3744 How to Turn Doubt into Your Secret Weapon
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Doubt is the silent killer of dreams—it sneaks in, freezes your progress, and whispers that you’re not enough. Every ambitious person faces it, but most let it derail their path to success. Here’s the brutal truth: if you don’t learn how to turn doubt into your secret weapon, it will keep robbing you of your potential. Doubt creeps in—subtle, sneaky, and relentless. Every ambitious person faces it. The crushing question: “Am I really cut out for this?” It shows up when the stakes rise, when your goals feel just out of reach, or when you stare at a blank page wondering if you...
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3743 The One Who Trusts in the Lord
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“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.” ~ Jeremiah 17:7-8 When life seems like it's unraveling, trusting God changes everything. Sometimes life looks like a tangled knot—so twisted and confusing you can’t tell front from back. You’re walking through a season where everything feels upside down: plans fall apart, circumstances feel...
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3742 When Love Makes You Feel Capable, Not Crazy
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Marriage is meant to be a sanctuary—a place where you feel seen, supported, and capable of facing anything life throws your way. But all too often, the daily grind, the chaos of schedules, and the relentless overwhelm shift your marriage from a source of strength to a pressure cooker of frustration. Instead of feeling like a teammate, you may start to feel misunderstood and undervalued. It doesn't have to be this way—when love makes you feel capable, not crazy. That's when the entire dynamic changes. You move from surviving the chaos to thriving together, building a solid foundation that...
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3741 No More Boredom Battles
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Mom and Dad, let’s be real—summer can feel like a never-ending battlefield. You hear it countless times: “I’m bored!”—as if boredom is some mysterious monster your kids are fighting every single day. No more boredom battles. But here’s the twist: many kids don’t truly know what boredom means these days. With screens and tech gadgets vying for their attention 24/7, boredom often becomes a code word for “I want someone else to entertain me.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Technology’s a double-edged sword. We all carry...
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3740 You are Worth the Fight!
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Do you want more or something different, but struggle to keep that fire flickering? Maybe it’s dim. Maybe it’s drowned out by doubt. But it’s there — that restless urge for something better, bigger, truer to who you really are. You are worth the fight! Here’s the raw truth — no one ever started a real change when everything was perfect. Life is messier than that. Focus feels impossible when the world is pulling you every which way. Your to-do list is screaming, expectations are piling, your energy tanks are empty, and your brain keeps finding every excuse to wait. You’re not...
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3739 What Needs to be a BIG Deal?
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When it comes to healthy living, it’s all too easy to get caught up in the endless list of “must-dos” and “should-haves.” Drink more water, eat kale, get 10,000 steps, meditate daily, sleep eight hours, cut out sugar, do strength training, track your macros, avoid screens before bed — the list feels relentless. And that’s exactly where many good intentions go to die: in the overwhelming noise of “all the things.” But what needs to be a BIG deal? Life isn’t about juggling everything perfectly all the time. It’s about identifying what truly needs to be a BIG...
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3738 Don't You Dare Dim Your Light
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Life will try hard to drag you into the daily swirl of other people’s agendas, distractions, and endless to-do lists that don’t even belong to you. It’s easy — dangerously easy — to lose sight of your own purpose and settle for the scraps left over after you’ve tried to manage everyone else’s priorities. Don't you dare dim your light. Why? Because you deserve better. You deserve more than the hand-me-down ambitions and borrowed dreams that drain your energy and silence your spark. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . So I’m here...
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3737 How to Quiet Your Mind
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
If your brain is a noisy, cluttered mess, you won’t get far. Confusion doesn’t just cloud thinking—it demolishes action. And without action, your goals stay out of reach, buried under a pile of distracting thoughts, doubts, and what-ifs. You must learn how to quiet your mind. Let’s be real. When you don’t know exactly where you’re headed, the noise in your head hijacks your focus. Suddenly, every worry, outside opinion, or shiny distraction screams louder than your ambition. You start chasing the wrong things—or worse, you freeze. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other...
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3736 Faith Over Fear
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“The LORD is on my side; I will not fear: what can man do unto me?” — Psalm 118:6 (KJV) At first glance, this verse is bold, even audacious. It’s a statement packed with strength: when God is by your side, fear of what others think, say, or do loses its grip. Faith over fear. But what does that truly mean outside of Sunday sermons or quiet moments of prayer? What does living with “faith over fear” actually look like day-to-day? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . 1. Fear Is Real — But Faith Is Realer Fear is hardwired into...
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3735 Stop Doing What You Always Want
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Marriage doesn’t come with an instruction manual, and life certainly doesn’t unfold the way we expect it to. You’re dealt unfair cards, opportunities slip through your fingers, and yet — somehow — you keep insisting on having things your way. But what happened to doing life together as a couple? If you want a marriage that lasts, it’s time for a mindset shift: stop always doing what you want. Think about what you do in your marriage now. How do you make decisions? Who makes those decisions? Are they one-sided, or do both of you share your thoughts and ideas? Desire to be...
info_outlineIn a marriage, feeling like a doormat can slowly chip away at your sense of self-worth, leaving you feeling undervalued and dismissed. How can a marriage survive if you don't stop being a doormat?
When one spouse feels like they are constantly being walked over, it changes the dynamic of the marriage.
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Marriage is no longer a partnership; it becomes a one-person show. Dreams and goals are no longer considered.
And maybe you're not sure if you are in a marriage where you are the doormat, or treating your partner as such.
The "walking all over" effect can manifest itself in various subtle or overt ways that erode one's sense of self-worth and the value you add as an individual.
Marriage, yes, is a partnership where 2 become 1; however, the individual is not lose themselves because of another person.
Some examples of being a doormat in marriage is:
1. Lack of Communication: Your spouse consistently dismisses or belittles your opinions, feelings, and needs. Your voice is silenced and you feel unheard in important discussions or decision-making processes.
2. Unequal Power Dynamics: One partner consistently exerts control over the other, making unilateral decisions without considering the other's input or feelings. This imbalance of power can lead to a sense of helplessness and lack of autonomy.
3. Emotional Neglect: Your emotional well-being is neglected, and your spouse fails to show empathy or support during challenging times. You may feel isolated and unsupported in dealing with your emotions or struggles.
4. Constant Criticism or Blame: You are frequently criticized, blamed, or made to feel responsible for issues in the relationship, even when they are not entirely your fault. This pattern of negativity can erode your self-esteem and confidence over time.
5. Lack of Appreciation: Your efforts, contributions, and sacrifices go unnoticed or unappreciated by your spouse. Your value in the relationship is overshadowed, leaving you feeling unacknowledged and unvalued.
Signs that you might be feeling walked all over in your marriage include:
1. Feeling like your needs and opinions are consistently ignored or devalued.
2. Always giving in to your partner's demands or desires at the expense of your own.
3. Constantly feeling drained, unfulfilled, or unappreciated in the relationship.
4. Having a sense of powerlessness or helplessness in influencing decisions or dynamics within the marriage.
5. Experiencing a lack of emotional support, empathy, or understanding from your spouse.
Recognizing these signs is the first step towards reclaiming who you are and who you are becoming, your self-worth within the marriage.
If you want to have a healthier, more harmonious relationship dynamic, you need to address these patterns and reclaim your voice.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Reclaim your voice!
As you consider this for yourself, be careful to make sure you look at it from both perspectives. Being in a marriage means you do need to take into consideration both you and your spouse. Because if you are quick to point fingers and not look at the totality of the marriage and what you bring to the relationship, then your actions, or lack there of, can be just as bad as what is being done to you.
Here are three essential steps to reclaim your voice and stop being a doormat in your relationship.
1. Set Boundaries: Marriage counselor Leslie Vernick emphasizes the importance of setting healthy boundaries in a relationship. Communicate assertively with your spouse about your needs and limits.
Dr. Gary Chapman, author of "The Five Love Languages," suggests that understanding and expressing your needs can help create a more balanced dynamic in the marriage.
2. Practice Self-Care: Make self-care a priority in your life. Jimmy Evans, founder of MarriageToday and XO Conference, stresses that taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually can strengthen your sense of self-worth. Remember, it's essential to fill your own cup before you can pour into your relationship.
3. Seek Counseling: If you feel consistently unheard and undervalued in your marriage, seek the support of a professional counselor. A trained therapist can help you and your spouse improve communication, address underlying issues, and work towards a healthier relationship dynamic.
As Kristianne Wargo wisely said, "You can stop being a doormat, but it first starts with who you are and who you are becoming."
Remember, reclaiming your self-worth is a journey that begins with prioritizing your own well-being and setting boundaries that honor your value in the relationship.
By taking these proactive steps, you can begin to shift the dynamic in your marriage and foster a more respectful and equitable partnership. It's time to stop being a doormat and start valuing yourself within your relationship.
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