School of Self-Image

School of Self-Image is the go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives. Join Master Life Coach, Tonya Leigh, as she shares tips, ideas, and inspiring conversations around elevating your mindset, style, and surroundings to create an extraordinary self-image. Episodes are released each Wednesday. Download the School of Self-Image Manifesto at schoolofselfimage.com/podcastmanifesto

452: Summer Series - Untriggered: How to Protect Your Peace in Any Situation 07/30/2025

452: Summer Series - Untriggered: How to Protect Your Peace in Any Situation Becoming Untriggerable: A Journey to Emotional Freedom A trigger is defined as an external or internal event that evokes a strong emotional response, often negative, such as anger, sadness, or anxiety. Tonya Leigh shares her personal experience of being triggered during her father's celebration of life, where she felt intense anger due to a perceived boundary violation. This moment of rage was not just an isolated incident; it reflected deeper feelings and unresolved issues within her. Tonya encourages listeners to view triggers as invitations to look within themselves. Instead of reacting impulsively, we can take a moment to pause and reflect on why we are feeling a certain way. This self-exploration can lead to profound insights about our past experiences, beliefs, and values. Tune in for insights on managing emotions and fostering a peaceful mindset. Talking Points: 00:47 - Personal Trigger Experience 03:05 - Understanding Triggers 05:02 - Lessons from Triggers 07:00 - Loving Difficult People 10:46 - The Quest to Be Untriggered 14:25 - Common Reactions to Triggers 18:41 - Childhood Reactions to Triggers 23:04 - Steps to Handle Triggers 32:00 - Achieving Peace Through Triggers Quotes: "I felt like I could hit someone. I was so triggered." "When you are so easily triggered, you are out of control in your own life." "Accepting I am a human being having a human emotion right now and this emotion is here to teach me something." "At the end of the day, I really do think that we all just want to be loved. We all want to be understood and we all just want to be respected." "You can only feel peace if you're willing to feel all of the emotions." Useful Resources: Click to Download the Free Podcast Guide Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/37344120

451: Summer Series - Shop My Thought Closet 07/23/2025

451: Summer Series - Shop My Thought Closet The Thought Closet: Discovering the Power of Intentional Thinking Just like a wardrobe, we have a "thought wardrobe" filled with thoughts we wear daily. It's essential to evaluate whether these thoughts serve us well or need to be replaced. We choose outfits that reflect our style and personality, we also curate thoughts that impact how we perceive ourselves. These thoughts can be seen as the mental attire we don each day; some may fit us perfectly, while others may feel outdated or ill-fitting. Host Tonya Leigh encourages listeners to evaluate these thoughts and ask themselves if they truly resonate with the life they desire and their personal values. By consciously selecting our thoughts, much like we choose our outfits, we can cultivate a self-image that aligns with our true selves. Tune in to discover how to shop for the most beautiful and empowering thoughts to enhance your life! Talking Points: 01:03 - Evaluating Your Thought Wardrobe 03:42 - Thoughts That Align with Your Vision 05:59 - Health and Business Thoughts 10:03 - Visibility and Authenticity 12:41 - Shopping for Thoughts Intentionally 16:41 - Goodwill Thoughts and Inherited Beliefs 20:15 - Choosing Thoughts on Purpose 28:38 - Morning Thoughts 34:34 - Thoughts About Money 40:06 - Upgrading Money Thoughts 45:07 - Thoughts About Time 48:42 - Thoughts About Life 50:00 Embracing Failure for Success 52:06 Journey to the Dream 56:58 Love is Always the Answer Quotes: "Girl, that thought looks terrible on you." "Just because you've been wearing a thought for decades doesn't mean you have to keep wearing it." "I am beautiful. I am smart. I am capable. I am abundant. I am able to create whatever it is that my heart really, really desires." "If money were the answer, those people would just be living their best lives, but they're not." "I love believing that failure is what dreams are built upon." "First of all, I do think the best parts of me are the most imperfect parts." Useful Resources: Click to Download the Free Podcast Guide Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/37288975

450: Summer Series - How to Use Style to Reinvent Yourself 07/16/2025

450: Summer Series - How to Use Style to Reinvent Yourself The Art of Becoming: How Fashion Choices Reflect Your Inner Journey Style transcends mere clothing; it serves as a powerful instrument for self-reinvention, profoundly influencing both our self-perception and how we present ourselves to the world. In a recent podcast episode, Tonya Leigh explores the deep connection between style and identity, emphasizing that every style choice we make conveys a message about who we believe ourselves to be. She shares her personal journey with style, emphasizing its role in self-expression and mood enhancement. Tonya encourages listeners who may feel stuck or in a rut to make intentional style choices that can spark a glow-up. Join her as she explores the connection between personal development and style, and discover how to use your wardrobe to reflect and uplift your true self. Talking Points: 00:00:11 - The Power of Style Choices 00:02:29 - Style as a Glimmer of Hope 00:05:01 - Fun with Accessories 00:07:09 - Evolution of Style in Durango 00:09:49 - Voting for Your Future Self 00:12:53 - Understanding Self-Image 00:14:42 - Breaking the Rut with Style 00:16:09 - Style as a Wake-Up Call 00:19:48 - Style and Identity Transformation 00:21:35 - Expanding Possibilities with Style 23:11 - Letting Go of Old Identities 25:08 - Style for Different Dreams 00:25:51 - Celebrating Style Victories Quotes: "The reality is clothes don't make you worthy." "I have allowed myself to drop all of the shoulds, to stop boxing myself in, and to just day by day wear what delights me." "I had to stop being a woman who needed to lose weight and become a slim woman who had simply gained a little weight." "You can only ever create to the edge of your self-image." "Style is a beautiful tool to help you create that identity so that you can therefore create the results." "Celebrate all of those little style victories when you feel like, oh, I feel like this is getting closer." Useful Resources: Click to Download the Free Podcast Guide Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/37266535

449: Summer Series - How to Have a Love Affair with Yourself 07/09/2025

449: Summer Series - How to Have a Love Affair with Yourself The Most Important Relationship: Loving Yourself First The most crucial relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. This relationship is foundational because you are with yourself every moment of every day. If this relationship is not nurtured and solid, it can lead to a life filled with unnecessary struggles and hardships. Tonya Leigh reflects on the importance of self-love and the pivotal relationship we have with ourselves. Following the recent loss of her father, who embodied love and encouraged her to love others, Tonya shares her realization that she often withheld love from herself. She discusses the common tendency to place conditions on self-love, such as needing to lose weight or achieve perfection before feeling worthy of love. This episode revisits the themes of the earlier podcast "How to Have a Love Affair with Yourself," emphasizing that fostering a strong relationship with oneself is crucial for a fulfilling life. Join Tonya as she encourages listeners to embrace unconditional self-love and nurture their most important relationship. Talking Points: 00:53 - Loss of My Father  01:46 - Self-Love Journey: Early Realizations  04:41 - Alone Time: Getting to Know Yourself  06:10 - Standing by Yourself 07:27 - Oscar Wilde Quote: Lifelong Romance with Yourself 10:31 - Listening to Your Desires  17:34 - Speaking Lovingly to Yourself  00:20:23 - Filling Your Love Tank  00:22:11 - Treating Yourself Well 00:22:11 - Dressing Up for Yourself 00:28:00 - Emotional Scale: Attracting Love 00:29:17 - Staying in a State of Love Quotes: "I realized that the one person that I'm with every single day, I often withheld the most love from, and that was myself." "When you develop that kind of relationship with yourself, you really do become unstoppable." "We have to be with ourselves for the rest of our lives, which is why it is the number one relationship for you to focus on cultivating." "If you want to have a love affair with yourself, it's going to require that you listen to your desires of what you want." "The most amazing gift that I can give the world is to love myself madly." Useful Resources: Click to Download the Free Podcast Guide Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/37265375

448: Summer Series - Even Elegant Women Get Pissed Off 07/02/2025

448: Summer Series - Even Elegant Women Get Pissed Off The Power of Ease, Beauty, and Authenticity Welcome to our first ever Summer Series podcast episode. We are revisiting some powerful past episodes, starting with Tonya Leigh's very first podcast she ever recorded. In the journey of personal development, one of the most significant lessons is that powerful women do not wait for clarity to magically appear; instead, they actively create it through intentional decisions. This proactive approach is essential for anyone seeking to lead a fulfilling and empowered life. Tonya explores the theme of decision-making and the importance of taking intentional action. She emphasizes that powerful women don't wait for clarity but rather create it through confident choices. As part of the Summer Podcast Series, Tonya revisits her very first episode, reflecting on her growth and insights since it was recorded. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their own decision-making processes and are provided with a valuable resource: an extensive podcast guide featuring nearly 500 episodes on various personal development topics. Tune in to gain practical tools for making aligned decisions in your life! Talking Points: 00:38 - Summer Podcast Series Announcement 00:01:52 - Revisiting the First Episode 03:07 - The Importance of Starting Imperfectly 04:01 - The Compound Effect 07:03 - The Self-Help Industry Rant 09:03 - The Addiction to Self-Help 11:04 - Living from a Place of Enoughness 13:21 - The Dark Side of Self-Help 15:09 - Confessions of a Former Addict 17:08 - Action Over Analysis 19:57 - The Best Personal Development 21:22 - A Stand for Ease, Beauty, and Elegance Quotes: "The truth is powerful women don't wait for clarity. They create through intentional decisions." "I believe you are incredibly whole and enough as you are right now." "When did enlightenment become so dark?" "Americans are driving themselves crazy trying to be happy." "True luxury is when the journey to the dream is as beautiful as the dream itself." "Life's too short, don't you think?" Useful Resources: Click to Download the Free Podcast Guide Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/37205425

447: Why I’m Pressing Pause (and You Might Want To, Too) 06/25/2025

447: Why I’m Pressing Pause (and You Might Want To, Too) Reimagining Your Self-Image: The Importance of Taking a Step Back In our fast-paced world, the concept of taking a pause is often misconstrued as a sign of weakness or procrastination. However, pressing pause can be a powerful tool for realignment and rejuvenation. Taking a break can lead to introspection and new inspiration, rather than signaling defeat. Tonya Leigh explores the importance of taking a pause to realign and reinvigorate oneself. Tonya shares her personal journey from a state of misalignment to feeling inspired and expansive about the future. She emphasizes the significance of staying committed to oneself during tough times and being curious about one's emotions. By making necessary adjustments and reflecting on experiences, listeners can break through to new levels of self-image. Tonya also offers signs that indicate it might be time for a pause in your own life. Join her for insights on navigating periods of stagnation and moving toward a more vibrant self. Talking Points: 01:03 - Recognizing Misalignment and Emotional Abandonment 03:10 - The Need for a Break and Reinvigoration 05:08 - Introduction of the Summer Series 08:53 - Going Live on Instagram 11:10 - Avoidance vs. Reflection 13:54 - Feeling Worse During a Pause 15:50 - Busy but Not Fulfilled 18:50 - Evolution and Life Catching Up 22:40 - Staying Connected During the Summer 23:01 - Downloading the Free Quotes: I need to take a step back, get re-inspired, get out into the world, live more, connect more, read more, enjoy more." "When you begin to look at your life through this win-win filter and ask yourself better questions, you start to come up with so many creative ideas." "What if the real risk is ignoring the voice inside of you that's asking for some stillness?" "If you build your life on decisions to avoid guilt, guess what's gonna happen? You're gonna create a life you do not like." "I do want to take a step back and ask myself, what's next?" Click to Download the Free Podcast Guide Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/37104075

446: How to Make Powerful Decisions 06/18/2025

446: How to Make Powerful Decisions Decisions That Empower: Creating Clarity in Your Life Indecision is a common struggle that many people face, often leading to feelings of frustration and stagnation. Tonya Leigh emphasizes that indecision drains your power and creates paralysis in your life. When you find yourself stuck in a cycle of overthinking and uncertainty, it can feel as though you are spinning in circles, unable to move forward. This state of indecision not only saps your energy but also prevents you from generating the momentum necessary for growth and progress. She shares her recent experiences of making bold financial and business decisions that have fueled her excitement and confidence. Tonya emphasizes how much time we often spend in indecision about various aspects of our lives, from what to wear to career choices, and how this indecision can drain our energy and hinder progress. Throughout the episode, she introduces her personal decision filter, designed to help listeners make aligned and confident choices. Tune in to discover how to break free from indecision and start creating momentum in your life! Talking Points: 00:37 - The Power of Making Decisions 02:55 - The Myth of Wrong Decisions 04:10 - The Importance of the Second Decision 05:55 - Creating a Decision Filter 06:17 - Aligning with What Matters 08:03 - Voting for Your Future Self 11:20 - Love or Fear? 14:09 - One-Way or Two-Way Door 18:31 - Embracing Decisiveness 19:17 - Sweet Spot Playbook Quotes: "Indecision just zaps your power." "I have just decided that there are no wrong decisions. They're just decisions that I learned from." "What I've learned about intuition is that it's very quiet. It's very calm. It whispers to you. Fear is panic. Fear is very loud." "Decisions made from fear just lead to more fear. And decisions made from power lead to more power." "It was a very thought out decision. It was a one-way door decision." "The quality of your life will be a reflection of the quality of your questions." "Powerful women don't choose between desire and alignment. They create solutions that honor both." Useful Resources: Click for The Sweet Spot Playbook Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36990290

445: How to Create Your Comeback Story 06/11/2025

445: How to Create Your Comeback Story The Change Cycle: How to Bounce Back Better Than Ever Setbacks are an inevitable part of life. While they can feel overwhelming, they also present unique opportunities for growth and transformation. Embracing the emotions that accompany these challenges is crucial for moving forward effectively. Host Tonya Leigh shares insights from her recent quarterly retreat with her leadership team. She emphasizes the importance of regular check-ins to maintain momentum and accountability in both personal and professional growth. Tonya discusses the inevitable setbacks we face in life and how they are essential for appreciating the highs and teaching us valuable lessons. Whether you're currently thriving or facing challenges, this episode serves as a reminder that lows can help us shed what no longer serves us and pave the way for renewal and growth. Tune in for an uplifting conversation that encourages self-reflection and resilience. Talking Points: 01:08 - Importance of Regular Touch Points 03:05 - Feeling Hopeless and Needing Tools 07:03 - Allowing Yourself to Break Open 10:14 - Identity Crisis and Letting Go 18:19 - Creating a Desire List 22:14 - Choosing One Focus 25:08 - Dealing with Imposter Syndrome 28:04 - Falling in Love with the Process 32:08 - Internalizing a New Self-Image 34:42 - No Timeline for Your Comeback 00:35:58 - Comeback Challenge Quotes: "You can't appreciate the highs without the lows." "Surrender is just letting go of the illusion of control." "When you begin to speak on purpose and hold those images in your mind, you are shaping your reality." "I am a woman in motion. I am going forward. I'm not staying stagnant. I'm not staying stuck." "It just means you need to create more evidence for the new self." "Your setback is not the end of your story. It's the beginning of your next era." Useful Resources: Click for The Calm Ritual Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36905765

444: How to Make the Next Six Months Your Best Yet 06/04/2025

444: How to Make the Next Six Months Your Best Yet Mid-Year Reset: Strategies to Transform Your Life in Six Months To create your best six months ever, it is essential to start by defining what "best" means for you personally. This involves taking the time to reflect on your desires, aspirations, and what success looks like in your life. Tonya Leigh emphasizes that many people fail to define success clearly, which can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and confusion. By asking yourself, "If I woke up six months from now and said this was my best season yet, what would have made it so?" you can gain clarity on the specific outcomes and experiences you want to achieve. Tonya reflects on the halfway point of 2025 and encourages listeners to evaluate their feelings about the year so far. She shares her personal experience of needing a reset after feeling off track and discusses the importance of shifting one’s perspective to create the best next six months. Tune in for insights on becoming more of your authentic self and setting the stage for an empowered second half of the year. Talking Points: 00:34 - Mid-Year Reflection: How Are You Feeling? 03:21 - The Importance of Becoming an Energetic Match 06:10 - General Tips for the Next Six Months 08:07 - Tonya's Social Media Breakthrough 13:05 - Stepping into a New Role 17:27 - Stop Giving CPR to Your Past 20:31 - Rehearsing Your Future 24:47 - Deciding to Have Your Best Six Months Ever Quotes: "The real secret is you being an energetic match for what it is you want, to be aligned with what you want." "It is going to be a complete energetic expansion. It's going to be you deciding to step into a whole new role." "Stop giving CPR to your past." "When you expand your self-image, you immediately expand what's possible for you." "Rehearse your future until she feels so familiar." "Let's all decide right now that we are about to create our best six months ever." Useful Resources: Click for The Calm Ritual Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36763470

443: 5 Little Details That Have Upleveled My Health & Well-Being 05/28/2025

443: 5 Little Details That Have Upleveled My Health & Well-Being Little Details, Big Impact: How Small Changes Can Transform Your Life Establishing a morning routine that incorporates intentional practices, such as breath work and connecting with nature, can significantly enhance your day and help you break free from habitual patterns. In a recent podcast episode, the host shares her personal journey of transforming her mornings to create a more intentional and fulfilling start to the day. Host, Tonya Leigh, shares her experience of breaking free from habitual comfort by replacing a reactive coffee routine with a rejuvenating "sunrise ceremony." This practice involves sitting outside, soaking in the morning sun, and engaging in breath work for five minutes. Tonya emphasizes how this simple yet powerful ritual helps reset their nervous system and sets a positive tone for the day. Tune in to discover how you can enhance your mornings and cultivate a deeper connection with yourself and the world around you. Talking Points: 00:18 - Breaking Morning Habits 00:31 - Sunrise Ceremony 03:09 - Introducing the Glowtini 05:58 - Strut and Sculpt Routine 09:01 - Benefits of Pilates 12:11 - Collagen in Coffee 13:05 - Effects of Protein and Healthy Fats 15:04 - Importance of Intentional Thoughts 20:22 - Assessing Life Details 23:43 - The Calm Ritual Quotes: "What really happens is we're having to break out of habits that we're so accustomed to." "Don't take your health for granted just because you feel okay." "It's not a struggle when you take the drama out of it and you just ask yourself, okay, what do I need to do to hit this goal?" "The reality is your thoughts are shaping your entire experience." "I attribute the majority of my success from me literally brainwashing myself into believing that I was going to have success." "Real self-image work doesn't start in the mirror. It starts in the stillness." Useful Resources: Click for The Calm Ritual Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36708800

442: Regulation is the New Discipline 05/21/2025

442: Regulation is the New Discipline Emotional Regulation: The New Discipline for a Chaotic World Emotional regulation has become an essential skill for personal growth and success, especially in today's fast-paced and often chaotic world. The ability to manage one's emotional responses, rather than attempting to control external circumstances, is crucial for effectively navigating life's challenges. Tonya Leigh explores the crucial concept of emotional regulation in today's fast-paced and divisive world. Tonya emphasizes that instead of trying to control external circumstances, our true power lies in managing our emotional responses. She begins with a personal check-in, encouraging listeners to assess their feelings on a scale from zero to ten. Despite facing significant challenges, including her father's illness and business setbacks, Tonya shares how her commitment to self-work has helped her maintain a positive outlook, rating her emotional state as a nine. The episode highlights the importance of nurturing our nervous systems and offers insights into overcoming fear of the future. Tune in for valuable strategies on how to cultivate emotional resilience and thrive in turbulent times. Talking Points: 00:44 - Self-Check: How Are You Feeling? 02:09 - Fear of the Future and Self-Image 04:45 - Understanding Self-Image and State of Being 08:42 - Subconscious Blocks and Self-Image 11:51 - External Control vs. Internal Regulation 15:01 - Self-Soothing and Mothering Yourself 18:44 - Regulation in Entrepreneurship 22:42 - New You, New Nervous System 23:14 - Join the School of Self-Image Quotes: "Regulation is the new discipline because we are living in some wild times." "If you don't decide on purpose, if you don't take ownership of that, you are going to have a very dysregulated nervous system." "A lot of us are just walking around as children in adult bodies." "When you start becoming this person for yourself, you will be amazed at what you're capable of." "I'm going to be the one that changes. That's when miracles happen." "When you can regulate your nervous system and you don't freak out, when you have that ability to just take a pause, go in, take some breaths, calm yourself down, remind yourself, I'm safe in this moment." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36586450

441: Unshakeable Faith in Your Future 05/14/2025

441: Unshakeable Faith in Your Future The Power of Believing: How to Cultivate Unshakable Faith in Yourself To have unshakable faith in your future, you need three types of faith: Faith in Your Future: Believe in your vision and choose thoughts that make your future feel exciting and aligned. Faith in Yourself: Trust yourself and keep promises to yourself. This builds self-confidence and reduces fear of the future. Faith in the Process: Trust that every experience, good or bad, is part of your evolution. Life's challenges are stepping stones to something meaningful. Host Tonya Leigh explores the transformative power of unshakable faith in shaping our actions, mindset, and resilience during uncertain times. Tonya shares her excitement about an upcoming workshop focused on cultivating inner calm and confidence, emphasizing the importance of believing in our ability to rise and thrive. She reflects on her personal journey of shedding subconscious patterns over the past six months, revealing how this growth has prepared her to bring a renewed perspective to the workshop. Tune in to discover how to strengthen your faith in the future and embrace the changes necessary for personal development. Talking Points: 01:15 - Shedding Layers 03:35 - Excitement About the Future 06:16 - Believing Before Seeing 08:47 - Unshakable Faith in Your Direction 11:49 - Three Types of Faith Needed 17:09 - Keeping Promises to Yourself 20:00 - Criticism and Staying True to Yourself 24:17 - Falling in Love with the Process 25:11 - Connection Between Faith and a Calm Body 26:04 - Visualization Exercise Quotes: "None of us are here to live a small life." "More than ever, we need to have faith in our futures because faith acts as an anchor during uncertainty." "Why not take back imaginative control as to what you want to think and believe about your future?" "The beauty of having unshakable faith in yourself is that you stop being afraid of the future." "It's when we doubt our future, when we doubt ourselves and we doubt the process. That's when we don't show up." "Your future is shaped by the faith that you practice today." Useful Resources: Click for the Unshakeable Workshop Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36519405

440: Elegant Success: What No One Talks About 05/07/2025

440: Elegant Success: What No One Talks About Unshakeable: Redefining Success on Your Own Terms In the pursuit of success, many individuals find themselves chasing external markers—such as wealth, recognition, or status—believing that these achievements will bring them happiness and fulfillment. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, true success, or "elegant success," is fundamentally about creating a life that aligns with your personal values and brings genuine satisfaction. Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of elegant success—success that is rooted in personal values, alignment, and ease, rather than societal pressures to do more and be more. Tonya shares her reflections on the importance of creating a fulfilling life that feels good on the inside, as well as the challenges many are facing in today's uncertain world. Drawing from her personal experiences, including navigating her own emotional landscape during difficult times, she emphasizes the significance of managing one's nervous system and internal world to cultivate resilience and peace. Tune in for insights that challenge traditional definitions of success and encourage listeners to redefine what it means to thrive. Talking Points: 00:33 - Rethinking Success 01:15 - Uncertainty and the Nervous System 03:02 - Leading Through Uncertainty 05:44 - Elegant Success: What No One Tells You 07:08 - The Messiness of Success 10:07 - Life and Business Changes 13:10 - Trusting Your Gut 16:21 - Releasing with Grace 18:05 - Feeling Lost Before Clarity 20:15 - Shedding Old Identities 23:04 - The Emptiness of Misaligned Success 25:01 - Reconnecting with Your Essence 26:05 - Navigating Back to Your North Star Quotes: "What if the real flex is creating a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside?" "Elegant success is creating the life you desire without abandoning yourself in the process." "I've encountered so much peace by just accepting that it's going to feel elegant and then it's going to feel messy again." "You cannot evolve and expect everyone to come with you." "The doubt that you may be feeling, well, it's not failure, it's just feedback." "I started to trade my truth for someone else's checklist, and I was shaping my life around approval instead of alignment." Useful Resources: Click for the Unshakable Workshop Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36411135

439: 3 Times Life Almost Broke Me 04/30/2025

439: 3 Times Life Almost Broke Me Three Moments That Almost Broke Me—and Made Me Stronger Life is a journey filled with ups and downs, and it is often during our most challenging moments that we discover our true strength. In the latest episode of the School of Self-Image, Tonya Leigh shares her personal experiences of facing adversity and how these moments ultimately shaped her into a stronger, more resilient version of herself. Tonya opens up about her own transformative life moments that felt overwhelmingly challenging. She shares her vulnerability in recording this episode, revealing the resistance she faced and the importance of showing the raw, real version of ourselves. Tonya discusses the concept of wabi-sabi, an ancient Japanese philosophy that appreciates beauty in imperfection and incompleteness, contrasting it with our perfection-obsessed culture. Join her as she explores how the toughest experiences can ultimately shape and strengthen our character. Tune in for an inspiring conversation on embracing our flaws and the growth that comes from life's challenges. Talking Points: 00:33 - The Challenge of Vulnerability 01:38 - Embracing Imperfection: The Wabi-Sabi Philosophy 02:31 - Life's Breaking Points 04:06 - Moment 1: Divorce and Single Motherhood 07:04 - Moment 2: Battling an Eating Disorder 13:17 - Moment 3: Daughter's Illness and Personal Sacrifice 22:42 - Reflections and Lessons Learned 25:19 - Encouragement for Those Struggling 26:03 - Embracing the Journey Quotes: "It wasn't breaking me. It was making me unbreakable." "It's okay to ask for help. It's okay to be supported. It's okay to not know how to do this on your own." "No matter how down you think you are, don't give up on yourself because remember, those moments, they're what's making you stronger." "I think the biggest gift that came out of this was... she appreciates and takes care of herself in such a way that I don't think she would have had this not happened." "You don't give up on the dream, but you may have to adjust your goals." "You are not falling apart. You're actually falling into yourself." "It doesn't mean that you're weak. It means that you're human." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36305945

438: Maximizing Moments 04/23/2025

438: Maximizing Moments The Lightning Strike: A Wake-Up Call to Live Fully In our fast-paced lives, it's easy to let moments slip by unnoticed, overshadowed by distractions and the constant hum of to-do lists. However, as Tonya Leigh emphasizes in this episode, life doesn't need to be grand to feel fulfilling; it simply needs to be fully lived. The key to unlocking joy, clarity, and confidence lies in maximizing our moments. Tonya shares a deeply personal story inspired by a frightening experience during a flight from Charlotte to Boston. While 15,000 to 20,000 feet in the air, an unexpected flash of light shook the plane, sending passengers into a panic. Tonya recounts her reaction of stillness amidst chaos, highlighting the importance of maximizing moments in life. She emphasizes that life doesn't need to be bigger to feel better; rather, it requires a fuller experience. Join Tonya as she explores how to unlock more joy, clarity, and confidence in your everyday moments. Grab your tea or coffee and prepare for an enlightening discussion on living fully. Talking Points: 00:43 - Tonya's Scary Flight Experience 03:23 - Realization of Life's Value 05:09 - What Really Matters 07:16 - How We Minimize Moments 09:53 - Deep Presence and Awareness 13:23 - Focusing on Lack vs. Appreciation 18:10 - Wealth and Maximizing Resources 22:28 - Investing in Inspiration 24:46 - Living in Gratitude Quotes: "It woke me up to what really, really matters." "As long as I have my life, I have possibility." "When you are present, you'll realize you're okay in this moment without all of the mental drama." "The practice of appreciation will change your life." "Focusing on what you already have and maximizing it will lead to discoveries and results that will expand your life." "The best way to do that is to make here so full that you outgrow it." "You don't need more time. You just need more aliveness in the time you already have." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36214050

437: The Soft Life vs. The Hustle Culture 04/16/2025

437: The Soft Life vs. The Hustle Culture The Art of Joyfully Hustling: Balancing Ambition and Ease In today's fast-paced world, the tension between hustle culture and the soft life often leads individuals to feel they must choose one over the other. However, finding a balance between these two energies is essential for a fulfilling life. Both hustle and softness are necessary components that contribute to our growth and overall well-being. Host Tonya Leigh delves into the intriguing balance between hustle culture and the soft life. She discusses how neither approach alone is sufficient for achieving the life we truly desire. Instead, the key lies in 'joyfully hustling,' which blends ambition with ease and structure with spaciousness. Tonya also shares her personal journey of transitioning to video podcasting and the importance of embracing growth in areas where we feel resistance. Join her as she explores how to create a harmonious rhythm in pursuing big dreams while enjoying a beautiful life. Talking Points: 00:22 - Balancing Big Dreams and a Soft Life 03:45 - Soft Life vs. Hustle Culture 05:09 - Defining the Soft Life 09:27 - Understanding Hustle Culture 13:19 - Toxic Hustle and Balance 17:04 - Physiological Need for Rhythm 19:02 - Masculine and Feminine Energies 22:04 - Reflective Questions for Balance 27:01 - Softening into Your Ideal Life 29:08 - The Curated Day Practice 32:08 - Daily Intentions and Energy 33:01 - Finding Your Rhythm Quotes: "The magic, it lives in the rhythm and the blend and what I call joyfully hustling." "It's saying I don't have to hustle for my worth. I get to live well now, not someday." "Your worth isn't measured by how exhausted you are." "You become a woman who knows how to work with her own energy instead of against it, and that is powerful." "Sometimes hustle sneaks in wearing the costume of ambition, but underneath it's just fear." "A soft life isn't about zoning out, it's about zoning in, into pleasure, into presence, into what you really want your life to feel like." "Intentionally creating your days leads to a life beyond your wildest dreams." "Your life is not a problem to solve. It's a masterpiece to curate." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36056545

436: Are You the Drama? 04/09/2025

436: Are You the Drama? The Drama Triangle Explained: How to Reclaim Your Power The Drama Triangle, a concept developed by psychologist Stephen Karpman, illustrates how individuals can become entangled in a cycle of emotional exhaustion and conflict through three distinct roles: the victim, the rescuer, and the villain. Each role plays a significant part in perpetuating drama in our lives, often without our conscious awareness. Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of the Drama Triangle, a framework that reveals the subconscious patterns we create in our lives. The discussion highlights how many people gravitate towards drama, whether for a sense of identity, adrenaline, or connection, often without realizing it. Tonya emphasizes that while some drama may serve a purpose, much of it keeps us trapped in familiar, chaotic states, preventing us from experiencing peace and ease in our lives. Tune in as we break down the three roles in the Drama Triangle—victim, villain, and hero—and how to recognize and escape these patterns to achieve a more elegant and fulfilling life. 00:47 - The Allure of Drama: Why We Create It 01:03 - Craving Peace and Elegance 02:09 - Role 1: The Victim 04:16 - The Victim's Self-Image 07:10 - Role 2: The Rescuer 09:50 - Examples of the Rescuer Role 11:07 - The Rescuer's Self-Image 16:00 - Role 3: The Villain 19:30 - Examples of the Villain Role 22:26 - The Villain's Self-Image 23:32 - Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle 24:03 - Becoming the Main Character Quotes: "What we crave is a sense of ease, a sense of peace, a sense of elegance in our lives, which means that we're going to have to give up some of the drama." "You're not the problem, but you are the solution." "If you want to grow your impact, if you want to have more ease in your life, you must be willing to let other people fail." "I'm only valuable when I'm needed." "The control, the criticism, and the blame comes from a fear of losing control, of not being enough, of being exposed." "You're the main character, but more importantly, you're also the writer and the director." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/36011130

435: How to Spring Clean Your Self-Image 04/02/2025

435: How to Spring Clean Your Self-Image Clearing the Clutter: Transforming Your Self-Image for a New Season Spring is often associated with renewal and fresh beginnings, and this concept can be applied to our self-image as well. Just as we clean out our closets or declutter our homes, we can also take the time to refresh how we see ourselves and how we show up in the world. Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of spring cleaning your self-image, much like we do with our homes. As nature begins to awaken from winter, it's the perfect time to reflect on how we perceive ourselves and make necessary changes for personal growth. The host invites listeners to embrace this season of renewal by clearing out old beliefs and habits that no longer serve them and to welcome in new, positive energy that aligns with the woman they're becoming. Join us as we discuss practical steps to refresh your self-image, create an environment that supports your evolution, and ignite your journey toward self-reinvention. Get ready to dive deep and transform your perspective this spring! Talking Points: 00:47 - A Time for Reinvention 02:02 - Identify the Area to Spring Clean 04:00 - Paint the Vision for Your After Story 07:10 - Clear the Clutter of Limiting Beliefs 12:21 - Bring in Fresh Energy and New Beliefs 20:02 - Protect the Space with Boundaries and Systems 27:52 - Elevate and Upgrade Your Environment Quotes: "Within each of us, we always have a new after story that's just waiting to be revealed, waiting to be experienced, waiting to be created, but you have to paint it first." "Identity is built in tiny decisions." "If you continue to do what you're doing for the next 10 years, are you going to like the result?" "My workouts go in my calendar like a meeting with my most important client because honestly, I am." "If you love this podcast, if it brings a spark of joy to your life, if it's helped you to navigate some challenging times." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35894460

Quiet Power: The Secret of Women Who Hold Their Own 03/26/2025

Quiet Power: The Secret of Women Who Hold Their Own Cultivating Quiet Confidence as a Woman In today's fast-paced world, power is often associated with loudness, dominance, and aggressive behavior. However, Tonya Leigh highlights a different perspective: quiet power, which is rooted in presence, certainty, and self-trust. This form of power is not about making noise or asserting oneself over others; rather, it embodies a calm and confident energy that naturally commands respect. The concept of "quiet power" and what it truly means to be a strong, influential woman without conforming to traditional expectations of dominance. Tonya reflects on her personal journey and how her quietness and feminine energy have often been misinterpreted as weaknesses. She shares insights on the importance of authenticity and self-trust, emphasizing that true power lies in being aligned with one’s true self rather than succumbing to external pressures. Join Tonya as she uncovers how to embrace your presence, influence without force, and become undeniably powerful in your own unique way. Talking Points: 01:42 - Misalignment and Loss of Power 04:25 - True Power and Insecurity 06:33 - Knowing Your Worth 11:04 - Acting Out of Character 14:49 - Rosa Parks' Quiet Defiance 18:24 - Unshakable Boundaries 22:07 - Importance of Emotional Management 26:04 - Dressing and Moving with Intentionality 28:29 - Embodying Quiet Power 30:22 - Taking Action Without Announcing Quotes: "If you are trying to be something that your soul is not in alignment with, if you are trying to be powerful in a way that doesn't feel true to you, there is going to be misalignment." "I am that quiet power. I have no interest in dominating you. I want us all to win together." "Her strength lay in her unshakable presence, her certainty, and her quiet refusal to be moved, literally and figuratively." "There's something magnetic about a woman who's in that energy that's just so in who she is, who's so present, who has nothing to prove and everything to give." "How would you dress, walk, and speak if you fully believed in your power?" "A woman with quiet power doesn't waste time talking about what she's going to do. She just does it." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35812980

433: Why Most Self-Help Advice is Keeping You Stuck 03/19/2025

433: Why Most Self-Help Advice is Keeping You Stuck How to Stop Feeling Stuck in Self-Help Personal development is often viewed as a daunting task, laden with pressure to achieve specific milestones or conform to societal expectations. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, it should be approached as an invitation—a joyful endeavor that encourages you to discover and express the most vibrant version of yourself. Tonya Leigh explores the paradox of self-help: how even with the right resources and strategies, individuals can still feel stuck. She emphasizes that the way self-help is approached can significantly impact one's progress. Tonya shares insights from her recent quarterly retreat with her team, focusing on the concept of essentialism—doing less but with greater impact. She encourages listeners to examine their current practices, identifying what adds value and what may be holding them back. Join Tonya as she dives deeper into the pitfalls of self-help and offers actionable guidance to help you move forward on your personal development journey. Talking Points: 00:09 - Introduction: Feeling Stuck in Self-Help 01:52 - Why Self-Help Might Be Keeping You Stuck 02:44 - The Pressure to Go Bigger in Personal Development 05:03 - Shifting from Extraordinary to Signature Goals 08:05 - Obsessing Over Every Thought 11:07 - Constant Consumption Mode 15:02 - Taking Action to Reinforce Self-Image 17:10 - Belief That You Need to Be Fixed 20:03 - Personal Growth as an Invitation, Not an Obligation 21:51 - The Importance of Environment in Personal Development 25:32 - You Are Not Broken, You Are Whole Quotes: "If you're trying to expand into things that aren't for you, that really don't align with your values, that don't really light you up, it can feel very, very empty." "When your growth is aligned with your truth, it stops feeling like pressure and starts feeling like a privilege." "If you're just consuming and not putting what you learn into practice, all you have is a lot of unrealized knowledge." "When you let go of the idea that you're broken, everything will change." "Shouldn't personal growth be inspiring, not exhausting?" "Your surroundings can either reinforce a self-image that you desire or keep you stuck in an old identity." "News alert, you're not broken." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35554595

432: My Love Story: The Self-Image Shifts That Led to My Engagement 03/12/2025

432: My Love Story: The Self-Image Shifts That Led to My Engagement Transforming Your Self-Image: The Key to Attracting Effortless Love Your love story begins with self-love and an understanding of your own worth before seeking love from others. This foundational concept is beautifully illustrated in Tonya Leigh's podcast episode, where she shares her personal journey of transformation and the shifts in self-image that led her to a fulfilling relationship. Tonya Leigh shares her personal love story and the pivotal self-image shifts that led to her engagement. She explores the connection between self-worth and the quality of relationships, emphasizing that our experiences in love often reflect how we see ourselves. Tonya invites listeners to consider the lessons learned from past relationships and how they can apply these insights to foster more fulfilling connections. With a light-hearted tone, she encourages self-reflection and growth, reminding us that relationships are powerful mirrors of our inner world. Tune in for an inspiring discussion on attracting the love you deserve! Talking Points: 01:02 - Tonya's Love Story: Self-Image Shifts 03:08 - Part One: The Attraction Stage 05:07 - Embracing Alone Time: Self-Discovery 07:47 - Dating Mindset: Enjoying the Process 10:24 - Online Dating: Authentic Profiles 14:44 - Authenticity: Sharing Fears 17:34 - Part Two: The Partnership Stage 20:04 - Redefining Love: Beyond Hollywood Rom-Coms 23:10 - Enjoying the Journey: No Rush to Marry 25:07 - The Beginning of Love: Self-Love First 26:02 - Embodying Love Quotes: "I just allowed myself to cry and to grieve and to feel all of the feelings because I knew that if I didn't deal with that, I was just going to keep attracting more of the same." "I was open, but not attached. There was no rush, no timeline, no pressure." "I'm not going to abandon me to get someone else's approval." "I wasn't out there searching for love; I was fully immersed in a life that felt joyful and fulfilling." "His love is steady, strong, and unwavering. His love is a beautiful, masculine love. Strong yet soft." "Your love story doesn't begin when someone else enters into your life. It begins the moment you decide to love yourself deeply, unapologetically, and completely." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35554255

431: Stop Managing Other People’s Emotions 03/05/2025

431: Stop Managing Other People’s Emotions The Power of Setting Boundaries and Trusting Yourself Managing other people's emotions is a common behavior that many individuals engage in, often with the intention of maintaining harmony and avoiding conflict. However, this habit can lead to significant negative consequences, including emotional exhaustion, resentment, and stifled personal growth for both yourself and those around you. Tonya Leigh explores the detrimental habit of managing other people's emotions and how it impacts our own happiness and growth. She discusses the importance of breaking free from the need to control how others feel, emphasizing that this behavior stifles both personal and collective development. Tonya shares her recent experience with guided visualization walks, which she refers to as immersion walks, and how they have positively shifted her energy and focus on vibrant well-being. By incorporating practices like Pilates, meditation, and self-care, she reveals how she is reclaiming her health and happiness. Join Tonya as she dives into strategies for cultivating emotional independence and nurturing your own well-being. Talking Points: 00:49 - Tonya's Self-Care Routine 02:15 - The Cost of Controlling Emotions 06:10 - Fear of Being the Bad Guy 09:02 - Loss of Self-Trust 12:27 - Self-Image and Managing Emotions 14:54 - Creating Your Own Safety 17:55 - Types of Emotional Management 23:28 - How to Stop Managing Emotions 25:17 - Setting Boundaries Without Guilt 25:50 - Building Emotional Resilience Quotes: "I want to challenge you to stop managing other people's emotions." "True belonging doesn't come from keeping everyone happy. It comes from being unapologetically yourself and trusting that the right people will love and accept you." "Recognizing it and having the courage to be true to yourself is where you begin to turn your life around." "I speak my truth with confidence and I let other people have their emotions and their opinions about it." "So you might as well be the version of you that you love." "Managing other people's emotions is not your job. Being the fullest, most authentic version of you, that is your job." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for the FREE Identity Code class Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35500640

430: Burn Down Your Success Strategy 02/26/2025

430: Burn Down Your Success Strategy Evolving Your Success: How to Let Go of Outdated Strategies In the journey of personal and professional development, individuals often rely on success strategies that have previously yielded positive results. However, as we evolve and our goals change, these strategies can become outdated and may even hinder our growth. Recognizing and letting go of these outdated success strategies is crucial for achieving new results and stepping into the next version of ourselves. Tonya Leigh explores the concept of breaking up with outdated success strategies that may have once propelled you to achievement but are now holding you back. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing what no longer serves you in order to evolve into your next best self. Tonya shares insights on how to identify these limiting beliefs and practices, and encourages listeners to embrace change for greater ease, confidence, and alignment in their lives. Tune in to discover how letting go of past strategies can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic path to success. Talking Points: 01:12 - Breaking Up with Your Success Strategy 03:32 - People Pleasing as a Success Strategy 06:14 - Inner Conflict with People Pleasing 08:02 - Building Walls for Protection 10:08 - Hitting a Ceiling with Current Strategies 11:04 - Breaking Down the 14 Success Strategies We Adopt 23:46 - Other Success Strategies 24:07 - Worry as a Success Strategy 25:32 - Breaking Up with Your Strategy 27:21 - Practical Experiments for Change 29:18 - Visualization and Growth 31:06 - Willingness to Burn Down Old Strategies Quotes: "What if the very thing that has made you successful is now the very thing keeping you stuck?" "I'm going to have to burn down my success strategy in order to create what it is that I see in my mind in order for me to have the impact that I know I am here to make." "I have been willing to break up with my success strategy of people pleasing." "You've got to break up with your risk aversion." "I want to invite all of us to consider success strategies that are fun, expansive, and full of ease." "Are you willing to burn down your current success strategy to see what's possible for you?" "To create something you've never had, you're going to have to become someone you've never been." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for the FREE Identity Code class Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35380370

429: How to be Excited About Your Day 02/19/2025

429: How to be Excited About Your Day Unlocking Joy: How to Cultivate Excitement in Your Everyday Life Creating a life that excites you begins with understanding your core values and identifying what truly makes you feel alive. This foundational work is essential for living a fulfilling and joyful life. Tonya Leigh explores the transformative power of mindset and how it shapes our experiences in life. She emphasizes that excitement and fulfillment come not from luck or perfect circumstances, but from the mindset we choose each day. Tonya shares her personal joy as she celebrates her mom's 80th birthday and reflects on the importance of simple moments with loved ones. Additionally, she announces an upcoming free class titled "The Identity Code," aimed at helping women shift from merely taking action to embodying the mindset of success. Tune in to discover how to become the person who naturally attracts and creates the life you desire. Talking Points: 00:13 - The Power of Mindset 01:23 - Upcoming Free Class: The Identity Code 02:28 - How to Be Excited About Your Day 04:25 - Clarify Your Values 06:12 - Discover What Makes You Feel Alive 08:39 - Evaluate What You Are Tolerating 09:24 - Stop Complaining 11:31 - Set Exciting Goals 14:03 - Surround Yourself with Positive People 18:01 - Embrace Curiosity and Adventure 22:58 - Balance Vision and Presence 23:39 - Change Up Your Environment 25:06 - Start Your Day with Intention 26:20 - Be the Source of Your Own Excitement Quotes: "The secret isn't in doing more, it's in becoming the woman who naturally creates and attracts what it is that she wants." "So many people are just living lives on default." "You don't get what you want, you get what you tolerate." "Excitement and complaining don't coexist together." "What surrounds you seeps into you." "Wake up. This is our one life. Don't be stagnant." "I want to see myself as a woman who really loved life, who loved all of it, even the hard parts, because she knew that that grew her." "I realized I get to be the excitement." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for the FREE Identity Code class Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35291750

428: True vs. Faux Self 02/12/2025

428: True vs. Faux Self Unmasking Your True Self: Discovering Freedom Beyond the Faux Self When we operate from our faux self, we may find ourselves making choices based on what we think we should want or what will garner approval from others. This can manifest in various ways, such as pursuing a career that looks good on paper but does not fulfill us, or acquiring material possessions to impress others rather than to satisfy our own desires. Tanya shares the story of a client who felt trapped in a high-paying job that brought her no joy, illustrating how the faux self can lead to a life that feels suffocating and unfulfilling. Tonya explores the profound question, "Who are you really?" She shares her morning routine and the productivity that comes with starting the day early. She introduces a life-changing concept she learned from Martha Beck during her coach training: the distinction between the social self and the essential self. This episode delves into how understanding this concept can empower listeners to shift from feeling like victims of their circumstances to becoming creators of their own lives, our own true identities and explores the origins of their self-perceptions, prompting a deeper exploration of personal authenticity. Tune in for insights that could transform your understanding of yourself and your potential. Talking Points: 00:52 -Social Self vs. Essential Self 04:06 - Defining the Worldly Woman 08:47 - The Role of the Faux Self in Success 10:20 - True Desires vs. Faux Desires 14:05 - True Desires and Money 18:04 - Childhood Memories and True Self 22:02 - True Self and the Win-Win Approach 25:03 - The Challenge of Sudden Change 27:00 - The Work of Getting Back to Your Authentic Self Quotes: "I felt like I was at the effect of my life versus being the creator of my life." "There is no freedom when the faux self is in control." "To find someone who is fully in their true self is such a rarity because it takes so much courage and a lot of people won't like you." "You will know your truth because it will taste like freedom." "Would you rather be judged for being real or praised for being fake?" 00:28:49 - "Who am I really at my core? Who am I beyond my roles as a mother, as a daughter, as a wife, as a business owner?" Useful Resources: Click for the Live Like an Editor Workshop Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35199135

427: Becoming the Editor of Your Life with Caroline Lacaille-Gaudy 02/05/2025

427: Becoming the Editor of Your Life with Caroline Lacaille-Gaudy From Burnout to Empowerment: How One Woman Took Control of Her Story In the journey of personal growth, particularly when grappling with feelings of isolation and burnout, the significance of surrounding oneself with supportive individuals cannot be overstated. Caroline Lacaille-Gaudy's experience, as shared in the podcast episode, underscores the importance of having a network that fosters growth and provides a sense of belonging. In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh welcomes Caroline, who shares her transformative journey after leaving a successful corporate career in late 2021. Caroline discusses how she learned to become the editor in chief of her own life, empowering herself to create meaningful changes. Since embracing this mindset, she has launched two purpose-driven businesses, published a book on Amazon, and enhanced her relationships as a mother and wife. Caroline’s inspiring story highlights the importance of living intentionally and provides insights on how to stop reacting to life’s twists and instead, start creating your own narrative. Join Tonya andd Caroline as they explore the tools and mindset shifts that can help you stop living life by default and start creating it intentionally. Plus, learn more about the upcoming Live Like an Editor workshop. Talking Points: 00:22 - Caroline's Achievements Post-Corporate Career 01:21 - Corporatte Burnout 02:57 - Feeling Unfulfilled Despite Success 04:06 - Realization of Misalignment with Motherhood 06:22 - Living Life by Default 08:45 - Shifting Perspectives and Addressing Objections 11:44 - Becoming a Coach and Finding Purpose 15:02 - Being the Editor-in-Chief of Your Life 18:15 - Caroline's Word for the Year: Expansive 21:07 - Learning Through Stories 24:06 - Unpacking Past Experiences 27:43 - Realization of Isolation 30:07 - Managing Spousal Stress 34:00 - Impact of Learning Tools on Parenting 37:56 - Belief in Possibility and Daily Habits 43:30 - Teaching Gratitude to Daughter 46:11 - Advice for Burnt Out Women Quotes: "I had been following this path of success, ticking the boxes, having the wonderful office with the view and the title and the car... and yet it felt like there was always something missing." "Knowing that I'm in control of my emotional state of being is the most liberating news ever." "How would bold me, how would worthy me, how would discipline me... behave right now?" "It's OK to have certain standards. It's OK to ask for certain things. It's OK to behave such a way." "It's the books on your bookshelf. It's the music you listen to. It's the clutter or not clutter, depending on how you keep your home, all of it is sending a message to you about who you think you are." "I switched from fixing to, I get to create, I get to create myself. It's a very different energy." "A well-lived life is nothing more than a collection of well-lived days." "There is no hurry. My favorite mantra." Useful Resources: Click for the Live Like an Editor Workshop Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel Connect with Caroline: Click for Caroline’s Website Click for Bliss by Caroline /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35137705

426: How to Curate Your Life Like a Designer 01/29/2025

426: How to Curate Your Life Like a Designer Live Like an Editor: Transforming Your Life with Vision and Creativity In the journey of personal development, one of the most transformative shifts you can make is to curate your life by focusing on potential rather than flaws. This perspective not only empowers you but also allows you to see the beauty and possibilities in your current circumstances. Here’s how you can implement this mindset in your life. Tonya Leigh invites listeners to reimagine their lives through a designer's lens. Inspired by the idea of viewing life as a fixer-upper, she encourages embracing one's potential rather than focusing on flaws. Tonya shares her recent experiences, including a snowy morning and a revitalizing Pilates class, setting a positive tone for the discussion. She also announces her beloved annual workshop, "Live Like an Editor," a transformative five-day experience designed to help participants gain a fresh perspective on their lives. This workshop emphasizes creativity, possibility, and joy, rather than fixing perceived flaws, empowering women to curate their lives with intention. Tune in to discover how to approach personal development with style and creativity! Talking Points: 00:39 - Morning Routine and Excitement 01:22 - Live Like an Editor Workshop 02:05 - Possibility, Creativity, and Joy 04:24 - Curate Your Life Like a Designer 05:05 - Perspective Shift: See Potential, Not Flaws 07:10 - Thoughtfully Select and Organize 07:54 - Transform Possibilities into Reality 11:09 - Create a Vision and Anchor It 14:00 -Work with What You Have 17:48 - Focus Room by Room 21:10 - Cultivate a Figure-Outable Mindset 26:11 - Perspectives to Curate Your Life Quotes: "When you curate your life like a designer, you look at possibility." "Being a designer means seeing potential where others see limitations." "You're afraid of choosing the wrong thing to work towards, and so therefore it's just easier to pretend that you don't know and you're confused about it because then you don't have to take action." "You've got to start with where you are and with what you have." "If you could choose one area of your life to focus on this year that would have the biggest impact on the rest of your life, where would you focus?" "When you think like a designer, you know that every challenge has a solution." "The quality of your life really does depend on the quality of your questions." Useful Resources: Click for the Live Like an Editor Workshop Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/35003125

425: “Should” Season is Out 01/22/2025

425: “Should” Season is Out Transforming 'Should' into 'Desire': A Journey to Self-Discovery The word "should" carries significant weight in our lives, often representing obligation and criticism. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh explores the profound impact that this single word can have on our mental and emotional well-being. When we use "should," it typically conveys a sense of duty or correctness, suggesting that there is a right way to do things. This inherent judgment can lead to feelings of shame and guilt, ultimately hindering our personal growth and fulfillment. She shares a relatable story about a listener named Jeanette, who eagerly anticipates Tonya's annual Live Like an Editor workshop as a tool for success. Tonya emphasizes the importance of breaking free from the cycle of "shoulds" that keep us playing small and reflects on her decision to take January for deep reflection before diving into the new year. Tune in to discover strategies for overcoming the pressure of expectations and embracing your true desires. Talking Points: 00:32 - Breaking Free from "Shoulds" 01:56 - Reflecting on the New Year 03:31 - The Concept of "Should Season" 05:09 - Definition of "Should" and Its Implications 08:00 - The Harm of "Should" in Personal Growth 10:24 - Internal "Shoulds" and Self-Criticism 13:31 - The Pressure of Societal Expectations 16:14 - The Paradox of Self-Acceptance 19:25 - The Body Test for True Desires 23:32 - Building a Life Based on True Desires 24:56 - Conclusion: Embracing True Desires Quotes: "It's when shame and guilt becomes your compass instead of desire being your guide." "To argue with reality is to argue with God and you only lose 100% of the time." "The curious paradox is when I accept myself as I am, then I can change." "It's only when I've gotten in touch with my true desires and made those the goals that I have had years where I felt excited, where I felt aligned, where I felt like I was moving towards my own North Star." "If you are building a life off of fear and shame shoulds, you are going to be building a prison for yourself." "Your desires are never wrong. They're simply showing you the way home to yourself." Useful Resources: Click for Five Essential Quesions Click for the FREE Shake-Up List Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/34886580

424: 3 Ways I’m Shaking up my Life This Year 01/15/2025

424: 3 Ways I’m Shaking up my Life This Year The Shake Up List: 99 Daring Ways to Live Life Differently To break free from monotony and stagnation, it is essential to engage in new experiences, meet new people, and expose ourselves to different ideas and activities. This concept is central to the discussion in the podcast episode, where Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of shaking things up in our lives to foster personal growth and transformation. Tonya explores the theme of breaking free from the monotony of everyday life. She acknowledges the feelings of being in a rut that many women experience, even when life seems perfectly fine on the surface. She emphasizes the importance of shaking things up to step into new possibilities and change and discusses how repetitive routines can solidify a self-image that keeps us stuck. Join Tonya as she invites you to embrace change and discover new ways to invigorate your life. Talking Points: 00:42 - Embracing Change and Possibilities 03:01 - Balancing Routine with New Challenges 04:15 -The Shake Up List 08:00 - The Benefits of Unplugged Time 11:03 - Experimenting with New Approaches 14:08 - Following Curiosity 20:26 - Creative Momentum 22:45 - Empowering Yourself to Shake Things Up Quotes: "Shaking up your life is doing things differently." "I've realized that my best ideas and biggest breakthroughs often come when I'm not actively pursuing them." "Follow your curiosity. Follow what lights you up. Follow those little glimmers." "Something within me, my intuition spoke to me and said, yes, this is the next step for you." "There's nothing like a party to shake up your life." "The truth is we all have the power to shake up our lives at any moment." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Click for the FREE Shake Up List Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/34796205

423: My 2025 Word of the Year 01/08/2025

423: My 2025 Word of the Year Transform Your Year with Intentional Living Choosing a "Word of the Year" is a powerful practice that can significantly enhance personal development and focus intentions throughout the year. This concept, as discussed in the podcast episode, revolves around selecting a single word that embodies the qualities and aspirations one wishes to cultivate in their life. Host Tonya Leigh reflects on the transformative power of simplifying life to create more meaningful experiences. After feeling overwhelmed by a packed schedule and material possessions, she poses a pivotal question: "What if I could do less but better?" This introspection leads her to select a guiding word for the year that embodies elegance, intentionality, and refined living. Tonya shares her journey of unplugging from work during the holidays, highlighting the importance of renewal and self-care. Join her as she explores the art of pursuing a beautiful life through intentional choices and a focus on quality over quantity. Talking Points: 00:31 - The Transformative Question 02:09 - Reflecting on Last Year 03:03 - Choosing the Word of the Year 04:08 - Importance of Deep Reflection 07:07 - Turning Frustrations into Opportunities 08:02 - The Concept of Essentialism 10:10 - Greg McCowan's Book on Essentialism 12:08 - The Impact of Too Many Choices 15:00 - Behind the Scenes of a Successful Business 17:01 - Applying Essentialism to All Areas of Life 17:55 - Questions for Exploring Essentialism Quotes: "What if I could do less but better?" "I made all of those decisions that led to me being in this moment with a lot of things to get done today." "Last year's frustrations are this year's opportunities." "It isn't about deprivation. It's about elevation. It's the art of elegant elimination." "Luxury is different for all of us. It does not mean designer handbags. It's a feeling." "There's something about this word that has convicted me at the deepest, deepest level." Useful Resources: Click to join the Membership Click for a FREE download Click to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Click for 2025 Essential Questions Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click to follow our Instagram Click to visit our website Click to visit our Facebook group Click to follow our TikTok Click to subscribe to our YouTube channel /episode/index/show/frenchkisslife/id/34720695

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