3937 Put the "Parent" Back in Parenting
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Too many parents today are caught chasing the mirage of “being friends” with their kids — seeking approval and camaraderie instead of stepping fully into their role as parents. Let’s be blunt: parenting isn’t about winning a popularity contest. It’s about showing up as the adults who love fiercely, set firm boundaries, and deliver discipline that actually sticks. If you want your children to thrive and leave a lasting impact on the world, you must put the “parent” back in parenting. Why Parents Must Parent, Not “Friend” Friendship with your kids can seem like an easy,...
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3936 Live Fully Alive
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Oftentimes, we push ourselves at breakneck speed—racing to check boxes, chasing the next big win, believing that if we just move faster, work harder, and try more, success will finally land in our lap. But as John De Paola said, “Slow down, and everything you are chasing will come around and catch you.” In a world obsessed with hustle, this is not a call for complacency. It’s an invitation to step off the relentless carousel and rediscover the power of intentional living; live fully alive! Too many of us tie ourselves to the chains of past failures, letting every missed shot dictate...
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3935 Winning the Wrong Race
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Every New Year, millions write down the same resolution: lose weight, get healthy, finally take control of their lives. Yet, by spring, those goals often wilt like forgotten gym memberships. Why? Because too often, we’re winning the wrong race. Bad habits are the easy path. They require no thought, no discomfort, no extra effort. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You don’t have to wrestle with tough choices or push through resistance. You just do what you’ve always done — reach for convenience, skip the workout, indulge the craving....
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3934 Quit Waiting for a Guarantee
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Life doesn’t hand out guarantees. No matter how much you want a smooth ride or a sure win, it simply doesn’t work that way. Success, growth, and reaching your goals come from one thing above all else—intention. How you think, decide, and act every single day shapes whether you make it across the finish line. So quit waiting for a guarantee. When you’re chasing something brand new—whether it’s launching a business, changing careers, or mastering a skill—there’s no autopilot. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Waiting for the...
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3933 How Grief Affects Your Mindset
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Grief isn’t just about losing a loved one. It’s a full-body, mind-consuming response to any meaningful loss: a job, a home, a relationship, a dream gone sideways. If you don’t understand how grief rewires your mindset, it can trap you in a mental box where all you see is what’s broken—and how far you are from climbing out of that dark hole. When you understand how grief affects your mindset, you get why you're paralyzed, stuck replaying the what, why, and how over and over, missing the possibility of what’s next. So let’s get real: grief is brutal, disorienting, and...
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3932 Stand Firm on God's Holy Ground
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Walking in step with God is never a passive journey, especially when the world around you seems determined to pull you off course. Jealousy, deceit, and manipulation are real weapons some wield to fracture your spirit and cloud your vision. When hearts turn bitter and minds play cruel games, it’s easy to get trapped inside a warped reality that feels impossible to escape. So how do you hold your ground in these moments? How do you fight this spiritual battle without losing your soul? Stand firm on God's Holy ground. You must begin to recognize the battlefield beyond the visible, only what...
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3931 Dream Bigger Together
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The new year brings that electric buzz of new beginnings and fresh possibilities. When you’re married to your person—the one you dream about and build life with—it only makes sense to dream bigger together. Because, really, who wouldn’t want a richer, more exciting life for themselves and their spouse? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But here’s the truth: It’s easy to fall into the trap of “we’ve always done it this way.” And sure—that’s comfortable. Maybe even safe. But if you want to go beyond the status quo, if...
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3930 Intentional Parenting that Moves Mountains
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Every new year brings a fresh chance to hit the reset button — including how you show up as a parent. But let's be real: parenting is hard, exhausting, and often thankless. If you coast through it, thinking your kids will "figure it out," you’re setting everyone up for frustration and chaos. Kids need more than just food and shelter; they need consistent guidance, love, and boundaries; it's intentional parenting that moves mountains. Because when you slack off, what you get is exactly what you put in — kids who push limits, test boundaries, and fill the void left by absent parenting....
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3929 The Best Is Yet To Come
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The first day of a new year holds something rare—a stillness amid the noise, a quiet space where hope and possibility stretch out like an open road. It’s a day wrapped in excitement but tinged with uncertainty. The unknowns can flip the script, spin your stomach, and test your courage. But here’s the beautiful, unshakable truth: The best is yet to come. You might hear this phrase a ton. But it's not just a feel-good phrase. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s a call to show up with presence, grace, and fierce faith. Presence...
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3928 What If Forward Progress Requires Forgiveness?
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Every New Year arrives heavy with promises! However, let’s be honest, you've gotta fair share of frustration, too. For millions, those well-meaning resolutions quickly unravel, leaving behind guilt and the familiar cycle of “I failed again.” But the harsh truth is that pushing yourself to “fix” every flaw with iron willpower only sets up a battle you can’t win long-term. So what if forward progress requires forgiveness in your healthy living? Well-being doesn’t emerge from beating yourself into a different person. Yet all too often, that’s exactly the approach New Year’s...
info_outlineMarriage is often perceived as a partnership built on love, support, and shared experiences. But because life happens, it's easy to forget that there are two people in the marriage, more than 'I do.'
Yet, amidst the whirlwind of daily routines and responsibilities, it's easy to fall into the trap of assuming that taking care of one's spouse means taking charge of every situation.
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The person who believes they are looking out for their partner by constantly stepping in may unknowingly be creating barriers to true unity and connection in their relationship.
Where are you on this? Does it hit a little too close to home? Maybe you haven't given it any thought. No problem. Today, let's pay attention to what this brings up within you.
The struggle lies in the misguided notion that one's actions, decisions, and interventions are solely for the benefit of their spouse, without considering the importance of collaboration and shared decision-making.
By always assuming the role of the caretaker or the problem-solver, if you are this person, you are inadvertently robbing your partner of the opportunity to contribute, take the initiative, and feel valued as an equal participant in the marriage.
In this dynamic, the relationship becomes skewed, with one partner shouldering the burden of responsibility while the other is relegated to a passive role.
The person in charge, it may be you, might believe they are being selfless and protective, but in reality, you are denying your spouse the chance to express themselves, showcase their strengths, and actively engage in shaping your alls shared future.
Let's take it a step further. By constantly swooping in to "save the day," you could be communicating a lack of trust in your partner's abilities, undermining their confidence and sense of agency. The imbalance created by this dynamic can breed resentment, frustration, and a sense of disconnection, leading to simmering tensions and unspoken grievances that erode the foundation of the marriage. Let the bitterness build!
Ultimately, the person who believes they are caring for their spouse by shouldering all responsibilities is missing out on the beauty and richness of true partnership.
A healthy marriage thrives on mutual respect, reciprocity, and shared decision-making, where both of you are empowered to contribute your unique perspectives, strengths, and voices to the marriage.
So, how do you make the shift from "I" to "we" to rid the selfishness within the sacred soil of matrimony?
Rid the weeds so you can protect the roots!
The K.I.S.S. ~ Protect the R.O.O.T.S.!
It is only by creating space for both partners to step up, to collaborate, and to co-create their shared journey that a marriage can truly flourish. By letting go of control, embracing vulnerability, and fostering a spirit of teamwork, you can pave the way for a deeper, more authentic connection with your spouse based on trust, mutual support, and a shared sense of purpose.
ROOTS: Respect, Openness, Observation, Nourishment, Time, Support
1. RESPECT: Just as roots anchor and support a plant, respect forms the foundation of a healthy relationship. Respect your partner's thoughts, feelings, and boundaries, nurturing a sense of mutual appreciation and understanding.
"Respect is the cornerstone of every healthy relationship, fostering trust, understanding, and mutual admiration." - Kristianne Wargo
2. OPENNESS: Cultivate openness in your relationship, allowing emotions, communication, and vulnerability to flow freely like water nourishing the roots. Be receptive to your partner's needs and perspectives, fostering an environment of trust and transparency.
"In the garden of love, openness is the sunlight that nourishes growth, vulnerability, and authentic connection." - Kristianne Wargo
3. OBSERVATION: Practice active listening and observation, like the leaves of a plant absorbing sunlight for growth. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues, empathetically tuning into your partner's emotions and experiences.
"Through attentive observation, we hear not only the words spoken but the emotions left unsaid, creating a deeper bond in our relationships." - Kristianne Wargo
4. TIME: Just as a plant needs time to grow and flourish, relationships require patience, effort, and dedication. Invest time in your partnership, allowing it to deepen and strengthen over time, like roots growing deeper into the ground.
"Time is the silent gardener of love, tending to the roots of our relationship, allowing it to grow stronger with each passing moment." - Kristianne Wargo
5. SUPPORT: Offer support to your partner, like a trellis supporting a climbing vine. Create space for them to flourish, grow, and thrive, while also seeking support and collaboration in return.
"Like a sturdy trellis, support in a relationship provides space for growth, stability in times of need, and a foundation of unwavering love." - Kristianne Wargo
By tending to the R.O.O.T.S. – Respect, Openness, Observation, Time, Support – of your relationship, you can foster a deep, lasting connection rooted in mutual respect, empathy, and growth. Just as a plant flourishes with strong roots, your partnership will bloom and thrive when nourished, as plants receive fertilization with kindness, gratitude, and unconditional love.
Marriage is not just about saying "I do" but about living out the daily commitment to "we get to." By practicing active listening, empathy, and gratitude, you can shift the focus from "I" to "we" in your relationship, creating a harmonious and fulfilling union based on mutual respect, understanding, and love.
In the end, true love is not about fixing, rescuing, or controlling – it's about standing side by side, hand in hand, and embracing the beautiful messiness of life together, as equal partners in a dance of love, growth, and mutual respect.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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