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Inside the Mind of Adam: Love, Chaos & Building a Beyond-Monogamy Marriage

Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Release Date: 11/12/2025

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Inside the Mind of Adam: Love, Chaos & Building a Beyond-Monogamy Marriage

Episode Type: QUICKIE
Show: Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

What keeps a man grounded when life, love, and the lifestyle all collide? In this fun, raw, and real QUICKIE, Pris flips the mic on her husband and co-host, Adam, to dig deep into how he balances it all: a fiery wife, a busy podcast, family life, and the ups and downs of non-monogamy.

From jealousy and communication struggles to menopause, ADHD, finances, and the messy moments in marriage, Adam gets vulnerable about what it really takes to stay connected, keep the peace, and grow stronger together. If you’ve ever wondered what makes a relationship survive the chaos of real life and the lifestyle, this one’s for you.

They talk teamwork, love languages, reconnection rituals, emotional self-awareness, and why “meet in the middle” might be the ultimate relationship cheat code. You’ll laugh, relate, and maybe even tear up as Adam shares the heart behind the brand — and why this podcast is so much more than stories and sex talk.

☕ Grab your coffee, your partner, or your favorite toy — this episode is real-life love in the raw.

In This Episode

  • How Adam stays balanced through love, chaos, and menopause
  • The truth about communication and emotional reconnection in long-term relationships
  • Jealousy vs. security in non-monogamy and the lifestyle
  • How teamwork and “meeting in the middle” matter more than chemistry alone
  • Reconnecting after lifestyle events: coffee, food, and real conversations
  • Real talk about finances, stress, and why relationships matter more than money
  • How Beyond Monogamy became a growing community for couples and the curious
  • Adam’s passion for turning this podcast into a lifelong mission for both of them

Top Takeaways

  • Communication beats competition. If you’re trying to “win” an argument, you both lose.
  • Meet in the middle. Love isn’t always 50/50 — it’s about showing up as a team.
  • Hormones are real. Menopause, cycles, mental health and hormones affect communication and reactions for both partners.
  • Appreciation matters. Small acts of service, physical affection, and words of gratitude stack up over time.
  • Reconnection is a ritual. Post-event coffee dates, debriefs, and honest talks keep you grounded and close.
  • Remember your priorities. Money, jobs, and outside stress come and go — your partner, kids, and core relationships are the real foundation.
  • Honesty over perfection. It’s okay to admit when you’re struggling, shutting down, or needing space — as long as you communicate it.

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