Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.
Finding love after 50 isn’t just possible—it can be the most exciting chapter of your life. Hosted by Dr. Lisa and her husband Tony, Saying Yes Again shares real conversations, personal stories, and practical advice for navigating dating, relationships, and self-discovery after divorce. From rebuilding confidence and embracing vulnerability to trying dating apps for the first time and blending families, we explore what it means to love—and live—fearlessly in midlife. Whether you’re reentering the dating world, searching for companionship, or redefining what you want from love, this show gives you the insight, encouragement, and inspiration you need. Get ready for heartfelt discussions, expert tips, and a few laughs along the way. Because saying “yes” again isn’t just about finding the right partner—it’s about saying yes to yourself, your joy, and your second chance at love.
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It's Not Just Us: The Reality of Blending Families
05/06/2026
It's Not Just Us: The Reality of Blending Families
In this episode, Tony and Dr. Lisa share their candid experiences and insights on blending lives later in life. They discuss the complexities of merging personalities, pasts, and family dynamics, offering practical advice and heartfelt stories for those navigating similar journeys. Key Topics The emotional and logistical challenges of blending families after age 40 The importance of understanding existing relationship and parenting dynamics How to identify your role—supporting actor, co-star, or guest—in a blended family Personal stories from Lisa about participating in a podcast pitch contest and the value of putting yourself out there The significance of validation and exposure in pursuing creative and personal goals Tips for maintaining individuality while building a new shared life The impact of emotional baggage and past relationships on current partnerships Preparing for and managing expectations with stepparenting and new family roles Timestamps 00:00 - The joys and challenges of loving and blending lives later in life 00:10 - Exploring what it really means to integrate into a partner’s existing family structure 00:38 - Lisa shares her experience at the Black Effect Podcast Summit and the power of stepping out of comfort zones 01:09 - Celebrating small wins: The journey from pitching a podcast to gaining exposure 01:33 - The significance of validation in creative pursuits and personal growth 01:58 - The role of existing relationship dynamics in blended families 02:27 - Personal stories: Overcoming fears and embracing opportunities 02:57 - The importance of community and recognition in pursuing goals 03:23 - How life experiences shape our approach to blending families 03:53 - Final reflections on navigating love and family in later years Follow us on Learn more about us Follow us on , for our Love and Confidence in Dating Coaching Program starting May 27th.
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Why Good People Struggle to Receive Love — Breaking Barriers to Healthy Relationships
04/24/2026
Why Good People Struggle to Receive Love — Breaking Barriers to Healthy Relationships
In this episode, Tony and Dr. Lisa explore why even the best, most consistent people often struggle to accept love. They uncover the emotional blocks that prevent many from opening their hearts and share practical insights to foster vulnerability and healing. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the episode and the topic of love and vulnerability 00:14 - Celebrating life and love milestones in Aruba 01:13 - Why good people remain single despite doing "all the right things" 01:43 - Exploring the root causes: fear of love, past hurts, and internal barriers 02:21 - How past experiences shape current ability to accept love 03:15 - The danger of overanalyzing and pulling back when love gets close 04:15 - The pain of love that wasn't reciprocated and emotional scars 05:15 - Self-sabotage and the fear of vulnerability 06:14 - Recognizing signs: paranoia, overthinking, pulling away 07:14 - Choosing the wrong partners and controlling the relationship process 08:14 - The need for trust and surrender in love 09:14 - Control as a defense mechanism and its impact on relationships 10:13 - The importance of letting your guard down and being open to love 11:11 - Distinguishing between genuine peace and protective barriers 12:17 - How to relax into healthy love and drop the defenses 13:39 - Influence of childhood, familial patterns, and ancestral wounds 14:00 - The significance of evaluating your social circle and energy influence 15:14 - Redefining what healthy love looks like versus boredom or familiarity 16:43 - The power of self-awareness and learning to receive love 17:13 - Small steps: trusting, letting go of fears, and being vulnerable 18:13 - Reflective questions: Do you push away or invite possible love? 19:36 - Do you prefer chaos and inconsistency over steady, calm partnerships? 19:54 - Are you unconsciously using independence as a shield? 20:36 - The possibility that love is already around you but you haven’t known how to absorb it 21:06 - Encouragement for self-inventory and sharing insights with others 22:01 - The importance of spring cleaning your emotional landscape 22:41 - Invitation to join community and subscribe to ongoing support 23:11 - Closing remarks and encouragement to say "yes" to love Remember, love begins with self-awareness and openness. Let go of past hurts, clear out emotional clutter, and step into the possibility of being truly loved. If you're ready to receive love, for our transformational 6-week coaching experience designed for accomplished women ready to release outdated beliefs about love, rebuild confidence, and create meaningful relationships.
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Why Do Good People End Up Alone?
03/31/2026
Why Do Good People End Up Alone?
Tony and Dr. Lisa explore why good, committed people often find themselves alone despite their qualities and morals. This episode dives into the complexities of compatibility, timing, and self-awareness in the pursuit of love. Timestamps: 00:37 - Introducing the question: Why or are good people alone? 0:56 - Defining what makes someone "good" and why that doesn't guarantee relationship success 1:54 - The difference between being a good person and being a good partner 2:24 - The impact of compatibility versus morals and values 4:16 - The importance of alignment in values and emotional needs 5:10 - Timing and healing: Why being ready matters 6:35 - The role of non-negotiables and avoiding the wrong choices 7:58 - Nurturing tendencies, people-pleasing, and attracting the wrong people 8:58 - The challenge of being emotionally unavailable or hard to love 10:37 - Recognizing and addressing personal walls and guardrails 12:30 - Self-reflection after past relationships and setting realistic expectations 14:45 - The changed dating landscape after or 40 and bringing past habits into new relationships 16:09 - Characteristics that differentiate "choosable" partners—communication, growth, emotional availability 18:28 - The importance of self-awareness and willingness to grow 20:23 - Are you unknowingly putting up barriers that keep you single? 21:16 - Summing up: Good people aren't alone because they are unworthy, but because love requires more—timing, vulnerability, alignment 22:24 - Final encouragement to take stock, work on barriers, and open up to love 23:19 - Announcement: A 6-week experience to help women or create their next chapter in love, starting soonResources & Links: Remember, love is about alignment and timing, not just goodness. Reflect on your barriers, or be honest with yourself, and open to growth for the love you deserve.
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Are Good Men Really Tired Of Dating After 40?
03/24/2026
Are Good Men Really Tired Of Dating After 40?
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the often-overlooked struggles men face in midlife dating. They discuss how emotional wounds from divorce, financial setbacks, and societal expectations leave many good men feeling exhausted and cautious about new relationships. The hosts emphasize the importance of clear communication, mutual support, and creating intentional spaces—like their mixers—for mature singles to connect authentically. They encourage both men and women to be open, patient, and honest, reminding listeners that it’s never too late to find real love and say yes again. If you are a woman ready to step into this next chapter, join us for a transformational 6-week coaching experience designed for accomplished women ready to release outdated beliefs about love, rebuild confidence, and create meaningful relationships. Program starts May 26th Connect with us:
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Why Is It So Hard for Great Singles Over 40 to Find Each Other?
03/17/2026
Why Is It So Hard for Great Singles Over 40 to Find Each Other?
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore why successful, emotionally intelligent singles over 40 often struggle to find each other. They discuss how established routines, protective attitudes toward personal peace, and past heartbreaks can make meeting new partners challenging. The hosts emphasize the importance of intentional socializing, mindset shifts, and openness to positive disruption. They also highlight the need for compatibility and shared values, and share their own experiences, including hosting mature mixers to help singles connect in relaxed, authentic environments. The episode encourages listeners to remain hopeful and proactive in seeking meaningful relationships. To be the first to receive updates about our events, subscribe to our newsletter on our website at
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Secure Your Second Chance: Estate Planning and Legacy Building
02/03/2026
Secure Your Second Chance: Estate Planning and Legacy Building
In this episode, attorney Laurie Thomas Williams shares vital insights on protecting your wealth and legacy no matter where you are in life but especially after rebuilding your life following divorce or a second marriage. Learn practical steps, common pitfalls, and how to plan intentionally for peace of mind and financial security. Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Protecting what you’ve rebuilt 03:42 - Starting over: The importance of legal and financial planning 05:24 - Challenges faced by midlife remarriages and blended families 08:13 - The risks of neglecting beneficiary updates and legal documents 09:54 - Essential documents to review after divorce 11:04 - Why every adult should have a will, regardless of circumstances 12:23 - Updating power of attorney and health directives 14:20 - Protecting your business interests and succession plans 17:34 - Sharing real cases to demystify estate planning 18:22 - Building legacy without perfection: Control, clarity, protection 19:44 - Why estate planning isn’t just about death—it's about your life now 20:44 - The trust myth: It’s for everyone, not just the rich 23:21 - Lessons learned from blended family conflicts and what you wish you'd known earlier 26:38 - Details about the upcoming "Mindset to Millions" event on February 7th 31:11 - Planning for death, disability, and future control of your assets 32:41 - Protecting your family and business in everyday life and emergencies 34:04 - The importance of intentional wealth building and legacy planning 35:12 - The risks of doing nothing and saying yes to clarity and protection 36:12 - Final remarks: Register now, bring your spouse, and plan with purpose You can contact Attorney Thomas Williams You can register for the Mindset to Millions Building Legacy event on Feb 7th
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Unlocking Emotional Freedom: April Nowlin's Guide To Love
01/27/2026
Unlocking Emotional Freedom: April Nowlin's Guide To Love
In this episode of the Saying Yes Again podcast, hosts Dr. Lisa Herbert and Tony welcome April Nowlin, a certified relationship coach, speaker, and author. The conversation delves into April's personal journey through heartbreak and divorce, which ultimately led her to help others navigate their own relationship challenges. You can connect with April and on all social media
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It's Not Too Late: You're Right On Time
01/13/2026
It's Not Too Late: You're Right On Time
This conversation explores the journey of finding love after 40, emphasizing that it's never too late to seek meaningful relationships. Dr. Lisa and Tony discuss the mindset shifts necessary for those over 40, the historical context of relationships, and the advantages of maturity in dating. Key themes include emotional availability, the importance of knowing oneself, and the transition from chasing to choosing relationships. The discussion encourages listeners to embrace their experiences and wisdom as they navigate the dating landscape. Chapters 00:00 Embracing Love After 40 03:29 Historical Perspectives on Relationships 06:39 The Sweet Spot of Maturity 09:28 Choosing Relationships Over Chasing 12:43 Emotional Availability and Self-Discovery 19:04 Saying Yes Again Ending Youtube Video.mp4 Don't forget to join us in our private for behind the scenes, deeper conversations and first look at upcoming events.
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Saying Yes Again: Our 2025 Journey & Our Outlook on Love and Midlife
12/30/2025
Saying Yes Again: Our 2025 Journey & Our Outlook on Love and Midlife
In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Tony reflect on the journey of the podcast throughout 2025, expressing gratitude for the growth and community engagement. The conversation explores key themes such as healing from emotional baggage, defining non-negotiables in relationships, and the importance of flexibility in love. They celebrate the impact of their podcast on listeners and emphasize the need to spread hope and redefine love as they look forward to 2026, with aspirations for deeper conversations and guest appearances.
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Career Woman or Love Life: The Myth You Been Sold
12/23/2025
Career Woman or Love Life: The Myth You Been Sold
In this conversation, Dr. Lisa Herbert and Tony discuss the myth that women must choose between a successful career and a fulfilling love life. They explore societal expectations, the double standards faced by women, and the real conflict of energy and availability in relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of making intentional choices, cultivating emotional maturity, and forming supportive partnerships in achieving both career success and love. The episode encourages women to pursue their ambitions without guilt and emphasizes the importance of open communication in relationships.
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Strong Woman, Soft Life: How High-Achievers Can Finally Choose Peace in Love
12/16/2025
Strong Woman, Soft Life: How High-Achievers Can Finally Choose Peace in Love
In this episode of 'Saying Yes Again,' Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the challenges faced by strong women in love and relationships. They discuss the concept of the 'soft life' as a counter to hustle culture, emphasizing the importance of emotional ease, vulnerability, and choosing peace. The conversation delves into practical steps for embracing a softer life, the significance of connection in modern dating, and the upcoming event aimed at fostering meaningful relationships among singles over 40. Takeaways Strong women often feel the burden of carrying everything in relationships. The 'soft life' represents a shift from hustle culture to emotional ease. Choosing peace in relationships is a powerful decision. Peace in love means mutual effort and feeling safe. Conflict resolution is essential for healthy relationships. Women are allowed to rest and receive support from partners. Softness in women makes them more approachable, not less powerful. Emotional maturity and boundaries are crucial for a soft life. Real connections are built through intentional conversations. Dating should focus on emotional honesty and stability.
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Boss In The Boardroom… Lonely at Home? Let’s Talk About That!
12/02/2025
Boss In The Boardroom… Lonely at Home? Let’s Talk About That!
In this episode of Saying Yes Again, we explore the challenges high-achieving women face in the dating world, discussing loneliness, emotional safety, and the invisible load they carry. We delve deep into the identity conflicts that arise when transitioning from professional success to personal relationships, emphasizing the need for vulnerability and communication. Also, highlighting the importance of building supportive partnerships that allow women to thrive without compromising their accomplishments. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Success and Loneliness 03:20 The Choice of Solitude 06:19 Men's Perspectives on High Achieving Women 08:57 The Invisible Load of Professional Women 11:59 Identity Conflict in Relationships 14:37 Thriving in Love Without Shrinking 20:09 Building Safe and Supportive Relationships 26:00 Creating a Community for Love Join our private Saying Yes Again Facebook Community at https://www.facebook.com/groups/sayingyesagaincommunity
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Real Talk: The Unfiltered Truth About Dating
11/06/2025
Real Talk: The Unfiltered Truth About Dating
In episode 18 of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony record their first uncut, unscripted conversation about dating and relationships in midlife. They discuss the challenges of a small dating pool for women, ways people meet potential partners, and the importance of honesty about intentions. Sharing their own journey from divorce to love, they emphasize the importance of healing, growth, and staying open to second chances. The episode also encouraging listeners to embrace new opportunities for connection and reminding everyone that it’s never too late to say yes again. Timestamps by PodSqueezeIntroduction and Episode Format (00:00:01) Hosts introduce themselves, the podcast, and announce this will be an uncut, raw episode. Episode Milestone and Uncut Decision (00:00:42) Celebrating the 18th episode and discussing the decision to record an uncut, spontaneous session. Topics Overview (00:02:35) Preview of main topics: dating pool for women, reasons people avoid relationships in midlife, and why most don’t remarry. The Midlife Dating Pool (00:03:28) Discussion about the challenges women face in the midlife dating pool and why it feels small and difficult. Ways People Meet Partners (00:04:29) Exploring traditional and modern ways people meet: friends, events, weddings, professional functions, clubs, and online dating. Online Dating Experiences (00:07:14) Personal stories about online dating, including how the hosts met and advice for not giving up on dating apps. Commitment and Biological Clocks (00:08:22) How age, life stage, and biological factors influence relationship decisions for men and women in midlife. Commitment Hesitancy in Midlife (00:09:34) Why some men in midlife are hesitant to commit, and how personal experiences and age impact their choices. Honesty and Transparency in Dating (00:10:54) Importance of being upfront about intentions in relationships to avoid leading others on. Personal Growth and Readiness (00:13:29) How healing and personal growth after divorce affect openness to new relationships and marriage. Why Most Don’t Remarry (00:14:10) Exploring reasons people avoid a second marriage, including fear of repeating past pain and emotional bruises. Life Partner vs. Marriage (00:16:20) Discussion about preferring a life partner over marriage and how openness can evolve. Advice for Men: Earning Commitment (00:17:58) Advice for men to be consistent and show quality to move from “life partner” to “I do.” Personal Transformation and Hope (00:18:36) How personal transformation after divorce led to a happier, more fulfilling relationship. Are People Really Looking for Love in Midlife? (00:21:40) Hosts discuss whether people in midlife are truly seeking love and the importance of openness and healing. Encouragement to Try Online Dating (00:22:00) Tony shares how encouragement from a friend led him to try online dating, resulting in meeting Lisa.
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Love On A Dime: Creative Ways To Date Without Breaking The Bank
10/28/2025
Love On A Dime: Creative Ways To Date Without Breaking The Bank
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony, a midlife couple who found love after divorce, share five practical tips for dating on a budget during tough economic times. They discuss enjoying nature, cooking together at home, attending free or low-cost events, hosting game nights, and planning dream dates for the future. The episode is filled with personal stories, humor, and creative ideas for affordable, meaningful connections. The hosts also announce an upcoming speed dating event for mature singles in Conyers, Georgia. Go to for more information. Introduction & Economic Downturn Context (00:00:00) Discussing dating challenges during economic downturns and the need for affordable, creative date ideas. Podcast Welcome & Hosts Introduction (00:00:36) Introduction to the podcast, hosts Lisa and Tony, and the theme of second chances in love. Episode Overview & Upcoming Event Teaser (00:01:32) Overview of the episode’s focus on budget-friendly dating and mention of an upcoming speed dating event. Tip 1: Enjoying Nature Together (00:02:27) Exploring affordable outdoor dates like walks, picnics, and hikes to connect and bond. Tip 2: Cooking Together at Home (00:04:39) Cooking as a couple, trying new recipes, and using meal kits for fun, intimate, and budget-friendly date nights. Tip 3: Free Events & Local Outings (00:07:07) Attending free or low-cost events, museums, parks, and exploring local spots for unique date experiences. Tip 4: Game Night (00:11:00) Hosting game nights with cards, board games, or trivia for fun is an inexpensive way to have quality time. Tip 5: Planning Dream Future Dates (00:13:05) Creating vision boards and discussing future plans or dream vacations to foster connection and shared goals. Recap & Community Engagement (00:15:16) Encouraging listeners to share their own budget-friendly date ideas and participate in the community. Restaurant Recommendation & Beltline Outing (00:15:38) Recommending “Two Urban Licks” restaurant and discussing enjoyable outings along the Beltline. Closing Thoughts & Speed Dating Event Details (00:16:15) Emphasizing that love doesn’t have to be expensive and providing details about the upcoming speed dating event. Farewell & Social Media Plugs (00:19:06) Thanking listeners, encouraging subscriptions, sharing, and inviting them to follow on social media and attend the event.
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Behind The Boss: The Softer Side of Professional Women in Love
10/07/2025
Behind The Boss: The Softer Side of Professional Women in Love
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and her partner Tony discuss the unique challenges professional women face in dating and relationships. They debunk myths about financial expectations, emphasizing the importance of emotional support, authenticity, and understanding each other's need for space. The conversation highlights how career-driven women can balance independence with vulnerability, set healthy boundaries, and avoid treating relationships like business transactions. The episode concludes with advice for dating with purpose and an invitation to their upcoming for singles over 40. Introduction: The Softer Side of Professional Women (00:00:00) Dr. Lisa introduces the duality of professional women—strong at work, but also craving love and connection. Challenging Financial Stereotypes in Relationships (00:02:26) Discussion on financial independence, emotional support, and the misconception that men’s main role is financial. The Need for Space and Decompression (00:04:22): Exploring the importance of personal space, decompression, and understanding each other's need for downtime. Professional Habits Impacting Dating (00:05:42) How career-driven habits like organization and timeliness affect dating dynamics and relationships. Balancing Professionalism and Emotional Availability (00:09:00) Challenges of being emotionally available, letting go of professional guard, and showing vulnerability in dating. Advice for Professional Women in Dating (00:10:36) Tips for dating with purpose, knowing values, and being observant in early relationship stages. Don’t Overwork Love (00:11:52) Encouragement to approach love with openness, not as a project or job, and to separate work from romance. Authenticity and Vulnerability (00:13:09) The importance of being authentic, vulnerable, and leaving the CEO persona at work. Setting Boundaries and Protecting Energy (00:14:26) Advice on setting boundaries, protecting time and energy, and not dating from a place of exhaustion. Embracing Both Sides: Femininity and Strength (00:16:44) Encouragement for women to show both their strong and soft sides, and for men to offer emotional security. Upcoming Speed Dating Event Announcement (00:18:00) Details about their first speed dating event for singles over 40, including how to register and what to expect. Closing and Social Media Reminders (00:20:48) Thanking listeners, encouraging sharing, and reminders to follow and subscribe for future episodes.
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Are Men Afraid of Dating Powerful Women?
09/24/2025
Are Men Afraid of Dating Powerful Women?
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," hosts Dr. Lisa and Tony discuss the challenges and rewards of dating professional, powerful women. They explore why some men feel intimidated by women in leadership roles, examining issues such as ego, power dynamics, and societal expectations. Drawing from their own relationship, they emphasize the importance of support, communication, flexibility, and mutual respect. The conversation encourages both men and women to look beyond titles and income, focusing instead on partnership, authenticity, and celebrating each other's strengths. The episode concludes with practical advice and a promise to continue the discussion in a future episode. Setting the Stage: Dating Powerful Women (00:01:50) They introduce the main topic: why some men are intimidated by dating professional, powerful women. Men’s Perspective on Intimidation (00:02:11) Discussion on why some men avoid dating women in leadership roles due to ego and traditional roles. Power Dynamics and Relationship Shifts (00:04:00) Exploring how a woman’s professional status can shift relationship dynamics and challenge traditional expectations. Seeing Beyond Titles and Income (00:05:12) Emphasizing the importance of valuing each partner’s contributions beyond job titles and salaries. Support and Mutual Respect (00:06:14) Tony and Lisa discuss the value of supporting each other’s professional achievements and not feeling threatened. Ego, Gender Roles, and Societal Expectations (00:07:39) Examining how ego and societal norms influence men’s attitudes toward dating professional women. Balancing Dominant Traits at Home (00:09:03) Conversation about bringing work personas home and the need for balance and partnership. Tips for Dating Professional Women (00:11:07) Tony shares practical advice: be supportive, flexible, and authentic when dating professional women. Flexibility and Communication in Relationships (00:13:04) Highlighting the importance of flexibility and communication due to non-traditional work schedules. How Professional Women Feel About Apprehension (00:14:34) Lisa shares how it feels when men are hesitant to approach professional women, emphasizing the desire to be seen beyond titles. Personal Story and Episode Wrap-Up (00:15:45) Tony recounts meeting Lisa without knowing her profession, and they wrap up the episode with closing thoughts. Preview of Part Two and Farewell (00:16:47) Announcing a future episode to further discuss challenges for professional women in dating, and encouraging listeners to subscribe.
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The Real Meaning of “Saying Yes Again”: Choosing Love Every Day
09/17/2025
The Real Meaning of “Saying Yes Again”: Choosing Love Every Day
💡 Falling in love is easy. Staying in love — that’s the daily choice that makes relationships thrive. In this episode of Saying Yes Again, Dr. Lisa and Tony dive into what it really means to “say yes again” — not just once at the altar, but every single day. With warmth, humor, and honesty, they unpack the small, practical choices that keep love alive: patience, grace, communication, and laughter (yes, even when socks are on the floor). ✨ You’ll hear: Why lasting love is built on everyday decisions, not grand gestures. Simple practices for recommitting to your partner daily. Real stories — tender from Lisa, witty from Tony — about what choosing love looks like in real life. Whether you’re remarried, newly dating, or simply learning to love yourself again, this conversation will remind you: saying yes again is the foundation of a lasting love. Introduction: The Choice of Love (00:00:00) Discussing how staying in love is a daily choice, especially after heartbreak or divorce. Love Beyond the Wedding Day (00:01:16) Reflecting on the wedding day and emphasizing that love is a daily decision, not a one-time event. Personal Story: The Cold Room Incident (00:04:31) Tony recounts a humorous story about handling discomfort in a relationship with patience and diplomacy. What Saying Yes Again Really Means (00:06:11): Exploring how opening up after heartbreak requires showing up differently and being intentional. Supporting Each Other Through Challenges (00:06:41) Discussing the importance of affirming and encouraging your partner during tough times. Choosing Patience and Communication (00:07:39) Highlighting the value of patience and open communication over shutting down during disagreements. Making Space for Fun, Romance, and Friendship (00:09:12) Emphasizing the need to intentionally nurture fun, romance, and friendship in a relationship. Listening Without Fixing (00:10:32) Discussing the importance of listening to your partner without always trying to fix their problems. Practical Tools: Affirmations (00:11:14) Introducing affirmations as a daily practice to strengthen connection and appreciation. Practical Tools: Intentional Check-Ins (00:12:46) Encouraging regular check-ins, both individually and as a couple, to maintain relationship health. Practical Tools: Choosing Grace (00:13:55) Advising listeners to give each other grace, let small things slide, and avoid keeping score. Closing & Call to Action (00:16:32) Encouraging listeners to share, subscribe, and keep saying yes to love, life, and second chances.
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Love After Loss:Finding Hope When You Thought Your Heart Was Broken Forever
09/09/2025
Love After Loss:Finding Hope When You Thought Your Heart Was Broken Forever
After divorce, grief, or major life upheaval, it’s easy to believe your heart is too broken to ever love again. But what if those very cracks are what prepare you for a deeper, more meaningful love? In this episode of Saying Yes Again, Dr. Lisa and Tony explore how heartbreak doesn’t have to be the end of your love story. They share how grief can refine us — giving us greater empathy, clearer priorities, and stronger boundaries — and how those lessons make space for real, lasting connection. Whether you’re newly divorced, grieving, or simply unsure if love is possible again, this conversation will remind you: your story isn’t over. Love after loss is real — and it may be the most beautiful chapter yet. Introduction to Heartbreak and Hope (00:00:00) Discussing the pain of loss and the idea that heartbreak can create space for deeper love. Affirming Love After Loss (00:01:17) Emphasizing that love is possible after heartbreak, divorce, or major loss. Personal Stories of Loss and Divorce (00:03:13) Dr. Lisa and Tony share their experiences with long-term marriage ending, family losses, and divorce. The Role of Grief and Seeking Help (00:04:07) Tony discusses losing family members, divorce, and the importance of professional counseling in healing. Reframing Loss as Preparation (00:07:08) Discussing how loss can prepare us for more authentic, deeper love and help us empathize with others. Setting Boundaries and Priorities (00:09:01) How loss leads to clearer priorities, less tolerance for drama, and stronger personal boundaries. What Healing Looks Like (00:10:14) Defining healing as a non-linear, personal process, and the importance of seeking help and self-compassion. Practical Tools for Healing (00:15:15) Introducing practical ways to heal, including surrounding yourself with hope and positive influences. The Science of Happiness (00:16:38) Explaining the happiness study: 50% genetics, 40% intentional activities, 10% life circumstances. Journaling as a Healing Tool (00:19:15) Recommending journaling to process emotions, reduce stress, and reflect on lessons from loss. Practicing Saying Yes Again (00:20:52) Encouraging small steps toward joy and connection as a way to open up to love again. Final Encouragement and Call to Action (00:22:11) Reassuring listeners they are not broken, and inviting them to find one small way to open their heart. Closing and Subscription Reminder (00:23:23) Thanking listeners, encouraging sharing and subscribing, and ending with a message of hope and second chances.
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What Women Want from Men in Midlife Relationships
09/02/2025
What Women Want from Men in Midlife Relationships
By midlife, women know exactly what they want — and what they don’t. After raising kids, building careers, and learning hard lessons, women are entering relationships with more clarity, empowerment, and confidence than ever before. In this episode, Dr. Lisa shares the five traits she wanted in Tony — and what she believes most women are looking for in midlife love. Tony chimes in with his honest (and hilarious) reactions, making this a heartfelt and eye-opening conversation for both men and women. In this episode: Why women want men to listen without fixing How vulnerability creates deeper intimacy The importance of supporting her goals and aspirations Why feeling safe and protected matters at every stage Why quality time is the ultimate love language in midlife Join us for Part 2 of the He Said / She Said series, and discover how women’s needs evolve in midlife — and how men can step up to build stronger, healthier love. Introduction & Episode Setup (00:00:01) Tony introduces the episode topic: what women in midlife look for in a mate. Podcast Welcome & Hosts’ Background (00:01:01) Hosts introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and love after divorce. Women’s Empowerment in Midlife (00:01:46) Dr. Lisa discusses how women in midlife are more empowered and clear about their desires. Trait 1: Listening Without Fixing (00:02:36) Explains the importance of men listening without immediately trying to solve problems. Trait 2: Vulnerability (00:04:23) Discusses why women value men who show vulnerability and emotional openness. Trait 3: Supportive of Goals and Aspirations (00:07:20) Highlights the need for partners to support women’s ambitions, especially in midlife. Trait 4: Safety and Protection (00:10:11) Explores both physical and emotional safety as key needs for women in relationships. Trait 5: Quality Time (00:12:45) Emphasizes the importance of spending meaningful, unplugged time together. Recap of the Five Traits (00:15:01) Dr. Lisa summarizes the five key traits women seek in midlife relationships. Closing Thoughts & Relationship Advice (00:16:25) Hosts encourage listeners to reflect on the traits and improve their relationships. Community Invitation & Outro (00:18:05) Invitation to join the podcast community, subscribe, and final closing remarks.
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What Men Want in Midlife Love: 5 Traits Women Should Know
08/26/2025
What Men Want in Midlife Love: 5 Traits Women Should Know
What do men really want from women once they hit midlife? The answers may surprise you. Spoiler: it’s not about looks or grand gestures — it’s about peace, safety, and partnership. In this episode, Tony opens up about the five traits he craved after divorce, and Dr. Lisa breaks down why these traits create healthy, lasting relationships. Together, they share personal stories and practical insights that will inspire both men and women to see love through a fresh lens. ✨ In this episode: Why stability and peace are magnetic to men in midlife The importance of creating a safe emotional space How balanced leadership works without a power struggle Why shared growth and desires matter How flexibility (no rulebook) keeps love thriving Tune in and discover how men see love differently after 40 — and how understanding these needs can transform your own relationship. Introduction & Episode Overview (00:00:00) Dr. Lisa introduces the episode’s focus: what men want from women in midlife relationships after divorce and heartbreak. Tony’s Interview Setup (00:00:26) Tony acknowledges he’s being interviewed and doesn’t know the questions in advance. Podcast Welcome & Series Context (00:00:37) Hosts introduce themselves, the podcast, and explain this is part one of a two-part series. Peace and Stability (00:01:51) Discussion on men valuing peace, stability, and a drama-free environment in midlife relationships. Safe Space for Vulnerability (00:03:31) Exploring the importance of emotional safety and non-judgment for men to be vulnerable. Balanced Leadership (00:05:02) Conversation about shared leadership roles and partnership dynamics in relationships. Shared Growth and Desires (00:08:00) Emphasis on mutual growth, dreaming together, and encouraging each other’s development. Flexibility in Relationship Roles (00:10:42) Valuing flexibility over rigid gender roles, sharing responsibilities organically. Recap of Key Traits (00:12:52) Summary of the five main traits men want: peace, safe space, balanced leadership, shared growth, and flexibility. Reflection Challenge & Next Episode Teaser (00:14:48) Encouragement for listeners to reflect on these traits and preview of the next episode’s focus on women’s perspectives. Community Invitation & Outro (00:15:34) Invitation to join the podcast community, subscribe, and follow on social media; closing remarks.
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Health is Sexy: Prioritizing Your Wellness for a Vibrant Second Act
08/19/2025
Health is Sexy: Prioritizing Your Wellness for a Vibrant Second Act
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony, a midlife couple who found love after divorce, discuss how prioritizing health and vitality strengthens relationships, especially in midlife. They share personal routines—like walking, exercising, and making healthy smoothies—and highlight the importance of regular checkups, nutrition, sleep, and mental wellness. The conversation also covers navigating menopause, supporting partners through change, and maintaining emotional and spiritual connection. They encourage listeners to adopt new healthy habits, both individually and as a couple, to build a strong foundation for lasting love and happiness. Health is Sexy: Vitality Over Appearance (00:00:01) Dr. Lisa and Tony introduce the topic: health and vitality as the most attractive qualities in relationships. Shared Health Routines in Marriage (00:01:18) They discuss their shared routines: walking, stationary bikes, and morning smoothies, and how these strengthen their bond. Early Relationship and Wellness (00:02:20) Recounting their first date walk and how wellness became part of their relationship from the start. Why Health Matters in Midlife (00:05:01): Exploring the importance of health in midlife, the prevalence of chronic conditions, and the need for regular checkups. Prevention and Early Detection (00:06:24) Emphasizing regular checkups, screenings, and early detection for both men and women. Sleep and Healthy Habits (00:09:14) Discussing the importance of adequate sleep, maintaining a healthy weight, and how habits affect mood and energy. Full Spectrum of Wellness (00:11:27) Introducing the need for alignment of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health in relationships. Physical Health: Exercise and Nutrition (00:11:53) Detailing their exercise routines, accountability, and the importance of balanced nutrition and portion control. Medical Care and Preventive Visits (00:14:03) Highlighting the importance of vision and dental checkups, especially as you age. Mental and Emotional Health (00:14:31) Addressing anxiety, mood swings, and depression in midlife, and the importance of meditation. Spiritual Health and Connection (00:20:01) Talking about the importance of spiritual alignment, prayer, and attending church together. Wellness and Intimacy in Midlife (00:20:41) Exploring how wellness fuels intimacy, especially for women in midlife, and the impact of hormonal changes. Supporting Women Through Midlife Changes (00:21:04) Discussing menopause, perimenopause, and how partners can support each other during these changes. Healthy Habits for Hormonal Balance (00:23:00) Recommending movement, nutrition, meditation, and sleep to help regulate hormones and boost intimacy. Supporting Your Partner’s Wellness (00:24:01) Encouraging men to support their partners’ routines and understand their love languages. Summary and Call to Action (00:25:04) Wrapping up with a challenge to adopt a new healthy habit and schedule a wellness checkup. Setting Health Goals as a Couple (00:26:35) Suggesting couples set shared health goals and support each other’s wellness journeys. Closing and Gratitude to Listeners (00:27:30) Thanking listeners, encouraging subscriptions, and expressing appreciation for the podcast community.
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Body Confidence Over 40: Reclaiming Your Sexy After Divorce
08/12/2025
Body Confidence Over 40: Reclaiming Your Sexy After Divorce
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore body confidence after 50, discussing the challenges of aging, societal pressures, and redefining what it means to feel sexy. They share personal stories, practical tips like dancing and dressing for your current body, and encourage listeners to celebrate both physical and non-physical qualities. With warmth and humor, they invite their audience to embrace self-love and confidence at any age, offering a reflective homework assignment and welcoming listener input to continue the conversation about reclaiming your sexy in midlife. Subscribe, rate, and review. Introduction and Podcast Overview (00:00:01) Dr. Lisa and Tony introduce themselves, the podcast, and the episode’s focus on body confidence after 40. Body Image Statistics and Challenges (00:00:25) Discussion of AARP survey, body dissatisfaction after 40, and the episode’s main topic. Personal Reflections on Aging and Sexy (00:01:43) Hosts share personal anecdotes about feeling sexy in their 20s versus now. Societal Messaging and Media Influence (00:03:47) Exploring how media and societal standards equate beauty with youth and slimness. Post-Divorce Pressures and Gender Differences (00:05:19) How post-divorce dating and gendered aging standards impact body confidence. Aging Acceptance and Personal Stories (00:08:23) Hosts share stories about accepting aging, including funny anecdotes about reading menus and going out. Compliments and Public Acknowledgment (00:09:29) The importance of giving and receiving compliments at any age. Redefining Sexy After 40: Three Pillars (00:10:31) Introduction to three pillars for redefining sexy after 40. Pillar 1: Confidence Over Comparison (00:10:46) Confidence as the new sexy, with examples of confident celebrities. Pillar 2: Self-Touch and Body Familiarity (00:11:47) Emphasizing self-care, skincare, and non-sexual intimacy with oneself. Pillar 3: Mindset Makeover (00:12:52) Adopting a new mindset about what sexy means in your 40s and 50s. Practical Ways to Reclaim Your Sexy (00:14:29) Tips for reclaiming sexy, including clothing choices and adapting to body changes. Fun Movement and Celebrating Sensuality (00:16:49) Using dance, movement, and everyday sensuality to feel sexy. Creating Your Own Sexy Playlist (00:18:31) Encouragement to develop personal rituals and habits that boost confidence. Mirror Exercise and Homework (00:19:08) Assignment: Name three things you love about your body and three non-physical qualities. Closing Thoughts and Takeaways (00:20:56) Final reflections on body image, sexiness after 50, and encouragement to share and subscribe.
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Too Old or Too Broken to Find Love Again? Real Talk on Trust, Baggage and Starting Over
08/06/2025
Too Old or Too Broken to Find Love Again? Real Talk on Trust, Baggage and Starting Over
In this episode of the "Saying Yes Again" podcast, hosts Dr. Lisa and Toni, a midlife couple who found love after divorce, tackle the negative self-talk that often follows heartbreak. Through rapid-fire reframes, they challenge beliefs like “I’m too old,” “I have too much baggage,” and “There are no good men left,” encouraging listeners to adopt empowering perspectives. Sharing personal stories and practical advice, they emphasize the importance of positive self-talk, self-awareness, and an abundance mindset to attract love and happiness at any stage of life. Introduction & Setting the Stage (00:00:01) Hosts introduce the episode’s focus: overcoming negative self-talk after heartbreak or divorce. Podcast Welcome & Host Introductions (00:00:18) Welcome to the show, hosts introduce themselves and the podcast’s mission. Explaining the Episode Format (00:01:09) Hosts explain the rapid-fire reframe format and the importance of self-talk. Reframing “I’m Too Old to Start Over” (00:01:55) Discussion on age and starting over, emphasizing wisdom and experience after divorce. Reframing “No One Wants Someone with Baggage” (00:03:49) Hosts discuss the universality of “baggage” and reframing it as a life experience. Reframing “I’ll Never Trust Anyone Again” (00:05:59) Addressing trust issues post-divorce and the importance of self-trust and maturity. Reframing “There Are No Good Men Left” (00:08:30) Challenging scarcity mindset in dating, promoting abundance and positive outlook. The Power of Positive Self-Talk (00:11:24) Emphasizing affirmations, positive words, and their impact on attracting love. Encouragement & Call to Action (00:12:10) Encouragement to reframe negative beliefs, reclaim the future, and manifest love. Closing Remarks & Community Building (00:14:05) We thank listeners, encourage subscriptions, and build a supportive community.
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Opposites Attract: Our Real Life Love Story From Different Worlds
07/29/2025
Opposites Attract: Our Real Life Love Story From Different Worlds
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony share their journey as a midlife couple who found love after divorce by dating outside their comfort zones. They discuss overcoming differences in background, profession, and culture, emphasizing the importance of shared values like spirituality and family. Using personal stories and celebrity examples, they encourage listeners to be open-minded and flexible in dating, highlighting that true compatibility is about values, not superficial similarities. The hosts wrap up with practical tips and invite listeners to connect, reminding everyone that love can come from an unexpected “yes.” Please rate, review and share this episode.
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Why I Almost Canceled Our First Date (And How It Changed Everything)
07/23/2025
Why I Almost Canceled Our First Date (And How It Changed Everything)
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony delve into the challenges of vulnerability when dating after 50, particularly following heartbreak or divorce. They share personal stories and practical advice on overcoming fear, recognizing red and green flags, and building trust through small steps. Drawing on Dr. Lisa’s background, they discuss the science behind emotional openness and offer guidance on creating safe spaces for connection. The hosts encourage listeners to embrace vulnerability as a strength, reminding them it’s never too late to say “yes” again to love and new beginnings. Timestamps by PodSqueezeIntroduction and Episode Theme (00:00:01) Hosts introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and love after heartbreak. The Challenge of Vulnerability After 50 (00:00:25) Discussion of the fear and difficulty of being emotionally open after loss or divorce. Personal Experiences with Vulnerability (00:02:28) Tony and Dr. Lisa share their own struggles with vulnerability after divorce. Recognizing Emotional Armor (00:03:06) Identifying behaviors that indicate emotional walls, like avoiding deep conversations or canceling dates. A Story of Almost Missing Out (00:04:11) Dr. Lisa recounts nearly canceling her early date with Tony due to fear of vulnerability. The Cost and Growth of Vulnerability (00:07:14) Reflection on how vulnerability led to growth and a lasting relationship. The Science of Trust and Vulnerability (00:08:07) Dr. Lisa explains the biology of trust, oxytocin, and cortisol’s effects on health and relationships. Practical Steps for Building Vulnerability (00:10:14) Advice on taking small steps to open up, building confidence, and choosing safe people. Questions to Foster Vulnerability (00:12:32) Suggestions for questions to ask on dates to encourage deeper conversation and connection. Working the Vulnerability Muscle (00:15:55) Comparing vulnerability to a muscle that needs regular practice and gradual strengthening. When Vulnerability Backfires (00:17:07) How to handle situations where opening up is met with rejection or gossip. Reading Receptivity and Setting Boundaries (00:18:31) Tips on gauging if someone is safe to be vulnerable with, and knowing when to pull back. Red Flags and Healthy Vulnerability Pace (00:20:34) Warning signs of unsafe partners and the importance of letting vulnerability develop naturally. Green Flags: Signs of a Safe Space (00:23:27) Positive indicators that someone is trustworthy and reciprocates vulnerability. Vulnerability Is Not Weakness (00:25:04) Reframing vulnerability as courage and a foundation for deep, lasting relationships. Conclusion and Community Invitation (00:27:05) Encouragement to subscribe, join the community, and gratitude for listeners worldwide.
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You’re Not Broken: Stop Feeling Guilty For Being Happy After Divorce
07/15/2025
You’re Not Broken: Stop Feeling Guilty For Being Happy After Divorce
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the guilt many feel when finding happiness after divorce. Challenging societal expectations that equate visible suffering with caring, they encourage listeners to embrace joy without apology. Drawing on personal experiences and public figures like Cardi B and Teyana Taylor, the hosts discuss setting boundaries, celebrating small wins, and reframing happiness as a sign of growth. Their heartfelt conversation reassures listeners that moving forward is a healthy choice, and choosing happiness after heartbreak is both valid and courageous. Follow and subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and YouTube. Welcome and Introduction (00:00:01) Dr. Lisa and Tony introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and love after divorce. Introducing the Topic: Guilt After Divorce (00:00:36) They introduce the episode’s theme: feeling guilty for being happy after divorce. Describing Post-Divorce Guilt (00:01:22) Discussion about the common feelings of guilt when enjoying life after divorce. Societal Expectations and Guilt (00:03:31) Exploring how society expects visible sadness after divorce and how that fuels guilt. The Impact of Guilt and Staying Stuck (00:04:33) How guilt keeps people stuck and prevents healing and moving forward. Society’s Unspoken Rules About Divorce (00:05:04) Unpacking the cultural expectation to “wear pain like a badge of honor” after divorce. Personal Experiences with Guilt and Healing (00:08:30) Dr. Lisa and Tony share their personal experiences with others’ expectations and their own healing timelines. Permission to Be Happy (00:10:19) Affirming that it’s okay to be happy, laugh, and look forward to the future after divorce. Happiness Doesn’t Mean You Didn’t Care (00:11:03) Clarifying that happiness after divorce doesn’t mean you didn’t care about your marriage. Media Examples: Cardi B and Teyana Taylor (00:12:03) Discussing public figures who embraced happiness after divorce despite criticism. Practical Steps to Overcome Guilt (00:15:59) Offering concrete steps: reframing your story, setting boundaries, and celebrating small joys. The Ripple Effect of Happiness (00:18:06) Explaining how personal happiness positively impacts others and breaks cycles of guilt. Hosts’ Personal Journey to Happiness (00:18:57) Dr. Lisa and Tony reflect on their own journey from heartbreak to happiness together.
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Navigating Love & Relationships: How to Define Your Non-Negotiables and Stay Flexible
07/08/2025
Navigating Love & Relationships: How to Define Your Non-Negotiables and Stay Flexible
In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Tony discuss the concept of non-negotiables in relationships, emphasizing their importance in dating and partnerships. They explore personal criteria for finding the right partner, share their own non-negotiables, and highlight the significance of flexibility in relationships. The conversation aims to provide insights and advice for listeners navigating their own dating journeys. Introduction to the Podcast (00:00:01) Dr. Lisa and Tony introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and real love after heartbreak. Defining Non-Negotiables (00:00:40) Discussion on what non-negotiables are, their impact on relationships, and the importance of flexibility. Personal Journey After Divorce (00:01:07) Dr. Lisa and Tony reflect on their own experiences finding love again after divorce. The Role of Criteria in Dating (00:02:00) Exploring the idea of having standards or rules for potential partners and the need for realistic expectations. The Laundry List Trap (00:03:51) Warning against having an overly long, rigid list of partner requirements. Flexibility and Realism in Criteria (00:04:25) Emphasizing the importance of being open-minded to avoid missing out on great partners. Early Relationship Questions (00:04:47) Sharing anecdotes about asking deep questions early in dating, like future goals. Character Traits and Values (00:05:19) Focusing on the importance of values and character over perfection in a partner. Russell Wilson’s Non-Negotiables (00:05:57) Introducing NFL quarterback Russell Wilson’s relationship criteria as inspiration. Dr. Lisa’s Top Five Non-Negotiables (00:10:09) Dr. Lisa shares her five key criteria: vulnerability, spirituality, financial fitness, physical activity, and quality time. Flexibility in Non-Negotiables (00:17:16) The role of flexibility in making relationships work and avoiding unrealistic standards. Tony’s Non-Negotiables (00:20:54) Tony shares his criteria: inner and outer beauty, independence, intelligence, and physical fitness. Learning from Past Relationships (00:26:47) Encouraging listeners to reflect on past relationships to define their own criteria. Self-Improvement and Mutual Standards (00:27:09) Reminding listeners to embody the qualities they seek in a partner. Closing and Community Engagement (00:27:35) Thanking listeners, inviting feedback, and promoting the podcast’s online community.
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The Truth About Changing Your Name After Divorce: The Emotional and Professional Reality
07/01/2025
The Truth About Changing Your Name After Divorce: The Emotional and Professional Reality
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the emotional and practical journey of changing one’s name after divorce and remarriage, especially for women over 50. Dr. Lisa shares her personal experience of reclaiming her maiden name while embracing her new identity with Tony. The hosts discuss societal expectations, the impact on family and professional life, and offer practical advice for navigating the process. They encourage open communication, self-reflection, and seeking support, reminding listeners that rediscovering identity is a personal journey worth embracing at any age. Introduction and Episode Theme (00:00:01) Hosts introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and rediscovering identity after 50. Name Change as Part of Identity (00:01:04) Dr. Lisa introduces the topic of name changes after divorce and remarriage, especially for women. Dr. Lisa’s Personal Name Change Journey (00:03:24) Dr. Lisa shares her experience of changing her name after marriage, keeping it after divorce, and the emotions involved. Emotional Aspects of Name Change (00:05:19) Discussion about the emotional weight and identity tied to one’s name, including professional and family connections. Mixed Emotions and Digital Footprint (00:08:27) Exploring the mixed feelings, digital identity, and the sense of loss or renewal that comes with changing a name. Options for Name Changes (00:11:21) Overview of choices women have: keeping, hyphenating, reverting to maiden name, or creating a new name. Dr. Lisa’s Decision and Process (00:13:57) Dr. Lisa explains her choice to resume her maiden name and add her new husband’s name, and the slow transition process. Reactions from Friends, Family, and Colleagues (00:15:28) Feedback and support received from social media, friends, and professional contacts regarding her name change. Practical Steps and Paperwork (00:17:54) Details on the practical aspects: updating legal documents, professional licenses, and the overwhelming nature of the process. Impact on Relationships (00:19:33) Considerations for how name changes affect children, spouses, friends, and the importance of communication. Advice for Navigating Name Change (00:24:45) Practical tips: take your time, test drive the new name, list pros and cons, and talk to others for support. Legal Disclaimer and Professional Advice (00:30:23) Reminder that hosts are not attorneys and listeners should seek professional legal advice for name changes. Closing Reflections and Podcast Outro (00:31:43) Final thoughts on the journey, encouragement to follow the podcast, and invitation for topic suggestions.
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Finding Yourself Again: The Art of Self-Discovery Post-Divorce
06/24/2025
Finding Yourself Again: The Art of Self-Discovery Post-Divorce
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the challenges and opportunities of rebuilding your identity after 50, especially following the end of a long-term relationship. Drawing from their personal experiences and public examples, they discuss the loss of roles, community, and routine, and share practical advice for rediscovering passions, expanding social circles, and embracing new experiences. The hosts emphasize the importance of self-healing, enjoying your own company, and giving yourself permission to grow, encouraging listeners to reclaim their sense of self and create a fulfilling new chapter. Don't forget to rate and review on Apple Podcast. Follow us on all social media @sayingyesagain Welcome and Podcast Introduction (00:00:01): The Hosts introduce themselves and the podcast and express gratitude for listener support. Caribbean Vacation & Zodiac Signs (00:01:16) Lighthearted discussion about Tony’s Caribbean background, Aruba vacation, and their zodiac signs. Episode Topic Introduction: Rebuilding Identity After 50 (00:03:33) Introduction of the episode’s main theme: rediscovering identity after a long-term relationship ends. Personal Stories of Identity Loss (00:04:18) Dr. Lisa shares her experience of losing and redefining identity after a 25-year marriage. Celebrity Example: Princess Tatiana of Greece (00:06:03) Discussion of Princess Tatiana’s public journey of rediscovering herself after divorce. The Identity Shift: What We Lose (00:07:41) Exploring the loss of role, purpose, community, and routine after a relationship ends. Rediscovering Joy: Peeling Back the Layers (00:13:54) Inspired by Princess Tatiana, the hosts discuss revisiting past joys and activities to rediscover identity. Giving Yourself Permission to Try New Things (00:16:05) Encouragement to explore new interests and give oneself grace during the process of self-discovery. Waiting to Exhale Moments: New Experiences (00:17:25) Hosts share their own “waiting to exhale” moments, including traveling to Colombia and Jamaica. Maintaining Identity in Relationships (00:21:12) Advice on not losing oneself in relationships and the importance of personal growth while partnered. Expanding Social Circles (00:24:23) The value of building new friendships and communities to support a new identity. Signs of Readiness for New Relationships (00:26:50) Specific signs you’re ready for a new relationship, including self-enjoyment, new hobbies, and emotional processing. Recap and Encouragement (00:32:47) Summary of key points: rebuilding identity is foundational, and listeners are encouraged to share their journeys.
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Emotional Baggage Check: Are You Ready for a New Relationship?
06/17/2025
Emotional Baggage Check: Are You Ready for a New Relationship?
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," hosts Dr. Lisa and Tony explore emotional healing and self-discovery after divorce. They discuss recognizing emotional baggage, breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, and the importance of forgiveness—both of others and oneself. Through personal stories and practical advice, they highlight the value of self-awareness, open communication, and patience in building new, healthier relationships. The episode encourages listeners to embrace second chances in love by doing the inner work needed to move forward and create meaningful connections in midlife. Submit your questions and have them answered live on our show Welcome and Introduction (00:00:01) Hosts introduce themselves, the podcast, and the episode’s focus on emotional baggage after divorce. Personal Stories: Dating After Divorce (00:02:13) Lisa and Tony share personal experiences about feeling ready to date but still carrying emotional baggage. Recognizing Unhealed Wounds (00:04:00) Discussion of signs and patterns indicating unresolved emotional issues before dating. Warning Signs of Unhealed Wounds (00:05:18) Red flags like oversharing, emotional walls, and anxiety over communication are explored. Relationship Patterns and Self-Discovery (00:09:04) Exploring repeated relationship patterns and the importance of self-reflection. The Hardest Part: Forgiveness (00:13:18) Forgiveness, especially self-forgiveness, is discussed as a crucial and challenging part of healing. Growth After Heartbreak (00:16:14) Hosts share personal growth and positive changes resulting from past relationship pain. Rediscovering Yourself After Divorce (00:18:22) Importance of rebuilding identity and self outside of a past relationship. Healing as a Journey (00:19:55) Emphasis on healing as an ongoing journey, not a destination, and advice for listeners. Magical Moment: Baggage Check in Action (00:22:10) Tony shares a pivotal story about overcoming old patterns and making a new connection with Lisa. Listener Engagement and Community (00:26:24) Invitation for listeners to share their stories and join the podcast community. Outro and Next Episode Teaser (00:27:04) Closing remarks and preview of the next episode on rebuilding identity.
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