3366 Manage Different and Diverse Perspectives in Marriage
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Release Date: 04/13/2024
3899 Your Heart is the Anchor
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
The holiday season is notorious for turning you into a checklist machine. You wake up with a mental rundown of what must be done: complete Cyber purchases, groceries, school events, meal prep, work deadlines, holiday gatherings, gift wrapping, and on and on. By the time Tuesday is here, that list is already gnawing at your energy and your spirit. You're already wiped out just thinking about the week ahead. Sound too familiar? Well, here's your escape: Your to-do list does not anchor your life—your heart is the anchor. Psalm 46:10 reminds us to “Be still, and know that I am God.”...
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3898 Living Life Out of Order
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
December evenings can feel like a pressure cooker. You scroll through Instagram and see everyone’s lives perfectly arranged: big wins, festive decor, smiling faces. Meanwhile, you’re staring down unfinished projects, mounting fatigue, and that nagging voice telling you you’re behind, failing, or simply out of place. Why does it feel like everyone else is moving forward, while you’re stuck living life out of order? Here’s the hard truth: comparison is a silent peace thief. When you measure your messy, nonlinear reality against others’ carefully curated timelines and highlight reels,...
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3897 HOPE - The Faithfulness of God
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When the future feels shaky and the world seems out of control, hope is often what’s missing. But here’s where you check your pulse: hope is not wishful thinking or vague optimism. Real hope is a confident expectation anchored in the faithfulness of God. Jeremiah 29:11 cuts through the noise: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . This verse isn’t a hollow promise—it’s a wild, brave...
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3896 Digging for Gold
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Marriage is no fairy tale without effort. It demands work, dedication, and a clear purpose to turn the ordinary into an extraordinary journey. When that effort wanes, couples find themselves facing the big ‘D’—divorce. No one wants that outcome. Yet, many walk down the aisle with hope for forever, only to get distracted by the temptation of greener grass elsewhere. But the problem is that they're digging for gold in the wrong places. Picture this: It’s Black Friday, and everyone’s scouring the stores, hunting for the best deals, the quickest wins, the most immediate gratification....
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3895 Raising Kids with Kind Hearts
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Raising kids with kind hearts filled with gratitude feels like an uphill battle these days. It’s no secret that screens dominate their attention—heads buried in phones and tablets, tuning out the world around them. But it doesn't have to be this way. If we let kids do what they want with technology, many will struggle to grasp what it really means to be kind, respectful, and thankful. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . And here’s the tougher truth: parents aren’t always present either, caught up in their own whirlwind. If both sides...
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3894 The Letter of Thanksgiving
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Thanksgiving often nudges us to list the people we appreciate—the family, friends, mentors, colleagues. But this year, let’s flip the script. Before you reach out to thank another, consider turning your gratitude inward. What if today, the letter of thanksgiving you write is to yourself? Think about your year—not just the surface moments you flash back to, but the quiet stretches, the small triumphs, the unseen acts of kindness you offered without fanfare. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Where has your heart been whole? What parts of...
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3893 Gratitude Creates a Vision for Tomorrow
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denials into acceptance chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. ~ Melody Beattie Gratitude isn’t just about saying “thank you.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . There’s a subtle but powerful difference between being thankful and being grateful. Thankfulness happens in the mind — it’s the polite acknowledgment of something received. Think about the...
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3892 Leave Nothing Behind
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
The holidays can stir our hearts, drawing us closer to our thoughts. Don't let the busyness cloud what matters. Leave nothing behind. You are created for greatness! Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . This holiday season, don't let what you think you know be disguised as what matters. Give yourself that space and time. The K.I.S.S. ~ Leave nothing behind! Be brave. Be bold. Be courageous and make a decision to forgive, to love, to share a hug. Life is too precious. So leave nothing behind. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" ...
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3891 Create Margin To Do What Matters
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Far too often, we’re caught in a relentless cycle of “putting out fires” — responding to demands, answering endless messages, attending meetings that don’t move the needle. Our days are dictated by everyone else’s priorities. But what if that didn’t have to be your reality? What if you could break free and create margin to do what matters? Imagine this moment as a fork in the road. The old season is burning out, and you're stepping into a new one—one where you call the shots on your calendar and your energy. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join...
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3890 A Heart of Gratitude
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
As the holiday season unfolds around us, the pull of distractions and pressures can easily divert our mind, body, and spirit from the path God desires. It’s a time when expectations run high, and focusing on what truly matters often feels like an uphill battle. But there is one simple yet powerful weapon we can wield to stay grounded: a heart of gratitude. Psalm 118:24 sets the tone perfectly: “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Each day is a gift from God,...
info_outlineConflicts are inevitable in the journey of marriage. However, how couples manage different and diverse perspectives in marriage can make all the difference in maintaining a strong and healthy relationship.
Rather than placing blame on their spouse, each spouse can take proactive steps to manage themselves and foster understanding and compromise within the marriage.
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Then, you have to consider that when couples constantly hound each other on what they believe is right without looking at their spouse's position or opinion, it can lead to a breakdown in communication and trust within the marriage.
This behavior often stems from a place of ego and a desire to be seen as right or superior, rather than valuing the perspectives and feelings of their partner. This dynamic creates a power struggle within the relationship, where each person is more focused on proving their own point rather than understanding and respecting the other's viewpoint.
Furthermore, when couples engage in constant hounding and dismissiveness towards their partner's opinions, it can create a toxic environment of resentment and frustration. Over time, this can erode the emotional connection between spouses, leading to feelings of alienation and isolation within the marriage.
It becomes challenging to build a foundation of mutual respect and support when one or both partners are unwilling to listen and consider each other's perspectives.
Additionally, whether you're hounding or harassing or just choosing to be difficult, these cycles of wanting to be right can escalate conflicts and disagreements, turning small issues into larger, more contentious battles. This can create a pattern of communication breakdowns and emotional distance, making it difficult for couples to find common ground and work together as a team. Without open and respectful communication, couples may struggle to navigate challenges and differences in a healthy and constructive way, ultimately putting their marriage at risk.
If you want to avoid falling into the trap of being a hound dog, which can be detrimental to your marriage, then you want to step up your game.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Step up your game!
It is essential for couples to practice empathy, active listening, and mutual respect in order to foster a harmonious and supportive relationship built on understanding and cooperation.
1. Consciousness vs. Carelessness
Firstly, consciousness refers to being aware of one's thoughts, feelings, and surroundings, like being self-aware. Individuals can better control their reactions during conflicts by recognizing and understanding their triggers and emotional responses. Who wants to be careless? Your lack of attention, awareness, or concern is not going to win you any brownie points.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, John Gottman, emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, stating, "Taking responsibility for our own emotional reactions can significantly impact how we navigate disagreements with our partners."
But again, you have to be willing to look at yourself and engage in self-examination. And that consciousness is going to take the energy of a full-time job. So prepare your mind for the hard work ahead.
2. Compassion vs. Callousness
Secondly, cultivating empathy towards their spouse's point of view is crucial. Hello, compassion! Empathy lets you see things from your spouse's perspective, fostering understanding and connection.
Research by psychologist Sara Konrath supports this, highlighting that empathy is essential for building strong and meaningful relationships.
As Kristianne Wargo, a relationship coach, wisely states, "Empathy is the bridge that connects differences in marriage and paves the way for mutual understanding."
And if you want to bat a thousand, then continue your callousness—the lack of compassion, empathy, or sensitivity towards others, which indicates a cold and indifferent attitude that contrasts with the warmth and understanding associated with compassion.
3. Collaborate vs. Compete
Lastly, adopting a collaborative mindset is key. Instead of viewing conflicts as a battle to be won, approaching disagreements as opportunities for growth and compromise can lead to more constructive resolutions.
Marriage researcher Dr. Sue Johnson affirms this approach, emphasizing that collaboration and teamwork are vital for resolving conflicts in a marriage.
Otherwise, you will find yourself keeping score, and then it will be a win-or-lose event every time you come together. Who really wants to play in the Super Bowl every day?
Managing differences and diverse perspectives in marriage requires a proactive and introspective approach. By practicing consciousness (self-awareness), compassion (empathy), and collaboration (better together), you'll be able to navigate conflicts with grace and understanding, strengthening your bond with your spouse.
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