458-Why Doesn't She Want Sex: Drop The Expectations
Delight Your Marriage
Let’s set the scene- You’ve planned the perfect evening. A Friday night—date night. You and your wife are dressed to the nines. There’s a show, a fantastic dinner, and deep conversation that reconnects your hearts. But then you arrive back home… What are you hoping will happen next? Here’s the truth: that unspoken hope—your expectation—might be doing more harm than you realize. When a husband subconsciously expects intimacy, it can feel like pressure to his wife. And that pressure? It makes her withdraw. Intimacy begins to feel transactional—like something she owes you, a...
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457 - Why Doesn't She Want Sex: The Basics
Delight Your Marriage
We know that intimacy is an integral part of married life. But what happens when that intimacy… isn’t happening? You’ve tried to explain, you’ve tried to give your point of view, you’ve even tried to give pointers, and still… nothing. What can you do? At Delight Your Marriage, we have developed a framework for what men and women need in order to feel loved and thrive in their marriages and, in turn, move towards intimacy. When these things are missing from a marriage, it can often cause bitterness, resentment, and can lead to months, even years, of lack of...
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456-Don't Give Up (my husband joins me :)) [Re-Release]
Delight Your Marriage
We are so glad to be able to share a re-release episode with you this week! My husband, Dario, joins us again and he, as always, has some words of encouragement for you. We hope this episode does indeed encourage you and bless you! ------------- Nov. 11, 2021 Don’t give up. My goal today is to encourage you. You’re doing a really good job. Just by tuning in, you’re winning. You’re seeking to love your spouse well, even when it doesn’t look like it matters. You’re seeking to do God’s will in the midst of your circumstances. My husband is on the show today because...
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455-Honor Their Strengths & Support Their Weaknesses (Belah's husband joins!)
Delight Your Marriage
It’s so easy to focus on the weaknesses of your spouse. In fact, it’s one of the easiest things to do when you think of them, but if you can imagine being in your spouse’s shoes, everything you say and do, picked apart and looked at under a magnifying glass… That doesn’t help them live their best life and thrive. I invite you to instead accept your spouse‘s weaknesses. They have them. You have them. And look instead at their strengths. Notice what they’re doing right and comment on it. Today. I’m joined by my husband, Dario, who is an amazing father and amazing...
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454-Hopeless & Frustrated to Restored Legacy: Craig's Transformation Story
Delight Your Marriage
We’re thrilled to share Craig’s story with you today. For years, Craig and his wife were stuck in a painful cycle—“You always ____,” “You never _____”—both keeping score, building walls of resentment, and matching hurt with hurt. Things seemed like they’d never change. Then, a friend from church mentioned the transformation he had experienced through Delight Your Marriage. Craig was skeptical at first, but as the months passed, he couldn’t deny the remarkable shift in his friend’s life. That’s when Craig decided to take the first step and schedule a Clarity Call. What...
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453-Moving On from His Mistakes: Lindsay's Transformation Story
Delight Your Marriage
We have the honor and privilege of sharing Lindsay's Transformation Story today. For years, she struggled with the pain of infidelity, unsure if she could ever trust her husband again. But when her husband decided to join the Masculinity Reclaimed program, the changes she saw in him stirred something in her heart. That’s when she reached out, booked a free Clarity Call, and joined the Delighted Wife program. Through God’s grace, their marriage has been completely transformed. Moments once marked by tension and fear have been replaced by playfulness and peace. She has rediscovered the...
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452-Forgiven & Free of Resentment & Past Affairs. Jim's Transformation Story
Delight Your Marriage
Today’s episode is an incredible story of God‘s transformative power. From a man who started out broken and lonely, with a history he wasn’t proud of, God was able to take his little seed of faith, his little seed of hope that just maybe something could change for him, too. He decided to sign up for a free Clarity Call, and then to join our program. He went through the program once on his own. Eventually, his wife saw some changes in him and decided that she wanted to do the work to heal from their past. Ultimately, they both did the program at the same time, and praise the Lord,...
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451-How to Deal with Anxiety Biblically
Delight Your Marriage
Is it true? Are you sure it’s true? How often do we ask these questions when an anxious thought comes to our mind? Too often we allow ourselves to assume a thought is true and allow the anxiety to drive us to choices we don't want to make. Anxiety is fear. Stress is masked fear. And controlling or mothering behavior... yep... it's also fear. The Bible is crystal clear: Do not fear. Be anxious for nothing. If you want to break free from this snare, it starts with 1) calming your physical body 2) investigating the mental tapes playing in your mind. What anxious thoughts have you...
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450-Where There is Breath, There is Hope: Kevin's Transformation Story
Delight Your Marriage
Have you ever felt so disconnected in your marriage that you wondered if it was worth fighting for? Kevin found himself in that very place—emotionally, spiritually, and physically distant from his wife. Harshness and criticism seemed to cloud their every interaction, leaving him discouraged and ready to give up. He felt his energy was drained and was unmotivated in many aspects of life. He took the courage to sign up and speak with Dana on a Clarity Call, he felt it gave him insights into himself and helped him discover what was at the root of their disconnection. He felt he wasn't the...
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449-Cowardly Lions Aren't Sexy (Lies Undermine Courage)
Delight Your Marriage
By the end of this episode, I hope you'll get this, men: Courage. Character. Restraint. What I really want to share is that if you want your wife to follow you and be turned on by you, cowardice isn't sexy... to say the least. It's true that the "righteous are as bold as a lion". If you want to grow in courage you must grow in your character. When you lie to yourself or to others, you are undermining your confidence and courage. You are the leader of your home. Whether you feel that way or not, what you do (or don't do) creates the culture. You are the...
info_outlineClarity is a Christian's speciality.
Amidst a confused culture, a clear understanding of God's word is what we need.
If you're a husband, I invite you to consider how Jesus led and what the Bible says about a husband's leadership in the family.
If you're a wife, I invite you to hear what a man can be (really) so you are happy to be led.
My story started without good role modeling.
And then I tried to "submit" and it was soul crushing.
Then I decided I would NOT submit, and it was stressful, frustrating, and deeply painful.
Then I discovered God's way (though I still make mistakes at times), and it has made both my husband and I flourish.
I can lead in many, many ways outside of our family -- but I love that in our home I am not the leader. My husband is trustworthy and good to me and our children.
I hope you can catch a vision of what it can mean for you as a man or a woman to empower the right order of family.
We are to be a light on a hill for the non-believers.
I hope you'll curiously seek to gain perspective and growth into more and more of who God wants you to be in and through your marriage so you can do more for the Kingdom of God.
Love,
Belah
PS - We can help -- if you're a husband or a wife -- that's what we do. Check out delightyourmarriage.com/cc to learn more.
PPS - Here a quote from a recent graduate:
Before the Masculinity Reclaimed program: “I had quite a few struggles when starting the program...we were arguing quite a lot, I was defensive in my responses and even blamed [her] for the issues. I also hadn't been intentional in terms of dating or cherishing her for a long time and she was feeling neglected and getting more and more upset about the situation.
Neither of us was very happy. I tried to do more around the house to make [her] happy, tried to act perfectly but still failed and ended up walking on eggshells most of the time. Not feeling or acting confidently or as a leader.”
After MR: “I can see now that I had been both aloof and independent towards my wife...but also very dependent on her mood and feelings/actions towards me.
I feel more secure now in who I am, I don't get defensive much at all any more and we rarely argue… I realized that I hadn't been a very good husband for a very long time. I didn't know the extent of it until I went through each week and realized that I hadn't really been doing the basics of knowing my wife, or making her feel safe and cherished. That was a hard realization, but actually really helped me to understand the situation and where [she] was coming from and also helped me to own my part in it.
It's been a huge change for the better. I have daily devotions now, I practice gratitude daily now. I have more confidence and less anxiety around people or stressful situations. I feel closer to God now; what could be a bigger impact than that?”