Compromise is the Enemy of Curiosity: The Best Way to Resolve Conflict
Release Date: 11/12/2024
How to See Infinite Possibilities Instead of Limited Options
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“I had no choice”, “this is how it has to be”, and “it is what it is” - for some people these aren’t just statements, these are the basis of their entire reality. Rather than seeing themselves as architects with a wealth of choices to shape their lives, they feel resigned to the idea that things are fixed just as they are. No alternatives and no changes. This way of thinking goes back to the same place: the old stories we run in our minds become the cages that limit our own lives. It’s like we’re sitting in a container that shrinks our possibilities, but we...
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A Symphony Within: The Dance Between Energy, Mass, and Space w/ Gay Hendricks
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Are we mass, energy or space? That’s the question many have pondered time and time again. The answer: we’re all 3 at the same time. We are not just bodies of mass, though we feel the weight of our flesh, the solidity of our bones. Beneath this, there is a huge symphonic panorama inside of us, and when we tap into it, we can experience true healing and freedom. Often we focus on the mass aspect of existence, but the energetic aspect has a lot more power. The ever-shifting flow of energy that rises and falls within us expresses itself as emotion, movement, and sensation. The rush...
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Willingness, Not Willpower: The Secret to Generating Endless Energy
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The energy of connection knows no limitations. It has the ability to shift us from tired to fully engaged in seconds. It creates a magical space of discovery and joy where there was none. It also creates aliveness, and a limitless resource of energy that regenerates constantly. How do we find this energy for ourselves and tap into it? Accessing the energy of connection starts with a willingness, not a will. When we will ourselves to do something we’re forcing the energy, and that won’t create connection or engagement. Willingness, on the other hand, is a soft step into something beautiful,...
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The Age of Aquarius: A Collective Cosmic Shift Toward Unyielding Love w/ Danny Santos
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As we shift from the Age of Pisces to the Age of Aquarius, we are living through one of the most significant transitions in our lifetime - a collective rebirth that will define the next 20 years and beyond. This is a time of cosmic realignment, where the old structures of power, control, and perfectionism are being dismantled. On a collective level, we’re being called to yield to love in all its dimensions. The energy sweeping the world is one of devotion, forgiveness, surrender, redemption and the ending of cycles. This is the astrological weather, and we’re all feeling it. All signs of...
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When Yes Becomes No: How to Back Out of An Agreement
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Have you ever said yes to so many things and then realize you’ve overcommitted and now have way too much on your plate? Or maybe you agreed to something and then your circumstances changed and you just don’t have the bandwidth for it anymore? Or perhaps an initial ‘yes’ is now slowly morphing into a ‘no’ now that you have more info… Noticing and voicing a change in agreement is something a lot of people struggle with - something we really have to practice to maintain and increase our aliveness. We might feel guilty about wanting to change things up, or just decide to go through...
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From Dysfunction to Delight: How to Remap Your Relationship Template
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You meet someone, start a relationship thinking “this is something new”...and then it turns out to be the same old pattern repeating itself. What gives? Everyone seeks relationships that nourish them - we want to be with people who love us, see us, make us feel safe, and to be regarded with value and appreciation. But so many of us keep finding ourselves in dysfunctional relationships and end up picking the same type of people over and over again. How do we break this cycle and learn to pick the right people for us? How do we even end up this way in the first place? Well…who we pick will...
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The Upper Limit: How to Embrace Success Without Apology
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Being told “don't be too much”, “don’t be full of yourself”, or “how dare you earn great money doing what you love?” Only looking for what’s wrong in your appearance. Feeling strange and squirmy when we get a compliment. Diminishing the accomplishments we should happily celebrate or even apologizing when we do something well. Achieving something amazing and then sabotaging yourself right after. These are all manifestations of The Upper Limit Problem, and in many ways, it’s the biggest problem almost all people face. At the heart of this issue is our inability to hold more...
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A Season of Wisdom and Wonder: Unwrapping Inspiration from Our Favorite People
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In this wonderful, essence-filled space we’ve created with this podcast, we’ve been joined by some of our favorite people to Be, Play and Love with us! Our guests gave us the gift of their presence and we’re so excited to share that with you as a present of our own this festive season. It has been so delightful to share this space with you and our visitors, and experience first-hand, the powerful wisdom and insights that emerged. An actress brimming with creativity. Business leaders who are choosing to play at work. An author who decided to stand in what she’s good at, and an expert on...
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How to Engage in the Holidays Without Abandoning Yourself
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Holidays and family gatherings are the ultimate test of our ability to be with ourselves, and how well we’ve healed from our personal difficulties. When people come together, it triggers all sorts of challenges - unspoken tensions and tribal rules, old behavioral patterns, and people acting out because they can’t express their own wants. In these environments, it’s really easy to get outside of ourselves and get swept up by the drama of the dynamic, and stay there until it depletes us…but it doesn’t have to be that way. There’s a way for us to stay in equilibrium and circulate our...
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How to Stop Saying Yes When You Mean No
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The word “no” is two simple letters, but it’s one of the hardest things to say, especially for women. We’re taught to always be agreeable, accommodating and automatically say yes to anything we’re asked to do. That’s why people can go their whole lives without actually knowing how to say ‘no’. So our default answer is “oh sure” or “yes, of course” even if it’s to our own detriment. Our place of ‘no’ is already inside us, we just have to find it and vocalize it in order to release our genuine power. It might feel unfamiliar, and we may have to practice at first,...
info_outlineWhen two or more people find themselves at the crossroads of a fundamental decision, the advice they are often given is to compromise.
But compromise doesn’t actually lead to a solution that fulfills everyone. More often than not, it leaves both sides feeling like they got robbed, and it kills the connection necessary to come up with something better.
Good news - even in the most seemingly impossible choice, there is an option that honors everyone. Our “either/or” society doesn’t teach us to look for it, so we’re constantly working with limited creative possibilities when so much more is accessible.
When we bring curiosity into the space and lead with a willingness to resolve, that’s when we access the many other options that serve everyone better.
How do we clear the emotional debris that makes it hard to access the creative possibilities? Why are so many people okay with small talk, even if it drains their aliveness?
In this episode, we talk about how to shift from either/or choices into conversations and solutions that truly honor and fulfill everyone.
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Deep wounds create defensiveness
When people have to navigate a fundamental difference, it’s common to refuse to budge and come up with a better solution. Does this actually point to a deeply rooted wound that goes back to our formative years?
-The real reason people talk about the weather
Small talk is so easy for some people, they can talk about nothing for hours. Why is it comfortable to some and irritating to others? What drives the need for small talk?
-The great power of a genuine conversation
Small talk doesn’t nourish us in any way. How do we invite conversations that allow people to unleash their authenticity?