3635 Direction Comes From Action
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As the week drags on, keeping what needs to be done in front of you is hard. The challenges are real. But don't despair when you get to choose, if it's really unfair. Direction comes from action. Your week may be looking totally different than when you set your clocks ahead. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . All the hours filled with struggles and troubles because you are trying to live your best life is exhausting. Yet, why pull back and settle in? You are made for more. And if you stay frustrated and discouraged and focus less...
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3634 Do Fitness Gadgets Tell the Truth?
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Living a healthy lifestyle has its own set of rules: diligence, consistency, and intentional actions. Honesty is the name of the game, and it includes all the stuff you need to reach your goals. So the question is: Do fitness gadgets tell the truth? Now, I'm sure you're thinking, how can they not? They are digital products running on an operating system that tracks health and fitness. There's no way where they can't work. What can be wrong? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . In reality, fitness gadgets are only as honest as you are...
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3633 Break Out of Autopilot
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There are not many things that we do over and over again that benefit us. Habits can do you good as well as they can do you bad. Regardless of the season you're in, be intentional with your actions and words. Break out of autopilot. Autopilot is super dangerous! You can think you've got it all under control, only to learn midway that where you are is not where you were going. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . Think about your GPS system. I was playing with my grandson the other day, and he was riding his scooter. At one point, I asked...
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3632 Master Your Attitude with Your Mind
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Making changes requires us to perform different actions and think in a new way. In doing so, you get closer to your goals. Otherwise, you will fight yourself for what isn't possible. Therefore, master your attitude with your mind. Some of the hardest things you and I must do in life is fight our own battles in the head. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . Self-talk is a real thing. And let me just say, it has nothing to do with how crazy you are. What you think about yourself, you will live out. My good friend, It's the real deal in life...
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3631 God Is Our Refuge
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As your days become more than you can handle alone, remember that God's got you! It says in Psalm 46:1, "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble." Have you ever been in trouble? Have you ever thought you might be close to the end? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . We have all experienced that feeling of living life on our own. So many things piling up around us that we feel like we are coming to a breaking point. However, I want to remind you that you are not alone. He is there for you ALL the time. Now,...
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3630 How to Love in a One-Sided Marriage
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In marriage, there are sweet moments of honeymoons, celebrations, and birthdays. As two become one over the years, many things shift, including who loves more or less. How to love in a one-sided marriage. Let's be real. Neither of you loves the same way. Neither of you show up committed in the same way. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . However, you both love each other uniquely, and at times, it can feel like you are doing everything. Then the questions begin: Why can't he love me more? Why can't he see what he's doing wrong? Why do...
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3629 Stretch Them So You Don't Shrink Them
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Raising kids can be the pits sometimes. You want to do everything for them, but they still don't get it. Why can't they do what we teach? Remember, as a parent, you are called to stretch them so you don't shrink them. How has your week gone with the kids? Or maybe you're without them, but you are never not a parent. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . Once a parent, always a parent. So, how do you communicate with your children? Do you get mad because that's the only way to get their attention? Or do you speak in whispers to draw them...
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3628 Break the Box
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When life gives you lemons, make scrumptious lemonade with mint. Who you are in your everyday matters. Stop pretending everything is okay. You can't live life in the confines of your limitations. Break the box! So much of our days are filled with the habits that keep us stuck in our comfort zones. We cozy up to the yelling and screaming because we know how to handle it. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . But what if you woke up and decided that yelling and screaming isn't going to happen? Would that change your day? Would that change...
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3627 You Are Too Busy For Your Health
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Why does life have to be so challenging? Why do we fight more than we love ourselves? So many questions with a simple answer: you are too busy for your health. Over the past few months, I have been burning the candle at not just two ends but twenty ends. This mama and grandmama was always on the move. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . I mean, who doesn't prioritize your family? But in reality, if all you do is keep pushing yourself deeper and deeper down in the ground, there is little resolve for your comeback. If you haven't...
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3626 Risk Your Heart
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Some of the best gifts to give or receive come from the heart. But so does living your daily life with intentionality and authenticity. Share a bit of your true self. Risk your heart. As much as you think you are showing up ready to live your life well, a lot of times, you are hiding. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . You act like how you think everyone expects of you, only to be surprised that you really don't know what to do or how to act. In fact, who are you? There are too many rules because you are living someone else's life. What do...
info_outlineMarriage is often perceived as a partnership built on love, support, and shared experiences. But because life happens, it's easy to forget that there are two people in the marriage, more than 'I do.'
Yet, amidst the whirlwind of daily routines and responsibilities, it's easy to fall into the trap of assuming that taking care of one's spouse means taking charge of every situation.
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The person who believes they are looking out for their partner by constantly stepping in may unknowingly be creating barriers to true unity and connection in their relationship.
Where are you on this? Does it hit a little too close to home? Maybe you haven't given it any thought. No problem. Today, let's pay attention to what this brings up within you.
The struggle lies in the misguided notion that one's actions, decisions, and interventions are solely for the benefit of their spouse, without considering the importance of collaboration and shared decision-making.
By always assuming the role of the caretaker or the problem-solver, if you are this person, you are inadvertently robbing your partner of the opportunity to contribute, take the initiative, and feel valued as an equal participant in the marriage.
In this dynamic, the relationship becomes skewed, with one partner shouldering the burden of responsibility while the other is relegated to a passive role.
The person in charge, it may be you, might believe they are being selfless and protective, but in reality, you are denying your spouse the chance to express themselves, showcase their strengths, and actively engage in shaping your alls shared future.
Let's take it a step further. By constantly swooping in to "save the day," you could be communicating a lack of trust in your partner's abilities, undermining their confidence and sense of agency. The imbalance created by this dynamic can breed resentment, frustration, and a sense of disconnection, leading to simmering tensions and unspoken grievances that erode the foundation of the marriage. Let the bitterness build!
Ultimately, the person who believes they are caring for their spouse by shouldering all responsibilities is missing out on the beauty and richness of true partnership.
A healthy marriage thrives on mutual respect, reciprocity, and shared decision-making, where both of you are empowered to contribute your unique perspectives, strengths, and voices to the marriage.
So, how do you make the shift from "I" to "we" to rid the selfishness within the sacred soil of matrimony?
Rid the weeds so you can protect the roots!
The K.I.S.S. ~ Protect the R.O.O.T.S.!
It is only by creating space for both partners to step up, to collaborate, and to co-create their shared journey that a marriage can truly flourish. By letting go of control, embracing vulnerability, and fostering a spirit of teamwork, you can pave the way for a deeper, more authentic connection with your spouse based on trust, mutual support, and a shared sense of purpose.
ROOTS: Respect, Openness, Observation, Nourishment, Time, Support
1. RESPECT: Just as roots anchor and support a plant, respect forms the foundation of a healthy relationship. Respect your partner's thoughts, feelings, and boundaries, nurturing a sense of mutual appreciation and understanding.
"Respect is the cornerstone of every healthy relationship, fostering trust, understanding, and mutual admiration." - Kristianne Wargo
2. OPENNESS: Cultivate openness in your relationship, allowing emotions, communication, and vulnerability to flow freely like water nourishing the roots. Be receptive to your partner's needs and perspectives, fostering an environment of trust and transparency.
"In the garden of love, openness is the sunlight that nourishes growth, vulnerability, and authentic connection." - Kristianne Wargo
3. OBSERVATION: Practice active listening and observation, like the leaves of a plant absorbing sunlight for growth. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues, empathetically tuning into your partner's emotions and experiences.
"Through attentive observation, we hear not only the words spoken but the emotions left unsaid, creating a deeper bond in our relationships." - Kristianne Wargo
4. TIME: Just as a plant needs time to grow and flourish, relationships require patience, effort, and dedication. Invest time in your partnership, allowing it to deepen and strengthen over time, like roots growing deeper into the ground.
"Time is the silent gardener of love, tending to the roots of our relationship, allowing it to grow stronger with each passing moment." - Kristianne Wargo
5. SUPPORT: Offer support to your partner, like a trellis supporting a climbing vine. Create space for them to flourish, grow, and thrive, while also seeking support and collaboration in return.
"Like a sturdy trellis, support in a relationship provides space for growth, stability in times of need, and a foundation of unwavering love." - Kristianne Wargo
By tending to the R.O.O.T.S. – Respect, Openness, Observation, Time, Support – of your relationship, you can foster a deep, lasting connection rooted in mutual respect, empathy, and growth. Just as a plant flourishes with strong roots, your partnership will bloom and thrive when nourished, as plants receive fertilization with kindness, gratitude, and unconditional love.
Marriage is not just about saying "I do" but about living out the daily commitment to "we get to." By practicing active listening, empathy, and gratitude, you can shift the focus from "I" to "we" in your relationship, creating a harmonious and fulfilling union based on mutual respect, understanding, and love.
In the end, true love is not about fixing, rescuing, or controlling – it's about standing side by side, hand in hand, and embracing the beautiful messiness of life together, as equal partners in a dance of love, growth, and mutual respect.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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