4009 Trust in the Lord
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There is so much going on nowadays that the only thing we can be confident in is God's love for us. We can't control everything, but we can "Trust in the Lord with all our heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)" Trust is the one thing that builds our faith. Faith comes by hearing. We walk by faith, not by sight because of the trust we have in Jesus Christ. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . If you are drowning in all the things right now, I want you to...
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4008 Freshen Things Up in Your Marriage
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Marriage can sometimes slip into predictable rhythms and routines that dull the spark. But a new season gives you a sound reason to freshen things up in your marriage, because every new season isn’t just about changing weather or calendar pages. It’s a perfect moment to hit refresh in your relationship—the reason you said “I do” and the story you’re still writing together. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Yes, it might sound a little poetic. And honestly? Marriage needs a bit of that poetry. A dash of rhythm, a flash of...
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4007 Happy Habits at Home
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Happiness isn’t an accidental guest; it’s cultivated with intention, especially within the walls of your home. The way your family interacts daily shapes the environment where joy either flourishes or fades. You get to decide how delightful and encouraging your home is. So if you want a true sanctuary of happiness, it's time to build happy habits at home. These are the habits that anchor your family in connection, contentment, and trust. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Now maybe you are wondering if that's even possible. You might have...
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4006 See the Good
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We live in a world wired to spotlight the worst. Tune into the news, scroll through social media, and you’re bombarded with the dramas, the disasters, and the divides. Negativity looms largely because it grabs the attention. But what if you decided to flip the script? What if, instead of fueling the fire with constant bad news, you trained your eyes to see the good? This isn’t about turning a blind eye to the very real problems begging for solutions. It’s about clearing mental and emotional space for kindness, generosity, and genuine connection to take center stage. Desire to be...
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4005 Find Sweetness in Your Own Progress
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Comparison is the thief of joy and the silent killer of dreams. It’s no surprise that when you’re caught in its grip, your potential and progress don’t just stall—they melt away like chocolate under the blazing sun. However, you must find sweetness in your own progress. Otherwise, you watch others sprint ahead, assuming they’re running a race you should be winning, and suddenly your own journey feels inadequate, unworthy, and painfully slow. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Welcome to the spotlight of the comparison trap!...
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4004 Prepare Your Mind
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Your actions begin with your thoughts. If you want to live life on purpose, you must prepare your mind. Otherwise, everyone and everything will jump in front of the goals you’re setting out to accomplish and bulldoze right over them. Take St. Patrick, for example—the man behind the St. Patrick’s Day legacy. His story isn’t just about shamrocks and celebrations; it’s an example of mental preparation that led to unwavering purpose. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Patrick wasn’t always the confident figure we picture. As a young...
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4003 When Life Smacks You Down
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When life smacks you down, it doesn’t wait for you to catch your breath. One problem crashes in, then another, and suddenly you’re drowning in chaos, scrambling for air. It’s brutal. Many days it feels like you’re on the ropes, getting hit by relentless punches from every direction—health issues, money struggles, broken relationships, or career setbacks. The weight bears down so heavily you can barely stand, let alone think clearly. It’s more than just difficult—it’s exhausting. Your mind races with all the things that are going wrong while trying to hold together the pieces of...
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4002 Untouchable, But Is He?
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Sometimes, it’s easy to feel like God is distant; far above us, unreachable, untouchable, but is He? When life spirals into chaos and busyness, our minds trick us into thinking God has turned away or forgotten us. But what if that’s not true? What if God’s presence is not only closer than we imagine, but unwavering and constant, always and forever? In Matthew 28:20, it says, “Behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . God is not some far-off deity surveying humanity from a lofty throne....
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4001 Seen By Few, Felt By One
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Marriage isn’t just the union of two people; it’s the careful blending of lives, families, histories, and expectations. When you say “I do,” you’re not just committing to your spouse; you’re stepping into a complex web of relationships that come bundled with your partner. Your marriage is seen by few, but felt by one — and that one is you. This phrase captures a truth that is often overlooked: most people barely glimpse the realities of your marriage. They see the smile at the dinner table or the hand you hold during a holiday gathering. But they don’t see the late-night talks,...
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4000 Again
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As parents, the word again often feels like the soundtrack of our daily lives. We say it, sometimes shout it, and frequently whisper it, all in the effort to guide our kids toward better choices, safer habits, or just basic cooperation. I'm sure you remember some of these. “Brush your teeth again.” “Please clean up your toys again.” “I asked you again to do your homework.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The list is endless. At times, again feels exhausting. Like we’re stuck on repeat, speaking into a...
info_outlineIn the dance of marriage, the spotlight often shines brighter on one partner while the other fades into the shadows. Do you feel like your light shines bright for the one closest to you; do you feel seen?
For those who feel unseen in their marriage, the repercussions can be profound, touching on issues of self-worth, communication breakdowns, and a sense of loneliness within the union.
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Relationship experts emphasize the importance of feeling validated and acknowledged within the context of a partnership. Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, notes that "Feeling understood and appreciated are key components of a healthy relationship."
When one partner feels unseen, it can lead to a breakdown in these essential elements, creating a rift that deepens over time.
Psychotherapist Esther Perel underscores the impact of feeling unnoticed, stating, "In marriage, one often feels like they are cruising through the motions, silently screaming for attention and connection."
This silent plea for recognition can manifest in various ways, from emotional distancing to engaging in behaviors that seek validation outside the relationship.
The consequences of feeling unseen in a marriage are far-reaching. Lack of validation can erode self-esteem, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. Communication breakdowns often follow suit, as the unheard partner may withdraw or become resentful, further widening the gap between them. Over time, the emotional disconnection can culminate in a sense of loneliness, even within the confines of a committed relationship.
"In marriage, the invisible wounds of feeling unseen can leave lasting scars on the heart, dimming even the brightest of love's light." - Kristianne Wargo
What can be done if you are the one who feels unseen?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Shine a light on what isn't seen!
Whatever stays in the dark will be unresolved in the shadows of your every day. At some point, you have to be willing to shine a light on what isn't seen.
1. Initiate Open and Honest Communication: Expressing your feelings of being unseen to your partner is the first step towards resolving the issue. Schedule a time to have a calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling and what you need from them to feel more acknowledged in the relationship. And if you are not heard, you have bigger problems.
2. Seek Couples Therapy: Sometimes, having a neutral third party guide your discussions can be incredibly beneficial. Consider seeking couples therapy to explore deeper-rooted issues, improve communication, and learn strategies to ensure both partners feel seen and heard within the marriage.
3. Focus on Self-Care and Individual Growth: While working on your relationship dynamics, prioritize self-care and personal development; who you are and who you are becoming. Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue hobbies that fulfill you, and prioritize your emotional well-being. By investing in yourself, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience, irrespective of external validation. However, this is not about you fluffing your ego. This is about you becoming a better person regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.
Building a marriage where both partners feel truly seen requires a conscious effort to listen, validate, and appreciate one another. By acknowledging our partner's presence, celebrating their uniqueness, and fostering open communication, we can cultivate a relationship that thrives on mutual recognition and understanding.
So, take a moment to ask yourself: Do you feel seen in your marriage? And if the answer is no, it may be time to shine a light on the unseen parts of your partnership, illuminating the path towards a deeper, more connected bond.
Remember, a marriage where both partners feel truly seen is a marriage worth fighting for.
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