Episode 156 - You can hold space for your future baby, and still hold space for yourself

This weekend, something happened with my sweet 17-year-old Yorkie-Poo, Abby, that really hit me hard and made me reflect on how we all react to uncertainty. 

As we got ready for our Sunday family walk, Abby did something she’s never done before — she sat there, refusing to move. For the first time in her life, she didn’t want to go for a walk. I panicked: Shit. My girl is really slowing down. What does this mean about the future?

In that moment, I was flooded with fear—not just about her future, but about my own. The uncertainty of what was happening to her made me feel unsafe. I didn’t want to feel the grief of it all. It triggered a primal response in me to freeze. I felt paralyzed by all of my emotions. 

And it reminded me so much of how I used to feel when TTC…

The fertility journey can bring up the same emotions. You’re hit with so much uncertainty, and suddenly you just feel totally overwhelmed with all of these flavors of emotions, that you can barely freakin’ move. And in those moments, life feels completely on hold.

We all have those moments when we feel like…”Bah, it’s just all too much!” 

And I remember when I was TTC, spending hours in bed, just wanting to stare at the ceiling for the rest of the unforeseen future. Even the smallest tasks of going for a neighborhood walk felt like too much work. 

But just because you WANT to freeze, doesn’t mean you can't retrain your nervous system to keepflowing – despite uncertainty.

It’s about choosing a different, more compassionate RESPONSE when you are feeling yourself freeze –even when everything inside you is telling you to pump the brakes.

In today’s podcast, I’m talking about how to navigate those moments when you feel stuck and frozen in place:

Why you freeze when faced with uncertainty and how to understand it.

How to soften the freeze response without forcing yourself to feel better right away.

How to keep living your life despite uncertainty/grief/sadness — even when you don’t feel “ready.”

How to know if you’re avoiding feeling how you really feel. 

Redefine what ‘honoring your fertility journey’ looks like, so that you can still feel safe to live your life, despite not being pregnant yet. (And how this actually increases fertility)

This podcast will show you how to let go of the pause button, finally press PLAY   and get back to doing what you love—while still holding space for the unknown. A life skill you’ll have forever, promised to bring you so much peace  

Listen to the full 30 min episode now!