Ep. 325 - How to be powerful in divorce without becoming angry or bitter
Release Date: 01/26/2026
How to Get Over Your Ex
In the past two episodes, I walked you through the 4 stages of heartbreak and the specific remedy that moves you from one stage to the next. But what does this actually look like when someone applies it in real life? In this episode, you’ll hear a conversation with a Braveheart who used this exact framework after her husband unexpectedly ended their 22-year marriage. She shares what it felt like to move through the devastated stage, how identifying her stage changed the way she approached healing, and the specific shifts that helped her move forward much faster than she thought possible. If...
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Last week’s episode helped you identify which stage of heartbreak you’re in, this episode will show you what to actually do about it. One of the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup is using the wrong solution for the stage they’re in, trying mindset work when their nervous system is still in survival mode, or trying to build a bigger life when they’re still secretly attached to their ex. No wonder nothing sticks. In this episode, I walk you through the exact remedy that corresponds to each stage of heartbreak so you can stop guessing and start moving forward with the strategy...
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If you feel like you’ve tried everything to get over your ex, no contact, journaling, therapy, working out, staying busy, but nothing is actually working, this episode might explain why. After helping people heal heartbreak for nearly a decade, I started noticing a pattern: most people are trying to heal using strategies meant for a completely different stage of heartbreak. In this episode, I break down the four stages of heartbreak I see over and over again in my coaching practice and how each stage has a completely different problem to solve. When you understand exactly where you are in...
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If you’ve ever wondered whether your breakup means you manifested the wrong person or somehow “did manifestation wrong,” this episode will challenge that belief in the best way. I’m joined by manifestation and money mindset expert Jamie Berman, and we unpack one of the most common fears people have after heartbreak: Did I create this? Did I mess it up? Jamie offers a completely different lens on manifestation, explaining why painful events like breakups don’t mean you failed at manifesting and how looking at them that way can actually keep you stuck in shame and self-doubt. Instead,...
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If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “it’s fine” about something that clearly isn’t, this episode is going to hit. Maybe it’s staying in contact with your ex because it’s “temporary.” Maybe it’s continuing to sleep with them, keep their hoodie, answer their late-night texts, or stay in a living situation that drains you because “it won’t be forever.” On the surface, it feels mature. Low drama. Logical. But underneath? It’s costing you energy, confidence, and momentum toward your Bigger & Better Life. In this episode, we unpack why “it’s fine” is often...
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If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “I shouldn’t still feel this way by now” whether it’s a wave of sadness years after the breakup or a gut-punch reaction to something like divorce paperwork, this episode will hit home. We’re unpacking why judging your emotions is the exact thing that keeps you stuck and how that quiet internal pressure adds a second layer of suffering most people don’t even realize they’re creating. I share a powerful assignment I gave a client inside the GOYE program, that completely changes how you relate to your feelings and why building this emotional...
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If you’re exhausted by the same breakup advice, wait for time to heal, go no contact, just focus on yourself, this episode is your permission slip to think differently. I’m sharing the heartbreak takes I usually keep to myself: the unconventional beliefs and strategies I’ve seen actually change people’s lives after nearly a decade of coaching through real loss, real attachment, and real comebacks. This isn’t about doing what everyone else is doing; it’s about what happens when you approach heartbreak like the top 1%—with a sharper lens, more agency, and methods that challenge the...
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If your ex’s words say one thing but their actions say another and you keep replaying every text, conversation, and mixed signal trying to “figure it out”, this episode is for you. In this episode, I break down why confusion isn’t a sign of love or depth, it’s a defense against a harder emotion your brain doesn’t want to feel yet and how it quietly drains your agency, momentum, and self-trust. If you’re tired of overanalyzing your ex instead of moving your life forward and you want clarity you can actually act on, this episode will help you drop the confusion and take your power...
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If you’re trying again with your ex and suddenly your friends and family are questioning your judgment, warning you not to repeat the past, or flat-out refusing to support the relationship, this episode will help you breathe again. We’re talking about what to do when the relationship feels right to you this time but the people closest to you are skeptical, protective, or openly disapproving. I break down a clear three-step process to help you stay grounded in your decision, stop over-explaining or defending yourself, and shift the dynamic so others either get on board or fade into the...
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Valentine's Week doesn't have to be something you do alone. Feb 9-13, I'm opening The Breakup Hotline. 5 days of live support and real-time coaching to help you create clarity and closure in your breakup so you can feel confident in a better future. Free to attend. The line opens Monday, February 9th. Register here and submit for coaching:
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If you’re in the middle of a divorce and quietly afraid that standing up for yourself will turn you into someone angry, bitter, or unrecognizable, this episode is for you. We’re unpacking the very real fear of shrinking to keep the peace or swinging to the other extreme just to feel protected and why neither is actually power. I walk you through a real client scenario and the exact four-step framework we used to help her stay grounded, clear, and self-advocating throughout the divorce process without relying on anger as fuel. This episode is a practical guide to turning your power on, calmly, intentionally, and sustainably so you can move through divorce without losing yourself in the process.
Check out our breakup toolkit (a breakup first aid kit that not only helps you get over your ex but also takes you beyond your breakup): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakuptoolkit/