48. Dear Diary: Letting Go of the Ambition to be Extraordinary
Release Date: 07/29/2025
52. The Method that Changed My Life: Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS)
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a transformative therapeutic method that has significantly impacted her life and work with clients. She explains the fundamentals of IFS, including the concept of parts, manager and firefighter roles, and the importance of self-energy. The discussion emphasizes understanding and transforming these parts for personal growth and emotional healing, while also addressing the significance of self-awareness and the role of empowered parts in navigating life's challenges. ...
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51. Why Career Change Feels So Scary (and the 4 Steps to Move Through It)
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel discusses the emotional complexities of career transitions, drawing on her personal experiences and the framework of Martha Beck's change cycle. She outlines the four phases of this cycle—death and rebirth, dreaming and scheming, the hero's journey, and mastery—emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and understanding one's identity throughout the process. Kissel provides insights into how individuals can navigate these transitions, encouraging them to prototype new career paths and engage in meaningful...
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50. Can You Be Both Powerful and Likeable as a High-Performing Woman?
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel interviews Kate Mason, who holds a PhD, a communications expert, and coach known for her work with executives and founders, particularly in the tech industry. They both explore the intricate relationship between likability and power, drawing from personal experiences and cultural contexts. They discuss strategies for enhancing likability, navigating tense relationships, and the importance of calm communication. The conversation emphasizes that communication skills can be learned and that genuine relationships are built...
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49. What to Do When Things Feel Out of Control
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Cory Welsh shares her transformative journey through the Life and Work Transformation program, detailing her experiences from level one to level two. She discusses the importance of community, emotional regulation, and effective communication frameworks, particularly nonviolent communication. Cory reflects on the internal changes she has experienced, how she navigates challenges at work and in personal relationships, and the significant impact of the program on her self-awareness and confidence. She emphasizes the value of support from...
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48. Dear Diary: Letting Go of the Ambition to be Extraordinary
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel explores the tension between the desire for perfection and the acceptance of imperfection. She reflects on her personal journey of wanting to be extraordinary while grappling with the fear of being ordinary. Through her experiences and insights, she discusses the impact of childhood programming on her ambitions, the challenges of high achievement, and the phenomenon of post-achievement depression. Ultimately, she emphasizes the importance of shifting focus from exceptionalism to contentment and living a balanced life. ...
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47. Clean Pain vs Dirty Pain (Job Loss, Negative Feedback, etc)
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel explores the concepts of clean pain and dirty pain, derived from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She discusses how clean pain is an inevitable part of life, while dirty pain arises from our reactions to clean pain, often leading to rumination and self-judgment. Hannah provides insights into coping strategies for managing these types of pain, emphasizing the importance of emotional regulation and communication in both personal and professional contexts. She also highlights the need for emotional literacy to better...
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46. A Beginner's Guide to Non-Violent Communication & Why You Need it in Your Career
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel discusses the principles and applications of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a method developed by Marshall Rosenberg. She emphasizes the importance of clear communication in both personal and professional relationships, outlining the four essential steps of NVC: observation, feeling, need, and request. Kissel shares personal anecdotes and client experiences to illustrate how NVC can transform communication styles, reduce misunderstandings, and foster stronger connections. The conversation encourages listeners to...
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45. How to Change Your Values
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel explores the concept of values, their significance in personal fulfillment, and how they can change over time. She discusses methods for identifying core values, the impact of cognitive dissonance, and the importance of taking action to align one's life with their values. The conversation also touches on the role of environment in shaping values, the discomfort that can accompany value changes, and the potential for post-traumatic growth to influence one's values. Hannah invites listeners to engage in a transformative...
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44. 8 Years Sober, Turning 35, & Getting an Exorcism
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel reflects on significant milestones in her life, including her sobriety and turning 35. She discusses her journey of self-discovery, the challenges of entrepreneurship, and her evolving definition of success. Hannah shares insights on personal growth, creativity, and a transformative experience involving an exorcism, emphasizing the importance of emotional healing and self-acceptance. Takeaways Hannah celebrates her 35th birthday and 8 years of sobriety. Sobriety is her greatest source of pride and accomplishment. She...
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43. This is Why You're Exhausted as a High-Performing Woman
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel and Michelle Agudelo delve into the often-overlooked topic of hormonal health and the menstrual cycle. They discuss the importance of understanding how hormonal fluctuations affect women's health, particularly in high-performance environments. Michelle shares insights on cycle syncing, a method of aligning work and life with the different phases of the menstrual cycle, and offers practical advice on tracking cycles and managing social commitments. The discussion emphasizes breaking the stigma around women's health...
info_outlineIn this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel explores the tension between the desire for perfection and the acceptance of imperfection. She reflects on her personal journey of wanting to be extraordinary while grappling with the fear of being ordinary. Through her experiences and insights, she discusses the impact of childhood programming on her ambitions, the challenges of high achievement, and the phenomenon of post-achievement depression. Ultimately, she emphasizes the importance of shifting focus from exceptionalism to contentment and living a balanced life.
- Hannah embraces imperfection and believes in progress over perfection.
- She has a strong desire to be extraordinary, which she grapples with.
- The fear of being ordinary can hinder personal growth and aspirations.
- Childhood programming influences our beliefs about success and achievement.
- High achievers often face post-achievement depression after reaching their goals.
- Hannah reflects on the misconception that relationships solve personal issues.
- She acknowledges the need to shift from a mindset of exceptionalism to one of contentment.
- Living a balanced life is crucial for mental health and well-being.
- Hannah is in a process of self-discovery and personal growth.
- She invites feedback from her audience to better support her community.
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