Fear of Confrontation? Confrontation Reframes for Recovering People-Pleasers
Boundary Bungalow
📝 Show Notes Episode Title: Confrontation Reframes for Recovering People-Pleasers Podcast: Boundary Bungalow Podcast Edition ✅ Key Points Most people fear confrontation because they associate it with conflict, arguments, or rejection. Confrontation is not aggression — it can be a gentle clarity conversation. Reframing your mindset transforms confrontation into a healthy communication tool. 5 Core Reframes: 1️⃣ Conflict → Clarification Confronting issues early prevents misunderstandings from growing like weeds. 2️⃣ Threat → Boundary Practice Speaking up is an...
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Approximations
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📝 Show Notes: “Approximations in Boundary Setting” Episode: Boundary Bungalow Podcast — Approximations Theme: Learning to set boundaries through gentle, progressive practice. 🔑 Key Points Softness is strength: Setting boundaries isn’t about aggression; it’s about kindness and gentleness. Approximations: Small, manageable actions that bring you closer to a goal — the same way a beginner learns archery step by step. Undoing conditioning: People-pleasing is learned over years; unlearning it takes time and compassion. Low-risk practice: Start with simple “no’s” in...
info_outline📝 Show Notes: “Approximations in Boundary Setting”
Episode: Boundary Bungalow Podcast — Approximations
Theme: Learning to set boundaries through gentle, progressive practice.
🔑 Key Points
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Softness is strength: Setting boundaries isn’t about aggression; it’s about kindness and gentleness.
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Approximations: Small, manageable actions that bring you closer to a goal — the same way a beginner learns archery step by step.
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Undoing conditioning: People-pleasing is learned over years; unlearning it takes time and compassion.
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Low-risk practice: Start with simple “no’s” in easy contexts — e.g., refusing extra condiments or butter at a family meal.
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Consistency builds confidence: Each small success reinforces your ability to hold larger boundaries.
💬 Memorable Quotes
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“Everyone comes in like a lion, but really you need to approach it like a lamb.”
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“You’re not going to hit the bullseye on your first shot — but you have to take that first shot.”
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“It took years to become a people-pleaser; it’ll take time to unlearn it, too.”
🎯 Takeaway
Boundary work isn’t about being hard or perfect — it’s about showing up softly and steadily for yourself.
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