Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
The Empowered Relationship Podcast helps you turn relationship challenges into opportunities and sets you up for relationship success, satisfaction, and intimacy. This podcast is designed to inspire, motivate, and guide individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.
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ERP 480: Understanding Pathological Partners: How to Break Free from Toxic Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Nadine Macaluso
06/10/2025
ERP 480: Understanding Pathological Partners: How to Break Free from Toxic Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Nadine Macaluso
About this Episode When love turns toxic, it can be almost impossible to see clearly through the confusion, self-doubt, and emotional chaos that follow. If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of hope, heartbreak, and uncertainty within a relationship, you’re not alone—and there’s a reason why breaking free can feel so overwhelming. The hidden dynamics of pathological partnerships and trauma bonds often keep people stuck, questioning their worth, and struggling to understand why things never seem to get better. In this episode, listeners are offered insight and validation as the conversation unpacks the complex nature of trauma bonds and toxic relationships. You’ll discover how these destructive patterns form, what psychological traits might make someone more susceptible, and why distinguishing between harmful behaviors and truly pathological intentions is so important. With practical guidance and real-life examples, this episode shines a compassionate light on the path toward healing, empowerment, and, for those who need it most, a way out. Affectionately known as Dr. Nae, Dr. Nadine Macaluso is a therapist specializing in trauma healing and personal transformation. Her life inspired the character Naomi Belfort in The Wolf of Wall Street. After overcoming personal challenges, she earned a Master's degree in counseling and a Ph.D. in Somatic Psychotherapy. Dr. Macaluso helps individuals recover from trauma bonds, C-PTSD, and shame. She is also the author of Run Like Hell: A Therapist's Guide to Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing From Trauma Bonds. Episode Highlights 06:28 Dr. Nadine Macaluso’s personal journey and the roots of her work on trauma bonds. 09:49 Defining trauma bonds and the role of intermittent reinforcement in toxic relationships. 13:35 Intent, power imbalance, and the pathological partner in trauma bonds. 16:11 Pathological intent vs. reactive behaviors and repair. 19:20 Understanding Cluster B personality disorders and their impact on relationships. 21:23 Empowering the victim over diagnosing the pathological partner. 24:11 Who is most susceptible to trauma bonds? 28:16 Questioning labels: Codependency, attachment, and rethinking victim narratives. 32:34 Attachment styles, developmental trauma, and their role in toxic relationships. 34:31 Cultural myths about love, media influence, and the hope that keeps people stuck. 37:20 Reducing shame, cognitive dissonance, and reconnecting with self. 42:47 The process of leaving: Safety, planning, and overcoming guilt. 44:30 Post-traumatic growth: Finding strength, hope, and empowerment after leaving a toxic relationship. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – Connect with Dr. Nadine Macaluso Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 479: Super Psyched About Love: Applying the Science of Connection to Couplehood — An Interview with Dr. Adam Dorsay
06/03/2025
ERP 479: Super Psyched About Love: Applying the Science of Connection to Couplehood — An Interview with Dr. Adam Dorsay
About this Episode Are you truly alive in your relationships, or just going through the motions? In a world overflowing with distractions, many of us drift into autopilot—checking boxes, chasing benchmarks, and hoping real connection will fall into place. But without genuine presence and intention, lasting intimacy becomes elusive, leaving us depleted, disconnected, and wondering why meaningful fulfillment always seems out of reach. In this episode, discover how the science of connection can transform the way you approach your closest bonds. Through a blend of psychological insight and practical wisdom, you’ll learn why authentic connection is at the heart of emotional well-being, how to bring mindfulness and curiosity into your daily interactions, and why appreciating yourself and those around you isn’t just nice but vital. Tune in for actionable strategies to break free from autopilot, nurture deeper intimacy, and truly feel alive while you’re living. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and host of the notable podcast SuperPsyched. He recently released his book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love. Episode Highlights 08:43 The essential role of connection: Defining disconnection in mental health. 11:58 Cultural distractors and the brain’s bias against authentic connection. 15:10 Making mindful choices: Savoring life’s simple moments. 17:31 Beginner’s mind in relationships: Staying curious with long-term partners. 22:18 Experiencing awe: microdosing wonder and expanding consciousness. 25:03 The power of appreciation: How gratitude fuels authentic connection. 27:21 Authenticity, integrity, and the impact on genuine presence. 33:12 The four circles of relating to self and others. 35:47 Aligning choices with your values. 37:39 Simple ways to reconnect with others. 41:26 Reclaiming joy and presence in everyday life. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (book page) (YouTube link) (video) (YouTube link) (video) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love – Next level – (program) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Adam Dorsay Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 478: When The Future Feels Uncertain: Tools for Couples Considering Divorce — An Interview with Dr. Becky Whetstone
05/27/2025
ERP 478: When The Future Feels Uncertain: Tools for Couples Considering Divorce — An Interview with Dr. Becky Whetstone
About this Episode Is your relationship quietly unraveling, and you’re not sure what to do next? Facing the possibility of divorce can feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you trapped between fear, uncertainty, and the heartbreak of not knowing what comes next. Too often, couples get lost in a whirlwind of painful emotions, making rushed decisions that can have long-term consequences for themselves, their children, and their extended families. In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools and compassionate insights designed to support couples sitting at the crossroads of staying together or parting ways. Learn how to recognize the early warning signs of relationship distress, approach difficult conversations with honesty and courage, and understand the deep-seated reasons why so many people struggle to speak their truths. You’ll also find guidance on how to stabilize your emotions, slow down the decision-making process, and move forward, whether by rebuilding your connection or ending things as peacefully as possible. This episode offers hope, clarity, and a path to navigate one of life’s toughest transitions with greater awareness and intention. Dr. Becky Whetstone is a writer, author, and marriage and family therapist obsessed with relationship dynamics since she was young. She writes in an entertaining and informative way, and after many of her life experiences, she wants to change how we handle marriage, separation, divorce, and post-divorce dynamics. Episode Highlights 03:58 Becky’s story and why she cares about marriage crisis. 10:04 Why support is needed even when divorce is decided. 15:33 Why taking time to calm down matters. 20:19 Warning signs that a relationship is in trouble. 23:27 Hiding unhappiness can hurt a marriage. 25:24 Having hard conversations with your partner. 30:10 Why people avoid talking about problems. 32:49 Facing relationship problems like an adult. 36:20 How attachment styles affect marriage crisis. 39:29 The need for self-work and growing as a person. 42:06 How divorce affects everyone in the family. 46:58 Lessons learned from divorce. 51:01 Where to find help and resources. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Becky Whetstone Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Threads: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 477: Redefining Intimacy & Sexuality: Breaking Myths and Embracing Your Truth — An Interview with Dr. Erika Schwartz
05/20/2025
ERP 477: Redefining Intimacy & Sexuality: Breaking Myths and Embracing Your Truth — An Interview with Dr. Erika Schwartz
About this Episode Do you ever feel like intimacy and sexuality come with a set of rules no one can quite explain, and yet everyone expects you to follow? So many of us find ourselves struggling to meet society’s expectations around relationships, sex, and what it means to be fulfilled, only to discover that the realities of our experiences rarely match the myths we’ve been told. From changing hormones to evolving desires and the pressure to fit into cultural norms, finding authentic connection while honoring our true selves can feel overwhelming and, at times, isolating. In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of redefining intimacy and sexuality beyond outdated scripts and rigid expectations. The conversation explores how our needs and desires naturally shift over time, why it’s crucial to look inward and tune into our individual truths, and how to break free from patterns and pressures that simply don’t serve us. Through lived stories, practical insights, and compassionate guidance, listeners are invited to reflect, challenge ingrained beliefs, and embrace the freedom to write their own definitions of love, connection, and well-being, whatever stage of life or relationship they’re in. Dr. Erika Schwartz is the founder of Evolved Science in New York City, specializing in bio-identical hormone therapy for health optimization, disease prevention, and longevity. With over 30 years of experience, she advocates for a holistic approach to wellness, linking hormones with diet, sleep, and stress management. A best-selling author and expert in functional medicine, Dr. Erika frequently appears in major media and hosts the Redefining Medicine podcast. She is committed to empowering patients and transforming healthcare. Episode Highlights 04:43 The role of individual work in relationship dynamics. 08:06 Integrating holistic health and relationship well-being. 11:59 Challenging cultural myths about intimacy and sexuality. 15:03 Navigating life stages: hormones, relationships, and expectations. 19:48 Breaking away from conventional life paths. 21:06 Exploring sexual fluidity and honoring individual choices. 25:57 The importance of listening to your body and biology. 28:01 Complexities of tradition vs. authentic alignment. 34:59 Embracing change: Letting life and relationships evolve. 47:20 Rewriting relationship commitments and living authentically. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (podcast) Evolve in Love – Next level – (program) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Erika Schwartz Websites: | Facebook: | X: YouTube: Instagram: | LinkedIn: | Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 476: Radical Acceptance & Real Connection: Navigating Differences in Relationship — An Interview With Carolyn Sharp
05/13/2025
ERP 476: Radical Acceptance & Real Connection: Navigating Differences in Relationship — An Interview With Carolyn Sharp
About this Episode Conflict in relationships isn’t just inevitable—it’s normal, healthy, and, perhaps most importantly, an opportunity. Yet, the tension between wanting deep connection and authentic acceptance, while also holding onto individuality, can feel like a tightrope walk. How do couples move beyond judgment and misunderstanding to experience radical acceptance and true intimacy, especially when old patterns, unresolved hurts, and competing needs seem to pull them apart? In this episode, listeners are guided through the complex terrain of navigating differences in long-term relationships. With practical strategies rooted in attachment science, trauma awareness, and mindful communication, this conversation dives into how curiosity, compassion, and proactive agreements can transform even the most challenging dynamics. Expect actionable insights on building repair after conflict, balancing “me” and “we,” and creating a thriving relationship where both partners—and the partnership itself—can grow. Whether you’re in the thick of recurring arguments or simply seeking a deeper, richer connection, this episode offers real tools to help you rediscover joy, security, and growth together. Carolyn Sharp, LICSW, is an experienced couples therapist with 25 years of expertise in attachment, neuroscience, trauma, and mindfulness. She helps couples build vibrant, secure relationships through coaching, workshops, and retreats. Carolyn’s passion and extensive training inspire her work in creating joyful, healthy connections. She is the author of FIRE IT UP: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship. Episode Highlights 06:14 How Carolyn Sharp found her calling in couples therapy. 09:25 The complexities of long-term relationships and the importance of learning healthy relationship skills. 12:16 Can couples truly grow together without losing themselves? 15:44 How curiosity becomes a secret weapon in relationships. 18:14 Navigating identity and boundaries: Individuality within relationships. 21:29 Understanding the origins of conflict: Attachment patterns and family system dynamics. 26:46 Proactive communication: The importance of planning and ‘owner’s manuals’ in relationships. 33:31 Relationship needs as a third entity: Maintaining the ‘us’ in times of stress. 35:41 Repairing relationship injuries 39:30 Recognizing and addressing unresolved hurt: Signs and solutions. 42:21 Learning how to apologize and repair: Overcoming childhood patterns and building new skills. 47:59 How tiny moments of repair lay the foundation for lasting trust. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Affiliate link) (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Carolyn Sharp Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 475: How to Balance Career Ambition with Love & Relationship — An Interview with Katarina Polonska
05/06/2025
ERP 475: How to Balance Career Ambition with Love & Relationship — An Interview with Katarina Polonska
About this Episode Can you really have it all—an ambitious, thriving career while also nurturing a deeply satisfying romantic relationship? Or does chasing professional success mean sacrificing love and connection at home? For many high achievers, pursuing career goals brings unexpected loneliness, relationship strain, and an exhausting sense of self-abandonment. The pressure to perform at work often leaves little time or energy for building intimacy, leading countless professionals to quietly wonder: Why does succeeding at work come so much easier than succeeding at love? In this episode, listeners are invited to reexamine this all-too-common belief that career ambition and a fulfilling love life are mutually exclusive. Through frank discussion and real stories, this conversation unpacks the hidden patterns that cause us to disconnect from ourselves and our partners, amidst the demands of professional life. By exploring psychological frameworks, practical strategies, and embodied personal growth, the episode offers actionable insights to help you move beyond self-sabotage, redefine success, and create space for both professional achievement and authentic, secure relationships. Katarina Polonska is a Science-Backed Relationship Coach, Published Gender Dynamics Social Scientist (University of Oxford M.St), Founder of the Successfully in Love® Method, ex-Regional VP of a global Behavioral Science Firm, and Podcast Host with guests like John Gray, of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, NY Times Bestseller Marci Shimoff, and Christina Tracy Stein, daughter of world-renowned Brian Tracy. As an accredited coach since 2007, she helps ambitious professionals become Successfully in Love®. Episode Highlights 08:35 How high achievers self-abandon for success. 14:42 Debunking the “either/or” myth for career and love. 19:05 Finding balance: Shifting from sacrifice to flow. 27:41 Katarina’s three pillars for relationship transformation. 36:48 Navigating growth: Solo vs. couples work. 43:47 Real-life example of creating change in marriage. 49:07 Resolving self-sabotage and expanding capacity. Mentioned (video) - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) Podcast (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Katarina Polonska Websites: Facebook: Instagram: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 474: How to Build More Emotional Health & Resilience — An Interview with Rachel Kaplan
04/29/2025
ERP 474: How to Build More Emotional Health & Resilience — An Interview with Rachel Kaplan
About this Episode Ever feel like you’re going through life with an invisible weight holding you back—old hurts, unspoken fears, or emotional “constipation” clogging your sense of connection with yourself and others? Many of us are conditioned to avoid our discomfort, stuff down our feelings, or simply muscle through, only to discover that real joy and closeness remain just out of reach. The struggle to feel truly seen, cared for, and emotionally vibrant isn’t just personal—it’s a modern epidemic. In this episode, you’ll discover how to build emotional health and resilience by learning to recognize, honor, and skillfully process your feelings. Through practical analogies—like emotional “potty training”—and grounded, compassionate guidance, you’ll explore why authentic emotional connection is the missing link to deeper relationships and personal well-being. Whether you’re seeking more intimacy, healing old scars, or just want to feel more fully alive, this conversation offers real-world tools and gentle permission to let your feelings move—and gently transform your life from the inside out. Rachel Kaplan, MA, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and host of the acclaimed Healing Feeling Sh*t Show podcast. Kaplan has studied yoga, meditation, and hands-on healing practices in India and Nepal, earned a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies, and trained in cutting-edge trauma modalities such as EMDR. Her “Inner Talks That Heal” TEDx talk explores the internal relationship between our loving and wounded parts. Episode Highlights 07:49 Rachel’s personal journey of healing. 15:42 Avoidance, dissociation, and the societal struggle to stay present. 17:46 The importance of feeling both pain and growth. 22:52 How to recognize, accept, and let go of your emotions in a healthy way, instead of suppressing or avoiding them. 24:00 How emotional constipation develops: Childhood, suppression, and the need for emotional movement. 30:18 Practical steps to reconnect with and care for hidden or neglected parts of yourself. 37:50 How unmet needs and hidden parts show up with partners. 41:49 Self-responsibility in emotional processing: Navigating attachment styles and reactions. 45:37 Vulnerability, repair, and building emotional resilience in relationships. 51:42 Further resources: Rachel’s book, podcast, and ways to continue learning. Mentioned (*YouTube video) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Rachel Kaplan Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor
04/22/2025
ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor
About this Episode Are you feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, physically present but emotionally absent during intimate moments? For many, the path to sexual fulfillment can feel blocked by a haze of stress, routine, numbness, or the pressure to reach a specific end goal. In a world where busyness and performance often take center stage, it’s all too easy to lose touch with the authentic, embodied experiences that deepen intimacy and bring lasting joy to our relationships. In this episode, listeners are guided through the steps to rediscover and reclaim embodied pleasure in their sexual and relational lives. The conversation dives into practical, somatic approaches that help individuals and couples slow down, tune in, and get curious about what truly makes them feel alive—moving beyond goal-oriented sex to something richer and more connected. Expert insights and real-life stories illuminate how noticing sensations, embracing vulnerability, and practicing new skills can unlock not just sexual satisfaction but a greater sense of confidence, communication, and intimacy overall. Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina. Episode Highlights 03:49 The role of somatic awareness in sexual connection. 09:18 Unlocking the first step toward pleasure. 13:53 Susan’s personal journey from sexless marriage to full-body orgasm. 19:13 Overcoming tension and numbness to rediscover sexual sensitivity. 22:55 Redefining orgasm: Moving beyond the goal-oriented experience. 27:11 Embracing discomfort and obstacles to deepen intimacy. 35:29 Notice, name, negotiate: a framework for couples facing sexual mismatch. 37:45 Radical accountability and communication in sexual relationships. 43:09 Prioritizing pleasure: initiation, desire, and direct versus indirect routes. 47:30 How direct pleasure sensitivity impacts every area of life. 52:01 Understanding polarity, giving and receiving, and closing reflections. Mentioned (link) (ebook) (program) Connect with Susan Taylor Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 472: Four Essential Pillars to Positively Transform Your Relationship (From a Psycho-Spiritual Perspective) An Interview with Dr. Rachel Glik
04/15/2025
ERP 472: Four Essential Pillars to Positively Transform Your Relationship (From a Psycho-Spiritual Perspective) An Interview with Dr. Rachel Glik
About this Episode In many relationships, there's an ongoing struggle to balance personal growth with relational harmony, often leaving couples feeling stuck and disconnected. The issue at hand is not just about communication or compatibility—it's about understanding and nurturing the deeper psycho-spiritual connection that binds two individuals. In this episode, we dive into the essential pillars that can positively transform your relationship from a psycho-spiritual perspective. We'll explore how being responsible for your own happiness sets the stage for healthier dynamics, the importance of viewing friction as an opportunity for growth, and how prioritizing your relationship can foster a secure, joyful bond. Moreover, by examining the potential for purpose both individually and as a partnership, this discussion offers tangible insights and spiritual practices to help you create a more meaningful and fulfilling connection with your partner. Rachel Glik is a licensed professional counselor with 30+ years as a couples and individual therapist in private practice. Since 2014, she has been a regular feature on the Fox 2 AM show in St. Louis as a relationship and mental health expert. She is the author of A Soulful Marriage: Healing Your Relationship With Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose. Episode Highlights 03:40 Embracing personal growth and the role of spiritual guidance. 08:03 The four pillars framework: A path to self-relationship and personal responsibility. 12:18 Scientific meets spiritual: Harmonizing psychology and Kabbalah in relationships. 16:47 Unlocking personal power through vulnerability and self-awareness. 20:05 Exploring purpose and positive impact as a couple. 27:55 Spiritual practices and the journey towards Kabbalah. 30:39 Balancing personal growth with relational dynamics. 32:55 Creating a relational sanctuary: The art of sacred connection. 37:20 Transition from romance to synergy in long-term relationships. 39:21 Navigating threats and traumas by trust in relationships. 42:28 Destined growth and mutual support in spiritual partnerships. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Dr. Rachel Glik Websites: Facebook: X: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 471: How the Pelvic Floor Is Related to Many Aspects of Health, Even the Domain of Relationship Health — An Interview with Patricia Siegel
04/08/2025
ERP 471: How the Pelvic Floor Is Related to Many Aspects of Health, Even the Domain of Relationship Health — An Interview with Patricia Siegel
About this Episode Pelvic floor health is a topic that's often shrouded in mystery and silence, yet it is fundamentally linked to our overall well-being, affecting everything from incontinence to intimacy. Many individuals, particularly those with female bodies, face the challenges of pelvic floor dysfunction post-pregnancy, during menopause, or even as athletes, without realizing that it is common but not normal and certainly not something they have to live with. Ignoring pelvic floor care can lead not only to physical discomfort but also strain in relationships due to issues like pain during intimacy or a lack of awareness surrounding one's own body needs. In this episode, we delve deep into the world of pelvic floor rehabilitation and prevention therapy to uncover the importance of addressing these issues head-on. Through holistic approaches, including exercises, education, and community support, listeners will learn about the often-overlooked muscles that play an important role in our bodily functions and intimate relationships. By shedding light on the resources and techniques available, listeners are encouraged to break the stigma, embrace their journey to healing, and ultimately improve their quality of life and connections with others. Patricia Siegel is a German native and Sports Scientist specializing in pelvic floor rehabilitation and prevention therapy. A former semi-professional track athlete, she is now the STRONG Fitness expert columnist regarding pelvic floor health. Episode Highlights 04:32 Understanding postpartum health: Pain, support, and recovery. 10:16 Hormone therapy alternatives during menopause. 11:45 Inspiring personal stories of fitness and overcoming challenges. 15:52 The benefits of regular exercise and fitness recommendations. 19:03 The role of breathing techniques in pelvic floor health. 20:27 Athletic performance and pelvic floor strength. 23:54 Navigating postpartum intimacy and emotional health. 29:12 Breaking the silence: Educating women on pelvic health. 32:56 Addressing trauma’s impact on pelvic floor health. 36:37 Communication’s role in postpartum relationships. 38:09 Developing a holistic program for pelvic health. 42:15 Promoting awareness and education on pelvic health issues. 46:52 Practical tips for maintaining pelvic floor health. Mentioned (YouTube Channel) (program) Connect with Patricia Siegel Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 470: How to Get Off the Emotional Roller Coaster in Relationship, So That You Can Develop a Deeper, Lasting Connection — An Interview with Drs. Susan Thau & Sondra Goldstein
04/01/2025
ERP 470: How to Get Off the Emotional Roller Coaster in Relationship, So That You Can Develop a Deeper, Lasting Connection — An Interview with Drs. Susan Thau & Sondra Goldstein
About this Episode One common struggle many face in a relationship is the challenge of getting off the emotional roller coaster. The highs and lows, misunderstandings, and unresolved conflicts can create a cycle of emotional upheaval, leaving partners feeling disconnected and frustrated. But what if we could find a way to smooth the ride and create deeper intimacy? If you've ever felt caught in a whirlwind of emotions in your relationships, you're not alone, and there are ways to navigate this complex terrain. In this episode, we delve into strategies and insights aimed at helping listeners break free from these patterns. With expert guidance, the discussion illuminates ways couples can enhance their emotional intelligence, communication skills, and conflict resolution abilities. By exploring both the individual and relational aspects of these dynamics, the conversation provides tools for transforming the way partners interact with each other. This episode offers a chance to learn how to nurture a relationship's foundation while navigating life's inevitable challenges, ultimately creating a more harmonious and enduring partnership. Susan Thau, Ph. D., Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, wife, mother and grandmother treats individuals, couples and families, working intensively with emotional states. Along with Sondra Goldstein, Susan studied in a consultation group with Alan Schore, becoming interested in attachment and affect regulation. Dr Thau began as a parent educator, later Kaiser Permanente, and eventually private practice in Los Angeles where she specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Sondra is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice for many years in Los Angeles. She is a former Clinical Associate Professor, UCLA Department of Psychology. Past study with Allan Shore, PhD, enhances her understanding of neuro-psychobiology in the processing of emotion in couples. Her study of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps in understanding emotional dynamics in couples therapy. Sondra is also a wife of 53 years, a mother, and a grandmother. Episode Highlights 03:56 Understanding the framework of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). 09:39 Meeting the authors: a journey of professional collaboration. 10:51 The power of vulnerability and emotional connection. 15:36 Coregulation and the impact of presence in therapy. 18:09 Navigating emotional triggers and attachment styles. 21:44 Challenges of vulnerability and the role of the therapist. 25:54 The importance of repair and building resilience. 28:30 Acknowledging individual differences in processing. 31:45 Demystifying therapy: The role of the therapist as a stranger attractor. 34:12 Developing a secure base: The journey of earned security. 39:20 Processing stress: Sensitive emotional and aggressive responses. 41:15 Dealing with differences and building a strong relationship foundation. 46:10 The role of curiosity and connection. 49:16 Resources and guidance for relationship growth. Mentioned (Youtube) (video) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Drs. Susan Thau & Sondra Goldstein Websites: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 469: How to Develop New Dynamics for a Lasting, Caring Relationship – An Interview with Dr. Mark Gregory Karris
03/25/2025
ERP 469: How to Develop New Dynamics for a Lasting, Caring Relationship – An Interview with Dr. Mark Gregory Karris
About this Episode Struggling to find deep, lasting connection in your relationship? You're not alone. Many couples experience cycles of miscommunication and emotional distance, leading to frustration and loneliness. But what if these challenges could become stepping stones to greater intimacy and understanding? Unlock the potential for a more fulfilling partnership by exploring new dynamics that foster empathy, understanding, and emotional intelligence. In this episode, we dive into the intricacies of intimate relating, exploring how individuals can develop new dynamics to nurture a lasting, caring relationship. You'll gain insights into recognizing and addressing underlying patterns and cycles that may be keeping you and your partner in a state of continuous conflict. With practical advice and expert guidance, this episode offers actionable steps to help you create a secure and supportive bond where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued. Join us as we explore the art of balancing individual growth with relational strength, paving the way for deeper connection and fulfillment. Dr. Mark Gregory Karris is a licensed marriage and family therapist in full-time private practice in San Diego, California. He specializes in couples therapy, religious trauma, and men’s issues. He is a husband, father, and recording artist. Mark is also the author of the best-selling books Religious Refugees: (De)Constructing Toward Spiritual and Emotional Healing and Beyond Fairy Tales: A Couple's Guide to Finding Clarity, Doing the Work, and Building a Lasting Relationship. Episode Highlights 04:46 Exploring the intersections of couples therapy and religious trauma. 10:40 Understanding the role of attachment styles in relationships. 14:07 Navigating the challenges of relationship cycles. 17:47 Differentiation and personal growth in partnerships. 20:51 The power of vulnerability in bridging connection. 23:06 Creating a safe space for open communication. 26:14 Embracing acceptance and grieving expectations. 31:19 Acknowledging community's role in relational support. 33:09 Balancing independence while fostering connection. 38:46 The importance of reflective empathy. 40:30 Caring for partner's unique needs and priorities. 43:23 Fostering intentional partnership practices. 46:30 Resources and insights for cultivating lasting relationships. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (pdf) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect Dr. Mark Gregory Karris Website: YouTube: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 468: How to Use a Trauma-Informed Approach for Repair in Relationship — An Interview with Esin Pinarli
03/18/2025
ERP 468: How to Use a Trauma-Informed Approach for Repair in Relationship — An Interview with Esin Pinarli
About this Episode Every relationship experiences moments of disconnection. These instances, often referred to as ruptures, can feel alarming, especially when they seem to happen all too frequently. But what if conflict wasn't something to dread but rather an opportunity for growth and deeper connection? The problem many face is not the rupture itself but the lack of repair. Learning how to artfully navigate these reparative processes can transform conflicts from mounting resentment to meaningful growth. Are you ready to redefine how you view and handle conflicts in your relationships? In this episode, we delve into the heart of using a trauma-informed approach to repair relationships. Through a blend of therapeutic insights and practical techniques, the conversation sheds light on the dynamics of conflict and the importance of repair to foster genuine connection and intimacy. By tapping into our own inner resources and acknowledging our shared vulnerabilities, listeners can learn to transform challenges into powerful moments of healing, growth, and reconnection. Esin Pinarli is a holistic psychotherapist and relationship expert specializing in IMAGO therapy, brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic practices, and psychodrama. Through an integrative experiential approach, she helps individuals and couples suffering from anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, trauma, and relational attachment issues to navigate life's challenges so they can become fully alive, supported, and whole. Episode Highlights 07:16 Understanding rupture and repair in relationships. 10:11 The role of conflict and repair in intimate connections. 13:38 Navigating disconnection using a trauma-informed approach. 17:06 Recognizing trauma response patterns in relationships. 23:28 Importance of reflecting and regulating responses. 25:43 Mirroring and attuning as steps in the repair process. 30:54 Nurturing vulnerability for deeper intimacy. 34:27 Cultivating empathy and understanding within partnerships. 35:24 Collaboration and accountability in healing relationship dynamics. 39:20 Handling simultaneous activation in partner dynamics. 42:47 Techniques for achieving regulation and calm. 45:56 Exploring creative solutions in conflict resolution. Mentioned (program) Connect with Esin Pinarli Websites: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 467: How to Elevate Your Life & Relationship with a Heliotropic Approach — An Interview with Dr. Harry Cohen
03/11/2025
ERP 467: How to Elevate Your Life & Relationship with a Heliotropic Approach — An Interview with Dr. Harry Cohen
About this Episode Are you finding it difficult to maintain a fulfilling and harmonious relationship amidst the daily hustle and bustle of life? It's a common struggle that many people face: balancing personal growth with the demands of nurturing long-term intimacy. How do we rise above the noise and negativity that often cloud our interactions, both with others and within ourselves? In this episode, we delve into transformative strategies for enhancing your life's happiest moments and boosting the quality of your relationships using a Heliotropic Approach. This insightful conversation explores the power of being a more uplifting force—focusing on kindness, gratitude, and generating positivity. Stay tuned as Dr. Harry Cohen and Dr. Jessica Higgins break down simple yet profound practices to help you navigate challenges and transform them into opportunities for deepening intimacy and personal development. Join in as the conversation strives to create more positive, energizing connections in life and relationships. Dr. Harry Cohen, Ph.D. Psychologist, Executive Coach, Restauranter and Author of Be The Sun, Not The Salt, a short, straightforward yet profound guide for being your best self, uplifting others, and behaving in a manner that draws others toward you and makes you happier and more effective. Episode Highlights 06:16 Introducing Dr. Harry Cohen and his multidisciplinary background. 07:45 The heliotropic effect and embracing kindness. 12:46 Being present and heart-centered in interactions. 15:18 The power of words and self-reflection. 19:23 Feeding the right wolf: the power of choice. 21:40 Creating positive narratives in everyday life. 25:35 The impact of positivity on our relationships and environment. 26:44 Navigating negativity bias and fostering positivity. 31:48 The significance of gratitude and presence in practice. 34:54 Responding to crisis with grace and equanimity. 39:46 Lighting up relationships: deep listening and positive interactions. 44:57 The importance of acknowledgment in relationships. 46:06 Practical advice: apologizing and remembering who you are. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (audio book) (program) Connect with Dr. Harry Cohen Websites: Instagram: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 466: How to Enhance Your Relationship with the Practice of Presence — An Interview with Dr. Shahrzad Jalali
03/04/2025
ERP 466: How to Enhance Your Relationship with the Practice of Presence — An Interview with Dr. Shahrzad Jalali
About this Episode Is communication the roadblock in your intimate relationships? Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and emotional escalations can often make navigating partnerships seem like a daunting task. The challenge lies in the fact that our lives are intertwined with others who have their own unique experiences and perspectives. What if embracing life's uncertainties and the practice of presence could transform these relational dynamics into something more harmonious and fulfilling? In this episode, we explore the art of deep listening and presence as powerful tools to enhance your relationship dynamics. Through enriching conversations, we'll delve into practices that can help you reconnect not only with yourself but also with your significant other. You will gain insights into how embracing vulnerability, understanding emotional activations, and learning to listen deeply can open the door to more profound connections. Whether you're aiming to resolve conflict or simply want to deepen intimacy, this episode offers the guidance needed to transform challenges into opportunities for growth and connection. Dr. Shahrzad Jalali, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist with expertise in trauma resolution, psychoanalysis, and relational dynamics. She guides clients in transforming emotional challenges into growth opportunities using a holistic approach that combines psychological, existential, and body-based techniques. Grounded in Jungian psychology, Dr. Jalali emphasizes cognitive restructuring and somatic healing to address trauma at its roots. Her upcoming 2025 book explores these themes, providing readers with practical insights into self-empowerment and resilience. Dr. Shahrzad Jalali identifies as Iranian-American, with a cultural background that blends Persian heritage with American influences. Her work integrates multicultural perspectives, enriching her therapeutic approach and fostering a deep understanding of diverse cultural experiences. Episode Highlights 05:44 How misunderstandings and emotional clashes in relationships often stem from individual differences in coping with life's challenges. 08:53 The importance of metacognition and shifting perspectives to help navigate difficulties and develop partnership resilience. 14:11 The cultural differences in emotional expression and the unrealistic societal expectation of constant happiness. 19:11 The art of truly listening to oneself and others as a crucial step toward emotional understanding and connection. 23:32 The illusory nature of control and how embracing vulnerability and curiosity can lead to deeper connections and personal growth. 32:32 The cultural and personal barriers that impede meaningful dialogue and how societal pressures influence our interactions. 36:10 Incorporating practices of emotional and psychological hygiene to navigate the complexities of daily life more effectively. 42:55 Recognizing and evaluating the personal and societal beliefs that shape our behavior and emotional responses. 44:22 Tools and approaches are discussed for identifying and reframing insecurities and fears to foster healthier relationships. Mentioned From Pain to Purpose (book) (*soon to be published) (program) Connect with Dr. Shahrzad Jalali Websites: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 465: How Acceptance Can Strengthen Your Relationship — An Interview with Jon Anderson
02/25/2025
ERP 465: How Acceptance Can Strengthen Your Relationship — An Interview with Jon Anderson
About this Episode Ever feel like your romantic relationship is a swirling mystery of emotions, expectations, and challenges? At the heart of every partnership lies the quest for acceptance—a profound sense of being valued and understood, just as you are. Yet, the path to achieving this in our closest relationships can often feel fraught with misunderstandings and unmet needs. How can we navigate these turbulent waters to foster deeper connection and a lasting bond? In this episode, our experts delve into the transformative power of acceptance and its pivotal role in strengthening intimate relationships. With insights drawn from decades of experience in counseling and relationship coaching, this conversation explores how to break free from entrenched patterns and embrace acceptance as a cornerstone for emotional intimacy. Listeners will come away with practical strategies to rekindle their relationship's safety and vulnerability, ultimately leading to a more profound and enduring love. Jon is the founder of Growing Love Network, a nonprofit dedicated to revolutionizing relationships for lifelong love. He has conducted more than 170 marriage intensives for struggling couples, and couples in crisis. He has worked directly with thousands of couples and individuals through counseling and therapy and trained hundreds to facilitate effective marriage courses. He has been married to his wife, Joanna, since 1985. They have 3 grown children and 6 grandchildren. Episode Highlights 05:25 Acceptance and power: Roots of relationship dynamics 07:26 Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. 12:54 Building a foundation of acceptance in relationships. 14:14 The shallow end vs deep end dynamics in relationships. 17:45 Establishing safety in partnerships: Shallow-end conversations 21:47 Creating structured conversations for safety and acceptance. 24:38 The role of quality time and affirmations in building acceptance. 28:09 Effective listening: a key to acceptance. 32:27 Prioritizing goodwill and understanding in relationships. 34:48 The power of positive focus: Shifting perspectives in relationships. 40:10 Navigating conflicting perspectives: The cul-de-sac analogy. 44:08 Inching back to vulnerability: Steps from shallow to deep end. 47:45 The importance of day-to-day intimacy and acceptance. 49:06 Insight into couple intensives: Accelerated progress in relationship therapy. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Jon Anderson Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 464: How to Understand Your & Your Partners’ Conflict Style for Lasting Success - An Interview with Dr. Don Cole
02/18/2025
ERP 464: How to Understand Your & Your Partners’ Conflict Style for Lasting Success - An Interview with Dr. Don Cole
Conflict is an inevitable aspect of any relationship, but how we handle it can make all the difference in the world. Whether you're finding that your disagreements escalate quickly or that issues get swept under the rug and resurface later, understanding your and your partner's conflict style can be a game-changer. How do you transform these clashes into opportunities for growth and deeper connection? The key lies in recognizing the patterns and learning the skills to navigate through them effectively. In this episode, we dive deep into the dynamics of different conflict styles—volatile, validating, and avoidant—and offer insights into how these patterns play out in relationships. You'll discover the importance of understanding not just your style but also your partner's, and how mismatched styles can be addressed for better harmony. With practical guidance and real-world examples, this discussion aims to equip you with the tools to foster a more resilient and connected relationship, even in the face of disagreements. Tune in to explore how you can create a new positive dynamic in your relationship by embracing and working with your unique conflict styles. Dr. Don Cole is the Clinical Director of The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. Along with his wife, Dr. Carrie Cole, he founded The Center for Relationship Wellness. With over 30 years of experience, he has worked with individuals and couples in various areas, including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, trauma recovery, parenting, and personality disorders. In this episode 05:55 The three conflict styles: volatile, validating, and avoidant. 14:38 Conflicts arise in mismatched styles: the validator vs. the avoidant. 17:17 Understanding conflict styles: it's not about maturity or emotional intelligence. 19:34 Examining the volatile style: comfort with high energy and emotions. 26:06 The validator style: problem-solving and seeking understanding. 33:56 Managing conflict with avoidant partners: strategies for understanding. 35:37 Using the Gottman Rapoport style for effective communication. 43:46 Tools and resources: books, workshops, and psychoeducational materials. 45:56 Normalizing conflict: learning to accept and grow through differences. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (program) Connect with Dr. Don Cole Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 463: How to Make Love Last (From a Biological Perspective) — An Interview with Dr. Liat Yakir
02/11/2025
ERP 463: How to Make Love Last (From a Biological Perspective) — An Interview with Dr. Liat Yakir
Why do some relationships fizzle out while others seem to stand the test of time? We've all heard about the honeymoon phase—those butterflies in the belly, the excitement, and the dopamine rush—but what happens when that stage inevitably wanes? Relationships often hit a crossroads where familiarity sets in, and the novelty fades, posing a significant challenge for couples striving to maintain passion and deep connection. How can we make love last when our biology seems to be working against us? In this episode, we delve into the profound insights shared by a renowned biologist who explores the complexities of love from a biological standpoint. From understanding the chemicals that drive our attraction and attachment phases to practical strategies for reigniting excitement and intimacy, this conversation offers invaluable advice. Learn how to navigate the intricacies of your own love life by leveraging scientific knowledge to foster long-lasting, healthy relationships. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been with your partner for years, these insights can help you strengthen your bond and keep the spark alive. Dr. Liat Yakir is a distinguished biologist, writer, and lecturer specializing in the biology of emotions and human behavior. She advises organizations on neuro-management (also known as neuro-leadership), leveraging cutting-edge insights from brain research to cultivate exceptional leadership skills and practices. Dr. Yakir earned her Ph.D. and completed postdoctoral studies in molecular genetics. She also holds a master’s degree in hormone research. With years of experience in science education and communication, she has made significant contributions at the Davidson Institute for Science Education, the educational arm of the Weizmann Institute In this episode 06:40 Understand love through a biological lens. 09:00 The three stages of love. 13:03 Attachment styles and their impact on relationships. 19:15 Why initial attractions can be misleading. 22:28 The conflict between stability and novelty in love. 30:08 The genetics of monogamy and polyamory. 32:53 Increasing dopamine levels to enhance relationships. 36:03 The role of jealousy and status in attraction. 38:11 Maintaining passion and intimacy in long-term relationships. 44:28 Overcoming sexual scripts and routine through play. 46:06 The importance of communication and appreciation in relationships. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Liat Yakir Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 462: How to Deal With the Societal Pressures Around Money & How to Develop a Healthy Relationship with Money in Partnership — An Interview with Elizabeth Husserl
02/04/2025
ERP 462: How to Deal With the Societal Pressures Around Money & How to Develop a Healthy Relationship with Money in Partnership — An Interview with Elizabeth Husserl
Money can be a daunting topic, especially when societal pressures and differing personal values come into play. How do we break free from these external expectations while fostering a healthy financial dynamic within our relationships? This episode delves deep into the intricate psyche of our monetary interactions, examining how they can reflect broader themes of security, belonging, and self-worth. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the financial expectations placed upon you or worried about aligning your monetary habits with those of a partner, you're not alone. In this episode, we explore practical strategies and thoughtful exercises to help partners cultivate a healthier relationship with money. We discuss the importance of defining wealth beyond mere numbers and how to recognize and address our individual money patterns. Through meaningful dialogues and engaging practices like the wealth mandala and satiation challenge, listeners are guided to become more conscious of their spending habits and financial goals. By the end of this episode, you'll gain a new perspective on managing money in a way that aligns with your values, fosters trust, and promotes a sense of fulfillment within your relationships. Elizabeth Husserl is a registered investment advisor representative, financial advisor, highly sought-after speaker, and cofounder of Peak360 Wealth Management, a boutique wealth planning firm. She does nonprofit work throughout the Americas and has led workshops at major tech companies, including Airbnb, Unity, and Google. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and daughter. In this episode 07:19 The importance of psychological perspectives in financial advisory. 11:13 Defining wealth beyond monetary value. 18:14 Examining personal relationships with money. 28:29 Addressing trust and transparency in financial relationships. 31:16 Comparing consumer choices within community contexts. 34:16 Recognizing societal pressures and redefining success. 37:54 Building mindfulness and playfulness in financial conversations. 40:38 Exploring belonging and fulfillment without excess consumption. 49:23 Encouraging shared financial inquiry and practices for couples. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (link) (program) Connect with Elizabeth Husserl Websites: Instagram: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 461: How to Increase Psychological Flexibility for Healthy Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Steven Hayes
01/28/2025
ERP 461: How to Increase Psychological Flexibility for Healthy Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Steven Hayes
Do you ever find yourself caught in repetitive patterns that hinder the growth and intimacy of your relationships? Whether it’s a recurring conflict, a deep-seated trauma, or simply the inability to stay fully present, many of us struggle to break free from the habits and thoughts that get in the way of true connection. Imagine how transformative it could be to learn the strategies and skills that foster psychological flexibility, enabling you to navigate life's complexities with grace and authenticity. In this episode, we delve deep into the science and practice of psychological flexibility, exploring how openness, presence, and active engagement can revolutionize not just how we relate to others but how we relate to ourselves. Through expert insights and practical examples, we will uncover the smallest set of principles that do the most good in fostering a meaningful, connected life. So, get ready to learn how to align your actions with your deepest values, respond effectively to life's challenges, and unlock the full potential of your relationships. Steven C. Hayes is a Professor Emeritus at the University of Nevada, Reno. An author of 48 books and over 700 scientific articles, he originated Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. His book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life was the best-selling self-help book in the US, and his TEDx talks and blogs have been seen or read by 4 million people. He is among the 30 most cited psychologists in the world. In this episode 04:53 Exploring the origin and philosophy of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). 16:07 Integrating science and spirituality within ACT. 17:06 Understanding the nature of learning and vulnerability. 21:42 The role of humility in relationships and life. 23:38 Using psychological flexibility to navigate intimacy. 28:55 Embracing a beginner's mind in everyday life. 30:05 Active engagement and personal responsibility in values-driven actions. 36:22 The importance of validation and accountability in relationships. 37:45 Aligning values with actions for intentional living. 41:34 Breaking down the components of psychological flexibility. 45:28 Tuning into life’s demands through psychological flexibility. 48:19 Continuous learning and personal growth: available resources. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*World Health Organization link) (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Steven Hayes Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 460: How Perimenopause & Menopause Impact Relationships - An Interview with Dr. Liz Lyster
01/21/2025
ERP 460: How Perimenopause & Menopause Impact Relationships - An Interview with Dr. Liz Lyster
Significant life changes, such as perimenopause and menopause, can often be overwhelming. These phases can bring insecurities, misunderstandings, and health challenges that strain relationships. The emotional toll of these changes can be especially difficult when open dialogue and sound advice are scarce. So, how can we foster understanding and support within our relationships during these transformative years? In this episode, we dive deep into the intricacies of how hormonal changes impact both relationships and individual well-being. We explore the crucial role of exchanging masculine and feminine energies, the importance of proactive medical dialogues, and the benefits of clear communication. Using analogies like the Argentine tango, we highlight the need for both flexibility and defined roles in relationships. Practical advice on hormone therapy and maintaining vaginal health provides actionable steps. Additionally, listeners will discover valuable resources and programs designed to celebrate the wisdom and opportunities that come with aging. By addressing these topics, this episode aims to empower listeners to navigate midlife changes with confidence and resilience. Dr. Liz Lyster is an OB/GYN medical doctor, best-selling author and speaker, and an expert in perimenopause and menopause. In her private practice in the San Francisco Bay area, she helps women and men in midlife and beyond lose weight, have more energy, increase their motivation and drive, and generally feel great. She graduated from Cornell University, went to medical school at UC Irvine, and got her Masters degree at UCLA in Community Health Education. In this episode 03:46 The Importance of education and communication in navigating menopause. 09:47 The balance of masculine and feminine energies in relationships. 14:24 Dr. Lyster emphasizes the need for women to proactively engage in medical discussions, advising preparation, and persistence in addressing sensitive health topics. 18:24 Launching the Miracle of Menopause online community. 22:59 Understanding testosterone’s role in stress and productivity. 35:39 Addressing discomfort during sex with proper estrogen treatment and the importance of openness with partners to enhance intimacy and support. 38:34 How modern environmental stressors and nutrient issues are influencing the onset and experience of menopausal symptoms in women. 41:37 The debate on hormone therapy and bioidentical hormones. 46:09 How hormonal imbalances can affect emotional intimacy and communication within relationships, and the role of different hormones in maintaining well-being. 49:47 Societal perceptions, hormonal symphonies, and aging. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (link) (e-book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Liz Lyster Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 459: How To Support Sexual Desire In Relationship — An Interview with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus
01/14/2025
ERP 459: How To Support Sexual Desire In Relationship — An Interview with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus
Are you feeling disconnected in your relationship, particularly in the realm of sexual desire? Many couples struggle with mismatches in sexual needs and desire levels, leading to feelings of frustration, guilt, and even rejection. This disconnection can strain relationships, making intimacy seem like an elusive goal instead of a fulfilling part of life. But what if there were ways to bridge that gap and reignite the flame, regardless of societal pressures and personal insecurities? In this episode, we delve deep into the complexities of sexual desire within relationships. We explore the psychological, physiological, and emotional factors contributing to low desire and how cultural expectations shape our intimate lives. We offer practical advice on communicating about sexual mismatches, utilizing mindfulness to enhance connection and the importance of understanding different desire patterns. Whether you're dealing with the impacts of medication, past trauma, or shifting dynamics over time, this conversation provides insights and tools to create a more passionate and connected relationship. Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D. is a Sexologist, Sociologist, Relationship Coach, Author, and International Speaker. A radical force for self-expression, Dr. Jenn has spent the last 20+ years tearing down social stigmas and shame around sexual expression. A celebrated author, Dr. Jenn is the writer of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women, a self-help guide designed to liberate women and help them reclaim passion and pleasure both in and out of the bedroom. In this episode 05:59 Exploring the complexities of low sexual desire. 14:11 Mismatched desires: Cultivating intention and understanding. 21:12 Mindfulness and sexual desire: Enhancing presence in intimacy. 24:17 Navigating body image concerns and their impact on desire. 27:21 Challenging outdated sexual norms for greater fulfillment. 31:23 The power of flexibility and creativity in sexual experiences. 35:48 Sustaining Long-term relationships through adaptation. 37:38 Using erotic stories and technology to enhance arousal. 41:44 Embracing new erotic concepts and understanding desires. 46:16 Prioritizing communication and vulnerability in relationships. 51:06 The crucial role of mindfulness and dialogue in sexual health. Mentioned (link) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*YouTube link) (video) (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: LinkedIn: Pinterest: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 458: How to Handle a Love Addiction Break-up — An Interview with Dr. Cortney Warren
01/07/2025
ERP 458: How to Handle a Love Addiction Break-up — An Interview with Dr. Cortney Warren
Breakups—few life events are as universally painful and disorienting. They can make even the strongest among us feel powerless, consumed by obsessive thoughts and emotions. When relationships feel addictive, their end can trigger a withdrawal-like experience, leaving us caught in a whirlwind of grief and longing. But how do we distinguish between healthy attachments and these addictive patterns? How can we navigate the heartache while reclaiming our sense of self and stability? In this episode, we delve deep into the intricacies of love addiction and breakups, offering listeners tangible strategies to handle these challenges. Through enlightening conversations, we discuss how to recognize and manage obsessive post-breakup thoughts, differentiate between healthy and addictive relationship tendencies, and understand the underlying psychological mechanisms at play. By equipping listeners with cognitive and behavioral tools, the episode aims to provide a roadmap for moving forward, emphasizing personal growth and self-awareness as key components of healing. Cortney is a Board-Certified Clinical Psychologist. She received her Ph.D. in Psychology from Texas A&M University in 2006 after completing her internship at McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School. Cortney is an expert in eating pathology, addictions, self-deception, and cultural diversity in Psychology. In this episode 07:52 Identifying love addiction symptoms and who it affects. 10:50 The process of breaking free from addictive relationships. 14:40 Differentiating between healthy attachment and love addiction. 17:21 The reality of relationship phases and their emotional impact. 20:28 How breakups can trigger obsessive focus on ex-partners. 24:52 Recognizing love addiction in high-functioning individuals. 28:37 How early childhood influences love addiction patterns. 33:07 Dr. Warren’s personal journey toward relationship health. 35:26 How therapy and self-awareness help overcome relationship dysfunctions. 40:45 The concept of love as a necessary human experience. 43:57 Strategies for managing emotional distress post-breakup. 47:09 The role of cognitive-behavioral interventions in handling breakup symptoms. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Youtube) (video) (*Dr. Jessica Higgins program) (link) Connect with Dr. Cortney Warren Websites: Facebook: X: YouTube: Instagram: LinkedIn: TikTok: Google Scholar: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 457: How to Intentional Design Your Relationship - An Interview with Angela and James Mitchell
12/31/2024
ERP 457: How to Intentional Design Your Relationship - An Interview with Angela and James Mitchell
Are you struggling to foster a deeper emotional connection with your partner? Relationship intimacy can be one of the most challenging yet rewarding aspects of a partnership. Many couples find themselves at a crossroads, wondering how to balance the demands of everyday life with the need for emotional and physical closeness. The pressure to maintain intimacy often leaves partners feeling disconnected and frustrated, particularly when unmet needs and unspoken expectations come into play. But what if there was a way to bridge this gap and intentionally build a relationship filled with clarity, connection, and mutual satisfaction? In this episode, we delve into practical strategies for enhancing vulnerability and emotional intimacy within your relationship. We'll explore how learning to meet each other's needs can transform your partnership, offering insights into overcoming common challenges such as gender stereotypes and differing intimacy styles. By embracing a holistic approach to intimacy, you can cultivate deeper connections and foster a more fulfilling, proactive relationship. Whether you're looking to redefine intimacy beyond just sex or seeking ways to communicate more effectively, this episode provides valuable guidance to help you intentionally design a thriving relationship. Pulling from their experiences personally in their 13+ years of marriage and professionally as a licensed counselor and certified coach, Angela and James Mitchell developed Love Intentionally to help couples design, implement, and sustain a conscious relationship rooted in depth and intimacy. Angela has been in the counseling field for over 20 years, working with abuse survivors, children, families, and couples. James is a transformational coach and lifelong entrepreneur, having helped hundreds of clients to live their best lives. In this episode 08:56 Sharing the journey of opening up emotionally and strengthening connection. 12:12 The balance of emotional and physical intimacy to overcome gender stereotypes. 16:29 How a personal retreat evolved into DIY marriage retreats for intentional connection. 18:38 Exploring the importance of flexibility and openness in various forms of intimacy. 21:03 Understanding the holistic approach to intimacy, focusing on both emotional and physical closeness. 25:30 Introducing a key communication strategy called the "story in my head" technique for clearer dialogue. 27:34 The concept of creating a relationship North Star for maintaining a strategic partnership mindset. 31:39 Redefining intimacy beyond sex by exploring diverse intimacy styles. 34:08 The benefits of intentional planning by combining counseling principles with strategic life planning. 38:46 Addressing the challenges of balancing life's priorities while maintaining relationship focus. 43:57 Programs and methods for deepening intimacy. Mentioned (*Dr. Jessica Higgins program) (link) Connect with Angela and James Mitchell Websites: Facebook: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 456: How to Navigate Relationship - When a Partner Has Anxiety - An Interview with Jeanne Retief
12/24/2024
ERP 456: How to Navigate Relationship - When a Partner Has Anxiety - An Interview with Jeanne Retief
Have you ever felt like the internal turmoil you're battling is invisible to the rest of the world? Like no one truly understands the gravity of what you're experiencing because you appear calm and composed on the outside? The struggle to manage anxiety while maintaining healthy relationships is a complex and often misunderstood journey. The challenge lies not only in dealing with the anxiety itself but also in finding ways to communicate your needs to those around you effectively. In this episode, we delve deep into the real-life experiences of someone who has navigated the tumultuous waters of anxiety for over seven years. It covers practical tools and resources for managing anxiety, the crucial distinction between everyday stress and anxiety disorders, and the importance of clear and compassionate communication in relationships. This discussion offers a plethora of actionable advice and relatable insights to help listeners better understand and manage their anxiety while nurturing their relationships. Dr. Jeanne Retief is the founder of FIGGI Beauty Skincare and The Anxious Calm E-Learning platform for those seeking to peacefully coexist with their anxiety. After her panic disorder diagnosis, she left behind her career in international human rights to find balance in her new normal. In this episode 05:29 Jeanne Retief’s seven-year journey and finding balance. 08:05 The importance of hope and living in the present. 10:51 Introduction to figgy beauty and anxious calm resources. 14:31 Differentiating everyday stress from anxiety disorders. 19:37 Using code words for emotional communication. 22:52 The hidden turmoil of anxiety. 25:01 The reality of panic attacks. 27:32 Anxiety and its misrecognition. 32:18 Struggling with stigmatization and seeking help. 34:45 Relational dynamics and open communication. 38:30 Supporting each other during anxiety. 43:28 Explaining anxiety to children. 45:26 Discovering and embracing high sensitivity. Mentioned (*Dr. Jessica Higgins program) (link) (Amazon affiliate link*) (book) Connect with Jeanne Retief Websites: | Facebook: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 455: 3 Secrets to Anger Management — An Interview with Alastair Duhs
12/17/2024
ERP 455: 3 Secrets to Anger Management — An Interview with Alastair Duhs
Have you ever found yourself in the heat of an argument, only to later regret words spoken in anger? Or perhaps you have felt a simmering resentment beneath the surface, unable to express it constructively. Anger can be like a storm, sudden and tumultuous. It’s a potent emotion that, when mismanaged, can wreak havoc on even the most loving relationships. Anger is often seen as the villain, but beneath it lies a complex tapestry of emotions that, when understood, can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. In this episode, we delve into strategies for managing anger and improving communication in relationships. You'll learn how to identify the warning signs of anger, take constructive time-outs, and engage in active listening to better understand your partner's perspective. Additionally, we explore the underlying emotions that often fuel anger and discuss how awareness and empathy can help break the cycle of conflict. By understanding and addressing these deeper feelings, you can foster a more harmonious and supportive relationship. Alastair Duhs is an anger management expert. Over the last 30 years, he has taught over 15,000 men and women how to control their anger. He is the founder of The Complete Anger Management System, a transformative coaching program that helps people control their anger in as little as 30 days. Alastair is the host of the Anger Secrets podcast, where he shares insights and strategies for effective anger management. In this episode 07:43 Understanding the root of anger in relationships. 11:39 Developing effective communication strategies. 13:44 Gender differences in expressing emotions. 16:55 Exploring different forms of abuse. 22:35 The impact of emotional immaturity and resentment. 27:43 Recognizing and addressing avoidance in conflicts. 33:34 Short-term strategies for managing anger. 38:51 Long-term strategies for managing anger. 40:18 The role of stress management in healthy relationships. 42:59 Seeking help and the challenges involved. 46:54 Witnessing change through group therapy sessions. Mentioned (free training) (link) (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Alastair Duhs Websites: Podcast: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 454: How to Foster More Purpose in Your Life & Relationship — An Interview with Dr. Ray Doktor
12/10/2024
ERP 454: How to Foster More Purpose in Your Life & Relationship — An Interview with Dr. Ray Doktor
Are you truly being yourself, or are you performing roles shaped by survival mechanisms and societal expectations? This thought-provoking question invites us to pause and reflect on our authenticity, encouraging a journey toward discovering our true selves and aligning our actions with our intrinsic purpose, not just external achievements. In this episode, we explore the journey to discovering one’s authentic self and aligning actions with that inner truth. We delve into the difference between traditional relationships, which may be rooted in outdated values, and spiritual relationships that encourage personal growth and genuine emotional expression. By emphasizing self-talk, introspection, and breaking free from past experiences, this conversation aims to guide listeners toward more fulfilled, purposeful living and deep, meaningful connections. As a life and relationship coach since 1995, Dr. Ray Doktor has empowered over 6,000 clients to break through limiting beliefs and overcome life's challenges, significantly enhancing their confidence, self-trust, and happiness. Holding a doctorate in clinical psychology, a master's in counseling psychology, and a bachelor's in human behavior, Dr. Ray combines his extensive expertise with advanced techniques like hypnotherapy, EMDR, NLP, and ancient practices such as qigong and meditation to offer a holistic approach to mental well-being. In this episode 08:27 Discovering authenticity: Aligning actions with true self. 12:15 The impact of survival mechanisms on personal and relational satisfaction. 18:16 Embracing spiritual relationships for sustainable personal growth. 21:01 Healing childhood patterns to enhance relationship dynamics. 23:28 Defining and nurturing a spiritual partnership. 27:47 Balancing masculine and feminine energies within relationships. 31:37 Overcoming gender role limitations in modern relationships. 34:31 Integrating spiritual beliefs into everyday life and relationships. 37:57 The importance of trust and vulnerability in fostering emotional intimacy. 41:23 Techniques for developing deeper connection and self-awareness. 44:19 Moving beyond traditional norms to achieve relational fulfillment. 47:59 Understanding one’s needs and expectations in a relationship. 50:45 Authentic relating games: Tools for self-discovery and emotional growth. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (book order page) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Dr. Ray Doktor Websites: Facebook: YouTube: Instagram: TikTok: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 453: How To Navigate Grief In Long-Term Relationship — An Interview With Christina Rasmussen
12/03/2024
ERP 453: How To Navigate Grief In Long-Term Relationship — An Interview With Christina Rasmussen
Navigating the tumultuous seas of grief and maintaining long-term relationships is no small feat. Whether it's dealing with the loss of a loved one, experiencing the invisible wounds of unacknowledged grief, or simply trying to find a balance between independence and partnership, many find themselves overwhelmed. How does one transition from anger to trust, from isolation to intimacy, while respecting the complexities of their emotions and relational dynamics? In this episode, we'll explore practical strategies and heartfelt insights to help you navigate these challenging waters. Discover how personal spirituality, a scientific mindset, and philosophical wisdom can intertwine to provide guidance and support on your journey. Learn about the life reentry process, understand the concept of invisible losses, and gain valuable advice on shifting perspectives to unlock the potential for fulfilling relationships and personal growth. Through real-life experiences of overcoming profound grief and the transformative power of vulnerability, this episode offers a beacon for those seeking a path from survival to thriving in their emotional and relational lives. Christina Rasmussen is an acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author of Second Firsts (Hay House, 2013), Where Did You Go? (Harper One, 2018), and Invisible Loss (Sounds True, 2024). In 2010, four years after her spouse passed away from Stage 4 colon cancer, she created the Life Reentry process. Christina holds a master’s degree in guidance and counseling (University of Durham). She is finishing her master of fine arts degree in painting and drawing (Academy of Art). In this episode 9:49 Christina’s journey from the corporate world to grief author. 14:33 The role of intuition and the universe’s support. 19:23 Navigating new relationships after loss. 27:05 How people often remain in survival mode after trauma, not recognizing the potential for a fulfilling life beyond their past hardships. 28:20 Identifying and addressing invisible losses. 37:51 The complexities of balancing financial independence and trust in new relationships. 43:42 Long-term relationship dynamics continuous growth and understanding within marriage. 48:59 The concept of invisible loss: Unseen griefs and their impact on life progress. 50:33 Hope and transformation through life reentry: Shifting perspectives and embracing future possibilities. Mentioned (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) (website) (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Christina Rasmussen Websites: Facebook: X: Instagram: Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 452: Relationship Practice — A 31-Day Kindness Challenge
11/26/2024
ERP 452: Relationship Practice — A 31-Day Kindness Challenge
As the winter season unfolds and the holidays bring their usual whirlwind of activity, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Amid the gift shopping, party planning, and packed schedules, the essence of connection and kindness often gets overshadowed. Yet, this time of year offers a unique opportunity to refocus on the deeper values that make life meaningful. In 2017, a 5-part series titled "How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love" introduced a new take on the traditional Advent calendar, encouraging readers to practice one small act of kindness each day in December. This season, the focus returns to kindness—not just as a gift to others, but as a transformative practice for self-compassion and relationship growth. Research shows that the key to lasting, fulfilling relationships isn’t extravagant gestures—it’s simple acts of kindness and generosity. Studies reveal that kindness, along with emotional stability, is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in relationships. What's more, giving kindness often benefits the giver even more than the receiver. In this episode, we dive into the power of kindness and how it creates a ripple effect, spreading positivity and inspiring goodwill. We’ll explore how kindness strengthens relationships, nurtures emotional well-being, and can be cultivated like a muscle to improve our connections and our lives. Join us as we reflect on how kindness can be the greatest gift we give this holiday season—and beyond. In this episode 06:31 Making a habit of spreading good vibes. 08:08 How kindness benefits both the giver and the receiver significantly. 14:51 Understanding emotional awareness in relationships. 19:26 The impact of gentleness and compassion in communication. 21:26 Navigating intimate dynamics with increased mindfulness. 27:21 How kindness transforms perspectives and priorities. 32:56 The science behind kindness and personal Well-being. 38:41 Kindness as a path to sustainable happiness. 41:40 Strategies for integrating kindness into daily life. Mentioned (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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ERP 451: How Our Early Relationship Injuries Can Get Mapped Onto Our Most Significant Adult Relationships (Using a Somatic Approach) — An Interview with Jennifer Mann and Karden Rabin
11/19/2024
ERP 451: How Our Early Relationship Injuries Can Get Mapped Onto Our Most Significant Adult Relationships (Using a Somatic Approach) — An Interview with Jennifer Mann and Karden Rabin
Emotional wounds from early relationships often cast long shadows over our adult lives, manifesting in unexpected ways. Whether it's feeling an inexplicable sense of burnout not tied to work, struggling with co-dependency, or recognizing recurring patterns of avoidance and anxiety in relationships, these issues are all too familiar but profoundly challenging. However, the road to healing and understanding these ingrained patterns doesn't have to be walked alone. In this episode, we delve deep into how early family dynamics and childhood experiences shape our emotional and physical well-being as adults. You'll learn how unaddressed attachment issues can trigger stress responses and lead to health problems, the importance of setting boundaries, and the power of emotional attunement in fostering healthier relationships. Additionally, through real-life stories and professional insights, you'll discover strategies to overcome these deep-rooted challenges, nurture personal growth, and ultimately, build more resilient and fulfilling relationships. Jen and Karden are seasoned mind-body practitioners who have experienced chronic pain and fatigue. Jen is an expert in the field of treating psychophysiological disorders and Karden specializes in somatic trauma therapies. Together, they co-founded the esteemed healing collective SOMIA where they have helped thousands of individuals regulate their nervous systems and heal. In this episode 6:54 Exploring the impact of relational dynamics on healing and nervous system regulation. 18:54 Navigating attachment styles and emotional triggers in collaborative healing. 34:43 Embracing accountability: How self-awareness and validation promote relational healing. 43:02 The importance of setting healthy boundaries within oneself as a means of emotional regulation, particularly in the context of parenting. 49:53 How awareness with others impacts relationships and friendships. 52:49 How subtle childhood experiences can shape adult triggers and unmet needs in relationships. 58:15 The Secret Language of the Body. Mentioned ****(*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Jennifer Mann and Karden Rabin Websites: Instagram: | Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: Instagram: Podcast: Pinterest: LinkedIn: Twitter: Website: Email: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by . Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
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