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Maintaining Individuality In Your Relationships

The Dr. Shyamala Show

Release Date: 11/28/2024

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The Dr. Shyamala Show

Most of us do our inner work in solitude. We build awareness. We regulate. We deepen into self-trust. But eventually— life invites us to take that inner work into our relationships. Specifically, into our adult relationships. This is what I explore in Part Three of The Threshold series: how the emotional mastery I’ve cultivated privately is showing up inside my partnership, my parenting, and the beautiful complexity of blending families. This episode is not about theory.  It’s about practice. About what it means to stay present when you want to disconnect. To choose curiosity in...

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The Dr. Shyamala Show

There’s a part of growth we don’t talk about enough. The lag. That uncomfortable, disorienting space between what’s changed in your life…and who you know yourself to be. Even when you’ve done the work, even when you understand the expansion, your nervous system might still be holding on to the version of you that felt safe. This isn’t resistance. It’s protection. And integration is the process of honoring it. In this episode of the podcast, I'm diving into The Threshold Part 2 and I’m opening up about my own season of growth— and the quiet, messy, embodied work of catching up...

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There’s a moment in every woman’s evolution that can’t be mapped or managed. Not with a new routine. Not with better boundaries. Not even with mindset work. Because what’s being asked of you… is to hold more. With your nervous system, not just your ambition. In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m doing something different. It’s the beginning of a new series called The Threshold — a look inside my own personal and professional evolution, where growth is no longer theoretical… it’s visceral. Inside Part One, I share: What expansion really demands of your nervous...

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Last week, we named the moment. The one every powerful woman eventually meets — where the life she’s built begins to exceed the nervous system she built it on. We called it The Precipice. And if you’re here, you know it intimately. But naming it is only the beginning. Today, in Part 2, we begin the real work: Rewiring the capacity to hold more. Because here’s the truth: You cannot expand from a system wired for survival. If your emotional architecture was built on protection — perfectionism, control, over-responsibility — you will always associate more with risk. This episode is...

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You are the one who holds it all. The career. The family. The relationship. The emotions no one else knows how to name. The expectations no one else is carrying. You’ve built a beautiful life. And still — you’ve hit your edge. There is no more room in your day. No more space for "one more thing". No more capacity to simply push through. But life doesn’t seem to care. It keeps asking for more. And you don’t know how to hold it without losing yourself. If this is you — today’s podcast is the conversation you didn’t know you needed. I call it The Precipice — the moment where...

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There comes a point for most of the women I work with where chasing “better” isn't what she wants anymore. She’s done with that. At this point in her life, what she truly desires is to feel good in her own skin. She wants to move through her days with calm, clarity, and a deep sense of sovereignty. She craves success on her own terms. Freedom of choice. She wants to spend time with her kids — and actually be present. To sit across from her partner and enjoy the connection again. To lead in her work with certainty, not second-guessing. She wants to create the life she knows is possible...

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You know that moment…the conversation ends, and a wave of shame hits your chest. You replay what you said. How your voice sharpened. How you shut down, gave in, or lashed out. And then the thought comes: “I thought I was past this.” Not because you haven’t done enough. But because it’s confusing when insight doesn’t translate into change. This week on the podcast, I’m taking you into the real reason you’re still reacting in ways that don’t feel aligned — even though you’re self-aware. These aren’t character flaws. They’re protective strategies — coded into your...

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Why Emotional Management Fails - And Why Emotional Mastery Is the Real Game-Changer show art Why Emotional Management Fails - And Why Emotional Mastery Is the Real Game-Changer

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There’s a deeply ingrained belief we’ve all been taught: you just need to manage your emotions better. Take a breath. Count to ten. Reframe the thought. Those tools aren’t wrong—but they’re reactive. They keep you in a cycle of suppression, avoidance, and frustration. And here’s the truth: emotional management doesn’t change your wiring. It doesn’t touch the patterns that keep getting triggered in the first place. In this week’s podcast episode, I’m unpacking why management fails—and why mastery is the true game changer, especially for high-achieving women. Inside,...

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There are two foundations that shape every experience we have in life. The quality of our mind. The quality of our relationships. Everything flows from there. And yet—so often, when these two are misaligned, we reach for surface-level fixes: another mindset hack, another communication tool, another attempt at “trying harder.” But what if the issue isn’t lack of effort… It’s that we’re trying to build on a foundation that’s not emotionally sound? In this episode, I’m inviting you into the deeper reset. One that doesn’t just help you manage your thoughts and emotions—but...

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There’s a moment every coach or clinician reaches — When holding space isn’t enough. You can offer presence, care, even insight… But if your work lacks structure, the transformation won’t stick. And that’s when clients drift, doubt, or quietly disappear. In this week’s podcast episode, I’m shifting gears — from love and worthiness to something just as essential: The three foundations every coach, clinician or practitioner must master to deliver real, lasting change. Whether you’re a coach, therapist, or facilitator of any kind — If you're here to create a transformation...

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Truth is, your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other connection in your life. 


When you're grounded in your body, trusting your intuition, and completely at home in your energy... that's when the magic happens.

Here's what I've learned: You can only connect as deeply with others as you're willing to connect with yourself.


The beautiful part? As we learn to understand our triggers, honour our fears, and voice our desires... everything shifts. This journey of coming home to ourselves? It's the most magnetic force there is.


The transformation you're seeking in your relationships begins the moment you decide to connect more deeply with yourself first. 

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