The Truth About Changing Your Name After Divorce: The Emotional and Professional Reality
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
Release Date: 07/01/2025
It's Not Just Us: The Reality of Blending Families
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
In this episode, Tony and Dr. Lisa share their candid experiences and insights on blending lives later in life. They discuss the complexities of merging personalities, pasts, and family dynamics, offering practical advice and heartfelt stories for those navigating similar journeys. Key Topics The emotional and logistical challenges of blending families after age 40 The importance of understanding existing relationship and parenting dynamics How to identify your role—supporting actor, co-star, or guest—in a blended family Personal stories from Lisa about participating in a podcast...
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Why Good People Struggle to Receive Love — Breaking Barriers to Healthy Relationships
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
In this episode, Tony and Dr. Lisa explore why even the best, most consistent people often struggle to accept love. They uncover the emotional blocks that prevent many from opening their hearts and share practical insights to foster vulnerability and healing. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the episode and the topic of love and vulnerability 00:14 - Celebrating life and love milestones in Aruba 01:13 - Why good people remain single despite doing "all the right things" 01:43 - Exploring the root causes: fear of love, past hurts, and internal barriers 02:21 - How past experiences shape...
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Why Do Good People End Up Alone?
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
Tony and Dr. Lisa explore why good, committed people often find themselves alone despite their qualities and morals. This episode dives into the complexities of compatibility, timing, and self-awareness in the pursuit of love. Timestamps: 00:37 - Introducing the question: Why or are good people alone? 0:56 - Defining what makes someone "good" and why that doesn't guarantee relationship success 1:54 - The difference between being a good person and being a good partner 2:24 - The impact of compatibility versus morals and values 4:16 - The importance of alignment in values and emotional needs...
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Are Good Men Really Tired Of Dating After 40?
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the often-overlooked struggles men face in midlife dating. They discuss how emotional wounds from divorce, financial setbacks, and societal expectations leave many good men feeling exhausted and cautious about new relationships. The hosts emphasize the importance of clear communication, mutual support, and creating intentional spaces—like their mixers—for mature singles to connect authentically. They encourage both men and women to be open, patient, and honest, reminding listeners that it’s never too late to find real love...
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Why Is It So Hard for Great Singles Over 40 to Find Each Other?
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore why successful, emotionally intelligent singles over 40 often struggle to find each other. They discuss how established routines, protective attitudes toward personal peace, and past heartbreaks can make meeting new partners challenging. The hosts emphasize the importance of intentional socializing, mindset shifts, and openness to positive disruption. They also highlight the need for compatibility and shared values, and share their own experiences, including hosting mature mixers to help singles connect in relaxed, authentic...
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Secure Your Second Chance: Estate Planning and Legacy Building
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
In this episode, attorney Laurie Thomas Williams shares vital insights on protecting your wealth and legacy no matter where you are in life but especially after rebuilding your life following divorce or a second marriage. Learn practical steps, common pitfalls, and how to plan intentionally for peace of mind and financial security. Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Protecting what you’ve rebuilt 03:42 - Starting over: The importance of legal and financial planning 05:24 - Challenges faced by midlife remarriages and blended families 08:13 - The risks of neglecting...
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Unlocking Emotional Freedom: April Nowlin's Guide To Love
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
In this episode of the Saying Yes Again podcast, hosts Dr. Lisa Herbert and Tony welcome April Nowlin, a certified relationship coach, speaker, and author. The conversation delves into April's personal journey through heartbreak and divorce, which ultimately led her to help others navigate their own relationship challenges. You can connect with April and on all social media
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It's Not Too Late: You're Right On Time
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
This conversation explores the journey of finding love after 40, emphasizing that it's never too late to seek meaningful relationships. Dr. Lisa and Tony discuss the mindset shifts necessary for those over 40, the historical context of relationships, and the advantages of maturity in dating. Key themes include emotional availability, the importance of knowing oneself, and the transition from chasing to choosing relationships. The discussion encourages listeners to embrace their experiences and wisdom as they navigate the dating landscape. Chapters 00:00 Embracing Love After 40 03:29 Historical...
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Saying Yes Again: Our 2025 Journey & Our Outlook on Love and Midlife
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Tony reflect on the journey of the podcast throughout 2025, expressing gratitude for the growth and community engagement. The conversation explores key themes such as healing from emotional baggage, defining non-negotiables in relationships, and the importance of flexibility in love. They celebrate the impact of their podcast on listeners and emphasize the need to spread hope and redefine love as they look forward to 2026, with aspirations for deeper conversations and guest appearances.
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Career Woman or Love Life: The Myth You Been Sold
Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
In this conversation, Dr. Lisa Herbert and Tony discuss the myth that women must choose between a successful career and a fulfilling love life. They explore societal expectations, the double standards faced by women, and the real conflict of energy and availability in relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of making intentional choices, cultivating emotional maturity, and forming supportive partnerships in achieving both career success and love. The episode encourages women to pursue their ambitions without guilt and emphasizes the importance of open communication in...
info_outlineIn this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the emotional and practical journey of changing one’s name after divorce and remarriage, especially for women over 50. Dr. Lisa shares her personal experience of reclaiming her maiden name while embracing her new identity with Tony. The hosts discuss societal expectations, the impact on family and professional life, and offer practical advice for navigating the process. They encourage open communication, self-reflection, and seeking support, reminding listeners that rediscovering identity is a personal journey worth embracing at any age.
Introduction and Episode Theme (00:00:01) Hosts introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and rediscovering identity after 50.
Name Change as Part of Identity (00:01:04) Dr. Lisa introduces the topic of name changes after divorce and remarriage, especially for women.
Dr. Lisa’s Personal Name Change Journey (00:03:24) Dr. Lisa shares her experience of changing her name after marriage, keeping it after divorce, and the emotions involved.
Emotional Aspects of Name Change (00:05:19) Discussion about the emotional weight and identity tied to one’s name, including professional and family connections.
Mixed Emotions and Digital Footprint (00:08:27) Exploring the mixed feelings, digital identity, and the sense of loss or renewal that comes with changing a name.
Options for Name Changes (00:11:21) Overview of choices women have: keeping, hyphenating, reverting to maiden name, or creating a new name.
Dr. Lisa’s Decision and Process (00:13:57) Dr. Lisa explains her choice to resume her maiden name and add her new husband’s name, and the slow transition process.
Reactions from Friends, Family, and Colleagues (00:15:28) Feedback and support received from social media, friends, and professional contacts regarding her name change.
Practical Steps and Paperwork (00:17:54) Details on the practical aspects: updating legal documents, professional licenses, and the overwhelming nature of the process.
Impact on Relationships (00:19:33) Considerations for how name changes affect children, spouses, friends, and the importance of communication.
Advice for Navigating Name Change (00:24:45) Practical tips: take your time, test drive the new name, list pros and cons, and talk to others for support.
Legal Disclaimer and Professional Advice (00:30:23) Reminder that hosts are not attorneys and listeners should seek professional legal advice for name changes.
Closing Reflections and Podcast Outro (00:31:43) Final thoughts on the journey, encouragement to follow the podcast, and invitation for topic suggestions.