From Brokenness to a Pure Heart with Tom and Donna Cole

This episode features Tom and Donna Cole, founders of Pure Heart Ministries, whose powerful testimonies of overcoming trauma, abuse, and broken identity through God’s healing love have led them to minister healing to others. Host Keri Kitchen guides a heartfelt conversation about the long road toward freedom, the importance of facing pain, the necessity of forgiveness, and the transformative power of knowing our identity in Christ.

Tom and Donna vulnerably share their journeys out of homosexuality, addiction, and deep wounds inflicted by family dysfunction and abuse. They discuss God’s relentless pursuit and the turning point that led them to faith, and how He continues to use their histories as a springboard for healing others. The episode delves into practical steps of inner healing, the significance of recognizing wounds from both mother and father, the process of heart-level forgiveness, and the global impact of their Pure Heart ministry.

Key Points:

• Tom and Donna’s Testimonies: Both experienced abuse, confusion, and broken homes, leading to a search for identity and longing for love.

• The Power of God's Pursuit: Both Tom and Donna encountered God unexpectedly and experienced deep transformation as they surrendered to Him.

• Healing the Father & Mother Wound: The conversation unpacks how unmet childhood needs impact identity and adult relationships.

• Forgiveness Process: Donna shares a practical, step-by-step journey to forgiving from the heart, including how it doesn’t always mean reconciliation.

• Moving Forward in Ministry: Pure Heart seminars, training for missionaries, and ripple effects of healing in communities worldwide.

• Identity and Calling: The enemy attacks the areas where God intends to use us most powerfully, yet God redeems and equips us through our greatest wounds.

• Encouragement & Prayer: The Coles and Keri encourage listeners that their pain is not wasted, and lead a prayer for heart healing and a renewed sense of purpose.

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10 Journal Prompts Inspired by This Episode:

1. Reflect on a season when you felt most pursued by God. What changed in your heart as a result?

2. In what ways have the wounds from your parents, or lack thereof, affected your view of yourself?

3. Are there experiences or traumas from your childhood that still impact your sense of identity today?

4. What lies have you believed about yourself because of pain, and how can God’s truth rewrite those narratives?

5. Where do you sense God inviting you to bring him your brokenness and trust Him for healing?

6. Who in your life do you need to truly forgive, even if reconciliation isn’t possible or safe? What emotions arise as you consider this?

7. What would it look like to “loose” your pain to the cross and invite God’s love into that space?

8. Think of a time when the enemy used your greatest wound against you. How might God want to use that same area for His glory?

9. What practical step could you take this week to be more vulnerable with God or with safe people?

10. In your pain and journey toward healing, how have you seen purpose and hope begin to emerge?

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Where to Find More About Tom and Donna Cole:

• Website: Pure Heart Rest

  (Note: It’s pureheart.rest, NOT .com!)

  • Ministry Resources: Free videos, book information, and ministry times are available on their website.

  • Book: “Pure Heart”—a step-by-step guide for heart healing and freedom.

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Call To Action (CTA) for Every Day Royalty Listeners:

Are you ready to step into your identity as a son or daughter of the King? Don’t let pain or your past define your present or your future!

• Reflect using today’s journal prompts to start your journey of healing.

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