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The Empowered Relationship Podcast helps you turn relationship challenges into opportunities and sets you up for relationship success, satisfaction, and intimacy. This podcast is designed to inspire, motivate, and guide individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.

ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson 05/07/2024

ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do in certain situations or why certain relationships feel so challenging? In many cases, individuals may not realize how past trauma is influencing their present relationships and personal well-being. In this episode, we talk about trauma, its various forms, and its profound impact on individuals and their connections with others. Featuring expert insights from a leader in the field of trauma therapy, the conversation sheds light on how trauma from our formative years can shape our adult behaviors and interactions. Through an in-depth examination of cutting-edge therapeutic approaches such as internal family systems, and emotional focus therapy, this discussion provides valuable tools and strategies for identifying, addressing, and healing these deep psychological wounds. Discover how to reconnect with your inner wisdom and potentially transform your relationships and self-perception, moving towards more empowered connections. Frank Anderson, MD, completed his residency at Harvard Medical School. He is both a psychiatrist and a psychotherapist. He specializes in the treatment of trauma and dissociation and is passionate about integrating current neuroscience knowledge with the IFS model of therapy. His most recent book, entitled “Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family Systems” was released on May 19, 2021. His memoir, “To Be Loved,” is set to be released on May 7, 2024. In this episode 03:26 Understanding the multifaceted nature of trauma. 09:33 Understanding the connection between present-day struggles and unresolved childhood trauma. 19:01 The dynamics of emotional intimacy within relationships, particularly in the context of therapeutic approaches like Emotional Focus Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS). 26:02 Understanding trauma responses and their varied manifestations. 32:45 Embracing healing and reconnecting with self. 43:32 Inspiring collective healing through personal narrative. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Frank Anderson Websites: Facebook: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/31140013

ERP 422: How To Work Through Jealousy & Insecure Tendencies In Relationship — Shanenn Bryant 04/30/2024

ERP 422: How To Work Through Jealousy & Insecure Tendencies In Relationship — Shanenn Bryant Jealousy is a complex emotional response often triggered by feelings of insecurity and fear of loss, and can profoundly impact personal relationships. It typically arises when an individual perceives a threat to a valued relationship, whether the threat is real or imagined. This emotion can lead to behaviors aimed at preventing loss, such as excessive monitoring or controlling tendencies, yet these actions often exacerbate the fears driving the jealousy. In this episode, we delve into pervasive issues surrounding jealousy, uncovering their origins rooted in individual past experiences and amplified by today's social media-driven culture. The discussion offers valuable insights into the psychological patterns contributing to jealous behaviors. You'll discover practical tips and methods for self-regulation, including breathing exercises and strategies for improving communication with partners. Emphasizing self-awareness and the conscious choice in responding to relationship stressors, this episode aims to transform approaches to trust and connection, empowering individuals to cultivate healthier, more secure emotional bonds. Shanenn Bryant is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship. Using her instructional design certification Shanenn has developed many sales, systems, and development skills courses and delivered more than 400 training classes. As a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. In this episode 05:41 Shannon Bryant's mission to combat relationship insecurities. 08:51 Understanding the roots and impact of jealousy on relationships. 13:43 The interconnectedness of jealousy, anxiety, and insecurity, relating them to past experiences of relational trauma and insecure attachments. 26:01 The tendency to be attracted to unavailable partners as a means of avoiding self-reflection and confronting personal issues. 27:13 The role of technology in exacerbating jealousy and practical steps to address it. 34:37 Balancing trust and vigilance: Navigating the fine line in relationships. 37:51 Strategies for overcoming jealousy addiction. 41:03 The concept of jealousy as a symptom rather than the problem itself, emphasizing its role as a solution signaling underlying issues. 47:38 Coaching, resources, and trust-building programs for overcoming jealousy. Mentioned Connect with Shanenn Bryant Websites: Instagram: Podcast: — Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/31003893

ERP 421: How To Keep The Fun & Positivity Alive In Relationship — An Interview With Arlene Pellicane 04/23/2024

ERP 421: How To Keep The Fun & Positivity Alive In Relationship — An Interview With Arlene Pellicane Keeping the flame of passion alive in a relationship can be a challenging endeavor, especially amidst the demands and stresses of everyday life. From managing work responsibilities to navigating household chores and family commitments, couples often find themselves caught up in a whirlwind of obligations, leaving little room for fun and positive connections. In this episode, we explore actionable strategies and valuable insights aimed at addressing the challenge of maintaining fun and positivity in a relationship. From practical tips to infuse joy into everyday moments to revitalizing the bond between partners, we offer guidance on reigniting the spark and fostering a deeper connection amidst life's demands. Arlene Pellicane is a renowned author and speaker specializing in marriage and parenting. She has been featured on numerous media outlets such as The Today Show, Wall Street Journal, Focus on the Family, Fox & Friends, TLC’s Home Made Simple, FamilyLife Today, and The 700 Club. Arlene also hosts the Happy Home podcast and has authored popular books like "31 Days to a Happy Husband" and "31 Days to Becoming a Happier Wife". Alongside her husband James of over 25 years, Arlene resides in the San Diego area with their three children: Ethan, Noelle, and Lucy. In this episode 06:43 Arlene’s journey from being raised in a loving family to becoming a champion of healthy relationships. 10:55 Cultivating daily intimacy. 14:42 Nurturing connection through fresh perspectives. 21:58 The importance of scheduling regular dates in maintaining a thriving relationship. 26:44 Rediscovering playfulness and adventure, especially for couples who may have lost touch with these aspects of their connection. 30:15 Strategies for couples feeling overwhelmed by the responsibility of planning weekly or bi-monthly dates. 33:13 Cultivating connection through regular getaways. 40:13 The importance of maintaining a positive focus on connection during designated relationship rituals like date nights and getaways. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Arlene Pellicane Websites: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30930148

ERP 420: The Importance Of "Turning Towards" In Relationship — An Interview With Laura Heck 04/16/2024

ERP 420: The Importance Of "Turning Towards" In Relationship — An Interview With Laura Heck Loneliness and disconnection in relationships can often stem from unmet needs for emotional connection. When one partner reaches out for support, validation, or understanding, and their bids go unnoticed or ignored, it can lead to feelings of isolation and alienation. This lack of responsiveness can create a sense of being unheard or unseen, deepening the emotional distance between partners. Over time, repeated instances of unmet bids can erode trust and intimacy, leaving individuals feeling unfulfilled and disconnected in their relationship. In this episode, Laura Heck and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the importance of turning towards your partner in a relationship to address feelings of loneliness and disconnection. By understanding the bidding system in relationships and learning to respond with empathy and curiosity, individuals can build stronger connections with their partners. This episode emphasizes the significance of acknowledging past traumas, developing new skills, and fostering grace and understanding to overcome emotional barriers and create a more fulfilling and intimate partnership. Laura Heck is a licensed marriage and family therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, co-host of Marriage Therapy Radio, and host of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work workshop for couples. She speaks and trains for The Gottman Institute and is a regular media expert on the topic of intimate relationships. In this episode 05:30 Laura Heck's journey into relationship support. 11:22 Understanding bids for connection in relationships. 16:27 Importance of positive to negative ratios in relationships. 21:23 Exploring bids and responses in relationship dynamics. 26:03 Understanding shutting down in relationships. 31:37 Responding to criticism and harsh startups. 33:18 Repairing miscommunications and misunderstandings. 42:32 Building compassion and empathy in relationships. 45:16 Addressing trust and misunderstandings in relationships. Mentioned (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) Connect with Laura Heck Websites: Facebook: Twitter: Instagram: Podcast: (Apple Podcast) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30834393

ERP 419: How to Identify and Break Negative Cycles (Especially High Conflict Cycles) in Relationship — An Interview with Jennine Estes Powell & Jacqueline Wielick 04/09/2024

ERP 419: How to Identify and Break Negative Cycles (Especially High Conflict Cycles) in Relationship — An Interview with Jennine Estes Powell & Jacqueline Wielick How can we cultivate a culture of emotional safety within our relationships, where vulnerability is embraced and recurring negative patterns are met with empathy and understanding, rather than defensiveness or blame? Traumas, whether subtle or overt, can fuel recurring negative patterns that gradually erode the foundation of a relationship. These unseen wounds, left unattended, can manifest as distress and conflict, undermining the very fabric of our closest bonds. In this episode, we delve into the depths of these dynamics, exploring how awareness, vulnerability, and proactive communication can pave the way for healing and transformation. Join us as we navigate the complexities of attachment styles, emotional safety, and the power of corrective emotional experiences in forging healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Jennine Estes Powell & Jacqueline Wielick, are distinguished Therapists and co-authors of "Help For High-Conflict Couples." Jacqueline Wielick is the owner of her practice, Therapy by Jackie, and is known for the empowering, empathetic, and engaging style she brings to her work. Jennine Estes Powell is a dedicated therapist for her clients, and is the driving force behind Estes Therapy, a thriving group practice in San Diego, the go-to hub for couples counseling. She also trains therapists globally. In this episode 07:52 Jennine and Jacqueline‘s personal journeys into emotionally focused therapy. 13:03 Distinguishing high conflict from regular conflict. 20:13 The subtleties of trauma, challenging stereotypical perceptions of traumatic experiences. 23:18 How differing attachment styles can create communication barriers within relationships. 28:15 The evolution of relationships: Understanding the shift from early romance to bonded attachment. 34:53 Individual and couple strategies for recognizing and addressing attachment insecurities. 40:54 Repairing relationship patterns through vulnerability and repetition. 55:59 Accessible support and resources. Mentioned (website) (speaking events) (book) (affiliate) Connect with Jennine Estes Powell Websites: | | Instagram: TikTok: Connect with Jacqueline Wielick Websites: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30736633

ERP 418: How To Build More Emotional Maturity In Relationship — Part Five 04/02/2024

ERP 418: How To Build More Emotional Maturity In Relationship — Part Five Emotional immaturity can hinder our ability to form healthy connections and make sound decisions. But is it truly possible to overcome emotional immaturity, even if you've experienced significant developmental setbacks or challenges? Similar to research findings that suggest it's possible to develop more secure functioning or earn a secure attachment style later in life, it's feasible to achieve emotional growth and maturity. In our fifth installment on the topic of emotional immaturity, we uncover practical strategies and insights to foster emotional growth. With a focus on seven key practices, including creating a safe space for growth and honing interpersonal skills, the discussion offers a roadmap for enhancing emotional intelligence. If you find yourself in a relationship with someone exhibiting signs of emotional immaturity, it's crucial to consider revisiting the recommendations outlined in episode 416. Engaging in heartfelt, candid conversations with your partner about the importance of cultivating emotional maturity can pave the way for mutual understanding and growth within the relationship. In this episode 6:48 A recap of the previous episodes on emotional maturity. 9:13 The dynamic nature of emotional maturity highlights its placement on a continuum that allows for growth and development. 14:21 Establishing a safe practice environment. 21:28 Embracing emotional awareness and connection. 26:39 Accepting emotional growth as a continuous process 31:30 Cultivating conscious regulation skills. 36:12 The importance of engaging in honest and uncomfortable conversations 41:44 Taking ownership and accountability within relationships. 45:19 Cultivating interpersonal and relational proficiency. Mentioned (article) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30619633

ERP 417: Why Every Couple Needs A Couple Mission Statement — An Interview With Dr. Heather Browne 03/26/2024

ERP 417: Why Every Couple Needs A Couple Mission Statement — An Interview With Dr. Heather Browne Many individuals and families encounter a common challenge: the struggle to harmonize their values, aspirations, and objectives. This issue is compounded by the inherent differences in perspectives, priorities, and communication styles within these relationships. When aspirations clash and priorities diverge, it often leads to misunderstandings that escalate into tensions and conflicts. Maintaining harmony becomes a daunting task without a clear understanding of each other's goals and values, leaving couples and families adrift in a sea of discord. In this episode, we delve into practical strategies for crafting a shared mission statement—a tool designed to align individuals and unite them in pursuit of common objectives. Through insightful discussions and actionable steps, listeners will discover how to identify core values, engage in constructive dialogue, and cultivate deeper understanding and connection with their partners and loved ones. Join us as we explore the power of intentional communication in fostering stronger, more harmonious relationships. Dr. Heather Browne, PsyD, LMFT, helps people recognize the power of communication, one of the most important skills we possess. However, often, we fail to consider our understanding, approach, and belief, and consequently, miss out on our potential. No two individuals perceive reality in the same way, despite our belief in shared understanding. Harnessing this revolutionary awareness has enabled her to transform communication within oneself and other types of relationships. In this episode 04:45 Dr. Heather Browne’s journey of healing and growth. 08:57 The significance of self-awareness and conscientiousness in personal growth, particularly in identifying areas of consistency and growth. 12:38 The transformative power of a mission statement. 20:28 The importance of understanding and accommodating differences in stress responses and soothing methods within a relationship. 23:57 Tailoring relationship goals to individual values. 29:12 Navigating irreconcilable differences in relationships through effective communication and collaboration. 40:19 Nurturing self-discovery and inner alignment. 51:54 The importance of crafting and regularly revisiting a mission statement for individuals, couples, and families as a tool for fostering connection and guiding communication. Mentioned (YouTube link) (video) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Heather Browne Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30541963

ERP 416: What To Consider If You Are In a Relationship With An Emotionally Immature Person — Part Four 03/19/2024

ERP 416: What To Consider If You Are In a Relationship With An Emotionally Immature Person — Part Four Emotional maturity stands as the cornerstone of a thriving and meaningful bond between partners. Yet, navigating the intricate landscape of emotional immaturity within relationships presents its own set of challenges. In this episode, we delve deep into this crucial topic, shedding light on how emotional immaturity impacts the dynamics of relationships and providing invaluable resources to aid individuals in navigating this intricate terrain. Building upon insights from previous episodes, we explore methods for identifying signs of emotional immaturity, understanding its roots in development, and differentiating it from emotional abuse. The overarching goal of addressing this subject is to foster awareness and encourage deliberate efforts in honing emotional and relational competencies. Join us as we uncover key insights into recognizing and addressing emotional immaturity, paving the way for stronger, more resilient relationships. In this episode 08:23 The challenge of recognizing emotional immaturity in relationships. 20:19 The emotional toll of carrying the relationship load. 28:22 Stability challenges for the emotionally mature partner. 29:03 Strained enjoyment. 29:49 Coping with lack of intimacy in relationships. 32:11 Struggle with confidence and conflict resolution. 34:29 Practical steps for addressing emotional immaturity in a relationship. Mentioned ? Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30420518

ERP 415: What LGBTQ Couples Can Teach Us About Relationship — An Interview with Laurel Roberts-Meese 03/12/2024

ERP 415: What LGBTQ Couples Can Teach Us About Relationship — An Interview with Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples face a myriad of challenges, from communication breakdowns to navigating societal expectations. Navigating these challenges and fostering growth requires intentional effort and understanding. However, for LGBTQ couples, unique dynamics often come into play, from negotiating identity acceptance to addressing external biases. In this episode, we delve into the rich tapestry of LGBTQ relationships, exploring the strengths they offer and the challenges they face. Through insightful discussions on communication, identity affirmation, and seeking inclusive support, this episode provides actionable steps for all couples seeking to deepen their connection and thrive together. Join us as we explore what LGBTQ+ couples can teach us about nurturing healthy and thriving relationships. Laurel is a licensed therapist and the Clinical Director of Laurel Therapy Collective, an online therapy practice that provides customized therapy to driven professionals in California, Pennsylvania, and Florida. Her practice offers individual and couples therapy with an emphasis on trauma recovery and LGBT+ affirmative care. In this episode 05:56 The importance of shared identity and experiences in therapy for better outcomes. 10:48 Navigating licensing complexities for teletherapy across California Pennsylvania and Florida. 16:07 Lessons from LGBTQ+ relationships for all couples. 22:16 The significance of breaking away from prescribed relationship models and embracing a growth mindset in partnerships. 27:50 The power of language in shaping relationships. 34:25 Navigating common challenges in couples therapy. 37:20 Navigating unique challenges in LGBT couples relationships. 45:24 Identifying key criteria when seeking a couples therapist. 48:21 Holistic telehealth therapy services for couples and individuals. Mentioned (*The Gottman Institute) (research) (*Very Well Mind) Connect with Laurel Roberts-Meese Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30318758

ERP 414: How To Increase Emotional Safety For The Whole Family When The Couple Is In Distress — An Interview With Kathryn de Bruin & Dr. Lisa Palmer-Olsen 03/05/2024

ERP 414: How To Increase Emotional Safety For The Whole Family When The Couple Is In Distress — An Interview With Kathryn de Bruin & Dr. Lisa Palmer-Olsen Navigating the challenging waters of divorce or betrayal within a relationship can be an incredibly tough journey. It's a time when seeking support becomes crucial, and for many, individual or couples therapy becomes a lifeline. However, the impact of a couple's distress extends far beyond the partners involved. They often overlook how their struggles reverberate throughout the entire family. In this episode, we dive into the critical importance of considering therapy for the entire family system. This episode offers strategies for gaining a deeper understanding of how family members at various developmental stages are affected, and how to create a safe space for open communication and emotional support within the family, prioritizing the children's development amidst distress. Kathryn de Bruin is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Emotional Focused Therapy Trainer and Supervisor, and Registered Play Therapist Supervisor. She has a full-time private practice in San Diego, CA where she works with children and families. Kathryn teaches Play Therapy at the University of California, San Diego, in the Play Therapy Program. She is a Director for the San Diego Center for EFT, and serves various EFT communities. Lisa Palmer-Olsen, Psy.D. is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego California. She is a Certified EFT Therapist, Trainer, and Supervisor, and is a Founder and one of the Directors of the Emotionally Focused Couples Training and Research Institute at Alliant International University. Lisa completed her dissertation research on how to train and teach Emotionally Focused Couples therapy to professionals. Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of EFT and Dr. Scott Woolley were part of her dissertation committee. In this episode 5:02 Lisa and Kathryn's journey into supporting couples and families. 10:00 The importance of considering the broader impact within the family system. 15:20 The growing trend of parents seeking comprehensive support. 19:40 Creating new pathways for family connection. 28:04 Creating space for dialogue within the family and seeking community resources to combat isolation. 46:43 Redefining conflict resolution in family law: The role of attachment-based mediation. 48:54 Valuable resources for individuals navigating family therapy and seeking emotional support. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Kathryn de Bruin & Dr. Lisa Palmer-Olsen Websites: | Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30214143

ERP 413: How Does Emotional Immaturity Develop & The Difference Between Emotional Immaturity And Emotional Abuse? Part Three 02/27/2024

ERP 413: How Does Emotional Immaturity Develop & The Difference Between Emotional Immaturity And Emotional Abuse? Part Three In the ongoing series on emotional immaturity, we continue our exploration by delving deeper into the intricate dynamics that underpin its development. Drawing from our previous discussions, we aim to build upon foundational knowledge and delve into the nuanced differences between emotional immaturity and emotional abuse. By shedding light on these subtleties, we provide listeners with invaluable insights that can help them navigate complex emotional landscapes with greater understanding and clarity. Through a blend of insightful discussion and actionable advice, our goal is to equip our audience with the tools necessary to not only recognize but also address and ultimately overcome emotional immaturity. By fostering a deeper understanding of these concepts, listeners can cultivate healthier connections and embark on a journey of personal growth. In this episode 09:05 Understanding the interplay of childhood experiences, parental influence, and intergenerational impact. 13:11 Exploring the obstacles hindering parental emotional responsiveness, including mental health issues, physical illness, addiction, trauma, and bereavement. 15:39 Understanding the role of trauma in emotional immaturity: Impact, coping mechanisms, and caregiver dynamics. 19:26 The perpetuating cycle of abuse: Impact, coping strategies, and emotional stunting. 21:23 The impact of unhealthy examples and poor upbringing to emotional immaturity. 23:33 The fine line between emotional immaturity and emotional abuse. Mentioned (Lindsay Gibson link) (book) (YouTube video link) : 1-800-799-7233 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30066963

ERP 412: Why Divorce (Or Ending A Relationship) Should Always Be an Option — An Interview With Sharon Pope 02/20/2024

ERP 412: Why Divorce (Or Ending A Relationship) Should Always Be an Option — An Interview With Sharon Pope Although divorce is legally permissible and widely acknowledged in modern society, it remains burdened with significant stigma. The mere mention of it evokes palpable discomfort, as it's often viewed as a failure in a culture that emphasizes perseverance in relationships at all costs, even in the face of significant challenges. In this episode, we challenge this narrative by exploring the necessity of maintaining divorce as an option in relationships. We delve into the profound importance of setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing individual well-being within the context of partnership. Join us as we unravel the complexities surrounding divorce, challenging listeners to consider its role in fostering healthier, more sustainable relationships. Sharon Pope is a certified Master Life Coach, and a seven-time best-selling author on love and relationships, including "Stay or Go: How to Find the Confidence & Clarity You Need to Either Fix the Struggles in Your Marriage or Move Forward without Regret," which has sold more than 300,000 copies worldwide, and host of the podcast, "The Loving Truth." Sharon's been a guest on many podcasts and is committed to helping women and men get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages. In this episode 05:52 Sharon challenges the notion that every marriage should be salvaged at all costs. 07:56 From personal heartbreak to professional passion: Sharon's journey to relationship coaching. 10:32 Sharon reflects on her personal evolution from blaming her ex-husband to embracing self-awareness and personal growth. 12:57 Moving beyond surface efforts. 17:20 The importance of regular relationship check-ins. 21:52 The stigma and significance of divorce within relationships. 28:39 Strategies for interrupting negative patterns in communication within relationships. 38:03 Setting boundaries and timeframes for relationship evaluation. 41:40 Embracing divorce as an option for setting healthy boundaries. Mentioned (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Sharon Pope Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: LinkedIn: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/30018368

ERP 411: What Are The Signs Of Emotional Immaturity In Relationship? Part Two 02/13/2024

ERP 411: What Are The Signs Of Emotional Immaturity In Relationship? Part Two Do you often feel like you're bearing the emotional burden in your relationship while your partner struggles to express their feelings and handle difficult conversations? If these dynamics sound familiar, you may be navigating the complexities of emotional immaturity in your relationship. Welcome back to the Empowered Relationship Podcast, where we continue our exploration of emotional immaturity and its impact on relationships. If you missed part one of this multi-series, I highly recommend giving it a listen, where we explored five key characteristics of emotional immaturity. In this episode, we're diving deeper into this topic by examining four additional characteristics. From struggles with healthy communication to difficulty engaging in hard conversations and conflicts, we'll unravel the intricacies of emotional immaturity and how it impacts intimate relationships. Join us as we uncover valuable insights to cultivate deeper connections and intimacy with your significant other. In this episode 9:27 Dependency and validation: Key characteristics of emotional immaturity. 13:15 Challenges of emotional engagement and relational depth in emotionally immature relationships. 20:34 Unilateral decision-making and emotional detachment. 23:00 Avoidance, defensiveness, and blame-shifting. 28:10 Communication challenges and manipulative behaviors. Mentioned Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/29924743

ERP 410: What Are The Signs Of Emotional Immaturity In Relationship? 02/06/2024

ERP 409: How To Experience An Opening During A Difficult Conversation For More Progress & Connection — An Interview With Chad and Angela Imhoff 01/30/2024

ERP 409: How To Experience An Opening During A Difficult Conversation For More Progress & Connection — An Interview With Chad and Angela Imhoff Navigating conflicts with a romantic partner can feel like an impossible challenge for many couples. Disagreements are a natural part of any long-term relationship as each individual brings a unique set of experiences, needs, and communication styles to the dynamic. Conflicts often escalate quickly as defensiveness and hurt feelings take over, resulting in distance rather than resolution. Without tools to reframe discussions, truly listen without judgment, and repair misunderstandings, the relationship itself can be damaged over time by an accumulation of unaddressed issues. In this episode, we offer valuable insights for effectively handling these challenges. Drawing on concepts from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we explore methods to deliberately slow down reactions and enhance self-awareness, uncovering the underlying dynamics at play. The principles of EFT guide individuals to navigate conflicts with empathy, fostering a genuine desire to fully understand their partner. Practical strategies are presented, providing a toolkit for fostering openings in challenging conversations. Dr. Chad Imhoff is an EFT Certified Therapist, EFT Supervisor, and the director of the Arkansas EFT Community. He serves as Clinical Director of the Joshua Center, where he is also a therapist. Angela received her Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and is a Certified Life and Relationship Coach. They have a passion for helping couples have relational transformation and are devoted to seeing healing and change happen among individuals, couples, and families. In this episode 6:04 The transformative journey of Dr. Chad and Angela Imhoff in relationship therapy. 17:07 The influence of attachment theory in relationship dynamics. 21:26 How appraisal theory shapes relationship dynamics. 32:22 Understanding and honoring attachment styles. 35:31 Real-life examples showing how couples continue to navigate and understand the details of their relationships over time. 49:55 Navigating relationship triggers: Transforming conflict into understanding and growth. 56:56 Advanced strategies for navigating triggers and fostering connection. Mentioned Connect with Chad and Angela Imhoff Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/29675818

ERP 408: How To Repattern A People Pleasing Tendency — An Interview With Dr. Dana McNeil 01/23/2024

ERP 408: How To Repattern A People Pleasing Tendency — An Interview With Dr. Dana McNeil Many people struggle with establishing boundaries in their close relationships due to a tendency to people-please at the expense of their own needs. This challenge often stems from early relational dynamics in childhood, leading individuals to prioritize the needs and desires of those around them over their own well-being. Worrying about disappointing or upsetting others can make it difficult to assert one’s boundaries, as well as to engage in topics of conversation where there is conflict or disagreement. In this episode, we explore the pervasive impact of people-pleasing behaviors on the relationship. Dr. Dana McNeil and Dr. Jessica Higgins offer actionable guidance for overcoming this challenge by addressing how to; recognize people-pleasing behaviors, understand the importance of boundaries, effectively communicate needs to partners, and negotiate differences in a way that fosters greater intimacy and understanding between partners. The discussion provides practical exercises and examples that can help listeners develop healthier relationship patterns centered around mutual care, respect, and fulfillment for both individuals. Dr. Dana McNeil is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and founder of The Relationship Place, a group practice located in her hometown, San Diego, California. Dr. Dana’s practice specializes in relationship therapy and utilizes an evidence-based type of couples therapy known as the Gottman Method. Dr. Dana is a certified Gottman Method therapist and Doctor of Psychology. She also leads training at the Gottman Institute to help clinicians master the art of couples therapy. In this episode 5:10 Dr. Dana McNeil’s journey to therapeutic practice. 13:30 People-pleasing: Highlighting the challenges it poses in expressing needs and setting healthy boundaries. 20:25 Practical ways to identify and communicate personal needs, especially for individuals struggling with people-pleasing tendencies. 26:48 Building stronger relationships through open communication and honesty. 32:55 Setting boundaries, embracing vulnerability, and overcoming people-pleasing. 39:40 Embracing differences and talking through challenges. Mentioned (download link) Connect with Dr. Dana McNeil Websites: | | Facebook: | YouTube: | Instagram: | | LinkedIn: Podcast: (Apple Podcast link) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/29488128

ERP 407: Things To Consider (Biologically) When Engaging In The HookUp Culture — An Interview With Dr. Joe Malone 01/16/2024

ERP 407: Things To Consider (Biologically) When Engaging In The HookUp Culture — An Interview With Dr. Joe Malone The hookup culture is a societal shift characterized by casual, short-term sexual engagements, highlighting a reluctance to commit to long-term relationships. This cultural phenomenon, especially prevalent among young adults and college students, poses challenges rooted in an insufficient understanding of the physiological and emotional aspects involved. The immediate pursuit of pleasure, combined with societal expectations, frequently results in miscommunication, unmet expectations, and emotional turmoil, reshaping the dynamics of modern relationships. In this episode, Dr. Joe Malone and Dr. Jessica Higgins share valuable insights and actionable steps to navigate this complex landscape, providing a nuanced perspective on fostering healthier connections amid the complexities of contemporary dating norms. Join us as we unpack the intricacies of the hookup culture and discover strategies to cultivate more meaningful and fulfilling relationships. Dr. Joe Malone, The Sexual Integrity Scientist. holds a Ph.D. in Health and Human Performance with a minor in neuropsychology and a specialization in women’s health and sexual wellness. He taught at Middle Tennessee State University from 2005-2017 and has guest lectured at Vanderbilt and Princeton as well as other major universities. He’s the author of Battle of the Sexes: Raising Sexual IQ to Lower Sexual Conflict and Empower Lasting Love. In this episode 5:40 From fitness to sexual wellness advocacy: Dr. Joe Malone’s profound journey and insights into hookup culture. 13:46 The impact of technology on hookup culture and the quest for genuine connection. 22:10 The desires and challenges of young men in building meaningful relationships. 26:52 Dr. Joe Malone advocates for the vital role of marriage in young men’s lives. 34:56 The challenges young individuals face in understanding their sexual desires amid prevalent societal messages. 39:04 Exploring the influence of testosterone and oxytocin on sexual thoughts and bonding. 40:58 Empowering women to redefine relationship standards and prioritize quality over quantity. 47:23 Balancing tradition and individual expression in contemporary contexts. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Joe Malone Websites: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/29445823

ERP 406: How To Negotiate The Division Of Labor For A More Harmonious Relationship — An Interview With Brian Page 01/09/2024

ERP 406: How To Negotiate The Division Of Labor For A More Harmonious Relationship — An Interview With Brian Page According to research, in 39% of households, women contribute equally or more to the income compared to men. This transformation, while positive, marks a significant shift from traditional gender roles and poses a unique challenge when both partners are engaged in the workforce. Historically, women often assumed the role of stay-at-home moms, responsible for all household chores. Women raised in such settings encounter the challenge of harmonizing these deeply rooted expectations with the pressures of a thriving career. As a result, the need to redefine the concept of a successful mother and wife becomes crucial, calling for collaborative endeavors from both spouses. In this episode, we explore strategies and insights aimed at addressing this dynamic, guiding couples through the process of redefining gender roles and fostering mutual understanding. Brian Page is the founder of Modern Husbands. He shares ideas on managing money and the home as a team. He is a former Milken National Educator of the Year, CNN Money Hero, and Working Group Member of President Obama’s Advisory Council on Financial Capability. He consulted for state governments, universities, and various nonprofits. He served a one-year term as a Visiting Scholar at the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau in the Office of Financial Education. In this episode 4:26 Brian Paige’s personal journey into redefining relationship dynamics. 10:28 Navigating the learning curve: Redefining roles and managing mental load in modern relationships. 17:20 Streamlining life: Outsourcing, automating, and systematizing for reduced cognitive load in relationships. 21:14 Navigating division of labor and money in relationships 34:05 Striving for equitable leisure. 31:41 The power of regular household business meetings. 37:19 Empowering marriages with valuable resources: The modern husband's toolkit. 39:34 The significance of understanding the deep-seated beliefs and potential traumas that influence a partner's financial decisions. Mentioned (course) Connect with Brian Page Websites: Facebook: Twitter: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: Podcast: Newsletter: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/29390893

ERP 405: How To Manage Relationships With In-Laws More Effectively - Part Two 01/02/2024

ERP 405: How To Manage Relationships With In-Laws More Effectively - Part Two In the previous episode, we delved into the intricacies of navigating challenging relationships with in-laws, particularly amidst the holiday season. We discussed valuable insights on emotional regulation and proactive communication. Now, in part two, Dr. Jessica Higgins further explores the multifaceted nature of conflicts and disparities that can arise in these relationships. Drawing from client cases and personal anecdotes, she illuminates common challenges encountered. In this episode, Dr. Higgins focuses on three key areas related to privacy within the context of in-law relationships. The overarching theme is the crucial need for partners to align their perspectives and establish a shared understanding, especially when it comes to issues like proximity, boundaries, and the level of disclosure within the extended family. If you haven't listened to part one of this series, I recommend that you do. You'll find the link below. In this episode 9:32 Navigating the delicate balance of privacy in in-law relationships. 13:13 Navigating differences in food etiquette with in-laws. 16:03 Navigating challenges of inclusion in family conversations. 19:06 Balancing time spent with in-laws. 20:14 Decision-making dynamics: Navigating influence and power in family interactions. 22:54 Navigating grandparental involvement in parenting: Balancing resources and boundaries. 30:24 Cultivating compassion and setting realistic expectations in in-law relationships 34:01 Self-care strategies for setting boundaries in family dynamics. 39:54 Cultivating generosity and kindness in family dynamics. Mentioned Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/29283063

ERP 404: How to Manage Relationships with In-Laws More Effectively — Part One 12/26/2023

ERP 404: How to Manage Relationships with In-Laws More Effectively — Part One Navigating relationships with in-laws is often a subtle journey filled with its unique set of challenges, and it's a topic that has generated numerous requests from our audience. As we find ourselves on the brink of the holiday season, these challenges may become more pronounced, making it an opportune time to address the intricacies of managing relationships with in-laws. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins provides actionable insights and practical tips to empower listeners in navigating these relationships more effectively. Whether you're grappling with strained connections, seeking strategies for smoother communication, or simply aiming to enhance understanding within the family unit, this episode is for you. Join us as we explore the nuances of in-law interactions, offering valuable perspectives to help you approach these dynamics with intention and foster healthier connections within your family circle. In this episode 4:07 Navigating challenging relationships with in-laws during the holiday season. 8:49 A reflective inventory and setting realistic goals. 13:03 Relationship milestones, family expectations, and cultural considerations. 20:33 The influence of family structure on in-law relationships and the vital role of consensus in marital success. 25:56 A gentle approach to discussing challenges and setting healthy boundaries. 34:59 Tips for emotional regulation and proactive communication. Mentioned (*NCBI link) (research) (*Adelphi University link) (research) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/29225088

ERP 403: How Do Spendthrifts and Tightwads Learn To Work Together In Relationship — An Interview With Dr. Scott Rick 12/19/2023

ERP 403: How Do Spendthrifts and Tightwads Learn To Work Together In Relationship — An Interview With Dr. Scott Rick Spendthrifts and tightwads represent opposite ends of the financial spectrum. A spendthrift tends to be more liberal with spending, often embracing a carefree attitude toward financial matters. On the other hand, a tightwad tends to be more frugal, prioritizing saving and cautious spending. Navigating these distinct financial personalities can pose challenges in a partnership, requiring thoughtful communication, compromise, and understanding to create a balanced and harmonious approach to shared finances. In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of these differing financial approaches, offering actionable strategies to foster collaboration between spendthrifts and tightwads. From exploring joint accounts with individual freedoms to deciphering the art of thoughtful gift-giving beyond monetary values, the conversation provides practical insights. By emphasizing the delicate balance between shared financial goals and individual autonomy, the episode aims to equip couples with tangible steps to navigate the complexities of money matters. Tune in for valuable guidance on building financial harmony and strengthening communication in relationships marked by diverse spending tendencies. Dr. Scott Rick is the author of Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships. He is a marketing professor at the University of Michigan’s Ross School of Business and holds a PhD in Behavioral Decision Research from Carnegie Mellon, where he was a National Science Foundation graduate research fellow. His research on consumer behavior has been covered in outlets such as The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal. He has published in premier journals spanning marketing, psychology, and economics. In this episode 5:49 Scott Rick’s journey into exploring spending orientations shaped by spendthrift influences. 10:17 Navigating the dynamics of tightwads and spendthrifts in relationships: Understanding protective strategies and attraction. 20:18 Financial continuums, tensions, and the concept of financial translucency. 26:05 Balancing financial transparency: Navigating autonomy, trust, and communal approaches in relationships. 36:19 Unlocking the art of gift-giving: Thoughtful gestures, sacrifice, and relationship enrichment. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*The New York Times link) Connect with Dr. Scott Rick Websites: Twitter: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/29136128

ERP 402: Using Plant Medicine To Assist With Growth & Transformation — An Interview With Nicole & Megan Michelena 12/12/2023

ERP 402: Using Plant Medicine To Assist With Growth & Transformation — An Interview With Nicole & Megan Michelena Embarking on a journey of profound spiritual exploration, particularly through plant medicine, can be a transformative endeavor. However, with the promise of self-discovery comes the responsibility of navigating these realms with caution. In this episode, we delve into the potential pitfalls of venturing into the depths of spiritual work, offering cautionary insights to those considering or already immersed in plant medicine journeys. A wealth of knowledge and experiences are brought to light, highlighting the risks linked to inexperienced facilitators and emphasizing the significance of traditional shamanic practices. Offering practical tips for a safer and more intentional approach, this episode aims to empower listeners on their spiritual quests, fostering a sense of awareness and responsibility in the pursuit of profound personal growth. Megan and Nicole Michelena are Microdosing Institute-certified mental health experts specializing in psychedelic medicine. They are known as the @zenchronicity_sisters and are the co-founders of Zenchronicity, a plant medicine microdosing mentorship program that supports healing through psilocybin mushrooms. Megan is also a certified holistic nutritionist and health coach, and both are trauma-informed yoga teachers and experts in psychedelic medicine. They are also precious stone jewelry makers and crystal experts, and Megan is a gifted astrologer. In this episode 6:07 Navigating the terrain of plant medicine: Insights and considerations with Dr. Jessica Higgins. 12:55 Journey to mastery: The zen chronicity sisters on plant medicine, healing, and self-discovery. 18:51 Nicole’s perspective on plant medicine and the inner journey to transformation. 29:29 Navigating microdosing and plant medicine with Zen Chronicity. 39:38 How psilocybin softens neuroplasticity and transforms consciousness. 43:40 Balancing energies: Navigating the dance of masculine and feminine in psychedelic healing. 55:52 Integrating plant medicine with traditional shamanic wisdom. 1:08:03 Practical tips for safe and transformative plant medicine experiences. Mentioned (*Apple podcast link) (*Apple podcast link) (*Wikipedia article) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (podcast episode) (podcast episode) Connect with Nicole & Megan Michelena Websites: Instagram: | Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/29030263

ERP 401: How To Love & Support Someone Who Has Experienced Sexual Trauma — An Interview With Megan Negendank 12/05/2023

ERP 401: How To Love & Support Someone Who Has Experienced Sexual Trauma — An Interview With Megan Negendank The impact of sexual trauma on survivors often leaves a lasting imprint on both their emotional and physical well-being. Alongside grappling with feelings of fear, anger, and sadness, the trauma may be unconsciously stored in the body and unexpectedly reexperienced through somatic triggers during intimate moments. This can undermine a survivor's sense of safety, trust in others, and ability to freely experience closeness. In this episode, we delve into an often unexplored topic of relationships—navigating the intricate terrain of supporting a partner who has endured sexual trauma. The episode not only sheds light on the challenges faced but also presents practical steps, fostering a sense of hope and connection for both survivors and their partners. Join us as we explore the profound impact of trauma on intimacy and how intentional, informed efforts can contribute to healing and strengthen the bonds within these relationships. Megan Lara Negendank, LMFT, CST, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a certified sex therapist. She is the founder of Love Heal Grow, a relationship therapy center in Northern California where she specializes in trauma-informed, relationship-focused psychotherapy for survivors of trauma and their partners. She has been featured as a relationship expert on PBS, NPR, and in Sacramento Magazine. In this episode 5:15 Megan Negendank’s mission to support survivors and partners through trauma-informed therapy. 9:49 Navigating the complexity of survivor experiences and partner support in the realm of sexual trauma. 17:02 Coping mechanisms, trust challenges, and partner support in sexual trauma recovery. 22:37 Communication, consent, and partner self-compassion in the aftermath of sexual trauma. 32:55 Building bridges to stability: Navigating trauma in relationships through co-regulation and secure functioning. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Megan Negendank Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/28743753

ERP 400: How To Pivot Away From Creating Unhappiness - To The Path Of More Happiness With Others 11/28/2023

ERP 400: How To Pivot Away From Creating Unhappiness - To The Path Of More Happiness With Others The holiday season traditionally beckons gatherings with loved ones, friends, and family, often involving travel to reunite with those we haven't seen in a while. While these occasions can be overwhelmingly positive, the nuances of family and relationship dynamics often introduce challenges. In this episode, we delve into the common tendencies of complaining, comparing, and criticizing, which can disrupt the joyous spirit of gatherings. We delve into insightful strategies to pivot away from these unproductive habits, offering practical solutions for a more positive and enriching experience. By exploring the three P's—pride, pleasure, and purpose—listeners are guided on a journey toward fostering deeper connections during festive occasions, enhancing the quality of interactions with loved ones, and ultimately cultivating a path to greater happiness. In this episode 5:29 The impact of holiday gatherings on our mental tendencies. 9:18 Negative thought patterns and their impact on relationships. 15:52 Applying Gottman’s 5:1 ratio to strengthen connections in every relationship. 23:34 The impact of negative behaviors on relationships. 32:09 Cultivating happiness through connection and purpose. Unpacking the Three C's First, let's clarify the three C's to avoid. 1. Comparing We often find ourselves anticipating comparisons, preparing to evaluate and rank ourselves, and engaging in a subtle one-up/one-down competition. Measures of Success: Career Achievements (promotions) Health and Fitness (body weight) Financial Status Attractiveness and Beauty (aging, wrinkles, clothing, hair) Knowledge (current events, politics) Social Engagements (events attended, people met) Fun (recreational activities, trips, etc.) All these aspects contribute to an individual's sense of meaning, purpose, and pride. However, when the intention is to impress or compete to feel superior, it can lead to putting oneself above others, inadvertently diminishing their value. Antidote: Practice expressing appreciation and gratitude for oneself, aiming for a list of 10 appreciations as a countermeasure. 2. Complaining Expressing challenges is a natural way to seek attention and understanding, often as an attempt to bond with others who can relate to hardships. However, dwelling on difficulties, akin to sharing war stories, provides limited satisfaction in connecting. Antidote: Counteracting complaints involves identifying at least 10 positive aspects overlooked in the situation, fostering a more optimistic perspective. 3. Criticizing Judging someone's behavior, especially in family or friendship dynamics, can stem from underlying longings, needs, or vulnerabilities, with limited potential for change compared to romantic relationships. Antidote: If change seems unlikely, self-support involves addressing personal needs and longings through alternative means or advocating for oneself, including setting boundaries. Additionally, acknowledging 10 positive qualities or attributes the person brings to your life can help shift the focus away from criticism. The Negative Effects of the 3 C’s Diminished Self-Esteem: Engaging in constant comparison and criticism can lead to feelings of inadequacy, lower self-worth, and diminished self-esteem. Strained Relationships: Continuous criticism and complaining can put strain on relationships, eroding trust, creating tension, and reducing the overall sense of safety and satisfaction. Dissatisfaction in Interactions: The repetitive nature of the 3 C's can leave interactions feeling less meaningful and satisfying, contributing to a sense of dissatisfaction. Avoidance and Disconnection: Over time, the cumulative effect of the 3 C's may lead to avoidance of certain individuals or a decrease in engagement, negatively impacting the connection in relationships. Missed Opportunities for Growth: Focusing on the negative aspects may lead to missed opportunities for personal and relational growth, hindering the exploration of positive and enriching experiences. Draining Interactions: Engaging in the 3 C's can be emotionally draining, both for oneself and others, as the emphasis on negativity outweighs the potential for positive and uplifting interactions. Empowerment and Blame Cycle: The cycle of blame, competition, and one-upmanship perpetuated by the 3 C's can create a disempowered mindset, hindering the celebration of others and fostering deeper connections. Lack of Meaning and Significance: Constant comparison and criticism may lead to a focus on surface-level attributes, overshadowing the potential for deeper connections and the meaningful aspects of relationships. The 3 P’s of Happiness Now that we've explored the challenges posed by the three C's, let's shift our focus to the transformative power of the three P's. The concept of the three P's — Pride, Purpose, and Pleasure — draws inspiration from Blue Zone research, examining communities globally recognized for longevity and well-being. Here are actionable strategies aligned with the three P's to foster a balanced and fulfilling life: 1. Pride: Build Community Bonds: Connect with your community, nurturing positive relationships for a heightened sense of belonging and pride. Embrace Traditions: Celebrate cultural or community traditions to strengthen your connection to heritage and foster pride. Achieve Personal Goals: Pursue goals aligned with your values, cultivating a sense of pride and satisfaction. Share Your Successes: Acknowledge and share your accomplishments, reinforcing a positive sense of pride. 2. Purpose: Discover Your Ikigai: Explore your 'ikigai,' finding purpose at the intersection of passion, skill, societal need, and earning potential. Volunteer and Give Back: Contribute to causes aligned with your values, experiencing purpose through meaningful engagement. Set Long-Term Goals: Establish enduring goals reflecting your passions and values for a sense of purpose. Reflect on Core Values: Regularly align actions with core values, providing direction and purpose in life. 3. Pleasure: Prioritize Social Bonds: Cultivate meaningful relationships with friends and family, crucial for overall happiness. Opt for Balanced Nutrition: Enjoy a varied, nutritious diet in moderation for physical and mental well-being. Incorporate Physical Activity: Integrate joyful exercises like walking or dancing into daily routines. Practice Mindfulness: Dedicate time to mindfulness practices, enhancing the enjoyment of the present moment. Embrace Nature: Spend time outdoors, connecting with nature for increased pleasure and well-being. Cultivate Hobbies: Engage in passion-driven activities, such as art or gardening, for a more pleasurable life. By integrating these strategies, you can elevate your overall well-being, embracing the principles of Pride, Purpose, and Pleasure observed in Blue Zone communities. Mentioned (The Blue Zones) (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) (free guide link) (podcast episode) (podcast episode) (podcast episode) (podcast episode) (podcast episode) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/28765733

ERP 399: What’s Going On When We Rely On Others For Our Happiness — An Interview With Deb Blum 11/21/2023

ERP 399: What’s Going On When We Rely On Others For Our Happiness — An Interview With Deb Blum Entrusting our happiness to others implies depending on external validation or circumstances to feel content, fulfilled, or complete. Instead of finding intrinsic sources of joy and fulfillment within ourselves, we place the responsibility for our happiness on external influences. This reliance on external factors, especially in relationships, may result in emotional vulnerability and fragile self-esteem. In this episode, we explore the complexities of self-discovery and healing within relationships, delving into the significance of inner child work and its impact on our emotional well-being. We discuss the challenges of embracing vulnerability, acknowledging our shadows, and breaking free from the patterns that hinder personal growth. The conversation highlights the role of self-love and acceptance in fostering healthier connections with ourselves and others, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and genuine expression in our journey toward fulfillment. Deb Blum is a visionary leader and the founder of The Whole Soul Way, a transformational program dedicated to empowering women on their journey toward self-discovery and authentic expression. Through her step-by-step process, Deb helps self-led, do-it-all women break free from fear, conditioning, and external expectations, enabling them to express themselves fully, therefore creating more success, emotionally fulfilling relationships, happiness, and inner peace without losing their edge or disrupting the lives they've worked so hard to create. In this episode 5:59 Introducing Deb Blum and her transformative program dedicated to empowering women through self-discovery. 11:17 Unveiling unconscious behaviors: Exploring tendencies to criticize, blame, or project onto others. 19:02 Deb Blum recounts how the pressure of motherhood and a desire for control brought projecting tendencies to light, leading to insights about her expectations and relationship dynamics. 28:41 Navigating identity attachments: Embracing the complexity of the human condition. 33:20 Unveiling the energy dynamics of repression and embracing the multifaceted human experience. 46:03 Nurturing wholeness through reparenting: The transformative journey. 51:48 The significance of overcoming defensiveness and creating space for genuine dialogue. 57:07 Support and resources. Mentioned (*program sales page) (*free resources) (*quiz) Connect with Deb Blum Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/28698178

ERP 398: How To Experience Both Freedom & Connection In Relationship — An Interview With Dr. Don St John 11/14/2023

ERP 398: How To Experience Both Freedom & Connection In Relationship — An Interview With Dr. Don St John In a society that highly values individual achievements and personal pursuits, the dynamics of maintaining emotional closeness within relationships undergo a subtle but significant transformation. Emphasizing autonomy, self-expression, and personal goal pursuit, societal norms shape how individuals navigate connections. In this episode, we explore the nuanced dynamics of emotional intimacy within the context of contemporary societal norms that often prioritize individual pursuits. The discussion delves into the delicate interplay between autonomy and togetherness, shedding light on the challenges individuals face in maintaining meaningful connections while pursuing personal goals. The impact of trauma on relationships is unpacked, highlighting the complexities of healing in the realm of emotional closeness. Join us as we navigate the fine line between independence and the inherent desire for emotional proximity, unraveling the secrets to fostering meaningful connections in a culture that champions individuality. Dr. St John is a psychotherapist, somatic fluid movement and meditation educator, and author of “Healing the Wounds of Childhood and Culture: An Adventure of a Lifetime”. He overcame severe childhood trauma and has engaged in the healing process both personally and professionally for 60 years. In this episode 5:09 From brokenness to healing: Dr. Don St John’s personal and professional journey. 11:30 The coherence model: Balancing freedom and cohesion in intimate relationships. 14:56 The importance of embracing both closeness and independence in a relationship. 27:09 Navigating change, personal growth, and cultural shifts. 32:47 Shifting from individual identity to cooperative connection. 50:06 Additional resources and information. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Don St John Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/28617958

ERP 397: How Partners May Grieve Differently — An Interview with Kelly Cervantes 11/07/2023

ERP 397: How Partners May Grieve Differently — An Interview with Kelly Cervantes Grief is a deeply personal and often challenging emotional journey, one that can take on countless forms and manifest in diverse ways. When couples endure such heart-wrenching moments, they often discover that they grieve differently, which can strain their relationships. This can create a profound and sometimes bewildering disconnect in the relationship, leading to feelings of isolation, frustration, and confusion. In this enlightening conversation, we delve into the complexities of grieving differently as a couple and explore valuable insights to help couples maintain and enhance their connections during these trying times. By recognizing the individuality of each person's grief, fostering open and honest communication, and seeking external support when necessary, couples can discover meaningful ways to journey through their mourning together, strengthening their emotional bonds in the process. Kelly Cervantes is an award-winning writer, speaker, and advocate best known for her blog Inchstones. She is the immediate past board chair for the nonprofit CURE Epilepsy and also hosts their biweekly podcast, Seizing Life. Kelly currently resides in Maplewood, NJ, with her husband, Miguel Cervantes currently starring in Hamilton on Broadway, their children, and two dogs, Tabasco and Sriracha. Her book Normal Broken: The Grief Companion For When It’s Time to Heal But You’re Not Sure You Want To. In this episode 5:28 Kelly Cervantes’ grief journey and its impact on relationships. 17:17 The importance of open communication and managing expectations. 21:12 The evolving nature of grief in relationships: Communication, acceptance, and moments of connection. 27:59 Navigating connection and intimacy amidst grief: The impact of a pandemic and prior experiences. 39:29 The significance of seeking and accepting support during the grieving process. 45:28 Creating shared meaning in grief: Finding moments of connection and support. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (download link) (app) Connect with Kelly Cervantes Websites: Facebook: Twitter: Instagram: LinkedIn: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/28519118

ERP 396: How To Recognize Unhelpful & Misguided Relationship Advice — An Interview With Zach Brittle 10/31/2023

ERP 396: How To Recognize Unhelpful & Misguided Relationship Advice — An Interview With Zach Brittle Are you tired of sifting through an endless sea of relationship advice, much of which seems more unhelpful than beneficial? We're often bombarded with well-intentioned but sometimes misguided advice. You've likely heard phrases like "never go to bed angry" or "love will conquer all," but do these sayings truly hold the key to a thriving, enduring partnership? In this episode, we'll explore the common cliches and one-size-fits-all solutions that sound good in theory but often fall short in practice. Discover the art of de-escalating conflicts, the power of emotional vocabulary, and how to recognize unhelpful advice that may be holding you back from deeper intimacy. If you're seeking to transform your understanding of relationships, this episode will empower you to question the common myths and embrace a more profound, lasting connection. Zach Brittle is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC), a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT), and a Certified Relational Life Therapist (RLT). He serves as the founder and co-host of Marriage Therapy Radio and has authored the best-selling relationship guide "The Relationship Alphabet" and the Marriage Therapy Journal. His marriage to Rebecca has been a source of happiness for 24 out of 26 years, with the 8th and 18th years proving to be rather challenging. They live in Seattle with their two adulting daughters. In this episode 4:55 A peek into Zach’s journey: His work, podcast, and personal life. 9:21 Zack’s unique approach to therapy. 14:23 Debunking the myth: “Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint” 19:20 The influence of language on behavior and choices within relationships. 26:33 Deconstructing defensiveness and criticism: An approach to authentic communication. 29:45 Challenging unhelpful relationship advice. 33:43 The importance of de-escalation and repair in conflict. 40:47 Connect with Zach Brittle and marriage therapy radio. Mentioned (*Apple Podcast link) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Zach Brittle Websites: Facebook: TikTok: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/28447637

ERP 395: How To Navigate Relationship When One Partner Is Choosing Sobriety — An Interview With Celeste Yvonne 10/24/2023

ERP 395: How To Navigate Relationship When One Partner Is Choosing Sobriety — An Interview With Celeste Yvonne In recent years, the rise of the celebrated "mommy wine" culture has given rise to a pressing issue that provides a deceptively innocent escape for mothers. Yet beneath the surface, many mothers find themselves entangled in a web of excessive alcohol consumption that negatively affects their lives and relationships. In this episode, Celeste Yvonne and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the challenging dynamics faced by couples when one partner decides to embrace sobriety while the other continues to drink. We explore the isolation and emotional strain often experienced by those navigating this complex terrain. The discussion offers actionable steps and resources to help couples communicate effectively, set boundaries, and ultimately find a path to understanding and connection amid the complexities of one partner's journey toward sobriety. Sober mom advocate, Celeste Yvonne, is a writer and certified recovery coach (IAPRC) with over 20 years of experience as a communications professional in corporate America. Over five years sober and a founding host of the Sober Mom Squad, Celeste advocates for mothers who struggle with addiction and mental health. In this episode 3:20 Celeste Yvonne’s journey from corporate professional to sobriety advocate. 8:08 Understanding the emotional impact of substance use in motherhood. 15:48 Honest conversations and support in navigating alcoholism and recovery. 20:54 The power of community in sobriety: Overcoming loneliness and isolation. 25:23 Strategies for addressing problematic drinking within relationships. 32:16 Creating empathetic conversations and finding support in challenging relationships. 48:27 Support for moms: Breaking free from the mommy wine culture. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Celeste Yvonne Websites: | Facebook: Instagram: | Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/28380329

ERP 394: How To Express Your Emotional Needs In Relationship - An Interview With Dr. Laura Louis 10/17/2023

ERP 394: How To Express Your Emotional Needs In Relationship - An Interview With Dr. Laura Louis Are you finding it difficult to communicate your emotional needs in your relationship, leaving you and your partner feeling like you're speaking different emotional languages? Sad to say, you are not alone in this struggle. Many individuals face the challenge of effectively expressing their emotional desires to their loved ones. In this enlightening conversation, we delve into this very issue and explore actionable steps to improve your communication and connection. From recognizing emotional triggers to embracing self-soothing techniques, you'll discover how to build an environment of safety and openness in your relationship. Join us as we unravel the secrets to clearer communication and a deeper emotional connection. Dr. Laura Louis, author of "Marital Peace," is a Licensed Psychologist with a Ph.D. from Howard University's APA-accredited Counseling Psychology Program. With over 10 years of experience in the field, she specializes in multicultural and couples counseling. Her expertise includes increasing intimacy, rebuilding trust post-infidelity, and enhancing communication skills. Dr. Louis also addresses various clinical issues, offers career counseling, and aids in acculturation for immigrants. Her background spans diverse settings, from psychiatric hospitals to elementary schools, where she focuses on improving sleep and stress management for individuals and organizations. In this episode 4:17 Introducing Dr. Laura Louis: A multifaceted expert in relationship counseling. 7:05 The foundation of expressing emotional needs. 15:02 Various factors that can unconsciously interfere with our ability to Express emotional needs. 22:13 A step-by-step approach to expressing emotional needs. 29:35 Navigating emotional risks in communication. 39:08 Practical aspects of recognizing emotional triggers and self-soothing techniques. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Laura Louis Websites: Facebook: | (*group) YouTube: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you!  *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. /episode/index/show/empoweredrelationship/id/28298540

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