3943 Give Up What Doesn't Work
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Imagine this for a moment: You’re gearing up for the Super Bowl of your life. Every move calculated, every drill intentional, every moment optimized. Would you spend time doing things that don’t work—things that have brought you zero results? Of course not. You’d double down on what delivers every single time. So why not give up what doesn't work? So why, in the everyday game of life and business, do we cling so stubbornly to habits, strategies, or mindsets that have proven ineffective? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The...
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3942 Do More Than Dream
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Are you one of the millions who want to live a healthier lifestyle than where you are now? Every new year brings a wave of resolutions promising weight loss, better habits, and a healthier life. It’s no surprise that “live healthier” is one of the most common resolutions out there. But resolutions are just ideas floating in your head. They don’t carry weight—no pun intended—until you turn them into action; do more than dream. Why does this happen year after year? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Because wanting something isn’t...
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3941 Organize Your Space to Make Room for Action
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Nothing fuels ambition quite like setting out on a bold adventure toward your goals and dreams. You’ve got big plans, and the vision of where you want to go is crystal clear. But here’s the truth: dreaming alone won’t get you there. To climb that peak, you need a launching pad — and that starts when you organize your space to make room for action. Think about it. If all you ever did was sit back, waiting for success or opportunity to arrive without effort, how far would you get? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Spoiler Alert: Not...
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3940 Toss Out the Thoughts and Doubts that Hold You Back
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Just because it’s a new year doesn’t mean a reset happens automatically. In reality, most of our attempts to start fresh are clouded by lingering fears about what we didn’t finish, didn’t accomplish, or simply gave up on. If you want to move ahead and actually reach your goals and dreams this year, you have to toss out the thoughts and doubts that hold you back. I don’t know about you, but over time, repeated failures do more than just sting — they infect our mindset and sabotage our ambition. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . ...
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3939 Man Shall Not Live on Bread Alone
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In one of the most powerful moments of Jesus’ life, when He was tested in the wilderness (Matthew 4:1-4), He faced raw human hunger. The devil tempted Him with a straightforward challenge: “Turn these stones into bread.” After all, Jesus is hungry after fasting for forty days and forty nights. The need was real, the desire immediate. Yet Jesus' response cuts deeper than physical need: “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” That reply is not just about hunger or sustenance. It’s a declaration about the source of...
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3938 Don't Root Against Your Spouse
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It’s easy to get super focused on other things in life, from the home to the family to the career to even the pets. Amid all this noise, the one person you vowed to stand beside can sometimes fade into the background. But if you want a marriage that lasts, one that can withstand the relentless pressures of life, there’s a simple but powerful rule: don’t root against your spouse. The truth is, it’s dadgum hard to keep your spouse front and center when every other part of your life is screaming louder. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . ...
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3937 Put the "Parent" Back in Parenting
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Too many parents today are caught chasing the mirage of “being friends” with their kids — seeking approval and camaraderie instead of stepping fully into their role as parents. Let’s be blunt: parenting isn’t about winning a popularity contest. It’s about showing up as the adults who love fiercely, set firm boundaries, and deliver discipline that actually sticks. If you want your children to thrive and leave a lasting impact on the world, you must put the “parent” back in parenting. Why Parents Must Parent, Not “Friend” Friendship with your kids can seem like an easy,...
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3936 Live Fully Alive
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Oftentimes, we push ourselves at breakneck speed—racing to check boxes, chasing the next big win, believing that if we just move faster, work harder, and try more, success will finally land in our lap. But as John De Paola said, “Slow down, and everything you are chasing will come around and catch you.” In a world obsessed with hustle, this is not a call for complacency. It’s an invitation to step off the relentless carousel and rediscover the power of intentional living; live fully alive! Too many of us tie ourselves to the chains of past failures, letting every missed shot dictate...
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3935 Winning the Wrong Race
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Every New Year, millions write down the same resolution: lose weight, get healthy, finally take control of their lives. Yet, by spring, those goals often wilt like forgotten gym memberships. Why? Because too often, we’re winning the wrong race. Bad habits are the easy path. They require no thought, no discomfort, no extra effort. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You don’t have to wrestle with tough choices or push through resistance. You just do what you’ve always done — reach for convenience, skip the workout, indulge the craving....
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3934 Quit Waiting for a Guarantee
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Life doesn’t hand out guarantees. No matter how much you want a smooth ride or a sure win, it simply doesn’t work that way. Success, growth, and reaching your goals come from one thing above all else—intention. How you think, decide, and act every single day shapes whether you make it across the finish line. So quit waiting for a guarantee. When you’re chasing something brand new—whether it’s launching a business, changing careers, or mastering a skill—there’s no autopilot. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Waiting for the...
info_outlineMarriage is often perceived as a partnership built on love, support, and shared experiences. But because life happens, it's easy to forget that there are two people in the marriage, more than 'I do.'
Yet, amidst the whirlwind of daily routines and responsibilities, it's easy to fall into the trap of assuming that taking care of one's spouse means taking charge of every situation.
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The person who believes they are looking out for their partner by constantly stepping in may unknowingly be creating barriers to true unity and connection in their relationship.
Where are you on this? Does it hit a little too close to home? Maybe you haven't given it any thought. No problem. Today, let's pay attention to what this brings up within you.
The struggle lies in the misguided notion that one's actions, decisions, and interventions are solely for the benefit of their spouse, without considering the importance of collaboration and shared decision-making.
By always assuming the role of the caretaker or the problem-solver, if you are this person, you are inadvertently robbing your partner of the opportunity to contribute, take the initiative, and feel valued as an equal participant in the marriage.
In this dynamic, the relationship becomes skewed, with one partner shouldering the burden of responsibility while the other is relegated to a passive role.
The person in charge, it may be you, might believe they are being selfless and protective, but in reality, you are denying your spouse the chance to express themselves, showcase their strengths, and actively engage in shaping your alls shared future.
Let's take it a step further. By constantly swooping in to "save the day," you could be communicating a lack of trust in your partner's abilities, undermining their confidence and sense of agency. The imbalance created by this dynamic can breed resentment, frustration, and a sense of disconnection, leading to simmering tensions and unspoken grievances that erode the foundation of the marriage. Let the bitterness build!
Ultimately, the person who believes they are caring for their spouse by shouldering all responsibilities is missing out on the beauty and richness of true partnership.
A healthy marriage thrives on mutual respect, reciprocity, and shared decision-making, where both of you are empowered to contribute your unique perspectives, strengths, and voices to the marriage.
So, how do you make the shift from "I" to "we" to rid the selfishness within the sacred soil of matrimony?
Rid the weeds so you can protect the roots!
The K.I.S.S. ~ Protect the R.O.O.T.S.!
It is only by creating space for both partners to step up, to collaborate, and to co-create their shared journey that a marriage can truly flourish. By letting go of control, embracing vulnerability, and fostering a spirit of teamwork, you can pave the way for a deeper, more authentic connection with your spouse based on trust, mutual support, and a shared sense of purpose.
ROOTS: Respect, Openness, Observation, Nourishment, Time, Support
1. RESPECT: Just as roots anchor and support a plant, respect forms the foundation of a healthy relationship. Respect your partner's thoughts, feelings, and boundaries, nurturing a sense of mutual appreciation and understanding.
"Respect is the cornerstone of every healthy relationship, fostering trust, understanding, and mutual admiration." - Kristianne Wargo
2. OPENNESS: Cultivate openness in your relationship, allowing emotions, communication, and vulnerability to flow freely like water nourishing the roots. Be receptive to your partner's needs and perspectives, fostering an environment of trust and transparency.
"In the garden of love, openness is the sunlight that nourishes growth, vulnerability, and authentic connection." - Kristianne Wargo
3. OBSERVATION: Practice active listening and observation, like the leaves of a plant absorbing sunlight for growth. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues, empathetically tuning into your partner's emotions and experiences.
"Through attentive observation, we hear not only the words spoken but the emotions left unsaid, creating a deeper bond in our relationships." - Kristianne Wargo
4. TIME: Just as a plant needs time to grow and flourish, relationships require patience, effort, and dedication. Invest time in your partnership, allowing it to deepen and strengthen over time, like roots growing deeper into the ground.
"Time is the silent gardener of love, tending to the roots of our relationship, allowing it to grow stronger with each passing moment." - Kristianne Wargo
5. SUPPORT: Offer support to your partner, like a trellis supporting a climbing vine. Create space for them to flourish, grow, and thrive, while also seeking support and collaboration in return.
"Like a sturdy trellis, support in a relationship provides space for growth, stability in times of need, and a foundation of unwavering love." - Kristianne Wargo
By tending to the R.O.O.T.S. – Respect, Openness, Observation, Time, Support – of your relationship, you can foster a deep, lasting connection rooted in mutual respect, empathy, and growth. Just as a plant flourishes with strong roots, your partnership will bloom and thrive when nourished, as plants receive fertilization with kindness, gratitude, and unconditional love.
Marriage is not just about saying "I do" but about living out the daily commitment to "we get to." By practicing active listening, empathy, and gratitude, you can shift the focus from "I" to "we" in your relationship, creating a harmonious and fulfilling union based on mutual respect, understanding, and love.
In the end, true love is not about fixing, rescuing, or controlling – it's about standing side by side, hand in hand, and embracing the beautiful messiness of life together, as equal partners in a dance of love, growth, and mutual respect.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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