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3380 Do You Feel Seen?

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Release Date: 04/27/2024

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Why do we cling so tightly to our routines, sticking to the scripts we've written for ourselves even when life is whispering for us to improvise? Maybe because it’s comfortable. Predictable. Safe. But here’s the hard truth—when you stay stuck in familiar habits, you leave unopened doors and opportunities that could impact not only you, but the world you touch. Go off script! What have you been doing this week? Are you stuck in the same ole thing, hoping that something will change? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Think about it this...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Let’s be real—healthy living often feels like a chore. If it’s all work and no ease, why would anyone stick with it? When peace feels impossible—when your mind races, stress mounts, and moments of calm seem like a distant memory—don’t throw in the towel on what truly matters for your health. Because it’s no surprise that most of us coast along without much effort until something drastic forces us to change. But here’s the hard truth: waiting for a crisis to hit before you care about your body is a losing game. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women?...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Too often, we find ourselves tangled in the web of worry about what tomorrow might bring. We obsess over unknowns, crafting scenarios that drain our energy and steal our peace. Yet, in this anxious chase after the future, we overlook the power and potential sitting right in front of us today. Ready your heart for tomorrow today. The truth is simple but brutally clear: if you want tomorrow to be different, better, or bigger, the groundwork begins in this very moment. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You can’t unleash what’s possible...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Every journey, every success, and every change begins with a seed. Not just a physical seed planted in soil, but the unseen seeds you plant daily through your mindset, words, actions, and choices. You were created on purpose for a purpose, and living into that purpose is the real prize. What you build—your relationships, your business, your character—everything starts as a seed, and it requires intentionality for it to grow. The truth is simple: you will harvest what you sow. The seeds you plant today become the outcomes you face tomorrow. That’s why it’s critical to focus on planting...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

When life pounds hard and hope feels distant, despair and discouragement can grip tightly. It’s easy to believe the story has ended, that the mess and pain will define us permanently. Yet our God is not just the God of beginnings—He’s the God of do-overs. God is constantly moving, always creating new paths where none seem to exist. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Isaiah 43:19 holds a powerful promise: “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

When you’re sprinting through life’s endless to-do list, hopping from one task to the next, your brain turns into a cluttered mess. Forget keeping everything straight — even keeping love alive for your spouse can feel like a heavy lift. It’s no surprise emotions run high, patience runs low, and connection takes a hit. So here’s a truth that might sound too simple but can change everything: rest does your heart good. Imagine being so rested that your emotions don’t hijack you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You catch yourself...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

As parents, it's hard to know if what we are saying is sticking. Sometimes, we talk in circles and nothing seems to change. Whatever you do, don't give up when your words feel small. You know what it's like to talk in circles, replay the same conversations, and wonder if any of it actually lands. Those moments when your words feel small—like they barely ripple the surface—can shake even the most confident parent. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Because that's when it matters most. When your child needs you, it’s not about your mood,...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Why is it that we rise to the complaints of yesterday only to find ourselves seeking what we want for tomorrow, yet we forget about today? There are new mercies every morning; don't take one more day for granted. Too often, we take this gift for granted, letting it slip through our fingers like water. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s easy to get stuck in the trap of frustration—wishing for different circumstances, a different outcome, or a different life. We convince ourselves that if only things were different “then” we’d be...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Starting roughly in your 30s, your body starts losing muscle mass every year. This isn’t a cosmetic problem—it’s a quality of life issue. Less muscle means lower strength, reduced mobility, slower metabolism, and a higher risk of injury and chronic illness. Muscle isn’t optional; it’s essential if you want to keep living actively and fiercely. All it takes is just commitment and the right moves. So, how do you build muscle? And how do you do it right, especially if fat is more of your story right now? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Too often, we let the shadow of what might happen tomorrow steal the sunshine of today. Fear of the unknown, worries about future setbacks, or anxieties over “what ifs” take up residence in our minds—and in doing so, they rob us of moments worth celebrating right now. So celebrate today's joys.  Because life isn’t waiting, you don’t get a replay of today’s joy tomorrow. If you don’t celebrate the wins you have today, you’re losing ground. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Fear is a natural reaction. It’s a survival...

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In the dance of marriage, the spotlight often shines brighter on one partner while the other fades into the shadows. Do you feel like your light shines bright for the one closest to you; do you feel seen?

For those who feel unseen in their marriage, the repercussions can be profound, touching on issues of self-worth, communication breakdowns, and a sense of loneliness within the union.

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Relationship experts emphasize the importance of feeling validated and acknowledged within the context of a partnership. Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, notes that "Feeling understood and appreciated are key components of a healthy relationship." 

When one partner feels unseen, it can lead to a breakdown in these essential elements, creating a rift that deepens over time.

Psychotherapist Esther Perel underscores the impact of feeling unnoticed, stating, "In marriage, one often feels like they are cruising through the motions, silently screaming for attention and connection."

 This silent plea for recognition can manifest in various ways, from emotional distancing to engaging in behaviors that seek validation outside the relationship.

The consequences of feeling unseen in a marriage are far-reaching. Lack of validation can erode self-esteem, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. Communication breakdowns often follow suit, as the unheard partner may withdraw or become resentful, further widening the gap between them. Over time, the emotional disconnection can culminate in a sense of loneliness, even within the confines of a committed relationship.

"In marriage, the invisible wounds of feeling unseen can leave lasting scars on the heart, dimming even the brightest of love's light." - Kristianne Wargo

What can be done if you are the one who feels unseen?

The K.I.S.S. ~ Shine a light on what isn't seen!

Whatever stays in the dark will be unresolved in the shadows of your every day. At some point, you have to be willing to shine a light on what isn't seen.

1. Initiate Open and Honest Communication: Expressing your feelings of being unseen to your partner is the first step towards resolving the issue. Schedule a time to have a calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling and what you need from them to feel more acknowledged in the relationship. And if you are not heard, you have bigger problems.

2. Seek Couples Therapy: Sometimes, having a neutral third party guide your discussions can be incredibly beneficial. Consider seeking couples therapy to explore deeper-rooted issues, improve communication, and learn strategies to ensure both partners feel seen and heard within the marriage.

3. Focus on Self-Care and Individual Growth: While working on your relationship dynamics, prioritize self-care and personal development; who you are and who you are becoming. Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue hobbies that fulfill you, and prioritize your emotional well-being. By investing in yourself, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience, irrespective of external validation. However, this is not about you fluffing your ego. This is about you becoming a better person regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.

Building a marriage where both partners feel truly seen requires a conscious effort to listen, validate, and appreciate one another. By acknowledging our partner's presence, celebrating their uniqueness, and fostering open communication, we can cultivate a relationship that thrives on mutual recognition and understanding.

So, take a moment to ask yourself: Do you feel seen in your marriage? And if the answer is no, it may be time to shine a light on the unseen parts of your partnership, illuminating the path towards a deeper, more connected bond.

Remember, a marriage where both partners feel truly seen is a marriage worth fighting for.

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"

 

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Music by Mandisa - Overcomer

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Song ID: 68209
Song Title: Overcomer
Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia
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