Delight Your Marriage
Trust is an essential part of the foundation in your marriage, but what happens when that foundation cracks—or even shatters? Maybe you’ve been hurt by the person you thought would always protect your heart. Perhaps betrayal, harsh words, or neglect have left you questioning everything. Can trust ever be rebuilt? Should you even try? If you’ve found yourself asking these questions, you’re not alone. Broken trust can feel overwhelming, leaving you guarded, uncertain, and even hopeless. But this doesn’t have to be the end of your story. There is hope for healing, even in...
info_outline 464-New Year Disciplines for Confidence and FaithDelight Your Marriage
How do you plan to step into this year with confidence and faith? The new year often brings a whirlwind of resolutions and lofty goals. Perhaps you’ve felt that familiar pull—“I’m going to do more of this,” “I’ll cut back on that,” or “This year, I’ll completely turn things around.” But maybe that’s not where you are right now. Maybe, instead of a burst of motivation, you feel unmotivated, stuck, or unsure. What if what you’re missing isn’t motivation, but faith? Faith that God is with you. Faith that He has a plan. Faith that, in Him, you can walk with a new sense...
info_outline 463-Reflect and Refocus: Renewed Vision for 2025Delight Your Marriage
How do you step into a new year with purpose? Life can feel like a constant rush, can’t it? Maybe you’re juggling tasks right now, trying to get it all done before the clock strikes midnight on December 31st. But as we prepare to turn the page on this year, what if we paused? What if we took a moment to breathe deeply, to reflect, and to realign with what truly matters? Believe it or not, you have done a lot of good this past year. Yes, there may be places where you have slipped up or there were hard lessons to learn, but look at the good. And look at the good God has done in...
info_outline 462-Fall in LIKE with Your Spouse AgainDelight Your Marriage
Do you remember what it was like falling in “like” with your spouse? What was it that originally drew you to them? Maybe it was their humor, kindness, or how they made you feel seen and appreciated. Over time, it's easy for that “like” to fade. Instead, criticism, judgment, or even indifference creeps in. But imagine being in your spouse’s shoes—everything they say and do, examined under a magnifying glass, critiqued and picked apart. That kind of scrutiny doesn’t help them thrive. And nothing wounds deeper than feeling that the person you chose, the one closest...
info_outline 461-Isolation Wasn't the Answer that Healed Him. Pat's Transformation StoryDelight Your Marriage
Change is possible. We are honored to be able to share Pat’s story with you today. After years of therapy and struggling with a porn addiction, Pat felt hopeless. He had done all he knew to do, yet there was still a hole in his heart—and in his marriage. But Pat decided to take a courageous step of faith. After years of being a listener to the podcast, he made the call, and through the Masculinity Reclaimed program, he finally found what he had been searching for: true community and lasting change. Surrounded by other men who were pursuing God and committed to loving their wives well, Pat...
info_outline 460-A Wife's Holy PrivilegeDelight Your Marriage
How do you prioritize your life? This episode is for our lovely wives in the audience. Dear wives, life can feel like a never-ending whirlwind. Maybe right now you’re juggling errands, picking up your kids, or running around doing everything for everyone else. It’s easy to get caught up in all the demands, isn’t it? But let’s pause for a moment and think about what God has asked us to prioritize. When Jesus was asked about the greatest commandment, His response was crystal clear: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is...
info_outline 459-Socially Unskilled But Now Connected: Stu’s Transformation StoryDelight Your Marriage
It’s so easy to feel the disconnect in your marriage and wonder if things can ever truly align. Stu’s story is a beautiful reminder that transformation is possible. Stu grew up feeling socially awkward and unsure about the purpose of marriage. After marrying his wonderful wife Linda and after 20 years of marriage, he still found himself asking, “How do I understand her?” and “How do I connect with her?” He described their relationship as feeling like “misaligned velcro.” But instead of staying stuck, Stu decided to take a step of faith. Through the Delight Your Marriage...
info_outline 458-Why Doesn't She Want Sex: Drop The ExpectationsDelight Your Marriage
Let’s set the scene- You’ve planned the perfect evening. A Friday night—date night. You and your wife are dressed to the nines. There’s a show, a fantastic dinner, and deep conversation that reconnects your hearts. But then you arrive back home… What are you hoping will happen next? Here’s the truth: that unspoken hope—your expectation—might be doing more harm than you realize. When a husband subconsciously expects intimacy, it can feel like pressure to his wife. And that pressure? It makes her withdraw. Intimacy begins to feel transactional—like something she owes you, a...
info_outline 457 - Why Doesn't She Want Sex: The BasicsDelight Your Marriage
We know that intimacy is an integral part of married life. But what happens when that intimacy… isn’t happening? You’ve tried to explain, you’ve tried to give your point of view, you’ve even tried to give pointers, and still… nothing. What can you do? At Delight Your Marriage, we have developed a framework for what men and women need in order to feel loved and thrive in their marriages and, in turn, move towards intimacy. When these things are missing from a marriage, it can often cause bitterness, resentment, and can lead to months, even years, of lack of...
info_outline 456-Don't Give Up (my husband joins me :)) [Re-Release]Delight Your Marriage
We are so glad to be able to share a re-release episode with you this week! My husband, Dario, joins us again and he, as always, has some words of encouragement for you. We hope this episode does indeed encourage you and bless you! ------------- Nov. 11, 2021 Don’t give up. My goal today is to encourage you. You’re doing a really good job. Just by tuning in, you’re winning. You’re seeking to love your spouse well, even when it doesn’t look like it matters. You’re seeking to do God’s will in the midst of your circumstances. My husband is on the show today because...
info_outlineWhat if I told you that you have influence? That you don't need to have a podcast or a church or a book or a social media following. That right now, in this moment, you have the power to influence the lives of others, especially your spouse.
Every day we have the power to influence the life of our spouse. We have the power to show them who they are in Christ by loving them the way Jesus loves them. When we make their day great just by the tiny interactions we have with them throughout the day, we are influencing them in a dramatic way. It is affecting their life and their potential to follow Jesus more closely!
Or we can discourage them. We can complain and criticize and tear them down- even if we don't mean to. We have the power to completely make or break our spouses' day because of the relationship we have with them. If we're so focused on ourselves and our own needs not being met, we are negatively influencing them and likely pushing them away from Jesus on that day, week, year and eventually... their life.
Our spouse is our first assignment. They are our highest place of influence.
Do not waste your influence.
In this episode, we are talking about what it really means to have influence and how to use that influence (including some practicals in how to communicate the points you want to get across). We hope it shines a light on places and encourages you to recognize your power and use it for good.
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - You can find the Marital Health Assessment mentioned at the beginning of this podcast here: delightyoumarriage.com/health
PPS - If you want to know more about what we do and how we can help your marriage, please feel free to reach out at delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
"There has been unbelievable healing and growth that I prayed so desperately for, but never knew how to achieve on my own. I am closer to God than ever before and now have such an incredible arsenal of tools in my pocket to handle the difficult situations that inevitably still arise."