S3 E1 The Hidden Epidemic in Women: Heart Starvation - The Soulie Insider
Soul Care Healing: The Podcast
Release Date: 10/05/2025
Soul Care Healing: The Podcast
What happens when your biggest strength (your brilliant brain) starts running the whole show… and your heart gets left behind? In this episode, I’m talking directly to my brainy ladies, the high-functioning, hyper-intelligent women who live for numbers, strategy, and solving problems. You know exactly how to fix everything… except maybe yourself. If you’ve built success by thinking your way through life, but still feel disconnected, stuck, or just plain exhausted, this one’s for you. I’ll share why relying only on your head leaves your heart behind and how that...
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Have you ever wondered if your business decisions are being driven by something deeper than strategy, maybe even by unhealed parts of you? In this episode of The Soulie Insider, I open up about something many high-functioning women rarely talk about, how trauma can quietly shape the way we show up in business. I share what it’s been like to build a purpose-driven business while carrying old patterns of fear, scarcity and survival, and how those experiences can lead to over-giving, over-investing, or trying to prove your worth through success. You’ll learn how past...
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What if the missing piece in your confidence isn’t about doing more, but about appreciating yourself for what you already do? This episode is all about radical self-appreciation. The practise of validating yourself, even when no one else claps for you. Because being the go-to woman for everyone else can leave you tired, resentful and wondering when it’s your turn to feel seen. I’ll share why boundaries are the secret to giving without burning out, how small daily wins can transform the way you see yourself, and the difference between ego-driven giving and heart-based...
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What if leadership wasn’t about being the loudest in the room, but about creating spaces where every voice counts? In this episode of The Soulie Insider, I talk about the Outer Game of Leadership. This is part two of my leadership mini-series, and it’s all about how we show up in the world as leaders, not just for ourselves, but for the people around us. I share why listening is a true superpower, how to create environments where ideas can flow (it’s not just in boardrooms), and why confidence in leadership isn’t about having all the answers, but knowing when to step...
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What are your kids learning from the way you work and live, balance or burnout? In this episode of The Soulie Insider, I’m talking about something that sits right at the heart of my work and my why - breaking the cycle of generational burnout. I share what I’ve learned from my own brushes with burnout, the subtle signs to look out for, and the wellbeing promises I keep to myself to stay steady. Together, we talk about how the way we live, work, and rest is teaching the next generation either to survive in exhaustion or thrive in confidence and wellbeing. If you’ve...
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Do you ever feel like self-doubt is running the show, even when you know deep down you’re capable? In this episode of The Soulie Insider, I’m getting real about the voice we all know too well: self-doubt. I share my own story of how it shows up for me, even as a coach, and the surprising way I shift it in the moment. You’ll learn how to spot the difference between your true voice and the echo of other people’s criticism. I’ll also guide you through a simple singing practise that calms your nervous system, steadies your heart, and helps you reclaim your confidence....
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How do you keep parenting, leading, and showing up when grief knocks the wind out of you? In this episode of The Soulie Insider, I’m speaking straight to my high-functioning women who are holding families, businesses, and careers together while quietly carrying the weight of grief. I know what it feels like, the celebrations, the meetings, the obligations don’t stop, even when your heart is breaking. You’ll learn why honouring your grief isn’t weakness but a form of strength. I share practices that support your nervous system regulation when the waves roll in, from...
info_outlineWhy do so many high-functioning women feel exhausted even after a full night’s sleep? Could it be more than the mental load, could it be heart starvation?
In this episode of The Soulie Insider, I share why so many women are running on empty even when life looks “fine” from the outside. It’s not just the emails, errands, and endless decisions, it’s the hidden epidemic of heart starvation.
You’ll hear how high-functioning burnout and nervous system dysregulation show up as irritability, snapping at loved ones, or feeling invisible in your own life.
I’ll give you practical strategies for nervous system support, from heart-centred grounding and sensory resets to micro heart boosts that actually refill your energy instead of draining it.
This isn’t about doing more. It’s about recalibration for high-achieving women who feel stuck in survival mode and are craving embodied healing. By the end, you’ll know how to protect your energy, reduce the constant questions weighing you down, and start reconnecting with yourself in ways that feel sustainable.
Which part of this conversation spoke most to you? Come share it with me on Instagram @gaylewilson_ . I’d love to know how you’re finding new ways to rest, reset, and care for your heart.
Ready to live differently? Join the Soul Care Healing Method.
In this episode we cover:
- Why exhaustion isn’t just the mental load, it’s heart starvation
- Signs of nervous system dysregulation and high-functioning burnout
- How to shift constant questions back to reduce decision fatigue
- Modelling problem-solving for your family or team
- Heart-centred breathing to calm the fight or flight response
- Sensory grounding using the 5-4-3-2-1 method
- Micro heart boosts to activate rest and joy
- Daily reflection: “Who can I support today?” without overfunctioning
- Closing reminder: your heart matters
Podcast Sponsor
The Podcast is proudly sponsored by Proactive Finance Group. Whether you’re an essential worker, in allied health, self-employed or buying your first home, they make the loan process streamlined, clear, and less stressful. Proactive Finance Group works for you, not the banks—keeping you informed and supported every step of the way. They’re more than mortgage brokers, they’re your partners in making home ownership a reality.
Podcast sponsor: Proactive Finance Group
Contact: Hayley De Jong
Phone: 0400 000 036
Email: hayley@proactivefinancegroup.com.au
Resources mentioned in this episode
- Join the Soulie Insider Facebook Group
- Free meditation track
- Free micro method / our first steps personal development mini courses
- Soul Care Healing Method
- Gayle Wilson on Instagram
- Gayle Wilson website
- Gayle’s book: Where the Waves Break
- Gayle Wilson on Facebook
- Gayle Wilson on YouTube
- Gayle’s workshop