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442: Regulation is the New Discipline

Release Date: 05/21/2025

452: Summer Series - Untriggered: How to Protect Your Peace in Any Situation

School of Self-Image

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450: Summer Series - How to Use Style to Reinvent Yourself

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School of Self-Image

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447: Why I’m Pressing Pause (and You Might Want To, Too)

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446: How to Make Powerful Decisions

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445: How to Create Your Comeback Story

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444: How to Make the Next Six Months Your Best Yet

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Emotional Regulation: The New Discipline for a Chaotic World

Emotional regulation has become an essential skill for personal growth and success, especially in today's fast-paced and often chaotic world. The ability to manage one's emotional responses, rather than attempting to control external circumstances, is crucial for effectively navigating life's challenges.

Tonya Leigh explores the crucial concept of emotional regulation in today's fast-paced and divisive world. Tonya emphasizes that instead of trying to control external circumstances, our true power lies in managing our emotional responses. She begins with a personal check-in, encouraging listeners to assess their feelings on a scale from zero to ten.

Despite facing significant challenges, including her father's illness and business setbacks, Tonya shares how her commitment to self-work has helped her maintain a positive outlook, rating her emotional state as a nine. The episode highlights the importance of nurturing our nervous systems and offers insights into overcoming fear of the future.

Tune in for valuable strategies on how to cultivate emotional resilience and thrive in turbulent times.

Talking Points:

00:44 - Self-Check: How Are You Feeling?
02:09 - Fear of the Future and Self-Image
04:45 - Understanding Self-Image and State of Being
08:42 - Subconscious Blocks and Self-Image
11:51 - External Control vs. Internal Regulation
15:01 - Self-Soothing and Mothering Yourself
18:44 - Regulation in Entrepreneurship
22:42 - New You, New Nervous System
23:14 - Join the School of Self-Image

Quotes:

"Regulation is the new discipline because we are living in some wild times."

"If you don't decide on purpose, if you don't take ownership of that, you are going to have a very dysregulated nervous system."

"A lot of us are just walking around as children in adult bodies."

"When you start becoming this person for yourself, you will be amazed at what you're capable of."

"I'm going to be the one that changes. That's when miracles happen."

"When you can regulate your nervous system and you don't freak out, when you have that ability to just take a pause, go in, take some breaths, calm yourself down, remind yourself, I'm safe in this moment."

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