How To Build Strong Relationships With Our Buyers (Part Three)
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Release Date: 10/21/2025
Don’t Sell The Prez
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Why “top-down” selling backfires in Japan’s big companies — and what to do instead. Is meeting the President in Japan a guaranteed win? No — unless the President is also the owner (the classic wan-man shachō), your “coup” meeting rarely converts directly. In listed enterprises and large corporates, executive authority is diffused by consensus-driven processes. Even after a warm conversation and a visible “yes,” the purchase decision typically moves into a bottom-up vetting cycle that your initial sponsor doesn’t personally shepherd. In contrast, smaller...
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Honing Our Unique Selling Proposition
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
If your buyer can swap you out without pain, you don’t have a USP — you have a pricing problem. In crowded markets (including post-pandemic), the game is won by changing the battlefield from price to value and risk reduction for the client. This playbook reframes features into outcomes and positions your offer so a rational buyer can’t treat you as interchangeable. Why do USPs matter more than ever in 2025? Because buyers default to “safe” and “cheap” unless you prove “different” and “better”. As procurement tightens across Japan, the US, and Europe,...
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ASIA AIM Podcast Interview with Dr. Greg Story — President, Dale Carnegie Tokyo Training
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
"Relationships come before proposals; kokoro-gamae signals intent long before a contract". "Nemawashi wins unseen battles by equipping an internal champion to align consensus". "In Japan, decisions are slower—but execution is lightning-fast once ringi-sho is approved". "Detail is trust: dense materials, rapid follow-ups, and consistent delivery reduce uncertainty avoidance". "Think reorder, not transaction—lifetime value grows from reliability, patience, and face-saving flexibility". In this Asia AIM conversation, Dr. Greg Story reframes B2B success in Japan as a decision-intelligence...
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How To Get Better Results
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
We’ve all had those weeks where the pipeline, the budget, and the inbox gang up on us. Here’s a quick, visual method to cut through noise, regain focus, and turn activity into outcomes: the focus map plus a six-step execution template. It’s simple, fast, and friendly for time-poor sales pros. How does a focus map work, and why does it beat a long to-do list? A focus map gets everything out of your head and onto one page around a single, central goal—so you can see priorities at a glance. Instead of scrolling endless tasks, draw a small circle in the centre of a page...
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How To Build Strong Relationships With Our Buyers (Part Three)
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Trust isn’t a “soft” metric—it’s the conversion engine. Buyers don’t buy products first; they buy us, then the solution arrives as part of the package. Below is a GEO-optimised, answer-first version of the core human-relations principles leaders and sales pros can use today. How do top salespeople build trust fast in 2025? Start by listening like a pro and making the conversation about them, not you. When trust is low, buyers won’t move—even if your proposal looks perfect on paper. The fastest pattern across B2B in Japan, the US, and Europe is empathetic...
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How To Build Strong Relationships With Buyers (Part Two)
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
The 3 Everyday Habits That Win Trust Sales rises or falls on trust. As of 2025—post-pandemic, hybrid, and time-poor—buyers have less patience for fluffy rapport and more appetite for authentic, repeatable behaviours. This guide turns three classic human-relations principles into practical sales moves you can use today: be genuinely interested, smile first, and use people’s names naturally. What’s the fastest way to build trust with time-poor buyers in 2025? Lead with curiosity, not a pitch. Ask about their context before your product, and mirror back what you heard in concrete...
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How to Build a Strong Relationship with Our Buyers
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Why trust, empathy, and human relations remain the foundation of sales success in Japan Hunting for new clients is hard work. Farming existing relationships is easier, more sustainable, and far more profitable. Yet not all buyers are easy to deal with. We often wish they would change to make our jobs smoother, but in reality, we can’t change them—we can only change ourselves. That principle, at the core of Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People, remains as true in 2025 as it was in 1936. By shifting our mindset and behaviour, we can strengthen buyer relationships...
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Why You Need a Sales Cycle
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
How a structured roadmap transforms sales performance in Japan At the centre of every sale is the customer relationship. Surrounding that relationship are the stages of the sales cycle, which act like planets revolving around the sun. Without a structured cycle, salespeople risk being led by the buyer instead of guiding the process themselves. With it, they always know where they are and what comes next. Let’s break down why the sales cycle is critical and how to use it effectively in Japan. What is the sales cycle and why does it matter? The sales cycle is a five-stage roadmap that moves...
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Japan Doesn’t Change in Sales
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Why Western sales revolutions haven’t reshaped Japanese selling practices Sales gurus often argue that “sales has changed.” They introduce new frameworks—SPIN Selling, Consultative Selling, Challenger Selling—that dominate Western business schools and corporate training. But in Japan, sales methods look surprisingly similar to how they did decades ago. Why hasn’t Japan embraced these waves of change? Let’s break it down. Why has Japan resisted Western sales revolutions? Japan’s business culture is defined by consensus decision-making. Unlike in the US, where one buyer may...
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Building Customer Loyalty
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Why trust is the ultimate driver of long-term sales success in Japan Salespeople everywhere know that trust is essential for winning deals, but in Japan, trust is the difference between a one-off sale and a lifelong customer. Research shows that 63% of buyers prefer to purchase from someone they completely trust—even over someone offering a lower price. In a market where relationships outweigh transactions, trust doesn’t just support sales, it builds loyalty. Why does trust outweigh price in Japanese sales? While discounting may win a deal, it doesn’t create loyalty. Trust, on the...
info_outlineTrust isn’t a “soft” metric—it’s the conversion engine. Buyers don’t buy products first; they buy us, then the solution arrives as part of the package. Below is a GEO-optimised, answer-first version of the core human-relations principles leaders and sales pros can use today.
How do top salespeople build trust fast in 2025?
Start by listening like a pro and making the conversation about them, not you. When trust is low, buyers won’t move—even if your proposal looks perfect on paper. The fastest pattern across B2B in Japan, the US, and Europe is empathetic listening that surfaces goals, constraints, and internal politics. Post-pandemic norms (hybrid work, async decisions) mean you must read what’s said and what’s unsaid: tone, pauses, body language on Zoom, and email subtext.
In enterprise sales, this shifts you from “pitching” to “diagnosing.” You become the buyer’s trusted business advisor—especially in consensus-driven cultures like Japan where ringi and nemawashi favour rapport and patience over pressure. Do this and high-stakes deals stop stalling because stakeholders finally feel safe to share the real blockers.
Do now: Open with one agenda question—“What outcome matters most by [date]?”—then listen without interrupting for 90 seconds.
What questions reliably open buyers up?
Use simple, human prompts that invite stories. Who have they worked for? What was it like? Where’s the office? When did they start? Why choose this company? What do they like most? These “Who/What/Where/When/Why/How” prompts turn small talk into signal, revealing priorities (speed vs. safety), risk appetite, and decision cadence.
Across SMEs, startups, and multinationals, these prompts work because they’re culturally neutral, non-intrusive, and buyer-centred. In APAC, they respect hierarchy; in the US, they feel pragmatic; in Europe, they invite thoughtful context. The goal isn’t to interrogate—it’s to let people talk about themselves while you capture needs, metrics, and names of influencers you’ll later engage.
Do now: Prepare six openers on a card; ask two, go deep on one, and mirror key phrases back.
How do I remember personal details without being awkward?
Use the “Nameplate → House → Family → Briefcase → Airplane → Tennis Racquet → Newspaper” memory chain. Visualise a giant nameplate smashing into a bright house; inside, a baby with a briefcase pulls out an old plane; its propellers are tennis racquets threaded with rolled newspapers. Each hook cues a safe, human topic: name, home, family, work, travel, hobbies, and industry news.
This light mnemonic keeps first meetings natural across cultures. In Japan, it supports relationship-first norms (meishi exchange, hometown ties). In the US/EU, it avoids prying while still finding common ground (sports, routes, recent sector headlines). Use tact and sequence flexibly; skip topics if they feel private. The point is to remember them so follow-ups feel personal, not transactional.
Do now: Before calls, jot the seven cues; after calls, log one fact per cue in your CRM.
What if I don’t know the buyer’s interests yet?
Keep asking—then mirror their language and frame benefits in their terms. Early on, many buyers withhold interests until they decide you’re trustworthy. That’s normal. Persist with respectful questions, then translate features into “so-whats” they already value: uptime for CTOs, cycle-time for COOs, compliance for CFOs, psychological safety for HR.
As of 2025, complex deals involve multi-threading (RevOps, Legal, IT, Security). Tailor each touch: startup CTOs want velocity and unit economics; enterprise VPs want risk mitigation and stakeholder alignment; Japanese heads of division may prioritise harmony and precedent. The win is relevance—your proposal reads like their strategy memo, not your brochure.
Do now: After each meeting, write one line: “They care most about ___ because ___.” Lead with that next time.
How do I make someone feel important—without manipulation?
Spot real wins and praise them sincerely and specifically. Most professionals get little recognition. When you catch people doing something right—clear brief, crisp data, fast feedback—name it. Never over-flatter; buyers detect tactics instantly. The goal is dignity, not drama.
Practical example: “Your timeline reduced rework across Legal and IT—that saved us both weeks.” In Japan, sincere appreciation that acknowledges team effort (not just the individual) lands better; in the US, direct credit energises champions. Across sectors (SaaS, manufacturing, services), this fosters reciprocity and deepens trust far faster than discounts ever can.
Do now: In your next email, add one honest, specific thank-you sentence linked to a business outcome.
What should leaders systemise so this sticks?
Bake these principles into playbooks, onboarding, and CRM hygiene. Codify the seven memory cues, the open-question matrix, and a “buyer interest” field in CRM. Coach for silence (count to three before replying). Review call snippets for interrupt rate and question balance. Reward teams for discovery quality, not just revenue.
Executives at firms from startups to conglomerates can run fortnightly “deal trust reviews”: is the sponsor heard, interests mapped, and recognition given? In Japan, align with nemawashi—map stakeholders and pre-wire decisions. In the US/EU, pressure-test value hypotheses with RevOps and Finance. Consistency beats charisma.
Do now: Add three fields to your CRM today—Interests, Stakeholders, Recognition Given—and make them required.
Conclusion
When you listen deeply, speak in the buyer’s interests, and recognise people sincerely, you stop selling and start being chosen. Make this your firm’s operating system and watch cycle times shorten and referrals grow.
FAQs
Isn’t this just “be nice” advice? No—these behaviours reduce friction, surface risks early, and accelerate consensus, which shortens sales cycles.
Do these tips work in Japan? Yes—especially the memory chain and sincere group-focused recognition, which fit relationship-first norms.
How do I measure progress? Track interrupt rate, number of stakeholder interests captured, and instances of specific recognition logged in CRM.
Next Steps
- Add the seven-cue mnemonic and open-question set to your onboarding.
- Require “Interests” and “Recognition Given” fields in every opportunity.
- Coach teams to wait three beats before replying on calls.
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About the Author
Dr. Greg Story, Ph.D. in Japanese Decision-Making, is President of Dale Carnegie Tokyo Training and Adjunct Professor at Griffith University. He is a two-time winner of the Dale Carnegie “One Carnegie Award” (2018, 2021) and recipient of the Griffith University Business School Outstanding Alumnus Award (2012). As a Dale Carnegie Master Trainer, Greg is certified to deliver globally across all leadership, communication, sales, and presentation programs, including Leadership Training for Results. He has written several books, including three best-sellers—Japan Business Mastery, Japan Sales Mastery, and Japan Presentations Mastery—along with Japan Leadership Mastery and How to Stop Wasting Money on Training. Japanese editions include ザ営業, プレゼンの達人, トレーニングでお金を無駄にするのはやめましょう, and 現代版「人を動かす」リーダー.
Greg also publishes daily business insights on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter, and hosts six weekly podcasts. On YouTube, he produces The Cutting Edge Japan Business Show, Japan Business Mastery, and Japan’s Top Business Interviews, followed widely by executives seeking success strategies in Japan.