3961 Master Your Mental Game
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Have you ever pondered what's your game plan for greatness in life? When the pressure mounts and the stakes skyrocket, only one thing separates champions from the rest: your mindset. We can see this in real time by observing athletes. Imagine yourself as a Super Bowl quarterback, the clock ticking down with a roaring crowd watching your every move. Your ability to lead in that moment isn’t about talent alone—it’s about how to master your mental game. The mindset to stay calm, strategic, and decisive under pressure is like a muscle you can train and strengthen every day. Desire to...
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3960 Why the Small Stuff Matters to God
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Have you ever thought why the small stuff matters to God? Shouldn't just the big things that shift your life get all the attention? It’s easy to let your everyday get swallowed up by the routines and distractions, work deadlines, household chores, and endless to-do lists that we often overlook where our faith truly intersects with our everyday moments. But you must remember, God cares deeply about the seemingly small, mundane parts of your day. It’s in these moments that your faith becomes real, not just a Sunday sentiment but a lived reality. Consider Colossians 3:23–24 (NIV):...
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3959 Present But Distant
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Marriage isn’t just the big moments: the wedding day, anniversaries, or vacations. A huge part of it happens in the "in-between": the daily grind, the shuffle of family life, the countless errands, work schedules, and responsibilities that fill every corner of your time. In this chaos, it's easy and dangerously common for spouses to drift apart without even noticing. You’re both so busy serving the kids, managing the household, or chasing careers that choosing to connect as a couple takes a backseat. You become like two ships passing in the day and night, present but distant. Your marriage...
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3958 Make Your Last Word Good
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Parenting is a relentless hustle. Sleepless nights blur into days of heartache, frustration, and moments when it feels like your efforts go unnoticed. In the chaos of discipline, schedules, and tears, it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that you are the constant in your child’s world—their anchor and their guide. The truth is, what you say last in any interaction leaves a lasting imprint. That’s why it’s crucial: make your last word good. What does that mean? It means shifting focus from reaction to reflection. It means choosing the lasting message you want your child to take...
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3957 Dig A Little Deeper
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Life doesn’t wait for you to be ready. It hits hard, fast, and often without warning. When the storms roll in, they can scar your days and steal the peace from your nights. It’s raw. It’s real. And frankly, it’s not fun. Life has never been easy for anyone who’s ever done more than just exist. If you want to stand tall—if you want to break past the pain—you have to dig a little deeper. Digging deeper means rolling up your sleeves and getting your hands and heart a little dirty, diving headfirst into the mess that life throws your way. Desire to be supported and encouraged by...
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3956 Why Does Everything Healthy Taste So Bad?
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Healthy living rarely feels easy. We say we want to be healthier, but when faced with salads that seem like lawn clippings or bland steamed veggies, we ask ourselves: Why does everything healthy taste so bad? The frustration isn’t just about flavor; it’s a symptom of a deeper battle between what our bodies crave and what our minds resist. Your taste buds and your body are often on two different pages, and that disconnect trips up even the most committed. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . When we say “healthy,” we’re really talking...
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3955 Put Down Your Mask
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It’s easy to hide behind a mask — the carefully crafted image of who you think you should be or what you don’t want anyone to see. Behind this disguise, you might feel safer, less vulnerable. But you cannot move forward or live the life you were meant to live with God’s divine purpose in mind if you’re trapped behind that mask. So, put down your mask. Please put down your mask. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Be bold enough to show up with your flaws, your imperfections, your raw and real self. You don’t have to be perfect to...
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3954 How Do You Shift In Real Time?
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Life isn’t a straight path. It’s a wild mix of flavors, textures, highs, lows, wins, and setbacks. You grind to reach certain milestones, but just when you think you’ve arrived, reality reminds you there’s more hustle, more growth, more shifting to do. So how do you shift in real time when life throws you curveballs? Are you the kind of person who acts like you’ve already done the hard work—like you’ve ticked the box—only to wash your hands of responsibility? Then you lean back, waiting for the next step to come to you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded...
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3953 No More Words
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Have you ever paused to consider how God truly wants you to show up each day? It’s easy to walk into church on Sunday with a smile and a heart full of joy—or at least a glimpse of it. But ask yourself: how genuine is that moment? Is it real and life-giving? Or is it just a performance, a mask worn for the crowd, for appearances? God doesn’t need the mask. He sees behind it. He knows the truth that we often try to hide, even from ourselves. No more words. Jesus said it plainly in Matthew 5, in the Beatitudes—a blueprint for living “God’s way.” It’s a call to something deeper...
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3952 Are You Chasing the Wrong Part of the Heart?
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Marriage. A word that conjures images of bliss, partnership, and forever—but also confusion, frustration, and unexpected challenges. When two people say, “I do,” it isn’t just a promise to love; it’s an entry into a complicated dance of needs, expectations, and realities. And somewhere along the way, you might find yourself wondering: Are you chasing the wrong part of the heart? Let’s be real—too many people step into marriage thinking it’s all about them. They want their partner’s role to serve their needs, validate their feelings, and eliminate inconveniences. Desire to be...
info_outlineIn the dance of marriage, the spotlight often shines brighter on one partner while the other fades into the shadows. Do you feel like your light shines bright for the one closest to you; do you feel seen?
For those who feel unseen in their marriage, the repercussions can be profound, touching on issues of self-worth, communication breakdowns, and a sense of loneliness within the union.
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Relationship experts emphasize the importance of feeling validated and acknowledged within the context of a partnership. Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, notes that "Feeling understood and appreciated are key components of a healthy relationship."
When one partner feels unseen, it can lead to a breakdown in these essential elements, creating a rift that deepens over time.
Psychotherapist Esther Perel underscores the impact of feeling unnoticed, stating, "In marriage, one often feels like they are cruising through the motions, silently screaming for attention and connection."
This silent plea for recognition can manifest in various ways, from emotional distancing to engaging in behaviors that seek validation outside the relationship.
The consequences of feeling unseen in a marriage are far-reaching. Lack of validation can erode self-esteem, leading to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. Communication breakdowns often follow suit, as the unheard partner may withdraw or become resentful, further widening the gap between them. Over time, the emotional disconnection can culminate in a sense of loneliness, even within the confines of a committed relationship.
"In marriage, the invisible wounds of feeling unseen can leave lasting scars on the heart, dimming even the brightest of love's light." - Kristianne Wargo
What can be done if you are the one who feels unseen?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Shine a light on what isn't seen!
Whatever stays in the dark will be unresolved in the shadows of your every day. At some point, you have to be willing to shine a light on what isn't seen.
1. Initiate Open and Honest Communication: Expressing your feelings of being unseen to your partner is the first step towards resolving the issue. Schedule a time to have a calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling and what you need from them to feel more acknowledged in the relationship. And if you are not heard, you have bigger problems.
2. Seek Couples Therapy: Sometimes, having a neutral third party guide your discussions can be incredibly beneficial. Consider seeking couples therapy to explore deeper-rooted issues, improve communication, and learn strategies to ensure both partners feel seen and heard within the marriage.
3. Focus on Self-Care and Individual Growth: While working on your relationship dynamics, prioritize self-care and personal development; who you are and who you are becoming. Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue hobbies that fulfill you, and prioritize your emotional well-being. By investing in yourself, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self-worth and resilience, irrespective of external validation. However, this is not about you fluffing your ego. This is about you becoming a better person regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.
Building a marriage where both partners feel truly seen requires a conscious effort to listen, validate, and appreciate one another. By acknowledging our partner's presence, celebrating their uniqueness, and fostering open communication, we can cultivate a relationship that thrives on mutual recognition and understanding.
So, take a moment to ask yourself: Do you feel seen in your marriage? And if the answer is no, it may be time to shine a light on the unseen parts of your partnership, illuminating the path towards a deeper, more connected bond.
Remember, a marriage where both partners feel truly seen is a marriage worth fighting for.
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