Unfair Swinger Rules: The Boundaries That Break Couples
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
Some swinger rules sound great… until you actually have to live with them. In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into the most common unfair rules in swinging and ethical non-monogamy — the ones couples swear will “protect the relationship” but often do the exact opposite. From “no feelings allowed” to approval rules, same-room-only forever, no single guys, and the classic double standards where one partner can do things the other can’t, we break down why these rules exist, where they come from, and how they quietly create...
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Unfiltered but Not Unkind: Hard Truths About Swinger Etiquette & Communication
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
Unfiltered but Not Unkind is one of those episodes that needed to happen. In this raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation, Adam & Pris pull back the curtain on the lifestyle behaviors we all quietly side-eye… but rarely say out loud. This isn’t a call-out episode. There’s no rage, no dunking, and definitely no drama farming. Instead, it’s thoughtful honesty, humor, and real talk about swinger etiquette, communication breakdowns, confidence versus self-awareness, and why “just communicate more” is terrible advice when no one explains how. We talk openly about: The difference...
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One-Sided Rules in the Swinger Lifestyle: Insecurity, Control & Communication
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
What happens when the swinger lifestyle starts to feel less like freedom and more like permission? In this raw and honest Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris unpack a listener confession that hits closer to home than most people want to admit: one-sided rules in the lifestyle. The listener describes a dynamic where her husband controls who she can play with, forbids single men, and ultimately restricts her from being with men at all—while she places no rules on him and genuinely wants him to have the best experiences possible. She agrees to the restrictions not because they align with her...
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Non-Monogamy, Attachment & Communication — ft. Sex Therapist Martha Kauppi
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
This episode is a deep, grounded, and powerful conversation. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with relationship and sexuality professional Martha Kauppi, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, educator, and founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy. Martha works at the intersection of intimacy, attachment, nervous system regulation, and relationship patterns — helping people understand not just what’s happening in their relationships, but why it’s happening in their bodies, emotions, and connection styles. Together, we unpack some of the...
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How to Set Up a Gang Bang (Planning, Consent & Fantasy Reality)
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
This Wednesday Quickie goes places. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into a real, unfiltered conversation about how to set up a gang bang — not the porn version, but the actual real-life logistics, planning, communication, and consent that go into making a fantasy like this happen. Pris opens up about a long-standing bucket-list fantasy and makes one thing crystal clear: this experience is about her pleasure, her comfort, and her rules. From hand-selecting participants to making sure everyone understands expectations, boundaries, and consent, this...
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Luxury Lifestyle Cruises Explained: Inside LLV Club’s Adults-Only Travel Experiences
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
If you’ve ever seen photos of adults-only lifestyle cruises or hotel takeovers and thought, “That looks incredible… but also a little intimidating,” this episode is for you. Adam & Pris sit down with Claudia and Pepe Aguirre of LLV Club (Luxury Lifestyle Vacations) to pull back the curtain on what luxury lifestyle travel actually looks like — from cruises and hotel takeovers to immersive, adults-only experiences around the world. LLV Club is known for blending upscale travel, ethical non-monogamy, education, and real community. You’re not just booking a vacation — you’re...
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Swinger 101: Rules, Boundaries, Jealousy & How to Start Safely
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
Welcome to Swinger 101 — the episode we wish every curious couple listened to before jumping into the lifestyle. In this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris break down the real basics of swinging in a way only Beyond Monogamy can: honest, funny, raw, and actually helpful. If you’re brand new, lifestyle-curious, or still Googling questions at 2am, this episode is for you. We cover what swinging really is (and what it absolutely is not), how it differs from open relationships and polyamory, and why swinging is primarily a sexually-focused branch of ethical non-monogamy. From there, we get...
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Non-Monogamy on Your Own Terms: Growth, Jealousy & Freedom with Evita "Lavitaloca" Sawyers
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
What happens when non-monogamy stops being about labels and starts being about lived experience? In this powerful and deeply honest episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we’re joined by speaker, author, and relationship coach Evita “Lavitaloca” Sawyers for a conversation that goes far beyond surface-level polyamory talk. This episode is all about learning how to live non-monogamy on your own terms — not the internet’s, not your partner’s, and definitely not some outdated rulebook you never agreed to in the first place. Evita shares her personal journey from swinging to...
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Instant Gratification in Sex: Why Finishing Fast Isn’t a Failure
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
Is lasting longer in bed really the goal—or have we been getting it wrong this whole time? In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into a topic that gets whispered about but rarely discussed honestly: instant gratification in sex. After a real-life conversation at the club sparked a bigger realization, Adam and Pris unpack why so many people—especially women—actually prefer when sex doesn’t drag on forever. From cultural myths about “five-minute men” to the surprising confidence boost that comes from making someone finish fast,...
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Polyamory, Jealousy, and Boundaries: Making Non-Monogamy Make Sense with Polyphilia
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
Polyamory doesn’t have to be confusing, chaotic, or emotionally overwhelming. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with award-winning sex and relationships educator Leanne Yau—the brilliant mind behind Poly Philia Blog—to unpack jealousy, boundaries, emotional security, and why non-monogamy isn’t a “phase” or a lack of commitment. Leanne shares how she discovered non-monogamy at a young age, how being cheated on shaped her views of honesty and trust, and why jealousy isn’t the villain people make it out to be. We also dive into boundaries,...
info_outlineMental Health & The Lifestyle: Depression, Anxiety, Jealousy & the Parts Nobody Talks About
In this week’s Beyond Monogamy Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris crack open a conversation most lifestyle folks avoid: mental health. From depression that hides behind humor, to feeling unwanted in LS spaces, to the pressure of always “being on” because of content creation, this episode gets raw, honest, and deeply needed.
Adam opens up about a form of depression that doesn’t look like the stereotypical “can’t get out of bed” kind — it looks more like working nonstop, smiling through the storm, and masking with jokes. Pris shares the emotional weight of their poly years, what she kept inside, how depression silently grew, and how finally being honest helped her breathe again.
Together, they break down the emotional side of non-monogamy that impacts self-worth, jealousy, compersion, body image, performance anxiety, rejection, and confidence in the lifestyle. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed in the lifestyle… if you’ve ever questioned your worth… if you’ve ever smiled on the outside while drowning inside… this one’s for you.
💬 Episode Focus: Mental Health & The Lifestyle
In this candid, heartfelt QUICKIE, Adam & Pris dive into the mental and emotional side of ethical non-monogamy and swinging:
- Why mental health struggles are common but rarely talked about in the lifestyle
- What happens when one partner is “more into it” than the other, and depression quietly builds under the surface
- The emotional weight of their poly years and what hiding feelings did to Pris’s mental health
- The heavy feeling of not feeling wanted or noticed at lifestyle events and clubs
- How the lifestyle can sometimes feel like high school all over again — cliques, comparison, and insecurity
- How rejection and “you’re not my type” moments hit self-esteem and confidence
- The pressure of being “on” all the time when you’re known for your podcast and content
- Adam’s personal experience with depression that hides behind humor, productivity, and obsession with work
- Why communication is absolutely crucial when jealousy, compersion, and insecurity show up
- How mental health and sexual health are deeply connected — and why it’s hard to perform when your brain is overloaded
- Why it’s okay (and healthy) to pause, reset, or step back from the lifestyle when life starts “lifing”
The main takeaway? Protect your peace as much as you protect your parts. The lifestyle can be fun as hell, but only if your mind is in a good place while you’re living it.
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If this episode hit close to home and you’re struggling with depression, anxiety, jealousy, or feeling unwanted in the lifestyle, please know:
- You’re not weird. You’re not broken. You’re human.
- Your mental health matters just as much as your sexual exploration.
- It’s okay to step back, slow down, or hit pause when life gets heavy.
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We can’t be your therapists, but we can be your people — a couple who gets it, who’s been through it, and who is willing to talk about the stuff most lifestyle conversations skip.
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