Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
How to solve your fertility struggles, finally get pregnant, and become the mama-bear you know you are…with a mind-body method proven to increase you chances of pregnancy by 55%. This is the place to slow down your day, feel your feelings, and shift that dark cloud in your mind to a healthy, happy desire. Because getting mind and body on board is your best path to “baby on board.”
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Episode 135 - Can self-compassion heal inflammation in the body?
04/18/2024
Episode 135 - Can self-compassion heal inflammation in the body?
We all want to love ourselves. But have we ever thought to ask WHY? The truth is that “self-love” isn’t just about you being a good girl who should be nice to herself. There’s waaaayyyyyy more of an exciting benefit to self-love than that — which is why I recorded this weeks podcast on this particular topic that you’re NOT going to want to miss. It’s important for you to know the fertility-enhancing benefits of self-love so that you can feel encouraged and motivated to make the relationship you have with yourself, the most important one. There are many health and happiness benefits to shifting your blame and shame for feelings of self-love, particularly in the subject of self-compassion. Compassion comes up a lot on the fertility journey, because compassion is often high-lighted as a response we have to ourselves in times of challenge and difficulty. It’s sad to admit, but we are a culture who normally kicks ourselves when we’re down. We don’t feel self-compassion to be productive. But again, it extends beyond the benefit of it being just a feel-good concept. The latest research on the connection between shame and inflammation/auto-immunity challenges: Auto-immunity refers to a condition where the body's immune system mistakenly targets and attacks its own tissues. Autoimmunity often involves inflammation because the immune system's attacks trigger inflammation in the affected tissues. Health experts are noticing a correlation between shame and inflammation within the body. Auto-immunity is when the body attacks itself. Shame is when the human psyche attacks itself. ❤️Self-compassion offers the mind AND the body relief from this mistaken attack ❤️ You DO NOT WANT TO MISS this weeks podcast: Can self-compassion heal inflammation in the body? (Hint: The answer is YES! 😆) You’ll learn more about the exciting benefits of self-compassion and exactly how to begin your journey towards it, to enhance your health, happiness and fertility. LISTEN NOW!
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Episode 134 - The spirit of your baby chooses YOU!
03/26/2024
Episode 134 - The spirit of your baby chooses YOU!
Chances are, there’s a totally untrue hierarchy between you and your baby that’s swirling around in your head. Here’s how the ego’s playing this mental story out: Your baby is HIGH up on the pedestal. Maybe even wearing a crown with jewels sipping on the most delicious nectar of milk. And you’re at the bottom, exhausted, trying to claw your way up with all the energy you have. You’re looking up hoping you can earn your worth to them by doing all the things (and doing them with precise perfection) to prove how bad you want it. And this my love… is totally unnecessary. Why? Because you are already insanely loved by the spirit of your baby. They ALREADY chose you – out of 4 billion other women in the world. They want the authentic version of you to be their mother… not the perfect one. And… they want you to see this for yourself. Listen to this weeks podcast to explore this topic further: The spirit of your baby chooses YOU. It will paint the picture of what’s REALLY happening behind the scenes, so you can let go of earning something you already fucking have.
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Episode 133 - How real life women TTC let go of their built up fertility shame
03/19/2024
Episode 133 - How real life women TTC let go of their built up fertility shame
I used to think my shame was a reaaaallllly good protector of judgment. I used to think, “If I just listened to the orders of my shame – stayed small, pretended everything was fine, kept it all inside – then I wouldn’t have to face judgment.” Meaning, if I silenced my true thoughts and feelings, then no one would know how broken I am. But I was never broken, despite shame making me feel that way. And I never felt more loved then when I let go of my shame, opened my heart and let my authentic feelings be seen and heard. There is nothing more healing than this to the mind and body liberated from the chains of shame. It helps to see how this plays out IRL, so I’m sharing an interview with 2 of my former Fertility Mind-Body Mastery members Marcie and Emily. I interviewed them in a retreat last year on how they shed their shame – and the outer results that came from the inner transformation. It’s kinda mind-blowing what happened! On this weeks podcast: How real life women TTC let go of their built up fertility shame -- you’ll learn: Why shedding your shame creates a deeper connection in your marriage. How it can inspire life-changing change, like a career switch to your dream job. How Fertility Mind-Body Mastery makes it easier for you to safely let go of your shame and feel worthy of exactly who you are, in all of your imperfections… Why human support is needed for our survival. What it’s like to be inside of my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. What happens? How does it feel? What’s it like to be in a group container like this? How much time do you get to be coached? All these answers are inside the podcast. Listen now!
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Episode 132 - Guided Meditation: How to cultivate a feeling of enoughness.
03/12/2024
Episode 132 - Guided Meditation: How to cultivate a feeling of enoughness.
Today’s new Fertile Ground podcast is a free gift for you! A free meditation: How to cultivate a feeling of enoughness. Listen if you want to feel enough and worthy of your baby, now. No more proving. Let’s embed this truth into all the cells of your body. You can listen to it here. I wanna ask a favor of you… If you appreciate the Fertile Ground podcast and how it’s helped you, it would be so helpful for you to leave a quick review on iTunes. The fertility industry is loud with noise on all the things you need to do to change, fix, and perfect yourself. This space - The Fertile Ground Podcast - is the relief all women TTC need. Your review will help it to get seen. You can leave a brief review here Tips for an effortless review: Don’t overthink it. Speak from your heart. Keep it simple. Prompts: What do you want other women TTC to know about what the journey can feel like? How does the podcast make YOU feel? What does it bring to the TTC journey that’s missing? So grateful to you. Enjoy the meditation!
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Episode 131 - Your pain wants to heal you. Here’s how to let it.
03/05/2024
Episode 131 - Your pain wants to heal you. Here’s how to let it.
Vulnerability share: I had a really hard few days last week. For the first time in what felt like forever, I had a lot bubble up inside of my body. At first, I resisted. I pouted. I complained. (Like any other human does at the feeling of deep feels.) But then… eventually… I surrendered. It got me thinking… My God… us human beings have this massive capability of feeling emotions inside of our bodies. To help guide us and process our life experiences. To literally help us become healthier. Admittedly, it’s very hard to feel it. It’s uncomfortable to be present with your sadness, your grief, your anger. It takes self-worth to create enough space in your life, to process, cry and witness what wants to come up. On top of this really hard part of being a human, we are taught to believe that these aspects of ourselves are wrong. Bad. Maybe we even believe they rise up because we aren’t “good enough” at managing things. And it’s so not true. I realized in my experience that pain is so healthy. Pain is so natural. Pain is healing in motion. It helped me to discover so much about myself, about my life, about what my body needed, about what I can change for the better. Although it did not feel like it at the time, it was a total gift from God. We all feel these intense emotions. They are nothing to be ashamed of. It’s the price of being a human being. So why not just feel them? I released a new podcast today: Your pain wants to heal you. Here’s how to let it. It’s to show you how to create enough safety within your mind and body to say yes, the next time your body is ready to feel the more difficult emotions. You’re not alone in having them. There’s nothing wrong with you for having them. You are safe to feel them. Listen now.
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Episode 130 - How to handle setbacks and frustrations around time while TTC
02/27/2024
Episode 130 - How to handle setbacks and frustrations around time while TTC
Time is at the core of so much suffering when you’re TTC. So it only makes sense for me to devote an entire free podcast to it, to alleviate the panic it’s causing you. My view point: I’m probably the world’s most impatient person. When I want something, I want it now. I’m even annoyed at it needing to take a whole damn day for Amazon to send me my shit! But… I’ve learned to both accept and shift this aspect of myself. My fertility journey taught me exactly how to develop a new relationship with time. Questions for ya: What if time wasn’t the royal pain the ass you think it is? What if time wanted to offer you more than a baby? (Would you say yes?) What if the setbacks and the change of plans are because the Universe is orchestrating every-fucking-perfect-detail behind the scenes, to give you 1. What you want, but also 2. An even better life than you had planned? Time isn’t against you. Time will, however, feel like and become what you perceive it as. Your relationship with time is not set in stone. Time is not a fixed, set, hard aspect of reality. It’s 100% malleable. Time expands and is incredibly generous, when you expand your perception of it. You have a healthy sense of control on how you respond to the unfolding nature of time. Particularly, on your fertility journey. And I’m going to offer you a new relationship with time in this weeks brand new Fertile Ground Podcast: How to handle setbacks and frustrations around time while TTC. Stop suffering from the illusion of time that culture has wrongly placed on us. Be open to what time is here – right now – to offer you inside of this podcast. Listen now!
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Episode 129 - Confirmation Bias and how it can affect fertility
02/20/2024
Episode 129 - Confirmation Bias and how it can affect fertility
I watched the Super Bowl with my family a couple weekends ago and I noticed that the members of my family that were cheering for San Francisco (Not Taylor Swift’s BF’s team) had to go on and on about how much air time Taylor got and how she was annoyingly interacting with her friends. (HOW DARE SHE?!) Me, my mom and my husband were cheering for Kansas City. So we were loving watching her celebrate and enjoy herself. She was acting like a completely normal human being watching someone they love play an important football game. What the members of my family have is called a: Confirmation Bias. Which means, human brains actively search for evidence to validate their current beliefs. IE, “I want Kansas City to lose = Taylor Swift is annoying.” Even if she’s really not. But our brains and our ego’s would rather be right, than see the truth. A confirmation bias plays out often in the fertility journey and can be a very sneaky, subconscious way to resist the change that brings us closer to our babies. FOR EXAMPLE: Let’s say you have the super common perfectionist belief that: “I’m not doing enough to get pregnant.” Despite this belief, you start making small changes in your life to improve your mental and physical health. You’re more present, you have more energy, you’re more connected with your partner, and you’ve even started going on daily walks. You feel sooo good and at peace. But then… you get your period. Even though you have evidence in your mind and body that you’ve never felt better and you’re making so much progress, your locked in confirmation bias of “I’m not doing enough.” kicks into full gear. And you fall back to square 1. The confirmation bias belief is what actually runs the show. Because it will always look for evidence to be RIGHT, instead of letting go of the ego, and entering into the uncertain territory of pregnancy. This is SO IMPORTANT to become aware of, so I recorded a podcast on it: Confirmation bias and how it affects fertility. And I even share ways to change this, in simple, powerful steps. Listen now!
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Episode 128 - Honoring your capacity on the fertility journey
02/13/2024
Episode 128 - Honoring your capacity on the fertility journey
Of course you have a HUGE, valid desire to get pregnant and have a beautiful, healthy baby. I would even guess that you had goals BEFORE your TTC journey and you will have goals AFTER it. (Believe it or not, this chapter of your life will not last forever. Phew!) Culturally, we talk a lot about desire. But we haven’t been taught to value our capacity to pursue our desires. Capacity is your body’s ability to experience and metabolize sensation. Depending on the day, your capacity to check things off the ‘optimal fertility list’ varies. There are environmental, hormonal, seasonal, physical, mental and emotional factors (and many more) that come into play. Because, well… you’re a human and NOT a robot. Yet, we’re still conditioned to pressure and push our bodies to perform at peak performance. And if not, we feel ashamed. Mama bear, there is another way. An alternative: To honor BOTH desire and capacity. And to get to where you wanna go, faster. Desire is of the mind. Capacity is of the body. A strong mind-body connection takes into account both. Which is so freaking ideal for fertility. I recorded a podcast on this topic because learning about your capacity is one of the clearest ways to depict and more importantly integrate… a mind AND body connection. (That is proven to increase your fertility by up to 55%.) My job is finding more simple ways to make sense of the fertility journey for you. And this podcast paints the picture beautifully. Listen now! It will be especially important for you, if you’re feeling burnt out, exhausted and unable to rest.
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Episode 127 - Listen to this if you’re constantly worrying about “HOW” you’re going to get pregnant.
02/06/2024
Episode 127 - Listen to this if you’re constantly worrying about “HOW” you’re going to get pregnant.
I think many women (myself included) have had this perfectionist fantasy that you’ll someday have this AHA moment and you’ll be like… “Omg. Yes! This is HOW I’m going to conceive my baby!” …But it doesn’t come. I certainly did not have this level of certainty as to HOW it was going to happen. Neither do my clients. Yet, we’ve found a way to let go of the ”how drama.” Because you are not meant to know exactly HOW your baby is going to come. The “how drama” is exactly what keeps you distracted from doing the basic work that teaches you to: - Know your worth… regardless of pregnancy status. - Take incredible care of your mind and body. - Take action that feels much more like a curious experiment (instead of a life or death situation.) - Be present on the ride of your life. (Plus - the reality is that there are 1000’s of different paths to your baby. Trying to narrow it down to just one is like squeezing all the juice out of the possibility that’s available to you.) The HOW is not important. Once you realize this, you’re getting so much closer to your baby. Listen to this week’s podcast to let go of the HOW drama and build serious clarity towards your right next step
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Episode 126 - Are you self-aware but still so stuck?
01/30/2024
Episode 126 - Are you self-aware but still so stuck?
Are you super self-aware? Like, you’ve learned what you like about yourself and you’ve learned what you don’t like — but still feel so stuck and can’t seem to change? Rewind back a few years and this was so me. So self-aware yet so stuck. This is a frustrating place to be on the fertility journey. Because I would see people who were so unaware, so unreflective, so inconsiderate… get pregnant easily. And it didn’t make sense why I was still struggling with all the awareness I had of myself, my body and my life. Here’s the truth: You have a huge heart. You’re self-aware and you’ve got a lot of love and a lot of integrity. But awareness clearly isn’t enough. You need to learn how to harness this awareness, this love and this intelligence in a way that offers you grace in the journey of self-discovery — in a WORLD constantly telling you that you’re falling short. Cue the missing piece of this "awareness equation.” How do you RESPOND to what you learn about yourself? This is what we’re talking about on this weeks podcast: Are you self-aware but still so stuck? When you learn something new about yourself, do you respond with: Shameful Self-Awareness? IE. “Oh wow. Now it all makes sense. What a terrible quality to have. Why am I so awful? This is why you’re not pregnant yet. Get your shit together already. I knew something was wrong with me.” Or Compassionate Self-Awareness? IE. “Oh wow. Now it makes sense. I’m sad to know that I’ve been living this way. But I’m also feeling okay to offer myself understanding while I navigate this difficult thing – that’s not fully in my control. I’m okay to feel how I feel. I’m not wrong. I’m human.” Beyond aiding your emotional well-being, studies show that self-compassionate awareness is way more conducive to creating change, but also has a huge impact on your physical health—lower stress levels, improved immune function, better health behaviors, and even reduced inflammation related to auto-immune disorders. It’s a win-win. Spark a new relationship with yourself and improve your fertility along the way. Listen now!
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Episode 125 - Bridging the gap between the physical + spiritual when your TTC
01/23/2024
Episode 125 - Bridging the gap between the physical + spiritual when your TTC
I’m over the moon to share with you my interview with my remarkable client Sumathi. She’s TTC, she’s a physician AND she’s deeply spiritual. It’s the most refreshing conversation for any woman trying to conceive, because we deep dive into the topic of bridging the gap between the obsession over the physical body and the spiritual magic and mystery that exists on the journey to your baby that you just can’t deny. Sometimes in our culture, it can feel delusional to explore that spiritual-like gut feeling that you have, that you will one day become a mother. Listening to this conversation, you’re going to find comfort and safety to both: Explore and Trust this undeniable aspect on the fertility journey. In this weeks podcast: How to bridge the gap between the physical + the spiritual while TTC, you’re gonna learn how to: Establish a connection to your spirit (and the spirit of your baby.) Give yourself permission to explore a path to your journey that actually feels good, comforting and safe. Take the tiniest, smallest step to creating a spiritual foundation on your fertility journey. Overcome the regrets you might have gathered while TTC. (IE. “I should have tried sooner. I wish I’d done things differently.”) How spirituality actually supports your physical body and nervous system. My greatest wish for you is to receive so much healing just by listening. It’s so very, very powerful. Listen now!
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Episode 124 - Attraction vs. Chase
01/16/2024
Episode 124 - Attraction vs. Chase
Remember the dating world? What would you do with someone you really liked, but then they called you 5 times the next day and you noticed that they liked the last 20 pictures you posted on instagram? OR What would you do after walking into a store you adore but then became followed by a pushy sales person trying to convince you get something you didn’t even like? Anyone and everyone would run in the other direction. Because when people are trying to find their sense of self-worth in us, we are naturally turned off by it. And we are incredibly attracted, even pulled towards — without conscious thought — to a person, place or thing who doesn’t need us in order to be okay. This kind of confidence is soooo damn attractive. And even, magnetic. The same rule of thumb applies to your TTC journey. Which is why I wanna introduce today’s podcast: Attraction vs. Chase I’m gonna teach you how to attract, pull towards YOU and receive (not even create, but RECEIVE) the life, the HOW, the joy that is meant for you (baby included) inside of this week’s podcast. Picture this: a fulfilling life, beyond your fertility journey. Despite not being pregnant yet, you have never felt more at home with yourself. You show up to family events like a boss. Not because there’s no drama, but because you DGAF about the drama anymore. You’re killing it in your career. Your marriage is sexy as hell. Your connection to spirit is as strong as steel. Life isn’t perfect, but you’ve never felt more comfortable in your own skin — even if you’re not pregnant yet. And this all came about, mostly from who you decided to become, not because you decided to “do more.” The baby becomes a cherry on top. This is the dream. This is the life. This is what I’m gonna teach you in this week’s podcast. Listen now!
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Episode 123 - 3 unconventional ways to increase fertility that you WON’T find on Google
01/09/2024
Episode 123 - 3 unconventional ways to increase fertility that you WON’T find on Google
It was about 4:30pm and I decided to go for a freezing cold walk to move the energy that gathered up inside me through the day. In Edmonton, Alberta Canada where I live, it actually begins to get dark at this time of day. And it was a weekish before Christmas so the neighborhood decor was starting to light up. Kinda perfect. On this very normal, very unsexy, very “so what, it’s just a walk” kinda exercise, it made me realize that some of life’s most simple to-do’s, are the most effective for physical and mental health. But we undervalue them because we don’t feel worthy of what we want when life feels easy. So I decided to pull out my phone on this walk and record a podcast on: The 3 most unconventional ways to increase fertility that you will not find on google. Because speaking from experience, these 3 ways are what finally moved the needle towards happiness + baby. I guarantee that you will not find them on that “get pregnant fast” fertility forum. (And I promise, diet is NOT one of them.) Perhaps this is a year of simplicity for you. Maybe you are choosing ease on the journey to your baby and are tired of how hard things have been. If so, have a listen here. It’s short, sweet and easy. Maybe that’s what the spirit of your baby is wishing for you <3
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Episode 122 - Failures, fireworks, and an imperfect fertility journey!
12/05/2023
Episode 122 - Failures, fireworks, and an imperfect fertility journey!
Sarah says, “I came into the program with this story. This heavy story of someone who’s failed. I completely closed my heart off to what’s possible so that I didn’t have to open my heart up to more loss.” – and omg I don’t know about you… but I could totally relate to that statement. Before the program, Sarah thought she was feeling things. She thought she was present. She was meditating/journaling and doing the things. But she realized that so many perfectionism tendencies were diluting the medicinal properties of everything she was doing. She expected fireworks after her meditations. And if it wasn’t happening, it wasn’t enough. Which is exactly the voice of perfectionism and is such a distraction from change. This was something she needed to work on, for her efforts to take full effect. What you’ll learn on today’s podcast is that Sarah is not pregnant yet — but she’s realized that pregnancy is not her #1 goal. “So much wisdom has been uncovered in the process of this program. And if I’m gonna be a mother, I want to impart everything that I’m currently learning onto my future child.” She says. She’s gained this incredibly compassionate perspective of everything that she’s been through on her fertility journey. She learned that she is NOT a failure, but that she is “dedicated as fuck” to herself, her joy and of course, her baby. And she can’t wait to teach this to her future child. You wanna hear what it’s like to have this type of kind perspective to yourself while TTC? Listen now!
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Episode 121 - How Kristen found her own “right” path to her baby and how YOU can find yours...
11/28/2023
Episode 121 - How Kristen found her own “right” path to her baby and how YOU can find yours...
I interview my client Kristen on today’s Fertile Ground podcast and you just GOTTA listen to her story! When Kristin joined Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, her brain was so loud that she couldn’t even hear herself think. She was filled with anger. At herself. At her fertility journey. She was mad at the world for not having her baby easily and as fast as everyone else she knew. She had so many thoughts about what she “should” do to get pregnant and had so many feelings that she didn’t let herself feel. Her main vibe before joining was “just keep pushing through.” She decided to invest in herself and join Fertility Mind-Body Mastery to #1: Not feel so angry and finally feel some relief. And 2. To truly connect with herself to learn her own “right” path to her baby. In the podcast, she talks about: all the sneaky ways your monkey mind tries to stop you from giving yourself what you need. what does it mean to “connect with yourself.” What does this look like in real life and what’s the benefit? why you don’t need to have crazy high and positive belief that baby is coming. She tells you what to do instead… She is now 23 weeks pregnant and got pregnant half way through her time inside the program!
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Episode 120 - How a year can change your life (and fertility journey)
11/14/2023
Episode 120 - How a year can change your life (and fertility journey)
Have you heard that Tony Robbins' quote: "Most people overestimate what they can do in a year, and underestimate what they can do in 2 or 3 decades."? Here's my version, tailored for you, the strong and determined woman on the path to motherhood: Most women TTC overestimate what they can do in 1 or 2 months, and underestimate what they can do in 1 year. If you're a sensitive visionary who can almost taste the vision for your baby-filled life during meditations, you know the feeling. You have this gorgeous vision – whether it's your journey to your baby or a career aspiration – but when things don't go exactly as planned OR happen overnight, the temptation to give up is real. It’s easy to lose all hope and momentum, especially if you're a perfectionist. But what if a failure isn’t what’s really happening behind the scenes? What if it’s all just starting to come together, but you can’t see it physically yet? … And that gifting your dream of finally getting pregnant time and SPACE could be your greatest ally? Not involuntary time and space. VOLUNTARY. And that doing this will make time feel shorter, NOT longer. In the latest Fertile Ground podcast episode: How a year can change your life AND fertility journey – I explore how embracing these factors can transform your journey and make it so much easier for your dream to land here physically. You’ll learn about: The power of giving your desire space: How space provides clarity and actually reduces the pressure to conceive ASAP. The art of adaptation: Why space is essential for nurturing your desires AND overall well-being. Space and resilience: How it helps you find balance, form meaningful connections, and celebrate all the progress you make along the way. (It’s happening, even if you don’t see it yet). December is fast approaching and it can be a tough time for couples TTC. I want you to know that A LOT can happen in a year, especially with the right attunement to your mind-body and a loving commitment to create space for your desire to be a mama.
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Episode 119 - How to stop “shoulding” yourself pregnant
11/07/2023
Episode 119 - How to stop “shoulding” yourself pregnant
“I should be more disciplined.” “I shouldn’t be feeling sad.” “I should have more hope.” “I shouldn’t eat this piece of bread.” When you’re TTC, the “shoulding" is endless. …about what you should do to optimize conception. But more deeply rooted, about how you should feel. Although you think the shoulding part of your brain might be the voice that “keeps you on track”… The only track we keepin’ on with this voice… is one of constant self-rejection. Mama bear, your feelings and emotions on this journey, are so valid. The sadness, the fatigue, the disappointment, the desire to stop dieting… it’s ALL valid. Is there room for change? Sure — but this is found INSIDE of validation and compassion for where you’re at FIRST. A deep spiritual paradox is that acceptance = change. So how do you offer this to yourself? How do you reframe the narrative of this “shoulding” tyrant in your brain? I recorded a podcast on it “How to Stop Shoulding Yourself” to better help you understand: Where shoulding comes from. How to reframe this constant nagging of not enoughness. And simple steps you can take today to give yourself more compassion and in turn, increase fertility. Listen now!
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Episode 118 - What money and fertility have in common
10/10/2023
Episode 118 - What money and fertility have in common
I’m interviewing my money coach and friend – Serena Hicks – on today’s Fertile Ground Podcast. I love her. We met and vibed a year ago in Santa Monica when we attended a Life Coaching meet-up. We hit it off because she talks about money, the same way that I talk about fertility. It’s all energy and learning how to partner with these energies to live our dream lives. Fertility and money can become intertwined because the fertility journey can be, well…expensive. So I asked if Serena would be a guest to help you manage your mind and energy around this topic. It’s so new for women to gather and openly discuss the topic of money. Women are just beginning to be in intimate relationships with money. Women weren’t even allowed credit cards until 1974. 90% of the world’s millionaires are men. It’s NUTS! Let’s put it this way: You can work with the energy of money and fertility at the same time. They are not as different as you think. They actually have so much in common. And it’s not more work to do this. It’s just a shift in what you believe. Listen now!
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Episode 117 - Listen to this if you call yourself "too controlling" to get pregnant
10/03/2023
Episode 117 - Listen to this if you call yourself "too controlling" to get pregnant
I used to think I was “too controlling” — until I noticed my then 6 month old screaming until his face turned red, when gravity stole his ball away. His little brain was thinking, “Nooooo…. I don’t want this to be happening! I want my ball back! Why don’t I have more controlll!” It’s normal for us to want control. We were born wanting control. It’s an important part of thenhuman design. It keeps us well and alive. But it becomes a bit more nuanced as you enter adulthood and find yourself in life’s challenges. The fertility journey has a knack for making you feel more out of control than you’ve ever felt in your life. “Why can’t I control what I’m supposed to do?” The ego hates this. And it tends to double down when this happens. “Work HARDER. Push HARDER. Research HARDER. Don’t leave any stone unturned!!!” Which if we’re being honest, makes us feel even farther away from the goal. In today’s podcast, I’m going to discuss the topic of control to: Alleviate all the self-judgment you have around being “too controlling” Offer a new solution when things really do start feeling too out-of-control and you need to feel like you have a handle on your life and fertility journey. Introduce a reframe around this topic of women being “too much.” Maybe this label of “too controlling” is more shit the patriarchy pours on us to keep us people pleasing as opposed to asking for what we really want? Listen now!
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Episode 116 - The surprising way to finally feel WHOLE
09/19/2023
Episode 116 - The surprising way to finally feel WHOLE
“Wholeness” is so arbitrary. What does it even mean… to achieve this state? To feel “whole” and complete and worthy of your baby? A great example is this… So many women try to be the “good girl” to get pregnant. To do/be/act perfect and then you’ll get pregnant. …Talk about arbitrary…perfection is impossible. But even so — even tho we know it’s impossible — we still aim for it. Which is kinda fucked up. But (and listen to this one please) the fucked up parts of us, they’re still lovable. And this is wholeness.
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Episode 115 - My story on why scary and risky is not always bad
09/12/2023
Episode 115 - My story on why scary and risky is not always bad
I’m releasing a podcast to let you in on my process of writing this magical, mystical, miraculous book on fertility. As I previously shared, I went to Hawaii to get started on writing a book for you. I wanna let you in on my process, because I think it’s important to share with you how I continue to apply everything I learned on my fertility journey, into real life. Just because you eventually have your baby, doesn’t mean your dreams stop. They go on. It’s scary. And you have to teach yourself safety in going after them. Otherwise your brain will always tell you: “No. It’s too scary. Too risky. And what if it doesn’t work out?” But you don’t know unless you try. And what if it DOES work out even better than you imagined? Wouldn’t it be beneficial to hear a real life story on how this plays out, to make it feel more doable and tangible? I’m gonna share with you how it felt: Horribly uncomfortable. So much uncertainty. So much vulnerability it required. I could have said no to avoid the feelings it evoked. But I’ve learned to listen to the whispers of my body and spirit. The turn around: The words poured out of me. Ended up being Hawaiian sacred land that healed me. My heart bursted with gratitude. Completely restored my nervous system. What I’m taking home: Slow things wayyyy down. Do things differently: Social media/Simplifying/Space to create the things I love. And why I’m always coming back to choosing slow growth. There is no rush. “Most people overestimate what they can do in a day, and they underestimate what they can do in a year.” - Tony Robbins Listen now!
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Episode 114 - F*ck doing this alone. We got you.
08/22/2023
Episode 114 - F*ck doing this alone. We got you.
On today’s podcast, I’m letting go of humble and I’m boosting about the group aspect of my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. FMBM is my 6-month group coaching program to take the mind-body approach to conception – without it taking over your life. You can apply now! August enrollment is now open! The group component is what most women fear when joining – and what they end up loving most about the program. Because: The fertility journey has so much shame stigma in our culture. The majority of our suffering and disconnection, stems from shame. No one understands what the journey is like unless they’ve been through it. Finding people who get it, is like finding water in a desert when you’re dying of thirst. A lot of the reason why we want a baby is to belong, but all we tend to do is isolate ourselves (because of shame). This self-fulling prophecy is finally kiboshed inside of the program. To finally be seen and accepted as you are, is ironically, what creates change within the mind and body. That’s why the program is so so effective. You can keep feeling like an alien and keep believing that you’re the only one that has these strange, annoying and painful thoughts. But you’re not… and you don’t have to do this alone. Start to relieve yourself from that perfectionism and pressure that women have, by listening to this podcast today.
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Episode 113 - 3 basic coaching principals to change your life
08/15/2023
Episode 113 - 3 basic coaching principals to change your life
This week’s podcast I’m sharing with you the 3 Basic Coaching Principals that changed the game for me, both in my life and fertility journey. They are super simple and are based off of psychology and spirituality. They are foundational if you wanna be happy, feel connected and unshamed in this precious life of yours — oh! Annnnnd if you wanna increase your fertility. Listen now!
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Episode 112 - What’s the FUEL inside of your action?
08/08/2023
Episode 112 - What’s the FUEL inside of your action?
Let’s say hypothetically, you’re a luxury car enthusiast (maybe you are, even better!) And you have decided to invest a lot of your time, money and energy into a hot, opulent car. Let’s say it’s a brand new Bentley SUV. Imagine yourself rolling up to a gas station to fill this baby up. The sun is shining, the sunroof open, Dua Lipa is serenading you and the luxury is exuding from every inch of this sexy vehicle AND THEN...… you fill that gorgeous vehicle up.. With REGULAR GAS. You forgo the premium fuel that this seductive girl needs to run smoothly and with ease. It makes no sense. This vehicle is worth a lot (Starting at $167K USD). Why would you risk all this luxury with shitty fuel? You would NEVER. Right? So why the hell do we do this to OURSELVES? We invest so much time, money and energy into all the action inside of the fertility journey. The organic food, the high-end vitamins, the expensive treatments, the endless acupuncture/naturopath appts. But the fuel… the mindset.. the headspace we’re in while we “do the things”... The fuel (mindset/energy) inside of our action is like.. “K let’s get this over with so I can move onto the next thing.” There’s no life in the action. No space. No choice. No lux vibe. No joy. And this very often leads to burnout. Everything… is just a means to an end. But today, we’re changing this regular-ass gas and filling up your fertility journey with the PREMIUM fuel like the bentley queen you are️ Why? Contrary to popular cultural bull shit belief, the vibe inside of your action 100% influences the outcome. And this is GOOD NEWS. Cause it’s a great fucking excuse to make everyday to your baby and BEYOND… feel joyful. Luxurious. And like you really do have a choice and a healthy sense of control of your life. Listen now!
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Episode 111 - A Leap of Faith
08/01/2023
Episode 111 - A Leap of Faith
Of course, if you could choose, you would prefer to let go of the tightness, the *need* and the rush to have a baby. But there may be a subconscious part of you that believes that you need the stress, to make changes. That you need the stress to create change. And without it, you’d sit in bed with a bag of doritos and do nothing. Maybe you don’t yet believe that change can be created through things like joy, rest, slowness, pleasure and ease. Which like, if you haven’t created something from this place before and have only created from hustle, that makes fucking sense. But if hustle isn’t working, maybe the answer isn’t to hustle HARDER, but to try a fresh, new approach. And because you haven’t taken a gentler approach before, this requires a leap of faith. A willingness to try something new….I know you’ve tried A LOT on the fertility journey, but this particular kind of approach actually feels counter-intuitive at first. This is normal if it feels… odd. Gentleness, softness and slowness is not what we’re taught. To help this new vibration land inside of your body, I recorded a podcast about a conversation I had with a client. She’s shifted the need to have a baby, to a want. And it's freaking her out. So you’re gonna hear what I did to coach her through it.
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Episode 110 - How Tammy stopped trying to MAKE things happen, and just LET them
07/18/2023
Episode 110 - How Tammy stopped trying to MAKE things happen, and just LET them
Today I’m interviewing a Fertility Mind-Body Mastery alumni and I can’t wait to get her story out in the world! Tammy’s journey is fascinating. While being in my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, she experienced both tragedy and miracles. And we were with her through all the ups and downs and twists and turns that she went on. She’s been kind enough to share her vulnerable story with us in today’s Fertile Ground podcast. In her time in the program, she went through 2 failed IVF cycles that yielded many eggs but no embryos. She experienced tremendous loss in her fertility journey, and also lost her step-son to a hit and run drunk driver. So incredibly sad. Although she is still grieving today, she is doing it in a way that allows for herself to feel how she feels, without judgment and without shame. She eventually…after everything she had been through and after being told her next step would be donor eggs… she went on to get pregnant naturally. At almost 40 years old. Her journey makes no logical sense. Which is beautiful and confusing to our analytical mind. But it is packed with the fullness of life and compassion for her humanity, as she shed the layers of perfectionism and started to embrace her real, authentic, sometimes anxious, imperfect self. You’re gonna learn: What happens when you stop trying to do it all. The difference between intrinsic worth versus. achievement-based worth. What it means to expand your capacity for uncertainty. How she makes sense of her journey. Listen now!
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Episode 109 - Unshame yourself for you AND your ancestors
07/03/2023
Episode 109 - Unshame yourself for you AND your ancestors
Was there ever a point in your fertility journey when someone said: “Stop being so sensitive!” “You’re too emotional.” “Let it go. It’s no big deal.” Or when someone dares to tell you to, “Just relax! Calm down.” As much as we might wanna sucker punch whoever has the balls to say it to our face, what do we usually do? We suck it up. We keep it in. We oppress the sting. We internalize the message. “Maybe I am too sensitive? Shit… something must be wrong with me. My feelings aren’t normal. I shouldn’t be feeling this way.” The way I see it, there are 2 ways of responding: 1. With shame and hiding. This sits heavy on the mind and body. 2. With self-trust and inner-validation. This restores energy in the mind and body. PLEASE HEAR ME WHEN I SAY: For 100’s of years, our ancestors were literally burned at the stake for standing up for what they believed it. It is only recently that women are ALLOWED to express our truths. Allowed to push back. Allowed to say no. Allowed to have our needs met and received. The process of unshaming, is healing your ancestral trauma AT THE CORE. It makes sense that this is part of the fertility journey. It makes sense that the shame gets cleared before the next generation comes through. I was inspired to record a podcast on this and I recorded it off the cuff. It’s really raw. I hope you feel something freeing when you listen to it. There is something so liberating to know that you’re not only on this journey for you, but for all the women that came for you. Your ancestors are so proud of you. Listen now!
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Episode 108 - Kathy’s summer of finding herself (and getting pregnant at 44!)
06/27/2023
Episode 108 - Kathy’s summer of finding herself (and getting pregnant at 44!)
I just recorded a stellar podcast with my client Kathy. Kathy wanted to go into last summer of ‘22 with a strong intention to reconnect with herself. Because: She had just been through 3 FETs that didn’t take. She felt like a failure. And didn’t know why it didn’t work after she did everything “right”. She instinctively knew that she had to come back to herself. So she signed up for my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery and she shares with you today, what she learned to: Stop deflecting her own needs, by trying to “fix” other people’s problems. Let go of the all shame she felt from having 3 failed transfers. How she felt ready to do IVF again. Get pregnant with a fresh embryo transfer at 43 years old! I know you’ll relate to so much of what she has to say. And that’s part of the healing… that’s a huge piece to letting go of the shame. Knowing you’re not the only one in the world feeling the way you feel and going through this confusing journey. So listen and feel inspired to Kathy’s incredible story to herSELF (and her baby girl!)
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Episode 107 - The JOY of things not going according to plan
05/30/2023
Episode 107 - The JOY of things not going according to plan
Why do you (we) get so disappointed when things don’t go according to plan? Here’s the 2 answers I can come up with: Because we believe that things should have gone according to plan. Because we think we know best. And here’s the thing about thoughts…When they don’t make our bodies feel good – like the thought, “I should know the way.” cause it makes me feel super icky and shame myself – we get to change them. Because if we are honest, we have to admit that things don’t go according to plan… often. For everyone. Not just you. So we can spend our lives wishing life would answer our plans. Even when our baby comes… we’ll keep resisting life’s twists/turns/new opportunities. ORRRRR We can spend our lives learning to trust the unfolding of the Universe… even when things don’t go according to plan. If both roads led to your baby, which would you choose? The fight, the battle, the shaming and blaming yourself when shit doesn’t go to plan? Or the “Everything is always working out for me” truth? I get that our brains need some convincing to let go of OUR plans. So I recorded a podcast to help you create safety around teaching your mind and body to trust the unfolding on the journey to your baby. Not just to get pregnant, but because I want you to get your life back. I want you to feel joy every day. And I want you to have compassion for yourself when the unexpected (gifts) presents itself. Listen to this week’s podcast: The JOY of things not going to according to plan. Where you’ll learn: To validate your need for control. How to have a HEALTHY sense of control over your fertility journey (it’s not about feeling powerless. I want you to feel powerful as fuck). Use these change-of-plans-moments to actually build MOMENTUM towards your baby. Listen now!
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Episode 106 - How to make focus FUN!
05/23/2023
Episode 106 - How to make focus FUN!
The distractions available to us in 2023 are insane. I mean.. It’s wild what we can do and how distracted we can become, with this one small device. I was reading somewhere that the superpower of 2023 in our world of distractions and insane list of to-do’s is: Focus. And it has never been more challenging to do that. I spent so many years dabbling with free fertility stuff on the internet. Throwing things against the wall to see what sticks. It wasn’t working. It only kept me confused and my energy scattered.I knew I needed to focus and be more intentional with my time, money and energy…, but I didn’t know how to do that without feeling bored out of my fucking mind. Today, I’m going to teach you how I do this in this week’s podcast: How to make focus FUN. You’re going to learn: What gets in the way of you focusing. How to get clear on WHAT exactly to focus on. The 5 steps I use to focus to keep it fun and fresh (#5 is my favorite) I want you to know that focus doesn’t mean locking yourself in your room and studying something boring until you can’t keep your eyes open anymore. I know that’s what we’ve been taught (and maybe did in college) but it doesn’t have to be that way. Focus can feel like this deep spiritual connection to the highest intention of what you want to create – your baby – and is a daily-life-giving-energy that gives you access to the truly endless possibilities unfolding in your future.Focus ADDS more fun to your life. Listen now!
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