3366 Manage Different and Diverse Perspectives in Marriage
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Release Date: 04/13/2024
3885 Simplicity Is Enough
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
We live in a culture that glorifies complexity and chaos—complicated schedules, endless goals, nonstop hustle. Yet, most of that noise isn’t helping you. You’re beating yourself up for what you don’t have, tangled in past disappointments, and paralyzed by fear that’s mostly imagined. None of that moves the needle. What if, for just one moment, you accepted that simplicity is enough? Imagine stripping away the must-dos, the overwhelm, the fears, and the doubts. Too often, though, we create monsters in our heads, just like we did when we were little and the monsters were under the bed....
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3884 Running to Stand Still
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Too much to do and holidays too close, how do you keep up with all of it the most? Every day can get you down when you keep going around. You claim you're busy, but you're just dizzy. Nothing will change until—you stop running to stand still. Why do we keep trying to convince ourselves that we can do everything? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The myth of doing it all drains energy, steals joy, and steals our clarity. It’s called busy for a reason—but busy isn’t always progress. Sometimes it’s just noise. It’s absolutely okay to...
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3883 For When I Am Weak
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Your struggle isn't a solo mission. In fact, rest is on the other side of surrender. The apostle Paul writes of this truth in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10: "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong." Think about it—how quick are we to shout from the rooftops all the things...
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3882 Stepping Toward Each Other When It Hurts Most
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Conflict in marriage isn’t just about the argument itself. It’s about the distance it creates—the silence, the hurt, the confusion about where “we” stand. Coming back together after conflict isn’t automatic. It requires intentional, courageous steps that go beyond "Let's just forget it" or “Sorry.” It's all about stepping toward each other when it hurts most. Every marriage faces its share of conflict and miscommunication. It’s not a sign that something is broken beyond repair—it's simply human nature. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join...
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3881 Parents—Stir The Fire!
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Parenting demands a strong backbone. When the storms of family life rage hardest—temper tantrums, teenage rebellion, mounting stress—it’s tempting to shut down or retreat into silence, hoping the problem will just pass. But here’s the hard truth: the parents’ job is not to run from the heat. It’s to stir the fire just enough so real growth can happen. Why? Because your child’s greatest lessons don’t come from perfect moments or rehearsed speeches. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . They come from raw, real-life...
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3880 Find Joy When Life Feels Like A Struggle
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Life doesn’t owe you an easy ride—and let’s be honest, it never will. The truth is this: tough weeks are part of the deal. You don’t get a pass because you’re tired, or because you’re giving everything you’ve got. But while life is relentless, your attitude doesn’t have to be. Find joy when life feels like a struggle. Waiting for “perfect” to show up before you allow yourself to smile? That’s a losing game. If you put happiness on hold until everything is exactly how you want it, it will never come. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us...
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3879 Get Your Head in the Game
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Living healthy isn’t just about what you eat or how often you move. It’s about staying sharp, focused, and fully engaged with your life and your body. But let’s be real — when your brain feels like it’s juggling 27 open tabs, and none of them are making sense, healthy living feels impossible. Tasks pile up. You start a project and end up lost in a scroll hole. It’s not a matter of laziness or a lack of willpower. Your brain is tapped out. So at some point, you've got to get your head in the game! Because if you don't, you'll be overloaded. Desire to be supported and encouraged by...
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3878 Remove the Filter
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Every day, we wear invisible masks—filters shaped by the expectations of others, the pressure to fit in, and the urge to appear flawless. We scroll through highlight reels of perfect lives on social media and wonder why our own feels so ordinary in comparison. So remove the filter. Because if you’re living for anyone else’s approval, you’re not living for yourself. And that leaves you with a life that feels filtered, diluted, and far from authentic. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s time to be courageous. Take a step back and...
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3877 When Everything Is Falling Apart
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Life’s storms don’t ask for permission. One moment, you’re steady; the next, it feels like the ground beneath you is crumbling. Demands from others pile up, your own expectations weigh heavy, and the dozens of responsibilities feel like a relentless avalanche. What do you do when everything is falling apart? You do know that you’ll never control every piece of the chaos. Trying to do so only drains your energy and keeps you spinning in place. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Worse, you might know exactly what must be done—but...
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3876 What You Believe, You Become
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Life pulls us in a thousand directions, and the chaos doesn’t stop there. Beyond the noise and the things out of our control, there’s something more powerful always happening — inside us. What you believe, you become. Too often, we look outside of ourselves — at circumstances, people, or temporary fixes — hoping to fill a void or answer a question only God can satisfy. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But chasing after the wrong things leaves us empty, restless, and disconnected from the purpose God designed for us. When we buy...
info_outlineConflicts are inevitable in the journey of marriage. However, how couples manage different and diverse perspectives in marriage can make all the difference in maintaining a strong and healthy relationship.
Rather than placing blame on their spouse, each spouse can take proactive steps to manage themselves and foster understanding and compromise within the marriage.
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Then, you have to consider that when couples constantly hound each other on what they believe is right without looking at their spouse's position or opinion, it can lead to a breakdown in communication and trust within the marriage.
This behavior often stems from a place of ego and a desire to be seen as right or superior, rather than valuing the perspectives and feelings of their partner. This dynamic creates a power struggle within the relationship, where each person is more focused on proving their own point rather than understanding and respecting the other's viewpoint.
Furthermore, when couples engage in constant hounding and dismissiveness towards their partner's opinions, it can create a toxic environment of resentment and frustration. Over time, this can erode the emotional connection between spouses, leading to feelings of alienation and isolation within the marriage.
It becomes challenging to build a foundation of mutual respect and support when one or both partners are unwilling to listen and consider each other's perspectives.
Additionally, whether you're hounding or harassing or just choosing to be difficult, these cycles of wanting to be right can escalate conflicts and disagreements, turning small issues into larger, more contentious battles. This can create a pattern of communication breakdowns and emotional distance, making it difficult for couples to find common ground and work together as a team. Without open and respectful communication, couples may struggle to navigate challenges and differences in a healthy and constructive way, ultimately putting their marriage at risk.
If you want to avoid falling into the trap of being a hound dog, which can be detrimental to your marriage, then you want to step up your game.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Step up your game!
It is essential for couples to practice empathy, active listening, and mutual respect in order to foster a harmonious and supportive relationship built on understanding and cooperation.
1. Consciousness vs. Carelessness
Firstly, consciousness refers to being aware of one's thoughts, feelings, and surroundings, like being self-aware. Individuals can better control their reactions during conflicts by recognizing and understanding their triggers and emotional responses. Who wants to be careless? Your lack of attention, awareness, or concern is not going to win you any brownie points.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, John Gottman, emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, stating, "Taking responsibility for our own emotional reactions can significantly impact how we navigate disagreements with our partners."
But again, you have to be willing to look at yourself and engage in self-examination. And that consciousness is going to take the energy of a full-time job. So prepare your mind for the hard work ahead.
2. Compassion vs. Callousness
Secondly, cultivating empathy towards their spouse's point of view is crucial. Hello, compassion! Empathy lets you see things from your spouse's perspective, fostering understanding and connection.
Research by psychologist Sara Konrath supports this, highlighting that empathy is essential for building strong and meaningful relationships.
As Kristianne Wargo, a relationship coach, wisely states, "Empathy is the bridge that connects differences in marriage and paves the way for mutual understanding."
And if you want to bat a thousand, then continue your callousness—the lack of compassion, empathy, or sensitivity towards others, which indicates a cold and indifferent attitude that contrasts with the warmth and understanding associated with compassion.
3. Collaborate vs. Compete
Lastly, adopting a collaborative mindset is key. Instead of viewing conflicts as a battle to be won, approaching disagreements as opportunities for growth and compromise can lead to more constructive resolutions.
Marriage researcher Dr. Sue Johnson affirms this approach, emphasizing that collaboration and teamwork are vital for resolving conflicts in a marriage.
Otherwise, you will find yourself keeping score, and then it will be a win-or-lose event every time you come together. Who really wants to play in the Super Bowl every day?
Managing differences and diverse perspectives in marriage requires a proactive and introspective approach. By practicing consciousness (self-awareness), compassion (empathy), and collaboration (better together), you'll be able to navigate conflicts with grace and understanding, strengthening your bond with your spouse.
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