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3380 Do You Feel Seen?

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Release Date: 04/27/2024

3932 Stand Firm on God's Holy Ground show art 3932 Stand Firm on God's Holy Ground

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Walking in step with God is never a passive journey, especially when the world around you seems determined to pull you off course. Jealousy, deceit, and manipulation are real weapons some wield to fracture your spirit and cloud your vision. When hearts turn bitter and minds play cruel games, it’s easy to get trapped inside a warped reality that feels impossible to escape. So how do you hold your ground in these moments? How do you fight this spiritual battle without losing your soul? Stand firm on God's Holy ground. You must begin to recognize the battlefield beyond the visible, only what...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

The new year brings that electric buzz of new beginnings and fresh possibilities. When you’re married to your person—the one you dream about and build life with—it only makes sense to dream bigger together. Because, really, who wouldn’t want a richer, more exciting life for themselves and their spouse? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But here’s the truth: It’s easy to fall into the trap of “we’ve always done it this way.” And sure—that’s comfortable. Maybe even safe. But if you want to go beyond the status quo, if...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Every new year brings a fresh chance to hit the reset button — including how you show up as a parent. But let's be real: parenting is hard, exhausting, and often thankless. If you coast through it, thinking your kids will "figure it out," you’re setting everyone up for frustration and chaos. Kids need more than just food and shelter; they need consistent guidance, love, and boundaries; it's intentional parenting that moves mountains. Because when you slack off, what you get is exactly what you put in — kids who push limits, test boundaries, and fill the void left by absent parenting....

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

The first day of a new year holds something rare—a stillness amid the noise, a quiet space where hope and possibility stretch out like an open road. It’s a day wrapped in excitement but tinged with uncertainty. The unknowns can flip the script, spin your stomach, and test your courage. But here’s the beautiful, unshakable truth: The best is yet to come. You might hear this phrase a ton. But it's not just a feel-good phrase. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s a call to show up with presence, grace, and fierce faith. Presence...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Every New Year arrives heavy with promises! However, let’s be honest, you've gotta fair share of frustration, too. For millions, those well-meaning resolutions quickly unravel, leaving behind guilt and the familiar cycle of “I failed again.” But the harsh truth is that pushing yourself to “fix” every flaw with iron willpower only sets up a battle you can’t win long-term. So what if forward progress requires forgiveness in your healthy living? Well-being doesn’t emerge from beating yourself into a different person. Yet all too often, that’s exactly the approach New Year’s...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

You're probably all too familiar with the grinding season—the one where your to-do list feels like Mount Everest, your energy dips, and then the holidays roll in like a relentless tide. It’s the time when surviving feels like a win. But what if you didn’t just survive? What if you conquered this season with your heart still beating loud and your goals clearly in view? Get back up! Here’s the truth: heart and hustle aren’t enemies of your well-being; they’re the secret weapons for a life that’s full without breaking you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded...

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3926 How to Honor Your Past and Prepare for the Present show art 3926 How to Honor Your Past and Prepare for the Present

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Every December, most of us find ourselves trapped in the chaos—exhausted, overwhelmed, and haunted by a list of unfinished goals. This is the time for closing the chapter: how to honor your past and prepare for the present. Our minds scramble through the mess of failures and successes alike, begging for answers that never seem to come. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But here’s the truth: fear does not have to freeze you in place. You were created to move forward, to step boldly into what’s next. The power lies in embracing the new...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

As the final Sunday of the year fades into twilight, it carries with it a weight that feels heavy for many—a mix of reflection, regret, relief, and even anticipation. Life never promised a smooth journey. Each year comes with its own share of battles, setbacks, and moments when the road feels unbearably steep. But struggles don’t have the final say on your joy or hope. Anchor your joy in what lasts. Far too often, we let our circumstances dictate how we feel—a volatile foundation for anything lasting. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . ...

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3924 Reflect, Reconnect, and Reignite Your Marriage show art 3924 Reflect, Reconnect, and Reignite Your Marriage

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

The end of the year is more than just a calendar checkpoint. It’s an invitation for you to pause and take stock of your journey together; how to reflect, reconnect, and reignite your marriage. After years of shared experiences, it’s easy to let presence slip through the cracks, assuming love just happens. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The truth is, unconditional love doesn’t appear by accident. It demands intentional reflection, connection, and the willingness to serve each other daily. Take this moment to look back—not to...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Christmas has come and gone. The lights are turned off, the wrapping paper has been tossed, and the house finally breathes again. Christmas is over—now what?  Yet, the heart of the season—the faith, the gratitude, the connection—doesn’t have to fade with the decorations. This is the perfect time to pause and reflect on the moments that really mattered. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . What surprised you about your family’s heart this Christmas? Was there a new spark of gratitude? A fresh sense of wonder? Maybe a quiet...

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In the dance of marriage, the spotlight often shines brighter on one partner while the other fades into the shadows. Do you feel like your light shines bright for the one closest to you; do you feel seen?

For those who feel unseen in their marriage, the repercussions can be profound, touching on issues of self-worth, communication breakdowns, and a sense of loneliness within the union.

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Relationship experts emphasize the importance of feeling validated and acknowledged within the context of a partnership. Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, notes that "Feeling understood and appreciated are key components of a healthy relationship." 

When one partner feels unseen, it can lead to a breakdown in these essential elements, creating a rift that deepens over time.

Psychotherapist Esther Perel underscores the impact of feeling unnoticed, stating, "In marriage, one often feels like they are cruising through the motions, silently screaming for attention and connection."

 This silent plea for recognition can manifest in various ways, from emotional distancing to engaging in behaviors that seek validation outside the relationship.

The consequences of feeling unseen in a marriage are far-reaching. Lack of validation can erode self-esteem, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. Communication breakdowns often follow suit, as the unheard partner may withdraw or become resentful, further widening the gap between them. Over time, the emotional disconnection can culminate in a sense of loneliness, even within the confines of a committed relationship.

"In marriage, the invisible wounds of feeling unseen can leave lasting scars on the heart, dimming even the brightest of love's light." - Kristianne Wargo

What can be done if you are the one who feels unseen?

The K.I.S.S. ~ Shine a light on what isn't seen!

Whatever stays in the dark will be unresolved in the shadows of your every day. At some point, you have to be willing to shine a light on what isn't seen.

1. Initiate Open and Honest Communication: Expressing your feelings of being unseen to your partner is the first step towards resolving the issue. Schedule a time to have a calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling and what you need from them to feel more acknowledged in the relationship. And if you are not heard, you have bigger problems.

2. Seek Couples Therapy: Sometimes, having a neutral third party guide your discussions can be incredibly beneficial. Consider seeking couples therapy to explore deeper-rooted issues, improve communication, and learn strategies to ensure both partners feel seen and heard within the marriage.

3. Focus on Self-Care and Individual Growth: While working on your relationship dynamics, prioritize self-care and personal development; who you are and who you are becoming. Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue hobbies that fulfill you, and prioritize your emotional well-being. By investing in yourself, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience, irrespective of external validation. However, this is not about you fluffing your ego. This is about you becoming a better person regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.

Building a marriage where both partners feel truly seen requires a conscious effort to listen, validate, and appreciate one another. By acknowledging our partner's presence, celebrating their uniqueness, and fostering open communication, we can cultivate a relationship that thrives on mutual recognition and understanding.

So, take a moment to ask yourself: Do you feel seen in your marriage? And if the answer is no, it may be time to shine a light on the unseen parts of your partnership, illuminating the path towards a deeper, more connected bond.

Remember, a marriage where both partners feel truly seen is a marriage worth fighting for.

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"

 

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Music by Mandisa - Overcomer

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Song ID: 68209
Song Title: Overcomer
Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia
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