Moving Past Toxic Positivity and Into Real Confidence (Encore)
Release Date: 11/26/2025
You Always Have a Choice: Reclaiming Agency as a Co-Parenting Mom (Encore)
Co-Parenting with Confidence
In this encore episode, I’m talking about something that quietly shapes how we show up as moms every single day: choice. So often, I hear women say, “I had no choice,” or “I had to,” especially in co-parenting and high-conflict situations. But the truth is, we always have a choice — even when none of the options feel easy. I break down how our brains work under stress, why we default to reaction mode, and how learning to pause gives us access to real agency. I walk you through the three choices that are always available to us: accept, change, or leave — and what each of those...
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Creating Calm and Stability During Co-Parenting Holidays (Encore)
Co-Parenting with Confidence
The holidays after divorce can feel heavy, emotional, and overwhelming — and I know that personally. In this encore episode, I talk about how we can create more calm, stability, and intention during the holiday season, even when co-parenting feels challenging. I share why waiting until conflict shows up is often too late, and how choosing growth, compassion, and preparation before the holidays arrive can completely change how we experience them. I open up about my own grief around holiday expectations, how I’ve learned to hold sadness and gratitude at the same time, and why being...
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Stop People-Pleasing and Start Setting Loving Boundaries (Encore)
Co-Parenting with Confidence
In this encore episode, I’m diving into one of the most essential skills I’ve had to develop in my own co-parenting journey: setting boundaries. So many of us were raised to prioritize keeping the peace and making others comfortable, even at the expense of our own emotional wellbeing. Over time, that leads to resentment, burnout, and feeling like a doormat. Today, I talk about how I learned to recognize those patterns in myself and how boundaries became a loving, empowering tool rather than something harsh or defensive. I walk through the difference between internal and external...
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Moving Past Toxic Positivity and Into Real Confidence (Encore)
Co-Parenting with Confidence
In this encore episode, I’m diving into the real differences between positive thinking and toxic positivity, and why learning to embrace the full spectrum of emotions is essential for co-parenting with clarity, compassion, and confidence. So many of us have been told to “look on the bright side,” “stay positive,” or “just get over it,” especially after divorce. But none of that helps us heal. In fact, it often makes the hard moments feel even heavier. I share how I approach positive alignment in my own life and with my clients—rooted not in denial or forced optimism, but in...
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What Five Years of Meditation Have Taught Me About the Power of Stillness
Co-Parenting with Confidence
Five years ago, I started meditating simply to quiet my mind. What I didn’t realize was that I was building something much deeper — a daily conversation with the divine, a foundation of self-trust, and a regulated nervous system grounded in the present moment. In this episode, I share what five years of consistent practice have taught me: how stillness strengthens us to meet life as it comes, how repetition heals our systems from the inside out, and how the simple act of showing up — every single day — transforms who we are. The biggest lesson? Whatever we focus on is what we...
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From Reaction to Regulation: Choosing How You Show Up
Co-Parenting with Confidence
In this episode, Mikki Gardner explores what it really means to change from the inside out. So often, we think transformation happens when something outside of us shifts — a partner, a job, a child’s behavior — but lasting change always begins with self-regulation. Mikki breaks down the connection between our mind, body, and emotions, showing how awareness becomes the bridge to choice. You’ll learn how to strengthen your self-regulation “muscle,” recognize when you’re operating from reactivity, and return to calm so you can lead yourself — and your relationships — with more...
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From Stuck to Still: Reimagining Your Relationships from the Inside Out
Co-Parenting with Confidence
After a season of change and messy transitions, Mikki returns to the mic with a powerful new direction for the podcast. In this solo episode, she opens up about navigating her own life shifts and why thinking our way out of relationship struggles doesn’t work. Mikki explores the three key paths we face when relationships feel stuck — repair, release, and re-imagine — and why true clarity comes from nervous system regulation, self-trust, and inner stillness. Whether you’re questioning a marriage, navigating co-parenting dynamics, or simply ready to stop looping through the same...
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Breaking Free from Conflict with a Difficult Ex (Encore)
Co-Parenting with Confidence
Conflict after divorce is one of the hardest challenges to navigate—especially when you’re co-parenting with a difficult ex. I know firsthand how overwhelming it can feel to avoid conflict on the outside, only to create even more of it inside yourself. That’s why in this episode of Co-Parenting with Confidence, I’m breaking down what conflict really is, the hidden patterns that keep us stuck, and the third option we often miss when we feel trapped between speaking up or staying silent. I share insights from Jason Gattis’ book Getting to Zero along with my own journey of learning to...
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Take Back Your Power: How Thoughts Shape Co-Parenting (Encore)
Co-Parenting with Confidence
Today we continue our look back at some of the most popular episodes of Co-Parenting with Confidence. In this encore episode, I share one of my favorite truths: your feelings don’t come from your ex, your circumstances, or the outside world—they come from your thoughts. When I discovered this, it completely shifted how I showed up as a mom and co-parent. Understanding that I’m not at the mercy of anyone else has been both liberating and empowering, and I want the same freedom for you. I’ll walk you through how our thoughts create our feelings, how those feelings drive our actions,...
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169. Empower Yourself in Co-Parenting: The Connection Between Thoughts and Feelings (Encore)
Co-Parenting with Confidence
In this encore of episode #2, Mikki explores the emotional challenges faced by co-parents and emphasizes the importance of understanding the origins of our feelings. She discusses how our thoughts shape our emotions and actions, empowering listeners to take control of their emotional responses. Mikki introduces tools such as Byron Katie's four questions to help individuals reframe their thoughts and create positive change in their co-parenting relationships. What You’ll Learn: Understanding that feelings stem from our thoughts, not external circumstances. We have the power to change our...
info_outlineIn this encore episode, I’m diving into the real differences between positive thinking and toxic positivity, and why learning to embrace the full spectrum of emotions is essential for co-parenting with clarity, compassion, and confidence. So many of us have been told to “look on the bright side,” “stay positive,” or “just get over it,” especially after divorce. But none of that helps us heal. In fact, it often makes the hard moments feel even heavier.
I share how I approach positive alignment in my own life and with my clients—rooted not in denial or forced optimism, but in deep self-compassion, emotional awareness, and acceptance of the as-is. I talk about why negative emotions matter, how resisting them creates more suffering, and how allowing them actually restores our strength. You’ll hear my personal reflections on grief, resilience, and the 50/50 nature of life, as well as three powerful tools to help you build a positive mindset without bypassing your real experiences.
Takeaways:
- Why “just think positive” can actually create harm
- How accepting the as-is builds true confidence
- Why allowing negative feelings increases emotional strength
- Three tools to cultivate grounded, healthy positivity
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