The Threshold Part 3
The Dr. Shyamala Show
Most of us do our inner work in solitude. We build awareness. We regulate. We deepen into self-trust. But eventually— life invites us to take that inner work into our relationships. Specifically, into our adult relationships. This is what I explore in Part Three of The Threshold series: how the emotional mastery I’ve cultivated privately is showing up inside my partnership, my parenting, and the beautiful complexity of blending families. This episode is not about theory. It’s about practice. About what it means to stay present when you want to disconnect. To choose curiosity in...
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The Threshold Part 2
The Dr. Shyamala Show
There’s a part of growth we don’t talk about enough. The lag. That uncomfortable, disorienting space between what’s changed in your life…and who you know yourself to be. Even when you’ve done the work, even when you understand the expansion, your nervous system might still be holding on to the version of you that felt safe. This isn’t resistance. It’s protection. And integration is the process of honoring it. In this episode of the podcast, I'm diving into The Threshold Part 2 and I’m opening up about my own season of growth— and the quiet, messy, embodied work of catching up...
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The Threshold Part 1
The Dr. Shyamala Show
There’s a moment in every woman’s evolution that can’t be mapped or managed. Not with a new routine. Not with better boundaries. Not even with mindset work. Because what’s being asked of you… is to hold more. With your nervous system, not just your ambition. In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m doing something different. It’s the beginning of a new series called The Threshold — a look inside my own personal and professional evolution, where growth is no longer theoretical… it’s visceral. Inside Part One, I share: What expansion really demands of your nervous...
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The Precipice: Part 2 - Rewiring the Capacity to Hold More
The Dr. Shyamala Show
Last week, we named the moment. The one every powerful woman eventually meets — where the life she’s built begins to exceed the nervous system she built it on. We called it The Precipice. And if you’re here, you know it intimately. But naming it is only the beginning. Today, in Part 2, we begin the real work: Rewiring the capacity to hold more. Because here’s the truth: You cannot expand from a system wired for survival. If your emotional architecture was built on protection — perfectionism, control, over-responsibility — you will always associate more with risk. This episode is...
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The Precipice: Part 1 - The Moment Before Everything Shifts
The Dr. Shyamala Show
You are the one who holds it all. The career. The family. The relationship. The emotions no one else knows how to name. The expectations no one else is carrying. You’ve built a beautiful life. And still — you’ve hit your edge. There is no more room in your day. No more space for "one more thing". No more capacity to simply push through. But life doesn’t seem to care. It keeps asking for more. And you don’t know how to hold it without losing yourself. If this is you — today’s podcast is the conversation you didn’t know you needed. I call it The Precipice — the moment where...
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Becoming The Emotionally Intelligent Woman
The Dr. Shyamala Show
There comes a point for most of the women I work with where chasing “better” isn't what she wants anymore. She’s done with that. At this point in her life, what she truly desires is to feel good in her own skin. She wants to move through her days with calm, clarity, and a deep sense of sovereignty. She craves success on her own terms. Freedom of choice. She wants to spend time with her kids — and actually be present. To sit across from her partner and enjoy the connection again. To lead in her work with certainty, not second-guessing. She wants to create the life she knows is possible...
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The Hidden Patterns that Keep You Stuck
The Dr. Shyamala Show
You know that moment…the conversation ends, and a wave of shame hits your chest. You replay what you said. How your voice sharpened. How you shut down, gave in, or lashed out. And then the thought comes: “I thought I was past this.” Not because you haven’t done enough. But because it’s confusing when insight doesn’t translate into change. This week on the podcast, I’m taking you into the real reason you’re still reacting in ways that don’t feel aligned — even though you’re self-aware. These aren’t character flaws. They’re protective strategies — coded into your...
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Why Emotional Management Fails - And Why Emotional Mastery Is the Real Game-Changer
The Dr. Shyamala Show
There’s a deeply ingrained belief we’ve all been taught: you just need to manage your emotions better. Take a breath. Count to ten. Reframe the thought. Those tools aren’t wrong—but they’re reactive. They keep you in a cycle of suppression, avoidance, and frustration. And here’s the truth: emotional management doesn’t change your wiring. It doesn’t touch the patterns that keep getting triggered in the first place. In this week’s podcast episode, I’m unpacking why management fails—and why mastery is the true game changer, especially for high-achieving women. Inside,...
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The Emotional Reset
The Dr. Shyamala Show
There are two foundations that shape every experience we have in life. The quality of our mind. The quality of our relationships. Everything flows from there. And yet—so often, when these two are misaligned, we reach for surface-level fixes: another mindset hack, another communication tool, another attempt at “trying harder.” But what if the issue isn’t lack of effort… It’s that we’re trying to build on a foundation that’s not emotionally sound? In this episode, I’m inviting you into the deeper reset. One that doesn’t just help you manage your thoughts and emotions—but...
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3 Foundations of Transformational Therapy
The Dr. Shyamala Show
There’s a moment every coach or clinician reaches — When holding space isn’t enough. You can offer presence, care, even insight… But if your work lacks structure, the transformation won’t stick. And that’s when clients drift, doubt, or quietly disappear. In this week’s podcast episode, I’m shifting gears — from love and worthiness to something just as essential: The three foundations every coach, clinician or practitioner must master to deliver real, lasting change. Whether you’re a coach, therapist, or facilitator of any kind — If you're here to create a transformation...
info_outlineWhat if the thing that’s actually keeping love out is your need for perfection?
Not the lack of healing.
Not the wrong timing.
Not your history.
But the subtle belief that you must show up flawless to be worthy of love.
This came up for me in a recent moment that cracked me open — and I’m sharing it, fully, in this week’s podcast.
After two years of deep healing post-divorce, I met someone new. Someone wonderful. Someone real.
And in his presence, I’ve met both the most surrendered version of myself…
…and the most activated.
One afternoon, we were in the car together. I answered a tense co-parenting call. When I hung up, I asked for his thoughts.
He said — with deep care — “It sounded like you were placating.”
I wanted to crawl out of my skin.
Because placating was an old pattern. One I’ve worked hard to heal. And in that moment, the shame that rose up wasn’t just about him witnessing me.
It was the belief that if I wasn’t perfect, I wouldn’t be lovable.
That I needed to earn love by being above my patterns — not inside them.
And yet…
That vulnerable girl part of me — the one who used to believe love was conditional — was met with tenderness. Not rejection.
He reminded me: “I admire your strength. But what draws me most is your softness.”
This week’s episode is a story about that moment — but more than that, it’s about the old paradigms we still carry. The ones that say love must be performed for.
This moment reminded me of a truth I return to again and again:
Healing happens in layers.
Magnetism is born in our willingness to be fully seen.
Self-love deepens when we soften into our humanness, not away from it.
So if you’ve been holding onto the idea that love requires perfection —
that you need to finish your healing before receiving the love you want —
I offer this story as a mirror.
You get to be both powerful and tender. You get to show up with patterns — and still be deeply worthy of love.