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The Empowered Relationship Podcast helps you turn relationship challenges into opportunities and sets you up for relationship success, satisfaction, and intimacy. This podcast is designed to inspire, motivate, and guide individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.

ERP 502: Beyond Fear and Control: Building Emotional Flexibility in Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona 11/12/2025

ERP 502: Beyond Fear and Control: Building Emotional Flexibility in Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona Are you letting anxiety and the need to play it safe hold you hostage in your relationships and personal growth? Too often, fear—of rejection, failure, or the unknown—becomes the invisible fence shaping our actions. Perfectionism, procrastination, overthinking, and the constant urge to avoid discomfort can shrink our lives, leaving us disconnected from our true selves and the people we care about most. In this episode, we explore how fear influences perfectionism, anxiety, and avoidance in our relationships and daily lives. Discover compassionate approaches to working with anxiety—learning why fighting it doesn’t work, and how, instead, our willingness to acknowledge, understand, and even befriend discomfort can become a gateway to deeper connection and greater freedom. Through practical tools and real-world strategies like "uncertainty workouts," values-based action, and self-compassion, this episode aims to help you navigate the messy, beautiful process of showing up more authentically for yourself and those you care about. Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona is on a mission to help people break free from ineffective, play-it-safe patterns so they can begin living rich, purposeful, and meaningful lives. A trained psychologist, she is the author of seven books and co-author of two more. Her expertise has led her to present workshops at both national and international conferences. She also runs a boutique therapy and coaching practice that specializes in the application of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for anxiety. Passionate about her work, she delights in creating personalized resources for every client she serves. Episode Highlights 06:03 The interconnectedness of anxiety and its impact on life. 09:07 The importance of accepting anxiety instead of fighting it. 10:02 Using values to guide responses and reduce anxiety’s control. 13:50 The need to tolerate discomfort in relationships. 18:53 Navigating fear of commitment and embracing uncertainty. 22:49 Building tolerance for ambiguity and uncertainty. 24:32 How avoiding uncomfortable emotions can increase suffering and relates to trauma and emotional regulation. 29:52 Values-based exposure and compassionate approaches to fear. 33:41 Developing micro skills for managing difficult conversations. 35:41 Integrating self-compassion and Wise Moves for anxiety management. 38:01 Practical resources, parenting insights, and closing reflections. Your Check List of Actions to Take Take a moment to pause with a deep inhale and exhale, noticing sensations in your body before engaging in difficult conversations or when feeling anxious. Instead of fighting anxiety, recognize it as a protective part of your humanity and make room for it. When anxiety arises, ask yourself what truly matters to you in that moment to guide your response. Embrace uncomfortable feelings in relationships without avoidance, viewing them as essential for growth and authenticity. Intentionally expose yourself to uncertainty in small, manageable ways (like trying a new restaurant or activity) to build tolerance. When fear surfaces, actively choose actions that align with your core values—even if they feel difficult. Treat yourself with gentleness during moments of avoidance, procrastination, or anxiety, recognizing your effort and courage. When facing a fearful situation, pause and check in with your body and thoughts, then proceed with intentionality rather than rushing through. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (link) (free relationship guide) (pdf) Connect with Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona Websites: | Facebook: | X: YouTube: Instagram: /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38872270

ERP 501: From Projection to Presence: The Art of Seeing and Being Seen — An Interview With David Mars 11/04/2025

ERP 501: From Projection to Presence: The Art of Seeing and Being Seen — An Interview With David Mars Feeling unseen and misunderstood in your closest relationship can be one of the loneliest experiences, even when surrounded by family and friends. It's not uncommon for couples to fall into patterns of projection, reactivity, and defensiveness, leaving genuine intimacy and deep connection feeling just out of reach. How do we move from these cycles of blame and distance towards the kind of secure, transformative partnership that brings true accompaniment, dignity, and joy? In this episode, you are invited to slow down and explore new pathways to presence and connection. Through practical tools, guided reflection, and insights rooted in transformative couples therapy, you’ll discover ways to move beyond automatic reactivity and habitual defense, and instead cultivate curiosity, somatic awareness, and genuine intimacy. Whether you’re looking to strengthen trust, improve communication, or rekindle the spark in a long-term bond, this conversation offers powerful guidance for anyone seeking more clarity, care, and lasting growth in their relationships. Since 2008 Dr. David Mars has been the developer of Transformative Couples Therapy® (TCT). He leads seminars and training programs internationally on TCT. Affective neuroscience and attachment research are central to this experiential, somatically attuned and positivity-based method. Currently Dr. Mars also is the leader of a three-year project to quantify the results of TCT in preparation to offer published research on outcomes of the method. He is the Director of the Transformative Couples Therapy® Institute. Episode Highlights 03:39 The impact of curiosity and projections in long-term relationships. 08:32 How attachment styles form early in life and opportunities for change. 10:05 The importance of somatic awareness, attunement, and slowing down in relationships. 15:42 Gender, stress, and the emotional costs of disconnection. 17:48 Strategies for setting boundaries and cultivating safe communication. 23:14 Transformation and growth through the I-Thou relationship. 24:43 Daily practices and the seven channels of experience in couples therapy. 29:49 Awareness of energetic imprints and somatic patterns from early life. 31:15 Navigating and embracing partner differences in relationships. 34:43 The role of journaling, self-regulation, and reverence in relational health. 40:57 Somatic-based modalities, resources, and generativity in relationships. Your Check List of Actions to Take Begin your conversations or sessions with your partner by sharing something you appreciate about each other to set a positive tone. Take a deep inhale and exhale together to ground yourselves and invite presence before important discussions. Communicate your feelings and needs using “I” statements to promote vulnerability and reduce defensiveness. Speak directly to your partner, not just about them or through a third party, to foster genuine connection. Notice and share your body sensations (like a tight chest or warm hands) during emotional exchanges to heighten self-awareness and attunement. Approach your partner with genuine curiosity and try to witness their experience, rather than making assumptions or projecting your own perspective. If either partner feels overwhelmed or unresourced, honor the need to pause and agree on a time to revisit the conversation. Tune into the seven channels—sensation, emotion, energy, movement, auditory, visual, and imaginal—to enrich both your self-awareness and your communication with your partner. Mentioned (Britannica link) (biography) (*Britannica link) (*Psychology Today) (*Wikipedia link) (article) (*Sage Journals) (study) (*Wikipedia link) (article) * (*Wikipedia link) (article) * (*Wikipedia link) (article) (free relationship guide) (pdf) Connect with David Mars Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38872105

ERP 500: The Practice of Us: Living the Skills That Keep Love Alive 10/28/2025

ERP 500: The Practice of Us: Living the Skills That Keep Love Alive This episode marks an incredible milestone—the 500th episode of the Empowered Relationship Podcast. To celebrate, Dr. Jessica Higgins and her husband, Reid Peterson, sit down for a heartfelt and revealing conversation about what it really takes to cultivate a truly empowered partnership. If you’ve ever wondered why, despite your best intentions, emotional honesty and vulnerability can feel so risky—or why differences and conflict so often create distance instead of closeness—you’re not alone. The path to authentic connection is filled with challenges that test even the strongest relationships. In this special episode, Jessica and Reid open up about the principles and practices that have helped them build a foundation of trust, love, and growth throughout their years together. They share personal stories, practical strategies, and honest reflections on navigating tough conversations, supporting each other’s emotional needs, and finding clarity in uncertain times. Whether you’re learning to handle conflict, embrace vulnerability, or co-create a meaningful vision for your life together, you’ll discover insights and tools to transform relationship challenges into opportunities for deeper connection and lasting love. Episode Highlights 04:58 Building safety and trust through honesty in partnership. 09:15 Jessica shares how vulnerability early in dating deepened their intimacy. 11:47 How honest conversations help reduce shame and strengthen connection. 14:11 How different personalities shape communication in relationships. 19:52 Strategies to navigate conflict with calm and empathy. 35:51 Building clarity, connection, and purpose through joint visioning. 44:08 Strengthening relationships through further exploration and resources. Your Check List of Actions to Take Practice speaking honestly about your core feelings, emotions, and needs—even when it feels risky or uncomfortable. Pause during moments of tension to take a few deep breaths, center yourself, and check in with what you’re feeling before responding. When conflict arises, communicate the need for space calmly and agree on a time to revisit the discussion to avoid sweeping issues under the rug. Seek reassurance or a quick check-in from your partner during periods of disconnection to help reduce anxiety and foster trust. Cultivate attuned listening—focus on truly understanding what your partner is expressing beyond the words, and ask clarifying questions when needed. Name whether you’re seeking comfort or solutions in conversations, so your partner knows how best to support you. Regularly engage in shared visioning exercises together to clarify mutual values and dreams, and support each other in the process—even when values differ. Download and use the “12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love” guide to gain clarity and practical strategies for your relationship. Mentioned (free relationship guide) (pdf) (quiz) /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38788995

ERP 499: Regulate to Relate: Building Embodied Safety in Love — An Interview with Aubrey Aust 10/21/2025

ERP 499: Regulate to Relate: Building Embodied Safety in Love — An Interview with Aubrey Aust Ever feel like you know all the “right” things to do in a relationship, but when the moment comes, your body is flooded with stress, your voice tightens, or you just shut down? Many of us long for deep connection and trust, but when life gets real, our nervous system can hijack our best intentions. The invisible forces of old wounds, protective patterns, and the lightning-fast reactions of our bodies can make true safety in love feel just out of reach. In this episode, you’ll discover practical ways to bridge the gap between knowing and feeling safe and connected with your partner. Drawing on insights from attachment and polyvagal theory, somatic psychology, and real-world relationship experiences, the conversation sheds light on what “embodied safety” truly means—and why it’s the foundation for intimacy, trust, and even passion. Listeners will come away with tools to notice their body’s cues, co-regulate with a partner, and develop relational intelligence that supports lasting, resilient love—even when challenges arise. Aubrey Aust is a writer and master’s candidate at NYU studying relational psychology and philosophy. Her work explores how emotional safety, embodiment, and relational intelligence shape intimacy and trust. Drawing from attachment theory, polyvagal theory, and somatic psychology, Aubrey helps individuals and couples understand how to build safety in relationships through both the mind and the body. She is passionate about making complex psychological insights practical, soulful, and deeply human. Episode Highlights 08:38 How our bodies subconsciously sense safety or danger in relationships. 10:32 The importance of nonverbal cues and body sensations in emotional communication. 16:50 Identifying and changing self-protective behaviors that block intimacy. 19:10 Accessing vulnerability for co-regulation. 21:54 How consistency shapes true relational growth. 26:32 Navigating the tension between meeting others’ needs and self-care in daily life. 28:08 How curiosity about intense emotions can help heal shame and estrangement. 32:04 How understanding core needs brings freedom and new options in relationships. 35:17 Rewiring your reactions: How noticing your nervous system transforms relationships. 38:39 How small shifts in attention can instantly calm your nervous system. 41:30 Unlocking the power to heal and evolve through relationship challenges. Your Check List of Actions to Take Take conscious pauses to slow down and deepen your breath, helping you regulate stress and become more present in relationships. Practice tuning into your bodily sensations during interactions—notice tension, breath patterns, or relaxation—to better understand your felt sense of safety. Build somatic awareness by gently observing your physical reactions when you feel unsafe or activated, such as tightness, speeding up, or shutting down. Create check-in rituals with your partner to attune to each other’s nervous system cues, like noticing changes in body language, tone, or energy. Normalize and expect moments of rupture or conflict, and view them as opportunities to build relational trust through repair and open communication. Get curious about your protective patterns (such as people-pleasing, avoidance, or hyper-independence) and consider when they may no longer serve intimacy. Use subtle self-regulation techniques in social situations, like grounding your feet, gently pressing your fingers together, or scanning the room to calm your nervous system. When you feel dysregulated in a conversation, ask clarifying questions or take a brief pause to gather yourself instead of reacting from a place of activation. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (National Library of Medicine article) (Psychology Today) (Polyvagal Institute) (program) (Acuity booking link) Connect with Aubrey Aust Websites: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: Newsletter: /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38639400

ERP 498: Turn Toward, Turn On: How Couples Grow Desire (Not Just Talk About It) — An Interview with Dr. Diane Mueller 10/14/2025

ERP 498: Turn Toward, Turn On: How Couples Grow Desire (Not Just Talk About It) — An Interview with Dr. Diane Mueller Why is it that talking about desire and intimacy with your partner can feel more intimidating than any other conversation in a relationship, even when you’ve shared years—or decades—together? So many couples silently struggle with mismatched libido, lost spark, or simply the discomfort of broaching sensitive topics about sex and pleasure. When left unspoken, these issues have the power to erode connection and joy in long-term relationships. If you’ve ever wondered why desire seems to fade, or why candid discussions about passion feel off-limits, you’re not alone. In this episode, listeners are invited to explore how couples can move beyond just talking about desire and actually grow it together. Through stories, scientific insights, and actionable strategies, the conversation unpacks the barriers to open communication about sexuality—from shame and defensiveness to the physical and emotional roots of low libido. Along the way, listeners will learn how to build safety, cultivate presence, and consciously turn toward intimacy, laying the foundation for a relationship that’s vibrant, resilient, and full of authentic connection. Whether you’re seeking new energy with your partner or looking for tools to nurture your own sexual self-awareness, this episode is packed with practical guidance to help you rediscover your spark—together. Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, is a board certified sexologist with dual doctorates in Naturopathic as well as Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine. She is the founder of the sex education center: and hosts 'The Libido Lounge' podcast, where she helps monogamous couples create more passion, desire, hotter sex and better communication. Episode Highlights 06:23 Dr. Diane Mueller’s journey from healing vulvar pain to embracing sexual wellness. 07:48 Navigating relationship styles and lessons learned from open relationships in the pursuit of lasting passion. 10:34 The importance of open sexual communication and overcoming shame in relationships. 16:27 Building a foundation of safety and how positive feedback strengthens sexual communication. 25:24 Presence and pleasure, and the mindfulness connection for enhancing sexual experience. 30:13 Embracing emotions in sexuality, including the role of anger and emotional expression in intimacy. 36:12 Identifying dissociation and cultivating presence to deepen sexual experience. 37:47 Harnessing sex for healing by using altered states and partner practices for growth. 41:36 Personal growth and relationship success with reflections on healing, compatibility, and lasting love. Your Check List of Actions to Take Start open and honest conversations about sex and desire with your partner to reduce shame and taboo. Give specific, positive feedback after intimacy to build safety and connection. Clearly discuss and define your relationship agreements and boundaries together. Practice being present during intimate moments through mindful breathing or grounding exercises. Try a sensual touch practice, like giving each other foot massages, while focusing on sensation and awareness. Reflect on any personal beliefs or shame around sexuality and seek ways to address or release them. Take time to identify your own turn-ons and communicate these clearly to your partner. Use physical intimacy as an opportunity to process emotions, such as through movement, sound, or affirmations. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (link) (Free ebook) (quiz) (quiz) (podcast) (program) (Acuity booking link) Connect with Dr. Diane Mueller Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38565725

ERP 497: Become the Family CEO: Build a ‘Family Bank’ and Lasting Wealth — An Interview with Lavaisha Davis 10/07/2025

ERP 497: Become the Family CEO: Build a ‘Family Bank’ and Lasting Wealth — An Interview with Lavaisha Davis Have you ever faced a family crisis only to realize that financial instability adds an overwhelming weight to an already heavy moment? Or maybe you’ve felt isolated as the “first” in your family to reach new professional heights, only to discover no one handed you a playbook for building true generational wealth. Financial challenges don’t just shake our wallets—they can ripple through our relationships, legacies, and even our sense of security and belonging. In this episode, listeners are invited to think beyond individual wealth and step into a bold new perspective: managing your family like a thriving enterprise. You’ll discover why taking the role of “Family CEO” is not only possible but essential if you want to break cycles of financial insecurity and create a blueprint for lasting abundance. Through candid conversation and practical examples, this episode explores how intentional leadership, open communication, and collaborative vision-setting can empower you and those you love to build a family legacy that lasts. LaVaisha Davis is a wealth manager and advisor at Ell Wess Advisors, a firm offering family office solutions to founders, executives, and investors. She specializes in wealth-building, legacy planning, and asset protection—empowering clients to build financial independence and generational wealth. With a no-nonsense yet engaging style, she breaks down complex strategies like becoming your own bank. Her mission: to show people their family is their first enterprise—and should be managed like a business to build lasting wealth. Episode Highlights 05:42 Lavisha Davis recalls how family tragedy became a turning point for financial awareness. 08:53 How pain and loss inspired leadership and deeper financial responsibility. 12:03 What it means to be the family CEO: Mindset and misconceptions. 14:49 The challenges and opportunities of being the first financial trailblazer. 17:24 Crafting a shared family vision and values around wealth. 20:57 Running the family like a corporation: Structure, roles, and the family bank. 29:42 Understanding the risks and the need for transparency. 31:33 The cost of poor planning including inheritance, probate, and lost wealth. 37:13 Turning family strengths and structure into lasting wealth. 42:30 How to get started: Practical support and CEO training resources. Your Check List of Actions to Take Clarify your wealth vision by choosing whether to focus on personal financial security or building generational wealth. Adopt the Family CEO mindset and lead your household with intentional financial goals and strategies. Establish a family bank to manage shared resources as if you were running a business account. Have open money conversations to build trust, clarify roles, and reinforce shared commitments. Identify and leverage family strengths by assigning financial roles that align with each person’s skills. Provide financial education for yourself and your family to make informed decisions and prepare future generations. Create a governance system with clear values, rules, and processes for collective decision-making. Take consistent action by turning plans into progress through small but steady financial steps. Mentioned (webinar registration link) Connect with Lavaisha Davis Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38455890

ERP 496: From Old Patterns to Strong Partnership—Using Tiny External Shifts — An Interview with Laura Day 09/30/2025

ERP 496: From Old Patterns to Strong Partnership—Using Tiny External Shifts — An Interview with Laura Day Ever felt like you’re stuck in old relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to break free? Or perhaps you find yourself repeating the same old arguments, feeling misunderstood, or cycling through self-doubt and disconnection from your partner. The truth is, long-term intimacy often brings hidden challenges to the surface, and many of us wrestle with how to unravel deeply ingrained habits that hold us back from experiencing truly authentic, safe, and thriving partnerships. In this episode, listeners discover how making tiny, targeted external shifts—rather than endlessly searching for answers within—can pave the way for new relational experiences and stronger partnerships. By exploring actionable strategies rooted in intuition, personal development, and a unique system for understanding your “ego centers,” you’ll learn how even the smallest changes can disrupt well-worn habits, unlock growth, and attract more authentic, secure connections in your life. Whether struggling with undervaluing yourself, longing for healthier dynamics, or navigating the challenge of healing old wounds in love, this conversation offers fresh perspectives and practical tools to help you build the partnership you truly want. New York Times best-selling author and intuitive Laura Day has spent nearly four decades helping individuals, organizations, and companies harness and develop their innate intuitive abilities to create profound change. Newsweek magazine calls her “The $10,000-a-Month Psychic,” adding “When business people need a crystal ball, they turn to consultant Laura Day, the ‘intuitionist.’” The Independent dubbed her “The Psychic of Wall Street.” Laura’s work has helped demystify intuition and bring it into the mainstream for everyday folk and A-Listers. In her workshops and presentations, she demonstrates the practical, verifiable, and sometimes astonishing uses of intuition in the fields of business, science, medicine, and personal growth. Episode Highlights 04:49 How Laura Day’s trauma shaped her path as an intuitive. 08:11 Bringing structure and credibility to intuitive and psychic work. 11:57 Discovering the “Prism” and redefining the role of ego. 14:25 How small external shifts can disrupt ingrained patterns. 19:19 How our bodies and patterns shape reality. 21:02 What your heartbeat says about your relationships. 25:35 How self-talk influences the energy you bring to relationships. 29:10 How new habits around value impact every area of life. 31:12 Simple practices to reinforce self-worth and openness. 34:01 Setting goals and finding a community to support relational growth. Your Check List of Actions to Take Write down three meaningful goals that give your life and relationships purpose. Pick one small, new habit to try today—something simple that disrupts old patterns. When you catch self-criticism, replace it with a gentle affirmation (e.g., “I forgive myself for being imperfect”). Practice responding to opportunities and compliments with openness and gratitude to change how you engage with the world. Pause to notice what emotion you’re giving off before you act or speak. Invite new experiences, people, or communities into your life that challenge your habits or expand your perspective, rather than only looking inward. Do one thing outside your comfort zone or in a new environment. Join or engage with a community that encourages your growth. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Laura Day Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38381915

ERP 495: Play the Right Money Game Together: How Couples Balance Today’s Joy with Tomorrow’s Security - An Interview With Kali & Eric Roberge 09/23/2025

ERP 495: Play the Right Money Game Together: How Couples Balance Today’s Joy with Tomorrow’s Security - An Interview With Kali & Eric Roberge Money may not buy happiness, but the tension between enjoying life today and securing a stable future can leave many couples feeling stuck, anxious, or even at odds with each other. Are you and your partner finding it difficult to strike a balance between living for the moment and building a financially secure tomorrow? Navigating finances together can bring up deep-seated fears, old money stories, and conflicting priorities—making it a journey that’s as emotional as it is practical. In this episode, you’ll discover how couples can open up the conversation about money in a way that’s thoughtful, honest, and constructive. Through real-life examples and expert strategies, you’ll learn how to identify and communicate your financial values, create a flexible plan that adapts to life’s twists and turns, and build habits that support both today’s joy and tomorrow’s security. Whether you’re saving every penny out of fear or struggling to rein in your spending, this conversation offers actionable tools to help you play the right "money game" together—and come out stronger as a couple. Eric Roberge, CFP, is the CEO and lead advisor at Beyond Your Hammock, a financial planning firm based in Boston that serves professional couples in their 30s and 40s with young families. His business partner and wife, Kali Roberge, serves as COO of BYH. Eric & Kali understand the challenges of financial planning around families and children because, as parents of a three-year-old, they’re in the trenches and well-versed in what it takes to build a financial plan that serves every member of the family. Eric and Kali live with their daughter and two cats in Cambridge, Mass. Episode Highlights 04:12 How Eric & Kali built a marriage and business partnership. 08:54 The struggles of balancing love, work, and parenthood with the same partner. 11:22 How to start honest money conversations with your partner. 13:08 What money arguments reveal about communication styles. 18:11 How childhood shapes our money mindset. 21:18 Redefining “enough” and moving beyond scarcity. 24:38 Simple saving targets without guilt or judgment. 26:02 Planning with flexibility so life’s surprises don’t derail you. 29:56 Why your financial map should keep evolving. 33:51 Systems over stress: Using money rules and systems to create freedom, not restriction. 36:37 Defining the money game you want to play. 40:33 How to nurture your plan, find the right guides, and stay the course. Your Check List of Actions to Take Take a moment to pause, breathe, and check in with your body and emotions before starting any money conversation with your partner. Together, review your current finances—assets, liabilities, cash flow—without judgment, to see where you stand right now. Have open conversations about what matters most to each of you, both in daily life and in the future, to uncover shared values and goals. Reflect on and share your individual “money scripts” or early financial beliefs, and notice how these influence your current behaviors and stressors. Clearly specify what “enough” looks like for your family, so you have a concrete target for saving and spending. Create simple guidelines (like saving 25% of your income) to automate good habits and reduce emotional spending decisions. Revisit your financial plan regularly to adjust for life changes, ensuring your approach evolves with your circumstances and goals. Intentionally set times to have financial discussions as a couple, even when life gets busy, so things don’t build up or get avoided. Mentioned (Apple Podcast) (podcast) (link) Connect with Kali & Eric Roberge Websites: Facebook: X: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38263390

ERP 494: Designing Love That Lasts: 6 Principles for Lasting Connection — An Interview with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh 09/16/2025

ERP 494: Designing Love That Lasts: 6 Principles for Lasting Connection — An Interview with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh About this Episode What if everything you know about love is a myth—built on luck, chance, and hope? The truth is, many of us walk into relationships with big dreams of “happily ever after,” only to find that real connection can feel overwhelming, elusive, or even impossible to sustain. We use words like “respect,” “trust,” and “compassion,” but rarely stop to define what they truly mean for ourselves and our partners. Without a roadmap, couples often end up lost in confusion, miscommunication, and heartbreak. In this episode, you’ll discover a fresh, research-backed framework for designing love that actually lasts. You’ll learn about the six key ingredients necessary for truly thriving relationships and uncover why love can’t survive on feelings alone. By diving into practical strategies, real-world examples, and self-reflection tools, this conversation offers a powerful guide to recognizing what really matters in your connection and how to nurture it, every single day. Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Ph.D., is a renowned author, speaker, and thought leader in relationship dynamics. With experience in 41 countries, she has advised hundreds of couples, governments, UN agencies, and corporations. Her book, Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love, explores six key principles for thriving relationships. Dr. Nasserzadeh’s work has been featured in leading media outlets, including NPR, The New York Times, BBC, CNN, and more. Episode Highlights 05:45 Dr. Sara’s unique approach to relationship dynamics and global work. 09:43 Unpacking the emergent love research model and its origins. 10:58 Grounded theory research: Analyzing couples and identifying relationship patterns. 15:52 Defining core relationship concepts and the search for universal ingredients. 19:19 Emergent model findings: Moving beyond “love comes first”. 21:01 Three phases of research and development of a relationship assessment tool. 24:42 The six key ingredients for lasting love. 29:11 The power of loving behaviors and nonverbal communication in relationships. 32:20 Cultural and physical factors that influence emotional connection. 34:32 The importance of everyday gestures and their impact on intimacy. 38:07 Small actions and social etiquette: Nurturing connection in daily life. 44:49 Understanding your “love blueprint” and core sensitivities. 45:56 Knowing yourself: Quirks, pet peeves, and vulnerabilities in relationships. 49:24 Dr. Sara’s resources, final thoughts, and where to connect. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38205565

ERP 493: What Happened to Our Sex Life? Understanding What’s Going On with Me—and Us—in the Bedroom — An Interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri 09/09/2025

ERP 493: What Happened to Our Sex Life? Understanding What’s Going On with Me—and Us—in the Bedroom — An Interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri About this Episode What happened to our sex life? It’s a question that so many couples and individuals ask themselves in silence, often with a mix of confusion, frustration, and vulnerability. Desire seems to disappear overnight. Intimacy becomes awkward or routine. Shame and self-doubt creep in, making it all the harder to talk about what’s really going on—let alone figure out how to reconnect. The problem isn't just about mismatched libido or busy schedules. It's about navigating the invisible scripts, societal expectations, stress, and even past wounds that shape our most intimate experiences. In this episode, we dive deep into understanding the roots of sexual disconnection and desire discrepancies–from personal identity and past experiences to relational habits and cultural messaging. Through empathetic discussion and expert insights, the conversation invites listeners to explore both individual and relational factors that impact their sex lives, offering practical strategies for reclaiming intimacy, self-awareness, and genuine pleasure. Whether you’re looking to rekindle passion, start new conversations, or simply better understand your own needs, this episode delivers compassionate tools and supportive perspectives to help you navigate the complex terrain of modern sexual relationships. Dr. Kate Balestrieri is the author of What Happened to My Sex Life? and a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist focused on helping people heal from trauma and addiction, improve relationships, and have better sex lives. She is the founder of Modern Intimacy, a counseling practice that operates in Los Angeles, Miami, and Chicago, and a passionate advocate for mental health, relational and sexual health, and wellness. Episode Highlights 03:08 Kate’s personal and clinical journey exploring lost desire. 08:46 How identity and culture influence sexual expression. 11:32 Confronting fear and questioning sexual norms. 15:12 Creating safety to discuss and explore new desires. 18:39 Building safety and self-awareness around intimacy. 20:56 Unpacking shame, fantasies, and compulsive sexual behavior. 26:17 Understanding that fluctuating desire is normal. 29:04 The impact of stress and lifestyle on libido. 31:22 Prioritizing self-care and space for intimacy. 35:04 Practicing rolling consent and daily connection. 37:51 Rethinking gender roles in intimacy. 40:03 Addressing resentment and rebuilding honesty. 44:04 Healing, self-compassion, and claiming pleasure. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Apple Podcast) (podcast) Connect with Dr. Kate Balestrieri Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38135325

ERP 492: Riding the Wave Together: Finding Ease, Resilience and Connection in Love — An Interview with Daniel Miller 09/02/2025

ERP 492: Riding the Wave Together: Finding Ease, Resilience and Connection in Love — An Interview with Daniel Miller About this Episode Are you stuck in the cycle of trying to control everything in your relationship, only to find yourself drifting further away from the connection and harmony you truly crave? Sometimes, the harder we try to make things “right,” the more we lose sight of what makes love resilient, joyful, and honest. The truth is, love isn’t about micromanaging or enforcing your idea of perfection—it’s about learning to ride life’s unpredictable waves with trust, acceptance, and a willingness to let go. In this episode, listeners are invited to explore how letting go of control and embracing the natural flow of love can transform the way they relate to their partners. Through personal stories, reflective questions, and practical guidance, this conversation offers insight into why acceptance and trust are essential for deepening intimacy and resilience in your relationship. You’ll discover tools to break free from the criticism-defensiveness loop, foster genuine communication, and understand how even small shifts in mindset can create lasting change in your love life. Daniel A. Miller is a best-selling author who explores how acceptance, letting go of control, and trust can transform relationships and personal well-being. His newest book, The Way of the Wave: Nature’s Model for Navigating Life’s Currents, offers practical guidance for embracing life’s unpredictability with greater ease, resilience, and inner peace. Daniel’s work draws on decades of experience, blending personal stories, research, and wisdom to help others live more empowered, connected lives. Episode Highlights 04:49 Lessons in listening and humility from Daniel’s early controlling behaviors. 06:51 How nature and acceptance transformed Daniel’s approach to relationships. 13:25 Letting go of control: The key to real intimacy and gratitude. 19:44 How Daniel learned quick repair to break cycles of withdrawal. 21:12 Attunement and emotional safety as the root of true intimacy. 26:08 Life’s crises exposed control’s dangers and the power of acceptance. 31:12 Trading fear for acceptance unlocked deeper possibilities for Daniel. 37:22 Humility and vulnerability as foundations for lasting 41:29 How acceptance and engagement create richer, more intimate relationships. 45:19 Letting go enables trust, imperfection, and true flow in life. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Daniel Miller Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/38030550

ERP 491: Grief and Healing: Navigating Loss Together as a Couple — An Interview with Madeleine Garner 08/26/2025

ERP 491: Grief and Healing: Navigating Loss Together as a Couple — An Interview with Madeleine Garner About this Episode Grief can strike when we least expect it, turning our world upside down and reshaping the very foundation of our relationships. When couples encounter loss—whether through miscarriage, infertility, or unexpected life changes—the path to healing can feel lonely, uncharted, and overwhelming. Even the closest partnerships can struggle to find the words, understanding, or comfort needed to move forward together. How do we navigate personal pain while remaining present for each other? Can couples truly heal side by side, even when their experiences of grief are so different? In this episode, listeners are invited into a heartfelt conversation exploring the realities of grief and healing within intimate relationships. Through personal storytelling and expert insight, the discussion dives deep into the complexity of navigating loss as a couple—highlighting the differences in individual grief experiences, the power of mutual support, and the importance of holding both sorrow and hope. Practical wisdom and lived experiences shed light on how couples can create space for each other’s emotions, foster resilience, and slowly rebuild a sense of connection and possibility. Whether you have faced loss yourself or support someone who has, this episode offers guidance and reassurance that, together, healing is possible. Madeleine Garner is a New York-based writer. Her play, I Ragazzi, cowritten with her father, Broadway writer David Goldsmith, was published in 2023 by the Dramatists Play Service and is now available for licensing. She is the Head of Creative Services Operations, Americas at Sotheby’s Auction House, and she received her B.A. in Art History and Italian Studies from Wheaton College in Massachusetts. She resides in Queens with her husband, daughter, and cat. Recently, published “Your Baby Will Find You: A Story About Grief, Loss, and Healing.” Episode Highlights 05:17 Madeleine recounts the shock and heartbreak of her miscarriage, revealing the profound emotional and physical challenges she faced in its aftermath. 09:52 The clinical steps following miscarriage, unhelpful care, and the early stages of coming to terms with profound grief. 12:01 From shared struggles to connection—turning grief into creativity. 23:16 The value of surrendering to the unpredictable process of grief, healing, and hope. 29:16 Madeleine reflects on “Your Baby” as a symbol of destiny, fulfillment, or creativity for anyone navigating loss or uncertainty. 31:10 The balance between striving and surrendering. 36:10 Grieving as a couple: Different paces, shared support. 40:02 How returning to one another after rupture and repair builds a secure partnership and deepens intimacy after loss. 43:58 Resources and ways to connect with Madeleine. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Madeleine Garner Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37930990

ERP 490: Co-Creating Your Future: A Guide to Dreambuilding Together as a Couple — An Interview with Mary Morrissey 08/19/2025

ERP 490: Co-Creating Your Future: A Guide to Dreambuilding Together as a Couple — An Interview with Mary Morrissey About this Episode Are you and your partner living your best shared life, or just navigating the daily grind side-by-side? Many couples get caught up in routines, letting old patterns and outside pressures shape their relationships by default. The possibility of building something inspired by both partners’ deepest dreams and values can feel elusive, especially when life’s challenges, stresses, or feelings of being stuck appear insurmountable. In this episode, listeners are guided through a transformative approach to co-creating a shared future with their significant other. The conversation explores the concept and practice of dream building as a couple, providing actionable steps to create a clear, compelling vision together. You'll discover how to honor and support each other’s aspirations (even if they differ), learn practical tools to sidestep habitual negativity, and understand the science behind emotional connection and growth. Whether your relationship feels stagnant or you’re looking to deepen your intimacy, this episode offers a roadmap for moving from conflict and limitation to collaboration, curiosity, and mutual empowerment. Mary Morrissey is the founder of the Brave Thinking Institute, the world's premier provider of transformational training and coaching. Through life-changing books, events and programs, Mary has helped millions of people tap into the power within them to achieve new levels of success and experience a deeper sense of meaning and purpose. Episode Highlights 07:57 How having a shared vision as a couple can deepen your connection and help you navigate even the toughest challenges together. 10:20 Why moving from simply imagining your dreams to clearly blueprinting them is essential for bringing your vision to life. 16:28 The importance of getting specific with your dreams and honoring both partners’ aspirations. 25:46 Practicing daily gratitude and shifting your mindset to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. 28:56 Setting intentions for your day and visualizing the outcomes you want. 33:12 Simple three-phase process of blueprinting, bridging, and building your dreams. 38:26 How to overcome perceived limitations. 42:36 What to do when your partner is not on board. 44:48 Transform moments of tension and discover additional resources to keep growing together. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (free guided meditation)(link) Connect with Mary Morrissey Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37847295

ERP 489: Flow State and Sexual Connection: A New Dimension of Intimacy — An Interview with Emily Jamea 08/12/2025

ERP 489: Flow State and Sexual Connection: A New Dimension of Intimacy — An Interview with Emily Jamea About this Episode Passion and intimacy are at the heart of every thriving relationship—yet even the healthiest couples can find these sparks fading over time, or wonder if their desires are truly “normal.” For so many couples, sexual connection can become routine, tangled up in old beliefs, busy schedules, and silent worries about whether you’re truly satisfied or doing it right. The search for authentic sexual fulfillment often brings up more questions than answers, leaving many people longing for deeper, more meaningful connection but uncertain about how to find it. In this episode, you’ll discover a fresh perspective on intimacy, focusing on how to move beyond comparison, shame, and routine to create a vibrant, personalized sexual connection. Guided by expert insights and the latest research, you’ll learn practical strategies for accessing flow state during intimacy, embracing your unique sexuality, and rekindling sensuality throughout all stages of your relationship. From breaking free of social norms to simple rituals for everyday connection, this conversation is packed with actionable steps and empowering ideas designed to help you cultivate lasting passion and deeper joy with your partner. Dr. Emily Jamea is an award-winning sex and relationship therapist and the USA Today best-selling author of Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. Dr. Jamea is an award-winning columnist for Healthy Women. She hosts the Love and Libido podcast and writes for Psychology Today. Episode Highlights 06:09 How Emily Jamia’s unique upbringing in a sex-positive home within a conservative town sparked her early interest in sexuality. 10:41 Defining "Normal" in sexuality. 14:07 The emotional and psychological dimensions of sex. 20:38 Building sensuality through everyday moments. 23:14 The science and benefits of affectionate touch. 27:02 Going beyond just resolving disconnects to proactively cultivating passionate connections. 28:01 The role of flow state in sexual satisfaction. 34:05 The five keys to deep sexual connection. 36:18 Simple practices for returning to presence and embodiment. 40:33 How small changes and novelty spark lasting desire. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Emily Jamea Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: Podcast: | Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37740700

ERP 488: Should a Secure Attachment Always Be the Goal? An Interview with Hanna Basel 08/05/2025

ERP 488: Should a Secure Attachment Always Be the Goal? An Interview with Hanna Basel About this Episode Is achieving a secure attachment really the ultimate marker of relationship success or could this mindset be doing more harm than good? In the quest for intimacy and connection, many of us fall into the trap of labeling ourselves and our partners, clinging to the idea that “secure” is the only way to be. But what happens when relationships don’t fit neatly into these categories, or when past experiences have shaped us in ways that make security seem out of reach? The pressure to be “securely attached” can sometimes backfire, leading to shame, blame, and a sense of hopelessness. In this episode, you’ll discover why secure attachment doesn’t have to be the ultimate destination, and why striving for secure functioning—those daily choices and mindful practices that build safety and trust—can be a far more compassionate and realistic goal. Drawing on insights from trauma work, attachment research, and couples therapy, this conversation unpacks the pitfalls of categorizing relationships as “good” or “bad,” explores the nuances of healing within partnership, and offers actionable ways to build resilience, understanding, and growth—no matter where you are on the attachment spectrum. Hanna Basel is a seasoned couples therapist and certified sex therapist. With expertise in attachment, trauma, and emotionally focused therapy (EFT), she helps people untangle their most complicated relationship patterns. As a former addictions counselor, Hanna brings both clinical expertise and lived experience to her work. She has been featured on CNN, Kare 11, MSN, and numerous podcasts where she talked about her ultimate and simple goal: to help people build relationships that help us heal and thrive. Episode Highlights 04:23 Hannah’s path to couples therapy: From personal struggles to professional passion. 12:25 Understanding secure attachment and relationship dynamics. 15:26 Embracing relationship growth as a lifelong practice. 19:03 Debunking the myth that you must heal yourself before getting into a relationship. 22:00 Balancing guidance and judgment. 25:37 Neuroplasticity: How relationships shape and reshape attachment. 27:59 Understanding trauma’s role in relationship dynamics. 33:38 Compassion with boundaries. 34:59 Balancing love and constructive criticism. 39:07 Pacing, timing, and emotional safety in relationship repair. 42:10 Understanding pain and betrayal. 46:36 Slowing down for better attunement. 47:57 Breaking the cycle. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Hanna Basel Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37643515

ERP 487: Staying Close Through Conflict: Strategies for Responding, Not Reacting — An Interview with Alyssa Scarano 07/29/2025

ERP 487: Staying Close Through Conflict: Strategies for Responding, Not Reacting — An Interview with Alyssa Scarano About this Episode Many couples find themselves caught in unproductive loops of reactivity, defensiveness, and miscommunication, often rooted in old patterns and unhealed wounds. If you’ve ever felt stuck repeating the same arguments, or struggled to respond with empathy instead of reacting on autopilot, you’re not alone. Conflict doesn’t have to drive you and your partner apart. In fact, the way you handle disagreements might be the very thing that brings you closer together or pushes you further away. In this episode, you’ll discover practical strategies for staying close through conflict by learning to respond rather than react. You’ll hear about how early family dynamics shape our adult responses, why curiosity can be a game-changer, and why true empathy starts with self-compassion. Through insightful metaphors like comparing relationships to yoga practice or learning to slow down a speeding car—you’ll find tools to recognize when you’re becoming triggered, regulate your emotions, and open space for meaningful, connected conversations. Whether your relationship is feeling the strain of busy daily life or you simply want to deepen your ability to navigate challenges together, this episode offers actionable guidance for building lasting intimacy through the most difficult moments. Alyssa Scarano, LPC, NCC, is the Founder and Clinical Director of The Collective Therapy & Wellness. Known for her empathetic and compassionate approach, Alyssa views her work as a profound privilege—an opportunity to be invited into the most intimate and vulnerable parts of her clients’ lives. Specializing in relationships, she is dedicated to helping individuals heal from childhood trauma, break generational patterns, and cultivate meaningful, authentic connections with others by first supporting them in fostering self-compassion. Episode Highlights 07:24 How family of origin shapes our conflict responses. 10:51 Understanding childhood defense mechanisms’ lasting impact in relationships. 11:52 Adaptive responses and personal growth. 15:25 Mindful resilience through yoga. 19:35 Impact of stress and daily life on relationship dynamics. 24:06 Mapping family history and trigger awareness in couples work. 28:51 Healing challenges and emotional triggers. 32:40 Relationship dynamics and challenges. 38:55 Managing emotions and setting boundaries when one partner does more emotional work. 41:43 Slowing down reactivity: practical tools for emotional awareness. 46:16 Concrete steps for repair and connection after conflict. Mentioned Connect with Alyssa Scarano Websites: Facebook: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37548995

ERP 486: Breaking the Blame Loop: Forgiveness as a Path to Deeper Intimacy — An Interview with Dara McKinley 07/22/2025

ERP 486: Breaking the Blame Loop: Forgiveness as a Path to Deeper Intimacy — An Interview with Dara McKinley About this Episode Are you stuck in a cycle of blame and resentment, wondering why forgiveness feels so elusive even though everyone says it’s the key to inner peace? Many of us hear that forgiving others will set us free, but when we try to let go of anger or seek justice for betrayals and hurts, practical steps are hard to find and genuine relief can feel out of reach. What if forgiveness isn’t just about pardoning or forgetting, but something deeper—something that could pave the way to real healing and even deeper intimacy? In this episode, listeners are invited to re-examine forgiveness from a fresh, practical, and spiritual perspective. Instead of relying on vague promises or traditional definitions, the conversation delves into tangible steps for breaking out of the blame loop, nurturing the parts of ourselves most in need, and using unconditional love as a powerful tool for restoration. Whether you're dealing with everyday resentments in a long-term partnership or coping with a profound betrayal, you'll walk away with actionable insights and a renewed sense of personal empowerment to move from conflict to true connection. After studying psychology and alternative spirituality for most of her life, an unlikely turn of events pointed Dara McKinley toward the forgiveness path. Examined through the lens of her previous knowledge, she discovered that forgiveness is actually much bigger than one’s ability to pardon as well as a healing modality. Feeling called to help those deterred by mainstream forgiveness definitions, today Dara guides people beyond popular forgiveness understandings and into a practical spiritual process that restores peace. Episode Highlights 07:02 How mainstream forgiveness definitions can fall short. 11:28 Vindictive energy, justice, and the personal cost of resentment. 14:40 Dara’s turning point: Discovering a practical forgiveness path. 17:12 Redefining forgiveness beyond pardoning and mainstream expectations. 20:13 Spiritual versus relational love: Navigating conditional and unconditional experiences. 24:09 Three sources of love. 27:19 A journey of self-responsibility and tender attention to the inner wound. 31:13 Practical steps for applying unconditional love to inner healing. 33:51 The negative narrative loop and how forgiveness restores personal power. 36:00 Forgiveness as an alchemical process and shifting perspectives in relationships. 39:59 A case study on resentment and forgiveness in long-term partnerships. 44:50 Boundaries, agreements, and the transformational effects of love. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dara McKinley Websites: | Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37466155

ERP 485: Misused Words, Misunderstood Relationships: How Therapy Speak Can Erode Trust in Relationship — An Interview with Dr. Isabelle Morley 07/15/2025

ERP 485: Misused Words, Misunderstood Relationships: How Therapy Speak Can Erode Trust in Relationship — An Interview with Dr. Isabelle Morley About this Episode Words have power. They can heal, but they can also harm when we wield them without fully understanding their meaning. In today’s world, the language of therapy is everywhere, filtering from clinicians’ offices into viral social media posts, heated arguments, and everyday conversations. But with this widespread use comes a hidden problem. When words like “narcissist,” “gaslighting,” or “toxic” are misused or weaponized in our relationships, they not only muddy honest communication—they erode trust, block growth, and can even do real damage to our connections with others. In this episode, listeners are invited to take a nuanced look at how “therapy speak” has crept into our relationship vocabulary and why this isn’t always a good thing. Through real-world examples and professional insight, you’ll learn where the line lies between helpful self-expression and language that shuts down vulnerability, repair, and intimacy. By unpacking the ways therapeutic labels can become conversational weapons, this discussion offers practical guidance to help you communicate more consciously, challenge your own assumptions, and foster deeper, more authentic connection—with yourself and with the people you care about most. Isabelle Morley, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist and an EFT-certified couples therapist (emotionally focused therapy). She is the author of They’re Not Gaslighting You, and a contributing author to Psychology Today in her blog Love Them or Leave Them. In philanthropic work, Dr. Morley is a founding board member of The Unscripted Cast Advocacy Network (UCAN) Foundation. She has a private practice providing couples therapy and coaching in the Boston area. Episode Highlights 06:37 How social media fuels therapy speak and misuse of clinical terms. 09:08 The comfort of labels and the human drive for clear answers. 10:54 How diagnosing others and misuse of DSM terms can create unnecessary confusion, reinforce stereotypes, and affect our relationships and mental health conversations. 18:53 Differentiating between abusive and unskilled behavior in relationships. 37:17 Signals that invite self-reflection. 42:00 Approaching sensitive topics with partners and setting boundaries. 46:42 What trauma bonding truly is, and why understanding its meaning matters. 49:02 How the widespread and casual use of therapy speak can dilute and distort the original meaning of these terms. 51:43 Preserving the integrity of clinical terms and the power of conscientious communication. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Isabelle Morley Websites: Instagram: LinkedIn: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37390085

ERP 484: Unpacking Your Money Story: How Money Trauma Shows up in You—and Your Relationship — An Interview with Shannah Game 07/08/2025

ERP 484: Unpacking Your Money Story: How Money Trauma Shows up in You—and Your Relationship — An Interview with Shannah Game About this Episode Money isn’t just about numbers—it’s woven into the fabric of our emotions, relationships, and even sense of self-worth. Have you ever noticed how anxiety, stress, or even shame can surface when dealing with finances, both individually and in your most intimate partnerships? If conversations about money leave you feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone. The underlying emotional stories and even traumas we carry about money can impact not only our bank accounts but also our ability to connect and thrive in relationships. In this episode, you are invited to explore how our money stories are shaped by past experiences, emotional patterns, and even generational beliefs. The conversation opens the door to understanding money wounds, the somatic signals tied to financial stress, and ways to bring curiosity rather than judgment to our financial behaviors. Through practical exercises and compassionate dialogue, this episode provides actionable strategies to help you unravel your relationship with money, build greater awareness, and start healing both individually and with your partner. Whether you’re looking to reduce conflict, foster transparency, or simply feel more empowered and secure with your finances, this episode offers valuable insight for taking those first transformative steps. Shannah Game is a financial expert, Certified Trauma of Money Specialist, and host of Everyone’s Talkin’ Money, a top money podcast with over 26 million downloads. With 20+ years of experience, she helps people transform their relationship with money to build wealth unapologetically. Her book, Unraveling Your Relationship with Money, explores money trauma and financial empowerment. Shannah’s work is bold, relatable, and designed to help you take control of your money and life. Episode Highlights 06:59 How to begin exploring the emotional side of money. 12:33 The ‘relationship with money’ concept and its lifelong impact. 17:11 The power of ‘enough’ and the impact of social messaging on money perceptions. 21:10 Happiness, wealth, and the moving goalpost. 24:12 Why it’s not just about the math: The importance of money conversations. 26:46 Hidden money scripts and the real source of couples’ money arguments. 28:17 Attachment styles, money personalities, and navigating differences in relationships. 33:04 Processing personal money histories and the value of self-awareness. 36:05 Generational money trauma and the inheritance of financial fears. 39:01 Identifying money wounds and taking steps towards financial healing. 43:39 Envisioning your ‘money hero story’ and shifting into possibility. 45:00 Building healthy money dynamics in relationships: communication, curiosity, and practical tools. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Shannah Game Websites: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37328905

ERP 483: Flirting with Consent: Rewriting the Script on Sexual Communication - An Interview with Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A 07/01/2025

ERP 483: Flirting with Consent: Rewriting the Script on Sexual Communication - An Interview with Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A About this Episode Is sex in long-term relationships destined to fade into routine, become awkward, unsatisfying, or quietly avoided? Many couples find themselves sidestepping desire, making silent assumptions, or repeating the same old script while craving deeper connection and renewed excitement. The outcome is often sexual boredom, miscommunication, and a growing emotional distance that affects the entire relationship. What if the key to lasting passion isn't just about technique? What if it lives in courageous, ongoing conversations about consent, desire, and our evolving needs? In this episode, listeners are invited into a candid and creative exploration of sexual communication. Consent is reframed as more than a one-time agreement; it becomes a fluid and continuous dialogue that keeps intimacy alive. You'll discover how to make these conversations feel natural and exciting instead of awkward, how to face vulnerability and disappointment with compassion, and how to sustain erotic curiosity over time. Whether you're looking for fresh insight or practical tools to reignite intimacy, this episode offers both inspiration and guidance to help you co-create a relationship that grows with you. Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A. are thought leaders in the intimate realm. As the founders of the Somatica® Institute of sex and relationship coaching, they have created experiential and relational teaching methods to revolutionize sex coaching and help people transform their sex lives and relationships forever. They are the authors of 3 books and the lead sexologists on a soon-to-be-released UK-based reality TV show. They will enliven and enlighten audiences with talks about everything in the realms of intimacy, sexuality and relationship as well as the power of vulnerable leadership in teaching, business, and in building community. Episode Highlights 06:06 How curiosity, culture, and compatibility shape sexual expression. 10:00 Why a beginner’s mindset matters in long-term sexual relationships. 13:55 Consent beyond “yes” or “no”: Making communication part of attraction. 17:45 Creating safe spaces for sexual self-discovery. 20:23 Building safety when sharing desires. 25:25 Challenging assumptions and resentment in intimacy. 31:16 Discovering turn-ons: Moving past stereotypes to emotional and psychological arousal. 34:48 The power of curiosity, flirting, and non-judgment. 39:47 How to expand erotic menus and blueprints. 41:01 Finding the win-win: Bridging and turn-taking in sexual negotiation. 46:20 Learning to sit with disappointment—acceptance and the reality of relationships. Mentioned (Somatica Institute link) (Somatica Institute link) (Somatica Institute link) (online class) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Special offer for listeners: Use Empowered30 (gives $30 off Relationship Reboot) Connect with Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A Websites: | Facebook: | YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37232585

ERP 482: Naming What Matters: How Couples Can Align On Priorities — An Interview with Nick Brancato 06/24/2025

ERP 482: Naming What Matters: How Couples Can Align On Priorities — An Interview with Nick Brancato About this Episode Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages when it comes to what truly matters? Maybe that seemingly minor argument about weekend plans or household chores is actually a sign of deeper, hidden misalignments. In many relationships, conflicts arise not just because of surface-level disagreements, but also because we haven’t taken the time—or found the right language—to name and share our genuine priorities. In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools and insightful strategies to help couples identify, understand, and communicate their individual and shared priorities. By exploring the difference between values and priorities, introducing a simple method to measure alignment, and breaking down actionable steps for regular check-ins, this conversation is packed with guidance for strengthening your partnership. Whether you’re seeking more harmony in daily life or aiming for lasting intimacy, this episode provides a roadmap for aligning on what matters most, together. Nick Brancato is a seasoned personal development coach and educator with over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples connect, communicate, and thrive. With a master’s degree in education and a background as a Microsoft systems engineer, Nick blends practical tools with data-driven frameworks to guide clients through life’s challenges, including career shifts, financial pressures, and personal growth. Nick’s holistic process incorporates meditation, guided visualization, and hypnotherapy, emphasizing both emotional insight and actionable steps. By fostering deeper connections and mental clarity, Nick empowers couples to transform tension into trust and misalignment into mutual success, creating lasting, meaningful change in their relationships. Episode Highlights 03:09 Nick Brancato’s journey to relationship coaching and the origins of "Prioritize Us". 06:50 The power of priority alignment and differentiating priorities from values. 10:35 Navigating conflict by understanding differences and looking beyond surface issues. 13:52 Practical tools for identifying, ranking, and comparing priorities in relationships. 17:14 How to use the Total Difference Score (TDS) and the ten core life priorities. 21:01 The importance of individual assessment before sharing priorities with your partner. 27:45 Shifting priorities together and supporting each other’s growth and change. 35:57 Fostering positive daily connection through small, medium, and large relationship check-ins. 39:01 Overcoming overwhelm with decision-making, clarity, and relationship scorekeeping. 43:08 The Swiss Cheese principle. 47:47 Key takeaways and available resources for couples. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Nick Brancato Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37115765

ERP 481: Taking Control Together: Financial Preparedness for Real-Life Challenges — An Interview with Donna Jean Kendrick 06/17/2025

ERP 481: Taking Control Together: Financial Preparedness for Real-Life Challenges — An Interview with Donna Jean Kendrick About this Episode What would happen to your family or loved ones if life threw an unexpected curveball tomorrow? Would they feel protected, supported, and prepared, or left to navigate a stressful maze of financial questions and paperwork on their own? In a world where change is the only constant, financial preparedness is an act of love that too often gets pushed aside for another day. But when the unimaginable happens, being unprepared isn’t just stressful—it can have lasting effects on your sense of security, your relationships, and your peace of mind. In this episode, you’ll discover how to take control and approach financial planning as a tool for caring for yourself and those you love. With honest stories from personal experience, practical checklists, and expert strategies for navigating life’s transitions like widowhood, blended families, and sudden loss, you’ll learn why clarity is the best gift you can give to your family. This episode offers actionable steps for organizing vital documents, starting tough conversations, and building the kind of foundation that keeps everyone cared for—no matter what the future holds. Donna Jean Kendrick is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ practitioner and founder of Sephton Financial. After losing her first husband suddenly in 2013, Donna navigated widowhood with three young children, inspiring her to support families in transition through financial planning. She is the host of the Wisdom and Wealth Podcast and author of A Guide to Widowhood, and A Guide for Blended Families. Episode Highlights 05:40 Navigating blended family dynamics and the process of adjustment. 13:25 How being financially organized eased the pain of loss. 14:38 The gift of clarity: Preparing financial documents for loved ones. 18:16 Facing the emotional side of financial planning in relationships. 21:57 Practical tips for document organization. 26:22 How to overcome overwhelm and take stock of your finances. 29:06 Building a financial foundation: Net worth, liabilities, and spending plans. 33:50 Finding your system: Partner roles and routines in managing finances. 36:00 Best practices for couples discussing and organizing their finances. 39:21 Joint vs. separate accounts: Customizing financial approaches for couples. 40:35 Planning for retirement and avoiding resentment. 46:07 Financial conversations for new couples and the value of prenuptial agreements. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (webinar link) (program) Connect with Donna Jean Kendrick Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/37032520

ERP 480: Understanding Pathological Partners: How to Break Free from Toxic Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Nadine Macaluso 06/10/2025

ERP 480: Understanding Pathological Partners: How to Break Free from Toxic Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Nadine Macaluso About this Episode When love turns toxic, it can be almost impossible to see clearly through the confusion, self-doubt, and emotional chaos that follow. If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of hope, heartbreak, and uncertainty within a relationship, you’re not alone—and there’s a reason why breaking free can feel so overwhelming. The hidden dynamics of pathological partnerships and trauma bonds often keep people stuck, questioning their worth, and struggling to understand why things never seem to get better. In this episode, listeners are offered insight and validation as the conversation unpacks the complex nature of trauma bonds and toxic relationships. You’ll discover how these destructive patterns form, what psychological traits might make someone more susceptible, and why distinguishing between harmful behaviors and truly pathological intentions is so important. With practical guidance and real-life examples, this episode shines a compassionate light on the path toward healing, empowerment, and, for those who need it most, a way out. Affectionately known as Dr. Nae, Dr. Nadine Macaluso is a therapist specializing in trauma healing and personal transformation. Her life inspired the character Naomi Belfort in The Wolf of Wall Street. After overcoming personal challenges, she earned a Master's degree in counseling and a Ph.D. in Somatic Psychotherapy. Dr. Macaluso helps individuals recover from trauma bonds, C-PTSD, and shame. She is also the author of Run Like Hell: A Therapist's Guide to Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing From Trauma Bonds. Episode Highlights 06:28 Dr. Nadine Macaluso’s personal journey and the roots of her work on trauma bonds. 09:49 Defining trauma bonds and the role of intermittent reinforcement in toxic relationships. 13:35 Intent, power imbalance, and the pathological partner in trauma bonds. 16:11 Pathological intent vs. reactive behaviors and repair. 19:20 Understanding Cluster B personality disorders and their impact on relationships. 21:23 Empowering the victim over diagnosing the pathological partner. 24:11 Who is most susceptible to trauma bonds? 28:16 Questioning labels: Codependency, attachment, and rethinking victim narratives. 32:34 Attachment styles, developmental trauma, and their role in toxic relationships. 34:31 Cultural myths about love, media influence, and the hope that keeps people stuck. 37:20 Reducing shame, cognitive dissonance, and reconnecting with self. 42:47 The process of leaving: Safety, planning, and overcoming guilt. 44:30 Post-traumatic growth: Finding strength, hope, and empowerment after leaving a toxic relationship. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – Connect with Dr. Nadine Macaluso Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36931245

ERP 479: Super Psyched About Love: Applying the Science of Connection to Couplehood — An Interview with Dr. Adam Dorsay 06/03/2025

ERP 479: Super Psyched About Love: Applying the Science of Connection to Couplehood — An Interview with Dr. Adam Dorsay About this Episode Are you truly alive in your relationships, or just going through the motions? In a world overflowing with distractions, many of us drift into autopilot—checking boxes, chasing benchmarks, and hoping real connection will fall into place. But without genuine presence and intention, lasting intimacy becomes elusive, leaving us depleted, disconnected, and wondering why meaningful fulfillment always seems out of reach. In this episode, discover how the science of connection can transform the way you approach your closest bonds. Through a blend of psychological insight and practical wisdom, you’ll learn why authentic connection is at the heart of emotional well-being, how to bring mindfulness and curiosity into your daily interactions, and why appreciating yourself and those around you isn’t just nice but vital. Tune in for actionable strategies to break free from autopilot, nurture deeper intimacy, and truly feel alive while you’re living. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and host of the notable podcast SuperPsyched. He recently released his book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love. Episode Highlights 08:43 The essential role of connection: Defining disconnection in mental health. 11:58 Cultural distractors and the brain’s bias against authentic connection. 15:10 Making mindful choices: Savoring life’s simple moments. 17:31 Beginner’s mind in relationships: Staying curious with long-term partners. 22:18 Experiencing awe: microdosing wonder and expanding consciousness. 25:03 The power of appreciation: How gratitude fuels authentic connection. 27:21 Authenticity, integrity, and the impact on genuine presence. 33:12 The four circles of relating to self and others. 35:47 Aligning choices with your values. 37:39 Simple ways to reconnect with others. 41:26 Reclaiming joy and presence in everyday life. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (book page) (YouTube link) (video) (YouTube link) (video) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love – Next level – (program) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Adam Dorsay Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36826050

ERP 478: When The Future Feels Uncertain: Tools for Couples Considering Divorce — An Interview with Dr. Becky Whetstone 05/27/2025

ERP 478: When The Future Feels Uncertain: Tools for Couples Considering Divorce — An Interview with Dr. Becky Whetstone About this Episode Is your relationship quietly unraveling, and you’re not sure what to do next? Facing the possibility of divorce can feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you trapped between fear, uncertainty, and the heartbreak of not knowing what comes next. Too often, couples get lost in a whirlwind of painful emotions, making rushed decisions that can have long-term consequences for themselves, their children, and their extended families. In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools and compassionate insights designed to support couples sitting at the crossroads of staying together or parting ways. Learn how to recognize the early warning signs of relationship distress, approach difficult conversations with honesty and courage, and understand the deep-seated reasons why so many people struggle to speak their truths. You’ll also find guidance on how to stabilize your emotions, slow down the decision-making process, and move forward, whether by rebuilding your connection or ending things as peacefully as possible. This episode offers hope, clarity, and a path to navigate one of life’s toughest transitions with greater awareness and intention. Dr. Becky Whetstone is a writer, author, and marriage and family therapist obsessed with relationship dynamics since she was young. She writes in an entertaining and informative way, and after many of her life experiences, she wants to change how we handle marriage, separation, divorce, and post-divorce dynamics. Episode Highlights 03:58 Becky’s story and why she cares about marriage crisis. 10:04 Why support is needed even when divorce is decided. 15:33 Why taking time to calm down matters. 20:19 Warning signs that a relationship is in trouble. 23:27 Hiding unhappiness can hurt a marriage. 25:24 Having hard conversations with your partner. 30:10 Why people avoid talking about problems. 32:49 Facing relationship problems like an adult. 36:20 How attachment styles affect marriage crisis. 39:29 The need for self-work and growing as a person. 42:06 How divorce affects everyone in the family. 46:58 Lessons learned from divorce. 51:01 Where to find help and resources. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Becky Whetstone Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Threads: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36714385

ERP 477: Redefining Intimacy & Sexuality: Breaking Myths and Embracing Your Truth — An Interview with Dr. Erika Schwartz 05/20/2025

ERP 477: Redefining Intimacy & Sexuality: Breaking Myths and Embracing Your Truth — An Interview with Dr. Erika Schwartz About this Episode Do you ever feel like intimacy and sexuality come with a set of rules no one can quite explain, and yet everyone expects you to follow? So many of us find ourselves struggling to meet society’s expectations around relationships, sex, and what it means to be fulfilled, only to discover that the realities of our experiences rarely match the myths we’ve been told. From changing hormones to evolving desires and the pressure to fit into cultural norms, finding authentic connection while honoring our true selves can feel overwhelming and, at times, isolating. In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of redefining intimacy and sexuality beyond outdated scripts and rigid expectations. The conversation explores how our needs and desires naturally shift over time, why it’s crucial to look inward and tune into our individual truths, and how to break free from patterns and pressures that simply don’t serve us. Through lived stories, practical insights, and compassionate guidance, listeners are invited to reflect, challenge ingrained beliefs, and embrace the freedom to write their own definitions of love, connection, and well-being, whatever stage of life or relationship they’re in. Dr. Erika Schwartz is the founder of Evolved Science in New York City, specializing in bio-identical hormone therapy for health optimization, disease prevention, and longevity. With over 30 years of experience, she advocates for a holistic approach to wellness, linking hormones with diet, sleep, and stress management. A best-selling author and expert in functional medicine, Dr. Erika frequently appears in major media and hosts the Redefining Medicine podcast. She is committed to empowering patients and transforming healthcare. Episode Highlights 04:43 The role of individual work in relationship dynamics. 08:06 Integrating holistic health and relationship well-being. 11:59 Challenging cultural myths about intimacy and sexuality. 15:03 Navigating life stages: hormones, relationships, and expectations. 19:48 Breaking away from conventional life paths. 21:06 Exploring sexual fluidity and honoring individual choices. 25:57 The importance of listening to your body and biology. 28:01 Complexities of tradition vs. authentic alignment. 34:59 Embracing change: Letting life and relationships evolve. 47:20 Rewriting relationship commitments and living authentically. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (podcast) Evolve in Love – Next level – (program) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Erika Schwartz Websites: | Facebook: | X: YouTube: Instagram: | LinkedIn: | Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36615975

ERP 476: Radical Acceptance & Real Connection: Navigating Differences in Relationship — An Interview With Carolyn Sharp 05/13/2025

ERP 476: Radical Acceptance & Real Connection: Navigating Differences in Relationship — An Interview With Carolyn Sharp About this Episode Conflict in relationships isn’t just inevitable—it’s normal, healthy, and, perhaps most importantly, an opportunity. Yet, the tension between wanting deep connection and authentic acceptance, while also holding onto individuality, can feel like a tightrope walk. How do couples move beyond judgment and misunderstanding to experience radical acceptance and true intimacy, especially when old patterns, unresolved hurts, and competing needs seem to pull them apart? In this episode, listeners are guided through the complex terrain of navigating differences in long-term relationships. With practical strategies rooted in attachment science, trauma awareness, and mindful communication, this conversation dives into how curiosity, compassion, and proactive agreements can transform even the most challenging dynamics. Expect actionable insights on building repair after conflict, balancing “me” and “we,” and creating a thriving relationship where both partners—and the partnership itself—can grow. Whether you’re in the thick of recurring arguments or simply seeking a deeper, richer connection, this episode offers real tools to help you rediscover joy, security, and growth together. Carolyn Sharp, LICSW, is an experienced couples therapist with 25 years of expertise in attachment, neuroscience, trauma, and mindfulness. She helps couples build vibrant, secure relationships through coaching, workshops, and retreats. Carolyn’s passion and extensive training inspire her work in creating joyful, healthy connections. She is the author of FIRE IT UP: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship. Episode Highlights 06:14 How Carolyn Sharp found her calling in couples therapy. 09:25 The complexities of long-term relationships and the importance of learning healthy relationship skills. 12:16 Can couples truly grow together without losing themselves? 15:44 How curiosity becomes a secret weapon in relationships. 18:14 Navigating identity and boundaries: Individuality within relationships. 21:29 Understanding the origins of conflict: Attachment patterns and family system dynamics. 26:46 Proactive communication: The importance of planning and ‘owner’s manuals’ in relationships. 33:31 Relationship needs as a third entity: Maintaining the ‘us’ in times of stress. 35:41 Repairing relationship injuries 39:30 Recognizing and addressing unresolved hurt: Signs and solutions. 42:21 Learning how to apologize and repair: Overcoming childhood patterns and building new skills. 47:59 How tiny moments of repair lay the foundation for lasting trust. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Carolyn Sharp Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36547900

ERP 475: How to Balance Career Ambition with Love & Relationship — An Interview with Katarina Polonska 05/06/2025

ERP 475: How to Balance Career Ambition with Love & Relationship — An Interview with Katarina Polonska About this Episode Can you really have it all—an ambitious, thriving career while also nurturing a deeply satisfying romantic relationship? Or does chasing professional success mean sacrificing love and connection at home? For many high achievers, pursuing career goals brings unexpected loneliness, relationship strain, and an exhausting sense of self-abandonment. The pressure to perform at work often leaves little time or energy for building intimacy, leading countless professionals to quietly wonder: Why does succeeding at work come so much easier than succeeding at love? In this episode, listeners are invited to reexamine this all-too-common belief that career ambition and a fulfilling love life are mutually exclusive. Through frank discussion and real stories, this conversation unpacks the hidden patterns that cause us to disconnect from ourselves and our partners, amidst the demands of professional life. By exploring psychological frameworks, practical strategies, and embodied personal growth, the episode offers actionable insights to help you move beyond self-sabotage, redefine success, and create space for both professional achievement and authentic, secure relationships. Katarina Polonska is a Science-Backed Relationship Coach, Published Gender Dynamics Social Scientist (University of Oxford M.St), Founder of the Successfully in Love® Method, ex-Regional VP of a global Behavioral Science Firm, and Podcast Host with guests like John Gray, of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, NY Times Bestseller Marci Shimoff, and Christina Tracy Stein, daughter of world-renowned Brian Tracy. As an accredited coach since 2007, she helps ambitious professionals become Successfully in Love®. Episode Highlights 08:35 How high achievers self-abandon for success. 14:42 Debunking the “either/or” myth for career and love. 19:05 Finding balance: Shifting from sacrifice to flow. 27:41 Katarina’s three pillars for relationship transformation. 36:48 Navigating growth: Solo vs. couples work. 43:47 Real-life example of creating change in marriage. 49:07 Resolving self-sabotage and expanding capacity. Mentioned (video) - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) Podcast (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Katarina Polonska Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36450200

ERP 474: How to Build More Emotional Health & Resilience — An Interview with Rachel Kaplan 04/29/2025

ERP 474: How to Build More Emotional Health & Resilience — An Interview with Rachel Kaplan About this Episode Ever feel like you’re going through life with an invisible weight holding you back—old hurts, unspoken fears, or emotional “constipation” clogging your sense of connection with yourself and others? Many of us are conditioned to avoid our discomfort, stuff down our feelings, or simply muscle through, only to discover that real joy and closeness remain just out of reach. The struggle to feel truly seen, cared for, and emotionally vibrant isn’t just personal—it’s a modern epidemic. In this episode, you’ll discover how to build emotional health and resilience by learning to recognize, honor, and skillfully process your feelings. Through practical analogies—like emotional “potty training”—and grounded, compassionate guidance, you’ll explore why authentic emotional connection is the missing link to deeper relationships and personal well-being. Whether you’re seeking more intimacy, healing old scars, or just want to feel more fully alive, this conversation offers real-world tools and gentle permission to let your feelings move—and gently transform your life from the inside out. Rachel Kaplan, MA, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and host of the acclaimed Healing Feeling Sh*t Show podcast. Kaplan has studied yoga, meditation, and hands-on healing practices in India and Nepal, earned a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies, and trained in cutting-edge trauma modalities such as EMDR. Her “Inner Talks That Heal” TEDx talk explores the internal relationship between our loving and wounded parts. Episode Highlights 07:49 Rachel’s personal journey of healing. 15:42 Avoidance, dissociation, and the societal struggle to stay present. 17:46 The importance of feeling both pain and growth. 22:52 How to recognize, accept, and let go of your emotions in a healthy way, instead of suppressing or avoiding them. 24:00 How emotional constipation develops: Childhood, suppression, and the need for emotional movement. 30:18 Practical steps to reconnect with and care for hidden or neglected parts of yourself. 37:50 How unmet needs and hidden parts show up with partners. 41:49 Self-responsibility in emotional processing: Navigating attachment styles and reactions. 45:37 Vulnerability, repair, and building emotional resilience in relationships. 51:42 Further resources: Rachel’s book, podcast, and ways to continue learning. Mentioned (*YouTube video) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Rachel Kaplan Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36349215

ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor 04/22/2025

ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor About this Episode Are you feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, physically present but emotionally absent during intimate moments? For many, the path to sexual fulfillment can feel blocked by a haze of stress, routine, numbness, or the pressure to reach a specific end goal. In a world where busyness and performance often take center stage, it’s all too easy to lose touch with the authentic, embodied experiences that deepen intimacy and bring lasting joy to our relationships. In this episode, listeners are guided through the steps to rediscover and reclaim embodied pleasure in their sexual and relational lives. The conversation dives into practical, somatic approaches that help individuals and couples slow down, tune in, and get curious about what truly makes them feel alive—moving beyond goal-oriented sex to something richer and more connected. Expert insights and real-life stories illuminate how noticing sensations, embracing vulnerability, and practicing new skills can unlock not just sexual satisfaction but a greater sense of confidence, communication, and intimacy overall. Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina. Episode Highlights 03:49 The role of somatic awareness in sexual connection. 09:18 Unlocking the first step toward pleasure. 13:53 Susan’s personal journey from sexless marriage to full-body orgasm. 19:13 Overcoming tension and numbness to rediscover sexual sensitivity. 22:55 Redefining orgasm: Moving beyond the goal-oriented experience. 27:11 Embracing discomfort and obstacles to deepen intimacy. 35:29 Notice, name, negotiate: a framework for couples facing sexual mismatch. 37:45 Radical accountability and communication in sexual relationships. 43:09 Prioritizing pleasure: initiation, desire, and direct versus indirect routes. 47:30 How direct pleasure sensitivity impacts every area of life. 52:01 Understanding polarity, giving and receiving, and closing reflections. Mentioned (link) (ebook) (program) Connect with Susan Taylor Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/36259465

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