Episode 129 - Confirmation Bias and how it can affect fertility
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
Release Date: 02/20/2024
Episode 148 - Interview with Kari: How to own your pace and block out “hurry up” culture
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
This week, I interviewed Kari on the Fertile Ground podcast – a woman I’ve never personally worked with – but I admired on social media for years while she so openly navigated trying for baby #2 as an influencer online. Something was different about her… She seemed to give less fucks. She had immense vulnerability, but a ton of confidence. Two qualities that are hard to come by on the TTC journey (and embodying these 2 qualities is something I actively teach women inside of my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery.) I asked to interview her on the podcast because I thought, “MY...
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Episode 147 - LIVE COACHING: Stressed about making the “right” decision?
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
My wonderful client was worrying about making the “right” decision. She was thinking about switching jobs, but had a lot of fears… What if this is the wrong decision? How do I know if it’s the right decision? What if I fuck everything up? How do I know I can trust myself? Today – you’re in for a treat because I’m releasing a 10 minute clip from our Fertility Mind-Body Mastery call for this week’s new Fertile Ground podcast. This will give you a really great idea of what it’s like to be coached by me inside of our group coaching ️You’ll notice that on the...
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Episode 146 - Rediscovering hope after the long haul
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
TTC for years feels… well… unfair, unclear and kinda unbelievable. I’m sure you’ve tried almost everything — but despite your efforts, still find yourself counting yourself out each month. If this is you, you’re gonna want to tune into the newest Fertile Ground podcast… Imagine this: You’ve been on this rollercoaster for years, you’ve peed on the sticks, you’ve taken your temps, you’ve spoken to psychic’s and you’ve kept your feet up high after sex (yup, been there!). But now after years of TTC, you’re not even bothering to do much of what...
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Episode 145 - Interview with Ingrid: How to trust that you're on the right path to baby
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
To the outside world, Ingrid’s life looked organized, normal and joyful – but internally, she was feeling lost, alone and living in her head. After trying fertility teas, frantically researching the “next things to try” and experiencing 2 heartbreaking miscarriages – she knew she needed to try something different that wouldn't cause her more anxiety. Having a scientific, logical perspective on life – Ingrid was curious about my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery but was scared about something… She was worried about the vulnerable piece. She feared what would happen in our...
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Episode 144 - Are you taking action towards your baby, from love or from a wound?
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
Have you ever caught yourself wondering if all the actions you’re taking—doctor visits, acupuncture appts., constant diet adjustments, or endless google/instagram research — is truly helping? Or… are they just distractions from deeper feelings you might have about yourself and your fertility? I spent 8 long years caught in that loop, thinking that if I just did more, I’d finally get what I wanted. But the truth is, it wasn’t about doing more… it was about something MUCH deeper In today’s kick off episode of the new season of the Fertile Ground podcast – we dive...
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Episode 143 - Expanding your nervous system capacity for pregnancy
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
I was coaching my radiantly pregnant (45 year old) mama inside of our FMBM coaching call, and she had been sold the same lie that I was while TTC. That pregnancy (and motherhood) are a walk in the park and that you should be beaming with gratitude 24/7 and that everyday you should feel like you’re JLo in the middle of one of her romance movies. Cute, bubbly, daily blow-out hair style and almost fearless. So when we get pregnant – and we wake up dry heaving with just enough energy to put together a quick bread and cheese sammie, while anxiously anticipating the next...
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Episode 142 - It’s okay to do the fertility journey differently
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
One of the main teachings inside of my book, Fertile Ground, is that: There are 1000’s of different paths you can take to conceive your baby The problem is that we get caught up in how we’re supposed to do it according to culture and the mainstream fertility industry. For example, think about how people usually talk about getting ahead in education and business. Most people will tell you the way to go is to head off to a four-year college and get that degree. But there are tons of other routes, like vocational training, online courses, or just learning on...
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Episode 141 - Healing fertility burnout
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
As you’re reading this email, I’m most likely sleeping, meditating, oracle card reading or listening to 528 Hz beats while going pen to paper This mama needs a break. I need a break away from producing, promoting, posting, doing, blooming. And I ain’t got no shame. After my book launch and a recent death in my family which has left me quite heart broken, my body is feeling burnt out. And to me, that means, I need (not want… need) a retreat inward. Of course, my socialized self is tempted to bypass this very real, very necessary call...
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Episode 140 - The invisible workload of women TTC (and how to get your partner involved)
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
My husband Dan attended a work conference a couple weekends ago in Banff, Alberta. It was a gathering of female physicians with a focus on mental health. I wasn’t there. But it was a shock to Dan that so many women are struggling getting their partners on board with the day to day tasks that make adulting feel so hard. Women do so much. It’s called the “invisible workload” and it encompasses the intangible and often unnoticed tasks and responsibilities involved in managing a household and even more so in your case, the fertility journey. ...
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Episode 139 - I'm sharing my mom with you in this podcast. She has such fertile wisdom to share with you!
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
I see you. Way more than you know. You have done so much to try and create this baby. You are so determined, so passionate and so brilliant. You deserve to be celebrated on this day (if not MORE) than a mother with 3 kids. In my eyes, Mother’s day is for YOU! To make you feel special and seen, I recorded a special podcast with one of my favorite people in the world… my mama! Tracy Lucas ❤️ She held such beautiful space for me on my fertility journey, so I thought — Why not share her with you? Why would I keep her all to...
info_outlineI watched the Super Bowl with my family a couple weekends ago and I noticed that the members of my family that were cheering for San Francisco (Not Taylor Swift’s BF’s team) had to go on and on about how much air time Taylor got and how she was annoyingly interacting with her friends. (HOW DARE SHE?!)
Me, my mom and my husband were cheering for Kansas City. So we were loving watching her celebrate and enjoy herself. She was acting like a completely normal human being watching someone they love play an important football game.
What the members of my family have is called a: Confirmation Bias.
Which means, human brains actively search for evidence to validate their current beliefs.
IE, “I want Kansas City to lose = Taylor Swift is annoying.” Even if she’s really not. But our brains and our ego’s would rather be right, than see the truth.
A confirmation bias plays out often in the fertility journey and can be a very sneaky, subconscious way to resist the change that brings us closer to our babies.
FOR EXAMPLE:
Let’s say you have the super common perfectionist belief that: “I’m not doing enough to get pregnant.”
Despite this belief, you start making small changes in your life to improve your mental and physical health. You’re more present, you have more energy, you’re more connected with your partner, and you’ve even started going on daily walks. You feel sooo good and at peace. But then… you get your period. Even though you have evidence in your mind and body that you’ve never felt better and you’re making so much progress, your locked in confirmation bias of “I’m not doing enough.” kicks into full gear. And you fall back to square 1.
The confirmation bias belief is what actually runs the show. Because it will always look for evidence to be RIGHT, instead of letting go of the ego, and entering into the uncertain territory of pregnancy.
This is SO IMPORTANT to become aware of, so I recorded a podcast on it: Confirmation bias and how it affects fertility.
And I even share ways to change this, in simple, powerful steps. Listen now!