Let's Talk About...All or Nothing Thinking
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
Release Date: 01/01/2026
Let's Talk About...All or Nothing Thinking
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
I thought this would be a good time of year to do an episode on all or nothing thinking. With the new year starting, it's easy to get caught up in goals, resolutions, intentions, etc. And there's nothing at all wrong with that, if it appeals to you. But I think what sometimes (or often) happens, is that we set goals that are wildly beyond what we're doing now. For example, going from not doing much movement at all to setting the goal of hitting the gym for an hour five times a week. Or going from eating whatever you enjoy to cutting...
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Let's Talk About...Rebellious Parts
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
In this episode, we're talking about Rebellious Parts. I think most if not all of us have rebellious parts, and those parts could be rebelling in a variety of ways. But since we're focused on food and body concerns, we're going to look at the parts who rebel by eating or by saying "no" to extreme diets and exercise. Rebellious parts often get a bad rap. They may be binge eating parts or parts who say "fuck it" and eat whatever they want. And then our other parts--who are really concerned about eating well, dieting, and/or losing/maintaining weight--get...
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The Power of IFS: Kali and Amanda's Stories
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
It's episode 100 of the Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast--I can't even believe it! And to celebrate, I thought I'd invite two amazing women who I've had the honor of working with come into the show and share their experience with IFS. Kali and Amanda are two former clients who graciously agreed to talk about their struggles with food and their bodies and how IFS and Intuitive Eating have helped them to heal. They have very different histories and backgrounds, different body types, and different experiences, and I have no doubt that you will...
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Let's Talk About...Food Rituals
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that at some point in your life, you've tried to change what you're eating. Perhaps because you started a diet. Or you were trying to "eat healthier." Or maybe you were trying to move toward a more Self-led or Intuitive Eating approach to food (where you're really tuning into your body and feeding your body in ways that work well for it). Regardless of why you were trying to change what you were eating, it probably wasn't all that easy. There may have been foods that you tried to cut out but...
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Let's Talk About...Episode 98: Let's Talk About...Connecting to Your Body’s Hunger and Fullness Cues
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
On the last podcast, we talked about "blocking parts." And by blocking, I meant parts that tend to come up when you’re trying to get to know another part. Like when you’re headed for the kitchen and a part of you says, "I should get to know the part that’s leading me to the kitchen right now" but another part comes up and says, "Nope! I don’t want to get to know that part. I’ll do it next time." I hope that the episode was helpful and that you noticed more of those parts over the past couple of weeks. This week, I thought it would be helpful to focus on another...
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Let's Talk About...Blocking Parts
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
Let me ask you this: have you ever noticed yourself heading for the kitchen to get some food, knowing you aren't hungry, and when you start to check in with the part who's leading you there, you hear something like, "Oh don't do that crazy IFS stuff--just eat the food." Or, "Ugh--who cares why we're heading to food--just eat it!" Or even, "Life is so stressful right now--just eat! We deserve it!" These are parts that I call "blocking parts." They jump in and block us from getting curious about the parts of us that lead us to food. And I think sometimes we...
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Let's Talk About...Emotional Eating
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
Here we are, in the middle of the holiday season, and I thought it might be helpful to go back to the basics of the Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast and talk about, you guessed it, emotional eating. Yep, it's been 94 episodes since we've focused on this topic. Well, that's not exactly true. We've focused on specific aspects of emotional eating, but we haven't discussed it in broad terms like we did in the second episode of this podcast. And I don't know about you, but I know my emotional eating parts have been more active lately. Due to the...
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Unburdened Eating, with Jeanne Catanzaro
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
This week's episode features , who's a bit of an IFS rockstar. Jeanne has been one of the strongest voices in the IFS community in regard to food and body concerns, and I'm so thrilled to have her on the podcast! Just a little about her: Jeanne is a clinical psychologist who has specialized in the treatment of disordered eating and trauma for over twenty-five years. She trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy, Somatic Experiencing®, and eye movement-desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) before discovering the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. Jeanne is known for...
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Let's Talk About...Healing Body Shame
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
Well, it's fall here in New England, which means cooler weather, absolutely beautiful trees, and apple cider! (And for those of you who love it, pumpkin spice!) It also means lots and lots of raking is in my future! And it also means sweater weather!!!! Yay!!! So many of my parts love sweater weather. Throwing on a big cable-knit sweater just feels so cozy. And I just love fall colors (especially forest green--I can't tell you how many forest green sweaters I have). But do you know another reason why some of my...
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Understanding Binge Eating Disorder, with Amy Pershing
The Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast
On today's episode, I'm so excited to be joined by Amy Pershing to talk about Binge Eating Disorder (BED). Amy is essentially THE expert on treating BED with IFS, and I'm so thankful that she's sharing her wisdom with us! We've been trying for months to record an episode, and we finally did it! Just a little about her, Amy Pershing, LMSW, ACSW, CCTP-II, is the Founding Director of Bodywise, the first BED-specific treatment program in the United States, and President of the Board of the Center for Eating Disorders in Ann Arbor, Michigan. She is the founder of...
info_outlineI thought this would be a good time of year to do an episode on all or nothing thinking. With the new year starting, it's easy to get caught up in goals, resolutions, intentions, etc. And there's nothing at all wrong with that, if it appeals to you.
But I think what sometimes (or often) happens, is that we set goals that are wildly beyond what we're doing now. For example, going from not doing much movement at all to setting the goal of hitting the gym for an hour five times a week. Or going from eating whatever you enjoy to cutting out all carbs or sugar.
And when we don't reach these goals or when we last one or two weeks trying to work toward them, we have parts that feel shame and feel as though we've failed.
In this episode, we're talking about all or nothing thinking from an IFS lens. Specifically, we're discussing:
- All or nothing thinking as a polarization between two parts or groups of parts
- How this polarization tends to play out (i.e. with both sides getting louder and louder and you going back and forth from one side to the other like a tennis match!)
- How to recognize parts within this polarization
- What to do about all of this!
If this sounds like you, take a listen!
I also wanted to let you know that my workbook, Heal Your Love-Hate Relationship with Food: An Intuitive Eating and Internal Family Systems Workbook will be released on March 1 but is now available for preorder! Head here to check it out!
Where to find me:
Website: drkimdaniels.com
Email: kdanielspsyd@gmail.com