3366 Manage Different and Diverse Perspectives in Marriage
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Release Date: 04/13/2024
3969 Reframe the Frame
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Life is a relentless challenge. Sometimes it feels like waves crashing one after another—without a pause. If you pile on extra weight from how you see those waves crashing, you don’t just face the storm; you drown in it before your day even begins. Look at your life differently; reframe the frame. Your mind doesn’t just observe your reality, it creates it. The frame you choose to see your life through either traps you in frustration or frees you to act with clarity. When everything feels impossible, the difference between sinking and swimming is rewriting that frame. Desire to be...
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3968 When Life Doesn't Go As Planned
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3967 The Game Isn't Over Yet
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3966 Build an Unbeatable Marriage
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3965 Red Zone Parenting
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3964 Find Strength in Your Team
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
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3963 Fuel Like A Champion
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Do you want to play like a champion? Then start by treating your mind and body like they actually matter. Because if you're honest with yourself, talent and hustle can only carry you so far when your fuel tank is running on empty, your brain is fogged, and your body is begging for rest. The power of peak performance is not just for the field. So fuel like a champion. The elite football players of the Super Bowl. They don’t just show up to practice—they obsess over how they eat, sleep, and recover. That’s their secret weapon. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other...
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3962 More Than Just Words
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3961 Master Your Mental Game
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
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3960 Why the Small Stuff Matters to God
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
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info_outlineConflicts are inevitable in the journey of marriage. However, how couples manage different and diverse perspectives in marriage can make all the difference in maintaining a strong and healthy relationship.
Rather than placing blame on their spouse, each spouse can take proactive steps to manage themselves and foster understanding and compromise within the marriage.
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Then, you have to consider that when couples constantly hound each other on what they believe is right without looking at their spouse's position or opinion, it can lead to a breakdown in communication and trust within the marriage.
This behavior often stems from a place of ego and a desire to be seen as right or superior, rather than valuing the perspectives and feelings of their partner. This dynamic creates a power struggle within the relationship, where each person is more focused on proving their own point rather than understanding and respecting the other's viewpoint.
Furthermore, when couples engage in constant hounding and dismissiveness towards their partner's opinions, it can create a toxic environment of resentment and frustration. Over time, this can erode the emotional connection between spouses, leading to feelings of alienation and isolation within the marriage.
It becomes challenging to build a foundation of mutual respect and support when one or both partners are unwilling to listen and consider each other's perspectives.
Additionally, whether you're hounding or harassing or just choosing to be difficult, these cycles of wanting to be right can escalate conflicts and disagreements, turning small issues into larger, more contentious battles. This can create a pattern of communication breakdowns and emotional distance, making it difficult for couples to find common ground and work together as a team. Without open and respectful communication, couples may struggle to navigate challenges and differences in a healthy and constructive way, ultimately putting their marriage at risk.
If you want to avoid falling into the trap of being a hound dog, which can be detrimental to your marriage, then you want to step up your game.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Step up your game!
It is essential for couples to practice empathy, active listening, and mutual respect in order to foster a harmonious and supportive relationship built on understanding and cooperation.
1. Consciousness vs. Carelessness
Firstly, consciousness refers to being aware of one's thoughts, feelings, and surroundings, like being self-aware. Individuals can better control their reactions during conflicts by recognizing and understanding their triggers and emotional responses. Who wants to be careless? Your lack of attention, awareness, or concern is not going to win you any brownie points.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, John Gottman, emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, stating, "Taking responsibility for our own emotional reactions can significantly impact how we navigate disagreements with our partners."
But again, you have to be willing to look at yourself and engage in self-examination. And that consciousness is going to take the energy of a full-time job. So prepare your mind for the hard work ahead.
2. Compassion vs. Callousness
Secondly, cultivating empathy towards their spouse's point of view is crucial. Hello, compassion! Empathy lets you see things from your spouse's perspective, fostering understanding and connection.
Research by psychologist Sara Konrath supports this, highlighting that empathy is essential for building strong and meaningful relationships.
As Kristianne Wargo, a relationship coach, wisely states, "Empathy is the bridge that connects differences in marriage and paves the way for mutual understanding."
And if you want to bat a thousand, then continue your callousness—the lack of compassion, empathy, or sensitivity towards others, which indicates a cold and indifferent attitude that contrasts with the warmth and understanding associated with compassion.
3. Collaborate vs. Compete
Lastly, adopting a collaborative mindset is key. Instead of viewing conflicts as a battle to be won, approaching disagreements as opportunities for growth and compromise can lead to more constructive resolutions.
Marriage researcher Dr. Sue Johnson affirms this approach, emphasizing that collaboration and teamwork are vital for resolving conflicts in a marriage.
Otherwise, you will find yourself keeping score, and then it will be a win-or-lose event every time you come together. Who really wants to play in the Super Bowl every day?
Managing differences and diverse perspectives in marriage requires a proactive and introspective approach. By practicing consciousness (self-awareness), compassion (empathy), and collaboration (better together), you'll be able to navigate conflicts with grace and understanding, strengthening your bond with your spouse.
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