3898 Living Life Out of Order
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
December evenings can feel like a pressure cooker. You scroll through Instagram and see everyone’s lives perfectly arranged: big wins, festive decor, smiling faces. Meanwhile, you’re staring down unfinished projects, mounting fatigue, and that nagging voice telling you you’re behind, failing, or simply out of place. Why does it feel like everyone else is moving forward, while you’re stuck living life out of order? Here’s the hard truth: comparison is a silent peace thief. When you measure your messy, nonlinear reality against others’ carefully curated timelines and highlight reels,...
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3897 HOPE - The Faithfulness of God
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
When the future feels shaky and the world seems out of control, hope is often what’s missing. But here’s where you check your pulse: hope is not wishful thinking or vague optimism. Real hope is a confident expectation anchored in the faithfulness of God. Jeremiah 29:11 cuts through the noise: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . This verse isn’t a hollow promise—it’s a wild, brave...
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3896 Digging for Gold
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Marriage is no fairy tale without effort. It demands work, dedication, and a clear purpose to turn the ordinary into an extraordinary journey. When that effort wanes, couples find themselves facing the big ‘D’—divorce. No one wants that outcome. Yet, many walk down the aisle with hope for forever, only to get distracted by the temptation of greener grass elsewhere. But the problem is that they're digging for gold in the wrong places. Picture this: It’s Black Friday, and everyone’s scouring the stores, hunting for the best deals, the quickest wins, the most immediate gratification....
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3895 Raising Kids with Kind Hearts
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Raising kids with kind hearts filled with gratitude feels like an uphill battle these days. It’s no secret that screens dominate their attention—heads buried in phones and tablets, tuning out the world around them. But it doesn't have to be this way. If we let kids do what they want with technology, many will struggle to grasp what it really means to be kind, respectful, and thankful. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . And here’s the tougher truth: parents aren’t always present either, caught up in their own whirlwind. If both sides...
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3894 The Letter of Thanksgiving
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Thanksgiving often nudges us to list the people we appreciate—the family, friends, mentors, colleagues. But this year, let’s flip the script. Before you reach out to thank another, consider turning your gratitude inward. What if today, the letter of thanksgiving you write is to yourself? Think about your year—not just the surface moments you flash back to, but the quiet stretches, the small triumphs, the unseen acts of kindness you offered without fanfare. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Where has your heart been whole? What parts of...
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3893 Gratitude Creates a Vision for Tomorrow
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Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denials into acceptance chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. ~ Melody Beattie Gratitude isn’t just about saying “thank you.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . There’s a subtle but powerful difference between being thankful and being grateful. Thankfulness happens in the mind — it’s the polite acknowledgment of something received. Think about the...
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3892 Leave Nothing Behind
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
The holidays can stir our hearts, drawing us closer to our thoughts. Don't let the busyness cloud what matters. Leave nothing behind. You are created for greatness! Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . This holiday season, don't let what you think you know be disguised as what matters. Give yourself that space and time. The K.I.S.S. ~ Leave nothing behind! Be brave. Be bold. Be courageous and make a decision to forgive, to love, to share a hug. Life is too precious. So leave nothing behind. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" ...
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3891 Create Margin To Do What Matters
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Far too often, we’re caught in a relentless cycle of “putting out fires” — responding to demands, answering endless messages, attending meetings that don’t move the needle. Our days are dictated by everyone else’s priorities. But what if that didn’t have to be your reality? What if you could break free and create margin to do what matters? Imagine this moment as a fork in the road. The old season is burning out, and you're stepping into a new one—one where you call the shots on your calendar and your energy. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join...
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3890 A Heart of Gratitude
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As the holiday season unfolds around us, the pull of distractions and pressures can easily divert our mind, body, and spirit from the path God desires. It’s a time when expectations run high, and focusing on what truly matters often feels like an uphill battle. But there is one simple yet powerful weapon we can wield to stay grounded: a heart of gratitude. Psalm 118:24 sets the tone perfectly: “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Each day is a gift from God,...
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3889 Whatever Happens, Choose Us
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The holiday season — a time when most expect joy and togetherness — often arrives wrapped in stress, tension, and expectations that feel impossible to meet. It’s no surprise that fights flare more frequently during this time, as couples get caught in a tug-of-war between family demands, unmet hopes, and sheer exhaustion. The mountain looks too huge to climb. But it doesn’t have to break you or your marriage. Because whatever happens, choose us. What have your holidays looked like before? Are you someone who wants to control everything to minimize the possible chaos? Desire to be...
info_outlineMarriage is often perceived as a partnership built on love, support, and shared experiences. But because life happens, it's easy to forget that there are two people in the marriage, more than 'I do.'
Yet, amidst the whirlwind of daily routines and responsibilities, it's easy to fall into the trap of assuming that taking care of one's spouse means taking charge of every situation.
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The person who believes they are looking out for their partner by constantly stepping in may unknowingly be creating barriers to true unity and connection in their relationship.
Where are you on this? Does it hit a little too close to home? Maybe you haven't given it any thought. No problem. Today, let's pay attention to what this brings up within you.
The struggle lies in the misguided notion that one's actions, decisions, and interventions are solely for the benefit of their spouse, without considering the importance of collaboration and shared decision-making.
By always assuming the role of the caretaker or the problem-solver, if you are this person, you are inadvertently robbing your partner of the opportunity to contribute, take the initiative, and feel valued as an equal participant in the marriage.
In this dynamic, the relationship becomes skewed, with one partner shouldering the burden of responsibility while the other is relegated to a passive role.
The person in charge, it may be you, might believe they are being selfless and protective, but in reality, you are denying your spouse the chance to express themselves, showcase their strengths, and actively engage in shaping your alls shared future.
Let's take it a step further. By constantly swooping in to "save the day," you could be communicating a lack of trust in your partner's abilities, undermining their confidence and sense of agency. The imbalance created by this dynamic can breed resentment, frustration, and a sense of disconnection, leading to simmering tensions and unspoken grievances that erode the foundation of the marriage. Let the bitterness build!
Ultimately, the person who believes they are caring for their spouse by shouldering all responsibilities is missing out on the beauty and richness of true partnership.
A healthy marriage thrives on mutual respect, reciprocity, and shared decision-making, where both of you are empowered to contribute your unique perspectives, strengths, and voices to the marriage.
So, how do you make the shift from "I" to "we" to rid the selfishness within the sacred soil of matrimony?
Rid the weeds so you can protect the roots!
The K.I.S.S. ~ Protect the R.O.O.T.S.!
It is only by creating space for both partners to step up, to collaborate, and to co-create their shared journey that a marriage can truly flourish. By letting go of control, embracing vulnerability, and fostering a spirit of teamwork, you can pave the way for a deeper, more authentic connection with your spouse based on trust, mutual support, and a shared sense of purpose.
ROOTS: Respect, Openness, Observation, Nourishment, Time, Support
1. RESPECT: Just as roots anchor and support a plant, respect forms the foundation of a healthy relationship. Respect your partner's thoughts, feelings, and boundaries, nurturing a sense of mutual appreciation and understanding.
"Respect is the cornerstone of every healthy relationship, fostering trust, understanding, and mutual admiration." - Kristianne Wargo
2. OPENNESS: Cultivate openness in your relationship, allowing emotions, communication, and vulnerability to flow freely like water nourishing the roots. Be receptive to your partner's needs and perspectives, fostering an environment of trust and transparency.
"In the garden of love, openness is the sunlight that nourishes growth, vulnerability, and authentic connection." - Kristianne Wargo
3. OBSERVATION: Practice active listening and observation, like the leaves of a plant absorbing sunlight for growth. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues, empathetically tuning into your partner's emotions and experiences.
"Through attentive observation, we hear not only the words spoken but the emotions left unsaid, creating a deeper bond in our relationships." - Kristianne Wargo
4. TIME: Just as a plant needs time to grow and flourish, relationships require patience, effort, and dedication. Invest time in your partnership, allowing it to deepen and strengthen over time, like roots growing deeper into the ground.
"Time is the silent gardener of love, tending to the roots of our relationship, allowing it to grow stronger with each passing moment." - Kristianne Wargo
5. SUPPORT: Offer support to your partner, like a trellis supporting a climbing vine. Create space for them to flourish, grow, and thrive, while also seeking support and collaboration in return.
"Like a sturdy trellis, support in a relationship provides space for growth, stability in times of need, and a foundation of unwavering love." - Kristianne Wargo
By tending to the R.O.O.T.S. – Respect, Openness, Observation, Time, Support – of your relationship, you can foster a deep, lasting connection rooted in mutual respect, empathy, and growth. Just as a plant flourishes with strong roots, your partnership will bloom and thrive when nourished, as plants receive fertilization with kindness, gratitude, and unconditional love.
Marriage is not just about saying "I do" but about living out the daily commitment to "we get to." By practicing active listening, empathy, and gratitude, you can shift the focus from "I" to "we" in your relationship, creating a harmonious and fulfilling union based on mutual respect, understanding, and love.
In the end, true love is not about fixing, rescuing, or controlling – it's about standing side by side, hand in hand, and embracing the beautiful messiness of life together, as equal partners in a dance of love, growth, and mutual respect.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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