3952 Are You Chasing the Wrong Part of the Heart?
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Release Date: 01/24/2026
3979 How to Win Your Parenting Conversations
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Parenting isn’t about having the loudest voice in the room or the last word every time. It’s about precision, strategy, and understanding how every move impacts the next. You may be the expert, but be careful how you share the wisdom. Whether you want to admit it or not, you can learn how to win your parenting conversations better. In honor of the Olympics, I want you to think of your parenting conversations like the sport of Curling—where every stone you throw changes the "game," and success isn’t guaranteed just because you have the advantage. Desire to be supported and encouraged by...
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3978 Gain a Heart of Wisdom
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
In the rush of modern life, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. So much of our energy flows toward chasing someone else’s dream, trying to fit into others’ expectations, or simply surviving the relentless pace of day-to-day routines. Consider the timeless words from Psalm 90:12 ~ “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” What does it mean to number our days? It’s not some grim countdown or morbid fixation. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s an invitation to live each day with...
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3977 Plant Your Patience
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
In the relentless rush of daily life, it’s easy to feel like we’re sprinting on a treadmill set to max speed, chasing the next goal, the next move, the next achievement—only to end up overwhelmed, exhausted, and stuck in a loop of what we didn’t get done. That constant hurry doesn’t just steal time; it steals clarity, joy, and the chance to grow something meaningful. What if, instead of rushing, you plant your patience? What if you slowed down, dug deep, and gave yourself the permission to nurture progress with care—not speed? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other...
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3976 Come Back to Center
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
There’s no shortage of promises out there, like tools, trends, gurus, and hacks, where each one claims they can flip your life upside down or side-step you straight to success. But just because something is out there flashing like a neon sign does not mean you should use it, follow it, or whatever with it. It's not necessarily meant for you. However, the real power lies in peeling back all that noise and coming back to what is true; come back to center. This isn’t about swallowing the half-truths that momentarily trick you into thinking you know what’s next or forcing yourself into a...
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3975 The Power of Silence
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Our lives are flooded with noise—incessant messages screaming for attention, endless notifications begging for a glance, countless demands pulling us in every direction. It’s no wonder we feel confused and disoriented, overwhelmed by the mass of distractions that invade even a single hour. Take a moment and absorb the power of silence. Now it's hard to be still in silence. Think about how many alerts, emails, texts, and tasks are stacking up in that tiny slice of time? Usually, we bite off more than we can chew—and then get choked up by the pressure of what’s next. Desire to be...
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3974 Love On Purpose
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Valentine’s weekend invites us to think about love—the kind that fills our hearts and shapes our relationships. But far too often, we get stuck in the world’s limited view of love: conditional, transactional, and filtered through our own failures and insecurities. God’s love, however, breaks every mold. His love is unconditional, relentless, and sees beyond our flaws. And then, He calls us to love others the same way. Love on purpose. Yet as we know, it’s easy to judge others based on our own shortcomings. We carry unhealed wounds, past hurts, and false beliefs about how people...
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3973 The Sweetness that Melts the Heart
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
When you hear “sweetness” in love, your mind probably jumps straight to chocolates, flowers, and sparkly gifts. That’s the story commercials love to tell us—the more you spend, the brighter your love shines. But the sweetness that melts the heart isn’t wrapped in paper or tagged with a price. It’s something far rarer, deeper, and more powerful. The real sweetness comes from that raw, vulnerable place inside—the one that says, “I see you. I choose you. I cherish what’s only ours.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s...
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3972 You Make My Heart So Happy!
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Valentine’s Day comes around each year like clockwork, bringing with it the usual swirl of red hearts, chocolates, and flowers. But for a mom, these symbols of love can sometimes feel surface-level, like they’re missing the real heartbeat beneath all the glitter and sugar. Because the truth is, the kind of love that fills a mother’s chest isn’t wrapped up neatly in a box or tied with a bow. It’s messy, wild, tender, and deeply personal. It’s found in late-night cuddles, scraped knees comforted, and whispered “I love you’s” that echo long after bedtime—you make my heart so...
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3971 You Can’t Have Everything—And That’s Okay!
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It’s all too easy to feel crushed when things don't appear to be going our way. We want immediate results with little to no effort. But the reality is, you can’t have everything—and that’s okay! Because if you did have everything, you’d be perfect. And that would change everything, not just for you but for the world. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Let's take a bite out of the for a hot minute. Perfection would freeze you in place, robbing you of growth, struggle, and the raw humanity that shapes your unique story. Now you might...
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3970 How You Create Your Now Shapes Every Tomorrow
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Nobody’s perfect. You won’t nail everything every single day, and you sure won’t do it perfectly every hour. But perfection isn’t the point. Intentionality is. How you create your now shapes every tomorrow. Your “now,” the way you choose to spend your minutes and moments, is the wellspring of your entire life. You build your everyday out of small, consistent decisions. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Some move you closer to where you want to be. Others hold you back, even if you don’t realize it. Good habits don’t appear...
info_outlineMarriage. A word that conjures images of bliss, partnership, and forever—but also confusion, frustration, and unexpected challenges. When two people say, “I do,” it isn’t just a promise to love; it’s an entry into a complicated dance of needs, expectations, and realities. And somewhere along the way, you might find yourself wondering: Are you chasing the wrong part of the heart?
Let’s be real—too many people step into marriage thinking it’s all about them. They want their partner’s role to serve their needs, validate their feelings, and eliminate inconveniences.
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Spoiler alert: That kind of mindset is a shortcut to loneliness, not connection.
So if marriage isn’t about one person’s selfish fulfillment, what is it really about?
You know what it's about, but let me remind you. It’s about two imperfect people coming together to choose each other every day, showing up with humility, effort, forgiving quickly, and a willingness to grow—not for themselves alone but for the we they’ve created.
If you keep buying into the myth that marriage is about getting what you want, at some point you’ll hit a wall. That wall usually comes calling when the glow of the honeymoon phase fades, and life’s responsibilities—work stress, kids, bills—all pile on.
That’s when you need a reality check: What part of the heart are you really chasing?
Are you after validation, control, convenience, or genuine connection? Identifying that is where the root of your troubles begins. Please note: if you are chasing the right part, then be willing to grow deeper in your marriage.
In marriage, you must learn to course-correct to go deeper.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Learn to course-correct to go deeper!
So, how do you course-correct before you lose your way? Here are three non-negotiable moves every spouse must make to avoid chasing the wrong part of your spouse's heart.
CAUTION: This is for people who are of sound mind, where abuse does not exist.
1. Quit Treating Your Spouse Like a Servant
Being married doesn’t mean you get a personal assistant for life's hard parts. If your love language sounds like “You owe me,” chances are you’re fueling resentment, not intimacy. Shift your focus from what you want to what you can give. Serve first, love second. It’s not poetic fluff—it’s the foundation of lasting respect, respect that is earned.
2. Make Vulnerability Your Strength, Not Weakness
Stop hiding behind silence or defensiveness. Real connection demands you risk showing your cracks, your flaws. When you lead with openness instead of blame or withdrawal, you invite your spouse into your true, whole heart. That invitation alone can thaw the coldest distance.
3. Remember: It’s “We,” Not “Me”
Married life is a joint venture with shared wins and losses. That means your happiness isn’t about extracting value from your partner—it’s about building something neither of you could achieve alone. This mindset shift rewires how you communicate, argue, and celebrate every victory, both big and small. Life is an adventure, so share it together!
But there is still a lingering question: Where’s the hope in your marriage?
In marriage, hope lives in the rejection of entitlement and the acceptance of collaboration. Hope is found in the daily choice to show up, listen deeply, and fight for each other instead of against each other. You are on the same team! It’s not glamorous; it’s gritty and often tedious—but it’s real, and it’s powerful.
If you’re feeling lost or stuck, don’t panic. Marriage is messy; growth is painful. But chasing the right part of the heart—the part that wants partnership, not possession—means your story isn’t over yet. It’s just getting real.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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Music by Mandisa - Overcomer
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Song Title: Overcomer
Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia
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