your own skin The story of a client who shifted from “giving up” to “excited and confident,” just by tweaking his mindset, updating his dating appearance, and learning to enjoy the process Why so many of us feel out of sorts when it comes to dating—and the simple truth that you’re not alone. If you’re hating dating and want help putting yourself out there, start taking action by booking a FREE private call with Kimmy here: . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Cosmic Compatibility: Secrets to Lasting Love with Carol Allen
07/23/2025
Cosmic Compatibility: Secrets to Lasting Love with Carol Allen
Have you ever felt pulled toward someone by an invisible force, only to watch the connection fizzle out over time? Or wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner, despite your best intentions to date differently? In Episode 404 of The Charisma Quotient, “Cosmic Compatibility: Secrets to Lasting Love with Carol Allen” Kimmy talks with renowned Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, Carol Allen, to decode the mysteries of relationship patterns, cosmic compatibility, and lasting love. Carol and Kimmy have a dynamic discussion about how the interplay of your past and family dynamics combined with astrology can shape your relationships. Carol shares her personal journey from relationship confusion to becoming a renowned astrologer, including the fascinating story of her own marriage. She reveals how astrology—and especially Vedic techniques from India, which have been used to arrange marriages for centuries—can shed light on why certain connections are so compelling or challenging, the timing of love, and what truly makes a relationship work beyond surface-level compatibility. The episode dives into the concept of "cosmic compatibility": what really happens when two people meet and there’s an undeniable energetic flow. Carol unpacks how Vedic astrology analyzes both individual and combined charts to reveal innate temperament, relationship “capacity,” timing (your seasons and cycles), and specific compatibility factors. She explains why some couples experience effortless harmony while others feel like they’re constantly hitting invisible walls, regardless of how hard they try. You’ll hear: Why you keep attracting the same type of partner or experiencing painful relationship patterns How unconscious patterns and “love shields” influence your dating life and emotional connections. What “cosmic compatibility” means, how Vedic astrology can reveal relationship patterns, and the factors that determine lasting love. How to use both personal growth and cosmic timing to break old cycles, increase self-awareness, and open up to the right partnership. If you are wanting to break patterns in your love life, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and find ways to attract the right partner for you. book a FREE call with her here: . Want to get a personalized reading with Carol? Book it here Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Empowered Dating: Interview with Brad Walsh
07/18/2025
Empowered Dating: Interview with Brad Walsh
What does it really mean to be empowered as a woman in today’s world—and how does it show up in your relationships, dating life, and even your own sense of self? In Episode 403 of The Charisma Quotient, “Empowered Dating: Interview with Brad Walsh” Kimmy dives deep with Brad Walsh, professional photographer and host of the Empowerography podcast, to unpack the hidden challenges and unique strengths of women navigating visibility, self-worth, and empowerment. Kimmy and Brad discuss why so many women feel invisible, carry the hidden burdens of past rejection or body image issues, and sometimes lose themselves in relationships. Through powerful personal stories and Brad’s unique perspective as a man championing women’s empowerment—both behind the camera and on the mic—they explore how embracing your feminine energy and authentic self is the key to confidence. Brad shares how his journey started in photography, the profound transformation he sees in women after a shoot, and why self-love and self-care go far beyond surface-level routines. You’ll learn what sets empowered women apart, how to break free from old patterns and step into visibility, and actionable strategies to start seeing—and truly believing in—your own worth. You’ll hear: Why so many women (and men!) feel invisible or “not enough” when it comes to dating, relationships, and self-image. The transformative power of truly being seen—how a single photo shoot, or a shift in body language, can spark radical self-confidence. How to exude feminine energy and body language hacks that showcase your sensual and open side The crucial importance of self-care and setting boundaries—not as selfish acts, but as the foundation of healthy, empowered relationships. If you are feeling invisible, small or holding yourself back from finding love, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and to help you find ways to shine. Book it here Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy
07/10/2025
When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy
Sometimes sex feels like love or chemistry but that is not the only kind of intimacy there is. But you might get caught in a cycle where you are leading with sex to get a connection and in the end not finding the right partner for you. And then, you might shut down and be nervous about showing your flirty, sexy side after being hurt. In Episode 402 of The Charisma Quotient, “When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy” Kimmy does a live coaching session with Nicolle, a vibrant and self-assured woman who has embraced her sexuality for years, brings a unique perspective to the conversation. After years of leading with sex and enjoying pleasure for her own sake—not for love—Nicolle finds herself in a new chapter. She’s now seeking a meaningful relationship but feels unprepared when it comes to the art of dating and emotional pacing. Nicolle candidly shares her experiences: from disappointing app dates and challenges around being truly seen as a plus-size woman, to her struggles with playfulness and letting her sensual, flirty nature shine without fear of being objectified. Kimmy and Nicolle dive deep into the balance of maintaining a sexy, playful energy while also requiring potential partners to earn intimacy and trust. Kimmy offers practical strategies—like finding your conscious tribe, practicing self-focused dating, and building authentic emotional intimacy—as she reflects on reclaiming her sense of self. You’ll hear: Why so many women confuse sex with love—and how childhood experiences shape this belief Body image realities: what it’s really like dating as a plus-size woman who feels sexy, but battles internalized doubts Real-world app dating struggles—and the differences between authentic connection and transactional “hookup culture” The importance of expressing your emotions instead of always describing or interviewing, and how this shift makes you magnetic If you relate to some of Nicolle’s story and feel confused about how to safely show your sexy side, come to Kimmy’s next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process. You’ll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet. Go to to register now. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey
07/02/2025
Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey
Have you ever felt like you were on the outside looking in—guarded by fear, overwhelmed by old patterns, or unsure how to take that first step back into dating after heartbreak or disappointment? In Episode 401 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey” In this powerful episode of the Charisma Quotient, Kimmy is joined by the inspiring Lisa, whose courageous journey from emotional pain to empowered dating will resonate with anyone who has ever felt invisible, stuck, or scared to put themselves back out there. After years of hiding behind layers of oversized clothes, fear, and insecurity, Lisa took a chance encounter into a life-changing adventure with Kimmy aired on TV NBC 9 News segments filled with self-discovery, a striking outer makeover, and the even more profound work of building her inner confidence. In this episode, Kimmy pulls back the curtain on what it really means to "date without attachment"—a liberating approach that prioritizes curiosity and self-awareness over pressure and expectations. Listen in as Kimmy coaches Lisa live through her fears of being “too accommodating,” wrestles with old patterns shaped by conditional love, and guides her toward setting healthy boundaries, pacing herself emotionally, and embracing playful, purposeful dating. You’ll hear: How Lisa went from feeling invisible to glowing with new confidence. Why “dating without attachment” is the most freeing mindset for re-entry. Real talk about people-pleasing, boundaries, and the power of self-worth. Actionable tips you can use to break free from old relationship patterns. If you are hiding and have some love shields up which is preventing you from dating or feeling attractive, come to Kimmy’s next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process. You’ll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet. Go to to register now. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love
06/23/2025
400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love
Join Kimmy as she celebrates 400 episodes of client coaching calls, solo episodes, talking with experts, and hearing success stories from people who have worked with Kimmy In Episode 400 of The Charisma Quotient, “400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love” we’re looking back at some of our favorite episodes throughout the years around the themes of getting past fears, increasing confidence and conversation hacks. This special episode dives into the heart of her most popular coaching: how dating yourself and learning the skills will lead to love. You'll hear highlights from the most downloaded and talked-about episodes—featuring expert guests like Dr. John Gray, Kym Douglas, Allison Raskin, Katie Krimitsos, and Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu. You’ll also hear clips from episodes featuring some great client calls and Where Are They Now stories about how to get over common fears that come with dating. Discover actionable conversation hacks for introverts, high achievers, and anyone stuck in the perpetual “boring date” loop. Kimmy shares how to create instant chemistry, break out of perfection paralysis, and make a memorable impression—without feeling fake or forced. Plus, there's a peek into her upcoming interactive workshop, “Conversation Hacks That Convert to Dates.” You’ll hear: Highlights from our most popular episodes (including date-turning advice from experts like Dr. John Gray) Real client breakthroughs and success stories Proven strategies for making small talk easier and turning conversations into unforgettable connections Ways to break through awkwardness and perfection paralysis, especially if you’re an introvert, high achiever, or just feeling rusty in the dating scene If you struggle with your confidence and not getting anywhere on dates that seem boring or contrived, come to Kimmy’s next interactive co-ed workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones. Register at Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley
06/13/2025
Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley
Have you ever wanted to strike up a conversation with a stranger—at a coffee shop, in line at the store, or on a first date—but felt totally tongue-tied or worried you’d seem awkward? In Episode 399 of The Charisma Quotient, “Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley” Kimmy sits down with the fearless and funny Jena Kingsley. Jena is a comedian, writer, and the viral sensation behind daring, hilarious social experiments that turn the everyday awkward into unforgettable moments. Featured on CNN, MTV, The Today Show, and with her popular book Darcy Dates: An Unfiltered Dating Diary, Jena brings unmatched insight on how to break out of your shell and connect in real life. Kimmy and Jena tackle the mental barriers that hold most of us back—fear of rejection, negative self-talk, overanalyzing interactions—and reveal how curiosity and authenticity can turn those fears upside down. You’ll learn why embracing spontaneity and sharing simple observations can spark genuine conversations, plus why it’s better to focus on whether you like them rather than worrying if they like you. You’ll hear some of Jena’s most memorable stories, like the time a rainstorm in LA led to a flirty chat at a bar, or her viral New York subway pole-dancing prank that proves sometimes you just have to leap…and trust it’ll work out. You’ll hear: Why “perfect” opening lines actually don’t matter—imperfect, spontaneous comments often lead to the most real connections How practicing small risks, like playful social challenges or “scavenger hunt” dates, can massively boost your social confidence Jena’s favorite mindset hacks for ditching self-censorship and staying present Stories of awkward elevator moments, viral public pranks, and what they teach about authenticity, humor, and breaking the ice—even with total strangers Want to finally shed your social anxiety and start connecting for real? Come to Kimmy’s next interactive workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones. Register at Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life: Coaching with Kimmy
06/05/2025
How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life: Coaching with Kimmy
Do you ever wonder how your self-worth is secretly impacting your dating life? Are you stuck in the same painful patterns—chasing the unavailable, feeling unworthy, or never quite connecting with the right match? In Episode 398 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life: Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy coaches Jessica, a single mom and nurse who’s struggling with insecurity, self-concept, and a cycle of unfulfilling dates. Together they unpack why feeling “not enough” can become an unconscious magnet for the wrong partners—and why genuine confidence, not external validation, is the real key to love. In this episode, Kimmy dives deep into how low self-esteem, formed long before your first date, acts as a silent magnet, influencing who you're drawn to, the choices you make, and even your body language. Jessica bravely shares her journey—from a 15-year marriage and a supportive family, to the struggles she faces dating after divorce. Despite external affirmations of her attractiveness, Jessica wrestles with persistent feelings of not being "the pretty one," a pattern rooted in childhood and shaped by past relationships. Together, Kimmy and Jessica explore how past wounds, perfectionism, and protective shields can keep you stuck in unsatisfying dating loops—chasing after emotionally unavailable partners and feeling disconnected from those who are present and genuine. Kimmy offers relatable coaching and actionable steps, encouraging Jessica to step into her confidence, get comfortable being seen, and shift the way she views herself inside and out. You’ll hear: Why unresolved insecurities silently run the show in dating How early experiences and family patterns fuel attraction to the wrong people Real-life coaching moments and simple challenges to boost confidence and presence Actionable steps to move towards more self confidence If you are finding yourself not able to attract love or even date due to self worth issues, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Why you keep attracting the wrong people: Uncovering your love blocks with Orna and Matthew Walters
05/29/2025
Why you keep attracting the wrong people: Uncovering your love blocks with Orna and Matthew Walters
Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?” Or maybe you’re out there dating, putting yourself out there, but it just never seems to click or you think there are no good men or women out there left? In Episode 397 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why you keep attracting the wrong people: Uncovering your love blocks with Orna and Matthew Walters” Kimmy welcomes Orna and Matthew Walters, internationally acclaimed dating coaches, co-founders of Creating Love on Purpose, and co-authors of the powerful new book “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free from Your Hidden Blocks to Lasting Love.” With over two decades of experience helping thousands find real and lasting love, Orna and Matthew bring a unique blend of expertise, personal vulnerability, and actionable advice to the table. In this episode, Kimmy, Orna, and Matthew unravel why our brains cling to the familiar—even if it hurts—and how family-of-origin experiences lay down a “love imprint” that shapes our future relationships. You’ll learn why even smart, successful singles fall into “job interview” dating or keep a long checklist to protect themselves, and why vulnerability feels so unsafe until you finally break the cycle. Orna and Matthew walk listeners through their three-step system found in their new book. They offer powerful personal stories: Orna’s courageous journey as a survivor of domestic abuse and how she learned to trust herself and love again, plus Matthew’s honest admission of once being a “toxic bachelor” and his transformation through deep self-work. Together, they share concrete, real-life examples (like the “fig fight” that helped them build healthier conflict resolution), proving lasting love is possible—no matter your past. You’ll hear: Why lasting relationships require both chemistry and compatibility. An explanation of ‘love imprints,’ the deeply ingrained beliefs about love that shape your emotional patterns and behaviors in relationships Why so many high-achieving, analytical daters struggle to “let go,” flirt, and reveal their true selves. Step-by-step exercises you can use today to start re-wiring your love patterns and building a relationship from a place of wholeness and confidence If you keep attracting the same patterns and want to know about your personal love blocks, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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5 Hidden Shields That Block Love After 40
05/23/2025
5 Hidden Shields That Block Love After 40
Ever feel like no matter how much you’ve accomplished, lasting love is still just out of reach? In Episode 396 of The Charisma Quotient, “5 Hidden Shields That Block Love After 40" Kimmy peels back the layers on the “hidden love shields” that so many successful, independent later-in-life daters unknowingly wear as armor—and reveals how these silent protectors can be the very barriers keeping true intimacy at bay. This episode zeroes in on the subtle beliefs and patterns that form after years of heartbreak or flying solo, unpacking how they sabotage romance despite your best intentions. Kimmy walks you through the five classic love shields she sees time and again: from the ultra-independent “I’m Fine” shield, to the ever-rational “Over Analyzer,” the charismatic “Performer,” the heavily-protected “Guarded Heart,” and the “Time Ticking Bomb” urgency to rush into relationships. This episode is packed with actionable insights as Kimmy shares powerful real-life stories—like the 52-year-old financial analyst who tracked every dating detail in a spreadsheet to “protect” herself (and how giving up checking boxes led her to unexpected chemistry), and Susie, the super-capable woman whose very strength kept her walled off from real intimacy. Learn why dropping your love shields isn’t about losing yourself, but about expanding your capacity for joy and closeness, and find out what practical habits and tiny risks you can start today to let love truly in. Kimmy’s vibrant storytelling and step-by-step guidance bring you the tools and encouragement to break out of your comfort zone, stop managing love with logic, and open yourself up to authentic connection—regardless of age or history. You’ll hear: How to slow down and permit space for connection, not just achievement or outcome. Why true connection and chemistry need authentic presence and vulnerability. How to avoid rushing into relationships due to fear that “time is running out,” focusing on locking things down rather than experiencing true connection. Why these shields, while protective, actually block genuine connection and keep you stuck in unsatisfying dating patterns. If you’re ready to ditch your emotional armor, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Finding Love After Divorce: Where Are They Now with Jeff
05/15/2025
Finding Love After Divorce: Where Are They Now with Jeff
Are you ready to hear a transformative love story that will light a spark of hope and motivation in your own dating journey—no matter where you’re starting from? In Episode 395 of The Charisma Quotient, “Finding Love After Divorce: Where Are They Now with Jeff” Kimmy sits down with her former client. Meet Jeff: a successful lawyer, devoted dog dad, and someone who, after a 40-year marriage, found himself navigating the modern dating scene for the very first time. When Jeff first began coaching with Kimmy, he confessed to feeling like a fish out of water—uncertain about online dating, struggling with confidence and rejection, and stuck in old habits that just weren’t serving him in love. But by bravely opening up to guidance, updating his wardrobe and even revamping his online image with professional photos, Jeff started to turn everything around. In this heartfelt episode, you’ll hear how Jeff and Kimmy worked through his biggest blocks: letting go of perfectionism, learning to approach women assertively, finding the balance between vulnerability and confidence, and developing a playful, relaxed mindset around dating. Listen in as Jeff recalls pivotal moments, like using his volunteer therapy dog Belle as the ultimate “wing girl” at the dog park, and the hilarious anxiety of keeping his age under 70 on dating apps—plus the bittersweet lessons learned from a “bridge relationship” that ultimately set him up for meeting his now-partner who values his authenticity and the care he invests in himself. You’ll hear: Why making simple changes to your wardrobe and online photos can dramatically affect how others see you The power of relaxing and taking pressure off yourself The importance of “dating yourself” first—discovering what you truly want, setting boundaries, and being upfront about who you are Why honoring your values ultimately brings the right partner into your life If you’re wondering if you can truly find love after divorce or a long relationship, join Kimmy’s next co-ed interactive Flirt Workshop where you will learn the skill of flirting and having fun. Just go to to grab your spot as they do go fast. Book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Why Intimacy Is a Skill—Not Just Chemistry: Reclaiming Desire & Connection with Danielle Harel & Celeste Hirschman
05/08/2025
Why Intimacy Is a Skill—Not Just Chemistry: Reclaiming Desire & Connection with Danielle Harel & Celeste Hirschman
Did you know intimacy is a skill that is a learnable, empowering skill? In Episode 394 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why Intimacy Is a Skill—Not Just Chemistry: Reclaiming Desire & Connection with Danielle Harel & Celeste Hirschman” Kimmy chats with Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Herrell, co-founders of the revolutionary Somatica Institute and authors of three powerful books, including Making Love Real. With extensive experience training over 1,000 coaches and transforming countless lives, Celeste and Danielle blend science, humor, and heart to help people build confidence in intimacy. In this episode, you’ll discover why intimacy is not just about sexual or physical attraction—it’s an evolving set of skills involving emotional safety, intellectual connection, shared experiences, and even spiritual alignment. Kimmy and her guests discuss common roadblocks to intimacy, from childhood wounds to societal messages that make people feel shame about their desires. They explain how flirtation and erotic energy are foundational to authentic relating (not just “nice-to-haves”), and share the step-by-step practices their clients use to move past blocks, build confidence, and celebrate pleasure in ways that feel natural. Listen in for memorable stories, like Kimmy’s account of a client unwittingly creating a “love shield” with her body language, and a playful demonstration by Danielle about using your five senses (and even eating ice cream!) to connect with your body’s pleasure zones. You’ll hear how Celeste coaches clients to enjoy being appreciated, and learn tips to help both men and women feel empowered instead of ashamed in their pursuit of intimacy. You’ll hear: Why true intimacy means expressing what feels good for you and setting boundaries. How shame, gender roles, and societal messages can make people feel disconnected from their own desires. Skills in intimacy and sexuality that lead to more confidence and authentic relationships. How putting your own pleasure and desires at the center actually leads to healthier intimacy. If you are having a hard time letting go and having intimacy and playfulness in your dating life, join Kimmy’s next co-ed interactive Flirt Workshop where you will learn the skill of flirting and having fun. Just go to to grab your spot as they do go fast. Book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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ICYMI: What Is Your Dating Archetype?
05/01/2025
ICYMI: What Is Your Dating Archetype?
Why do we keep finding ourselves in the same frustrating dating patterns, no matter how much we try to shake things up? In Episode 393 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: What Is Your Dating Archetype?” Kimmy gets to the heart of the matter by introducing her breakthrough framework: the Five Dating Archetypes. Whether you’re struggling to meet the right person or find yourself replaying old dynamics, this episode is your fast track to self-awareness—and real change. Drawing from years as a leading dating and makeover expert, therapist, and matchmaker, Kimmy has worked with thousands of women (and men!) both in her “Wing Girl” sessions and individualized coaching practice. She’s seen personality patterns repeat across clients and created the Five Dating Archetypes to help you identify what may be holding you back and possibly creating a love shield you are not aware of. Kimmy was inspired to create this framework after noticing similar challenges in client after client, whether working with high-profile celebrities or everyday singles. In this lively, down-to-earth conversation, Kimmy breaks down each archetype in detail, describing telltale behaviors, mindsets, and the powerful ways your history shapes your dating style. You’ll hear real-life stories—like the Hollywood powerhouse whose “Chief” energy was intimidating every man she met, or the “List Lady” whose sky-high standards secretly protected her from heartbreak. Kimmy shares deeply personal accounts, including courageous clients who overcame trauma or old roles to open up to love again—proving that transformation is possible no matter your situation or age. You’ll hear: An overview of the “Big 5” dating archetypes How subtle things like your body language, wardrobe choices, communication style, and past wounds could be sending the wrong signals in love. Practical strategies and “secret weapons” for each archetype, from developing self-awareness to making small tweaks that yield big changes in your confidence and connection with others. Why most of us fall into these same patterns, and exactly what you can do to break free. If you want to know what kind of dating archetype you are, take her free archetype quiz an then book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Stop Dating the Wrong People: Decode Your Conflict Style with Dr. John Elliot
04/17/2025
Stop Dating the Wrong People: Decode Your Conflict Style with Dr. John Elliot
The key to lasting love is more than just chemistry, it’s really knowing how you (and your partner) handle conflict. It’s communication, emotional intelligence and how you handle stress that builds a lasting connection and relationship In Episode 394 of The Charisma Quotient, "Stop Dating the Wrong People: Decode Your Conflict Style with Dr. John Elliot,” Kimmy is joined by Dr. John Elliot, an acclaimed psychologist, conflict resolution expert, and co-author of "How to Get Along With Anyone." With a career spanning consulting for NASA, the US Olympic Committee, the Mayo Clinic, Fortune 500 companies, and appearances in outlets like The New York Times and ESPN, Dr. Elliot is uniquely equipped to reveal why true relationship success depends on how you both show up when the going gets tough—not just when it’s smooth sailing. Together, Kimmy and Dr. Elliot break down the five conflict personality styles—the Avoider, Competitor, Analyzer, Collaborator, and Accommodator—explaining the habits, triggers, and communication patterns that come out when tension rises. You’ll hear actionable advice on how to identify your own (and others’) conflict styles, why some personality pairings struggle while others thrive, and how to turn moments of tension into lasting intimacy instead of drama or distance. They discuss why your "must-have list" should go beyond looks or job titles, and how picking up on someone’s conflict style early can save you heartache down the road. You’ll hear: The “five conflict personality styles”—discover if you’re an Avoider, Competitor, Analyzer, Collaborator, or Accommodator (and why it matters so much!) How mismatched conflict styles sabotage romantic chemistry—and what style pairings work best for long-term happiness Real stories from pro sports, high-stakes business, and dating that illustrate these personality clashes and how they’re resolved Simple, practical tools and mindset shifts to help you attract, connect with, and keep truly compatible partners If you’ve ever felt stuck repeating the same painful patterns, or want to break free from being an overgiver, people-pleaser, or the “nice guy,” book a FREE private breakthrough call with Kimmy: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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