Podcast Episode #30 – Transcending Your Triggers
The Consciously Parenting Podcast
Release Date: 04/15/2020
Podcast Episode #47 – Raising Boys Q&A: Deescalation Techniques
The Consciously Parenting Podcast
Rebecca and Nathan look at how intentionally connecting with our children throughout their childhood can help us when we get to the teen years, by giving them and us the tools needed to move through intense emotions as they come up, before they escalate into something hard to handle. They also discuss ways to compassionately work with our teens in those situations where emotions have gotten very intense and the situation has escalated or morphed into something it wasn’t about originally.
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Podcast Episode #46 – Raising Boys Q&A: Maintaining Connection Through the Teen Years
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If we have laid the groundwork by modeling healthy relating, by empowering our children to be able to identify their own feelings and needs, and by maintaining a connection with our children, we do not have to buy into the ideas of teenagers breaking away and becoming disconnected from us.
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Podcast Episode #45 – Raising Boys Q&A: Encouraging connection with others
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As parents, we all have a similar concern when it comes to raising our kids (both boys and girls). What’s going to happen when they start to go out and have their own relationships? Have I done enough to prepare them to connect with others and have healthy relationships?
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Podcast Episode #44 – Raising Boys Q&A: Talking Bodies and Sex
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I’m wondering how much I should “push” to have conversations about sex & sexual matters. Everything including erections are common topics, but they really shut me down when I try to take it to another level. Should I just talk to the air but out loud, should I zip it, should I just hand over a book, or wait until they are more open to talk about more? I just don’t want them to get used to holding back. I’m thinking that later it would seem awkward for them to initiate the conversation.
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Podcast Episode #43 – Raising Boys Q&A: Healthy Masculinity
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Q&A: Healthy Masculinity
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Podcast Episode #42 – Raising Boys Q&A: Wiping, Connection, & Respect
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Question: Why can’t my kid just wipe?
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Podcast Episode #41 – Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys (part 2)
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In this episode, we talk about how to support our children when they are angry or upset. Similar to when children are little, we can use the skill of being patient and waiting, being with them to name their emotions but not trying to make anything specific happen faster. We need to focus on getting ourselves back to a state of regulation so we can support them.
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Podcast Episode #40 – Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys (part 1)
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How can we best support our boys when they are young and as they grow into men? There are many cultural messages for boys around feelings, so how do we navigate that territory? How do we stay respectful of our boys’ biology and neurobiology? We want to make sure we are creating the space for their emotions and really respecting that they’re different than we are as women and moms.
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Podcast Episode #39 – Moms’ thoughts about raising boys
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Whether you’re expecting a boy or already have one in your family, we want to do our best to raise them to be emotionally healthy members of our families and then their own families one day. But how do we do raise emotionally healthy boys?
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Podcast Episode #38 – You can put “Sad” in your pocket
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I told her that if she was feeling sad and either she couldn't find someone in that moment to give her a hug, *or* if she just didn't want to have to do it right then, because she was out or having fun or something, then she could put her Sad in her pocket for later. I went on to say that she couldn't put Sad in the trash can. There's no getting rid of it and not taking care of it. But she could put it in her pocket and then later she could pull it out when it was a better time and get her hugs then.
info_outlineIn this final discussion with Carrie Contey, we take the topic of triggers beyond the day-to-day experience of stress and struggle to the level of personal transcendence. It’s a delicious conversation that will refuel your parenting energy. Here, we’re offering a broader perspective of what it means to be triggered into a stressful reaction in your daily life with kids.
This is the last (wonderful) piece to the puzzle of what to do about being triggered as a parent.
Recap:
The first step is awareness around your personal stress triggers and how you react emotionally and behaviorally. (Carrie urges us to allow several years with this important step alone!)
Next we learn how to move from unconscious reaction to deliberate responding. Making this habit change also takes time, effort, and much patience. We learn to leave perfectionism and ultra-high standards at the door, embrace self-compassion, and step slowly towards new patterns and ways of responding.
Finally, we’re opening up to a higher level of personal response-ability as we understand how parenting leads us towards personal growth and spiritual development. We open to a larger perspective of our purpose and gifts in the guise of obstacles. The ways our children push our buttons allows conscious parents to uncover what needs to be healed in a way no other guru could.
Carrie gives us a few key ideas on how we make the shift towards transcendence. This is the gold for you to discover. True transcendence involves techniques that bring unconscious past emotions into the light of full acceptance. Allowing and re-experiencing old wounds is frightening to most of us, but is truly the only way to attain personal integration, healing, and wholeness.
I know you’ll enjoy this brief but juicy conversation that speaks to the heart of what it means to be a conscious parent.
Resources:
Books:
Michael Brown: The Presence Process: A Journey Into Present Moment Awareness
Michael A. Singer: The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
Dr. Shefali Tsabary: The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children
Carrie Contey, PhD is an parenting coach, speaker and author. Her background offers a unique perspective on children, parenting, family life and what it means to be a healthy, happy, whole human being. In her work with thousands of parents all over the world, she guides, supports and inspires her clients to live with a wide-open and courageous heart so that they can approach parenting with both skill and spaciousness.
Links:
www.carriecontey.com
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