3953 No More Words
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Have you ever paused to consider how God truly wants you to show up each day? It’s easy to walk into church on Sunday with a smile and a heart full of joy—or at least a glimpse of it. But ask yourself: how genuine is that moment? Is it real and life-giving? Or is it just a performance, a mask worn for the crowd, for appearances? God doesn’t need the mask. He sees behind it. He knows the truth that we often try to hide, even from ourselves. No more words. Jesus said it plainly in Matthew 5, in the Beatitudes—a blueprint for living “God’s way.” It’s a call to something deeper...
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3952 Are You Chasing the Wrong Part of the Heart?
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Marriage. A word that conjures images of bliss, partnership, and forever—but also confusion, frustration, and unexpected challenges. When two people say, “I do,” it isn’t just a promise to love; it’s an entry into a complicated dance of needs, expectations, and realities. And somewhere along the way, you might find yourself wondering: Are you chasing the wrong part of the heart? Let’s be real—too many people step into marriage thinking it’s all about them. They want their partner’s role to serve their needs, validate their feelings, and eliminate inconveniences. Desire to be...
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3951 Prepare the Way
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When your children are little, parenting feels all-consuming. Overwhelm doesn't even seem like a fitting word, yet you’re hands-on from feeding to teaching to fixing. Every day is full of immediate needs, constant crisis management, and unconditional love sprinkled throughout. It’s easy to believe that how you prepare the way means just getting them through those early years. But then, they grow. They move into adolescence, young adulthood, and beyond—and suddenly the kind of parenting required shifts. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the...
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3950 Choose What You Carry Forward
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So much in life is left in the trenches of what we lost or what didn't make it. Success can leave scars as much as failures. But the sting is always greater when something does not go your way. Yet, that's not how your story gets to end. There is joy in the morning, and you get to choose what you carry forward. That choice isn’t because of how much you know or the wit you’ve picked up along the way—though those add richness to your journey. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s because your power lies in what you decide to hold...
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3949 Lean Into Leverage
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If you have a life where everything is perfectly aligned—ideal schedule, boundless energy, and endless resources—great. This isn’t for you. But for the rest of us? Especially when it comes to healthy living, the reality is messier, more complicated, and rarely perfect. So, instead of getting caught up in the magnitude of all the things 'health,' maybe it's all about how you lean into leverage. And not the leverage you are probably thinking of. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . That’s why chasing some ideal “health” picture rarely...
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3948 Play YOUR Game Always!
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It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle: where you’re going, what you need to do next, and—most dangerously—what everyone else is doing. When the pressure piles up, it’s tempting to look sideways, to compare your progress, your strategy, or your style to those around you. But if you want to reach places you haven’t been, you have to play YOUR game always! That means something simple yet incredibly powerful: show up as YOU every single day. No noise, no side distractions, no sneaky comparison traps. Just your game on your terms. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other...
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3947 Why Fear Is Not What's Holding You Back
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Fear has a sneaky way of showing up and rallying an entire battalion of emotions. Doubt, anxiety, indecision, frustration—they all line up behind fear, forming an invisible yet impenetrable wall that paralyzes you from moving forward. So, have you ever wondered why fear is not what's holding you back? When those wall feels high, your first instinct might be to bulldoze through with brute force. Push harder. Hustle nonstop. Throw all your energy at the problem until something breaks. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But here’s where most...
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3946 Find Peace in the Midst of Troubles
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Troubles come to all of us—and how we handle them defines our peace and effectiveness. Sarah Young’s insight from Jesus Calling drives this home: "Rehearsing your troubles results in experiencing them many times, whereas you are meant to go through them only when they actually occur." You can find peace in the midst of troubles. This truth challenges a common tendency—to ruminate on problems long before (or after) they happen, replaying them in our minds like a broken record. Instead, God calls us to a different way of handling struggle, a way rooted in trust, courage, and rest....
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3945 The Heartbeat of a Powerhouse Marriage
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Marriage isn’t about becoming one person. It’s about two whole individuals choosing to grow together in a way that creates something far stronger than the sum of its parts. But the reality? That kind of connection doesn’t come easy. It takes diligent, ongoing effort for each spouse to develop themselves as confident individuals, and then to intentionally build a relationship that thrives on shared purpose and deep connection. That's the heartbeat of a powerhouse marriage. Consider Dan and Joanne Miller. Dan Miller, the New York Times Best-Selling author who passed two years ago, left a...
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3944 Love Them More Than It Hurts
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Why do our children challenge us so much that it strangles our hearts? Raising kids is tough on parents; who cares about how the kids feel? Yet we deeply care about them. However, it's during those difficult times that we learn to love them more than it hurts. Raising kids is brutal sometimes. On the surface, it might seem like parents should just lay down the rules, set boundaries, and move on. But if it were that simple, parenting wouldn’t tear us up so deeply. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . So why do our kids challenge us in ways that...
info_outlineIn the dance of marriage, the spotlight often shines brighter on one partner while the other fades into the shadows. Do you feel like your light shines bright for the one closest to you; do you feel seen?
For those who feel unseen in their marriage, the repercussions can be profound, touching on issues of self-worth, communication breakdowns, and a sense of loneliness within the union.
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Relationship experts emphasize the importance of feeling validated and acknowledged within the context of a partnership. Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, notes that "Feeling understood and appreciated are key components of a healthy relationship."
When one partner feels unseen, it can lead to a breakdown in these essential elements, creating a rift that deepens over time.
Psychotherapist Esther Perel underscores the impact of feeling unnoticed, stating, "In marriage, one often feels like they are cruising through the motions, silently screaming for attention and connection."
This silent plea for recognition can manifest in various ways, from emotional distancing to engaging in behaviors that seek validation outside the relationship.
The consequences of feeling unseen in a marriage are far-reaching. Lack of validation can erode self-esteem, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. Communication breakdowns often follow suit, as the unheard partner may withdraw or become resentful, further widening the gap between them. Over time, the emotional disconnection can culminate in a sense of loneliness, even within the confines of a committed relationship.
"In marriage, the invisible wounds of feeling unseen can leave lasting scars on the heart, dimming even the brightest of love's light." - Kristianne Wargo
What can be done if you are the one who feels unseen?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Shine a light on what isn't seen!
Whatever stays in the dark will be unresolved in the shadows of your every day. At some point, you have to be willing to shine a light on what isn't seen.
1. Initiate Open and Honest Communication: Expressing your feelings of being unseen to your partner is the first step towards resolving the issue. Schedule a time to have a calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling and what you need from them to feel more acknowledged in the relationship. And if you are not heard, you have bigger problems.
2. Seek Couples Therapy: Sometimes, having a neutral third party guide your discussions can be incredibly beneficial. Consider seeking couples therapy to explore deeper-rooted issues, improve communication, and learn strategies to ensure both partners feel seen and heard within the marriage.
3. Focus on Self-Care and Individual Growth: While working on your relationship dynamics, prioritize self-care and personal development; who you are and who you are becoming. Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue hobbies that fulfill you, and prioritize your emotional well-being. By investing in yourself, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience, irrespective of external validation. However, this is not about you fluffing your ego. This is about you becoming a better person regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.
Building a marriage where both partners feel truly seen requires a conscious effort to listen, validate, and appreciate one another. By acknowledging our partner's presence, celebrating their uniqueness, and fostering open communication, we can cultivate a relationship that thrives on mutual recognition and understanding.
So, take a moment to ask yourself: Do you feel seen in your marriage? And if the answer is no, it may be time to shine a light on the unseen parts of your partnership, illuminating the path towards a deeper, more connected bond.
Remember, a marriage where both partners feel truly seen is a marriage worth fighting for.
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