13. What is orgasm, anyway?
Positively Sex! with Lila
Hello darlings! This episode is all about The Big O! Climax! Orgasm! Coming! (Or Cumming!) Yes! Yes! Yes! Many of us crave it. Fantasize about it. Jump through hoops to achieve it. But what, exactly, is it? And perhaps more importantly, how do we experience it? For this episode, I took to a sidewalk in San Francisco, a festival in Miami, the HoliGay market in Austin, Texas, my own bedroom, and the tables outside the Standard Hotel in New York City… and spoke with a sex tech expert, a kink activist, a porn creator, a sex party host, a somatics coach, festival-goers, and strangers on the...
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Positively will return! January 19th 2023!
Positively Sex! with Lila
Hello darlings! Positively Sex! is on hiatus for two weeks, & here are three ways you can keep engaging, with pleasure! Coming (and coming) back January 19th. MWAH! See for privacy information.
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Stop Dating Immediately! (until you figure this out)
Positively Sex! with Lila
Do you know your relationship orientation? Relationship scientist, sex researcher, & NYU professor Dr. Zhana Vrangalova shares some controversial new research on gender identity, discusses sexual orientation, bisexuality, and the third category, & lays out the 5 relationship styles for us. Knowing your relationship orientation will change your romantic & sexual life forever. I think you’re ready! See for privacy information.
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The State of Sex Address! [Winter 2022]
Positively Sex! with Lila
The State of Sex Address is a glance around the world, around the U.S., around my community, and inside myself.Taking stock of what I witness, hear, and feel from the media, pop culture, the government, my community, my friends, & me, I address the best sex of my life, reality TV dating, sex ed on social media, abortion rights, ClubQ, & the death of Jina Mahsa Amini and the revolt of women in Iran.Just like the State of the Union, the State of Sex… is always changing. I plan to Address Sex every season (winter, spring, summer, fall) beginning with this, our Winter of 2022. See for...
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HOW TO OVERCOME SEXUAL SHAME!
Positively Sex! with Lila
In this episode, Sexuality Coach Hannah Deindorfer shares something that might change your mind about shame (kink, anyone?), a method of investigating shame with curiosity, and, ultimately, a path to transmuting sexual shame… if that’s what we want to do! Sex is about relationships. To ourselves, to our lovers, to our partners, and, far too often, to the voices in our heads telling us that what we desire is somehow wrong. That’s programming. And we can reprogram! We can upgrade! Hannah shows us how. And that is, indeed, Positively Sex! See for privacy information.
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Sex in... INDONESIA!
Positively Sex! with Lila
This week, Indonesia banned sex before marriage. When the new laws go into effect, anyone caught can be jailed — up to a year for sex, 6 months for living together. Including foreigners. The new criminal code also makes it illegal to: renounce religion. Speak out against the state. Or speak ill of the President. Oh, or get an abortion. Through interviews with four Indonesians hailing from three different islands, this episode explores the sexual landscape of Indonesia, including the consequences of a complete lack of sex ed — rampant HIV, a high rate of teen pregnancies, and a hostile...
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Objectify me (sometimes): a hot! gender-affirming! sex story!
Positively Sex! with Lila
Colin-Alexa (Callie for short) shares the story of their first time going to a sex club solo, getting cruised by a couple, and being a unicorn for the night: the object of desire.Woven through the telling and our discussion are nuanced, and often surprising, revelations about sex & gender, desire & fetishization, how objectification can feel good (in the right context), femininity & exhibitionism, & the deep vulnerability of penetration.As well as a few hot tips about dressing up your package, deep-throating, and rebranding the Walk of Shame! That is Positively...
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How to GET WHAT YOU WANT (IN BED!)
Positively Sex! with Lila
Marcia B., co-founder of Cuddle Party, and Lila discuss desires & fantasies, offers & requests, no’s & negotiations, the difference between boundaries & limits, the crucial question, “Who is this for?” & what makes asking for what you really, really want so. Damn. Vulnerable. See for privacy information.
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THE HOTTEST THING A MAN CAN DO FOR A WOMAN
Positively Sex! with Lila
In this episode, I talk to three heterosexual men, about the hottest thing a man can do for a woman. When I suggest to a friend of mine that she go out with a man, and tell her that he has this, that friend goes “Oooooooo.” See for privacy information.
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It's Hard Out Here for a Slut! {Hot Take Roundtable}
Positively Sex! with Lila
Hot Takes: Straight men are confused right now. Nipples are nipples. WTF Instagram?! About choking tho. BREAKING NEWS! Women can have strong libidos! Positively Sex! began as a live, interactive audio show on the social audio app Clubhouse. During our 12 episodes, my Mod Squad (leaders in a Clubhouse room are called Moderators) and I gathered together with our smart, curious, courageous community to break the taboo, and freely discuss all kinds of tender, titillating, & timely topics. We did this across the country - and the world - from one another. Chi in Seattle, Annie & Gina in...
info_outlineHello darlings! Positively Sex! is on hiatus for two weeks, & here are three ways you can keep engaging, with pleasure! Coming (and coming) back January 19th. MWAH!
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