4132 Been There, Dump That
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You know the phrase, "Been there, done that." It's the verbal shrug we give when something no longer impresses us, no longer scares us, or no longer has anything left to teach us. To put a twist on the phrase to serve you better, why not enhance it: been there, dump that. Because here's something we never sit around and talk about when it comes to growth — it's not just about picking things up. Those new habits, new skills, new mindsets. Growth is just as much about what you're willing to put down. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The...
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4131 Fear Isn't Who You Are
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Fear rarely shows up looking like fear. It shows up looking like "that's just who I am." It shows up as "I've always been this way." It shows up in the sentence that starts with "I'm not the kind of person who..." — and ends right before you find out you actually could have been. That's the sneaky part. Fear doesn't usually announce itself. It just quietly moves into the identity you've built for yourself, unpacks its bags, and starts paying rent. And over time, you stop noticing it's even there. You just think it's you. But fear isn't who you are. We all carry a version of ourselves...
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4130 Find the Gift in the Grind
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Some days don't ask permission. They just show up — loud, full, and relentless. The alarm goes off before you're ready. The inbox is already three messages deep before your coffee's even brewed. Somewhere between the meeting that ran long and the errand you forgot, you look up and realize the whole day has passed you by, and you can barely remember a single moment of it. This is the trap of a busy life: we get so wrapped up in doing that we forget to notice we're living. And in that forgetting, we lose something precious — the ability to see the good that's been sitting right in front...
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4129 Why Your Hustle Needs A Pause
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How many times have you pushed through the day fueled by caffeine and sheer will, only to realize by evening your decisions are fuzzy, your energy is gone, and your brain feels like mush? Your decisions are only as good as the sleep you got the night before. Your actions are only as strong as the rest of your body took the day before. Your productivity hinges on how still and quiet your mind has been — not how fast it’s been spinning. It's no wonder why your hustle needs a pause. The culture today glorifies nonstop motion as the only path to success. But the consequence is a society on the...
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4128 The Room is Never Empty
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There's a version of faith that lives in a building. You walk in on Sunday, sing the songs, hear the message, maybe even feel something shift in your chest. Then you walk out, get in the car, and by Tuesday afternoon you're back to running your week on your own steam — making decisions, carrying stress, fighting battles — like you're the only one in the room. You know that gap between the sanctuary and the rest of your life is where a lot of us quietly live. Not because we stopped believing, but because we started treating God like a scheduled appointment instead of a constant presence....
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4127 Are You Sleeping with a Stranger?
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People change. That’s a truth we all accept, or at least give a nod to in passing, yet rarely sit with deeply. Time moves on, circumstances evolve, and the very essence of who we are shifts in subtle and profound ways. So why does it feel so strange with the person you share a bed with—are you sleeping with a stranger? When you lie down beside your spouse tonight, take a moment to ask yourself: Are you sleeping beside the person you once knew, or a stranger who lives in their skin? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Change Is the Constant...
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4126 You're Not Lost, You're Just Sightseeing
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Life doesn’t come with a map. It twists and turns, throws detours at us, and sometimes drops us in places we never expected. This reality hits even harder when you’re raising kids—because now you’re not just navigating your own path; you’re guiding little explorers through their own confusing journeys. Overwhelm can take over, leaving you with questions: “Am I doing this right? Are we lost?” But the thing is that you’re not lost; you’re just sightseeing. When you’re sightseeing, you don’t panic because you’re off-course. You pause. You take in the landscape. You explore...
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4125 It's Okay to Look Back
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Looking back at your past is natural. It’s part of being human. We reflect on where we came from, what we’ve endured, and how we’ve grown. But there’s a line between glancing at your history and living inside it. Be careful how long you hang out with your past. Like Doris Roberts said, “It’s okay to look back, just don’t stare.” Some people get stuck in their past like it’s a favorite hangout spot—even a safe one. They replay old mistakes, clutch grudges, or drown in regrets. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . This isn’t...
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4124 Put the Phone Down
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We live in a world wired for distraction. Endless notifications, the addictive drag of social media feeds, and the constant buzz of other people’s highlight reels can pull us from what truly matters. We wonder why we feel stuck—trapped in what has happened, fixated on what didn’t work, and overwhelmed by the noise of life. But here’s the brutal truth: if the past leads your present, you’re not moving forward—you’re treading water. Put the phone down. Stop scrolling through other people’s curated moments, the endless barrage of “perfect” lives. Desire to be supported and...
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4123 Get Through Today
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In a world buzzing with endless tasks, deadlines, and distractions, it’s easy to get caught up in the chaos of what’s next. We pile on to-do lists, strategize for tomorrow’s meetings, plan meals, manage errands, and somehow forget the most important moment—the present. The secret isn’t to conquer every challenge at once, but to zero in on what calls for your attention right now. The goal is simple: get through today. Matthew 6:34 says— “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Desire to be supported...
info_outlineMarriage is often perceived as a partnership built on love, support, and shared experiences. But because life happens, it's easy to forget that there are two people in the marriage, more than 'I do.'
Yet, amidst the whirlwind of daily routines and responsibilities, it's easy to fall into the trap of assuming that taking care of one's spouse means taking charge of every situation.
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The person who believes they are looking out for their partner by constantly stepping in may unknowingly be creating barriers to true unity and connection in their relationship.
Where are you on this? Does it hit a little too close to home? Maybe you haven't given it any thought. No problem. Today, let's pay attention to what this brings up within you.
The struggle lies in the misguided notion that one's actions, decisions, and interventions are solely for the benefit of their spouse, without considering the importance of collaboration and shared decision-making.
By always assuming the role of the caretaker or the problem-solver, if you are this person, you are inadvertently robbing your partner of the opportunity to contribute, take the initiative, and feel valued as an equal participant in the marriage.
In this dynamic, the relationship becomes skewed, with one partner shouldering the burden of responsibility while the other is relegated to a passive role.
The person in charge, it may be you, might believe they are being selfless and protective, but in reality, you are denying your spouse the chance to express themselves, showcase their strengths, and actively engage in shaping your alls shared future.
Let's take it a step further. By constantly swooping in to "save the day," you could be communicating a lack of trust in your partner's abilities, undermining their confidence and sense of agency. The imbalance created by this dynamic can breed resentment, frustration, and a sense of disconnection, leading to simmering tensions and unspoken grievances that erode the foundation of the marriage. Let the bitterness build!
Ultimately, the person who believes they are caring for their spouse by shouldering all responsibilities is missing out on the beauty and richness of true partnership.
A healthy marriage thrives on mutual respect, reciprocity, and shared decision-making, where both of you are empowered to contribute your unique perspectives, strengths, and voices to the marriage.
So, how do you make the shift from "I" to "we" to rid the selfishness within the sacred soil of matrimony?
Rid the weeds so you can protect the roots!
The K.I.S.S. ~ Protect the R.O.O.T.S.!
It is only by creating space for both partners to step up, to collaborate, and to co-create their shared journey that a marriage can truly flourish. By letting go of control, embracing vulnerability, and fostering a spirit of teamwork, you can pave the way for a deeper, more authentic connection with your spouse based on trust, mutual support, and a shared sense of purpose.
ROOTS: Respect, Openness, Observation, Nourishment, Time, Support
1. RESPECT: Just as roots anchor and support a plant, respect forms the foundation of a healthy relationship. Respect your partner's thoughts, feelings, and boundaries, nurturing a sense of mutual appreciation and understanding.
"Respect is the cornerstone of every healthy relationship, fostering trust, understanding, and mutual admiration." - Kristianne Wargo
2. OPENNESS: Cultivate openness in your relationship, allowing emotions, communication, and vulnerability to flow freely like water nourishing the roots. Be receptive to your partner's needs and perspectives, fostering an environment of trust and transparency.
"In the garden of love, openness is the sunlight that nourishes growth, vulnerability, and authentic connection." - Kristianne Wargo
3. OBSERVATION: Practice active listening and observation, like the leaves of a plant absorbing sunlight for growth. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues, empathetically tuning into your partner's emotions and experiences.
"Through attentive observation, we hear not only the words spoken but the emotions left unsaid, creating a deeper bond in our relationships." - Kristianne Wargo
4. TIME: Just as a plant needs time to grow and flourish, relationships require patience, effort, and dedication. Invest time in your partnership, allowing it to deepen and strengthen over time, like roots growing deeper into the ground.
"Time is the silent gardener of love, tending to the roots of our relationship, allowing it to grow stronger with each passing moment." - Kristianne Wargo
5. SUPPORT: Offer support to your partner, like a trellis supporting a climbing vine. Create space for them to flourish, grow, and thrive, while also seeking support and collaboration in return.
"Like a sturdy trellis, support in a relationship provides space for growth, stability in times of need, and a foundation of unwavering love." - Kristianne Wargo
By tending to the R.O.O.T.S. – Respect, Openness, Observation, Time, Support – of your relationship, you can foster a deep, lasting connection rooted in mutual respect, empathy, and growth. Just as a plant flourishes with strong roots, your partnership will bloom and thrive when nourished, as plants receive fertilization with kindness, gratitude, and unconditional love.
Marriage is not just about saying "I do" but about living out the daily commitment to "we get to." By practicing active listening, empathy, and gratitude, you can shift the focus from "I" to "we" in your relationship, creating a harmonious and fulfilling union based on mutual respect, understanding, and love.
In the end, true love is not about fixing, rescuing, or controlling – it's about standing side by side, hand in hand, and embracing the beautiful messiness of life together, as equal partners in a dance of love, growth, and mutual respect.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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