3989 What Brings the Mind Rest?
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Life’s pace is brutal. We chase endless tasks, pile on responsibilities, and keep grinding until we crash—physically and mentally. But as you know, running on empty is no way to run a life, a business, or anything worth having. So what brings the mind rest? That classic “I Love Lucy” episode where Lucy and Ethel take a job wrapping chocolates on a conveyor belt is pure comedic gold—and a perfect metaphor for life out of control. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . At first, it starts off slow and manageable. They calmly wrap...
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3988 Refreshment for Your Soul
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Life drags us down. It spins us around, until the weight of it all crashes heavy on our shoulders. Deadlines stack higher than our energy. Responsibilities pile up faster than the hours in the day. In the middle of this chaos, Jesus gives refreshment for your soul. The invitation comes from Matthew 11:28-30 ~ “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." What does that “rest” really mean...
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3987 Hear the Hurt Behind the Words
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Talking in marriage isn’t always easy. We come to the conversation eager to share what’s on our hearts—hoping to be understood and supported. But depending on your spouse’s communication style or mood, your words can land cold, or worse, cause unintended pain. Hear the hurt behind the words. Communication is the backbone of any marriage. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You might assume this only matters in the middle of fights or uncomfortable disagreements. But hurt shows up in marriage far more often—and in ways you might not...
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3986 Where Do I Run First?
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When life gets messy — and let’s be honest, it always does — both parents and kids face the terrifying question: “Where do I run first?” It’s not just about geography; it’s about the who and what that can catch us when we’re falling apart under overwhelm and struggle. If parents don’t provide a safe fallback, kids often sprint toward friends, teachers, coaches, or romantic interests — places that might get them, or might just judge and reject them. This question strips parenting to its core responsibility: Are we raising kids who know our love...
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3985 Wear Your Smile
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Life isn’t a constant stream of roses and rainbows. More often, it’s weeds choking the garden and storms darkening the sky. But from those weeds and storms come blooms and skies painted with the kind of beauty you cannot fake or force. It's no wonder it's hard to wear your smile. Maybe you're struggling to smile today? I get it. Sometimes smiling feels like a mask, like pretending everything’s okay when inside you’re falling apart. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But wearing a smile isn’t about life handing you perfect...
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3984 Set the Tempo of Your Life
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
You don’t have to like where you are. Maybe your life feels stuck in a loop you didn’t sign up for. Maybe your step feels heavy or your spirit’s been whispering for a shift you haven’t dared to make. Wait though! You’re not trapped. Not by your past, your mistakes, or the weight of what isn’t working. You get to decide how you show up each day. You get to set the tempo of your life—from what you hold onto to what you courageously let go. This is the wellspring of real well-being: the space inside where choice lives. It’s not about pretending you’re perfect or faking a smile....
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3983 Live Like It's Christmas!
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
It’s almost springtime, and right now, the last thing on your mind might be Christmas. But there’s a powerful kind of energy that Christmas brings, one that doesn’t just come from tinsel or twinkling lights. It’s that deep-down, can’t-keep-you-down spark of happiness and purpose that ignites even when you’re running on empty. Live like it's Christmas! Remember those Christmas nights? The ones where you stayed up late, exhausted but joyful, wrapping gifts, assembling toys, or setting up big surprises for your kids? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women?...
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3982 The Walls of Comparison
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
We build walls around ourselves, thinking they’re shields—to keep others out, to guard our weaknesses and doubts. But what happens when walls don't protect you, the walls of comparison that keep you locked in? When a dream or goal demands stepping outside your comfort zone, you face more than fear or uncertainty. You face the trap of comparison. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . We can peer at what everyone else is doing and forget what we alone bring to the table. Our gifts, talents, and unique value get left behind because we’re too...
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3981 Seek the Lord
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Too much of our lives are spent running our own race—scaling mountains, crossing rugged terrains we've never faced before—chasing after answers and strength as if we must do it all alone. We push ourselves to find solutions, to prove our worth, to reach the other side on our own terms. But what if you were to seek the Lord? What if the breakthrough isn’t found in our striving or in the distant horizon? What if the source of hope and peace is much closer than we realize? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Isaiah 55:6 reminds...
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3980 Love with Tethered Hearts
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Discomfort in a relationship is often seen as a warning sign or a problem to be avoided. But what if those uncomfortable moments, like disagreements, frustrations, and misunderstandings, are actually the very gateways to a deeper connection and more rewarding marriage? Strip away the noise and love with tethered hearts. When you strip away the noise of everyday life and the tiny irritations that pull you apart, what remains is an opportunity: a chance to grow side by side, tethered heart to heart. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Most...
info_outlineIn the dance of marriage, the spotlight often shines brighter on one partner while the other fades into the shadows. Do you feel like your light shines bright for the one closest to you; do you feel seen?
For those who feel unseen in their marriage, the repercussions can be profound, touching on issues of self-worth, communication breakdowns, and a sense of loneliness within the union.
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Relationship experts emphasize the importance of feeling validated and acknowledged within the context of a partnership. Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, notes that "Feeling understood and appreciated are key components of a healthy relationship."
When one partner feels unseen, it can lead to a breakdown in these essential elements, creating a rift that deepens over time.
Psychotherapist Esther Perel underscores the impact of feeling unnoticed, stating, "In marriage, one often feels like they are cruising through the motions, silently screaming for attention and connection."
This silent plea for recognition can manifest in various ways, from emotional distancing to engaging in behaviors that seek validation outside the relationship.
The consequences of feeling unseen in a marriage are far-reaching. Lack of validation can erode self-esteem, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. Communication breakdowns often follow suit, as the unheard partner may withdraw or become resentful, further widening the gap between them. Over time, the emotional disconnection can culminate in a sense of loneliness, even within the confines of a committed relationship.
"In marriage, the invisible wounds of feeling unseen can leave lasting scars on the heart, dimming even the brightest of love's light." - Kristianne Wargo
What can be done if you are the one who feels unseen?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Shine a light on what isn't seen!
Whatever stays in the dark will be unresolved in the shadows of your every day. At some point, you have to be willing to shine a light on what isn't seen.
1. Initiate Open and Honest Communication: Expressing your feelings of being unseen to your partner is the first step towards resolving the issue. Schedule a time to have a calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling and what you need from them to feel more acknowledged in the relationship. And if you are not heard, you have bigger problems.
2. Seek Couples Therapy: Sometimes, having a neutral third party guide your discussions can be incredibly beneficial. Consider seeking couples therapy to explore deeper-rooted issues, improve communication, and learn strategies to ensure both partners feel seen and heard within the marriage.
3. Focus on Self-Care and Individual Growth: While working on your relationship dynamics, prioritize self-care and personal development; who you are and who you are becoming. Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue hobbies that fulfill you, and prioritize your emotional well-being. By investing in yourself, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience, irrespective of external validation. However, this is not about you fluffing your ego. This is about you becoming a better person regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.
Building a marriage where both partners feel truly seen requires a conscious effort to listen, validate, and appreciate one another. By acknowledging our partner's presence, celebrating their uniqueness, and fostering open communication, we can cultivate a relationship that thrives on mutual recognition and understanding.
So, take a moment to ask yourself: Do you feel seen in your marriage? And if the answer is no, it may be time to shine a light on the unseen parts of your partnership, illuminating the path towards a deeper, more connected bond.
Remember, a marriage where both partners feel truly seen is a marriage worth fighting for.
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