48. Dear Diary: Letting Go of the Ambition to be Extraordinary
Release Date: 07/29/2025
2025 Reflection & 2026 Intention Setting
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In this reflective conversation, Executive Life Coach Hannah and Cory explore their experiences over the past year, using the Wheel of Life as a framework to assess their satisfaction in various life categories. They discuss their career aspirations, community connections, health journeys, and the importance of fun and recreation. The dialogue emphasizes the value of reflection for personal growth and setting intentions for the upcoming year. Reflection is essential for personal growth The Wheel of Life helps assess life satisfaction. Career satisfaction can fluctuate and requires active...
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60. Hannah Hotline: I hate my boss
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Welcome to Hannah Hotline! In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, we tackle a common challenge among high performers: dealing with a boss who is inconsistent, incompetent, and a people-pleaser. A listener is heading into a crucial meeting with their VP and is tempted to "throw their boss under the bus" to gain a leadership opportunity. Life coach Hannah Kissel breaks down the essential strategy you need to handle this situation without sabotaging your career. Watch this episode if you're "over it and aiming up" and want to elevate your career conversation In this video, you...
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59. A Guided Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) Meditation for High Achievers
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Welcome to this special bonus episode of the Big Fcking Dreams podcast. This is a powerful, guided meditation designed to help you connect with and unburden one of your protective "parts" using the framework of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. For high-achievers, overthinkers, and perfectionists, learning to speak to these parts, like the Inner Critic, the Martyr, or the People-Pleaser, is the key to reducing stress, building self-compassion, and stepping into your true Self energy. Find a comfortable position, close your eyes, and let's begin the work of healing and integrating....
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58. 5 Red Flags That Are Destroying Your Career Confidence
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Are you losing your edge, but can't figure out why? You're objectively exceptional, but you still feel like an imposter and you're shutting down in important meetings. In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams, Life Coach Hannah Kissel breaks down the 5 red flags that are silently crushing your career confidence and giving you true imposter syndrome. She dive deep into how perfectionism and people-pleasing are linked to burnout, and why you feel like you have to overgive to prove your worth. If you are struggling with low confidence, self-doubt, or always comparing yourself to...
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57. The 3 Foundations Every High Performer Forgets
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams, Hannah Kissel discusses the foundational elements of well-being, emphasizing the importance of sleep, exercise, and community. She highlights how neglecting these basics can lead to burnout and health issues, especially for high performers. The conversation encourages listeners to simplify their routines and focus on small, consistent changes to improve their overall health and happiness. Foundations of life are more important than optimization. Sleep, exercise, and community are essential for well-being. High performers often neglect basic...
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56. Kiss and Tell: My Wedding Recap
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Hannah Kissel and Cory Welsh dive into the intricacies of wedding planning, the pressures surrounding body image, and the meaning of marriage. They share personal anecdotes about their wedding experiences, discuss the societal expectations placed on brides, and reflect on the importance of self-acceptance and partnership. The conversation highlights the joy and challenges of navigating relationships and the significance of staying true to one's vision amidst external pressures. The pressure to have a perfect wedding day can be overwhelming....
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55. The 3 Characteristics of Burnout - Do You Have Them?
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel delves into the topic of burnout, sharing her personal experiences and insights. She discusses the three dimensions of burnout—emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, and inefficacy—drawing from research by Susan Jackson and Christina Maslach. Hannah also identifies six mismatches that contribute to burnout, including workload, control, reward, community, fairness, and value misalignment. Finally, she offers strategies for addressing burnout and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's...
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54. How Do You Live and Lead by Your Values in a non-BS Way?
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel and Katie Clinch explore the importance of living and leading by one's values. They discuss Katie's personal journey in defining her values, the impact of these values on her leadership style, and the significance of community and group coaching in personal development. The discussion also delves into the Drama Triangle and parts work, highlighting how understanding these concepts can empower individuals to take control of their lives and decisions. Katie shares her experiences and insights, emphasizing the...
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53. From Complex Trauma to Corporate Burnout: The Fawn Trauma Response
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel explores the Fawn Trauma Response, a lesser-known reaction to trauma characterized by people-pleasing and appeasement behaviors. She discusses its roots in complex trauma, particularly in corporate environments, where individuals often struggle to advocate for themselves. The conversation highlights the importance of awareness, practical steps to overcome fawning behaviors, and the role of Internal Family Systems therapy in understanding and addressing these responses. Kissel emphasizes that change is possible and...
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52. The Method that Changed My Life: Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS)
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In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a transformative therapeutic method that has significantly impacted her life and work with clients. She explains the fundamentals of IFS, including the concept of parts, manager and firefighter roles, and the importance of self-energy. The discussion emphasizes understanding and transforming these parts for personal growth and emotional healing, while also addressing the significance of self-awareness and the role of empowered parts in navigating life's challenges. ...
info_outlineIn this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel explores the tension between the desire for perfection and the acceptance of imperfection. She reflects on her personal journey of wanting to be extraordinary while grappling with the fear of being ordinary. Through her experiences and insights, she discusses the impact of childhood programming on her ambitions, the challenges of high achievement, and the phenomenon of post-achievement depression. Ultimately, she emphasizes the importance of shifting focus from exceptionalism to contentment and living a balanced life.
- Hannah embraces imperfection and believes in progress over perfection.
- She has a strong desire to be extraordinary, which she grapples with.
- The fear of being ordinary can hinder personal growth and aspirations.
- Childhood programming influences our beliefs about success and achievement.
- High achievers often face post-achievement depression after reaching their goals.
- Hannah reflects on the misconception that relationships solve personal issues.
- She acknowledges the need to shift from a mindset of exceptionalism to one of contentment.
- Living a balanced life is crucial for mental health and well-being.
- Hannah is in a process of self-discovery and personal growth.
- She invites feedback from her audience to better support her community.
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