Are You Healthy? (what does that even mean?)
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
Release Date: 12/04/2023
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
It's episode 100 of the Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast--I can't even believe it! And to celebrate, I thought I'd invite two amazing women who I've had the honor of working with come into the show and share their experience with IFS. Kali and Amanda are two former clients who graciously agreed to talk about their struggles with food and their bodies and how IFS and Intuitive Eating have helped them to heal. They have very different histories and backgrounds, different body types, and different experiences, and I have no doubt that you will...
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I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that at some point in your life, you've tried to change what you're eating. Perhaps because you started a diet. Or you were trying to "eat healthier." Or maybe you were trying to move toward a more Self-led or Intuitive Eating approach to food (where you're really tuning into your body and feeding your body in ways that work well for it). Regardless of why you were trying to change what you were eating, it probably wasn't all that easy. There may have been foods that you tried to cut out but...
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On the last podcast, we talked about "blocking parts." And by blocking, I meant parts that tend to come up when you’re trying to get to know another part. Like when you’re headed for the kitchen and a part of you says, "I should get to know the part that’s leading me to the kitchen right now" but another part comes up and says, "Nope! I don’t want to get to know that part. I’ll do it next time." I hope that the episode was helpful and that you noticed more of those parts over the past couple of weeks. This week, I thought it would be helpful to focus on another...
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Let me ask you this: have you ever noticed yourself heading for the kitchen to get some food, knowing you aren't hungry, and when you start to check in with the part who's leading you there, you hear something like, "Oh don't do that crazy IFS stuff--just eat the food." Or, "Ugh--who cares why we're heading to food--just eat it!" Or even, "Life is so stressful right now--just eat! We deserve it!" These are parts that I call "blocking parts." They jump in and block us from getting curious about the parts of us that lead us to food. And I think sometimes we...
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Here we are, in the middle of the holiday season, and I thought it might be helpful to go back to the basics of the Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast and talk about, you guessed it, emotional eating. Yep, it's been 94 episodes since we've focused on this topic. Well, that's not exactly true. We've focused on specific aspects of emotional eating, but we haven't discussed it in broad terms like we did in the second episode of this podcast. And I don't know about you, but I know my emotional eating parts have been more active lately. Due to the...
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This week's episode features , who's a bit of an IFS rockstar. Jeanne has been one of the strongest voices in the IFS community in regard to food and body concerns, and I'm so thrilled to have her on the podcast! Just a little about her: Jeanne is a clinical psychologist who has specialized in the treatment of disordered eating and trauma for over twenty-five years. She trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy, Somatic Experiencing®, and eye movement-desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) before discovering the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. Jeanne is known for...
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Well, it's fall here in New England, which means cooler weather, absolutely beautiful trees, and apple cider! (And for those of you who love it, pumpkin spice!) It also means lots and lots of raking is in my future! And it also means sweater weather!!!! Yay!!! So many of my parts love sweater weather. Throwing on a big cable-knit sweater just feels so cozy. And I just love fall colors (especially forest green--I can't tell you how many forest green sweaters I have). But do you know another reason why some of my...
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On today's episode, I'm so excited to be joined by Amy Pershing to talk about Binge Eating Disorder (BED). Amy is essentially THE expert on treating BED with IFS, and I'm so thankful that she's sharing her wisdom with us! We've been trying for months to record an episode, and we finally did it! Just a little about her, Amy Pershing, LMSW, ACSW, CCTP-II, is the Founding Director of Bodywise, the first BED-specific treatment program in the United States, and President of the Board of the Center for Eating Disorders in Ann Arbor, Michigan. She is the founder of...
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If you're someone who's done your own IFS work, you were likely encouraged to check in with a part that you met during your session on your own regularly throughout the week. And you may have thought, how in the world do I do that? Hopefully, the therapist or coach you're working with helped you with that process. But if they didn't, you're in luck! It's the topic of this week's podcast! While checking in with parts that you meet during session is incredibly important, so is checking in with parts in general. And one of the things that I've been focusing on...
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On this week's podcast episode we're talking about anxiety, one of the most common things that lead our parts to food. Very often, parts in our system use food to calm our anxious parts. I think this happens for a couple of reasons. First, food can be a great distraction when we're feeling anxious. And second, food actually calms us down. Research has shown that food (especially carbs) elevates serotonin levels, which can decrease depression and anxiety. So if you're someone who tends to eat when you're anxious, there's a reason for that. It...
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Are you healthy?
My guess is, if your answer is "yes," you started running down a list of physical metrics that support your answer. Like, your recent bloodwork was good, you exercise regularly, you "eat right."
I'm also going to guess that if your answer is "no," you also ran down a list of physical metrics that support your answer. Things like, I don't workout enough, I don't eat "good" enough, my A1C is too high.
But here's my other question: why, when I asked about health, did you only focus on your physical health? (Unless of course you focused on other things and if that's the case, good for you!)
We seem to live in a world where when we think of health and wellness, we only think about our physical body. But in reality, there are eight different aspects of health. Yeah--I didn't know that either. Any idea what they are? See if you can guess...I'll wait...
How many of these did you get: physical, intellectual, emotional, social, spiritual, vocational, financial, and environmental.
Eight different aspects of health. I think that's really important to remember, and I'll tell you why. First of all, there is so much more to us than just our physical bodies. We all have relationships to nurture, jobs to do, money to manage, and brains to build. And, of course, we all have feelings and emotions that are incredibly important to attend to as well.
And secondly, we live in a world that equates weight with health. So when we focus predominantly on physical health, we tend to focus far too much on weight. And that can be really damaging to the other aspects of health. I've seen time and time again clients who are essentially engaging in disordered eating in order to achieve a weight that (supposedly) makes them physically healthy (I say supposedly because weight loss does not always result in a marked improvement in health. In fact, weight loss very often leads to weight gain, and this cycle can damage your physical health)
That's not health.
I can't say that often enough or loud enough. Damaging your emotional health for the sake of physical health isn't health. Period end of story.
On this week's podcast, we're talking about what being healthy actually means, and how to make sure you're doing what contributes to good health for you. Spoiler alert: it may not be what the rest of the world says it is.
I think this is a really important topic as we head into the holiday season (because I'm guessing you have parts that are concerned about all of the holiday treats in your near future and whether or not eating them is "healthy") and of course into January (when diet culture BS will be in full-swing!). Take a listen!