Podcast Episode #39 – Moms’ thoughts about raising boys
The Consciously Parenting Podcast
Release Date: 04/15/2020
Podcast Episode #47 – Raising Boys Q&A: Deescalation Techniques
The Consciously Parenting Podcast
Rebecca and Nathan look at how intentionally connecting with our children throughout their childhood can help us when we get to the teen years, by giving them and us the tools needed to move through intense emotions as they come up, before they escalate into something hard to handle. They also discuss ways to compassionately work with our teens in those situations where emotions have gotten very intense and the situation has escalated or morphed into something it wasn’t about originally.
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Podcast Episode #46 – Raising Boys Q&A: Maintaining Connection Through the Teen Years
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If we have laid the groundwork by modeling healthy relating, by empowering our children to be able to identify their own feelings and needs, and by maintaining a connection with our children, we do not have to buy into the ideas of teenagers breaking away and becoming disconnected from us.
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Podcast Episode #45 – Raising Boys Q&A: Encouraging connection with others
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As parents, we all have a similar concern when it comes to raising our kids (both boys and girls). What’s going to happen when they start to go out and have their own relationships? Have I done enough to prepare them to connect with others and have healthy relationships?
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Podcast Episode #44 – Raising Boys Q&A: Talking Bodies and Sex
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I’m wondering how much I should “push” to have conversations about sex & sexual matters. Everything including erections are common topics, but they really shut me down when I try to take it to another level. Should I just talk to the air but out loud, should I zip it, should I just hand over a book, or wait until they are more open to talk about more? I just don’t want them to get used to holding back. I’m thinking that later it would seem awkward for them to initiate the conversation.
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Podcast Episode #43 – Raising Boys Q&A: Healthy Masculinity
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Q&A: Healthy Masculinity
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Podcast Episode #42 – Raising Boys Q&A: Wiping, Connection, & Respect
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Question: Why can’t my kid just wipe?
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Podcast Episode #41 – Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys (part 2)
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In this episode, we talk about how to support our children when they are angry or upset. Similar to when children are little, we can use the skill of being patient and waiting, being with them to name their emotions but not trying to make anything specific happen faster. We need to focus on getting ourselves back to a state of regulation so we can support them.
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Podcast Episode #40 – Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys (part 1)
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How can we best support our boys when they are young and as they grow into men? There are many cultural messages for boys around feelings, so how do we navigate that territory? How do we stay respectful of our boys’ biology and neurobiology? We want to make sure we are creating the space for their emotions and really respecting that they’re different than we are as women and moms.
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Podcast Episode #39 – Moms’ thoughts about raising boys
The Consciously Parenting Podcast
Whether you’re expecting a boy or already have one in your family, we want to do our best to raise them to be emotionally healthy members of our families and then their own families one day. But how do we do raise emotionally healthy boys?
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Podcast Episode #38 – You can put “Sad” in your pocket
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I told her that if she was feeling sad and either she couldn't find someone in that moment to give her a hug, *or* if she just didn't want to have to do it right then, because she was out or having fun or something, then she could put her Sad in her pocket for later. I went on to say that she couldn't put Sad in the trash can. There's no getting rid of it and not taking care of it. But she could put it in her pocket and then later she could pull it out when it was a better time and get her hugs then.
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Whether you’re expecting a boy or already have one in your family, we want to do our best to raise them to be emotionally healthy members of our families and then their own families one day. But how do we do raise emotionally healthy boys?
We begin our podcast series about Raising Boys with a conversation between two moms – Lianne March and Rebecca Thompson Hitt, both moms of boys. Lianne has a 13-year-old son and Rebecca has two sons, aged 14 and 19.
Today’s conversation tackles understanding emotional patterns in your family as it pertains to different members of your family of origin and just to notice if there are any specific patterns that are drawn on gender lines. There is even a worksheet that you can download to look at your own family’s patterns. You might just see something you hadn’t before. Remember, this is all about bringing patterns into conscious awareness, so you can make a choice about them, not about blame or shame.
They talk about when their boys were young and what they noticed regarding what kinds of toys and activities their boys gravitated towards and how that changed as they grew.
As mothers of teen boys, they also share about their experiences of noticing the shift that happens as boys enter puberty regarding emotions, physicality, and the need for some more risk. Lots of real life examples and stories are shared.
This series will be recorded during the month of April. Next week, we’ll be talking with Nathan McTague from The Center for Emotional Education.
We welcome your questions on this topic. Just send us an email and we will do our best to answer them for you!
Resources from this Episode
We’ll be updating this page with more resources about raising boys as we receive recommendations so be sure to check back!
FREE Printable PDF: Exploring Your Family Patterns
In this episode, we brought up a whole bunch of questions for you to consider about how you and your family handle feelings. It can be really interesting to think about what things were like when you were growing up, and then see how things are in your family now. Notice what things are similar and what’s different.
We added more questions than we even discussed on the podcast, so be sure to sign up below and download the PDF and spend some time working on it. You may want to print out a copy for yourself and your partner to do separately, and then see whether things were similar or different for you.
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