Saying Yes Again: A Journey to Love, Life & Second Chances
This podcast is for anyone who's been through heartbreak, divorce, or loss and is brave enough to believe in love one more time. Hosted by Dr. Lisa and Tony, this show shares their own story of finding love again in midlife, after divorce and doubt. Through candid conversations and honest reflections, they explore the journey of healing, rediscovery, and learning to open your heart to new possibilities. They believe your next "yes" could be the one that changes everything.
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Opposites Attract: Our Real Life Love Story From Different Worlds
07/29/2025
Opposites Attract: Our Real Life Love Story From Different Worlds
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony share their journey as a midlife couple who found love after divorce by dating outside their comfort zones. They discuss overcoming differences in background, profession, and culture, emphasizing the importance of shared values like spirituality and family. Using personal stories and celebrity examples, they encourage listeners to be open-minded and flexible in dating, highlighting that true compatibility is about values, not superficial similarities. The hosts wrap up with practical tips and invite listeners to connect, reminding everyone that love can come from an unexpected “yes.” Please rate, review and share this episode.
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Why I Almost Canceled Our First Date (And How It Changed Everything)
07/23/2025
Why I Almost Canceled Our First Date (And How It Changed Everything)
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony delve into the challenges of vulnerability when dating after 50, particularly following heartbreak or divorce. They share personal stories and practical advice on overcoming fear, recognizing red and green flags, and building trust through small steps. Drawing on Dr. Lisa’s background, they discuss the science behind emotional openness and offer guidance on creating safe spaces for connection. The hosts encourage listeners to embrace vulnerability as a strength, reminding them it’s never too late to say “yes” again to love and new beginnings. Timestamps by PodSqueezeIntroduction and Episode Theme (00:00:01) Hosts introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and love after heartbreak. The Challenge of Vulnerability After 50 (00:00:25) Discussion of the fear and difficulty of being emotionally open after loss or divorce. Personal Experiences with Vulnerability (00:02:28) Tony and Dr. Lisa share their own struggles with vulnerability after divorce. Recognizing Emotional Armor (00:03:06) Identifying behaviors that indicate emotional walls, like avoiding deep conversations or canceling dates. A Story of Almost Missing Out (00:04:11) Dr. Lisa recounts nearly canceling her early date with Tony due to fear of vulnerability. The Cost and Growth of Vulnerability (00:07:14) Reflection on how vulnerability led to growth and a lasting relationship. The Science of Trust and Vulnerability (00:08:07) Dr. Lisa explains the biology of trust, oxytocin, and cortisol’s effects on health and relationships. Practical Steps for Building Vulnerability (00:10:14) Advice on taking small steps to open up, building confidence, and choosing safe people. Questions to Foster Vulnerability (00:12:32) Suggestions for questions to ask on dates to encourage deeper conversation and connection. Working the Vulnerability Muscle (00:15:55) Comparing vulnerability to a muscle that needs regular practice and gradual strengthening. When Vulnerability Backfires (00:17:07) How to handle situations where opening up is met with rejection or gossip. Reading Receptivity and Setting Boundaries (00:18:31) Tips on gauging if someone is safe to be vulnerable with, and knowing when to pull back. Red Flags and Healthy Vulnerability Pace (00:20:34) Warning signs of unsafe partners and the importance of letting vulnerability develop naturally. Green Flags: Signs of a Safe Space (00:23:27) Positive indicators that someone is trustworthy and reciprocates vulnerability. Vulnerability Is Not Weakness (00:25:04) Reframing vulnerability as courage and a foundation for deep, lasting relationships. Conclusion and Community Invitation (00:27:05) Encouragement to subscribe, join the community, and gratitude for listeners worldwide.
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You’re Not Broken: Stop Feeling Guilty For Being Happy After Divorce
07/15/2025
You’re Not Broken: Stop Feeling Guilty For Being Happy After Divorce
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the guilt many feel when finding happiness after divorce. Challenging societal expectations that equate visible suffering with caring, they encourage listeners to embrace joy without apology. Drawing on personal experiences and public figures like Cardi B and Teyana Taylor, the hosts discuss setting boundaries, celebrating small wins, and reframing happiness as a sign of growth. Their heartfelt conversation reassures listeners that moving forward is a healthy choice, and choosing happiness after heartbreak is both valid and courageous. Follow and subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and YouTube. Welcome and Introduction (00:00:01) Dr. Lisa and Tony introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and love after divorce. Introducing the Topic: Guilt After Divorce (00:00:36) They introduce the episode’s theme: feeling guilty for being happy after divorce. Describing Post-Divorce Guilt (00:01:22) Discussion about the common feelings of guilt when enjoying life after divorce. Societal Expectations and Guilt (00:03:31) Exploring how society expects visible sadness after divorce and how that fuels guilt. The Impact of Guilt and Staying Stuck (00:04:33) How guilt keeps people stuck and prevents healing and moving forward. Society’s Unspoken Rules About Divorce (00:05:04) Unpacking the cultural expectation to “wear pain like a badge of honor” after divorce. Personal Experiences with Guilt and Healing (00:08:30) Dr. Lisa and Tony share their personal experiences with others’ expectations and their own healing timelines. Permission to Be Happy (00:10:19) Affirming that it’s okay to be happy, laugh, and look forward to the future after divorce. Happiness Doesn’t Mean You Didn’t Care (00:11:03) Clarifying that happiness after divorce doesn’t mean you didn’t care about your marriage. Media Examples: Cardi B and Teyana Taylor (00:12:03) Discussing public figures who embraced happiness after divorce despite criticism. Practical Steps to Overcome Guilt (00:15:59) Offering concrete steps: reframing your story, setting boundaries, and celebrating small joys. The Ripple Effect of Happiness (00:18:06) Explaining how personal happiness positively impacts others and breaks cycles of guilt. Hosts’ Personal Journey to Happiness (00:18:57) Dr. Lisa and Tony reflect on their own journey from heartbreak to happiness together.
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Navigating Love & Relationships: How to Define Your Non-Negotiables and Stay Flexible
07/08/2025
Navigating Love & Relationships: How to Define Your Non-Negotiables and Stay Flexible
In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Tony discuss the concept of non-negotiables in relationships, emphasizing their importance in dating and partnerships. They explore personal criteria for finding the right partner, share their own non-negotiables, and highlight the significance of flexibility in relationships. The conversation aims to provide insights and advice for listeners navigating their own dating journeys. Introduction to the Podcast (00:00:01) Dr. Lisa and Tony introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and real love after heartbreak. Defining Non-Negotiables (00:00:40) Discussion on what non-negotiables are, their impact on relationships, and the importance of flexibility. Personal Journey After Divorce (00:01:07) Dr. Lisa and Tony reflect on their own experiences finding love again after divorce. The Role of Criteria in Dating (00:02:00) Exploring the idea of having standards or rules for potential partners and the need for realistic expectations. The Laundry List Trap (00:03:51) Warning against having an overly long, rigid list of partner requirements. Flexibility and Realism in Criteria (00:04:25) Emphasizing the importance of being open-minded to avoid missing out on great partners. Early Relationship Questions (00:04:47) Sharing anecdotes about asking deep questions early in dating, like future goals. Character Traits and Values (00:05:19) Focusing on the importance of values and character over perfection in a partner. Russell Wilson’s Non-Negotiables (00:05:57) Introducing NFL quarterback Russell Wilson’s relationship criteria as inspiration. Dr. Lisa’s Top Five Non-Negotiables (00:10:09) Dr. Lisa shares her five key criteria: vulnerability, spirituality, financial fitness, physical activity, and quality time. Flexibility in Non-Negotiables (00:17:16) The role of flexibility in making relationships work and avoiding unrealistic standards. Tony’s Non-Negotiables (00:20:54) Tony shares his criteria: inner and outer beauty, independence, intelligence, and physical fitness. Learning from Past Relationships (00:26:47) Encouraging listeners to reflect on past relationships to define their own criteria. Self-Improvement and Mutual Standards (00:27:09) Reminding listeners to embody the qualities they seek in a partner. Closing and Community Engagement (00:27:35) Thanking listeners, inviting feedback, and promoting the podcast’s online community.
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The Truth About Changing Your Name After Divorce: The Emotional and Professional Reality
07/01/2025
The Truth About Changing Your Name After Divorce: The Emotional and Professional Reality
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the emotional and practical journey of changing one’s name after divorce and remarriage, especially for women over 50. Dr. Lisa shares her personal experience of reclaiming her maiden name while embracing her new identity with Tony. The hosts discuss societal expectations, the impact on family and professional life, and offer practical advice for navigating the process. They encourage open communication, self-reflection, and seeking support, reminding listeners that rediscovering identity is a personal journey worth embracing at any age. Introduction and Episode Theme (00:00:01) Hosts introduce themselves and the podcast’s focus on second chances and rediscovering identity after 50. Name Change as Part of Identity (00:01:04) Dr. Lisa introduces the topic of name changes after divorce and remarriage, especially for women. Dr. Lisa’s Personal Name Change Journey (00:03:24) Dr. Lisa shares her experience of changing her name after marriage, keeping it after divorce, and the emotions involved. Emotional Aspects of Name Change (00:05:19) Discussion about the emotional weight and identity tied to one’s name, including professional and family connections. Mixed Emotions and Digital Footprint (00:08:27) Exploring the mixed feelings, digital identity, and the sense of loss or renewal that comes with changing a name. Options for Name Changes (00:11:21) Overview of choices women have: keeping, hyphenating, reverting to maiden name, or creating a new name. Dr. Lisa’s Decision and Process (00:13:57) Dr. Lisa explains her choice to resume her maiden name and add her new husband’s name, and the slow transition process. Reactions from Friends, Family, and Colleagues (00:15:28) Feedback and support received from social media, friends, and professional contacts regarding her name change. Practical Steps and Paperwork (00:17:54) Details on the practical aspects: updating legal documents, professional licenses, and the overwhelming nature of the process. Impact on Relationships (00:19:33) Considerations for how name changes affect children, spouses, friends, and the importance of communication. Advice for Navigating Name Change (00:24:45) Practical tips: take your time, test drive the new name, list pros and cons, and talk to others for support. Legal Disclaimer and Professional Advice (00:30:23) Reminder that hosts are not attorneys and listeners should seek professional legal advice for name changes. Closing Reflections and Podcast Outro (00:31:43) Final thoughts on the journey, encouragement to follow the podcast, and invitation for topic suggestions.
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Finding Yourself Again: The Art of Self-Discovery Post-Divorce
06/24/2025
Finding Yourself Again: The Art of Self-Discovery Post-Divorce
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the challenges and opportunities of rebuilding your identity after 50, especially following the end of a long-term relationship. Drawing from their personal experiences and public examples, they discuss the loss of roles, community, and routine, and share practical advice for rediscovering passions, expanding social circles, and embracing new experiences. The hosts emphasize the importance of self-healing, enjoying your own company, and giving yourself permission to grow, encouraging listeners to reclaim their sense of self and create a fulfilling new chapter. Don't forget to rate and review on Apple Podcast. Follow us on all social media @sayingyesagain Welcome and Podcast Introduction (00:00:01): The Hosts introduce themselves and the podcast and express gratitude for listener support. Caribbean Vacation & Zodiac Signs (00:01:16) Lighthearted discussion about Tony’s Caribbean background, Aruba vacation, and their zodiac signs. Episode Topic Introduction: Rebuilding Identity After 50 (00:03:33) Introduction of the episode’s main theme: rediscovering identity after a long-term relationship ends. Personal Stories of Identity Loss (00:04:18) Dr. Lisa shares her experience of losing and redefining identity after a 25-year marriage. Celebrity Example: Princess Tatiana of Greece (00:06:03) Discussion of Princess Tatiana’s public journey of rediscovering herself after divorce. The Identity Shift: What We Lose (00:07:41) Exploring the loss of role, purpose, community, and routine after a relationship ends. Rediscovering Joy: Peeling Back the Layers (00:13:54) Inspired by Princess Tatiana, the hosts discuss revisiting past joys and activities to rediscover identity. Giving Yourself Permission to Try New Things (00:16:05) Encouragement to explore new interests and give oneself grace during the process of self-discovery. Waiting to Exhale Moments: New Experiences (00:17:25) Hosts share their own “waiting to exhale” moments, including traveling to Colombia and Jamaica. Maintaining Identity in Relationships (00:21:12) Advice on not losing oneself in relationships and the importance of personal growth while partnered. Expanding Social Circles (00:24:23) The value of building new friendships and communities to support a new identity. Signs of Readiness for New Relationships (00:26:50) Specific signs you’re ready for a new relationship, including self-enjoyment, new hobbies, and emotional processing. Recap and Encouragement (00:32:47) Summary of key points: rebuilding identity is foundational, and listeners are encouraged to share their journeys.
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Emotional Baggage Check: Are You Ready for a New Relationship?
06/17/2025
Emotional Baggage Check: Are You Ready for a New Relationship?
In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," hosts Dr. Lisa and Tony explore emotional healing and self-discovery after divorce. They discuss recognizing emotional baggage, breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, and the importance of forgiveness—both of others and oneself. Through personal stories and practical advice, they highlight the value of self-awareness, open communication, and patience in building new, healthier relationships. The episode encourages listeners to embrace second chances in love by doing the inner work needed to move forward and create meaningful connections in midlife. Submit your questions and have them answered live on our show Welcome and Introduction (00:00:01) Hosts introduce themselves, the podcast, and the episode’s focus on emotional baggage after divorce. Personal Stories: Dating After Divorce (00:02:13) Lisa and Tony share personal experiences about feeling ready to date but still carrying emotional baggage. Recognizing Unhealed Wounds (00:04:00) Discussion of signs and patterns indicating unresolved emotional issues before dating. Warning Signs of Unhealed Wounds (00:05:18) Red flags like oversharing, emotional walls, and anxiety over communication are explored. Relationship Patterns and Self-Discovery (00:09:04) Exploring repeated relationship patterns and the importance of self-reflection. The Hardest Part: Forgiveness (00:13:18) Forgiveness, especially self-forgiveness, is discussed as a crucial and challenging part of healing. Growth After Heartbreak (00:16:14) Hosts share personal growth and positive changes resulting from past relationship pain. Rediscovering Yourself After Divorce (00:18:22) Importance of rebuilding identity and self outside of a past relationship. Healing as a Journey (00:19:55) Emphasis on healing as an ongoing journey, not a destination, and advice for listeners. Magical Moment: Baggage Check in Action (00:22:10) Tony shares a pivotal story about overcoming old patterns and making a new connection with Lisa. Listener Engagement and Community (00:26:24) Invitation for listeners to share their stories and join the podcast community. Outro and Next Episode Teaser (00:27:04) Closing remarks and preview of the next episode on rebuilding identity.
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Our Story: Embracing New Beginnings in Love and Life
06/09/2025
Our Story: Embracing New Beginnings in Love and Life
In the first episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony share their personal journeys of finding love after divorce in midlife. They discuss the challenges, fears, and emotional hurdles of dating again, emphasizing the importance of healing, self-discovery, and realistic expectations. Through candid conversation and their own love story, they offer hope and encouragement to listeners navigating similar paths, highlighting that it’s never too late to open your heart and say yes to new possibilities. The episode sets the stage for future discussions on relationships, growth, and second chances. Submit your questions and have them answered live on our show Welcome and Podcast Introduction (00:00:01) Dr. Lisa and Tony introduce themselves and the "Saying Yes Again" podcast, sharing its focus on love and second chances. Why Start the Podcast? (00:00:49) They discuss their motivation for starting the podcast and the curiosity about their midlife love story. Dating After Divorce: Initial Challenges (00:01:26) The hosts talk about questions they receive and the awkwardness of dating again in their 50s. Choosing to Remain Single After Midlife Divorce (00:05:07) Statistics and reasons why many over 50 choose to stay single after divorce. Why People Stay Single: Fear and Comfort (00:06:24) Exploring reasons people avoid dating again, including fear and being set in their ways. Complexity and Negativity of Modern Dating (00:09:34) Challenges of the current dating scene, especially in cities like Atlanta. Fear of Heartbreak and Rejection (00:10:08) Both men and women fear being hurt again, which can prevent them from dating. Uncertainty and Trust Issues in Dating (00:11:14) Uncertainty about the future and who people really are after starting to date. Personal Backstories: Life Before Meeting (00:11:56) Dr. Lisa and Tony share their backgrounds, careers, and initial fears about dating again. When They Knew It Was Serious (00:22:24) They share the moment they realized they wanted to be exclusive and committed. Healing Before Dating Again (00:25:23) Importance of healing after divorce before entering a new relationship. Flirting and Keeping the Relationship Fresh (00:28:15) Advice on flirting, keeping things exciting, and the importance of listening. Magical Moments: Best Date and Lessons Learned (00:29:45) They share a memorable date and the lesson that women can take the lead in dating. Closing and Next Episode Preview (00:32:53) Wrap-up, preview of the next episode on "baggage check," and encouragement to join the community.
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Trailer: Saying Yes Again
05/05/2025
Trailer: Saying Yes Again
You thought the chapter had closed. But life—and love—had other plans. Welcome to Saying Yes Again, the podcast for anyone who’s been through heartbreak, divorce, or loss and is brave enough to believe in love one more time. Hosted by Dr. Lisa and Tony Goudy, this show shares their own story of finding love again in midlife, after divorce and doubt. Through candid conversations and honest reflections, they explore the journey of healing, rediscovery, and learning to open your heart to new possibilities. Whether you're just starting to heal, wondering if love is still possible, or already living your second love story, Saying Yes Again is your companion for inspiration, laughter, and hope. Because the next "yes" could be the one that changes everything.
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