137: The Power of You - The Final Episode
Delivering Miracles®
With the technology boom, patients and clients now have access to the same information as medical professionals. As beneficial as technology can be, the drawback is that we find conflicting messages that don’t help us when we are scared and overwhelmed with caring for our child. Join me for this final episode of the Delivering Miracles podcast as we discuss stress, the nervous system, and the necessity of rest and repair. Show Highlights: A quote on social media about stress and infertility--and why it makes my blood boil [4:50] Stress is a set of physiological chain...
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136: What Women Need to Know About Pregnancy Anxiety
Delivering Miracles®
Statistics show that approximately 6% of women experience anxiety during pregnancy, but I suspect that the percentage is actually much higher than that. This episode covers pregnancy anxiety, which is something I see a lot in my practice. Many women have questions about this topic, especially since it’s something that is frequently waved off and disregarded by healthcare providers. It’s a topic that’s close to my heart because I see a lot of outdated tools and techniques touted as the solution. The truth is that your physical body holds the key. Let’s jump into pregnancy anxiety...
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135: Parenting After Loss
Delivering Miracles®
Parenting after loss is a topic that comes up frequently in the Delivering Miracles community. People ask what they should do and how they should go on loving the child they have while still feeling the previous loss. This unique kind of grief presents a conundrum in how to handle the intricacies of parenting, and societal pressure certainly plays into how we THINK we should feel. There is most definitely not just ONE right way to navigate this grief into your role as a parent, but there are principles to follow to get through the basics of grief and loss. Let’s talk about it. ...
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134: Why Nervous System Regulation is Essential During Fertility Treatment, a High-Risk Pregnancy and Postpartum
Delivering Miracles®
I’m asked frequently why I like to focus on bodywork and nervous system regulation. The simple answer is that I want to know (and I want you to know) not just how to cope, but how to not be affected by the anxiety that comes with life. When you’re affected by trauma, the truth is that not everything gets better with time. Many people misunderstand nervous system regulation, so let’s talk about how this works and how this information can help you in the long run.
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133: This is Trauma Live Event
Delivering Miracles®
The topic of trauma has hit home for me and our DM community. Stress, anxiety, and maternal mental health issues all have their roots in unresolved trauma. Trauma is simply a nervous system frozen in a state of danger, and it’s not tied to a specific event, but in how that event is encoded in your body. Let’s dive deeper! Show Highlights: Why it’s easy to minimize trauma, which has nothing to do with what you went through; it’s a nervous system frozen in a state of danger (1:12) The crux of the trauma problem: When the nervous system is stuck, we cannot make conscious choices until...
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132: The Biggest Problem of Prenatal & Postpartum Care
Delivering Miracles®
This is the episode I didn’t want to do. I tried to avoid it, but I can’t. My feelings are prompted by what I’ve seen on social media posts and articles--and those have left an awful taste in my mouth. We have an epidemic in the US of healthcare providers not listening to women when they complain about their pain and what’s going on in their lives. People don’t listen, and they don’t trust what women say, but then they wonder why all these women’s health issues keep cropping up in spite of our advanced technology. I’m angry--and you should be, too. Let’s talk about it. ...
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131: Comparing and Justifying Prevent Healing
Delivering Miracles®
Do you feel that you deserve to heal and feel better on your fertility journey? Do you feel like you deserve to be a mother and experience a healthier pregnancy? Do you feel like you deserve to grieve your losses and bring a baby home from the hospital? Of course, we say that we deserve these things, but the problem is that we battle an underlying feeling of unworthiness. In this episode: The qualifications we use to call ourselves “infertile” [3:20] How we, as women, allow everyone else’s needs to be more important than our own [12:20] When we don’t feel validated in...
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130: How to Prepare for a Pre-Term Delivery
Delivering Miracles®
November is Prematurity Awareness Month, so it’s a good time for us to discuss the basics. In today’s show, we’re talking about risk factors for preterm delivery and other information you need to know about this frightening experience. In this episode: Prematurity is the leading cause of death for children under five across the world---and the rate in the US keeps rising. [1:47] A history of preterm delivery is the #1 risk factor for another preterm delivery. [6:51] Many medical conditions and lifestyle habits can increase the chances of preterm delivery. [21:27] Conditions...
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129: Listener Q and A
Delivering Miracles®
I love to hear from you! I love to address your questions and concerns with Listener Q & A episodes, like today’s show. Join us as we cover several topics that are relevant to birth trauma, preemie development, postpartum depression, and the work of healing. In this episode: Dealing with the uncertainty of the development of a preemie when you aren’t sure what to expect [2:24] Experiencing postpartum depression with stillbirth, miscarriage, or ectopic pregnancy [15:48] Getting over the fear of a medical termination when you’ve gone through this before [25:33] How (and...
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128: Healing After Pregnancy & Infant Loss
Delivering Miracles®
There are many nuances to grief. The loss of a child is extremely painful grief, but you have to trust that your body knows how to heal itself. It’s important that you reach out for support when you need professional guidance. Let’s jump into this difficult topic together. In this episode: We don’t speak accurately enough about the experience of pregnancy loss and saying goodbye to a life lost too soon. [9:28] Grief hurts and feels awful. [11:00] Our body has a built-in system that knows how to heal from grief. [19:55] There are no stages of grief. [25:07] Your job is to...
info_outlineParenting after loss is a topic that comes up frequently in the Delivering Miracles community. People ask what they should do and how they should go on loving the child they have while still feeling the previous loss. This unique kind of grief presents a conundrum in how to handle the intricacies of parenting, and societal pressure certainly plays into how we THINK we should feel. There is most definitely not just ONE right way to navigate this grief into your role as a parent, but there are principles to follow to get through the basics of grief and loss. Let’s talk about it.
Show Highlights:
- Talking about loss brings up many issues around grief, which is a topic that our society doesn’t know how to approach [1:23]
- Are you STUCK in grief if you find it difficult to move on? [4:28]
- Your grief doesn’t disappear with another pregnancy or another baby [8:16]
- If you don’t release the grief, it sits in the body and freezes your nervous system [10:09]
- When you are parenting through grief, it is the time to call on your support group for help [20:33]
- Allow your body to do what it needs to do to feel the grief and then release it [25:50]
- Know your grief triggers and avoid them until you know you can allow the waves of grief to complete [27:54]
- Your grief experience is a great learning opportunity for your children to develop emotional intelligence and empathy (Don’t shield them from grief!) [30:13]
- There is no ONE right way to honor your lost baby, but you must address the underlying fear and do what brings you a sense of peace [33:09]
- Your grief can teach your children about the nuances of life; it’s YOUR choice how to let them experience grief [40:32]
- You don’t have to figure it all out right now, but you have to lead with what brings you peace, so just start there [43:59]
- When you’ve experienced a loss and have anxiety about losing your living children, this is trauma encoded in your body [45:33]
- The key is to thaw your nervous system and let the waves of grief come--then you’ll find peace [47:14]
- When we do the healing work, we heal the whole family, so make your healing a priority [50:21]
- You WILL heal, which means remembering those babies without pain and with choice [51:54]
Resources:
Modern Approach to Grief & Trauma Release Free Webinar http://bit.ly/modappweb
Healing from Grief - http://bit.ly/dmep128
Coping with the loss of a child - http://bit.ly/013dm
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