279: Attachment Styles, Emotional Healing, and Being a Secure Lover in Marriage
Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
Release Date: 12/19/2025
302: She Didn’t Think Sex Could Be for Her - A Sextimony
Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
She didn’t think sex could be for her. In this honest conversation, Faith shares her journey from seeing sex as transactional, to walking away from it after finding Jesus, to struggling with disconnected, obligation-based intimacy in marriage. But something shifted. She began to understand that intimacy could be connective, meaningful—and even for her, too. If you’ve ever felt like sex is something you do rather than something you enjoy, this episode will resonate. You’ll learn how she: moved out of “duty sex” and into real connection started identifying what she actually enjoys...
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301: What's the Difference Between "Having Sex" and "Making Love?" Part 2
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This is Part 2 of a special two-part series exploring the difference between having sex and making love. If you haven’t listened to Episode 300 yet, go start there—it lays the foundation for everything we talk about in this episode. In this episode, we move from understanding the difference… to learning how to actually create more meaningful, connected intimacy in your marriage. You’ll hear from: Dr. Alexandra Stockwell on shifting from transactional sex to deeply relational intimacy Trevor Hanson on attachment, safety, and why slowing down changes everything Aly Bullock on...
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300: What's the Difference Between "Having Sex" and "Making Love"?
Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
This episode is a special one—episode 300. That feels really meaningful to me. I’m grateful you listen, share the podcast, and care enough about your marriage to keep showing up for these conversations. I really do celebrate you and your commitment to building a strong, intimate, passionate marriage. For this milestone episode, I wanted to do something a little different. So I turned it into a personal research project around a question I’ve been pondering for a long time: 👉 What’s the difference between having sex… and making love? In this episode (Part 1), I reached out to...
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299: "I’ll Never Be Enough" vs. the “Try-sexual”
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In this episode, I respond to a vulnerable question from a wife navigating desire differences, purity culture, and a husband who seems to always want more—more novelty, more frequency, more intensity. If you’ve ever felt like: You’re not “enough” sexually Your spouse is never satisfied Sex has become a source of pressure instead of connection …this episode is for you. We’ll talk about: The three core drivers of sexual desire Why anxiety can increase desire in one spouse and decrease it in the other The “try-sexual” dynamic How ego can quietly sabotage...
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298: Hormones and Libido for Women (and Men) with Shelly Wilkinson
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What if low libido, fatigue, brain fog, mood changes, or sexual dysfunction aren’t just “part of getting older”? In this episode, Dan talks with family nurse practitioner Shelly Wilkinson about hormones, libido, insulin resistance, and the role whole-body health can play in sexual wellness. Shelly shares her personal story, what led her into hormone education, and why she believes many men and women are missing an important piece of the puzzle when it comes to energy, desire, and long-term health. They talk about common signs of hormone imbalance, what questions to ask when seeking help,...
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297: Boost Testosterone Naturally and Optimize Sexual Health with Dr. Jerry Duggar
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Low libido, erectile dysfunction, hormone imbalance, and sexual frustration in marriage are often treated like isolated problems. But what if they’re actually connected to something much bigger? In this episode of the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast, Dan sits down with Dr. Jerry Dugger to talk about the link between physical health and sexual health. They discuss testosterone, estrogen, cortisol, thyroid, gut health, inflammation, sleep, stress, and why the body has to be understood as a whole system. You’ll also hear practical insights on how better health habits can improve desire, energy,...
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296: The Nervous System Secret to Better Sex, with Morgan Starr-Reistis
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What does your nervous system have to do with your sex life? More than you might think. In this episode, Dan sits down with nervous system specialist , who explains why feeling safe in your body is one of the most important ingredients for great intimacy. Many couples assume sexual problems are about technique, desire differences, or communication. But often the real issue is something deeper: our nervous systems are stuck in fight, flight, or shutdown. Morgan shares how our bodies are wired for safety, how dysregulation can show up in the bedroom, and why learning to regulate yourself...
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295: Building a Sexually Intimate Marriage, Brick by Brick, with Lindsey Maestas
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Marriages rarely fall apart because of one big moment—they erode through small daily disconnections. In this episode, Dan sits down with author to talk about how couples can rebuild connection, overcome sexual shame, and create a stronger marriage through intentional daily habits. They discuss faith and sexuality, emotional labor, foreplay outside the bedroom, and why openness and vulnerability are essential for great intimacy. Plus, Lindsay shares a fun “black belt” sex tip to help couples add novelty and excitement to their relationship. Resources and Events: We invite you to explore...
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294: How to Write Erotic Stories for Your Spouse
Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
In this episode, I sit down with my friend — published author and romance reader — to talk about something I’ve wanted to explore for a long time: how writing intimate stories can deepen connection in marriage. We talk about: Why erotic writing can feel more vulnerable than sex The difference between sharing your body and sharing your private thoughts How to overcome fear of rejection Practical scaffolding and ideas for writing your first spicy story Boundaries, motivation, and what NOT to do Why your “why” matters more than the spice level Jacqlin even shares a sample...
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293: BONUS Q&A - Anal Play, Masturbation, Not Good Enough, and Is This Ok?
Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
In this bonus Q&A episode, I tackle some of the most vulnerable and complex sexual questions couples are asking right now. We talk about: Anal play and whether certain acts are morally wrong Masturbation inside marriage — especially when your spouse is available What to do when teasing doesn’t lead to follow-through How to talk dirty without feeling dirty Stepping into sexual confidence when your spouse wants more intensity Low desire that won’t budge — even after trying everything And the painful dynamic of feeling like you’re never “enough” Here’s the core...
info_outlineIf you’ve ever felt not good enough, feared rejection, or found yourself reacting in ways you don’t even understand, this episode is for you. Marriage & family therapist Trevor (Art of Healing by Trevor) explains why so many couples get stuck in cycles of pursuit, shutdown, anxiety, and disconnection — and the emotional transformation required to break free. This conversation is raw, restorative, and deeply practical.
In this episode you’ll learn:
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Why fear of abandonment and “I’m not enough” beliefs show up in marriage
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The two classic patterns: people-pleasing pursuer + shut-down withdrawer
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How emotional safety outside the bedroom changes intimacy inside it
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How to work with your inner child to create real healing
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A step-by-step framework for emotional transformation
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How secure partners show up differently in sex, connection, and conflict
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Why awareness alone isn’t enough — and what actually creates change
Guest Links
Instagram: @theartofhealingbytrevor
Website: theartofhealingbytrevor.com
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- In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist!)
- NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026
- Valentine's Day Weekend Virtual Retreat
- Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January!
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