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428: True vs. Faux Self

Release Date: 02/12/2025

452: Summer Series - Untriggered: How to Protect Your Peace in Any Situation

School of Self-Image

Becoming Untriggerable: A Journey to Emotional Freedom A trigger is defined as an external or internal event that evokes a strong emotional response, often negative, such as anger, sadness, or anxiety. Tonya Leigh shares her personal experience of being triggered during her father's celebration of life, where she felt intense anger due to a perceived boundary violation. This moment of rage was not just an isolated incident; it reflected deeper feelings and unresolved issues within her. Tonya encourages listeners to view triggers as invitations to look within themselves. Instead of reacting...

451: Summer Series - Shop My Thought Closet

School of Self-Image

The Thought Closet: Discovering the Power of Intentional Thinking Just like a wardrobe, we have a "thought wardrobe" filled with thoughts we wear daily. It's essential to evaluate whether these thoughts serve us well or need to be replaced. We choose outfits that reflect our style and personality, we also curate thoughts that impact how we perceive ourselves. These thoughts can be seen as the mental attire we don each day; some may fit us perfectly, while others may feel outdated or ill-fitting. Host Tonya Leigh encourages listeners to evaluate these thoughts and ask themselves if they...

450: Summer Series - How to Use Style to Reinvent Yourself

School of Self-Image

The Art of Becoming: How Fashion Choices Reflect Your Inner Journey Style transcends mere clothing; it serves as a powerful instrument for self-reinvention, profoundly influencing both our self-perception and how we present ourselves to the world. In a recent podcast episode, Tonya Leigh explores the deep connection between style and identity, emphasizing that every style choice we make conveys a message about who we believe ourselves to be. She shares her personal journey with style, emphasizing its role in self-expression and mood enhancement. Tonya encourages listeners who may feel stuck or...

449: Summer Series - How to Have a Love Affair with Yourself

School of Self-Image

The Most Important Relationship: Loving Yourself First The most crucial relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. This relationship is foundational because you are with yourself every moment of every day. If this relationship is not nurtured and solid, it can lead to a life filled with unnecessary struggles and hardships. Tonya Leigh reflects on the importance of self-love and the pivotal relationship we have with ourselves. Following the recent loss of her father, who embodied love and encouraged her to love others, Tonya shares her realization that she often withheld...

448: Summer Series - Even Elegant Women Get Pissed Off

School of Self-Image

The Power of Ease, Beauty, and Authenticity Welcome to our first ever Summer Series podcast episode. We are revisiting some powerful past episodes, starting with Tonya Leigh's very first podcast she ever recorded. In the journey of personal development, one of the most significant lessons is that powerful women do not wait for clarity to magically appear; instead, they actively create it through intentional decisions. This proactive approach is essential for anyone seeking to lead a fulfilling and empowered life. Tonya explores the theme of decision-making and the...

447: Why I’m Pressing Pause (and You Might Want To, Too)

School of Self-Image

Reimagining Your Self-Image: The Importance of Taking a Step Back In our fast-paced world, the concept of taking a pause is often misconstrued as a sign of weakness or procrastination. However, pressing pause can be a powerful tool for realignment and rejuvenation. Taking a break can lead to introspection and new inspiration, rather than signaling defeat. Tonya Leigh explores the importance of taking a pause to realign and reinvigorate oneself. Tonya shares her personal journey from a state of misalignment to feeling inspired and expansive about the future. She emphasizes the significance...

446: How to Make Powerful Decisions

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Decisions That Empower: Creating Clarity in Your Life Indecision is a common struggle that many people face, often leading to feelings of frustration and stagnation. Tonya Leigh emphasizes that indecision drains your power and creates paralysis in your life. When you find yourself stuck in a cycle of overthinking and uncertainty, it can feel as though you are spinning in circles, unable to move forward. This state of indecision not only saps your energy but also prevents you from generating the momentum necessary for growth and progress. She shares her recent experiences of making bold...

445: How to Create Your Comeback Story

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The Change Cycle: How to Bounce Back Better Than Ever Setbacks are an inevitable part of life. While they can feel overwhelming, they also present unique opportunities for growth and transformation. Embracing the emotions that accompany these challenges is crucial for moving forward effectively. Host Tonya Leigh shares insights from her recent quarterly retreat with her leadership team. She emphasizes the importance of regular check-ins to maintain momentum and accountability in both personal and professional growth. Tonya discusses the inevitable setbacks we face in life and how they...

444: How to Make the Next Six Months Your Best Yet

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Mid-Year Reset: Strategies to Transform Your Life in Six Months To create your best six months ever, it is essential to start by defining what "best" means for you personally. This involves taking the time to reflect on your desires, aspirations, and what success looks like in your life. Tonya Leigh emphasizes that many people fail to define success clearly, which can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and confusion. By asking yourself, "If I woke up six months from now and said this was my best season yet, what would have made it so?" you can gain clarity on the specific outcomes and...

443: 5 Little Details That Have Upleveled My Health & Well-Being

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Little Details, Big Impact: How Small Changes Can Transform Your Life Establishing a morning routine that incorporates intentional practices, such as breath work and connecting with nature, can significantly enhance your day and help you break free from habitual patterns. In a recent podcast episode, the host shares her personal journey of transforming her mornings to create a more intentional and fulfilling start to the day. Host, Tonya Leigh, shares her experience of breaking free from habitual comfort by replacing a reactive coffee routine with a rejuvenating "sunrise ceremony." This...

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Unmasking Your True Self: Discovering Freedom Beyond the Faux Self

When we operate from our faux self, we may find ourselves making choices based on what we think we should want or what will garner approval from others. This can manifest in various ways, such as pursuing a career that looks good on paper but does not fulfill us, or acquiring material possessions to impress others rather than to satisfy our own desires. Tanya shares the story of a client who felt trapped in a high-paying job that brought her no joy, illustrating how the faux self can lead to a life that feels suffocating and unfulfilling.

Tonya explores the profound question, "Who are you really?" She shares her morning routine and the productivity that comes with starting the day early. She introduces a life-changing concept she learned from Martha Beck during her coach training: the distinction between the social self and the essential self. This episode delves into how understanding this concept can empower listeners to shift from feeling like victims of their circumstances to becoming creators of their own lives, our own true identities and explores the origins of their self-perceptions, prompting a deeper exploration of personal authenticity. Tune in for insights that could transform your understanding of yourself and your potential.

Talking Points:

00:52 -Social Self vs. Essential Self
04:06 - Defining the Worldly Woman
08:47 - The Role of the Faux Self in Success
10:20 - True Desires vs. Faux Desires
14:05 - True Desires and Money
18:04 - Childhood Memories and True Self
22:02 - True Self and the Win-Win Approach
25:03 - The Challenge of Sudden Change
27:00 - The Work of Getting Back to Your Authentic Self

Quotes:

"I felt like I was at the effect of my life versus being the creator of my life."

"There is no freedom when the faux self is in control."

"To find someone who is fully in their true self is such a rarity because it takes so much courage and a lot of people won't like you."

"You will know your truth because it will taste like freedom."

"Would you rather be judged for being real or praised for being fake?"

00:28:49 - "Who am I really at my core? Who am I beyond my roles as a mother, as a daughter, as a wife, as a business owner?"

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