Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She’s consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.
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When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy
07/10/2025
When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy
Sometimes sex feels like love or chemistry but that is not the only kind of intimacy there is. But you might get caught in a cycle where you are leading with sex to get a connection and in the end not finding the right partner for you. And then, you might shut down and be nervous about showing your flirty, sexy side after being hurt. In Episode 402 of The Charisma Quotient, “When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy” Kimmy does a live coaching session with Nicolle, a vibrant and self-assured woman who has embraced her sexuality for years, brings a unique perspective to the conversation. After years of leading with sex and enjoying pleasure for her own sake—not for love—Nicolle finds herself in a new chapter. She’s now seeking a meaningful relationship but feels unprepared when it comes to the art of dating and emotional pacing. Nicolle candidly shares her experiences: from disappointing app dates and challenges around being truly seen as a plus-size woman, to her struggles with playfulness and letting her sensual, flirty nature shine without fear of being objectified. Kimmy and Nicolle dive deep into the balance of maintaining a sexy, playful energy while also requiring potential partners to earn intimacy and trust. Kimmy offers practical strategies—like finding your conscious tribe, practicing self-focused dating, and building authentic emotional intimacy—as she reflects on reclaiming her sense of self. You’ll hear: Why so many women confuse sex with love—and how childhood experiences shape this belief Body image realities: what it’s really like dating as a plus-size woman who feels sexy, but battles internalized doubts Real-world app dating struggles—and the differences between authentic connection and transactional “hookup culture” The importance of expressing your emotions instead of always describing or interviewing, and how this shift makes you magnetic If you relate to some of Nicolle’s story and feel confused about how to safely show your sexy side, come to Kimmy’s next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process. You’ll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet. Go to to register now. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey
07/02/2025
Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey
Have you ever felt like you were on the outside looking in—guarded by fear, overwhelmed by old patterns, or unsure how to take that first step back into dating after heartbreak or disappointment? In Episode 401 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey” In this powerful episode of the Charisma Quotient, Kimmy is joined by the inspiring Lisa, whose courageous journey from emotional pain to empowered dating will resonate with anyone who has ever felt invisible, stuck, or scared to put themselves back out there. After years of hiding behind layers of oversized clothes, fear, and insecurity, Lisa took a chance encounter into a life-changing adventure with Kimmy aired on TV NBC 9 News segments filled with self-discovery, a striking outer makeover, and the even more profound work of building her inner confidence. In this episode, Kimmy pulls back the curtain on what it really means to "date without attachment"—a liberating approach that prioritizes curiosity and self-awareness over pressure and expectations. Listen in as Kimmy coaches Lisa live through her fears of being “too accommodating,” wrestles with old patterns shaped by conditional love, and guides her toward setting healthy boundaries, pacing herself emotionally, and embracing playful, purposeful dating. You’ll hear: How Lisa went from feeling invisible to glowing with new confidence. Why “dating without attachment” is the most freeing mindset for re-entry. Real talk about people-pleasing, boundaries, and the power of self-worth. Actionable tips you can use to break free from old relationship patterns. If you are hiding and have some love shields up which is preventing you from dating or feeling attractive, come to Kimmy’s next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process. You’ll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet. Go to to register now. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love
06/23/2025
400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love
Join Kimmy as she celebrates 400 episodes of client coaching calls, solo episodes, talking with experts, and hearing success stories from people who have worked with Kimmy In Episode 400 of The Charisma Quotient, “400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love” we’re looking back at some of our favorite episodes throughout the years around the themes of getting past fears, increasing confidence and conversation hacks. This special episode dives into the heart of her most popular coaching: how dating yourself and learning the skills will lead to love. You'll hear highlights from the most downloaded and talked-about episodes—featuring expert guests like Dr. John Gray, Kym Douglas, Allison Raskin, Katie Krimitsos, and Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu. You’ll also hear clips from episodes featuring some great client calls and Where Are They Now stories about how to get over common fears that come with dating. Discover actionable conversation hacks for introverts, high achievers, and anyone stuck in the perpetual “boring date” loop. Kimmy shares how to create instant chemistry, break out of perfection paralysis, and make a memorable impression—without feeling fake or forced. Plus, there's a peek into her upcoming interactive workshop, “Conversation Hacks That Convert to Dates.” You’ll hear: Highlights from our most popular episodes (including date-turning advice from experts like Dr. John Gray) Real client breakthroughs and success stories Proven strategies for making small talk easier and turning conversations into unforgettable connections Ways to break through awkwardness and perfection paralysis, especially if you’re an introvert, high achiever, or just feeling rusty in the dating scene If you struggle with your confidence and not getting anywhere on dates that seem boring or contrived, come to Kimmy’s next interactive co-ed workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones. Register at Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley
06/13/2025
Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley
Have you ever wanted to strike up a conversation with a stranger—at a coffee shop, in line at the store, or on a first date—but felt totally tongue-tied or worried you’d seem awkward? In Episode 399 of The Charisma Quotient, “Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley” Kimmy sits down with the fearless and funny Jena Kingsley. Jena is a comedian, writer, and the viral sensation behind daring, hilarious social experiments that turn the everyday awkward into unforgettable moments. Featured on CNN, MTV, The Today Show, and with her popular book Darcy Dates: An Unfiltered Dating Diary, Jena brings unmatched insight on how to break out of your shell and connect in real life. Kimmy and Jena tackle the mental barriers that hold most of us back—fear of rejection, negative self-talk, overanalyzing interactions—and reveal how curiosity and authenticity can turn those fears upside down. You’ll learn why embracing spontaneity and sharing simple observations can spark genuine conversations, plus why it’s better to focus on whether you like them rather than worrying if they like you. You’ll hear some of Jena’s most memorable stories, like the time a rainstorm in LA led to a flirty chat at a bar, or her viral New York subway pole-dancing prank that proves sometimes you just have to leap…and trust it’ll work out. You’ll hear: Why “perfect” opening lines actually don’t matter—imperfect, spontaneous comments often lead to the most real connections How practicing small risks, like playful social challenges or “scavenger hunt” dates, can massively boost your social confidence Jena’s favorite mindset hacks for ditching self-censorship and staying present Stories of awkward elevator moments, viral public pranks, and what they teach about authenticity, humor, and breaking the ice—even with total strangers Want to finally shed your social anxiety and start connecting for real? Come to Kimmy’s next interactive workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones. Register at Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life: Coaching with Kimmy
06/05/2025
How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life: Coaching with Kimmy
Do you ever wonder how your self-worth is secretly impacting your dating life? Are you stuck in the same painful patterns—chasing the unavailable, feeling unworthy, or never quite connecting with the right match? In Episode 398 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life: Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy coaches Jessica, a single mom and nurse who’s struggling with insecurity, self-concept, and a cycle of unfulfilling dates. Together they unpack why feeling “not enough” can become an unconscious magnet for the wrong partners—and why genuine confidence, not external validation, is the real key to love. In this episode, Kimmy dives deep into how low self-esteem, formed long before your first date, acts as a silent magnet, influencing who you're drawn to, the choices you make, and even your body language. Jessica bravely shares her journey—from a 15-year marriage and a supportive family, to the struggles she faces dating after divorce. Despite external affirmations of her attractiveness, Jessica wrestles with persistent feelings of not being "the pretty one," a pattern rooted in childhood and shaped by past relationships. Together, Kimmy and Jessica explore how past wounds, perfectionism, and protective shields can keep you stuck in unsatisfying dating loops—chasing after emotionally unavailable partners and feeling disconnected from those who are present and genuine. Kimmy offers relatable coaching and actionable steps, encouraging Jessica to step into her confidence, get comfortable being seen, and shift the way she views herself inside and out. You’ll hear: Why unresolved insecurities silently run the show in dating How early experiences and family patterns fuel attraction to the wrong people Real-life coaching moments and simple challenges to boost confidence and presence Actionable steps to move towards more self confidence If you are finding yourself not able to attract love or even date due to self worth issues, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Why you keep attracting the wrong people: Uncovering your love blocks with Orna and Matthew Walters
05/29/2025
Why you keep attracting the wrong people: Uncovering your love blocks with Orna and Matthew Walters
Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?” Or maybe you’re out there dating, putting yourself out there, but it just never seems to click or you think there are no good men or women out there left? In Episode 397 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why you keep attracting the wrong people: Uncovering your love blocks with Orna and Matthew Walters” Kimmy welcomes Orna and Matthew Walters, internationally acclaimed dating coaches, co-founders of Creating Love on Purpose, and co-authors of the powerful new book “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free from Your Hidden Blocks to Lasting Love.” With over two decades of experience helping thousands find real and lasting love, Orna and Matthew bring a unique blend of expertise, personal vulnerability, and actionable advice to the table. In this episode, Kimmy, Orna, and Matthew unravel why our brains cling to the familiar—even if it hurts—and how family-of-origin experiences lay down a “love imprint” that shapes our future relationships. You’ll learn why even smart, successful singles fall into “job interview” dating or keep a long checklist to protect themselves, and why vulnerability feels so unsafe until you finally break the cycle. Orna and Matthew walk listeners through their three-step system found in their new book. They offer powerful personal stories: Orna’s courageous journey as a survivor of domestic abuse and how she learned to trust herself and love again, plus Matthew’s honest admission of once being a “toxic bachelor” and his transformation through deep self-work. Together, they share concrete, real-life examples (like the “fig fight” that helped them build healthier conflict resolution), proving lasting love is possible—no matter your past. You’ll hear: Why lasting relationships require both chemistry and compatibility. An explanation of ‘love imprints,’ the deeply ingrained beliefs about love that shape your emotional patterns and behaviors in relationships Why so many high-achieving, analytical daters struggle to “let go,” flirt, and reveal their true selves. Step-by-step exercises you can use today to start re-wiring your love patterns and building a relationship from a place of wholeness and confidence If you keep attracting the same patterns and want to know about your personal love blocks, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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5 Hidden Shields That Block Love After 40
05/23/2025
5 Hidden Shields That Block Love After 40
Ever feel like no matter how much you’ve accomplished, lasting love is still just out of reach? In Episode 396 of The Charisma Quotient, “5 Hidden Shields That Block Love After 40" Kimmy peels back the layers on the “hidden love shields” that so many successful, independent later-in-life daters unknowingly wear as armor—and reveals how these silent protectors can be the very barriers keeping true intimacy at bay. This episode zeroes in on the subtle beliefs and patterns that form after years of heartbreak or flying solo, unpacking how they sabotage romance despite your best intentions. Kimmy walks you through the five classic love shields she sees time and again: from the ultra-independent “I’m Fine” shield, to the ever-rational “Over Analyzer,” the charismatic “Performer,” the heavily-protected “Guarded Heart,” and the “Time Ticking Bomb” urgency to rush into relationships. This episode is packed with actionable insights as Kimmy shares powerful real-life stories—like the 52-year-old financial analyst who tracked every dating detail in a spreadsheet to “protect” herself (and how giving up checking boxes led her to unexpected chemistry), and Susie, the super-capable woman whose very strength kept her walled off from real intimacy. Learn why dropping your love shields isn’t about losing yourself, but about expanding your capacity for joy and closeness, and find out what practical habits and tiny risks you can start today to let love truly in. Kimmy’s vibrant storytelling and step-by-step guidance bring you the tools and encouragement to break out of your comfort zone, stop managing love with logic, and open yourself up to authentic connection—regardless of age or history. You’ll hear: How to slow down and permit space for connection, not just achievement or outcome. Why true connection and chemistry need authentic presence and vulnerability. How to avoid rushing into relationships due to fear that “time is running out,” focusing on locking things down rather than experiencing true connection. Why these shields, while protective, actually block genuine connection and keep you stuck in unsatisfying dating patterns. If you’re ready to ditch your emotional armor, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Finding Love After Divorce: Where Are They Now with Jeff
05/15/2025
Finding Love After Divorce: Where Are They Now with Jeff
Are you ready to hear a transformative love story that will light a spark of hope and motivation in your own dating journey—no matter where you’re starting from? In Episode 395 of The Charisma Quotient, “Finding Love After Divorce: Where Are They Now with Jeff” Kimmy sits down with her former client. Meet Jeff: a successful lawyer, devoted dog dad, and someone who, after a 40-year marriage, found himself navigating the modern dating scene for the very first time. When Jeff first began coaching with Kimmy, he confessed to feeling like a fish out of water—uncertain about online dating, struggling with confidence and rejection, and stuck in old habits that just weren’t serving him in love. But by bravely opening up to guidance, updating his wardrobe and even revamping his online image with professional photos, Jeff started to turn everything around. In this heartfelt episode, you’ll hear how Jeff and Kimmy worked through his biggest blocks: letting go of perfectionism, learning to approach women assertively, finding the balance between vulnerability and confidence, and developing a playful, relaxed mindset around dating. Listen in as Jeff recalls pivotal moments, like using his volunteer therapy dog Belle as the ultimate “wing girl” at the dog park, and the hilarious anxiety of keeping his age under 70 on dating apps—plus the bittersweet lessons learned from a “bridge relationship” that ultimately set him up for meeting his now-partner who values his authenticity and the care he invests in himself. You’ll hear: Why making simple changes to your wardrobe and online photos can dramatically affect how others see you The power of relaxing and taking pressure off yourself The importance of “dating yourself” first—discovering what you truly want, setting boundaries, and being upfront about who you are Why honoring your values ultimately brings the right partner into your life If you’re wondering if you can truly find love after divorce or a long relationship, join Kimmy’s next co-ed interactive Flirt Workshop where you will learn the skill of flirting and having fun. Just go to to grab your spot as they do go fast. Book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Why Intimacy Is a Skill—Not Just Chemistry: Reclaiming Desire & Connection with Danielle Harel & Celeste Hirschman
05/08/2025
Why Intimacy Is a Skill—Not Just Chemistry: Reclaiming Desire & Connection with Danielle Harel & Celeste Hirschman
Did you know intimacy is a skill that is a learnable, empowering skill? In Episode 394 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why Intimacy Is a Skill—Not Just Chemistry: Reclaiming Desire & Connection with Danielle Harel & Celeste Hirschman” Kimmy chats with Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Herrell, co-founders of the revolutionary Somatica Institute and authors of three powerful books, including Making Love Real. With extensive experience training over 1,000 coaches and transforming countless lives, Celeste and Danielle blend science, humor, and heart to help people build confidence in intimacy. In this episode, you’ll discover why intimacy is not just about sexual or physical attraction—it’s an evolving set of skills involving emotional safety, intellectual connection, shared experiences, and even spiritual alignment. Kimmy and her guests discuss common roadblocks to intimacy, from childhood wounds to societal messages that make people feel shame about their desires. They explain how flirtation and erotic energy are foundational to authentic relating (not just “nice-to-haves”), and share the step-by-step practices their clients use to move past blocks, build confidence, and celebrate pleasure in ways that feel natural. Listen in for memorable stories, like Kimmy’s account of a client unwittingly creating a “love shield” with her body language, and a playful demonstration by Danielle about using your five senses (and even eating ice cream!) to connect with your body’s pleasure zones. You’ll hear how Celeste coaches clients to enjoy being appreciated, and learn tips to help both men and women feel empowered instead of ashamed in their pursuit of intimacy. You’ll hear: Why true intimacy means expressing what feels good for you and setting boundaries. How shame, gender roles, and societal messages can make people feel disconnected from their own desires. Skills in intimacy and sexuality that lead to more confidence and authentic relationships. How putting your own pleasure and desires at the center actually leads to healthier intimacy. If you are having a hard time letting go and having intimacy and playfulness in your dating life, join Kimmy’s next co-ed interactive Flirt Workshop where you will learn the skill of flirting and having fun. Just go to to grab your spot as they do go fast. Book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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ICYMI: What Is Your Dating Archetype?
05/01/2025
ICYMI: What Is Your Dating Archetype?
Why do we keep finding ourselves in the same frustrating dating patterns, no matter how much we try to shake things up? In Episode 393 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: What Is Your Dating Archetype?” Kimmy gets to the heart of the matter by introducing her breakthrough framework: the Five Dating Archetypes. Whether you’re struggling to meet the right person or find yourself replaying old dynamics, this episode is your fast track to self-awareness—and real change. Drawing from years as a leading dating and makeover expert, therapist, and matchmaker, Kimmy has worked with thousands of women (and men!) both in her “Wing Girl” sessions and individualized coaching practice. She’s seen personality patterns repeat across clients and created the Five Dating Archetypes to help you identify what may be holding you back and possibly creating a love shield you are not aware of. Kimmy was inspired to create this framework after noticing similar challenges in client after client, whether working with high-profile celebrities or everyday singles. In this lively, down-to-earth conversation, Kimmy breaks down each archetype in detail, describing telltale behaviors, mindsets, and the powerful ways your history shapes your dating style. You’ll hear real-life stories—like the Hollywood powerhouse whose “Chief” energy was intimidating every man she met, or the “List Lady” whose sky-high standards secretly protected her from heartbreak. Kimmy shares deeply personal accounts, including courageous clients who overcame trauma or old roles to open up to love again—proving that transformation is possible no matter your situation or age. You’ll hear: An overview of the “Big 5” dating archetypes How subtle things like your body language, wardrobe choices, communication style, and past wounds could be sending the wrong signals in love. Practical strategies and “secret weapons” for each archetype, from developing self-awareness to making small tweaks that yield big changes in your confidence and connection with others. Why most of us fall into these same patterns, and exactly what you can do to break free. If you want to know what kind of dating archetype you are, take her free archetype quiz an then book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Stop Dating the Wrong People: Decode Your Conflict Style with Dr. John Elliot
04/17/2025
Stop Dating the Wrong People: Decode Your Conflict Style with Dr. John Elliot
The key to lasting love is more than just chemistry, it’s really knowing how you (and your partner) handle conflict. It’s communication, emotional intelligence and how you handle stress that builds a lasting connection and relationship In Episode 394 of The Charisma Quotient, "Stop Dating the Wrong People: Decode Your Conflict Style with Dr. John Elliot,” Kimmy is joined by Dr. John Elliot, an acclaimed psychologist, conflict resolution expert, and co-author of "How to Get Along With Anyone." With a career spanning consulting for NASA, the US Olympic Committee, the Mayo Clinic, Fortune 500 companies, and appearances in outlets like The New York Times and ESPN, Dr. Elliot is uniquely equipped to reveal why true relationship success depends on how you both show up when the going gets tough—not just when it’s smooth sailing. Together, Kimmy and Dr. Elliot break down the five conflict personality styles—the Avoider, Competitor, Analyzer, Collaborator, and Accommodator—explaining the habits, triggers, and communication patterns that come out when tension rises. You’ll hear actionable advice on how to identify your own (and others’) conflict styles, why some personality pairings struggle while others thrive, and how to turn moments of tension into lasting intimacy instead of drama or distance. They discuss why your "must-have list" should go beyond looks or job titles, and how picking up on someone’s conflict style early can save you heartache down the road. You’ll hear: The “five conflict personality styles”—discover if you’re an Avoider, Competitor, Analyzer, Collaborator, or Accommodator (and why it matters so much!) How mismatched conflict styles sabotage romantic chemistry—and what style pairings work best for long-term happiness Real stories from pro sports, high-stakes business, and dating that illustrate these personality clashes and how they’re resolved Simple, practical tools and mindset shifts to help you attract, connect with, and keep truly compatible partners If you’ve ever felt stuck repeating the same painful patterns, or want to break free from being an overgiver, people-pleaser, or the “nice guy,” book a FREE private breakthrough call with Kimmy: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Fear of Abandonment in Dating: Why You Push Love Away ~ Coaching With Kimmy
04/09/2025
Fear of Abandonment in Dating: Why You Push Love Away ~ Coaching With Kimmy
Are your past experiences getting in your way when it comes to dating? Specifically you may have a fear of abandonment that stems from childhood which is the reason you push people away subconsciously. Most people don’t realize that they hold onto their past traumas which impacts relationships. Fears that are created from this dynamic makes dating feel frustrating and anxiety-provoking. In Episode 393 of The Charisma Quotient, “Fear of Abandonment in Dating: Why You Push Love Away ~ Coaching With Kimmy” Kimmy coaches a woman live on this episode whose personal history and experiences echo the struggles many face in the realm of intimacy and self-perception. In this coaching session, Kimmy and Evelyn delve into the intricacies of how past abandonment issues can manifest in adult relationships, influencing the patterns we fall into and the people we attract. From forming quick, intense attachments to pushing partners away through self-sabotage, the discussion covers a spectrum of behaviors that many listeners will find familiar. Evelyn shares poignant anecdotes, such as the emotionally charged and rapid-moving relationship that led her to relocate across the country, only to find herself ensnared in familiar emotional pitfalls. Her story is a testament to the power of self-awareness and the challenges of translating that awareness into action. You’ll hear: The top 5 ways a fear of abandonment may show up in a person’s romantic relationships and actionable steps for tackling these deep-seated fears. The concept of "shape-shifting" in relationships and why it causes you to lose touch with your authentic self. Actionable steps from Kimmy for rewriting personal stories and reinforcing self-worth. How seeking excessive reassurance from partners can lead to emotional exhaustion and breakdowns in relationships. The duality of either erecting emotional walls or forming overly rapid attachments as a result of abandonment fears. An unsuspected breakthrough Evelyn had on the call that caught her by surprise on why dating has been so hard. If you want help overcoming your fears around dating book a FREE private breakthrough call with Kimmy: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Overcoming Dating Anxiety: Interview with Katie Krimitsos
04/03/2025
Overcoming Dating Anxiety: Interview with Katie Krimitsos
Did you know that anxiety disorders affect 18% of the adult population in the United States? Anxiety is your body’s natural response to stress and uncertainty. Let’s face it - uncertainty is a huge part of dating. Kimmy talks about understanding Dating Anxiety which is a common experience that involves excessive worry, fear, and nervousness related to dating. It can manifest in various ways, affecting a person's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors during the dating process. In Episode 392 of The Charisma Quotient, “Overcoming Dating Anxiety: Interview with Katie Krimitsos,” Kimmy is joined by Katie Krimitsos, the founder and CEO of the Women's Meditation Network, who talks about her personal journey with meditation and self-awareness. In this engaging conversation, Kimmy and Katie delve into the epidemic of dating anxiety, discussing its common symptoms like fear of awkward conversations, obsessive checking for texts, and the constant nagging thought of not being "good enough." Katie candidly shares her journey from feeling not enough to mastering self-awareness through meditation. She reveals how simple practices of mindfulness have helped her tackle overwhelming thoughts, embrace vulnerability, and most importantly, trust herself in relationships. Get ready for Katie's transformative story of how, by embodying authenticity and letting go of the need to control, she attracted a soulmate relationship that flourished into marriage. Discover her ingenious concept of "mini meditations" – bite-sized, practical practices that even the busiest among us can integrate into our daily routines to stay grounded and present. You’ll hear: Eight common symptoms of dating anxiety and tips on how to recognize and manage them. Innovative strategies to incorporate meditation into your daily routine — even for those who've never meditated before — to help ground you before a date. A powerful reminder that "what's meant for you will not miss you". How to embrace imperfection and vulnerability in relationships for true connection. A surprise mini meditation that you’ll be able to practice right away If you struggle with dating anxiety and it is hindering your ability to stay present and it is pushing people away, check out Katie’s amazing meditations including her 3 day stress and anxiety detox by going to womensmeditationnetwork.com and then hop on a private call with Kimmy to reduce your dating anxiety by coming up with a plan here Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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ICYMI: Navigating Dating as an Introvert: Coaching with Kimmy
03/27/2025
ICYMI: Navigating Dating as an Introvert: Coaching with Kimmy
Do you consider yourself an introvert? Are you in your head a lot and analyze everything to death to the point that it’s affecting your dating life? In Episode 391 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: Navigating Dating as an Introvert: Coaching with Kimmy,” Kimmy coaches Evan live on the episode to help him get out of his own way when dating. In this coaching session, Kimmy and Evan delve into the challenges that introverts face, from the exhausting overthinking in social scenarios to navigating extrovert-dominated dating environments. Evan shares his poignant story of overcoming Bell's palsy, a condition that not only affected his confidence but also became a turning point in his life. Through self-discovery and transformation, Evan emerged stronger and more in tune with himself—an inspiring testament to resilience and personal growth. Kimmy offers practical advice on how to shift from reactive to proactive approaches in dating, ultimately paving the way for healthier and more fulfilling relationships. You’ll hear: The magic of leaning into discomfort of social interactions to get over the fears attached to it How to stop overthinking and start taking action in dating. The significance of addressing the discomfort introverts feel in social situations. How to alleviate anxiety in order to make more genuine connections with others. If you are an introvert and want help stepping out of your comfort zone and come up with a plan to put yourself out there, book a FREE breakthrough call with Kimmy: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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The Confidence Love Makeover: Where Are They Now with Doug
03/20/2025
The Confidence Love Makeover: Where Are They Now with Doug
Discover the transformative journey of overcoming dating doubts and embracing confidence in episode 390 of The Charisma Quotient, “The Confidence Love Makeover: Where Are They Now with Doug,” Kimmy sits down with Doug, a former client who successfully transitioned from repeated relationship misfires to a future filled with love and commitment. Doug, a therapist himself, found that while he was adept at uplifting others, his self-doubt and past baggage were hurdles he couldn't seem to overcome alone in the dating world. In this engaging episode, Doug recounts his evolution with Kimmy's guidance, moving from what he describes as "the geeky guy" to someone brimming with "sexy confidence" and self-assurance. The duo dives into Doug’s struggles with seeking external validation and how his non-verbal cues, unbeknownst to him, played a significant role in his dating life. Kimmy helped him unpack these barriers, notably during a memorable encounter at a pet store which brought to light a subtle, yet impactful gesture that encapsulated Doug’s internal struggles. You’ll hear: How childhood trauma can influence your adult interactions. How changing your wardrobe and mastering body language can be pivotal in reinventing your self-perception and confidence. How Doug’s newfound genuine energy connected him with his future wife. Doug’s journey of maintaining a successful relationship, emphasizing the importance of open communication and mutual dedication to make it last. If you’re ready to make a transformation, Kimmy has a new workshop coming up on March 25th - The Dating Improv Game where you can practice creating chemistry through play. You will learn how to harness the power of flirty moves, engaging conversations, and body language to create lasting impressions through a series of mock dates and coaching. Register now at www.stophatingdating.com. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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Later Daters: Finding Love at Any Age – Interview with Dr. John Gray
03/13/2025
Later Daters: Finding Love at Any Age – Interview with Dr. John Gray
Are you questioning if your time to find lasting love has passed after hitting 40? Let go of the doubts! In Episode 389 of The Charisma Quotient, “Later Daters: Finding Love at Any Age – Interview with Dr. John Gray,” Kimmy is thrilled to welcome back the legendary Dr. John Gray, author of the groundbreaking "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus," as he debunks age-related myths and explores the invigorating world of second-chance romances. With his extensive knowledge and experience, John explains why the desire for companionship doesn't change with age and how both men and women can rediscover love beyond their youthful years. In their candid discussion, Kimmy and John unravel the complexities of dating later in life, emphasizing the importance of embracing newfound freedom and the playful aspects of dating. They delve into the changes in male and female dynamics and explore how aging affects relationships and sex drives. John shares fascinating statistics, such as the discrepancy in how men and women typically move on after divorce, highlighting differences in motivation and readiness. You’ll hear: Key strategies for embracing your feminine energy, allowing yourself to feel sexy and confident, which is vital for attracting solid and meaningful connections. Practical and scientific explanations of the dynamics of testosterone and estrogen in fostering attraction and maintaining chemistry in later life. Fascinating data on remarriage rates among those who are over 50, illustrating that love the second time around is not only possible but probable. A touching story about one of Kimmy's clients, a widow who rediscovered love unexpectedly, leading to a heartwarming marriage announcement. If you’re ready to navigate the dating scene later in life, Kimmy has a new workshop coming up on March 25th - The Dating Improv Game where you can practice creating chemistry through play. You will learn how to harness the power of flirty moves, engaging conversations, and body language to create lasting impressions through a series of mock dates and coaching. Register now at www.stophatingdating.com. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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ICYMI: How To Be Playful & Fun When Dating
03/06/2025
ICYMI: How To Be Playful & Fun When Dating
Are you tired of feeling like dating is a chore rather than a fun and exciting adventure? Did you know that being fun and playful are the top attributes that people inherently look for when dating and ultimately landing a partner? In Episode 388 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: How To Be Playful & Fun When Dating,” Kimmy emphasizes in this episode playfulness as a vital trait in attracting a partner and how often it outranks traditional attributes like intelligence or career success in desirability. During the episode, Kimmy tackles common hurdles that hinder playfulness, such as cultural upbringing or fear of judgment. Through compelling client stories, like that of a high-achieving woman who, despite her success, struggled to connect until she embraced playfulness, listeners gain a real-world glimpse into the magic of letting loose. This client, who once saw dating as another boardroom challenge, learned to dance in the realm of whimsical conversation and flirty femininity, eventually attracting a partner who adored her lively energy. You’ll hear: Practical strategies to tap into your inner child and why it's crucial to incorporate play into your routine. Actionable tips on how to approach dating with a lighthearted spirit. Why flirting is a way to be present and engaging without the serious intention of an outcome. How embracing playfulness can alleviate exhaustion from dating. If you tend to be a little serious in your interactions and need help incorporating fun in your dates, Kimmy has a new workshop coming up on March 25th - The Dating Improv Game where you can practice creating chemistry through play. You will learn how to harness the power of flirty moves, engaging conversations, and body language to create lasting impressions through a series of mock dates and coaching. Register now at . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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From Grief to Growth: Where Are They Now with Allen
02/27/2025
From Grief to Growth: Where Are They Now with Allen
Getting back into the dating game after losing a partner can feel daunting. But you’re not alone. So many people go through this, and it is possible to get back out there. In Episode 387 of The Charisma Quotient, “From Grief to Growth: Where Are They Now with Allen,” Kimmy brings on one of her coaching clients Allen, a remarkable man who transformed his life and love journey after the heartbreaking loss of his wife. Known for his analytical mind as a former lawyer, Allen found himself struggling with the intricacies of dating in the modern world. Being in his late 60s, he realized he needed guidance to enhance his dating confidence and flirting skills. After working with Kimmy and dating several women, Allen is now dating someone whom he really enjoys! Through Kimmy's coaching, Allen embarked on a process of reinvention, which not only rebuilt his confidence but also reshaped his outlook on dating. This episode delves into Allen's hesitation to dive back into the dating pool and how Kimmy's unique approach helped him overcome the fear and intimidation that comes with starting over. They discuss the evolution of Allen’s dating strategies, highlighting the importance of having fun rather than focusing strictly on outcomes. You’ll hear: Practical advice for anyone feeling overwhelmed when stepping out there again. How Allen overcame his analytical tendencies and learned to embrace the playful side of dating. Allen’s story of re-entering the dating world after losing his wife. The power of stepping out of your comfort zone to create real opportunities for connection. If you are struggling to put yourself out there, book a call with Kimmy to kick start a dating plan to motivate you! Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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The Traps Of Modern Dating: Interview Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu
02/19/2025
The Traps Of Modern Dating: Interview Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu
Navigating modern dating can feel exhausting. It’s easy to get lost in the fast pace of swiping and online dating. But dating doesn’t have to feel like so much work. In Episode 386 of The Charisma Quotient, “The Traps Of Modern Dating: Interview Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu,” Kimmy is joined by Julie and Yue, dynamic co-hosts of the critically acclaimed Dateable podcast and authors of the anticipated book "How to Be Dateable." With nearly a decade of research exploring the intricacies of dating, they have a wealth of expertise when it comes to transforming from confused daters to respected dating insiders. Throughout the episode, Kimmy, Julie, and Yue engage in a lively discussion on the four main dating traps that ensnare many in today's fast-paced dating scene. From the "expectation of love on demand" to the hazards of "settling paradox," they break down these traps with research-backed insights and personal anecdotes. Julie shares her story of spending over two years in a situationship driven by the need for validation. Yue opens up about her own dating missteps, involving a hiking date and a pair of infamous black socks. You’ll hear the 3 of them breakdown: Why being grounded and living in the moment is critical to fostering genuine connections and finding lasting love. The importance of focusing on understanding yourself and dating without the expectation of immediate attachment. The specific skills needed for modern dating, such as DMing and flirt texting. How to avoid moving too quickly and ignoring red flags in the desire to form relationships. If you are burnt out doing online dating and want to learn how to meet people IRL (In Real Life) join Kimmy’s next workshop - Meeting IRL on February 26 by signing up at . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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ICYMI: Dating From a Place of Self-Love
02/12/2025
ICYMI: Dating From a Place of Self-Love
With Valentine's Day around the corner, now is the time to give yourself a healthy dose of self love! In Episode 385 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: Dating From a Place of Self-Love,” Kimmy peels back the layers of self-love and its radical impact on your dating life and beyond. She draws from her rich experience and client success stories to illuminate the path to loving yourself and, in turn, attracting the love. Her unique approach to coaching—melding dating expertise with personal development—offers you a roadmap to overcoming the hurdles in your love life. In this special episode, perfectly timed for a holiday that emphasizes love, Kimmy delves into why self-love for singles is essential not just for surviving this love-centric season, but for thriving in your pursuit of finding someone special. If you've ever felt disheartened by dating experiences or struggled with the cycle of seeking external validation, this conversation will highlight the importance of empowering yourself to attract what you want. YOU’LL HEAR: A heartfelt story about a client's transformation from external validation to internal confidence. A discussion on the true difference between being alone and feeling lonely, and how this understanding can reshape your dating approach. Recognition and strategies to dismantle personal patterns that might be sabotaging your dating experiences. Five impactful tips that will equip you to date from a place of self-love, ensuring more meaningful, reciprocal relationships. If you struggle with confidence and self worth and it’s affecting your dating life, hop on a private call with Kimmy to find where to start. Also, she has a unique opportunity for a few women who want to take it to the next level. Coming up in February Kimmy is doing a small intimate private retreat called Inner Spark and Soul Retreat focusing on nurturing the body, mind and soul. Through curated activities, this transformative experience combines rejuvenating wellness practices, exploration of femininity energy and self care strategies inside and out. She only has 2 spots left but book a call to discuss what might be best for you to feel good inside and out. . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are
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How Body Image & Divorce Shapes Your Dating Life: A Candid Talk with Erin Washington
02/06/2025
How Body Image & Divorce Shapes Your Dating Life: A Candid Talk with Erin Washington
Feeling insecure about your body image can shape your dating lives profoundly. In Episode 384 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Body Image & Divorce Shapes Your Dating Life: A Candid Talk with Erin Washington,” Kimmy chats with Erin Washington, a remarkable body image advocate, author of “Pain to Purpose,” and media personality with her own podcast, thERINpy, who has navigated a transformative journey from battling anorexia and bulimia to cultivating self-love and confidence. Erin's dedication led her to establish the Blue Butterfly Foundation, offering mentorship to teenage girls grappling with similar issues. In this candid conversation, Kimmy and Erin delve into the intricate ways negative body image and divorce can seep into our dating lives, affecting self-worth, confidence, and relationship choices. Erin vulnerably shares her compelling journey, revealing how her identity was once tethered to achievements on the soccer field, and how quitting college soccer triggered a decade-long struggle with eating disorders. Tune in as this episode evolves into a powerful coaching session—building on the conversation from Erin’s podcast, where Kimmy helps her navigate dating challenges and offers actionable mindset shifts for lasting confidence. Kimmy dissects the importance of sharing personal stories to heal from past issues and why practicing articulating emotions and desires in daily interactions improves communication skills in personal and romantic relationships. You'll hear a surprising breakthrough Erin has never realized before around how her upbringing has been affecting who she attracts in relationships. If you struggle with your body image and insecurities which are stopping you from dating, hop on a private call with Kimmy to find where to start. Also, she has a unique opportunity for a few women who want to take it to the next level. Coming up in February Kimmy is doing a small intimate private retreat called Inner Spark and Soul Retreat focusing on nurturing the body, mind and soul. Through curated activities, this transformative experience combines rejuvenating wellness practices, exploration of femininity energy and self care strategies inside and out. She only has 2 spots left but book a call to discuss what might be best for you to feel good inside and out. . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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How to Achieve Radiant Energy To Create Attraction: Interview with Regan Archibald
01/29/2025
How to Achieve Radiant Energy To Create Attraction: Interview with Regan Archibald
Do you feel confident in your body? Did you know your level of confidence in your body plays a huge part in your love life? In Episode 382 of The Charisma Quotient, “How to Achieve Radiant Energy To Create Attraction: Interview with Regan Archibald,” Kimmy interviews Regan Archibald — a prominent peptide functional medicine and longevity specialist, known for helping over 70,000 clients enhance their health at East West Health. Reagan, an author of nine books and host of the Unreasonable Health podcast, brings his expertise to explore the vital link between physical well-being and self-confidence. Kimmy and Regan explore the symbiotic relationship between body confidence, attraction, and overall health. They discuss how hormonal imbalances and poor body image can create a 'love shield,' hindering genuine connections. Regan shares his journey from conventional Western medicine to a more integrative approach after overcoming his own health challenges, revealing how personalized health solutions can help you regain control over your life. You’ll hear how feeling confident improves physical and mental well-being, which is attractive and why health changes can lead to tangible improvements in personal and professional life. Listen in to hear Regan’s inspiring story of a client who, against the odds, transformed her health and increased her confidence, leading her to meet her soulmate and start a family. A healthy body and mind can set the stage for attracting lasting love and happiness. If your health is affecting your love life, then hop on a private call with Kimmy to talk about ways to help you get out of this funk. Also, she has a unique opportunity for a few women who want to take it to the next level. Coming up in February Kimmy is doing a small intimate private retreat called Inner Spark and Soul Retreat focusing on nurturing the body, mind and soul. Through curated activities, this transformative experience combines rejuvenating wellness practices, exploration of femininity energy and self care strategies inside and out. She only has 2 spots left but book a call to discuss what might be best for you to feel good inside and out. . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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How Vulnerability and Authenticity Led To Love: Where Are They Now with HeyJune
01/22/2025
How Vulnerability and Authenticity Led To Love: Where Are They Now with HeyJune
Are you still waiting for the right person to come along? The key to love could be expressing your true self! In Episode 381 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Vulnerability and Authenticity Led To Love: Where Are They Now with HeyJune,” Kimmy welcomes former client HeyJune, who shares her remarkable journey from dating frustration to finding love. HeyJune was in a cycle of “tornado” relationships– those who enter with intense passion but disappear just as quickly. Having been referred by a friend who experienced success through Kimmy’s coaching, HeyJune was determined to break her pattern and meet the man right for her…which she did! Kimmy and HeyJune explore how self expression and setting boundaries became pivotal in her dating transformation. With courage and commitment, she embarked on a personal development journey to overcome her analytical nature and learn emotional openness. Tune in to hear Kimmy walk through the lessons she learned through coaching with her which led to the beautiful moment when she and her now-boyfriend felt an instant connection, culminating in meeting the family in just ten days. You’ll hear more on how to set boundaries, how to make decisions based on emotions without overanalyzing or disregarding your instincts and how practicing storytelling will lead to better dates. If you are having a hard time being open and breaking your pattern to find the right person for you, then hop into Kimmy’s next co-ed interactive workshop, Fearless Dating: Transform Your Love Life with Confidence and Authenticity to explore the exact strategies her most successful clients have used to overcome their dating fears, confidently express themselves and transform their dating story! Go to and sign up now. But hurry, tickets go fast! Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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Mental Health & Dating: Interview with Amy Charlesworth
01/14/2025
Mental Health & Dating: Interview with Amy Charlesworth
Are you ready to discover the keys to emotional availability and revamp your love life? In Episode 380 of The Charisma Quotient, “Mental Health & Dating: Interview with Amy Charlesworth,” Kimmy welcomes Amy Charlesworth, a veteran of military service turned mental health advocate and digital content creator. Amy's rich tapestry of experience, marked by the transition from military to civilian life and an inspiring path of personal growth, makes her an exceptional guest to shed light on overcoming emotional barriers when dating. Kimmy and Amy take a deep dive into the concept of the "love shield," where emotional defenses silently impact body language and communication, hindering intimate connections. They candidly discuss strategies to dismantle these subconscious barriers, drawing insights from Amy's personal journey of healing. Amy shares how the wisdom of thought leaders helped her uproot past patterns and transform negative self-talk into empowering affirmations. Together, they unravel the delicate process of shifting from hypervigilance and self-sabotage born of past insecurities to gradual vulnerability and openness in relationships. Finally Kimmy emphasizes to approach dating with fun and openness and create a 'dating plan'. If you’re ready to take down your love shield, coming up in February Kimmy is hosting a small intimate private retreat called Inner Spark and Soul Retreat focusing on nurturing the body, mind and soul. Through curated activities, this transformative experience combines rejuvenating wellness practices, exploration of femininity energy and self care strategies inside and out. Book a call with Kimmy to discuss what might be best for you to feel good inside and out. . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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Sexy After 50 – Coaching with Kimmy
01/03/2025
Sexy After 50 – Coaching with Kimmy
Are you ready to redefine your self-perception and unleash the sexy side of you? In Episode 379 of The Charisma Quotient, “Sexy After 50 - Coaching with Kimmy,” Kimmy coaches Stephanie live on air on her struggles around dating.. With a life marked by achievements—juggling a demanding job, raising her daughter, and pursuing a PhD—Stephanie bravely opens up about her post-divorce dating challenges, body image issues, and the impact of menopause on her sexy confidence. Kimmy begins the episode on the difference between being sexy vs feminine and how it can influence your dating life. In an engaging and heartfelt conversation, Kimmy guides Stephanie through the intricate layers of how her upbringing affected the way she sees herself as a “dateable” woman. Kimmy helps her discover how her hangups around being sexy and feminine has held her back and caused fear around flirting. Together, they explore the vital role of self-perception in confidence-building and how shifting one's mindset from feeling "cute" to "sexy" can revolutionize dating experiences. Listen in to hear Kimmy having Stephanie do a live exercise on air to help her overcome her limiting beliefs. Kimmy introduces empowering exercises and homework assignments for her including visits to Home Depot, wearing sexy cowboy boots and saying affirmations in the mirror daily. If you’re a woman looking to level up your dating game, coming up in February Kimmy is hosting a small intimate private retreat called Inner Spark and Soul Retreat focusing on nurturing the body, mind and soul. Through curated activities, this transformative experience combines rejuvenating wellness practices, exploration of femininity energy and self care strategies inside and out. Book a call with Kimmy to discuss what might be best for you to feel good inside and out. . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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Turning Challenges into Love & Laughter: Interview with Greg Schwem
12/27/2024
Turning Challenges into Love & Laughter: Interview with Greg Schwem
Life has a way of throwing curveballs at you. It seems like when it rains it pours, which can feel even more true when you’re single. But it doesn’t always have to be that way. In Episode 378 of The Charisma Quotient, “Turning Challenges Into Love & Laughter: Interview with Greg Schwem,” Kimmy chats with comedian Greg Schwem. Greg draws from personal experiences, including navigating a painful divorce and overcoming a colon cancer diagnosis, to offer insights on how humor can become a crucial tool in personal reinvention. With his sharp wit and storytelling prowess, Greg provides a fresh perspective on turning life's adversities into subjects for love and laughter. Throughout the conversation, Kimmy and Greg discuss the vital role of resilience and perspective in facing difficult situations. They explore practical strategies for maintaining a positive mindset in the dating world, highlighting the importance of authenticity over scripted humor. Together, they open up about the balance of vulnerability and comedy as key components of effective communication and connection. Greg entertains with a memorable dating mishap where a well-intended compliment is misinterpreted, showcasing how humor can diffuse awkward moments into delightful stories. Kimmy also shares an inspiring account of a woman who embraced her quirks, leading to improved dating experiences and success in her career. If you’re a woman looking to level up your dating game, coming up in February Kimmy is hosting a small intimate private retreat called Inner Spark and Soul Retreat focusing on nurturing the body, mind and soul. Through curated activities, this transformative experience combines rejuvenating wellness practices, exploration of femininity energy and self care strategies inside and out. Book a call with Kimmy to discuss what might be best for you to feel good inside and out. . Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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Health & Wellness: Your Relationship With Yourself To Attract Love with Dr. Paul Savage
12/20/2024
Health & Wellness: Your Relationship With Yourself To Attract Love with Dr. Paul Savage
If you look good, you feel good. When you feel good in your body and confident, that bleeds into your dating life. Feeling healthy can actually impact the way you approach dating and determines who you attract. In Episode 377 of The Charisma Quotient, “Health & Wellness: Your Relationship With Yourself To Attract Love with Dr. Paul Savage,” Kimmy meets with Dr. Paul Savage, an esteemed former ER doctor who transitioned from traditional medicine to lead the way in innovative health care. Not only has Dr. Savage been at the forefront of hormone management and toxin reduction, but he has also personally experienced the health improvements he's helping others achieve. His unique journey from the ER to creating BodyLogic MD serves as a beacon of hope, inspiring you to redefine your own health narratives. In this episode, you’ll gain insights into Dr. Savage's holistic five-month detox program and how it can improve your health and wellbeing. Additionally, Dr. Savage shares his personal story of overcoming adversity, highlighting how reaching a breaking point at age 45 led to profound personal transformation and success. Kimmy and Dr. Savage talks about the connection of feeling confident in your body which gives you the confidence to date. You’ll hear how the role hormone levels play in emotional and physical health, and how they impact confidence and wellbeing. Listen in to hear the importance of addressing emotional and mental health struggles that can impact dating and relationships and the link between health, appearance, and confidence. If your health is affecting your love life, then hop on a private call with Kimmy to talk about ways to help you get out of this funk. Also, Kimmy has a unique opportunity for a few women who want to take it to the next level. Coming up in February she is doing a small intimate private retreat called Inner Spark and Soul Retreat focusing on nurturing the body, mind and soul. Through curated activities, this transformative experience combines rejuvenating wellness practices, exploration of femininity energy and self care strategies inside and out. Book a call with Kimmy to discuss what might be best for you to feel good inside and out. . Get a special offer to listeners on Dr. Savage’s toxin test here: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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How To Date Without Fear: Coaching with Kimmy
12/12/2024
How To Date Without Fear: Coaching with Kimmy
Do you lack dating experience? Maybe you are more of a relationship person or maybe you never really just “dated” and have a desire to be in a relationship but your fear of rejection is holding you back? In Episode 376 of The Charisma Quotient, “How To Date Without Fear: Coaching with Kimmy,” Kimmy coaches a woman LIVE about how to date without fear. Sarah is an amazing woman, who opens up about her lack of dating experience due to bullying and turbulent college experiences. These encounters left her grappling with self-identity and confidence issues well into her adulthood, paralyzing in fear to date. Today, Sarah is determined to increase her self worth, learn how to embrace her femininity and bolster her emotional intelligence. In this episode, Kimmy starts by giving top road blocks that psychologically prevent people from dating. Kimmy and Sarah then explore the internal challenges of overcoming negative past experiences and fears of rejection. They candidly discuss how childhood bullying and the absence of male friendships shaped Sarah's guarded demeanor and her struggle to express personal needs. This conversation is rich with actionable strategies for embracing feminine energy, such as experimenting with social settings without the pressure of dating. Kimmy offers the intriguing practice of a "dating mission statement," which focuses away from finding a partner to fostering social confidence and building dating and flirting skills. Feel inspired to embark on your own journey of self-discovery and confidence-building? Book a free call with Kimmy today: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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Uncovering Dating Truths: Social Dynamics, Attraction, and Confidence with Michael Sartain
12/05/2024
Uncovering Dating Truths: Social Dynamics, Attraction, and Confidence with Michael Sartain
In a world of constantly ever-changing technology and social rules, it can be challenging to know when and how to approach women. And for women, it can be difficult to know where to go to find men. In Episode 375 of The Charisma Quotient, “Uncovering Dating Truths: Social Dynamics, Attraction, and Confidence with Michael Sartain,” Kimmy sits down with Michael Sartain. Known for his distinguished career as a retired US military officer and a prominent figure in high-status networking, Michael offers a trove of insights grounded in evolutionary psychology and firsthand social strategy. In this episode, Kimmy and Michael unpack the evolution of social dynamics in this modern dating era. They scrutinize the impact of social media and address the skewed gender ratios in social venues. Together, they explore the critical influence of social status, leadership, and authenticity in cultivating attraction, while also addressing the fear and polarization that plagues today's dating scene. Listen in to hear tips on how to enhance your attractiveness online, the difference between narcissism and confidence and the biggest mistakes men make when trying to create attraction. If you struggle to put yourself out there with confidence, Join Kimmy’s Virtual Holiday Speed Dating event December 11. But hurry spots are limited! This is a LIVE, interactive, co-ed event that combines coaching, direct feedback from the opposite sex and speed dating for an unforgettable experience. There are only a few spots left for this VIP-ONLY experience. Go to this link to register: Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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Navigating Modern World To Find Love: Interview with Allison Raskin
11/29/2024
Navigating Modern World To Find Love: Interview with Allison Raskin
Remember a time when finding a date was as easy as asking the girl next door? When people would pick up a rotary phone to call each other up? In the modern world of dating, there are numerous challenges that come up with new choices we didn’t have before. In Episode 374 of The Charisma Quotient, “Navigating Modern World To Find Love: Interview with Allison Raskin,” Kimmy chats with Allison – a New York Times bestselling author, mental health advocate, and comedian who knows a thing or two about navigating modern love. From her beginnings as a TV comedy writer to creating profound content centered on relationships and mental health, Allison's journey is as dynamic as the insights she shares. Her book, "I Do, I Think," tackles the nuances of modern marriage for Gen Z, millennials and beyond. In this episode, Kimmy and Allison engage in a powerful conversation about redefining traditional notions of marriage and partnership. They explore questions such as: What role does communication have in navigating shared and separate interests? And, in a world proliferated by dating apps and social media, how does one find genuine compatibility without succumbing to dating fatigue? You’ll hear the importance of self-care and maintaining individuality within partnerships and why older and younger generations have differing views on marriage and partnerships. These two explore how to reframe divorce as a learning experience and ways to overcome dating fatigue. If you are having a hard time navigating the modern dating world join Kimmy’s Virtual Holiday Speed Dating event this December to brush up on your dating and flirting skills. But hurry spots are limited! This is a LIVE, interactive, co-ed event that combines coaching and speed dating for an unforgettable experience. Don’t miss your chance to be part of this VIP-ONLY experience. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: Chat: Instagram: Twitter: Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:
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