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#43: Break Free from Approval Addiction: The People-Pleaser's Journey with Dr. Eric Bean

Coaching Through Stories

Release Date: 10/18/2023

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Are you someone who is concerned about how others perceive you? Do you often prioritize others' needs over yours? Do you feel bad whenever you experience conflicts? In this solo episode, Dr. Eric delves into the behavior called people-pleasing. He discusses the signs of said behavior and how it can be unhealthy and counter-productive. If you are a people-pleaser, these might sound familiar to you. He also highlights the false beliefs that push individuals into people-pleasing behaviors. Moreover, he advises on how to mitigate this behavior and emphasizes the importance of gaining a clear understanding of our values. 

If you tend to be driven by a need to be liked by others, this episode is for you. Tune in as we dig deep to understand the origins of this behavior. 

 

Key Takeaways: 

  1. Conflict can be good. It can generate new ideas and solve problems. 

  2. We cannot control what others think. We can only control how we act. 

  3. Getting clarity of your values will help you control your actions.

  4. Seek out discomfort. Be comfortable being uncomfortable.  

 

 Highlights: 

  • [01:16] What is people-pleasing?
  • [04:37] Distinguishing people-pleasing from other behaviors
  • [06:48] Signs that you are a people pleaser
  • [11:15] Beliefs driving a people-pleasing behavior
  • [15:47] Addressing and getting to the root of the behavior