3749 Drawing Closer When You Least Expect It
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You want to jumpstart a new era of intimacy in your marriage. Yet, you don’t want the same old date nights or “try harder” pep talks. You want real. Something that changes the way you move through life together, drawing closer when you least expect it. So, what do you think it is? Honestly, it's not something you can buy at a store or order online that comes in a sneaky, unnamed box. It's not about more counseling or coaching. It's not about scheduling time together, even though that's important. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . ...
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3748 The Heart of Independence
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The 4th of July is more than fireworks and barbecues. It’s a powerful reminder of the freedom we enjoy—a freedom hard-won and fiercely protected. But what does freedom truly mean if not the ability to gather with the ones we love—the Heart of Independence? In the chaos and rush of daily life, freedom reveals its greatest value when we spend it alongside family. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Family is our first community, our support system, our shelter in storms, and the source of our deepest joy. Celebrating Independence Day as a...
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3747 Just One More Step
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Life isn’t about sprinting to some invisible finish line. It’s about the journey—the everyday, the small wins, the relentless forward motion that shapes who you are and the impact you leave behind. You weren’t created to coast or play small. You were made for more. More influence. More growth. More real change in the world you touch. Just one more step. That's all it takes. Success doesn’t come from leaping miles in one bound. It comes from hanging in there, putting one foot in front of the other—just one more step. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women?...
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3746 Search for the Joy
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How many times have you decided that this time is going to be different when it comes to your health? We stumble over failures and focus on what we can't have, only to find ourselves in a messy pile of what didn't work. You find what you look for; so—search for the joy! Healthy living is not a punishment. But why do we make it just that? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Far too often, we approach wellness like it’s a punishment for past mistakes or some awful chore to endure. But healthy living is not about deprivation or martyrdom....
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3745 Honor Your Beauty
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You’re hustling. You’re grinding. You’re carrying the weight of the world, your family, your community, and your dreams all at once. Some days, it feels like you’re running on empty—and honestly, the last thing on your mind is to honor your beauty. I get it. When exhaustion hits, when the endless to-dos and pressures pull at every ounce of your energy, self-care often feels like a luxury you can’t afford—not a priority, not a mindset, not even a thought. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But let me be real with you: Your beauty...
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3744 How to Turn Doubt into Your Secret Weapon
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Doubt is the silent killer of dreams—it sneaks in, freezes your progress, and whispers that you’re not enough. Every ambitious person faces it, but most let it derail their path to success. Here’s the brutal truth: if you don’t learn how to turn doubt into your secret weapon, it will keep robbing you of your potential. Doubt creeps in—subtle, sneaky, and relentless. Every ambitious person faces it. The crushing question: “Am I really cut out for this?” It shows up when the stakes rise, when your goals feel just out of reach, or when you stare at a blank page wondering if you...
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3743 The One Who Trusts in the Lord
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“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.” ~ Jeremiah 17:7-8 When life seems like it's unraveling, trusting God changes everything. Sometimes life looks like a tangled knot—so twisted and confusing you can’t tell front from back. You’re walking through a season where everything feels upside down: plans fall apart, circumstances feel...
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3742 When Love Makes You Feel Capable, Not Crazy
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Marriage is meant to be a sanctuary—a place where you feel seen, supported, and capable of facing anything life throws your way. But all too often, the daily grind, the chaos of schedules, and the relentless overwhelm shift your marriage from a source of strength to a pressure cooker of frustration. Instead of feeling like a teammate, you may start to feel misunderstood and undervalued. It doesn't have to be this way—when love makes you feel capable, not crazy. That's when the entire dynamic changes. You move from surviving the chaos to thriving together, building a solid foundation that...
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3741 No More Boredom Battles
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Mom and Dad, let’s be real—summer can feel like a never-ending battlefield. You hear it countless times: “I’m bored!”—as if boredom is some mysterious monster your kids are fighting every single day. No more boredom battles. But here’s the twist: many kids don’t truly know what boredom means these days. With screens and tech gadgets vying for their attention 24/7, boredom often becomes a code word for “I want someone else to entertain me.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Technology’s a double-edged sword. We all carry...
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3740 You are Worth the Fight!
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Do you want more or something different, but struggle to keep that fire flickering? Maybe it’s dim. Maybe it’s drowned out by doubt. But it’s there — that restless urge for something better, bigger, truer to who you really are. You are worth the fight! Here’s the raw truth — no one ever started a real change when everything was perfect. Life is messier than that. Focus feels impossible when the world is pulling you every which way. Your to-do list is screaming, expectations are piling, your energy tanks are empty, and your brain keeps finding every excuse to wait. You’re not...
info_outlineMarriage is often perceived as a partnership built on love, support, and shared experiences. But because life happens, it's easy to forget that there are two people in the marriage, more than 'I do.'
Yet, amidst the whirlwind of daily routines and responsibilities, it's easy to fall into the trap of assuming that taking care of one's spouse means taking charge of every situation.
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The person who believes they are looking out for their partner by constantly stepping in may unknowingly be creating barriers to true unity and connection in their relationship.
Where are you on this? Does it hit a little too close to home? Maybe you haven't given it any thought. No problem. Today, let's pay attention to what this brings up within you.
The struggle lies in the misguided notion that one's actions, decisions, and interventions are solely for the benefit of their spouse, without considering the importance of collaboration and shared decision-making.
By always assuming the role of the caretaker or the problem-solver, if you are this person, you are inadvertently robbing your partner of the opportunity to contribute, take the initiative, and feel valued as an equal participant in the marriage.
In this dynamic, the relationship becomes skewed, with one partner shouldering the burden of responsibility while the other is relegated to a passive role.
The person in charge, it may be you, might believe they are being selfless and protective, but in reality, you are denying your spouse the chance to express themselves, showcase their strengths, and actively engage in shaping your alls shared future.
Let's take it a step further. By constantly swooping in to "save the day," you could be communicating a lack of trust in your partner's abilities, undermining their confidence and sense of agency. The imbalance created by this dynamic can breed resentment, frustration, and a sense of disconnection, leading to simmering tensions and unspoken grievances that erode the foundation of the marriage. Let the bitterness build!
Ultimately, the person who believes they are caring for their spouse by shouldering all responsibilities is missing out on the beauty and richness of true partnership.
A healthy marriage thrives on mutual respect, reciprocity, and shared decision-making, where both of you are empowered to contribute your unique perspectives, strengths, and voices to the marriage.
So, how do you make the shift from "I" to "we" to rid the selfishness within the sacred soil of matrimony?
Rid the weeds so you can protect the roots!
The K.I.S.S. ~ Protect the R.O.O.T.S.!
It is only by creating space for both partners to step up, to collaborate, and to co-create their shared journey that a marriage can truly flourish. By letting go of control, embracing vulnerability, and fostering a spirit of teamwork, you can pave the way for a deeper, more authentic connection with your spouse based on trust, mutual support, and a shared sense of purpose.
ROOTS: Respect, Openness, Observation, Nourishment, Time, Support
1. RESPECT: Just as roots anchor and support a plant, respect forms the foundation of a healthy relationship. Respect your partner's thoughts, feelings, and boundaries, nurturing a sense of mutual appreciation and understanding.
"Respect is the cornerstone of every healthy relationship, fostering trust, understanding, and mutual admiration." - Kristianne Wargo
2. OPENNESS: Cultivate openness in your relationship, allowing emotions, communication, and vulnerability to flow freely like water nourishing the roots. Be receptive to your partner's needs and perspectives, fostering an environment of trust and transparency.
"In the garden of love, openness is the sunlight that nourishes growth, vulnerability, and authentic connection." - Kristianne Wargo
3. OBSERVATION: Practice active listening and observation, like the leaves of a plant absorbing sunlight for growth. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues, empathetically tuning into your partner's emotions and experiences.
"Through attentive observation, we hear not only the words spoken but the emotions left unsaid, creating a deeper bond in our relationships." - Kristianne Wargo
4. TIME: Just as a plant needs time to grow and flourish, relationships require patience, effort, and dedication. Invest time in your partnership, allowing it to deepen and strengthen over time, like roots growing deeper into the ground.
"Time is the silent gardener of love, tending to the roots of our relationship, allowing it to grow stronger with each passing moment." - Kristianne Wargo
5. SUPPORT: Offer support to your partner, like a trellis supporting a climbing vine. Create space for them to flourish, grow, and thrive, while also seeking support and collaboration in return.
"Like a sturdy trellis, support in a relationship provides space for growth, stability in times of need, and a foundation of unwavering love." - Kristianne Wargo
By tending to the R.O.O.T.S. – Respect, Openness, Observation, Time, Support – of your relationship, you can foster a deep, lasting connection rooted in mutual respect, empathy, and growth. Just as a plant flourishes with strong roots, your partnership will bloom and thrive when nourished, as plants receive fertilization with kindness, gratitude, and unconditional love.
Marriage is not just about saying "I do" but about living out the daily commitment to "we get to." By practicing active listening, empathy, and gratitude, you can shift the focus from "I" to "we" in your relationship, creating a harmonious and fulfilling union based on mutual respect, understanding, and love.
In the end, true love is not about fixing, rescuing, or controlling – it's about standing side by side, hand in hand, and embracing the beautiful messiness of life together, as equal partners in a dance of love, growth, and mutual respect.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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