The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn how to help their Betrayed partners heal). We hope to fulfill a great need for betrayed partners to hear professionals who have personally experienced the deep traumatic pain of betrayal: Ask the Betrayed not only provides expert insight, it is hosted by two Betrayed Partners in long-term recovery from Betrayal Trauma, Sharon and Rae, who both specialize in helping Betrayed Partners, the Unfaithful and Couples recover from betrayal:
- Sharon is a Licensed Therapist and Certified Professional Coach who is certified in betrayal trauma and, along with her husband, James Annear (@AskTheUnfaithful)
- Rae is a Master Certified Life, Relationship and Divorce coach
Ask the Betrayed airs every other week, alternating with it's companion channel, Ask the Unfaithful (@asktheunfaithful)
EP 3: Betrayal Trauma: Navigating Grief After InfidelityGrief after infidelity isn’t just about the loss of trust—it’s about mourning the relationship you thought you had. In this powerful episode, we explore the hidden terrain of betrayal trauma grief and mourning that betrayed partners navigate as they continue their journey toward healing and wholeness. For many betrayed partners, the emotional pain is disorienting, isolating, and often invisible to others. And for unfaithful partners, understanding their Betrayed’s grief is essential if real healing is ever going to happen. This episode will help you identify the stages of grief that follow betrayal, understand why they matter, and begin to make sense of your emotional landscape. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why grief is a normal and necessary response to betrayal trauma • How mourning the loss of what you believed was true is part of healing • What “ambiguous grief” is and what that means for your healing • The ways unacknowledged grief can sabotage relational repair • What both partners can do to make space for grieving without getting stuck • How to begin healing in a way that honors—not bypasses—your pain 🔔 Please subscribe for new episodes 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: [email protected] 📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Unfaithful (@AskTheUnfaithful on YouTube) 👇 We'd love to hear what resonated most for you - or you can ask your question for a future episode. Please leave your comment below! 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. /episode/index/show/f188a81e-3476-434b-91e4-415e2c046e37/id/37159440
EP 2: Betrayal Trauma Recovery: Why Safety Must Come FirstIf you’ve been shattered by betrayal, you may be asking: Where do I even begin? This episode takes you to the very first step in betrayal trauma recovery—the phase of safety and stabilization. Before you can move toward forgiveness, reconciliation, or even understanding, you need something much more urgent: ground beneath your feet. In this episode, we explore what safety actually means in the context of betrayal. We talk about the importance of emotional, relational, and practical stabilization—and how this phase can’t be rushed. You’ll learn why partners often feel overwhelmed, lost, or disconnected from themselves during this stage, and how to begin reclaiming your voice and power in the midst of relational chaos. We’ll look at: • Why safety is non-negotiable for betrayed partners • What “stabilization” actually looks like (emotionally, relationally, and practically) • Why rushing the healing process leads to deeper pain • How betrayed partners can reclaim their voice and autonomy in this crucial early stage This is the groundwork. The place you return to when everything else feels like too much. Whether you’re in the middle of the chaos or just starting to understand what happened—this episode is for you. 👍 Like, Subscribe, and Leave a Comment below to share what resonated most—or ask your question for a future episode. 📬 Reach out: [email protected] 🎧 Find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. /episode/index/show/f188a81e-3476-434b-91e4-415e2c046e37/id/36964045
EP 1: Life After Betrayal: Honest Talk with Two ExpertsWelcome to the very first episode of Ask The Betrayed, where Sharon and Rae create a safe, honest, and deeply compassionate space for those navigating betrayal trauma. In this episode, you'll meet your hosts—Sharon, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and APSATS-certified trauma specialist, and Rae, a Certified Life, Relationship, and Divorce Recovery Coach. Together, they share their personal and professional journeys of healing after relational betrayal, and the critical need for betrayed partners to seek support that is specifically trained in betrayal trauma. You’ll hear: • Why not all therapy is created equal for betrayal trauma recovery • The role of APSATS-trained professionals • The power of speaking your truth and finding the right support • Personal insights on the early stages of healing and rediscovering yourself • Real talk on hope, grief, strength, and happiness—no matter what your relationship outcome is 💬 Quote from this episode: "The worst version of the tragedy would be if I saved my marriage and lost myself in the process." Whether you’re in a relationship working toward restoration or walking the painful path of separation, this episode is full of wisdom, hope, and validation for wherever you are in your journey. 🔔 Please subscribe for new episodes 💌 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching and therapy help including intensive with Sharon and James, please email us: [email protected] 📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Unfaithful (@AskTheUnfaithful on YouTube) 👇 We'd love to hear from you. Please leave your comment below. /episode/index/show/f188a81e-3476-434b-91e4-415e2c046e37/id/36813080
