EP 8: Feeling Stuck After Betrayal? Here's What to Do.
Ask The Betrayed
Feeling stuck after betrayal? You’re not alone. In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, we unpack what it really means to feel “stuck” in your healing journey—why it happens, what it looks like, and most importantly, how to move forward. We explore: ✅ The signs of being stuck (numbness, looping thoughts, discouragement, going through the motions) ✅ Why trauma can trap betrayed partners in cycles of sadness, worry, and hypervigilance ✅ Practical tools for getting unstuck, including the Feelings Body exercise, journaling prompts, body-based movement, and creative outlets ✅ How to...
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EP 7: The Superpower of Compartmentalization in Betrayal Recovery
Ask The Betrayed
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore a new skill in betrayal recovery — compartmentalization. While extremely harmful to the Betrayed when used by the Unfaithful, compartmentalization can also become a powerful ally in healing when a Betrayed Partner uses it in an intentional way. You’ll discover: • The difference between healthy compartmentalization and harmful avoidance • How to use compartmentalization to regulate emotions and show up as your best self, for yourself and your relationship • Practical and powerful strategies to calm your trauma...
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EP 6: The Boundary Strategy EVERY Betrayed Partner NEEDS
Ask The Betrayed
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae share a powerful new approach to boundaries—one that moves beyond rules and lines in the sand. Instead of focusing on “do this, don’t do that,” this episode helps betrayed partners: ✅ Reclaim their power and choice after betrayal ✅ Create boundaries that protect and empower ✅ Learn how to respond instead of react to triggers ✅ Understand the difference between values-aligned boundaries and reactive “walls” ✅ Break free from settling for crumbs and start designing the life they truly want You’ll hear real stories,...
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EP 5: Hidden Betrayal Trauma Triggers: How to Handle Being Blindsided
Ask The Betrayed
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore the hidden triggers that blindside betrayed partners during recovery. From weddings and social gatherings to seemingly small moments like TV shows, public spaces, and holidays—unexpected triggers can shake your sense of stability. They don’t just talk about the problems—they give you practical tools and real-life strategies to help you reclaim your power in these moments. 🔎 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: ✅ How to build your own “emotional first aid kit” for challenging events ✅ The importance of anchor statements...
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EP 4: Betrayal Trauma: Healing the Disconnection with Yourself
Ask The Betrayed
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae dive into the third stage of betrayal trauma recovery: Post-Traumatic Growth - also known as the Reconnection Phase. This is the season when survivors begin shifting from survival to strength. Sharon and Rae unpack what it means to reconnect not only with others - but also with your truest self. You'll hear personal stories, insights, and practical encouragement for stepping out of safety - your "protection mode" - and into empowered living. Together, they explore: • What post-traumatic growth really looks like • How to move from...
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EP 3: Betrayal Trauma: Navigating Grief After Infidelity
Ask The Betrayed
Grief after infidelity isn’t just about the loss of trust—it’s about mourning the relationship you thought you had. In this powerful episode, we explore the hidden terrain of betrayal trauma grief and mourning that betrayed partners navigate as they continue their journey toward healing and wholeness. For many betrayed partners, the emotional pain is disorienting, isolating, and often invisible to others. And for unfaithful partners, understanding their Betrayed’s grief is essential if real healing is ever going to happen. This episode will help you identify the stages of grief that...
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EP 2: Betrayal Trauma Recovery: Why Safety Must Come First
Ask The Betrayed
If you’ve been shattered by betrayal, you may be asking: Where do I even begin? This episode takes you to the very first step in betrayal trauma recovery—the phase of safety and stabilization. Before you can move toward forgiveness, reconciliation, or even understanding, you need something much more urgent: ground beneath your feet. In this episode, we explore what safety actually means in the context of betrayal. We talk about the importance of emotional, relational, and practical stabilization—and how this phase can’t be rushed. You’ll learn why partners often feel overwhelmed,...
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EP 1: Life After Betrayal: Honest Talk with Two Experts
Ask The Betrayed
Welcome to the very first episode of Ask The Betrayed, where Sharon and Rae create a safe, honest, and deeply compassionate space for those navigating betrayal trauma. In this episode, you'll meet your hosts—Sharon, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and APSATS-certified trauma specialist, and Rae, a Certified Life, Relationship, and Divorce Recovery Coach. Together, they share their personal and professional journeys of healing after relational betrayal, and the critical need for betrayed partners to seek support that is specifically trained in betrayal trauma. You’ll hear: • Why not all...
info_outlineGrief after infidelity isn’t just about the loss of trust—it’s about mourning the relationship you thought you had.
In this powerful episode, we explore the hidden terrain of betrayal trauma grief and mourning that betrayed partners navigate as they continue their journey toward healing and wholeness. For many betrayed partners, the emotional pain is disorienting, isolating, and often invisible to others. And for unfaithful partners, understanding their Betrayed’s grief is essential if real healing is ever going to happen.
This episode will help you identify the stages of grief that follow betrayal, understand why they matter, and begin to make sense of your emotional landscape.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why grief is a normal and necessary response to betrayal trauma
• How mourning the loss of what you believed was true is part of healing
• What “ambiguous grief” is and what that means for your healing
• The ways unacknowledged grief can sabotage relational repair
• What both partners can do to make space for grieving without getting stuck
• How to begin healing in a way that honors—not bypasses—your pain
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