Healing from Spiritual Trauma: When Church Hurt Makes Faith Feel Unsafe
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. Carol
Release Date: 07/21/2026
Beyond Behavior Change: How Real Character Transformation Happens
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What if becoming more like Jesus has less to do with how much you know and more to do with who you’re becoming? We can read the right books, listen to Christian podcasts and attend great churches. We can even know all the right answers. Yet we may still struggle with anger, insecurity, addiction, the need for approval or unhealthy relationship patterns. In this episode, Dr. Carol talks with professor and author Chuck DeGroat about the “hidden architecture” of character. They discuss why genuine Christlike transformation requires more than information or outward spiritual practices. Chuck...
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How to Love Your Adult Children Without Trying to Control Them
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Parenting doesn’t end when your child becomes an adult. But parenting them the same way has to. That transition can be harder than many parents expect. When do you speak up, and when do you stay quiet? What do you do when you disagree with their choices? And how do you handle the grief when the close relationship you once shared begins to look very different? In this episode, Dr. Carol talks with Dr. Kathy Koch about how parents can move from directing their children to walking alongside them as coaches, mentors and trusted advisors. That means learning to listen without immediately...
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When Your Spirit, Soul, and Body Get Out of Sync
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God didn't create us as disconnected compartments of spirit, soul, and body. In this episode, Dr. Carol along with Avery and Zion Montgomery explore the biblical vision of whole-person health, rooted in the idea that God desires to make us whole in every dimension of our being. They discuss how the coming alive of our spirit when we encounter Jesus is designed to lead us toward greater health in our soul and body also. They also explore the danger of spiritual bypass, when we use spiritual language or practices to avoid paying attention to emotional, relational, or physical realities that...
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Why Information Isn’t the Key to Transformation: How Your Soul Actually Changes
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You can know your attachment style, understand your personality, read all the books, and still find yourself reacting in the same old ways. Why? Because information is not the same as transformation. In this conversation, Dr. Carol and author and licensed therapist Dr. Alison Cook explore what it takes to move psychological and spiritual insights from your head into the deeper places of your soul. They talk about secure attachment, why no human being can provide the fullness of security our souls need, and why true security begins with an inner attachment to God. The conversation introduces...
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The Fragrance of Faith: How Our Senses Help Us Encounter God
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What if Scripture was meant to be experienced with more than just our minds? In this episode, Dr. Carol talks with biblical scholar and Biola University professor Dr. Jeannine Hanger about what it means to engage the Bible through our whole selves—our bodies, senses, memories, and experiences. Drawing from her work Engaging Jesus with Our Senses, Dr. Hanger explains how Western Christianity can sometimes reduce discipleship to acquiring information, while Scripture invites us into something much richer. Together, they explore the sensory language woven throughout the Gospel of John—from...
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Single, Christian, and Sexual: What Does Sexual Wholeness Look Like?
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What does it mean to be a sexual person when you’re not married? In this replay of a webinar presented at the Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit, Dr. Carol challenges some of the assumptions the church has often made about Christian singles and sexuality. Sexuality doesn’t disappear when you’re single, and marriage isn’t the goal of the Christian life; becoming like Jesus is. Jesus Himself was single, yet He was fully human, fully alive, and completely whole. Dr. Carol explores the important distinction between sexuality and sexual activity, and between sex and the deeper human need...
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Mother Wounds: How Your Relationship With Mom Shapes Your Relationship With God
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What happens when the person who was supposed to help you feel safe, loved, and known instead becomes a source of hurt? In this episode, Dr. Carol talks with Dr. Sarita Lyons, author, Bible teacher, and psychotherapist, about mother wounds—the emotional and spiritual wounds that can shape our identity, relationships, and even our picture of God. They explore how experiences with our mothers can contribute to people-pleasing, over-functioning, parentification, and difficulty trusting others, while also recognizing that many mothers who wound their children are carrying wounds of their own....
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How Do You Know God Is Speaking?
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What if learning to follow Jesus more deeply also means learning to recognize what isn’t from Him? In this conversation at Austin Christian University, Dr. Carol shares from her journey from medicine into ministry as she and her host Avery Montgomery explore spiritual growth, personal stories, and intimacy with God. They talk about why our stories matter, how shame drives us into hiding, and why bringing our whole story into the light can become part of our spiritual transformation. Rather than beginning with the brokenness of Genesis 3, our stories begin with the goodness and intention...
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What If Your Sexual Struggle Is Really About Intimacy Instead?
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What if the sexual struggle you’re trying so hard to overcome isn’t really about sex? In this conversation, Dr. Carol talks with Dr. Floyd Godfrey about the powerful connection between attachment, intimacy, mental health, and sexuality. We’re born with a deep biological need for connection and belonging, but when those needs are wounded or unmet, they can sometimes become fused with sexual desire. Sexual behaviors or attractions may then become attempts to meet legitimate needs for connection, affirmation, comfort, belonging, or mentorship in ways that ultimately leave us even more...
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What We’ve Forgotten About Following Jesus: Lessons in discipleship from the early church to today
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What does it actually mean to follow Jesus—and what can Christians today learn from those who followed Him centuries before us? In this conversation, Dr. Gerald Sittser, professor emeritus at Whitworth University and author of Water from a Deep Well, takes us on a journey through Christian history, from the early martyrs and desert fathers to monasteries, mystics, and missionaries. We explore why early Christians developed rigorous processes for discipleship, what a Rule of Life can teach us today, and how learning to “inhabit time” through rhythms of prayer, work, silence, and stillness...
info_outlineWhat happens when the very things that are meant to draw you closer to God become sources of fear, anxiety, or pain? Spiritual trauma is more than disappointment with church or difficult experiences with Christians. It happens when faith becomes intertwined with trauma, leaving your nervous system physically reacting to prayer, Scripture, worship, or church as though they are unsafe. In this compassionate conversation, Dr. Carol welcomes trauma therapist Colleen Ramser to unpack what spiritual trauma really is, why it affects both body and soul, and why simplistic advice like "just pray more" often deepens the wounds instead of bringing healing.
Together they explore how healing begins by honoring your body's responses, giving voice to the silence and anger that often follow trauma, and finding safe relationships where trust can slowly be rebuilt. You'll discover why anger isn't the enemy, how secure attachment with God can be restored, and how Jesus can be found again beneath the debris left by painful experiences. If you've been hurt by church, spiritual leaders, or faith communities—or if you love someone who has—this conversation offers both practical wisdom and genuine hope that healing is possible.
Connect with Colleen Ramser on her website or Facebook
Find Collen's book The Shattered Soul: Restoring Wholeness and Rebuilding Your Faith After Spiritual Trauma https://amzn.to/47uYGOh
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