3974 Love On Purpose
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Valentine’s weekend invites us to think about love—the kind that fills our hearts and shapes our relationships. But far too often, we get stuck in the world’s limited view of love: conditional, transactional, and filtered through our own failures and insecurities. God’s love, however, breaks every mold. His love is unconditional, relentless, and sees beyond our flaws. And then, He calls us to love others the same way. Love on purpose. Yet as we know, it’s easy to judge others based on our own shortcomings. We carry unhealed wounds, past hurts, and false beliefs about how people...
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3973 The Sweetness that Melts the Heart
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
When you hear “sweetness” in love, your mind probably jumps straight to chocolates, flowers, and sparkly gifts. That’s the story commercials love to tell us—the more you spend, the brighter your love shines. But the sweetness that melts the heart isn’t wrapped in paper or tagged with a price. It’s something far rarer, deeper, and more powerful. The real sweetness comes from that raw, vulnerable place inside—the one that says, “I see you. I choose you. I cherish what’s only ours.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s...
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3972 You Make My Heart So Happy!
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Valentine’s Day comes around each year like clockwork, bringing with it the usual swirl of red hearts, chocolates, and flowers. But for a mom, these symbols of love can sometimes feel surface-level, like they’re missing the real heartbeat beneath all the glitter and sugar. Because the truth is, the kind of love that fills a mother’s chest isn’t wrapped up neatly in a box or tied with a bow. It’s messy, wild, tender, and deeply personal. It’s found in late-night cuddles, scraped knees comforted, and whispered “I love you’s” that echo long after bedtime—you make my heart so...
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3971 You Can’t Have Everything—And That’s Okay!
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It’s all too easy to feel crushed when things don't appear to be going our way. We want immediate results with little to no effort. But the reality is, you can’t have everything—and that’s okay! Because if you did have everything, you’d be perfect. And that would change everything, not just for you but for the world. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Let's take a bite out of the for a hot minute. Perfection would freeze you in place, robbing you of growth, struggle, and the raw humanity that shapes your unique story. Now you might...
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3970 How You Create Your Now Shapes Every Tomorrow
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Nobody’s perfect. You won’t nail everything every single day, and you sure won’t do it perfectly every hour. But perfection isn’t the point. Intentionality is. How you create your now shapes every tomorrow. Your “now,” the way you choose to spend your minutes and moments, is the wellspring of your entire life. You build your everyday out of small, consistent decisions. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Some move you closer to where you want to be. Others hold you back, even if you don’t realize it. Good habits don’t appear...
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3969 Reframe the Frame
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Life is a relentless challenge. Sometimes it feels like waves crashing one after another—without a pause. If you pile on extra weight from how you see those waves crashing, you don’t just face the storm; you drown in it before your day even begins. Look at your life differently; reframe the frame. Your mind doesn’t just observe your reality, it creates it. The frame you choose to see your life through either traps you in frustration or frees you to act with clarity. When everything feels impossible, the difference between sinking and swimming is rewriting that frame. Desire to be...
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3968 When Life Doesn't Go As Planned
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Have you ever paused to ask yourself why the goals you once set remain out of reach? Why the plans you carefully crafted seem to unravel, leaving you stuck somewhere between disappointment and confusion? When life doesn’t go as planned, the fallout can feel like a long, harsh fall—so disorienting that figuring out the next step seems impossible. And yet, we cling to that single burning desire: to push through and reclaim the path we envisioned. Life rarely bends to our will. Our decisions set a chain of actions in motion, but outcomes depend on factors both within and beyond our control....
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3967 The Game Isn't Over Yet
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
The final quarter of any game is the ultimate test—the moment when hope and pressure collide. The scoreboard might look grim, and it’s tempting to feel worn down or defeated. But true faith pushes past what our eyes see and clings to what God’s Word promises. Faith is that quiet, persistent voice inside that says, “The game isn’t over yet.” When life overwhelms or uncertainty creeps in, anchoring yourself in belief brings endurance and courage. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in...
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3966 Build an Unbeatable Marriage
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Marriage isn’t a solo journey—it’s a coordinated team effort that wins or loses together. Like a quarterback reading his receiver’s movements or a pair of dancers moving in perfect harmony, successful marriages require sharp communication, unwavering trust, and an instinctive understanding of each other’s needs. When both partners learn to anticipate, adapt, and align their moves toward shared goals, they build an unbeatable marriage—on and off the field. This kind of partnership doesn’t happen by accident. It takes practice, commitment, and a game plan that both partners buy...
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3965 Red Zone Parenting
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Parenting is like running a red zone play in football — the stakes are sky-high, the pressure’s crushing, and every move matters more than usual. You’re tired, stretched thin, and the margin for error feels paper-thin. It’s that relentless zone where kids need you most, but sometimes in red zone parenting, you just want to drop the playbook and cry. No one often says: being a great parent doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. The real power comes from showing up as you are—flawed, vulnerable, exhausted—and still choosing love and presence. Desire to be supported...
info_outlineIn the dance of marriage, the spotlight often shines brighter on one partner while the other fades into the shadows. Do you feel like your light shines bright for the one closest to you; do you feel seen?
For those who feel unseen in their marriage, the repercussions can be profound, touching on issues of self-worth, communication breakdowns, and a sense of loneliness within the union.
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Relationship experts emphasize the importance of feeling validated and acknowledged within the context of a partnership. Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, notes that "Feeling understood and appreciated are key components of a healthy relationship."
When one partner feels unseen, it can lead to a breakdown in these essential elements, creating a rift that deepens over time.
Psychotherapist Esther Perel underscores the impact of feeling unnoticed, stating, "In marriage, one often feels like they are cruising through the motions, silently screaming for attention and connection."
This silent plea for recognition can manifest in various ways, from emotional distancing to engaging in behaviors that seek validation outside the relationship.
The consequences of feeling unseen in a marriage are far-reaching. Lack of validation can erode self-esteem, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. Communication breakdowns often follow suit, as the unheard partner may withdraw or become resentful, further widening the gap between them. Over time, the emotional disconnection can culminate in a sense of loneliness, even within the confines of a committed relationship.
"In marriage, the invisible wounds of feeling unseen can leave lasting scars on the heart, dimming even the brightest of love's light." - Kristianne Wargo
What can be done if you are the one who feels unseen?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Shine a light on what isn't seen!
Whatever stays in the dark will be unresolved in the shadows of your every day. At some point, you have to be willing to shine a light on what isn't seen.
1. Initiate Open and Honest Communication: Expressing your feelings of being unseen to your partner is the first step towards resolving the issue. Schedule a time to have a calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling and what you need from them to feel more acknowledged in the relationship. And if you are not heard, you have bigger problems.
2. Seek Couples Therapy: Sometimes, having a neutral third party guide your discussions can be incredibly beneficial. Consider seeking couples therapy to explore deeper-rooted issues, improve communication, and learn strategies to ensure both partners feel seen and heard within the marriage.
3. Focus on Self-Care and Individual Growth: While working on your relationship dynamics, prioritize self-care and personal development; who you are and who you are becoming. Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue hobbies that fulfill you, and prioritize your emotional well-being. By investing in yourself, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience, irrespective of external validation. However, this is not about you fluffing your ego. This is about you becoming a better person regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.
Building a marriage where both partners feel truly seen requires a conscious effort to listen, validate, and appreciate one another. By acknowledging our partner's presence, celebrating their uniqueness, and fostering open communication, we can cultivate a relationship that thrives on mutual recognition and understanding.
So, take a moment to ask yourself: Do you feel seen in your marriage? And if the answer is no, it may be time to shine a light on the unseen parts of your partnership, illuminating the path towards a deeper, more connected bond.
Remember, a marriage where both partners feel truly seen is a marriage worth fighting for.
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