ERP 515: How Couples Can Rethink Time to Reduce Burnout and Strengthen Connection — An Interview with Michelle Niemeyer
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
Release Date: 02/10/2026
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
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In this episode, the conversation delves deep into how our relationship with time can be transformed from a relentless source of stress into a foundation for personal wholeness and relational strength. You’ll hear practical strategies for recognizing the real drivers behind burnout, prioritizing what lights you up, integrating wellness into busy schedules, and collaboratively setting goals within families or partnerships. Whether you’re looking to manage your calendar more efficiently or searching for greater meaning and connection in your everyday moments, this episode offers insight, tools, and a paradigm shift to help you bend time to work for you—instead of against you.
Michelle Niemeyer is a speaker, coach, and former attorney who teaches professionals how to bend time so they can stay sharp, productive, and profitable – without burning out. After finding her way to burnout and back in her own high-performing legal career, Michelle created The Art of Bending Time, a framework that helps people connect the dots across work, life, and purpose to magnetize success and reclaim their joy. She helps businesses retain top talent, boost development, and keep their people energized and engaged – all while making the magic
Episode Highlights
05:53 Understanding and recognizing burnout.
09:43 Integrating wholeness over compartmentalization.
11:08 Discovering personal sparks and daily joys.
15:19 Prioritizing wellness for personal effectiveness.
18:17 Setting priorities and learning to delegate.
22:55 Eliminating time wasters: Internal and external distractions.
26:51 Applying SWORD analysis to family goals.
30:17 Aligning goals with genuine desire.
36:13 Shifting responsibilities according to strengths and passions.
Your Check List of Actions to Take
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Identify Your Spirit Sparks: Take a few moments each day to notice and savor the small things that light you up, like a warm cup of coffee or a moment outdoors.
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Prioritize Quality Sleep: Make your bedroom a phone-free zone to reduce interruptions, improve rest, and start your day more refreshed.
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Hydrate and Eat Well: Focus on drinking enough water and eating a variety of whole, colorful foods to support your physical and mental health.
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Integrate Movement: Find simple ways to move your body regularly, whether it's a walk outside or standing to stretch throughout the day.
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Assess and Address Time Drains: Notice what tasks or habits waste your time (like procrastination or environmental distractions), and create systems or boundaries to minimize them.
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Practice Whole-Person Living: Show up authentically in all areas of your life, sharing aspects of yourself at work and at home to foster real connection.
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Clarify Priorities as a Family or Couple: Have honest conversations about what truly matters, so your time and energy align with your shared goals and values.
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Use the SWORD Analysis for Big Decisions: Evaluate Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Risks, and Desire before pursuing major goals together, ensuring everyone’s buy-in and avoiding unnecessary drains.
Mentioned
Link for free community access to SWORD tool
The Art of Bending Time (program link)
12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)
Connect with Michelle Niemeyer
Website: michelleniemeyer.com
Facebook: facebook.com/groups/theartofbendingtime
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/michelle-melin-niemeyer