8. Doula vs. Dad? Why Both Roles Matter in the Delivery Room with Dr. Elliot Berlin
Release Date: 06/10/2025
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info_outlineDr. Elliot Berlin, a pregnancy-focused chiropractor and father of four, shares the untold truths about fatherhood, fertility, and birth support. In this episode, he reveals his personal fertility struggles and explains how stress, lifestyle changes, and the autonomic nervous system play a critical role in conception.
This conversation challenges common misconceptions about birth, explores the transformative role of dads, and highlights how partners can create a safe and supportive environment during pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. Dr. Berlin also discusses the science behind oxytocin vs. adrenaline in labor, the game-changing role of doulas, and why postpartum planning is essential for both parents.
In this episode, we discuss:
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What’s the biggest misconception about pregnancy and birth choices?
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How does stress impact fertility, and what can couples do about it?
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Why is the postpartum period so challenging, and how can dads prepare?
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What role should partners play during labor, and why does it matter?
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How do doulas support both the birthing parent and partner?
Dr. Elliot Berlin is an award-winning pregnancy-focused chiropractor with over 20 years of experience in the family wellness industry. Outside of his clinical practice, he dedicates time to his family which includes his wife, Dr. Alyssa Berlin PsyD and their four wonderful kids, and uses his passion for media and entertainment to create engaging and educational content on pregnancy and parenting. While he’s best known for his long running Informed Pregnancy Podcast, his platform now includes Informed Pregnancy +, an entire streaming channel dedicated to all things fertility, pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum.
Learn more about Dr. Elliot Berlin
informedpregnancy.tv (also available on iOS, Android and Roku)
Instagram: @DoctorBerlin