The Achiever’s Curse: Why The Pursuit of Significance is a Dangerous Trap | DTPHD Podcast 33

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Shownotes:
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1:02  What’s the default state of achievers, and why does it matter?
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4:45  Two metaphors for how best to view the worth of a human being
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8:36  How achievers become worthy of love and connection
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10:35  How meditation helps you find your own value
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16:44  How growing and striving relate to meeting your need for significance
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20:55  When the pursuit of significance becomes unhealthy
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25:01  One of the big downsides from being in the Flow state
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27:26  Why people put off their happiness
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30:44  How to find fulfillment in the present
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36:11  Why achievers don't believe they're enough
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40:33  This is what achievers fear when they reach their goals
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45:56   What happens when you let go of striving for significance
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49:02  The advantage of finding fulfillment in the present
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