Ghosting, Self-Worth & Good Sex: The Truth About Dating Today
Release Date: 12/02/2025
Why Dating Rules Don’t Work: Relationship Stages, Conflict & Intimacy
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In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why traditional dating rules don’t work and how understanding relationship stages can prevent unnecessary breakups. Starting with a playful debate on being a dog or cat person, Carla explores attachment styles, conflict, and why resentment and poor communication can lead to sexless relationships. This episode emphasizes intentionality, emotional awareness, and honest communication as the foundation for long‑term intimacy. What You’ll Learn Pet preferences reflect personality—not relationship success You don’t need rigid dating rules to date...
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Why Relationships Lose Their Spark: Sex, Boundaries and Emotional Connection
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In this episode, Carla Romo explores modern dating and relationship dynamics, including how men and women often experience sex differently, the role of social media in attraction, and why relationships lose their spark over time. Carla breaks down the importance of boundaries, individuality, and emotional connection, while emphasizing honest communication about intimacy — including conversations around sex toys. This episode offers insight into maintaining curiosity, planning intentional experiences, and reigniting connection in long‑term relationships. What You’ll Learn Men and women...
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Why Dating Feels So Hard Now: Intimidation, Emotional Intelligence and Intimacy
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In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the realities of modern dating — from choosing the right first date outfit to being labeled “intimidating,” navigating today’s dating epidemic, and having honest conversations about sex. Carla explores how emotional intelligence, presence, and clear sexual communication impact attraction, intimacy, and relationship satisfaction. This episode offers clarity around shifting dating dynamics and empowers listeners to communicate their needs without shame. What You’ll Learn First date outfits can set the emotional tone A go‑to outfit helps...
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Why Your Dating Picker Is Off: Attachment Styles, Emotional Intelligence & Dating Patterns
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In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why we’re attracted to the people we choose and how past experiences, attachment styles, and emotional patterns influence our dating “picker.” From awkward first dates to partners pulling away after intimacy, Carla explains how to trust your gut, recognize red flags, and stop confusing attraction with alignment. This episode is a reminder that rejection is not a reflection of your worth — and that you can change your dating patterns. What You’ll Learn Trust your gut — it’s usually right Attraction is not the same as compatibility ...
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Terrible First Dates, Emotional Unavailability & Sexual Compatibility
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Terrible dates don’t define your love life. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why one bad date doesn’t mean you’re the problem, why someone never being in a relationship isn’t automatically a red flag, and how emotional unavailability shows up in dating. In the TACO segment, Carla Romo dives into sexual compatibility: why sex evolves, how communication matters, and why you shouldn’t panic if it’s not amazing the first time. What You’ll Learn Why one bad date doesn’t define your dating journey Why being single for a long time isn’t a red flag How emotional...
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Dating After a Toxic Relationship: Triggers, Red Flags & Setting the Mood
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Modern dating gets complicated fast, especially after a toxic relationship. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why looking someone up before a date can create unnecessary pressure, why “dating to be friends” keeps you stuck, and how old wounds show up as triggers when you start dating again. Carla Romo also shares how to spot real red and green flags and, in the TACO segment, how small things like your environment and vibe can completely shift the mood in intimacy. What You’ll Learn Why Googling someone before a date can backfire Why you’re dating for partnership, not...
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Why You Fall Fast & They Pull Away: Anxious vs. Avoidant Dating Dynamics
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A great date can feel amazing, but attachment style determines what happens next. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why you should never “match their energy,” how anxious and avoidant attachment styles create the fall-fast/pull-away cycle, and how to break out of those patterns. In the TACO segment, Carla Romo explores whether you’re having sex to feel loved or to feel good, and how that choice shapes intimacy and connection. What You’ll Learn Why you shouldn’t “match their energy” — they should match yours How anxious attachment creates chasing and overthinking How...
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Feeling Out of Time: Dating Pressure, Splitting Bills & Comparing Sex to Past Partners
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Dating in your 30s plus can make you feel like you’re running out of time, but Carla Romo is here to shut that down. In this episode, she breaks down why people comment on her marriage, the awkward pressure of splitting the bill, and the fear of “settling”. Carla Romo explains how societal expectations shape self-worth, why emotional intelligence matters, and what it means when the sex isn’t as good as it was with someone from your past. What You’ll Learn Why you feel “out of time” when dating in your 30s How societal pressure influences your dating choices Why comments...
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The #1 Red Flag Everyone Ignores: Why Moving Too Fast Ruins Everything
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Dating nerves are normal, but rushing a connection can wreck it fast. In this episode, Carla breaks down why people feel anxious before dates, how to set healthy boundaries with opposite-sex friends, and the biggest red flag in relationships: moving too quickly. She also unpacks the truth about sexual desire in the TACO segment, asking whether men are really more horny than women and how communication shapes intimacy. What You’ll Learn Why dating nerves are normal (and healthy) How to navigate opposite-sex friendships with boundaries The red flag of moving too quickly and why it...
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Dating Can Suck…Until You Become the Green Flag
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Dating feels messy, confusing, and downright exhausting…until you realize you might actually be the green flag you're looking for. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why modern dating feels so hard and what actually shifts when you date with intention, boundaries, self-worth, and real communication. She shares personal stories, calls out outdated dating “rules,” and dives into the conversations people avoid, especially around sexual health, consent, and pleasure. If you’re tired of red flags, codependent patterns, or waiting hours to text back, this episode gives you the mindset...
info_outlineDating gets a whole lot easier when you stop chasing “the one” and start understanding yourself. In this episode, Carla breaks down the myth of soulmates, the emotional impact of ghosting, and why feeling “not enough” is one of the most common dating blocks. She opens up about self-love, communication, codependency, and how self-worth shapes intimacy. And in the TACO segment, Carla tackles the question everyone’s afraid to ask: Does size actually matter? And explains why confidence and communication matter way more. This conversation gives you the clarity and tools to date from power, not fear.
What You’ll Learn
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Why “the one” is a myth
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How ghosting impacts self-worth
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Why people feel “not enough” in dating
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How communication creates deeper intimacy
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What actually makes sex good (and what doesn’t)
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How self-love fuels better relationships
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Why everyone struggles with worthiness sometimes
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Sound Bites:
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“The one does not exist.”
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“You gotta look in the mirror.”
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“Confidence is going to make a difference.”
Chapters
00:00 The Myth of 'The One'
04:30 Turned Off Understanding Ghosting in Dating
10:18 Block of Not Feeling Good Enough For a Relationship
23:25 TACO: Size and Sexual Confidence
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