3928 What If Forward Progress Requires Forgiveness?
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Every New Year arrives heavy with promises! However, let’s be honest, you've gotta fair share of frustration, too. For millions, those well-meaning resolutions quickly unravel, leaving behind guilt and the familiar cycle of “I failed again.” But the harsh truth is that pushing yourself to “fix” every flaw with iron willpower only sets up a battle you can’t win long-term. So what if forward progress requires forgiveness in your healthy living? Well-being doesn’t emerge from beating yourself into a different person. Yet all too often, that’s exactly the approach New Year’s...
info_outline
3927 Get Back Up!
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
You're probably all too familiar with the grinding season—the one where your to-do list feels like Mount Everest, your energy dips, and then the holidays roll in like a relentless tide. It’s the time when surviving feels like a win. But what if you didn’t just survive? What if you conquered this season with your heart still beating loud and your goals clearly in view? Get back up! Here’s the truth: heart and hustle aren’t enemies of your well-being; they’re the secret weapons for a life that’s full without breaking you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded...
info_outline
3926 How to Honor Your Past and Prepare for the Present
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Every December, most of us find ourselves trapped in the chaos—exhausted, overwhelmed, and haunted by a list of unfinished goals. This is the time for closing the chapter: how to honor your past and prepare for the present. Our minds scramble through the mess of failures and successes alike, begging for answers that never seem to come. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But here’s the truth: fear does not have to freeze you in place. You were created to move forward, to step boldly into what’s next. The power lies in embracing the new...
info_outline
3925 Anchor Your Joy in What Lasts
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
As the final Sunday of the year fades into twilight, it carries with it a weight that feels heavy for many—a mix of reflection, regret, relief, and even anticipation. Life never promised a smooth journey. Each year comes with its own share of battles, setbacks, and moments when the road feels unbearably steep. But struggles don’t have the final say on your joy or hope. Anchor your joy in what lasts. Far too often, we let our circumstances dictate how we feel—a volatile foundation for anything lasting. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . ...
info_outline
3924 Reflect, Reconnect, and Reignite Your Marriage
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
The end of the year is more than just a calendar checkpoint. It’s an invitation for you to pause and take stock of your journey together; how to reflect, reconnect, and reignite your marriage. After years of shared experiences, it’s easy to let presence slip through the cracks, assuming love just happens. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The truth is, unconditional love doesn’t appear by accident. It demands intentional reflection, connection, and the willingness to serve each other daily. Take this moment to look back—not to...
info_outline
3923 Christmas is Over—Now What?
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Christmas has come and gone. The lights are turned off, the wrapping paper has been tossed, and the house finally breathes again. Christmas is over—now what? Yet, the heart of the season—the faith, the gratitude, the connection—doesn’t have to fade with the decorations. This is the perfect time to pause and reflect on the moments that really mattered. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . What surprised you about your family’s heart this Christmas? Was there a new spark of gratitude? A fresh sense of wonder? Maybe a quiet...
info_outline
3922 God's Presence Among Us
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Every so often, a story comes along that changes everything—then turns right around and changes your life. The birth of Jesus is one of those stories. But far from being a quaint holiday tradition or a distant fairy tale, this is the moment God interrupted history to say, “I’m with you.” For centuries, prophets declared this truth. Now, it’s no longer about pages of ancient text—it’s about the real, raw presence of God in your life today; God's presence among us. This isn’t a story you watch from the sidelines. It’s an invitation to step into the heart of a divine plan that...
info_outline
3921 A Sacred Stillness
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Christmas Eve. For many, it’s the crescendo of the holiday whirlwind—the last-minute preparations, wrapping, cooking, and hosting. But it doesn’t have to be that way, not when you have a sacred stillness. Amid the busyness, Christmas Eve offers a sacred invitation: to pause, to be still, to receive rest and renewal. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Psalm 46:10 reminds us, “Be still, and know that I am God.” At what point are you going to release your anxious grip on the season’s frenzy and rest in something bigger? Think about...
info_outline
3920 Find Joy When Life Feels Messy
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Christmas Eve is nearly here, and for many of us, the holiday season carries a mixed bag of emotions. The bright lights and festive songs promise joy, but behind the scenes, life might feel messy, exhausting, and overwhelming. When weariness weighs down your mind, body, and spirit, it’s natural to default to the easiest option—often kind of numb survival that distances you from what really matters. Yet, you can still find joy when life feels messy. You get out of life what you put into it. When you choose to lean into the beauty amid the chaos, you reclaim the heart of Christmas—the...
info_outline
3919 How to See Straight When the World is Spinning
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
The holiday season should bring joy and meaning. Yet, all too often, it feels like the world is spinning faster than ever. Sometimes it's hard knowing how to see straight when the world is spinning. That's where the pressures are mounting, events piling up, and endless distractions keep pulling your attention every which way. A spinning top is a real thing, even if you don't want to admit it. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . When everything around you is out of control, how do you stay grounded in what matters? How do you still make an...
info_outlineIn the dance of marriage, the spotlight often shines brighter on one partner while the other fades into the shadows. Do you feel like your light shines bright for the one closest to you; do you feel seen?
For those who feel unseen in their marriage, the repercussions can be profound, touching on issues of self-worth, communication breakdowns, and a sense of loneliness within the union.
Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. https://createyournow.mn.co
Relationship experts emphasize the importance of feeling validated and acknowledged within the context of a partnership. Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, notes that "Feeling understood and appreciated are key components of a healthy relationship."
When one partner feels unseen, it can lead to a breakdown in these essential elements, creating a rift that deepens over time.
Psychotherapist Esther Perel underscores the impact of feeling unnoticed, stating, "In marriage, one often feels like they are cruising through the motions, silently screaming for attention and connection."
This silent plea for recognition can manifest in various ways, from emotional distancing to engaging in behaviors that seek validation outside the relationship.
The consequences of feeling unseen in a marriage are far-reaching. Lack of validation can erode self-esteem, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. Communication breakdowns often follow suit, as the unheard partner may withdraw or become resentful, further widening the gap between them. Over time, the emotional disconnection can culminate in a sense of loneliness, even within the confines of a committed relationship.
"In marriage, the invisible wounds of feeling unseen can leave lasting scars on the heart, dimming even the brightest of love's light." - Kristianne Wargo
What can be done if you are the one who feels unseen?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Shine a light on what isn't seen!
Whatever stays in the dark will be unresolved in the shadows of your every day. At some point, you have to be willing to shine a light on what isn't seen.
1. Initiate Open and Honest Communication: Expressing your feelings of being unseen to your partner is the first step towards resolving the issue. Schedule a time to have a calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling and what you need from them to feel more acknowledged in the relationship. And if you are not heard, you have bigger problems.
2. Seek Couples Therapy: Sometimes, having a neutral third party guide your discussions can be incredibly beneficial. Consider seeking couples therapy to explore deeper-rooted issues, improve communication, and learn strategies to ensure both partners feel seen and heard within the marriage.
3. Focus on Self-Care and Individual Growth: While working on your relationship dynamics, prioritize self-care and personal development; who you are and who you are becoming. Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue hobbies that fulfill you, and prioritize your emotional well-being. By investing in yourself, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience, irrespective of external validation. However, this is not about you fluffing your ego. This is about you becoming a better person regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.
Building a marriage where both partners feel truly seen requires a conscious effort to listen, validate, and appreciate one another. By acknowledging our partner's presence, celebrating their uniqueness, and fostering open communication, we can cultivate a relationship that thrives on mutual recognition and understanding.
So, take a moment to ask yourself: Do you feel seen in your marriage? And if the answer is no, it may be time to shine a light on the unseen parts of your partnership, illuminating the path towards a deeper, more connected bond.
Remember, a marriage where both partners feel truly seen is a marriage worth fighting for.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
#RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow #LoveAndMarriage
🎥 Karen Kingsbury Productions Presents Someone Like You.movie
đź”” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. https://createyournow.mn.co
TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163)
🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com)
🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (https://youtube.com/createyournow)
🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible.
🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best/)
✍️ YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com
Instagram
@CreateYourNow
@KristianneWargo
Twitter
@KristianneWargo
@CreateYourNow
Facebook
www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach
www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow
Cover Art by Jenny Hamson
Photo by Canva.com
Music by Mandisa - Overcomer
http://www.mandisaofficial.com
Song ID: 68209
Song Title: Overcomer
Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia
Copyright © 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI)
One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music -
Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission.