3534 More Than 'I Do'
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Marriage is often perceived as a partnership built on love, support, and shared experiences. But because life happens, it's easy to forget that there are two people in the marriage, more than 'I do.' Yet, amidst the whirlwind of daily routines and responsibilities, it's easy to fall into the trap of assuming that taking care of one's spouse means taking charge of every situation. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . The person who believes they are looking out for their partner by constantly stepping in may unknowingly be creating barriers to...
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3533 Are Your Emotions Victorious?
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Parenting is a whirlwind of responsibilities, celebrations, and challenges that can leave even the most dedicated and loving parent feeling emotionally drained and overwhelmed. Are your emotions victorious? As you strive to meet the needs of your children, manage household tasks, and keep up with life's demands, it's easy to feel like you're constantly treading water, struggling to stay afloat amidst a sea of never-ending obligations. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . The pressure to be everything to everyone can take a toll on your...
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3532 Never Settle!
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Why do we have to rise and shine, only to get our dreams shut down by all the responsibilities and the never-ending to-do lists? Maybe it's time to take a different approach in life. Never settle! You were created for more: to shine more, to share more, to snuggle more, to savor more. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . You were created on purpose for a purpose. But how much do you really believe that? How much do you think what you say to yourself is transferred through your actions? "What you think about you bring about." ~ Bob Proctor So,...
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3531 Beyond the Ordinary
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In a world saturated with shortcuts and society's norms, the journey to optimal health and well-being can often feel like a solitary pursuit. So go beyond the ordinary and embrace your extraordinary. This is all about elevating your wellness. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . But unfortunately, the allure of convenience and comfort can overshadow the dedication required to prioritize one's holistic wellness. What if you looked at your well-being from a different perspective? While the easy path may seem inviting, what if you dared to...
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3530 Expand Your Horizon
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In a world filled with routines, predictability, and comfort zones, it's easy to settle into a fixed perspective, both professionally and personally. Drop the boring and expand your horizon. We often find serenity in the familiar, sticking to what we know and the paths we've walked a hundred times before. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . But what if there's a whole world of possibilities waiting just beyond our current horizon? What do your eyes see right now? Do you see the impossible becoming possible? Or are you stuck in the mindset...
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3529 Fuel Your Dreams with Emotional Resilience
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You can have all the knowledge in the world and be connected to everyone and anyone, but if you don't believe in yourself, you will not go far. Therefore, fuel your dreams with emotional resilience. As you navigate through life with aspirations and ambitions, it becomes crucial to manage your emotions and feelings effectively. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . These internal factors can either fuel your journey towards success or become obstacles that hinder your progress. If you allow your emotions to overpower your rational thinking, your...
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3528 Faith Produces Perseverance
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Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. ~ James 1:2-3 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. ~ James 1:4 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . This verse encourages believers to find joy in the midst of trials and challenges, recognizing that these difficulties can strengthen their faith and character, leading to maturity and wholeness. It emphasizes the importance of...
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3527 Find Freedom in Forgiveness
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In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it's all too easy to fall into the trap of keeping score in our relationships, especially in marriage. But what if, instead of keeping score, you choose to find freedom in forgiveness? As you know, it's all too easy to find ourselves mentally tallying up who did the dishes last, who took out the trash, who planned the last date night, or whose turn it is to get the kiddos ready for bed. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . What if you let go of the need to constantly measure your spouse's actions...
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3526 How to Nurture Parent-Child Connections
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Expressing love to our children is a constant balancing act. Even as hard as parents try, love can get lost in the message if parents don't learn how to nurture parent-child connections. As you know, parenting is an intricate dance. Just as each child is unique, so too are the ways they give and receive love. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . While parents may pour their hearts into demonstrating affection, sometimes it's not received well, if at all. This can lead to misunderstandings, miscommunications, and, ultimately, a disconnect in...
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3525 You Can Do This!
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Sometimes, we just need to hear, "You can do this!" Because when life comes at you with spirals and spikes, you have to know that you will not only survive, but you will thrive. What do you do when you're thrown off balance? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at . Just when we think we have it all figured out, the unexpected happens, and suddenly we're left feeling lost and overwhelmed. It's during these challenging moments that you need to remind yourself of a simple but powerful truth: You can do this! In the face of adversity, it's easy...
info_outlineMarriage is often perceived as a partnership built on love, support, and shared experiences. But because life happens, it's easy to forget that there are two people in the marriage, more than 'I do.'
Yet, amidst the whirlwind of daily routines and responsibilities, it's easy to fall into the trap of assuming that taking care of one's spouse means taking charge of every situation.
Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. https://createyournow.mn.co
The person who believes they are looking out for their partner by constantly stepping in may unknowingly be creating barriers to true unity and connection in their relationship.
Where are you on this? Does it hit a little too close to home? Maybe you haven't given it any thought. No problem. Today, let's pay attention to what this brings up within you.
The struggle lies in the misguided notion that one's actions, decisions, and interventions are solely for the benefit of their spouse, without considering the importance of collaboration and shared decision-making.
By always assuming the role of the caretaker or the problem-solver, if you are this person, you are inadvertently robbing your partner of the opportunity to contribute, take the initiative, and feel valued as an equal participant in the marriage.
In this dynamic, the relationship becomes skewed, with one partner shouldering the burden of responsibility while the other is relegated to a passive role.
The person in charge, it may be you, might believe they are being selfless and protective, but in reality, you are denying your spouse the chance to express themselves, showcase their strengths, and actively engage in shaping your alls shared future.
Let's take it a step further. By constantly swooping in to "save the day," you could be communicating a lack of trust in your partner's abilities, undermining their confidence and sense of agency. The imbalance created by this dynamic can breed resentment, frustration, and a sense of disconnection, leading to simmering tensions and unspoken grievances that erode the foundation of the marriage. Let the bitterness build!
Ultimately, the person who believes they are caring for their spouse by shouldering all responsibilities is missing out on the beauty and richness of true partnership.
A healthy marriage thrives on mutual respect, reciprocity, and shared decision-making, where both of you are empowered to contribute your unique perspectives, strengths, and voices to the marriage.
So, how do you make the shift from "I" to "we" to rid the selfishness within the sacred soil of matrimony?
Rid the weeds so you can protect the roots!
The K.I.S.S. ~ Protect the R.O.O.T.S.!
It is only by creating space for both partners to step up, to collaborate, and to co-create their shared journey that a marriage can truly flourish. By letting go of control, embracing vulnerability, and fostering a spirit of teamwork, you can pave the way for a deeper, more authentic connection with your spouse based on trust, mutual support, and a shared sense of purpose.
ROOTS: Respect, Openness, Observation, Nourishment, Time, Support
1. RESPECT: Just as roots anchor and support a plant, respect forms the foundation of a healthy relationship. Respect your partner's thoughts, feelings, and boundaries, nurturing a sense of mutual appreciation and understanding.
"Respect is the cornerstone of every healthy relationship, fostering trust, understanding, and mutual admiration." - Kristianne Wargo
2. OPENNESS: Cultivate openness in your relationship, allowing emotions, communication, and vulnerability to flow freely like water nourishing the roots. Be receptive to your partner's needs and perspectives, fostering an environment of trust and transparency.
"In the garden of love, openness is the sunlight that nourishes growth, vulnerability, and authentic connection." - Kristianne Wargo
3. OBSERVATION: Practice active listening and observation, like the leaves of a plant absorbing sunlight for growth. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues, empathetically tuning into your partner's emotions and experiences.
"Through attentive observation, we hear not only the words spoken but the emotions left unsaid, creating a deeper bond in our relationships." - Kristianne Wargo
4. TIME: Just as a plant needs time to grow and flourish, relationships require patience, effort, and dedication. Invest time in your partnership, allowing it to deepen and strengthen over time, like roots growing deeper into the ground.
"Time is the silent gardener of love, tending to the roots of our relationship, allowing it to grow stronger with each passing moment." - Kristianne Wargo
5. SUPPORT: Offer support to your partner, like a trellis supporting a climbing vine. Create space for them to flourish, grow, and thrive, while also seeking support and collaboration in return.
"Like a sturdy trellis, support in a relationship provides space for growth, stability in times of need, and a foundation of unwavering love." - Kristianne Wargo
By tending to the R.O.O.T.S. – Respect, Openness, Observation, Time, Support – of your relationship, you can foster a deep, lasting connection rooted in mutual respect, empathy, and growth. Just as a plant flourishes with strong roots, your partnership will bloom and thrive when nourished, as plants receive fertilization with kindness, gratitude, and unconditional love.
Marriage is not just about saying "I do" but about living out the daily commitment to "we get to." By practicing active listening, empathy, and gratitude, you can shift the focus from "I" to "we" in your relationship, creating a harmonious and fulfilling union based on mutual respect, understanding, and love.
In the end, true love is not about fixing, rescuing, or controlling – it's about standing side by side, hand in hand, and embracing the beautiful messiness of life together, as equal partners in a dance of love, growth, and mutual respect.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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