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EP11 - Breaking Free: Overcoming the Fear of Judgement and Belonging

Soul Care Healing: The Podcast

Release Date: 03/26/2025

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SEASON 2, EP11 - In this episode, we're diving deep into something so many of us quietly carry — the fear of being judged and the ache to belong. If you've ever found yourself shrinking, second-guessing, or holding back parts of who you truly are just to feel accepted… this one’s for you.

We’ll unpack where this fear comes from, how it shows up in our everyday lives (even when we think we’ve “moved on”), and why our nervous systems often keep us playing small, even when our hearts want to expand.

You’ll hear honest reflections, gentle truth bombs, and a few laughs along the way — because healing doesn’t always have to feel heavy. Let this episode be a soft permission slip to step out of hiding and come home to yourself — no masks, no apologies.

Take a breath, grab a cuppa, and let’s walk this path of belonging together.



In This Episode, We Cover:

  • Discover how the fear of judgment can prevent us from following our own path, even when we have permission to do so.

  • Explore the concept of the "imposter" and how to recognize its voice as a sign of stepping into new, potentially uncomfortable territory.

  • Unpack the powerful truth that other people's opinions are none of your business and how this realization can be incredibly freeing.

  • Understand the connection between judging others and our own fear of being judged, and how to break this cycle.

  • Reflect on the role of belonging and the importance of finding a community that supports authentic self-expression.

 

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Timestamps / Chapter Markers

00:00 Welcome & Overview

01:13 The Community Walk Story

02:19 Personal Reflections & The Imposter

04:53 The Desire to Belong

07:28 Judgement: A Two-Part Exploration

08:46 Letting Go of Control

09:39 Questioning the Messenger

10:41 Personal Reflection on Judgement

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