3952 Are You Chasing the Wrong Part of the Heart?
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Release Date: 01/24/2026
3952 Are You Chasing the Wrong Part of the Heart?
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Marriage. A word that conjures images of bliss, partnership, and forever—but also confusion, frustration, and unexpected challenges. When two people say, “I do,” it isn’t just a promise to love; it’s an entry into a complicated dance of needs, expectations, and realities. And somewhere along the way, you might find yourself wondering: Are you chasing the wrong part of the heart? Let’s be real—too many people step into marriage thinking it’s all about them. They want their partner’s role to serve their needs, validate their feelings, and eliminate inconveniences. Desire to be...
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3951 Prepare the Way
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
When your children are little, parenting feels all-consuming. Overwhelm doesn't even seem like a fitting word, yet you’re hands-on from feeding to teaching to fixing. Every day is full of immediate needs, constant crisis management, and unconditional love sprinkled throughout. It’s easy to believe that how you prepare the way means just getting them through those early years. But then, they grow. They move into adolescence, young adulthood, and beyond—and suddenly the kind of parenting required shifts. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the...
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3950 Choose What You Carry Forward
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So much in life is left in the trenches of what we lost or what didn't make it. Success can leave scars as much as failures. But the sting is always greater when something does not go your way. Yet, that's not how your story gets to end. There is joy in the morning, and you get to choose what you carry forward. That choice isn’t because of how much you know or the wit you’ve picked up along the way—though those add richness to your journey. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s because your power lies in what you decide to hold...
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3949 Lean Into Leverage
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If you have a life where everything is perfectly aligned—ideal schedule, boundless energy, and endless resources—great. This isn’t for you. But for the rest of us? Especially when it comes to healthy living, the reality is messier, more complicated, and rarely perfect. So, instead of getting caught up in the magnitude of all the things 'health,' maybe it's all about how you lean into leverage. And not the leverage you are probably thinking of. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . That’s why chasing some ideal “health” picture rarely...
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3948 Play YOUR Game Always!
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle: where you’re going, what you need to do next, and—most dangerously—what everyone else is doing. When the pressure piles up, it’s tempting to look sideways, to compare your progress, your strategy, or your style to those around you. But if you want to reach places you haven’t been, you have to play YOUR game always! That means something simple yet incredibly powerful: show up as YOU every single day. No noise, no side distractions, no sneaky comparison traps. Just your game on your terms. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other...
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3947 Why Fear Is Not What's Holding You Back
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Fear has a sneaky way of showing up and rallying an entire battalion of emotions. Doubt, anxiety, indecision, frustration—they all line up behind fear, forming an invisible yet impenetrable wall that paralyzes you from moving forward. So, have you ever wondered why fear is not what's holding you back? When those wall feels high, your first instinct might be to bulldoze through with brute force. Push harder. Hustle nonstop. Throw all your energy at the problem until something breaks. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But here’s where most...
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3946 Find Peace in the Midst of Troubles
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Troubles come to all of us—and how we handle them defines our peace and effectiveness. Sarah Young’s insight from Jesus Calling drives this home: "Rehearsing your troubles results in experiencing them many times, whereas you are meant to go through them only when they actually occur." You can find peace in the midst of troubles. This truth challenges a common tendency—to ruminate on problems long before (or after) they happen, replaying them in our minds like a broken record. Instead, God calls us to a different way of handling struggle, a way rooted in trust, courage, and rest....
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3945 The Heartbeat of a Powerhouse Marriage
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Marriage isn’t about becoming one person. It’s about two whole individuals choosing to grow together in a way that creates something far stronger than the sum of its parts. But the reality? That kind of connection doesn’t come easy. It takes diligent, ongoing effort for each spouse to develop themselves as confident individuals, and then to intentionally build a relationship that thrives on shared purpose and deep connection. That's the heartbeat of a powerhouse marriage. Consider Dan and Joanne Miller. Dan Miller, the New York Times Best-Selling author who passed two years ago, left a...
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3944 Love Them More Than It Hurts
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Why do our children challenge us so much that it strangles our hearts? Raising kids is tough on parents; who cares about how the kids feel? Yet we deeply care about them. However, it's during those difficult times that we learn to love them more than it hurts. Raising kids is brutal sometimes. On the surface, it might seem like parents should just lay down the rules, set boundaries, and move on. But if it were that simple, parenting wouldn’t tear us up so deeply. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . So why do our kids challenge us in ways that...
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3943 Give Up What Doesn't Work
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Imagine this for a moment: You’re gearing up for the Super Bowl of your life. Every move calculated, every drill intentional, every moment optimized. Would you spend time doing things that don’t work—things that have brought you zero results? Of course not. You’d double down on what delivers every single time. So why not give up what doesn't work? So why, in the everyday game of life and business, do we cling so stubbornly to habits, strategies, or mindsets that have proven ineffective? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The...
info_outlineMarriage. A word that conjures images of bliss, partnership, and forever—but also confusion, frustration, and unexpected challenges. When two people say, “I do,” it isn’t just a promise to love; it’s an entry into a complicated dance of needs, expectations, and realities. And somewhere along the way, you might find yourself wondering: Are you chasing the wrong part of the heart?
Let’s be real—too many people step into marriage thinking it’s all about them. They want their partner’s role to serve their needs, validate their feelings, and eliminate inconveniences.
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Spoiler alert: That kind of mindset is a shortcut to loneliness, not connection.
So if marriage isn’t about one person’s selfish fulfillment, what is it really about?
You know what it's about, but let me remind you. It’s about two imperfect people coming together to choose each other every day, showing up with humility, effort, forgiving quickly, and a willingness to grow—not for themselves alone but for the we they’ve created.
If you keep buying into the myth that marriage is about getting what you want, at some point you’ll hit a wall. That wall usually comes calling when the glow of the honeymoon phase fades, and life’s responsibilities—work stress, kids, bills—all pile on.
That’s when you need a reality check: What part of the heart are you really chasing?
Are you after validation, control, convenience, or genuine connection? Identifying that is where the root of your troubles begins. Please note: if you are chasing the right part, then be willing to grow deeper in your marriage.
In marriage, you must learn to course-correct to go deeper.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Learn to course-correct to go deeper!
So, how do you course-correct before you lose your way? Here are three non-negotiable moves every spouse must make to avoid chasing the wrong part of your spouse's heart.
CAUTION: This is for people who are of sound mind, where abuse does not exist.
1. Quit Treating Your Spouse Like a Servant
Being married doesn’t mean you get a personal assistant for life's hard parts. If your love language sounds like “You owe me,” chances are you’re fueling resentment, not intimacy. Shift your focus from what you want to what you can give. Serve first, love second. It’s not poetic fluff—it’s the foundation of lasting respect, respect that is earned.
2. Make Vulnerability Your Strength, Not Weakness
Stop hiding behind silence or defensiveness. Real connection demands you risk showing your cracks, your flaws. When you lead with openness instead of blame or withdrawal, you invite your spouse into your true, whole heart. That invitation alone can thaw the coldest distance.
3. Remember: It’s “We,” Not “Me”
Married life is a joint venture with shared wins and losses. That means your happiness isn’t about extracting value from your partner—it’s about building something neither of you could achieve alone. This mindset shift rewires how you communicate, argue, and celebrate every victory, both big and small. Life is an adventure, so share it together!
But there is still a lingering question: Where’s the hope in your marriage?
In marriage, hope lives in the rejection of entitlement and the acceptance of collaboration. Hope is found in the daily choice to show up, listen deeply, and fight for each other instead of against each other. You are on the same team! It’s not glamorous; it’s gritty and often tedious—but it’s real, and it’s powerful.
If you’re feeling lost or stuck, don’t panic. Marriage is messy; growth is painful. But chasing the right part of the heart—the part that wants partnership, not possession—means your story isn’t over yet. It’s just getting real.
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Music by Mandisa - Overcomer
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Song Title: Overcomer
Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia
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