Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

The Empowered Relationship Podcast helps you turn relationship challenges into opportunities and sets you up for relationship success, satisfaction, and intimacy. This podcast is designed to inspire, motivate, and guide individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.

ERP 492: Riding the Wave Together: Finding Ease, Resilience and Connection in Love — An Interview with Daniel Miller 09/02/2025

ERP 492: Riding the Wave Together: Finding Ease, Resilience and Connection in Love — An Interview with Daniel Miller About this Episode Are you stuck in the cycle of trying to control everything in your relationship, only to find yourself drifting further away from the connection and harmony you truly crave? Sometimes, the harder we try to make things “right,” the more we lose sight of what makes love resilient, joyful, and honest. The truth is, love isn’t about micromanaging or enforcing your idea of perfection—it’s about learning to ride life’s unpredictable waves with trust, acceptance, and a willingness to let go. In this episode, listeners are invited to explore how letting go of control and embracing the natural flow of love can transform the way they relate to their partners. Through personal stories, reflective questions, and practical guidance, this conversation offers insight into why acceptance and trust are essential for deepening intimacy and resilience in your relationship. You’ll discover tools to break free from the criticism-defensiveness loop, foster genuine communication, and understand how even small shifts in mindset can create lasting change in your love life. Daniel A. Miller is a best-selling author who explores how acceptance, letting go of control, and trust can transform relationships and personal well-being. His newest book, The Way of the Wave: Nature’s Model for Navigating Life’s Currents, offers practical guidance for embracing life’s unpredictability with greater ease, resilience, and inner peace. Daniel’s work draws on decades of experience, blending personal stories, research, and wisdom to help others live more empowered, connected lives. Episode Highlights 04:49 Lessons in listening and humility from Daniel’s early controlling behaviors. 06:51 How nature and acceptance transformed Daniel’s approach to relationships. 13:25 Letting go of control: The key to real intimacy and gratitude. 19:44 How Daniel learned quick repair to break cycles of withdrawal. 21:12 Attunement and emotional safety as the root of true intimacy. 26:08 Life’s crises exposed control’s dangers and the power of acceptance. 31:12 Trading fear for acceptance unlocked deeper possibilities for Daniel. 37:22 Humility and vulnerability as foundations for lasting 41:29 How acceptance and engagement create richer, more intimate relationships. 45:19 Letting go enables trust, imperfection, and true flow in life. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Daniel Miller Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38030550

ERP 491: Grief and Healing: Navigating Loss Together as a Couple — An Interview with Madeleine Garner 08/26/2025

ERP 491: Grief and Healing: Navigating Loss Together as a Couple — An Interview with Madeleine Garner About this Episode Grief can strike when we least expect it, turning our world upside down and reshaping the very foundation of our relationships. When couples encounter loss—whether through miscarriage, infertility, or unexpected life changes—the path to healing can feel lonely, uncharted, and overwhelming. Even the closest partnerships can struggle to find the words, understanding, or comfort needed to move forward together. How do we navigate personal pain while remaining present for each other? Can couples truly heal side by side, even when their experiences of grief are so different? In this episode, listeners are invited into a heartfelt conversation exploring the realities of grief and healing within intimate relationships. Through personal storytelling and expert insight, the discussion dives deep into the complexity of navigating loss as a couple—highlighting the differences in individual grief experiences, the power of mutual support, and the importance of holding both sorrow and hope. Practical wisdom and lived experiences shed light on how couples can create space for each other’s emotions, foster resilience, and slowly rebuild a sense of connection and possibility. Whether you have faced loss yourself or support someone who has, this episode offers guidance and reassurance that, together, healing is possible. Madeleine Garner is a New York-based writer. Her play, I Ragazzi, cowritten with her father, Broadway writer David Goldsmith, was published in 2023 by the Dramatists Play Service and is now available for licensing. She is the Head of Creative Services Operations, Americas at Sotheby’s Auction House, and she received her B.A. in Art History and Italian Studies from Wheaton College in Massachusetts. She resides in Queens with her husband, daughter, and cat. Recently, published “Your Baby Will Find You: A Story About Grief, Loss, and Healing.” Episode Highlights 05:17 Madeleine recounts the shock and heartbreak of her miscarriage, revealing the profound emotional and physical challenges she faced in its aftermath. 09:52 The clinical steps following miscarriage, unhelpful care, and the early stages of coming to terms with profound grief. 12:01 From shared struggles to connection—turning grief into creativity. 23:16 The value of surrendering to the unpredictable process of grief, healing, and hope. 29:16 Madeleine reflects on “Your Baby” as a symbol of destiny, fulfillment, or creativity for anyone navigating loss or uncertainty. 31:10 The balance between striving and surrendering. 36:10 Grieving as a couple: Different paces, shared support. 40:02 How returning to one another after rupture and repair builds a secure partnership and deepens intimacy after loss. 43:58 Resources and ways to connect with Madeleine. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Madeleine Garner Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37930990

ERP 490: Co-Creating Your Future: A Guide to Dreambuilding Together as a Couple — An Interview with Mary Morrissey 08/19/2025

ERP 490: Co-Creating Your Future: A Guide to Dreambuilding Together as a Couple — An Interview with Mary Morrissey About this Episode Are you and your partner living your best shared life, or just navigating the daily grind side-by-side? Many couples get caught up in routines, letting old patterns and outside pressures shape their relationships by default. The possibility of building something inspired by both partners’ deepest dreams and values can feel elusive, especially when life’s challenges, stresses, or feelings of being stuck appear insurmountable. In this episode, listeners are guided through a transformative approach to co-creating a shared future with their significant other. The conversation explores the concept and practice of dream building as a couple, providing actionable steps to create a clear, compelling vision together. You'll discover how to honor and support each other’s aspirations (even if they differ), learn practical tools to sidestep habitual negativity, and understand the science behind emotional connection and growth. Whether your relationship feels stagnant or you’re looking to deepen your intimacy, this episode offers a roadmap for moving from conflict and limitation to collaboration, curiosity, and mutual empowerment. Mary Morrissey is the founder of the Brave Thinking Institute, the world's premier provider of transformational training and coaching. Through life-changing books, events and programs, Mary has helped millions of people tap into the power within them to achieve new levels of success and experience a deeper sense of meaning and purpose. Episode Highlights 07:57 How having a shared vision as a couple can deepen your connection and help you navigate even the toughest challenges together. 10:20 Why moving from simply imagining your dreams to clearly blueprinting them is essential for bringing your vision to life. 16:28 The importance of getting specific with your dreams and honoring both partners’ aspirations. 25:46 Practicing daily gratitude and shifting your mindset to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. 28:56 Setting intentions for your day and visualizing the outcomes you want. 33:12 Simple three-phase process of blueprinting, bridging, and building your dreams. 38:26 How to overcome perceived limitations. 42:36 What to do when your partner is not on board. 44:48 Transform moments of tension and discover additional resources to keep growing together. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (free guided meditation)(link) Connect with Mary Morrissey Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37847295

ERP 489: Flow State and Sexual Connection: A New Dimension of Intimacy — An Interview with Emily Jamea 08/12/2025

ERP 489: Flow State and Sexual Connection: A New Dimension of Intimacy — An Interview with Emily Jamea About this Episode Passion and intimacy are at the heart of every thriving relationship—yet even the healthiest couples can find these sparks fading over time, or wonder if their desires are truly “normal.” For so many couples, sexual connection can become routine, tangled up in old beliefs, busy schedules, and silent worries about whether you’re truly satisfied or doing it right. The search for authentic sexual fulfillment often brings up more questions than answers, leaving many people longing for deeper, more meaningful connection but uncertain about how to find it. In this episode, you’ll discover a fresh perspective on intimacy, focusing on how to move beyond comparison, shame, and routine to create a vibrant, personalized sexual connection. Guided by expert insights and the latest research, you’ll learn practical strategies for accessing flow state during intimacy, embracing your unique sexuality, and rekindling sensuality throughout all stages of your relationship. From breaking free of social norms to simple rituals for everyday connection, this conversation is packed with actionable steps and empowering ideas designed to help you cultivate lasting passion and deeper joy with your partner. Dr. Emily Jamea is an award-winning sex and relationship therapist and the USA Today best-selling author of Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. Dr. Jamea is an award-winning columnist for Healthy Women. She hosts the Love and Libido podcast and writes for Psychology Today. Episode Highlights 06:09 How Emily Jamia’s unique upbringing in a sex-positive home within a conservative town sparked her early interest in sexuality. 10:41 Defining "Normal" in sexuality. 14:07 The emotional and psychological dimensions of sex. 20:38 Building sensuality through everyday moments. 23:14 The science and benefits of affectionate touch. 27:02 Going beyond just resolving disconnects to proactively cultivating passionate connections. 28:01 The role of flow state in sexual satisfaction. 34:05 The five keys to deep sexual connection. 36:18 Simple practices for returning to presence and embodiment. 40:33 How small changes and novelty spark lasting desire. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Emily Jamea Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: Podcast: | Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37740700

ERP 488: Should a Secure Attachment Always Be the Goal? An Interview with Hanna Basel 08/05/2025

ERP 488: Should a Secure Attachment Always Be the Goal? An Interview with Hanna Basel About this Episode Is achieving a secure attachment really the ultimate marker of relationship success or could this mindset be doing more harm than good? In the quest for intimacy and connection, many of us fall into the trap of labeling ourselves and our partners, clinging to the idea that “secure” is the only way to be. But what happens when relationships don’t fit neatly into these categories, or when past experiences have shaped us in ways that make security seem out of reach? The pressure to be “securely attached” can sometimes backfire, leading to shame, blame, and a sense of hopelessness. In this episode, you’ll discover why secure attachment doesn’t have to be the ultimate destination, and why striving for secure functioning—those daily choices and mindful practices that build safety and trust—can be a far more compassionate and realistic goal. Drawing on insights from trauma work, attachment research, and couples therapy, this conversation unpacks the pitfalls of categorizing relationships as “good” or “bad,” explores the nuances of healing within partnership, and offers actionable ways to build resilience, understanding, and growth—no matter where you are on the attachment spectrum. Hanna Basel is a seasoned couples therapist and certified sex therapist. With expertise in attachment, trauma, and emotionally focused therapy (EFT), she helps people untangle their most complicated relationship patterns. As a former addictions counselor, Hanna brings both clinical expertise and lived experience to her work. She has been featured on CNN, Kare 11, MSN, and numerous podcasts where she talked about her ultimate and simple goal: to help people build relationships that help us heal and thrive. Episode Highlights 04:23 Hannah’s path to couples therapy: From personal struggles to professional passion. 12:25 Understanding secure attachment and relationship dynamics. 15:26 Embracing relationship growth as a lifelong practice. 19:03 Debunking the myth that you must heal yourself before getting into a relationship. 22:00 Balancing guidance and judgment. 25:37 Neuroplasticity: How relationships shape and reshape attachment. 27:59 Understanding trauma’s role in relationship dynamics. 33:38 Compassion with boundaries. 34:59 Balancing love and constructive criticism. 39:07 Pacing, timing, and emotional safety in relationship repair. 42:10 Understanding pain and betrayal. 46:36 Slowing down for better attunement. 47:57 Breaking the cycle. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Hanna Basel Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37643515

ERP 487: Staying Close Through Conflict: Strategies for Responding, Not Reacting — An Interview with Alyssa Scarano 07/29/2025

ERP 487: Staying Close Through Conflict: Strategies for Responding, Not Reacting — An Interview with Alyssa Scarano About this Episode Many couples find themselves caught in unproductive loops of reactivity, defensiveness, and miscommunication, often rooted in old patterns and unhealed wounds. If you’ve ever felt stuck repeating the same arguments, or struggled to respond with empathy instead of reacting on autopilot, you’re not alone. Conflict doesn’t have to drive you and your partner apart. In fact, the way you handle disagreements might be the very thing that brings you closer together or pushes you further away. In this episode, you’ll discover practical strategies for staying close through conflict by learning to respond rather than react. You’ll hear about how early family dynamics shape our adult responses, why curiosity can be a game-changer, and why true empathy starts with self-compassion. Through insightful metaphors like comparing relationships to yoga practice or learning to slow down a speeding car—you’ll find tools to recognize when you’re becoming triggered, regulate your emotions, and open space for meaningful, connected conversations. Whether your relationship is feeling the strain of busy daily life or you simply want to deepen your ability to navigate challenges together, this episode offers actionable guidance for building lasting intimacy through the most difficult moments. Alyssa Scarano, LPC, NCC, is the Founder and Clinical Director of The Collective Therapy & Wellness. Known for her empathetic and compassionate approach, Alyssa views her work as a profound privilege—an opportunity to be invited into the most intimate and vulnerable parts of her clients’ lives. Specializing in relationships, she is dedicated to helping individuals heal from childhood trauma, break generational patterns, and cultivate meaningful, authentic connections with others by first supporting them in fostering self-compassion. Episode Highlights 07:24 How family of origin shapes our conflict responses. 10:51 Understanding childhood defense mechanisms’ lasting impact in relationships. 11:52 Adaptive responses and personal growth. 15:25 Mindful resilience through yoga. 19:35 Impact of stress and daily life on relationship dynamics. 24:06 Mapping family history and trigger awareness in couples work. 28:51 Healing challenges and emotional triggers. 32:40 Relationship dynamics and challenges. 38:55 Managing emotions and setting boundaries when one partner does more emotional work. 41:43 Slowing down reactivity: practical tools for emotional awareness. 46:16 Concrete steps for repair and connection after conflict. Mentioned Connect with Alyssa Scarano Websites: Facebook: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37548995

ERP 486: Breaking the Blame Loop: Forgiveness as a Path to Deeper Intimacy — An Interview with Dara McKinley 07/22/2025

ERP 486: Breaking the Blame Loop: Forgiveness as a Path to Deeper Intimacy — An Interview with Dara McKinley About this Episode Are you stuck in a cycle of blame and resentment, wondering why forgiveness feels so elusive even though everyone says it’s the key to inner peace? Many of us hear that forgiving others will set us free, but when we try to let go of anger or seek justice for betrayals and hurts, practical steps are hard to find and genuine relief can feel out of reach. What if forgiveness isn’t just about pardoning or forgetting, but something deeper—something that could pave the way to real healing and even deeper intimacy? In this episode, listeners are invited to re-examine forgiveness from a fresh, practical, and spiritual perspective. Instead of relying on vague promises or traditional definitions, the conversation delves into tangible steps for breaking out of the blame loop, nurturing the parts of ourselves most in need, and using unconditional love as a powerful tool for restoration. Whether you're dealing with everyday resentments in a long-term partnership or coping with a profound betrayal, you'll walk away with actionable insights and a renewed sense of personal empowerment to move from conflict to true connection. After studying psychology and alternative spirituality for most of her life, an unlikely turn of events pointed Dara McKinley toward the forgiveness path. Examined through the lens of her previous knowledge, she discovered that forgiveness is actually much bigger than one’s ability to pardon as well as a healing modality. Feeling called to help those deterred by mainstream forgiveness definitions, today Dara guides people beyond popular forgiveness understandings and into a practical spiritual process that restores peace. Episode Highlights 07:02 How mainstream forgiveness definitions can fall short. 11:28 Vindictive energy, justice, and the personal cost of resentment. 14:40 Dara’s turning point: Discovering a practical forgiveness path. 17:12 Redefining forgiveness beyond pardoning and mainstream expectations. 20:13 Spiritual versus relational love: Navigating conditional and unconditional experiences. 24:09 Three sources of love. 27:19 A journey of self-responsibility and tender attention to the inner wound. 31:13 Practical steps for applying unconditional love to inner healing. 33:51 The negative narrative loop and how forgiveness restores personal power. 36:00 Forgiveness as an alchemical process and shifting perspectives in relationships. 39:59 A case study on resentment and forgiveness in long-term partnerships. 44:50 Boundaries, agreements, and the transformational effects of love. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dara McKinley Websites: | Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37466155

ERP 485: Misused Words, Misunderstood Relationships: How Therapy Speak Can Erode Trust in Relationship — An Interview with Dr. Isabelle Morley 07/15/2025

ERP 485: Misused Words, Misunderstood Relationships: How Therapy Speak Can Erode Trust in Relationship — An Interview with Dr. Isabelle Morley About this Episode Words have power. They can heal, but they can also harm when we wield them without fully understanding their meaning. In today’s world, the language of therapy is everywhere, filtering from clinicians’ offices into viral social media posts, heated arguments, and everyday conversations. But with this widespread use comes a hidden problem. When words like “narcissist,” “gaslighting,” or “toxic” are misused or weaponized in our relationships, they not only muddy honest communication—they erode trust, block growth, and can even do real damage to our connections with others. In this episode, listeners are invited to take a nuanced look at how “therapy speak” has crept into our relationship vocabulary and why this isn’t always a good thing. Through real-world examples and professional insight, you’ll learn where the line lies between helpful self-expression and language that shuts down vulnerability, repair, and intimacy. By unpacking the ways therapeutic labels can become conversational weapons, this discussion offers practical guidance to help you communicate more consciously, challenge your own assumptions, and foster deeper, more authentic connection—with yourself and with the people you care about most. Isabelle Morley, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist and an EFT-certified couples therapist (emotionally focused therapy). She is the author of They’re Not Gaslighting You, and a contributing author to Psychology Today in her blog Love Them or Leave Them. In philanthropic work, Dr. Morley is a founding board member of The Unscripted Cast Advocacy Network (UCAN) Foundation. She has a private practice providing couples therapy and coaching in the Boston area. Episode Highlights 06:37 How social media fuels therapy speak and misuse of clinical terms. 09:08 The comfort of labels and the human drive for clear answers. 10:54 How diagnosing others and misuse of DSM terms can create unnecessary confusion, reinforce stereotypes, and affect our relationships and mental health conversations. 18:53 Differentiating between abusive and unskilled behavior in relationships. 37:17 Signals that invite self-reflection. 42:00 Approaching sensitive topics with partners and setting boundaries. 46:42 What trauma bonding truly is, and why understanding its meaning matters. 49:02 How the widespread and casual use of therapy speak can dilute and distort the original meaning of these terms. 51:43 Preserving the integrity of clinical terms and the power of conscientious communication. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Isabelle Morley Websites: Instagram: LinkedIn: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37390085

ERP 484: Unpacking Your Money Story: How Money Trauma Shows up in You—and Your Relationship — An Interview with Shannah Game 07/08/2025

ERP 484: Unpacking Your Money Story: How Money Trauma Shows up in You—and Your Relationship — An Interview with Shannah Game About this Episode Money isn’t just about numbers—it’s woven into the fabric of our emotions, relationships, and even sense of self-worth. Have you ever noticed how anxiety, stress, or even shame can surface when dealing with finances, both individually and in your most intimate partnerships? If conversations about money leave you feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone. The underlying emotional stories and even traumas we carry about money can impact not only our bank accounts but also our ability to connect and thrive in relationships. In this episode, you are invited to explore how our money stories are shaped by past experiences, emotional patterns, and even generational beliefs. The conversation opens the door to understanding money wounds, the somatic signals tied to financial stress, and ways to bring curiosity rather than judgment to our financial behaviors. Through practical exercises and compassionate dialogue, this episode provides actionable strategies to help you unravel your relationship with money, build greater awareness, and start healing both individually and with your partner. Whether you’re looking to reduce conflict, foster transparency, or simply feel more empowered and secure with your finances, this episode offers valuable insight for taking those first transformative steps. Shannah Game is a financial expert, Certified Trauma of Money Specialist, and host of Everyone’s Talkin’ Money, a top money podcast with over 26 million downloads. With 20+ years of experience, she helps people transform their relationship with money to build wealth unapologetically. Her book, Unraveling Your Relationship with Money, explores money trauma and financial empowerment. Shannah’s work is bold, relatable, and designed to help you take control of your money and life. Episode Highlights 06:59 How to begin exploring the emotional side of money. 12:33 The ‘relationship with money’ concept and its lifelong impact. 17:11 The power of ‘enough’ and the impact of social messaging on money perceptions. 21:10 Happiness, wealth, and the moving goalpost. 24:12 Why it’s not just about the math: The importance of money conversations. 26:46 Hidden money scripts and the real source of couples’ money arguments. 28:17 Attachment styles, money personalities, and navigating differences in relationships. 33:04 Processing personal money histories and the value of self-awareness. 36:05 Generational money trauma and the inheritance of financial fears. 39:01 Identifying money wounds and taking steps towards financial healing. 43:39 Envisioning your ‘money hero story’ and shifting into possibility. 45:00 Building healthy money dynamics in relationships: communication, curiosity, and practical tools. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Shannah Game Websites: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37328905

ERP 483: Flirting with Consent: Rewriting the Script on Sexual Communication - An Interview with Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A 07/01/2025

ERP 483: Flirting with Consent: Rewriting the Script on Sexual Communication - An Interview with Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A About this Episode Is sex in long-term relationships destined to fade into routine, become awkward, unsatisfying, or quietly avoided? Many couples find themselves sidestepping desire, making silent assumptions, or repeating the same old script while craving deeper connection and renewed excitement. The outcome is often sexual boredom, miscommunication, and a growing emotional distance that affects the entire relationship. What if the key to lasting passion isn't just about technique? What if it lives in courageous, ongoing conversations about consent, desire, and our evolving needs? In this episode, listeners are invited into a candid and creative exploration of sexual communication. Consent is reframed as more than a one-time agreement; it becomes a fluid and continuous dialogue that keeps intimacy alive. You'll discover how to make these conversations feel natural and exciting instead of awkward, how to face vulnerability and disappointment with compassion, and how to sustain erotic curiosity over time. Whether you're looking for fresh insight or practical tools to reignite intimacy, this episode offers both inspiration and guidance to help you co-create a relationship that grows with you. Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A. are thought leaders in the intimate realm. As the founders of the Somatica® Institute of sex and relationship coaching, they have created experiential and relational teaching methods to revolutionize sex coaching and help people transform their sex lives and relationships forever. They are the authors of 3 books and the lead sexologists on a soon-to-be-released UK-based reality TV show. They will enliven and enlighten audiences with talks about everything in the realms of intimacy, sexuality and relationship as well as the power of vulnerable leadership in teaching, business, and in building community. Episode Highlights 06:06 How curiosity, culture, and compatibility shape sexual expression. 10:00 Why a beginner’s mindset matters in long-term sexual relationships. 13:55 Consent beyond “yes” or “no”: Making communication part of attraction. 17:45 Creating safe spaces for sexual self-discovery. 20:23 Building safety when sharing desires. 25:25 Challenging assumptions and resentment in intimacy. 31:16 Discovering turn-ons: Moving past stereotypes to emotional and psychological arousal. 34:48 The power of curiosity, flirting, and non-judgment. 39:47 How to expand erotic menus and blueprints. 41:01 Finding the win-win: Bridging and turn-taking in sexual negotiation. 46:20 Learning to sit with disappointment—acceptance and the reality of relationships. Mentioned (Somatica Institute link) (Somatica Institute link) (Somatica Institute link) (online class) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Special offer for listeners: Use Empowered30 (gives $30 off Relationship Reboot) Connect with Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A Websites: | Facebook: | YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37232585

ERP 482: Naming What Matters: How Couples Can Align On Priorities — An Interview with Nick Brancato 06/24/2025

ERP 482: Naming What Matters: How Couples Can Align On Priorities — An Interview with Nick Brancato About this Episode Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages when it comes to what truly matters? Maybe that seemingly minor argument about weekend plans or household chores is actually a sign of deeper, hidden misalignments. In many relationships, conflicts arise not just because of surface-level disagreements, but also because we haven’t taken the time—or found the right language—to name and share our genuine priorities. In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools and insightful strategies to help couples identify, understand, and communicate their individual and shared priorities. By exploring the difference between values and priorities, introducing a simple method to measure alignment, and breaking down actionable steps for regular check-ins, this conversation is packed with guidance for strengthening your partnership. Whether you’re seeking more harmony in daily life or aiming for lasting intimacy, this episode provides a roadmap for aligning on what matters most, together. Nick Brancato is a seasoned personal development coach and educator with over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples connect, communicate, and thrive. With a master’s degree in education and a background as a Microsoft systems engineer, Nick blends practical tools with data-driven frameworks to guide clients through life’s challenges, including career shifts, financial pressures, and personal growth. Nick’s holistic process incorporates meditation, guided visualization, and hypnotherapy, emphasizing both emotional insight and actionable steps. By fostering deeper connections and mental clarity, Nick empowers couples to transform tension into trust and misalignment into mutual success, creating lasting, meaningful change in their relationships. Episode Highlights 03:09 Nick Brancato’s journey to relationship coaching and the origins of "Prioritize Us". 06:50 The power of priority alignment and differentiating priorities from values. 10:35 Navigating conflict by understanding differences and looking beyond surface issues. 13:52 Practical tools for identifying, ranking, and comparing priorities in relationships. 17:14 How to use the Total Difference Score (TDS) and the ten core life priorities. 21:01 The importance of individual assessment before sharing priorities with your partner. 27:45 Shifting priorities together and supporting each other’s growth and change. 35:57 Fostering positive daily connection through small, medium, and large relationship check-ins. 39:01 Overcoming overwhelm with decision-making, clarity, and relationship scorekeeping. 43:08 The Swiss Cheese principle. 47:47 Key takeaways and available resources for couples. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Nick Brancato Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37115765

ERP 481: Taking Control Together: Financial Preparedness for Real-Life Challenges — An Interview with Donna Jean Kendrick 06/17/2025

ERP 481: Taking Control Together: Financial Preparedness for Real-Life Challenges — An Interview with Donna Jean Kendrick About this Episode What would happen to your family or loved ones if life threw an unexpected curveball tomorrow? Would they feel protected, supported, and prepared, or left to navigate a stressful maze of financial questions and paperwork on their own? In a world where change is the only constant, financial preparedness is an act of love that too often gets pushed aside for another day. But when the unimaginable happens, being unprepared isn’t just stressful—it can have lasting effects on your sense of security, your relationships, and your peace of mind. In this episode, you’ll discover how to take control and approach financial planning as a tool for caring for yourself and those you love. With honest stories from personal experience, practical checklists, and expert strategies for navigating life’s transitions like widowhood, blended families, and sudden loss, you’ll learn why clarity is the best gift you can give to your family. This episode offers actionable steps for organizing vital documents, starting tough conversations, and building the kind of foundation that keeps everyone cared for—no matter what the future holds. Donna Jean Kendrick is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ practitioner and founder of Sephton Financial. After losing her first husband suddenly in 2013, Donna navigated widowhood with three young children, inspiring her to support families in transition through financial planning. She is the host of the Wisdom and Wealth Podcast and author of A Guide to Widowhood, and A Guide for Blended Families. Episode Highlights 05:40 Navigating blended family dynamics and the process of adjustment. 13:25 How being financially organized eased the pain of loss. 14:38 The gift of clarity: Preparing financial documents for loved ones. 18:16 Facing the emotional side of financial planning in relationships. 21:57 Practical tips for document organization. 26:22 How to overcome overwhelm and take stock of your finances. 29:06 Building a financial foundation: Net worth, liabilities, and spending plans. 33:50 Finding your system: Partner roles and routines in managing finances. 36:00 Best practices for couples discussing and organizing their finances. 39:21 Joint vs. separate accounts: Customizing financial approaches for couples. 40:35 Planning for retirement and avoiding resentment. 46:07 Financial conversations for new couples and the value of prenuptial agreements. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (webinar link) (program) Connect with Donna Jean Kendrick Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37032520

ERP 480: Understanding Pathological Partners: How to Break Free from Toxic Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Nadine Macaluso 06/10/2025

ERP 480: Understanding Pathological Partners: How to Break Free from Toxic Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Nadine Macaluso About this Episode When love turns toxic, it can be almost impossible to see clearly through the confusion, self-doubt, and emotional chaos that follow. If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of hope, heartbreak, and uncertainty within a relationship, you’re not alone—and there’s a reason why breaking free can feel so overwhelming. The hidden dynamics of pathological partnerships and trauma bonds often keep people stuck, questioning their worth, and struggling to understand why things never seem to get better. In this episode, listeners are offered insight and validation as the conversation unpacks the complex nature of trauma bonds and toxic relationships. You’ll discover how these destructive patterns form, what psychological traits might make someone more susceptible, and why distinguishing between harmful behaviors and truly pathological intentions is so important. With practical guidance and real-life examples, this episode shines a compassionate light on the path toward healing, empowerment, and, for those who need it most, a way out. Affectionately known as Dr. Nae, Dr. Nadine Macaluso is a therapist specializing in trauma healing and personal transformation. Her life inspired the character Naomi Belfort in The Wolf of Wall Street. After overcoming personal challenges, she earned a Master's degree in counseling and a Ph.D. in Somatic Psychotherapy. Dr. Macaluso helps individuals recover from trauma bonds, C-PTSD, and shame. She is also the author of Run Like Hell: A Therapist's Guide to Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing From Trauma Bonds. Episode Highlights 06:28 Dr. Nadine Macaluso’s personal journey and the roots of her work on trauma bonds. 09:49 Defining trauma bonds and the role of intermittent reinforcement in toxic relationships. 13:35 Intent, power imbalance, and the pathological partner in trauma bonds. 16:11 Pathological intent vs. reactive behaviors and repair. 19:20 Understanding Cluster B personality disorders and their impact on relationships. 21:23 Empowering the victim over diagnosing the pathological partner. 24:11 Who is most susceptible to trauma bonds? 28:16 Questioning labels: Codependency, attachment, and rethinking victim narratives. 32:34 Attachment styles, developmental trauma, and their role in toxic relationships. 34:31 Cultural myths about love, media influence, and the hope that keeps people stuck. 37:20 Reducing shame, cognitive dissonance, and reconnecting with self. 42:47 The process of leaving: Safety, planning, and overcoming guilt. 44:30 Post-traumatic growth: Finding strength, hope, and empowerment after leaving a toxic relationship. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – Connect with Dr. Nadine Macaluso Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36931245

ERP 479: Super Psyched About Love: Applying the Science of Connection to Couplehood — An Interview with Dr. Adam Dorsay 06/03/2025

ERP 479: Super Psyched About Love: Applying the Science of Connection to Couplehood — An Interview with Dr. Adam Dorsay About this Episode Are you truly alive in your relationships, or just going through the motions? In a world overflowing with distractions, many of us drift into autopilot—checking boxes, chasing benchmarks, and hoping real connection will fall into place. But without genuine presence and intention, lasting intimacy becomes elusive, leaving us depleted, disconnected, and wondering why meaningful fulfillment always seems out of reach. In this episode, discover how the science of connection can transform the way you approach your closest bonds. Through a blend of psychological insight and practical wisdom, you’ll learn why authentic connection is at the heart of emotional well-being, how to bring mindfulness and curiosity into your daily interactions, and why appreciating yourself and those around you isn’t just nice but vital. Tune in for actionable strategies to break free from autopilot, nurture deeper intimacy, and truly feel alive while you’re living. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and host of the notable podcast SuperPsyched. He recently released his book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love. Episode Highlights 08:43 The essential role of connection: Defining disconnection in mental health. 11:58 Cultural distractors and the brain’s bias against authentic connection. 15:10 Making mindful choices: Savoring life’s simple moments. 17:31 Beginner’s mind in relationships: Staying curious with long-term partners. 22:18 Experiencing awe: microdosing wonder and expanding consciousness. 25:03 The power of appreciation: How gratitude fuels authentic connection. 27:21 Authenticity, integrity, and the impact on genuine presence. 33:12 The four circles of relating to self and others. 35:47 Aligning choices with your values. 37:39 Simple ways to reconnect with others. 41:26 Reclaiming joy and presence in everyday life. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (book page) (YouTube link) (video) (YouTube link) (video) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love – Next level – (program) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Adam Dorsay Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36826050

ERP 478: When The Future Feels Uncertain: Tools for Couples Considering Divorce — An Interview with Dr. Becky Whetstone 05/27/2025

ERP 478: When The Future Feels Uncertain: Tools for Couples Considering Divorce — An Interview with Dr. Becky Whetstone About this Episode Is your relationship quietly unraveling, and you’re not sure what to do next? Facing the possibility of divorce can feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you trapped between fear, uncertainty, and the heartbreak of not knowing what comes next. Too often, couples get lost in a whirlwind of painful emotions, making rushed decisions that can have long-term consequences for themselves, their children, and their extended families. In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools and compassionate insights designed to support couples sitting at the crossroads of staying together or parting ways. Learn how to recognize the early warning signs of relationship distress, approach difficult conversations with honesty and courage, and understand the deep-seated reasons why so many people struggle to speak their truths. You’ll also find guidance on how to stabilize your emotions, slow down the decision-making process, and move forward, whether by rebuilding your connection or ending things as peacefully as possible. This episode offers hope, clarity, and a path to navigate one of life’s toughest transitions with greater awareness and intention. Dr. Becky Whetstone is a writer, author, and marriage and family therapist obsessed with relationship dynamics since she was young. She writes in an entertaining and informative way, and after many of her life experiences, she wants to change how we handle marriage, separation, divorce, and post-divorce dynamics. Episode Highlights 03:58 Becky’s story and why she cares about marriage crisis. 10:04 Why support is needed even when divorce is decided. 15:33 Why taking time to calm down matters. 20:19 Warning signs that a relationship is in trouble. 23:27 Hiding unhappiness can hurt a marriage. 25:24 Having hard conversations with your partner. 30:10 Why people avoid talking about problems. 32:49 Facing relationship problems like an adult. 36:20 How attachment styles affect marriage crisis. 39:29 The need for self-work and growing as a person. 42:06 How divorce affects everyone in the family. 46:58 Lessons learned from divorce. 51:01 Where to find help and resources. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Becky Whetstone Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Threads: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36714385

ERP 477: Redefining Intimacy & Sexuality: Breaking Myths and Embracing Your Truth — An Interview with Dr. Erika Schwartz 05/20/2025

ERP 477: Redefining Intimacy & Sexuality: Breaking Myths and Embracing Your Truth — An Interview with Dr. Erika Schwartz About this Episode Do you ever feel like intimacy and sexuality come with a set of rules no one can quite explain, and yet everyone expects you to follow? So many of us find ourselves struggling to meet society’s expectations around relationships, sex, and what it means to be fulfilled, only to discover that the realities of our experiences rarely match the myths we’ve been told. From changing hormones to evolving desires and the pressure to fit into cultural norms, finding authentic connection while honoring our true selves can feel overwhelming and, at times, isolating. In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of redefining intimacy and sexuality beyond outdated scripts and rigid expectations. The conversation explores how our needs and desires naturally shift over time, why it’s crucial to look inward and tune into our individual truths, and how to break free from patterns and pressures that simply don’t serve us. Through lived stories, practical insights, and compassionate guidance, listeners are invited to reflect, challenge ingrained beliefs, and embrace the freedom to write their own definitions of love, connection, and well-being, whatever stage of life or relationship they’re in. Dr. Erika Schwartz is the founder of Evolved Science in New York City, specializing in bio-identical hormone therapy for health optimization, disease prevention, and longevity. With over 30 years of experience, she advocates for a holistic approach to wellness, linking hormones with diet, sleep, and stress management. A best-selling author and expert in functional medicine, Dr. Erika frequently appears in major media and hosts the Redefining Medicine podcast. She is committed to empowering patients and transforming healthcare. Episode Highlights 04:43 The role of individual work in relationship dynamics. 08:06 Integrating holistic health and relationship well-being. 11:59 Challenging cultural myths about intimacy and sexuality. 15:03 Navigating life stages: hormones, relationships, and expectations. 19:48 Breaking away from conventional life paths. 21:06 Exploring sexual fluidity and honoring individual choices. 25:57 The importance of listening to your body and biology. 28:01 Complexities of tradition vs. authentic alignment. 34:59 Embracing change: Letting life and relationships evolve. 47:20 Rewriting relationship commitments and living authentically. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (podcast) Evolve in Love – Next level – (program) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Erika Schwartz Websites: | Facebook: | X: YouTube: Instagram: | LinkedIn: | Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36615975

ERP 476: Radical Acceptance & Real Connection: Navigating Differences in Relationship — An Interview With Carolyn Sharp 05/13/2025

ERP 476: Radical Acceptance & Real Connection: Navigating Differences in Relationship — An Interview With Carolyn Sharp About this Episode Conflict in relationships isn’t just inevitable—it’s normal, healthy, and, perhaps most importantly, an opportunity. Yet, the tension between wanting deep connection and authentic acceptance, while also holding onto individuality, can feel like a tightrope walk. How do couples move beyond judgment and misunderstanding to experience radical acceptance and true intimacy, especially when old patterns, unresolved hurts, and competing needs seem to pull them apart? In this episode, listeners are guided through the complex terrain of navigating differences in long-term relationships. With practical strategies rooted in attachment science, trauma awareness, and mindful communication, this conversation dives into how curiosity, compassion, and proactive agreements can transform even the most challenging dynamics. Expect actionable insights on building repair after conflict, balancing “me” and “we,” and creating a thriving relationship where both partners—and the partnership itself—can grow. Whether you’re in the thick of recurring arguments or simply seeking a deeper, richer connection, this episode offers real tools to help you rediscover joy, security, and growth together. Carolyn Sharp, LICSW, is an experienced couples therapist with 25 years of expertise in attachment, neuroscience, trauma, and mindfulness. She helps couples build vibrant, secure relationships through coaching, workshops, and retreats. Carolyn’s passion and extensive training inspire her work in creating joyful, healthy connections. She is the author of FIRE IT UP: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship. Episode Highlights 06:14 How Carolyn Sharp found her calling in couples therapy. 09:25 The complexities of long-term relationships and the importance of learning healthy relationship skills. 12:16 Can couples truly grow together without losing themselves? 15:44 How curiosity becomes a secret weapon in relationships. 18:14 Navigating identity and boundaries: Individuality within relationships. 21:29 Understanding the origins of conflict: Attachment patterns and family system dynamics. 26:46 Proactive communication: The importance of planning and ‘owner’s manuals’ in relationships. 33:31 Relationship needs as a third entity: Maintaining the ‘us’ in times of stress. 35:41 Repairing relationship injuries 39:30 Recognizing and addressing unresolved hurt: Signs and solutions. 42:21 Learning how to apologize and repair: Overcoming childhood patterns and building new skills. 47:59 How tiny moments of repair lay the foundation for lasting trust. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Carolyn Sharp Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36547900

ERP 475: How to Balance Career Ambition with Love & Relationship — An Interview with Katarina Polonska 05/06/2025

ERP 475: How to Balance Career Ambition with Love & Relationship — An Interview with Katarina Polonska About this Episode Can you really have it all—an ambitious, thriving career while also nurturing a deeply satisfying romantic relationship? Or does chasing professional success mean sacrificing love and connection at home? For many high achievers, pursuing career goals brings unexpected loneliness, relationship strain, and an exhausting sense of self-abandonment. The pressure to perform at work often leaves little time or energy for building intimacy, leading countless professionals to quietly wonder: Why does succeeding at work come so much easier than succeeding at love? In this episode, listeners are invited to reexamine this all-too-common belief that career ambition and a fulfilling love life are mutually exclusive. Through frank discussion and real stories, this conversation unpacks the hidden patterns that cause us to disconnect from ourselves and our partners, amidst the demands of professional life. By exploring psychological frameworks, practical strategies, and embodied personal growth, the episode offers actionable insights to help you move beyond self-sabotage, redefine success, and create space for both professional achievement and authentic, secure relationships. Katarina Polonska is a Science-Backed Relationship Coach, Published Gender Dynamics Social Scientist (University of Oxford M.St), Founder of the Successfully in Love® Method, ex-Regional VP of a global Behavioral Science Firm, and Podcast Host with guests like John Gray, of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, NY Times Bestseller Marci Shimoff, and Christina Tracy Stein, daughter of world-renowned Brian Tracy. As an accredited coach since 2007, she helps ambitious professionals become Successfully in Love®. Episode Highlights 08:35 How high achievers self-abandon for success. 14:42 Debunking the “either/or” myth for career and love. 19:05 Finding balance: Shifting from sacrifice to flow. 27:41 Katarina’s three pillars for relationship transformation. 36:48 Navigating growth: Solo vs. couples work. 43:47 Real-life example of creating change in marriage. 49:07 Resolving self-sabotage and expanding capacity. Mentioned (video) - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) Podcast (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Katarina Polonska Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36450200

ERP 474: How to Build More Emotional Health & Resilience — An Interview with Rachel Kaplan 04/29/2025

ERP 474: How to Build More Emotional Health & Resilience — An Interview with Rachel Kaplan About this Episode Ever feel like you’re going through life with an invisible weight holding you back—old hurts, unspoken fears, or emotional “constipation” clogging your sense of connection with yourself and others? Many of us are conditioned to avoid our discomfort, stuff down our feelings, or simply muscle through, only to discover that real joy and closeness remain just out of reach. The struggle to feel truly seen, cared for, and emotionally vibrant isn’t just personal—it’s a modern epidemic. In this episode, you’ll discover how to build emotional health and resilience by learning to recognize, honor, and skillfully process your feelings. Through practical analogies—like emotional “potty training”—and grounded, compassionate guidance, you’ll explore why authentic emotional connection is the missing link to deeper relationships and personal well-being. Whether you’re seeking more intimacy, healing old scars, or just want to feel more fully alive, this conversation offers real-world tools and gentle permission to let your feelings move—and gently transform your life from the inside out. Rachel Kaplan, MA, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and host of the acclaimed Healing Feeling Sh*t Show podcast. Kaplan has studied yoga, meditation, and hands-on healing practices in India and Nepal, earned a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies, and trained in cutting-edge trauma modalities such as EMDR. Her “Inner Talks That Heal” TEDx talk explores the internal relationship between our loving and wounded parts. Episode Highlights 07:49 Rachel’s personal journey of healing. 15:42 Avoidance, dissociation, and the societal struggle to stay present. 17:46 The importance of feeling both pain and growth. 22:52 How to recognize, accept, and let go of your emotions in a healthy way, instead of suppressing or avoiding them. 24:00 How emotional constipation develops: Childhood, suppression, and the need for emotional movement. 30:18 Practical steps to reconnect with and care for hidden or neglected parts of yourself. 37:50 How unmet needs and hidden parts show up with partners. 41:49 Self-responsibility in emotional processing: Navigating attachment styles and reactions. 45:37 Vulnerability, repair, and building emotional resilience in relationships. 51:42 Further resources: Rachel’s book, podcast, and ways to continue learning. Mentioned (*YouTube video) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Rachel Kaplan Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36349215

ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor 04/22/2025

ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor About this Episode Are you feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, physically present but emotionally absent during intimate moments? For many, the path to sexual fulfillment can feel blocked by a haze of stress, routine, numbness, or the pressure to reach a specific end goal. In a world where busyness and performance often take center stage, it’s all too easy to lose touch with the authentic, embodied experiences that deepen intimacy and bring lasting joy to our relationships. In this episode, listeners are guided through the steps to rediscover and reclaim embodied pleasure in their sexual and relational lives. The conversation dives into practical, somatic approaches that help individuals and couples slow down, tune in, and get curious about what truly makes them feel alive—moving beyond goal-oriented sex to something richer and more connected. Expert insights and real-life stories illuminate how noticing sensations, embracing vulnerability, and practicing new skills can unlock not just sexual satisfaction but a greater sense of confidence, communication, and intimacy overall. Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina. Episode Highlights 03:49 The role of somatic awareness in sexual connection. 09:18 Unlocking the first step toward pleasure. 13:53 Susan’s personal journey from sexless marriage to full-body orgasm. 19:13 Overcoming tension and numbness to rediscover sexual sensitivity. 22:55 Redefining orgasm: Moving beyond the goal-oriented experience. 27:11 Embracing discomfort and obstacles to deepen intimacy. 35:29 Notice, name, negotiate: a framework for couples facing sexual mismatch. 37:45 Radical accountability and communication in sexual relationships. 43:09 Prioritizing pleasure: initiation, desire, and direct versus indirect routes. 47:30 How direct pleasure sensitivity impacts every area of life. 52:01 Understanding polarity, giving and receiving, and closing reflections. Mentioned (link) (ebook) (program) Connect with Susan Taylor Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36259465

ERP 472: Four Essential Pillars to Positively Transform Your Relationship (From a Psycho-Spiritual Perspective) An Interview with Dr. Rachel Glik 04/15/2025

ERP 472: Four Essential Pillars to Positively Transform Your Relationship (From a Psycho-Spiritual Perspective) An Interview with Dr. Rachel Glik About this Episode In many relationships, there's an ongoing struggle to balance personal growth with relational harmony, often leaving couples feeling stuck and disconnected. The issue at hand is not just about communication or compatibility—it's about understanding and nurturing the deeper psycho-spiritual connection that binds two individuals. In this episode, we dive into the essential pillars that can positively transform your relationship from a psycho-spiritual perspective. We'll explore how being responsible for your own happiness sets the stage for healthier dynamics, the importance of viewing friction as an opportunity for growth, and how prioritizing your relationship can foster a secure, joyful bond. Moreover, by examining the potential for purpose both individually and as a partnership, this discussion offers tangible insights and spiritual practices to help you create a more meaningful and fulfilling connection with your partner. Rachel Glik is a licensed professional counselor with 30+ years as a couples and individual therapist in private practice. Since 2014, she has been a regular feature on the Fox 2 AM show in St. Louis as a relationship and mental health expert. She is the author of A Soulful Marriage: Healing Your Relationship With Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose. Episode Highlights 03:40 Embracing personal growth and the role of spiritual guidance. 08:03 The four pillars framework: A path to self-relationship and personal responsibility. 12:18 Scientific meets spiritual: Harmonizing psychology and Kabbalah in relationships. 16:47 Unlocking personal power through vulnerability and self-awareness. 20:05 Exploring purpose and positive impact as a couple. 27:55 Spiritual practices and the journey towards Kabbalah. 30:39 Balancing personal growth with relational dynamics. 32:55 Creating a relational sanctuary: The art of sacred connection. 37:20 Transition from romance to synergy in long-term relationships. 39:21 Navigating threats and traumas by trust in relationships. 42:28 Destined growth and mutual support in spiritual partnerships. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Dr. Rachel Glik Websites: Facebook: X: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35921460

ERP 471: How the Pelvic Floor Is Related to Many Aspects of Health, Even the Domain of Relationship Health — An Interview with Patricia Siegel 04/08/2025

ERP 471: How the Pelvic Floor Is Related to Many Aspects of Health, Even the Domain of Relationship Health — An Interview with Patricia Siegel About this Episode Pelvic floor health is a topic that's often shrouded in mystery and silence, yet it is fundamentally linked to our overall well-being, affecting everything from incontinence to intimacy. Many individuals, particularly those with female bodies, face the challenges of pelvic floor dysfunction post-pregnancy, during menopause, or even as athletes, without realizing that it is common but not normal and certainly not something they have to live with. Ignoring pelvic floor care can lead not only to physical discomfort but also strain in relationships due to issues like pain during intimacy or a lack of awareness surrounding one's own body needs. In this episode, we delve deep into the world of pelvic floor rehabilitation and prevention therapy to uncover the importance of addressing these issues head-on. Through holistic approaches, including exercises, education, and community support, listeners will learn about the often-overlooked muscles that play an important role in our bodily functions and intimate relationships. By shedding light on the resources and techniques available, listeners are encouraged to break the stigma, embrace their journey to healing, and ultimately improve their quality of life and connections with others. Patricia Siegel is a German native and Sports Scientist specializing in pelvic floor rehabilitation and prevention therapy. A former semi-professional track athlete, she is now the STRONG Fitness expert columnist regarding pelvic floor health. Episode Highlights 04:32 Understanding postpartum health: Pain, support, and recovery. 10:16 Hormone therapy alternatives during menopause. 11:45 Inspiring personal stories of fitness and overcoming challenges. 15:52 The benefits of regular exercise and fitness recommendations. 19:03 The role of breathing techniques in pelvic floor health. 20:27 Athletic performance and pelvic floor strength. 23:54 Navigating postpartum intimacy and emotional health. 29:12 Breaking the silence: Educating women on pelvic health. 32:56 Addressing trauma’s impact on pelvic floor health. 36:37 Communication’s role in postpartum relationships. 38:09 Developing a holistic program for pelvic health. 42:15 Promoting awareness and education on pelvic health issues. 46:52 Practical tips for maintaining pelvic floor health. Mentioned (YouTube Channel) (program) Connect with Patricia Siegel Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35921375

ERP 470: How to Get Off the Emotional Roller Coaster in Relationship, So That You Can Develop a Deeper, Lasting Connection — An Interview with Drs. Susan Thau & Sondra Goldstein 04/01/2025

ERP 470: How to Get Off the Emotional Roller Coaster in Relationship, So That You Can Develop a Deeper, Lasting Connection — An Interview with Drs. Susan Thau & Sondra Goldstein About this Episode One common struggle many face in a relationship is the challenge of getting off the emotional roller coaster. The highs and lows, misunderstandings, and unresolved conflicts can create a cycle of emotional upheaval, leaving partners feeling disconnected and frustrated. But what if we could find a way to smooth the ride and create deeper intimacy? If you've ever felt caught in a whirlwind of emotions in your relationships, you're not alone, and there are ways to navigate this complex terrain. In this episode, we delve into strategies and insights aimed at helping listeners break free from these patterns. With expert guidance, the discussion illuminates ways couples can enhance their emotional intelligence, communication skills, and conflict resolution abilities. By exploring both the individual and relational aspects of these dynamics, the conversation provides tools for transforming the way partners interact with each other. This episode offers a chance to learn how to nurture a relationship's foundation while navigating life's inevitable challenges, ultimately creating a more harmonious and enduring partnership. Susan Thau, Ph. D., Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, wife, mother and grandmother treats individuals, couples and families, working intensively with emotional states. Along with Sondra Goldstein, Susan studied in a consultation group with Alan Schore, becoming interested in attachment and affect regulation. Dr Thau began as a parent educator, later Kaiser Permanente, and eventually private practice in Los Angeles where she specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Sondra is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice for many years in Los Angeles. She is a former Clinical Associate Professor, UCLA Department of Psychology. Past study with Allan Shore, PhD, enhances her understanding of neuro-psychobiology in the processing of emotion in couples. Her study of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps in understanding emotional dynamics in couples therapy. Sondra is also a wife of 53 years, a mother, and a grandmother. Episode Highlights 03:56 Understanding the framework of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). 09:39 Meeting the authors: a journey of professional collaboration. 10:51 The power of vulnerability and emotional connection. 15:36 Coregulation and the impact of presence in therapy. 18:09 Navigating emotional triggers and attachment styles. 21:44 Challenges of vulnerability and the role of the therapist. 25:54 The importance of repair and building resilience. 28:30 Acknowledging individual differences in processing. 31:45 Demystifying therapy: The role of the therapist as a stranger attractor. 34:12 Developing a secure base: The journey of earned security. 39:20 Processing stress: Sensitive emotional and aggressive responses. 41:15 Dealing with differences and building a strong relationship foundation. 46:10 The role of curiosity and connection. 49:16 Resources and guidance for relationship growth. Mentioned (Youtube) (video) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Drs. Susan Thau & Sondra Goldstein Websites: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35829425

ERP 469: How to Develop New Dynamics for a Lasting, Caring Relationship – An Interview with Dr. Mark Gregory Karris 03/25/2025

ERP 469: How to Develop New Dynamics for a Lasting, Caring Relationship – An Interview with Dr. Mark Gregory Karris About this Episode Struggling to find deep, lasting connection in your relationship? You're not alone. Many couples experience cycles of miscommunication and emotional distance, leading to frustration and loneliness. But what if these challenges could become stepping stones to greater intimacy and understanding? Unlock the potential for a more fulfilling partnership by exploring new dynamics that foster empathy, understanding, and emotional intelligence. In this episode, we dive into the intricacies of intimate relating, exploring how individuals can develop new dynamics to nurture a lasting, caring relationship. You'll gain insights into recognizing and addressing underlying patterns and cycles that may be keeping you and your partner in a state of continuous conflict. With practical advice and expert guidance, this episode offers actionable steps to help you create a secure and supportive bond where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued. Join us as we explore the art of balancing individual growth with relational strength, paving the way for deeper connection and fulfillment. Dr. Mark Gregory Karris is a licensed marriage and family therapist in full-time private practice in San Diego, California. He specializes in couples therapy, religious trauma, and men’s issues. He is a husband, father, and recording artist. Mark is also the author of the best-selling books Religious Refugees: (De)Constructing Toward Spiritual and Emotional Healing and Beyond Fairy Tales: A Couple's Guide to Finding Clarity, Doing the Work, and Building a Lasting Relationship. Episode Highlights 04:46 Exploring the intersections of couples therapy and religious trauma. 10:40 Understanding the role of attachment styles in relationships. 14:07 Navigating the challenges of relationship cycles. 17:47 Differentiation and personal growth in partnerships. 20:51 The power of vulnerability in bridging connection. 23:06 Creating a safe space for open communication. 26:14 Embracing acceptance and grieving expectations. 31:19 Acknowledging community's role in relational support. 33:09 Balancing independence while fostering connection. 38:46 The importance of reflective empathy. 40:30 Caring for partner's unique needs and priorities. 43:23 Fostering intentional partnership practices. 46:30 Resources and insights for cultivating lasting relationships. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (pdf) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect Dr. Mark Gregory Karris Website: YouTube: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35740835

ERP 468: How to Use a Trauma-Informed Approach for Repair in Relationship — An Interview with Esin Pinarli 03/18/2025

ERP 468: How to Use a Trauma-Informed Approach for Repair in Relationship — An Interview with Esin Pinarli About this Episode Every relationship experiences moments of disconnection. These instances, often referred to as ruptures, can feel alarming, especially when they seem to happen all too frequently. But what if conflict wasn't something to dread but rather an opportunity for growth and deeper connection? The problem many face is not the rupture itself but the lack of repair. Learning how to artfully navigate these reparative processes can transform conflicts from mounting resentment to meaningful growth. Are you ready to redefine how you view and handle conflicts in your relationships? In this episode, we delve into the heart of using a trauma-informed approach to repair relationships. Through a blend of therapeutic insights and practical techniques, the conversation sheds light on the dynamics of conflict and the importance of repair to foster genuine connection and intimacy. By tapping into our own inner resources and acknowledging our shared vulnerabilities, listeners can learn to transform challenges into powerful moments of healing, growth, and reconnection. Esin Pinarli is a holistic psychotherapist and relationship expert specializing in IMAGO therapy, brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic practices, and psychodrama. Through an integrative experiential approach, she helps individuals and couples suffering from anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, trauma, and relational attachment issues to navigate life's challenges so they can become fully alive, supported, and whole. Episode Highlights 07:16 Understanding rupture and repair in relationships. 10:11 The role of conflict and repair in intimate connections. 13:38 Navigating disconnection using a trauma-informed approach. 17:06 Recognizing trauma response patterns in relationships. 23:28 Importance of reflecting and regulating responses. 25:43 Mirroring and attuning as steps in the repair process. 30:54 Nurturing vulnerability for deeper intimacy. 34:27 Cultivating empathy and understanding within partnerships. 35:24 Collaboration and accountability in healing relationship dynamics. 39:20 Handling simultaneous activation in partner dynamics. 42:47 Techniques for achieving regulation and calm. 45:56 Exploring creative solutions in conflict resolution. Mentioned (program) Connect with Esin Pinarli Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35519815

ERP 467: How to Elevate Your Life & Relationship with a Heliotropic Approach — An Interview with Dr. Harry Cohen 03/11/2025

ERP 467: How to Elevate Your Life & Relationship with a Heliotropic Approach — An Interview with Dr. Harry Cohen About this Episode Are you finding it difficult to maintain a fulfilling and harmonious relationship amidst the daily hustle and bustle of life? It's a common struggle that many people face: balancing personal growth with the demands of nurturing long-term intimacy. How do we rise above the noise and negativity that often cloud our interactions, both with others and within ourselves? In this episode, we delve into transformative strategies for enhancing your life's happiest moments and boosting the quality of your relationships using a Heliotropic Approach. This insightful conversation explores the power of being a more uplifting force—focusing on kindness, gratitude, and generating positivity. Stay tuned as Dr. Harry Cohen and Dr. Jessica Higgins break down simple yet profound practices to help you navigate challenges and transform them into opportunities for deepening intimacy and personal development. Join in as the conversation strives to create more positive, energizing connections in life and relationships. Dr. Harry Cohen, Ph.D. Psychologist, Executive Coach, Restauranter and Author of Be The Sun, Not The Salt, a short, straightforward yet profound guide for being your best self, uplifting others, and behaving in a manner that draws others toward you and makes you happier and more effective. Episode Highlights 06:16 Introducing Dr. Harry Cohen and his multidisciplinary background. 07:45 The heliotropic effect and embracing kindness. 12:46 Being present and heart-centered in interactions. 15:18 The power of words and self-reflection. 19:23 Feeding the right wolf: the power of choice. 21:40 Creating positive narratives in everyday life. 25:35 The impact of positivity on our relationships and environment. 26:44 Navigating negativity bias and fostering positivity. 31:48 The significance of gratitude and presence in practice. 34:54 Responding to crisis with grace and equanimity. 39:46 Lighting up relationships: deep listening and positive interactions. 44:57 The importance of acknowledgment in relationships. 46:06 Practical advice: apologizing and remembering who you are. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (audio book) (program) Connect with Dr. Harry Cohen Websites: Instagram: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35518540

ERP 466: How to Enhance Your Relationship with the Practice of Presence — An Interview with Dr. Shahrzad Jalali 03/04/2025

ERP 466: How to Enhance Your Relationship with the Practice of Presence — An Interview with Dr. Shahrzad Jalali About this Episode Is communication the roadblock in your intimate relationships? Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and emotional escalations can often make navigating partnerships seem like a daunting task. The challenge lies in the fact that our lives are intertwined with others who have their own unique experiences and perspectives. What if embracing life's uncertainties and the practice of presence could transform these relational dynamics into something more harmonious and fulfilling? In this episode, we explore the art of deep listening and presence as powerful tools to enhance your relationship dynamics. Through enriching conversations, we'll delve into practices that can help you reconnect not only with yourself but also with your significant other. You will gain insights into how embracing vulnerability, understanding emotional activations, and learning to listen deeply can open the door to more profound connections. Whether you're aiming to resolve conflict or simply want to deepen intimacy, this episode offers the guidance needed to transform challenges into opportunities for growth and connection. Dr. Shahrzad Jalali, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist with expertise in trauma resolution, psychoanalysis, and relational dynamics. She guides clients in transforming emotional challenges into growth opportunities using a holistic approach that combines psychological, existential, and body-based techniques. Grounded in Jungian psychology, Dr. Jalali emphasizes cognitive restructuring and somatic healing to address trauma at its roots. Her upcoming 2025 book explores these themes, providing readers with practical insights into self-empowerment and resilience. Dr. Shahrzad Jalali identifies as Iranian-American, with a cultural background that blends Persian heritage with American influences. Her work integrates multicultural perspectives, enriching her therapeutic approach and fostering a deep understanding of diverse cultural experiences. Episode Highlights 05:44 How misunderstandings and emotional clashes in relationships often stem from individual differences in coping with life's challenges. 08:53 The importance of metacognition and shifting perspectives to help navigate difficulties and develop partnership resilience. 14:11 The cultural differences in emotional expression and the unrealistic societal expectation of constant happiness. 19:11 The art of truly listening to oneself and others as a crucial step toward emotional understanding and connection. 23:32 The illusory nature of control and how embracing vulnerability and curiosity can lead to deeper connections and personal growth. 32:32 The cultural and personal barriers that impede meaningful dialogue and how societal pressures influence our interactions. 36:10 Incorporating practices of emotional and psychological hygiene to navigate the complexities of daily life more effectively. 42:55 Recognizing and evaluating the personal and societal beliefs that shape our behavior and emotional responses. 44:22 Tools and approaches are discussed for identifying and reframing insecurities and fears to foster healthier relationships. Mentioned From Pain to Purpose (book) (*soon to be published) (program) Connect with Dr. Shahrzad Jalali Websites: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35414610

ERP 465: How Acceptance Can Strengthen Your Relationship — An Interview with Jon Anderson 02/25/2025

ERP 465: How Acceptance Can Strengthen Your Relationship — An Interview with Jon Anderson About this Episode Ever feel like your romantic relationship is a swirling mystery of emotions, expectations, and challenges? At the heart of every partnership lies the quest for acceptance—a profound sense of being valued and understood, just as you are. Yet, the path to achieving this in our closest relationships can often feel fraught with misunderstandings and unmet needs. How can we navigate these turbulent waters to foster deeper connection and a lasting bond? In this episode, our experts delve into the transformative power of acceptance and its pivotal role in strengthening intimate relationships. With insights drawn from decades of experience in counseling and relationship coaching, this conversation explores how to break free from entrenched patterns and embrace acceptance as a cornerstone for emotional intimacy. Listeners will come away with practical strategies to rekindle their relationship's safety and vulnerability, ultimately leading to a more profound and enduring love. Jon is the founder of Growing Love Network, a nonprofit dedicated to revolutionizing relationships for lifelong love. He has conducted more than 170 marriage intensives for struggling couples, and couples in crisis. He has worked directly with thousands of couples and individuals through counseling and therapy and trained hundreds to facilitate effective marriage courses. He has been married to his wife, Joanna, since 1985. They have 3 grown children and 6 grandchildren. Episode Highlights 05:25 Acceptance and power: Roots of relationship dynamics 07:26 Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. 12:54 Building a foundation of acceptance in relationships. 14:14 The shallow end vs deep end dynamics in relationships. 17:45 Establishing safety in partnerships: Shallow-end conversations 21:47 Creating structured conversations for safety and acceptance. 24:38 The role of quality time and affirmations in building acceptance. 28:09 Effective listening: a key to acceptance. 32:27 Prioritizing goodwill and understanding in relationships. 34:48 The power of positive focus: Shifting perspectives in relationships. 40:10 Navigating conflicting perspectives: The cul-de-sac analogy. 44:08 Inching back to vulnerability: Steps from shallow to deep end. 47:45 The importance of day-to-day intimacy and acceptance. 49:06 Insight into couple intensives: Accelerated progress in relationship therapy. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Jon Anderson Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35367635

ERP 464: How to Understand Your & Your Partners’ Conflict Style for Lasting Success - An Interview with Dr. Don Cole 02/18/2025

ERP 464: How to Understand Your & Your Partners’ Conflict Style for Lasting Success - An Interview with Dr. Don Cole Conflict is an inevitable aspect of any relationship, but how we handle it can make all the difference in the world. Whether you're finding that your disagreements escalate quickly or that issues get swept under the rug and resurface later, understanding your and your partner's conflict style can be a game-changer. How do you transform these clashes into opportunities for growth and deeper connection? The key lies in recognizing the patterns and learning the skills to navigate through them effectively. In this episode, we dive deep into the dynamics of different conflict styles—volatile, validating, and avoidant—and offer insights into how these patterns play out in relationships. You'll discover the importance of understanding not just your style but also your partner's, and how mismatched styles can be addressed for better harmony. With practical guidance and real-world examples, this discussion aims to equip you with the tools to foster a more resilient and connected relationship, even in the face of disagreements. Tune in to explore how you can create a new positive dynamic in your relationship by embracing and working with your unique conflict styles. Dr. Don Cole is the Clinical Director of The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. Along with his wife, Dr. Carrie Cole, he founded The Center for Relationship Wellness. With over 30 years of experience, he has worked with individuals and couples in various areas, including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, trauma recovery, parenting, and personality disorders. In this episode 05:55 The three conflict styles: volatile, validating, and avoidant. 14:38 Conflicts arise in mismatched styles: the validator vs. the avoidant. 17:17 Understanding conflict styles: it's not about maturity or emotional intelligence. 19:34 Examining the volatile style: comfort with high energy and emotions. 26:06 The validator style: problem-solving and seeking understanding. 33:56 Managing conflict with avoidant partners: strategies for understanding. 35:37 Using the Gottman Rapoport style for effective communication. 43:46 Tools and resources: books, workshops, and psychoeducational materials. 45:56 Normalizing conflict: learning to accept and grow through differences. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Dr. Don Cole Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35003590

ERP 463: How to Make Love Last (From a Biological Perspective) — An Interview with Dr. Liat Yakir 02/11/2025

ERP 463: How to Make Love Last (From a Biological Perspective) — An Interview with Dr. Liat Yakir Why do some relationships fizzle out while others seem to stand the test of time? We've all heard about the honeymoon phase—those butterflies in the belly, the excitement, and the dopamine rush—but what happens when that stage inevitably wanes? Relationships often hit a crossroads where familiarity sets in, and the novelty fades, posing a significant challenge for couples striving to maintain passion and deep connection. How can we make love last when our biology seems to be working against us? In this episode, we delve into the profound insights shared by a renowned biologist who explores the complexities of love from a biological standpoint. From understanding the chemicals that drive our attraction and attachment phases to practical strategies for reigniting excitement and intimacy, this conversation offers invaluable advice. Learn how to navigate the intricacies of your own love life by leveraging scientific knowledge to foster long-lasting, healthy relationships. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been with your partner for years, these insights can help you strengthen your bond and keep the spark alive. Dr. Liat Yakir is a distinguished biologist, writer, and lecturer specializing in the biology of emotions and human behavior. She advises organizations on neuro-management (also known as neuro-leadership), leveraging cutting-edge insights from brain research to cultivate exceptional leadership skills and practices. Dr. Yakir earned her Ph.D. and completed postdoctoral studies in molecular genetics. She also holds a master’s degree in hormone research. With years of experience in science education and communication, she has made significant contributions at the Davidson Institute for Science Education, the educational arm of the Weizmann Institute In this episode 06:40 Understand love through a biological lens. 09:00 The three stages of love. 13:03 Attachment styles and their impact on relationships. 19:15 Why initial attractions can be misleading. 22:28 The conflict between stability and novelty in love. 30:08 The genetics of monogamy and polyamory. 32:53 Increasing dopamine levels to enhance relationships. 36:03 The role of jealousy and status in attraction. 38:11 Maintaining passion and intimacy in long-term relationships. 44:28 Overcoming sexual scripts and routine through play. 46:06 The importance of communication and appreciation in relationships. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Liat Yakir Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/35003485

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