15: Dose of DHC.
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Today with this sweet, short episode, we're giving you just a Dose of DHC: sharing real-time examples from our own lives of how we're doing life the DHC way, in the moment. We're also inviting you to share your own stories of DHC living with us, because ultimately, Dead Hearts Club is about the ways our vulnerability creates connection, when it would be easier to just not do the hard thing, share the tender truth, and be seen in all that raw, unguarded glory.
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14: Soulmates, Love and Attachment.
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In this episode, we’re upending some of the more commonly-accepted definitions of soulmates — especially in the context of a rom-com culture that tells us how soul connections should behave — because sometimes, love for and attachment to those people can really stir the pot in some confusing ways.
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13: The gentle art of revealing our hearts.
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At its core, this episode is about the bedrock Dead Hearts Club was founded on: challenging ourselves to stay so heart open that you kinda feel like you’re gonna die — and doing it in a way that holds impeccable individual (and group) boundaries, taking a sh*t ton of personal responsibility, and allowing ourselves to be held in our unscripted, wildly unpredictable humanity and hearts.
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12: Emotional Sobriety with Jessamyn Turgesen.
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In this episode, we redefine “safety” from a trauma-informed lens, and get raw about how shame occupies the space where our inner agency might otherwise call us forward when we are in deep, primal suffering. We’re talking about how the wisdom of our bodies can communicate what we need to midwife ourselves through the birthing of who we might be beneath our habits of hiding.
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11: The Intuition Episode.
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Intuition is, for many of us, an ephemeral thing. It speaks to us in a language only we understand, and its gifts are the hidden jewels of our lives -- guiding us toward or away from experiences and people that can alter the entire trajectory of our journey.
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10: You're gonna have to face it, you're addicted to spiritual self-help.
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Is it possible to be in a co-dependent relationship with healing? How about a self-destructive relationship with "transformation"? If you sometimes find yourself poking around inside yourself, in search of the next thing to "fix," this episode is for you.
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09: Two girls, two mics, one camel toe.
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As we plan which topics to bring you each week, we do a little something we call Heart Storm: we get together, hash it out, talk for a long-ass time, and a theme emerges. If you’re just tuning in, you might be wondering what DHC means. This week, Bria and I sit down and just hit record — no theme, no topic, just two girls, two mics and (as you’ll discover), one very prominent camel toe.
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08: Cultivating Play.
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In this episode, we’re talking about what bridges we’ve built from self-consciousness into a more open kind of self-expression, how it’s a constantly-evolving process, and how play shows up in our individual lives. This is a thoughtful exploration of how levity and joy might actually be our innate, foundational state of being — and how our inner Wounded Child can help us access our inner Wonder Child — that part of us that is authentic, creative, trusting and spontaneous.
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07: This is Healing
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In this episode, we explore the question: Who Are We Really? How do we touch the core essence of Self without bypassing all the human reality? How do you know which is the most reliable captain for your healing ship at any given time? What version of ourselves are we reaching for as our personal definition of "healing"? Who (or what) in us carries us toward an experience of healing that tells healing is taking root?
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06: Liberating The Light With Human Design
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Andrea Berg is a Leadership Coach, Teacher and Speaker that sparks transformation through Human Design and her 7 Life Elements. She teaches high achievers to become intentional and confident. Andrea says that your ability to follow your inner compass is directly related to how deeply you know yourself.
info_outlineHere are some words by Scott Stabile that I came across recently:
And then my sorrow whispered to me…
I am not here to crush you.
I have not come for your hope.
I only want you to feel the deep
pain of our world so that you will
love everyone in it that much more.
So, can we all just agree that it's time to give "love and light" a flaming viking funeral farewell, and be done with the spiritual bypass...? If nothing else, 2020 taught us that we can't bypass ANYTHING if we're going to actually heal.
So what is healing? As Bria and I roam around in our spiritual and emotional arsenals to bring you these episodes, we dip into some pretty existential waters reveling in what Dead Hearts Club is actually about -- and not all of it makes the cut in our episodes.
But recently, we were talking about our own journeys through real-time healing, and realized that how we each approach the healing process as individuals informs basically everything we do and are creating in our personal lives -- and in the land of DHC.
In this episode, we explore the question: Who Are We Really? How do we feel that core essence of Self without bypassing all the human reality? And when that buts up against some combination of trauma and story, labels and narrative…? How do you know which is the most reliable captain for your healing ship at any given time? What version of ourselves are we reaching for as our personal definition of "healing"? Who (or what) in us carries us toward an experience of healing that tells healing is taking root?
This is an emotional, very personal episode, as we invited one of my clients to share with us her experience and story, and we explore the labels of "mental illness," depression, and the reality of the kind of pain that makes you want to disappear into it. There is a bit of a trigger warning, here, and we also want you to know how vital not hiding from these topics is to us, because being in the middle of healing -- which is where we all are, in some shape or form -- is honest.
It's a dance between our dirty, gritty, wounded, beautiful human lives, and the aspect of us all that is intrinsically…. whole. It's an agreement to not stand divided against ourselves.
Honorable mentions + resources in this episode:
+ John Welwood, his book Love and Awakening and the term 'spiritual bypass'
+ Carolyn Myss' book Anatomy of the Spirit and the concept of Woundology
+ Brené Brown and how you can't selectively repress emotions
+ Embody Dance by Nadia Munla
+ Somatic Experiencing founded by Peter Levine
+ Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness, by David Treleaven
+ Nick Werber and his work with Family Constellations and Focalizing for working somatically
+ Bria's powerful experience with Network Spinal Analysis
+ Morgan's work as a transpersonal hypnotherapist (thanks Bria and Laura!) which you can find more about here and here, and also Morgan's personal Instagram, and as mentioned in the outro, the link to subscribe to Morgan's daily(ish) video series, Emotional Sobriety
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