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TCL093 - 3 Coaching Questions that improve every meeting

The Coaching Leader - by IntelliCoach

Release Date: 02/17/2023

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In this episode, we cover the three coaching questions that can improve every meeting. As a coach and trainer, I've seen many corporate meetings go off track due to unclear goals and implicit assumptions. It's frustrating, and it wastes time and money. That's why I want to share with you these three simple questions that any leader with professional coaching skills can use to get meetings back on track.

Here are the three coaching questions that we discuss in this episode:

  • For this meeting that we are in, what goals should we agree on?
  • How do we know that we achieved those goals?
  • Now that we have our goal, just to confirm, what makes this agreed goal important today?

These three questions may seem unnecessary and repetitive, but they are carefully designed to frame a conversation properly. They make goals explicit and force all parties to agree and disagree early on, which avoids assumptions and ambiguous agreements that can lead to wasted time and manipulative behavior. Additionally, they give us a chance to check progress, make final adjustments, and debrief the meeting at the end. By using these three coaching questions, you can make your meetings more focused, effective, and engaging.

If you're a leader who wants to create strong, trusting relationships with your team members, peers, and bosses, then you should listen to this episode. These coaching questions are one of the most important skills that a coach learns, but it's strangely hard to master. However, once you nail them, you can improve your meetings and conversations significantly. It takes courage to be the person who confirms the agenda, sets clear goals, and checks progress, but it shows executive presence, goal orientation, and a sharpness that sets you apart from others. By applying these coaching skills, you can be more present, hold people accountable, and make conversations and meetings more effective.

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