Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.
How to solve your fertility struggles, finally get pregnant, and become the mama-bear you know you are…with a mind-body method proven to increase you chances of pregnancy by 55%. This is the place to slow down your day, feel your feelings, and shift that dark cloud in your mind to a healthy, happy desire. Because getting mind and body on board is your best path to “baby on board.”
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Episode 148 - Interview with Kari: How to own your pace and block out “hurry up” culture
11/19/2024
Episode 148 - Interview with Kari: How to own your pace and block out “hurry up” culture
This week, I interviewed Kari on the Fertile Ground podcast – a woman I’ve never personally worked with – but I admired on social media for years while she so openly navigated trying for baby #2 as an influencer online. Something was different about her… She seemed to give less fucks. She had immense vulnerability, but a ton of confidence. Two qualities that are hard to come by on the TTC journey (and embodying these 2 qualities is something I actively teach women inside of my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery.) I asked to interview her on the podcast because I thought, “MY PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW HER SECRET to giving less fucks.” EVEN when you’re approaching your 40th birthday! She describes her journey, her thoughts, her unique perspective… very well. Kari’s story isn’t just about fertility—it’s about life and trusting yourself through all the highs and lows. On this week’s podcast, here’s what you’ll discover: How to own your pace and block out “hurry up” culture. Setting boundaries that protect your peace (this one’s huge!). Embracing both pain and pleasure, right here and now. Powerful no BS guidance for TTC women at 40. Listen to this podcast – especially if you feel stuck, alone, or pressured to “figure it out” ASAP. Kari’s story is a reminder that it’s okay to move at your pace and listen to what you need. Click here to listen and get ready for an episode full of raw insights, resilience, girl talk and even a few laughs.
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Episode 147 - LIVE COACHING: Stressed about making the “right” decision?
10/29/2024
Episode 147 - LIVE COACHING: Stressed about making the “right” decision?
My wonderful client was worrying about making the “right” decision. She was thinking about switching jobs, but had a lot of fears… What if this is the wrong decision? How do I know if it’s the right decision? What if I fuck everything up? How do I know I can trust myself? Today – you’re in for a treat because I’m releasing a 10 minute clip from our Fertility Mind-Body Mastery call for this week’s new Fertile Ground podcast. This will give you a really great idea of what it’s like to be coached by me inside of our group coaching ️You’ll notice that on the calls, you get all the time you need. ️The calls are not super serious. We cover a lot of ground and get straight to the point, but the process is really joyful. ️Why Fertility Mind-Body Mastery is about building trust in YOU. It’s not about needing me. It’s about knowing that you have everything you need inside of you. This program teaches you just how brilliant you are. ️We don’t just coach on fertility. We coach about anything and everything. It all relates to fertility. Because fertility = LIFE! On this week’s new podcast: Stressed about making the right decision? You’ll learn: How to chart uncertain waters. Why perfectionism keeps you stuck. How other categories of your life can apply to your fertility journey. How my coaching helps you let go of control. You’ll learn that I don’t guide you to the “right” answers, but help you reveal the answer from your higher self. Listen now!
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Episode 146 - Rediscovering hope after the long haul
10/22/2024
Episode 146 - Rediscovering hope after the long haul
TTC for years feels… well… unfair, unclear and kinda unbelievable. I’m sure you’ve tried almost everything — but despite your efforts, still find yourself counting yourself out each month. If this is you, you’re gonna want to tune into the newest Fertile Ground podcast… Imagine this: You’ve been on this rollercoaster for years, you’ve peed on the sticks, you’ve taken your temps, you’ve spoken to psychic’s and you’ve kept your feet up high after sex (yup, been there!). But now after years of TTC, you’re not even bothering to do much of what you started doing when you were just a wee baby TTC, because it just feels like what’s the point? Trust me, I get it. After 8 long years of trying, that feeling is so real. The pressure to try something new, to get it perfect and that fear of getting your hopes up after years of rejection— it’s a lot! BUT… What if I told you that the key to turning this around isn’t about trying harder? It’s about opening your heart again even if it’s terrifying. In this episode – Rediscovering hope after the long haul – I dish out some real talk on why simply having sex doesn’t mean you’re truly open to getting pregnant. Spoiler alert: It’s all about vulnerability, and yes, this episode might be a bit of a big sister kick in the ass (in the most loving way, of course!). We’ll explore how to create a safe space for your heart, why it’s crucial to embrace the uncertainty of the TWW, and how to infuse some joy into your life right now—because you’re worthy of it (even if you don’t feel like you are )! Curious? I promise you won’t want to miss this. Click here to listen to the episode and get ready for some laughs, insights, and maybe even a few tears. Hit play, and let’s dive in!
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Episode 145 - Interview with Ingrid: How to trust that you're on the right path to baby
10/15/2024
Episode 145 - Interview with Ingrid: How to trust that you're on the right path to baby
To the outside world, Ingrid’s life looked organized, normal and joyful – but internally, she was feeling lost, alone and living in her head. After trying fertility teas, frantically researching the “next things to try” and experiencing 2 heartbreaking miscarriages – she knew she needed to try something different that wouldn't cause her more anxiety. Having a scientific, logical perspective on life – Ingrid was curious about my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery but was scared about something… She was worried about the vulnerable piece. She feared what would happen in our group coaching calls and if she would belong and feel safe after everything she’d been through. Which in my opinion is super valid and it's why I share with you these types of podcasts. In this week’s Fertile Ground podcast episode, Ingrid shares a very honest perspective of what her time inside of Fertility Mind-Body Mastery was really like. Ingrid bravely and vulnerably reveals with you: How she went from a self-proclaimed control freak… to a totally surrendered state. (Even when her hubby was wanting to “do more”) The very specific way she knew she was on the right track, even though she hasn’t seen any physical proof yet. What finally clicked to help her get pregnant naturally (and is now 22 weeks pregnant!) She says, “I’m very fact driven and I often think – if I can understand concepts of surrender with my brain then it’ll work – but when you actually properly embody surrender in your body… it feels like the most amazing breath out. And like this weight that is taken off of your shoulders. It’s a peace and calm that I had not felt in such a long time.” Learn how she did it and how exactly you can do it too, in this week’s episode. Listen now!
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Episode 144 - Are you taking action towards your baby, from love or from a wound?
10/08/2024
Episode 144 - Are you taking action towards your baby, from love or from a wound?
Have you ever caught yourself wondering if all the actions you’re taking—doctor visits, acupuncture appts., constant diet adjustments, or endless google/instagram research — is truly helping? Or… are they just distractions from deeper feelings you might have about yourself and your fertility? I spent 8 long years caught in that loop, thinking that if I just did more, I’d finally get what I wanted. But the truth is, it wasn’t about doing more… it was about something MUCH deeper In today’s kick off episode of the new season of the Fertile Ground podcast – we dive into a crucial question: Are you taking action towards your baby, from love or from a wound? I share my own struggles with this question, and how I learned to take action from a completely different energy that I believe made the journey 1000 times easier, made me happier AND more fertile. This isn’t about shaming yourself for feeling overwhelmed or lost. It’s about recognizing that you can shift your energy from a wounded state—where you believe you need to prove your worth with a positive test—to a loving one, where you learn to embrace who you are, quirks, diagnosis, years TTC and all. Trust me when I say: This particular topic inside of this podcast will save you years of heartache. Curious? You’ll discover powerful steps to start choosing love over fear, including: 3 steps to take to take action from love over a wound. And how to know the difference. Why your monkey mind is full of shit. And how to spot the BS. 3 questions to ask yourself to build your self-worth. Again, this is what gets you off the TTC By the end of this episode, you’ll not only feel more clear-headed but also more connected to your body. Plus, I share how you can dive deeper into this work with my program, Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. Imagine waking up every morning feeling like you’ve already found what you’re looking for, even though you’re not pregnant… YET! Please don’t miss this episode. Listen now and let’s journey together.
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Episode 143 - Expanding your nervous system capacity for pregnancy
06/25/2024
Episode 143 - Expanding your nervous system capacity for pregnancy
I was coaching my radiantly pregnant (45 year old) mama inside of our FMBM coaching call, and she had been sold the same lie that I was while TTC. That pregnancy (and motherhood) are a walk in the park and that you should be beaming with gratitude 24/7 and that everyday you should feel like you’re JLo in the middle of one of her romance movies. Cute, bubbly, daily blow-out hair style and almost fearless. So when we get pregnant – and we wake up dry heaving with just enough energy to put together a quick bread and cheese sammie, while anxiously anticipating the next ultrasound – we wonder if there’s something that we’re doing wrong. Luckily for my client, all the tools she’s learned to become pregnant, she is now applying to pregnancy. She’s primed her nervous system for pregnancy, before it even happened. She’s feeling more equipped for the sensations she’s experiencing in pregnancy. Here’s one thing I want you to take in and if you do… things can change for you real fast: Your fertility journey is here to expand your energetic capacity for pregnancy – by training your nervous system to tolerate a greater range of sensation. This is important to know because we all experience challenges, intense emotions and uncertainty while TTC. And we respond to these experiences with resistance and thoughts like, “This shouldn’t be happening to me.” or “I shouldn’t be feeling this way.” or worst, “I can’t do this.” when you absolutely can ❤️ These sacred moments are grooming your mind and body for conception. I recorded a podcast – Expanding your nervous system capacity for pregnancy – to explain more deeply what I mean, how to do it and how my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery was designed to prime your nervous system for both peace and pregnancy. This one will blow your mind and make your life a helluva lot easier. Listen now!
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Episode 142 - It’s okay to do the fertility journey differently
06/18/2024
Episode 142 - It’s okay to do the fertility journey differently
One of the main teachings inside of my book, Fertile Ground, is that: There are 1000’s of different paths you can take to conceive your baby The problem is that we get caught up in how we’re supposed to do it according to culture and the mainstream fertility industry. For example, think about how people usually talk about getting ahead in education and business. Most people will tell you the way to go is to head off to a four-year college and get that degree. But there are tons of other routes, like vocational training, online courses, or just learning on your own. Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs are both college dropouts. Beyonce and Oprah didn’t even bother. There is another way. Life is a LOT more abundant than that one, narrow path culture convinces you to take. Problem is, most people stick to the traditional and “acceptable” way of doing things, even though there are plenty of other paths that will lead to a similar (if not better) destination. We’re trained to do this, even if the mainstream path causes: Burnout Stress Overwhelm Or just doesn’t feel right. This week’s podcast is to reveal to you that there is another way to your baby. Another approach. I know – first hand – how scary it is so go against how everyone else is doing it. But I also know – first hand – that I would not be where I am today, if I continued to follow what everyone else did. Me and my nature were not made for the normal way of doing things. And if you’re reading this, I don’t think you were either. We’re safe to be different. Ready to feel the relief? Click here to listen to this week’s podcast and build the safety you need to do things your own damn way.
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Episode 141 - Healing fertility burnout
06/11/2024
Episode 141 - Healing fertility burnout
As you’re reading this email, I’m most likely sleeping, meditating, oracle card reading or listening to 528 Hz beats while going pen to paper This mama needs a break. I need a break away from producing, promoting, posting, doing, blooming. And I ain’t got no shame. After my book launch and a recent death in my family which has left me quite heart broken, my body is feeling burnt out. And to me, that means, I need (not want… need) a retreat inward. Of course, my socialized self is tempted to bypass this very real, very necessary call to rest. But I’m listening. Because I know that this time and space inward, is where I recharge and receive the most bang on guidance about next steps in my life. I will never find what I’m looking for, outside of myself. I recorded a podcast this week where I share more about this decision, because too many of us are attempting to bloom all year round. When a retreat inwards, could be the exact medicine you need to get happy and/or get pregnant. You are an extension of nature. You have this code inside of you that knows what you need to thrive, to grow (yourself and that belly) and to be the best version of yourself. But you miss this. YOU. MISS. THIS... when you don’t take the time to fold inward and hear what nature wants for you. To learn how to do this, listen to this week’s podcast. The code of your nature has been patiently waiting for you.
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Episode 140 - The invisible workload of women TTC (and how to get your partner involved)
05/21/2024
Episode 140 - The invisible workload of women TTC (and how to get your partner involved)
My husband Dan attended a work conference a couple weekends ago in Banff, Alberta. It was a gathering of female physicians with a focus on mental health. I wasn’t there. But it was a shock to Dan that so many women are struggling getting their partners on board with the day to day tasks that make adulting feel so hard. Women do so much. It’s called the “invisible workload” and it encompasses the intangible and often unnoticed tasks and responsibilities involved in managing a household and even more so in your case, the fertility journey. It’s very common for women to struggle to create a more equal role of responsibility on the fertility journey. Not sharing the responsibility of this journey with your partner adds a ton of pressure to the woman, while also making her feel fully responsible to “make it happen.” This week, I interviewed my husband Dan on the Fertile Ground podcast to create common ground towards a solution. I’m so excited for you to listen! (And omg can I just tell you – I am so in love with this man.) Men are different. They think and do things differently. But this doesn’t mean we can’t come together to achieve our goals and live a beautiful life… where we take on equal roles to make sure everyone is rested and happy TBH, making this transition to equality wasn’t easy for Dan and I. But you can listen and learn from our mistakes This week you will learn the 3 steps on how to create more equality in your partnership: Accept that men and women are different (and why this isn’t a bad thing). Disarm each other when you get activated. How to ask for what you want and need from each other. You’re gonna LOVEEEE this episode! A weight is going to be lifted off of your shoulders. The pressure isn’t yours to hold mama bear. Listen now!
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Episode 139 - I'm sharing my mom with you in this podcast. She has such fertile wisdom to share with you!
05/12/2024
Episode 139 - I'm sharing my mom with you in this podcast. She has such fertile wisdom to share with you!
I see you. Way more than you know. You have done so much to try and create this baby. You are so determined, so passionate and so brilliant. You deserve to be celebrated on this day (if not MORE) than a mother with 3 kids. In my eyes, Mother’s day is for YOU! To make you feel special and seen, I recorded a special podcast with one of my favorite people in the world… my mama! Tracy Lucas ❤️ She held such beautiful space for me on my fertility journey, so I thought — Why not share her with you? Why would I keep her all to myself? Why not spread the love and wisdom? Please listen to this today. It’ll warm your heart. Make you feel so special for exactly who you are. We laughed. We cried. Please enjoy this heart-opening conversation on this vulnerable day. Listen now!
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Episode 138 - My publicist interviewed ME! Listen to our non-BS fertility chat
05/07/2024
Episode 138 - My publicist interviewed ME! Listen to our non-BS fertility chat
Boy oh boy does it sound fancy AF to say this but… I decided to hire a publicist to get the word out about my book, Fertile Ground, that’ll be released in a week! A WEEK! She’s worked with Vogue, Serena Willliams and Ralph Lauren. She’s a feminist. And gorgeous. I love her. Her name is Liz Dennery and she asked if she could interview me on the Fertile Ground podcast. I said duh, of course. She asked me some really cool questions like: How did you strike a balance between actively pursuing conception and maintaining a sense of normalcy and fulfillment in other aspects of life? Many people facing fertility challenges often feel isolated or misunderstood. How does your book aim to provide support and community for individuals going through similar experiences? Beyond helping individuals conceive, how do you envision your book impacting readers' lives in broader ways, beyond their fertility journeys? Our chat is refreshingly fun girl talk, but we cut straight through the bull shit and into how to actually heal, feel whole and be happy now. All of this, of course, leads to increased fertility. Listen now!
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Episode 137 - 3 things that drive me crazy about the fertility industry
04/30/2024
Episode 137 - 3 things that drive me crazy about the fertility industry
I got a little (a lot) spicy in this weeks podcast I’m unleashing a lot of pent up emotions I have about the fertility industry This week's podcast is called: 3 things that drive me crazy about the fertility industry. If you don’t yet know this already — with the exception of a handful of fertility experts — I loathe 90% of fertility advice out there. It DID NOT work for me. In fact, it made me feel farther away from the goal and it made me feel like I couldn’t trust myself. I don’t think most of the “tips and tricks” work for women who are: Naturally more anxious. Have perfectionist tendencies. In fact, I think the fertility journey tends to EXPAND on these characteristics and make it feel worse. It’s a bit of tough love for you this week, as I offer blunt but very effective guidance, if you REALLY want to change this narrative from: Someone suffering and struggling to conceive. to Someone who is thriving and open to conceiving their baby. There’s a huge difference mama bear. LISTEN NOW! After you listen, I wanna open up the conversation about it. Tell me how it landed. I’m SO CURIOUS to learn what emotions it evokes within you. I love you (with big sister tough love) xo Spenser
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Episode 136 - Why the fertility journey isn’t just about “fertility”
04/25/2024
Episode 136 - Why the fertility journey isn’t just about “fertility”
It might be hard for you to believe this right now… but ➡️there will be a day when your fertility journey will be over ⬅️ One day in the future, this chapter of your life will be completed 📕 All your current questions will have answers ✅ You will know HOW you finally got pregnant. Hallelujah! 🙏🏽 You’ll know what astrological sign your baby is. Your pregnancy will have lined up with some celebrity's pregnancy. You’ll know what this infamous tiny human looks like. It will all make sense! My question for you RIGHT NOW on this journey, is the same question Elizabeth Gilbert (author of Eat, Pray, Love) asked me when I asked if she had any advice for someone about to write a book: (If you don’t already know, my new book - Fertile Ground - comes out May 8th!🎉And I had the chance to see Liz Gilbert live and ask her a question.) She said, “Aren’t you curious to know who you’ll become in the process of writing this book?” She didn’t ask if I was curious to see how the book turned out. Or how it will change the world. She invited me to become more interested in how it will change ME for the better. So I’ll ask you right now mama bear, “Aren’t you curious to know who you’ll become in the process of your fertility journey?” When you’re rocking your baby to sleep at night… aren’t you curious to see who you will become? The immense value of your fertility journey isn’t just in the outcome. It’s in the value of YOU in this lifetime. Your life goes on beyond this journey. And who you decide to become right now — on the journey to your baby — matters tremendously. For example, do you decide to lean into this journey of self-discovery, or shy away and focus on the physical? Do you learn how to offer yourself empathy and compassion in times of difficulty, or is shame your driving force? Do you want to do less and with more presence, or is perfectionisms impossible rules still driving? Speaking for myself, I don’t think I would have ever decided to write a book, if I hadn’t learned everything I did on the fertility journey. I’m feeling so many correlations in the journey to create my book baby and the journey to create my human baby. The feelings are very familiar. The only reason I felt equipped to handle writing a book is because of my fertility journey. Not just because TTC is the complete concept of the book LOL. But because I learned that I can do hard, scary, big things. I learned that I have a lot to offer the world. I learned I’m worthy of creating what I want. This week’s podcast — The fertility journey is not just about “fertility” — encourages you to lean into the VALUE inside this conception journey you’re on. You’ll learn: The 8 correlations between writing a book and TTC. Meaning: you can copy and paste everything you learn from your fertility journey into every other category of your life. It’s gonna benefit you forever and ever and ever ❤️ Why this journey is shaping you into the most bad-ass, high worth version of yourself. That you have way more to be proud of, then you give yourself credit for. It’s about time you give yourself the props, compassion and love that you deserve… (Your nervous system will thank you for it!) Listen now!
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Episode 135 - Can self-compassion heal inflammation in the body?
04/18/2024
Episode 135 - Can self-compassion heal inflammation in the body?
We all want to love ourselves. But have we ever thought to ask WHY? The truth is that “self-love” isn’t just about you being a good girl who should be nice to herself. There’s waaaayyyyyy more of an exciting benefit to self-love than that — which is why I recorded this weeks podcast on this particular topic that you’re NOT going to want to miss. It’s important for you to know the fertility-enhancing benefits of self-love so that you can feel encouraged and motivated to make the relationship you have with yourself, the most important one. There are many health and happiness benefits to shifting your blame and shame for feelings of self-love, particularly in the subject of self-compassion. Compassion comes up a lot on the fertility journey, because compassion is often high-lighted as a response we have to ourselves in times of challenge and difficulty. It’s sad to admit, but we are a culture who normally kicks ourselves when we’re down. We don’t feel self-compassion to be productive. But again, it extends beyond the benefit of it being just a feel-good concept. The latest research on the connection between shame and inflammation/auto-immunity challenges: Auto-immunity refers to a condition where the body's immune system mistakenly targets and attacks its own tissues. Autoimmunity often involves inflammation because the immune system's attacks trigger inflammation in the affected tissues. Health experts are noticing a correlation between shame and inflammation within the body. Auto-immunity is when the body attacks itself. Shame is when the human psyche attacks itself. ❤️Self-compassion offers the mind AND the body relief from this mistaken attack ❤️ You DO NOT WANT TO MISS this weeks podcast: Can self-compassion heal inflammation in the body? (Hint: The answer is YES! 😆) You’ll learn more about the exciting benefits of self-compassion and exactly how to begin your journey towards it, to enhance your health, happiness and fertility. LISTEN NOW!
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Episode 134 - The spirit of your baby chooses YOU!
03/26/2024
Episode 134 - The spirit of your baby chooses YOU!
Chances are, there’s a totally untrue hierarchy between you and your baby that’s swirling around in your head. Here’s how the ego’s playing this mental story out: Your baby is HIGH up on the pedestal. Maybe even wearing a crown with jewels sipping on the most delicious nectar of milk. And you’re at the bottom, exhausted, trying to claw your way up with all the energy you have. You’re looking up hoping you can earn your worth to them by doing all the things (and doing them with precise perfection) to prove how bad you want it. And this my love… is totally unnecessary. Why? Because you are already insanely loved by the spirit of your baby. They ALREADY chose you – out of 4 billion other women in the world. They want the authentic version of you to be their mother… not the perfect one. And… they want you to see this for yourself. Listen to this weeks podcast to explore this topic further: The spirit of your baby chooses YOU. It will paint the picture of what’s REALLY happening behind the scenes, so you can let go of earning something you already fucking have.
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Episode 133 - How real life women TTC let go of their built up fertility shame
03/19/2024
Episode 133 - How real life women TTC let go of their built up fertility shame
I used to think my shame was a reaaaallllly good protector of judgment. I used to think, “If I just listened to the orders of my shame – stayed small, pretended everything was fine, kept it all inside – then I wouldn’t have to face judgment.” Meaning, if I silenced my true thoughts and feelings, then no one would know how broken I am. But I was never broken, despite shame making me feel that way. And I never felt more loved then when I let go of my shame, opened my heart and let my authentic feelings be seen and heard. There is nothing more healing than this to the mind and body liberated from the chains of shame. It helps to see how this plays out IRL, so I’m sharing an interview with 2 of my former Fertility Mind-Body Mastery members Marcie and Emily. I interviewed them in a retreat last year on how they shed their shame – and the outer results that came from the inner transformation. It’s kinda mind-blowing what happened! On this weeks podcast: How real life women TTC let go of their built up fertility shame -- you’ll learn: Why shedding your shame creates a deeper connection in your marriage. How it can inspire life-changing change, like a career switch to your dream job. How Fertility Mind-Body Mastery makes it easier for you to safely let go of your shame and feel worthy of exactly who you are, in all of your imperfections… Why human support is needed for our survival. What it’s like to be inside of my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. What happens? How does it feel? What’s it like to be in a group container like this? How much time do you get to be coached? All these answers are inside the podcast. Listen now!
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Episode 132 - Guided Meditation: How to cultivate a feeling of enoughness.
03/12/2024
Episode 132 - Guided Meditation: How to cultivate a feeling of enoughness.
Today’s new Fertile Ground podcast is a free gift for you! A free meditation: How to cultivate a feeling of enoughness. Listen if you want to feel enough and worthy of your baby, now. No more proving. Let’s embed this truth into all the cells of your body. You can listen to it here. I wanna ask a favor of you… If you appreciate the Fertile Ground podcast and how it’s helped you, it would be so helpful for you to leave a quick review on iTunes. The fertility industry is loud with noise on all the things you need to do to change, fix, and perfect yourself. This space - The Fertile Ground Podcast - is the relief all women TTC need. Your review will help it to get seen. You can leave a brief review here Tips for an effortless review: Don’t overthink it. Speak from your heart. Keep it simple. Prompts: What do you want other women TTC to know about what the journey can feel like? How does the podcast make YOU feel? What does it bring to the TTC journey that’s missing? So grateful to you. Enjoy the meditation!
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Episode 131 - Your pain wants to heal you. Here’s how to let it.
03/05/2024
Episode 131 - Your pain wants to heal you. Here’s how to let it.
Vulnerability share: I had a really hard few days last week. For the first time in what felt like forever, I had a lot bubble up inside of my body. At first, I resisted. I pouted. I complained. (Like any other human does at the feeling of deep feels.) But then… eventually… I surrendered. It got me thinking… My God… us human beings have this massive capability of feeling emotions inside of our bodies. To help guide us and process our life experiences. To literally help us become healthier. Admittedly, it’s very hard to feel it. It’s uncomfortable to be present with your sadness, your grief, your anger. It takes self-worth to create enough space in your life, to process, cry and witness what wants to come up. On top of this really hard part of being a human, we are taught to believe that these aspects of ourselves are wrong. Bad. Maybe we even believe they rise up because we aren’t “good enough” at managing things. And it’s so not true. I realized in my experience that pain is so healthy. Pain is so natural. Pain is healing in motion. It helped me to discover so much about myself, about my life, about what my body needed, about what I can change for the better. Although it did not feel like it at the time, it was a total gift from God. We all feel these intense emotions. They are nothing to be ashamed of. It’s the price of being a human being. So why not just feel them? I released a new podcast today: Your pain wants to heal you. Here’s how to let it. It’s to show you how to create enough safety within your mind and body to say yes, the next time your body is ready to feel the more difficult emotions. You’re not alone in having them. There’s nothing wrong with you for having them. You are safe to feel them. Listen now.
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Episode 130 - How to handle setbacks and frustrations around time while TTC
02/27/2024
Episode 130 - How to handle setbacks and frustrations around time while TTC
Time is at the core of so much suffering when you’re TTC. So it only makes sense for me to devote an entire free podcast to it, to alleviate the panic it’s causing you. My view point: I’m probably the world’s most impatient person. When I want something, I want it now. I’m even annoyed at it needing to take a whole damn day for Amazon to send me my shit! But… I’ve learned to both accept and shift this aspect of myself. My fertility journey taught me exactly how to develop a new relationship with time. Questions for ya: What if time wasn’t the royal pain the ass you think it is? What if time wanted to offer you more than a baby? (Would you say yes?) What if the setbacks and the change of plans are because the Universe is orchestrating every-fucking-perfect-detail behind the scenes, to give you 1. What you want, but also 2. An even better life than you had planned? Time isn’t against you. Time will, however, feel like and become what you perceive it as. Your relationship with time is not set in stone. Time is not a fixed, set, hard aspect of reality. It’s 100% malleable. Time expands and is incredibly generous, when you expand your perception of it. You have a healthy sense of control on how you respond to the unfolding nature of time. Particularly, on your fertility journey. And I’m going to offer you a new relationship with time in this weeks brand new Fertile Ground Podcast: How to handle setbacks and frustrations around time while TTC. Stop suffering from the illusion of time that culture has wrongly placed on us. Be open to what time is here – right now – to offer you inside of this podcast. Listen now!
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Episode 129 - Confirmation Bias and how it can affect fertility
02/20/2024
Episode 129 - Confirmation Bias and how it can affect fertility
I watched the Super Bowl with my family a couple weekends ago and I noticed that the members of my family that were cheering for San Francisco (Not Taylor Swift’s BF’s team) had to go on and on about how much air time Taylor got and how she was annoyingly interacting with her friends. (HOW DARE SHE?!) Me, my mom and my husband were cheering for Kansas City. So we were loving watching her celebrate and enjoy herself. She was acting like a completely normal human being watching someone they love play an important football game. What the members of my family have is called a: Confirmation Bias. Which means, human brains actively search for evidence to validate their current beliefs. IE, “I want Kansas City to lose = Taylor Swift is annoying.” Even if she’s really not. But our brains and our ego’s would rather be right, than see the truth. A confirmation bias plays out often in the fertility journey and can be a very sneaky, subconscious way to resist the change that brings us closer to our babies. FOR EXAMPLE: Let’s say you have the super common perfectionist belief that: “I’m not doing enough to get pregnant.” Despite this belief, you start making small changes in your life to improve your mental and physical health. You’re more present, you have more energy, you’re more connected with your partner, and you’ve even started going on daily walks. You feel sooo good and at peace. But then… you get your period. Even though you have evidence in your mind and body that you’ve never felt better and you’re making so much progress, your locked in confirmation bias of “I’m not doing enough.” kicks into full gear. And you fall back to square 1. The confirmation bias belief is what actually runs the show. Because it will always look for evidence to be RIGHT, instead of letting go of the ego, and entering into the uncertain territory of pregnancy. This is SO IMPORTANT to become aware of, so I recorded a podcast on it: Confirmation bias and how it affects fertility. And I even share ways to change this, in simple, powerful steps. Listen now!
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Episode 128 - Honoring your capacity on the fertility journey
02/13/2024
Episode 128 - Honoring your capacity on the fertility journey
Of course you have a HUGE, valid desire to get pregnant and have a beautiful, healthy baby. I would even guess that you had goals BEFORE your TTC journey and you will have goals AFTER it. (Believe it or not, this chapter of your life will not last forever. Phew!) Culturally, we talk a lot about desire. But we haven’t been taught to value our capacity to pursue our desires. Capacity is your body’s ability to experience and metabolize sensation. Depending on the day, your capacity to check things off the ‘optimal fertility list’ varies. There are environmental, hormonal, seasonal, physical, mental and emotional factors (and many more) that come into play. Because, well… you’re a human and NOT a robot. Yet, we’re still conditioned to pressure and push our bodies to perform at peak performance. And if not, we feel ashamed. Mama bear, there is another way. An alternative: To honor BOTH desire and capacity. And to get to where you wanna go, faster. Desire is of the mind. Capacity is of the body. A strong mind-body connection takes into account both. Which is so freaking ideal for fertility. I recorded a podcast on this topic because learning about your capacity is one of the clearest ways to depict and more importantly integrate… a mind AND body connection. (That is proven to increase your fertility by up to 55%.) My job is finding more simple ways to make sense of the fertility journey for you. And this podcast paints the picture beautifully. Listen now! It will be especially important for you, if you’re feeling burnt out, exhausted and unable to rest.
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Episode 127 - Listen to this if you’re constantly worrying about “HOW” you’re going to get pregnant.
02/06/2024
Episode 127 - Listen to this if you’re constantly worrying about “HOW” you’re going to get pregnant.
I think many women (myself included) have had this perfectionist fantasy that you’ll someday have this AHA moment and you’ll be like… “Omg. Yes! This is HOW I’m going to conceive my baby!” …But it doesn’t come. I certainly did not have this level of certainty as to HOW it was going to happen. Neither do my clients. Yet, we’ve found a way to let go of the ”how drama.” Because you are not meant to know exactly HOW your baby is going to come. The “how drama” is exactly what keeps you distracted from doing the basic work that teaches you to: - Know your worth… regardless of pregnancy status. - Take incredible care of your mind and body. - Take action that feels much more like a curious experiment (instead of a life or death situation.) - Be present on the ride of your life. (Plus - the reality is that there are 1000’s of different paths to your baby. Trying to narrow it down to just one is like squeezing all the juice out of the possibility that’s available to you.) The HOW is not important. Once you realize this, you’re getting so much closer to your baby. Listen to this week’s podcast to let go of the HOW drama and build serious clarity towards your right next step
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Episode 126 - Are you self-aware but still so stuck?
01/30/2024
Episode 126 - Are you self-aware but still so stuck?
Are you super self-aware? Like, you’ve learned what you like about yourself and you’ve learned what you don’t like — but still feel so stuck and can’t seem to change? Rewind back a few years and this was so me. So self-aware yet so stuck. This is a frustrating place to be on the fertility journey. Because I would see people who were so unaware, so unreflective, so inconsiderate… get pregnant easily. And it didn’t make sense why I was still struggling with all the awareness I had of myself, my body and my life. Here’s the truth: You have a huge heart. You’re self-aware and you’ve got a lot of love and a lot of integrity. But awareness clearly isn’t enough. You need to learn how to harness this awareness, this love and this intelligence in a way that offers you grace in the journey of self-discovery — in a WORLD constantly telling you that you’re falling short. Cue the missing piece of this "awareness equation.” How do you RESPOND to what you learn about yourself? This is what we’re talking about on this weeks podcast: Are you self-aware but still so stuck? When you learn something new about yourself, do you respond with: Shameful Self-Awareness? IE. “Oh wow. Now it all makes sense. What a terrible quality to have. Why am I so awful? This is why you’re not pregnant yet. Get your shit together already. I knew something was wrong with me.” Or Compassionate Self-Awareness? IE. “Oh wow. Now it makes sense. I’m sad to know that I’ve been living this way. But I’m also feeling okay to offer myself understanding while I navigate this difficult thing – that’s not fully in my control. I’m okay to feel how I feel. I’m not wrong. I’m human.” Beyond aiding your emotional well-being, studies show that self-compassionate awareness is way more conducive to creating change, but also has a huge impact on your physical health—lower stress levels, improved immune function, better health behaviors, and even reduced inflammation related to auto-immune disorders. It’s a win-win. Spark a new relationship with yourself and improve your fertility along the way. Listen now!
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Episode 125 - Bridging the gap between the physical + spiritual when your TTC
01/23/2024
Episode 125 - Bridging the gap between the physical + spiritual when your TTC
I’m over the moon to share with you my interview with my remarkable client Sumathi. She’s TTC, she’s a physician AND she’s deeply spiritual. It’s the most refreshing conversation for any woman trying to conceive, because we deep dive into the topic of bridging the gap between the obsession over the physical body and the spiritual magic and mystery that exists on the journey to your baby that you just can’t deny. Sometimes in our culture, it can feel delusional to explore that spiritual-like gut feeling that you have, that you will one day become a mother. Listening to this conversation, you’re going to find comfort and safety to both: Explore and Trust this undeniable aspect on the fertility journey. In this weeks podcast: How to bridge the gap between the physical + the spiritual while TTC, you’re gonna learn how to: Establish a connection to your spirit (and the spirit of your baby.) Give yourself permission to explore a path to your journey that actually feels good, comforting and safe. Take the tiniest, smallest step to creating a spiritual foundation on your fertility journey. Overcome the regrets you might have gathered while TTC. (IE. “I should have tried sooner. I wish I’d done things differently.”) How spirituality actually supports your physical body and nervous system. My greatest wish for you is to receive so much healing just by listening. It’s so very, very powerful. Listen now!
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Episode 124 - Attraction vs. Chase
01/16/2024
Episode 124 - Attraction vs. Chase
Remember the dating world? What would you do with someone you really liked, but then they called you 5 times the next day and you noticed that they liked the last 20 pictures you posted on instagram? OR What would you do after walking into a store you adore but then became followed by a pushy sales person trying to convince you get something you didn’t even like? Anyone and everyone would run in the other direction. Because when people are trying to find their sense of self-worth in us, we are naturally turned off by it. And we are incredibly attracted, even pulled towards — without conscious thought — to a person, place or thing who doesn’t need us in order to be okay. This kind of confidence is soooo damn attractive. And even, magnetic. The same rule of thumb applies to your TTC journey. Which is why I wanna introduce today’s podcast: Attraction vs. Chase I’m gonna teach you how to attract, pull towards YOU and receive (not even create, but RECEIVE) the life, the HOW, the joy that is meant for you (baby included) inside of this week’s podcast. Picture this: a fulfilling life, beyond your fertility journey. Despite not being pregnant yet, you have never felt more at home with yourself. You show up to family events like a boss. Not because there’s no drama, but because you DGAF about the drama anymore. You’re killing it in your career. Your marriage is sexy as hell. Your connection to spirit is as strong as steel. Life isn’t perfect, but you’ve never felt more comfortable in your own skin — even if you’re not pregnant yet. And this all came about, mostly from who you decided to become, not because you decided to “do more.” The baby becomes a cherry on top. This is the dream. This is the life. This is what I’m gonna teach you in this week’s podcast. Listen now!
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Episode 123 - 3 unconventional ways to increase fertility that you WON’T find on Google
01/09/2024
Episode 123 - 3 unconventional ways to increase fertility that you WON’T find on Google
It was about 4:30pm and I decided to go for a freezing cold walk to move the energy that gathered up inside me through the day. In Edmonton, Alberta Canada where I live, it actually begins to get dark at this time of day. And it was a weekish before Christmas so the neighborhood decor was starting to light up. Kinda perfect. On this very normal, very unsexy, very “so what, it’s just a walk” kinda exercise, it made me realize that some of life’s most simple to-do’s, are the most effective for physical and mental health. But we undervalue them because we don’t feel worthy of what we want when life feels easy. So I decided to pull out my phone on this walk and record a podcast on: The 3 most unconventional ways to increase fertility that you will not find on google. Because speaking from experience, these 3 ways are what finally moved the needle towards happiness + baby. I guarantee that you will not find them on that “get pregnant fast” fertility forum. (And I promise, diet is NOT one of them.) Perhaps this is a year of simplicity for you. Maybe you are choosing ease on the journey to your baby and are tired of how hard things have been. If so, have a listen here. It’s short, sweet and easy. Maybe that’s what the spirit of your baby is wishing for you <3
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Episode 122 - Failures, fireworks, and an imperfect fertility journey!
12/05/2023
Episode 122 - Failures, fireworks, and an imperfect fertility journey!
Sarah says, “I came into the program with this story. This heavy story of someone who’s failed. I completely closed my heart off to what’s possible so that I didn’t have to open my heart up to more loss.” – and omg I don’t know about you… but I could totally relate to that statement. Before the program, Sarah thought she was feeling things. She thought she was present. She was meditating/journaling and doing the things. But she realized that so many perfectionism tendencies were diluting the medicinal properties of everything she was doing. She expected fireworks after her meditations. And if it wasn’t happening, it wasn’t enough. Which is exactly the voice of perfectionism and is such a distraction from change. This was something she needed to work on, for her efforts to take full effect. What you’ll learn on today’s podcast is that Sarah is not pregnant yet — but she’s realized that pregnancy is not her #1 goal. “So much wisdom has been uncovered in the process of this program. And if I’m gonna be a mother, I want to impart everything that I’m currently learning onto my future child.” She says. She’s gained this incredibly compassionate perspective of everything that she’s been through on her fertility journey. She learned that she is NOT a failure, but that she is “dedicated as fuck” to herself, her joy and of course, her baby. And she can’t wait to teach this to her future child. You wanna hear what it’s like to have this type of kind perspective to yourself while TTC? Listen now!
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Episode 121 - How Kristen found her own “right” path to her baby and how YOU can find yours...
11/28/2023
Episode 121 - How Kristen found her own “right” path to her baby and how YOU can find yours...
I interview my client Kristen on today’s Fertile Ground podcast and you just GOTTA listen to her story! When Kristin joined Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, her brain was so loud that she couldn’t even hear herself think. She was filled with anger. At herself. At her fertility journey. She was mad at the world for not having her baby easily and as fast as everyone else she knew. She had so many thoughts about what she “should” do to get pregnant and had so many feelings that she didn’t let herself feel. Her main vibe before joining was “just keep pushing through.” She decided to invest in herself and join Fertility Mind-Body Mastery to #1: Not feel so angry and finally feel some relief. And 2. To truly connect with herself to learn her own “right” path to her baby. In the podcast, she talks about: all the sneaky ways your monkey mind tries to stop you from giving yourself what you need. what does it mean to “connect with yourself.” What does this look like in real life and what’s the benefit? why you don’t need to have crazy high and positive belief that baby is coming. She tells you what to do instead… She is now 23 weeks pregnant and got pregnant half way through her time inside the program!
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Episode 120 - How a year can change your life (and fertility journey)
11/14/2023
Episode 120 - How a year can change your life (and fertility journey)
Have you heard that Tony Robbins' quote: "Most people overestimate what they can do in a year, and underestimate what they can do in 2 or 3 decades."? Here's my version, tailored for you, the strong and determined woman on the path to motherhood: Most women TTC overestimate what they can do in 1 or 2 months, and underestimate what they can do in 1 year. If you're a sensitive visionary who can almost taste the vision for your baby-filled life during meditations, you know the feeling. You have this gorgeous vision – whether it's your journey to your baby or a career aspiration – but when things don't go exactly as planned OR happen overnight, the temptation to give up is real. It’s easy to lose all hope and momentum, especially if you're a perfectionist. But what if a failure isn’t what’s really happening behind the scenes? What if it’s all just starting to come together, but you can’t see it physically yet? … And that gifting your dream of finally getting pregnant time and SPACE could be your greatest ally? Not involuntary time and space. VOLUNTARY. And that doing this will make time feel shorter, NOT longer. In the latest Fertile Ground podcast episode: How a year can change your life AND fertility journey – I explore how embracing these factors can transform your journey and make it so much easier for your dream to land here physically. You’ll learn about: The power of giving your desire space: How space provides clarity and actually reduces the pressure to conceive ASAP. The art of adaptation: Why space is essential for nurturing your desires AND overall well-being. Space and resilience: How it helps you find balance, form meaningful connections, and celebrate all the progress you make along the way. (It’s happening, even if you don’t see it yet). December is fast approaching and it can be a tough time for couples TTC. I want you to know that A LOT can happen in a year, especially with the right attunement to your mind-body and a loving commitment to create space for your desire to be a mama.
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Episode 119 - How to stop “shoulding” yourself pregnant
11/07/2023
Episode 119 - How to stop “shoulding” yourself pregnant
“I should be more disciplined.” “I shouldn’t be feeling sad.” “I should have more hope.” “I shouldn’t eat this piece of bread.” When you’re TTC, the “shoulding" is endless. …about what you should do to optimize conception. But more deeply rooted, about how you should feel. Although you think the shoulding part of your brain might be the voice that “keeps you on track”… The only track we keepin’ on with this voice… is one of constant self-rejection. Mama bear, your feelings and emotions on this journey, are so valid. The sadness, the fatigue, the disappointment, the desire to stop dieting… it’s ALL valid. Is there room for change? Sure — but this is found INSIDE of validation and compassion for where you’re at FIRST. A deep spiritual paradox is that acceptance = change. So how do you offer this to yourself? How do you reframe the narrative of this “shoulding” tyrant in your brain? I recorded a podcast on it “How to Stop Shoulding Yourself” to better help you understand: Where shoulding comes from. How to reframe this constant nagging of not enoughness. And simple steps you can take today to give yourself more compassion and in turn, increase fertility. Listen now!
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