Ep. 58 Rewriting Your Beliefs After Divorce – How to Break Free and Move Forward
Release Date: 06/04/2025
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info_outlineIn this powerful solo episode, Ang returns from a rejuvenating holiday with fresh energy and a transformative message for women navigating life after divorce. Today’s topic: the hidden forces shaping your life—your beliefs—and how you can break free from the limiting stories that hold you back.
Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or already moving toward your next chapter, this episode is a roadmap for unlocking the confident, worthy, and fulfilled version of yourself that’s waiting to emerge.
Ang shares actionable strategies to identify and reframe limiting beliefs, explores the link between mindset and reality, and walks you through how to use affirmations, visualization, and small consistent actions to create lasting change.
This episode is for you if you're ready to stop living in the past and start creating your best future yet.
(00:00) Introduction and Welcome
(00:25) Holiday Reflections and Single Parenting
(02:31) The Power of Belief Systems
(06:11) Identifying and Reframing Limiting Beliefs
(10:18) Reinforcing New Beliefs with Affirmations and Visualization
(12:01) Taking Action and Moving Forward
(14:04) Conclusion and Resources
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Your beliefs shape everything—your self-worth, your future, your ability to heal and thrive.
Limiting beliefs like “I’m not lovable” or “I’ll never be happy again” are just stories you’ve told yourself—they’re not facts.
The process to change beliefs involves awareness, reframing, reinforcement, and aligned action.
Tools like affirmations and visualization are not fluff—they work to rewire your mind when practiced consistently.
You have the power to create your next chapter—and it can be better than you ever imagined.
BEST MOMENTS
“Your belief system is like a lens through which you see the world—and it shapes how you think, act, and respond to challenges.”
“Recovery from divorce is about creating your new story, your new life, your new future.”
“It doesn’t matter if you don’t believe your new belief yet—write it down anyway. The belief will catch up to you.”
“Visualize yourself living the life you want as if it’s already happening. Feel it. See it. Believe it.”
“Changing your beliefs is powerful—but nothing happens without action.”
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ABOUT THE PODCAST
Do I Really Hate Men?
Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.
This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.
My mission - to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain, lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed.
NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.
ABOUT THE HOST
Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.
Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.
With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.