Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
It’s a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values. Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You’ll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast discusses fun and spicy topics you’ve always wondered about, but from a Christian-friendly perspective. For more information, visit https://getyourmarriageon.com.
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297: Boost Testosterone Naturally and Optimize Sexual Health with Dr. Jerry Duggar
03/20/2026
297: Boost Testosterone Naturally and Optimize Sexual Health with Dr. Jerry Duggar
Low libido, erectile dysfunction, hormone imbalance, and sexual frustration in marriage are often treated like isolated problems. But what if they’re actually connected to something much bigger? In this episode of the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast, Dan sits down with Dr. Jerry Dugger to talk about the link between physical health and sexual health. They discuss testosterone, estrogen, cortisol, thyroid, gut health, inflammation, sleep, stress, and why the body has to be understood as a whole system. You’ll also hear practical insights on how better health habits can improve desire, energy, confidence, and connection in marriage. Resources and Events: We invite you to explore our . Get ready for our men's and women's groups starting up again in May! We have one more spot available on ! We'd love to have you join us! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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296: The Nervous System Secret to Better Sex, with Morgan Starr-Reistis
03/13/2026
296: The Nervous System Secret to Better Sex, with Morgan Starr-Reistis
What does your nervous system have to do with your sex life? More than you might think. In this episode, Dan sits down with nervous system specialist , who explains why feeling safe in your body is one of the most important ingredients for great intimacy. Many couples assume sexual problems are about technique, desire differences, or communication. But often the real issue is something deeper: our nervous systems are stuck in fight, flight, or shutdown. Morgan shares how our bodies are wired for safety, how dysregulation can show up in the bedroom, and why learning to regulate yourself can dramatically change your intimate connection. You’ll learn: • Why safety is the foundation of pleasurable sex • The difference between actual safety vs perceived safety • How shame, pressure, and expectations dysregulate the body • Simple daily practices that help regulate your nervous system • Why trying too hard to orgasm can sometimes make it harder • How to identify the underlying need behind recurring relationship patterns Morgan also shares practical exercises couples can try right away to build safety and connection in everyday moments. If sex sometimes feels stressful, pressured, or emotionally loaded, this episode will help you understand what your body is trying to tell you—and how to work with it instead of against it. You can find Morgan on all socials with the handle @mind.psy.guidance Resources and Events: We invite you to explore our . For a limited time, you can try it free for 30 days and get access to coaching sessions and our full course library. We also have an opening due to a cancellation at our , and one more spot available on ! We'd love to have you join us! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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295: Building a Sexually Intimate Marriage, Brick by Brick, with Lindsey Maestas
03/06/2026
295: Building a Sexually Intimate Marriage, Brick by Brick, with Lindsey Maestas
Marriages rarely fall apart because of one big moment—they erode through small daily disconnections. In this episode, Dan sits down with author to talk about how couples can rebuild connection, overcome sexual shame, and create a stronger marriage through intentional daily habits. They discuss faith and sexuality, emotional labor, foreplay outside the bedroom, and why openness and vulnerability are essential for great intimacy. Plus, Lindsay shares a fun “black belt” sex tip to help couples add novelty and excitement to their relationship. Resources and Events: We invite you to explore our . For a limited time, you can try it free for 30 days and get access to coaching sessions and our full course library. We also have an opening due to a cancellation at our , and one more spot available on ! We'd love to have you join us! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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294: How to Write Erotic Stories for Your Spouse
02/27/2026
294: How to Write Erotic Stories for Your Spouse
In this episode, I sit down with my friend — published author and romance reader — to talk about something I’ve wanted to explore for a long time: how writing intimate stories can deepen connection in marriage. We talk about: Why erotic writing can feel more vulnerable than sex The difference between sharing your body and sharing your private thoughts How to overcome fear of rejection Practical scaffolding and ideas for writing your first spicy story Boundaries, motivation, and what NOT to do Why your “why” matters more than the spice level Jacqlin even shares a sample story at the end of the episode (with a content warning), so you can hear how tenderness and connection can coexist with passion. If you’ve ever wondered: Where do I even start? Is this appropriate in marriage? What if my spouse rejects it? Could this actually bring us closer? This episode will give you clarity and courage. Sex isn’t just about bodies. It’s about inviting your spouse into the private parts of your mind and heart. And that can be transformative. 👉 Download the for access to more stories like this. 👉 Join us on the this October. 👉 Try our free for 30 days. 👉 Snag the last-minute opening for our .
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293: BONUS Q&A - Anal Play, Masturbation, Not Good Enough, and Is This Ok?
02/24/2026
293: BONUS Q&A - Anal Play, Masturbation, Not Good Enough, and Is This Ok?
In this bonus Q&A episode, I tackle some of the most vulnerable and complex sexual questions couples are asking right now. We talk about: Anal play and whether certain acts are morally wrong Masturbation inside marriage — especially when your spouse is available What to do when teasing doesn’t lead to follow-through How to talk dirty without feeling dirty Stepping into sexual confidence when your spouse wants more intensity Low desire that won’t budge — even after trying everything And the painful dynamic of feeling like you’re never “enough” Here’s the core principle: Sex acts themselves are often neutral. What matters is the fruit they produce in your marriage. Is it building trust? Intimacy? Freedom? Playfulness? Or is it creating shame, pressure, resentment, or disconnection? This episode will help you think more deeply, talk more honestly, and navigate your sexual relationship with maturity and integrity. If you want deeper support, don’t forget to check out the — including our coaching community and 30-day free trial. Mentioned in the episode: Get Your Marriage On Dirty Talk Guide ( SPECIAL OPPORTUNITY: Someone cancelled and now we have a spot open for you at our Grab it now before it's gone!
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292: From Sexual Shame to Sexual Wholeness with God's Help, with Natalie Hamblin
02/20/2026
292: From Sexual Shame to Sexual Wholeness with God's Help, with Natalie Hamblin
Shame is a universal emotion — and for many Christians, sexual shame is one of the hardest to overcome. In this deeply honest conversation, I’m joined by Natalie Hamblin as we explore how sexual shame quietly divides marriages, and how couples can move toward sexual wholeness instead. We talk about: How shame creates emotional and physical distance Why hiding parts of yourself fractures intimacy The difference between guilt and shame How faith and sexuality actually belong together How to reframe sex as God-given and good What to do if shame from your past is haunting your present marriage The power of education and communication And how Natalie and her husband moved from fear to deep connection And if sexual shame is something you’re actively working through, I invite you to explore our . For a limited time, you can try it free for 30 days and get access to coaching sessions and our full course library. We also have an opening due to a cancellation at our ! We'd love to have you join us! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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291: Oral Sex Q&A: First-Time Nerves, Performance Pressure & Feeling Desired (BONUS episode)
02/18/2026
291: Oral Sex Q&A: First-Time Nerves, Performance Pressure & Feeling Desired (BONUS episode)
In this special Bonus Q&A episode, Dan answers real questions from married couples about oral sex — from first-time nerves to performance anxiety, from orgasm struggles to emotional hangups. If you grew up in a home where sex was taboo… If you feel awkward, anxious, or unsure how to talk about this… If you’re craving more connection but feel stuck… This episode is for you. Topics Dan addresses: • Feeling nervous about trying oral sex for the first time • Why orgasm anxiety can sabotage pleasure • “Why won’t she kiss me after?” • Mixed feelings about disgust and desire • When one spouse wants more reciprocity • How resentment quietly builds in intimacy If you have anonymous questions, join our private Facebook group: Or And don’t forget — the Intimacy Sea Cruise (October 4–10) is almost full.
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290: What actually gets a woman turned on, according to a sex expert? PART 2
02/13/2026
290: What actually gets a woman turned on, according to a sex expert? PART 2
(If you haven’t listened to Part 1 yet, go back. It lays the foundation for everything we’re about to discuss.) Because in Part 2, we get real . . . In this continuation of my conversation with Charlene Byers, we explore: Why honesty is the foundation of erotic intimacy What integrity looks like in marriage What gets you stuck in roommate syndrome and resentment The “losing strategies” couples use without realizing it We also talk about small daily habits that simmer connection and how to rebuild intimacy when things feel distant. This one might stretch you—in a good way. And it’ll give you language and motivation to start the conversations that lead to better connection (in and out of the bedroom). Resources and Events Don't miss this amazing opportunity to love and make love with your spouse better, TONIGHT! Next Level Loving: A Virtual Intimacy Getaway (Feb 13-14): Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps: Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: Get Your Marriage On Cruise: We had a cancellation for our retreat in the spring! Snatch this spot while you can! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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289: What actually gets a woman turned on, according to a sex expert? PART 1
02/13/2026
289: What actually gets a woman turned on, according to a sex expert? PART 1
We don’t just want sex. We want sexual experiences that move us. We want to walk out of the bedroom different than when we walked in. But somewhere along the way, sex can become… predictable. Scripted. Routine. In Part 1 of my guest appearance on Charlene Byers's podcast, we cover the following: The truth about sexual desire discrepancy (and why it’s not a problem) How performance pressure quietly kills connection Two different reasons we give pleasure, and why one of them doesn't work What men and women are most turned on by What men and women are turned off by You’ll also hear one of my own vulnerable marriage missteps and what it taught me about anxiety, meaning-making, and true intimacy. 👉 In Part 2, we go deeper into honesty, integrity, and the hard conversations that create real intimacy. Don’t miss it. Resources and Events Don't miss this amazing opportunity to love and make love with your spouse better, TONIGHT! Next Level Loving: A Virtual Intimacy Getaway (Feb 13-14): Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps: Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: Get Your Marriage On Cruise: We had a cancellation for our retreat in the spring! Snatch this spot while you can! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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288: BONUS - Love Anyway: Choosing Your Spouse Even When It’s Hard, with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
02/11/2026
288: BONUS - Love Anyway: Choosing Your Spouse Even When It’s Hard, with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
With Valentine's Day, just around the corner, I've been thinking a lot about what does it mean to really love my wife, and to love well? In this bonus episode, we pulled a favorite clip from our archive with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, therapist-turned-coach, longtime mentor, and returning guest on the podcast, in which we asked her: "What does it mean to cherish your spouse?" Her answer is thoughtful, wise, actionable, and hopeful as she teaches how to build truly loving marriages. Resources and Events Don't miss this amazing opportunity to love and make love with your spouse better! Next Level Loving: A Virtual Intimacy Getaway (Feb 13-14): Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps (Valentine's Intimacy Challenge started on Feb 1!): Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: Get Your Marriage On Cruise: We had a cancellation for our retreat in the spring! Snatch this spot while you can! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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287: 10 Habits for a Sexy Marriage from a Sex & Intimacy Expert
02/06/2026
287: 10 Habits for a Sexy Marriage from a Sex & Intimacy Expert
In this episode, Dan shares 10 proven habits that consistently lead to deeper intimacy, stronger desire, and more fulfilling sex in marriage. These aren’t gimmicks or quick fixes. They’re practical, repeatable behaviors that create powerful momentum over time. Drawing from years of coaching couples, personal experience, and a faith-centered perspective on sexuality, Dan explains how small, intentional choices compound into a marriage that feels connected, playful, trusting, and alive. Whether your marriage is already good or feels stuck, this episode will give you clear next steps you can start today! Resources and Events Don't miss this amazing opportunity to love and make love with your spouse better! Next Level Loving: A Virtual Intimacy Getaway(Feb 13-14): Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps (Valentine's Intimacy Challenge started on Feb 1!): Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: Get Your Marriage On Cruise: We had a cancellation for our retreat in the spring! Snatch this spot while you can!
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286: BONUS: Orgasmic Meditation - Getting Into Your Body & Receiving Loving Touch
02/04/2026
286: BONUS: Orgasmic Meditation - Getting Into Your Body & Receiving Loving Touch
It's much more common to be comfortable being the giver in sex than the receiver. In this episode, we explore why learning to relax and receive your spouse may be one of the most vulnerable and transformative skills in intimate marriage. Many couples know how to “get through” sex. Fewer know how to slow down, stay present, and experience deep emotional and physical connection together and they open up and receive. Dan shares how a simple "orgasmic meditation" practice can really increase the emotional and physical connection you share, even without traditional intercourse. Resources and Events Get the free Orgasmic Meditation guide over on our Instagram account: Don't miss this amazing opportunity to love and make love with your spouse better! Next Level Loving: A Virtual Intimacy Getaway-Early bird pricing ends January 31! (Feb 13-14): Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps (Valentine's Intimacy Challenge started on Feb 1!): Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: Get Your Marriage On Cruise: We had a cancellation for our retreat in the spring! Snatch this spot while you can!
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285: How Temperament Shapes Desire, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage (And Why You Can’t “Fix” It)
01/30/2026
285: How Temperament Shapes Desire, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage (And Why You Can’t “Fix” It)
Most couples spend years trying to change the very things in their spouse that will never change — and then feel frustrated, discouraged, or disconnected when nothing improves. Or they wonder why their attempts at connecting intimately fall flat. In this episode, Dan sits down with , creator of the C.O.R.E. Temperament model, to talk about something deeper than personality: temperament — the unchanging emotional wiring that shapes how we love, connect, and experience sex. You’ll learn: The difference between personality and temperament (and why it matters) The four core temperaments that emerged from Dr. Slade's research Why each temperament experiences sex, desire, and intimacy differently How misunderstanding temperament creates unnecessary sexual tension What healthy vs. unhealthy versions of each temperament look like in the bedroom How to stop fighting what won’t change — and start amplifying what already works By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clearer understanding of yourself, your spouse, and how to build deeper emotional and sexual intimacy by working with your wiring instead of against it. Resources and Events Don't miss this amazing opportunity to love and make love with your spouse better! Next Level Loving: A Virtual Intimacy Getaway-Early bird pricing ends January 31! (Feb 13-14): Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps (Valentine's Intimacy Challenge starts on Feb 1!): Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: Get Your Marriage On Cruise: Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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284: How to Work Smarter on Your Marriage for Real, Lasting Change
01/23/2026
284: How to Work Smarter on Your Marriage for Real, Lasting Change
Have you ever worked so hard to fix a problem in your marriage, only to find yourself right back in the same place weeks later? Most couples don’t struggle because they aren’t trying. They struggle because they’re putting a lot of effort into changes that can’t create lasting results. In this episode, Dan explains what it actually means to work smarter on your marriage, not harder. Drawing from systems theory, personal experience, and real coaching stories, he shows why some changes help temporarily while others lead to real, lasting transformation. He breaks down the difference between first-order change (doing more or less of the same things) and second-order change (upgrading the rules your relationship is operating on). You’ll learn how to recognize when you’re stuck in surface-level fixes, how to identify the unspoken “rules” your marriage is operating by, and what it looks like to make changes at the level that truly creates growth—especially around intimacy, desire differences, and recurring conflict. Resources Next Level Loving: A Virtual Intimacy Getaway (Feb 13-14): Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps (Valentine's Intimacy Challenge coming up!):
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283: ADHD & Sex: Why Desire, Rejection, and Novelty Feel So Intense, with Kamden Hainsworth
01/16/2026
283: ADHD & Sex: Why Desire, Rejection, and Novelty Feel So Intense, with Kamden Hainsworth
What if ADHD isn’t a bug in your marriage — but a feature? In this episode of the Get Your Marriage On Podcast, I sit down with , an ADHD coach and host of the to unpack how ADHD uniquely impacts desire, intimacy, novelty, rejection sensitivity, and emotional regulation in marriage. Kamden shares her mid-life burn out, late ADHD diagnosis, and how understanding her brain completely transformed her marriage and sex life. Together, they explore why ADHD can amplify desire differences, why boredom feels unbearable in intimacy, how rejection sensitivity dysphoria shows up in sex, and how novelty can be a powerful connector (when done with trust and communication). Whether you’re the ADHD partner or married to one, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical insight into building a more playful, honest, and deeply connected sexual relationship. Resources Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: Men's Only and Women's Only Cohorts (starting this week): Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps (Valentine's Intimacy Challenge coming up!): Guest Links Instagram: Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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282: Pressure vs. Passion: How to Pursue Your Spouse That Invites Connection
01/09/2026
282: Pressure vs. Passion: How to Pursue Your Spouse That Invites Connection
What’s the difference between pursuing your spouse and pressuring them, and why does it matter so much for desire, attraction, and connection? In this episode, Dan joins for an honest conversation about what actually creates passion in marriage, and what quietly kills it. You’ll hear why emotional connection must come before sexual connection, how pressure can either destroy attraction or build it (depending on how it’s expressed), and why pretending everything is fine does more damage than honesty ever could. This episode is especially for husbands who want more intimacy but don’t want to become needy, entitled, or emotionally disconnected in the process — and for couples navigating desire differences without resentment. Stick around to the end, because now it's time for Dan to share his black belt sex tip! Resources and Events Men's Only and Women's Only Cohorts (starting end of January): Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps: NEW
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281: More Sex Didn't Fix Intimacy, But This Did Instead (Roberth & Laticia's Story)
01/02/2026
281: More Sex Didn't Fix Intimacy, But This Did Instead (Roberth & Laticia's Story)
What happens when you’re having sex regularly—but it still feels empty? In this episode, Roberth and Laticia share their honest journey through desire differences, duty sex, resentment, and the painful belief that something must be wrong with one (or both) of them. Around the 10-year mark in their marriage, sex turned into a power struggle: Roberth wanted more, and Laticia felt like she could never be enough. Therapy didn’t bring clarity—it left them feeling even more stuck. They eventually discovered that the problem wasn’t lack of effort or attraction. They were missing skills—like understanding pleasure, learning about female anatomy, making space for emotional connection, and recognizing the difference between responsive and spontaneous desire. They also learned how often sex had become a way to manage each other’s emotions instead of a place for true connection. You’ll hear the breakthroughs that helped them move from “empty sex” to a more connected, confident, and collaborative intimate relationship, plus practical language for couples who feel stuck in the same cycle. If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this still feel disconnected?” or “Am I broken for not wanting sex more?” this conversation will give you hope and a clearer next step forward. Resources Mentioned in the Episode Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program: Men's Only and Women's Only Cohorts (starting in January): Intimately Us & Just Between Us apps:
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280: 2025's Best Black Belt Sex & Intimacy Tips
12/26/2025
280: 2025's Best Black Belt Sex & Intimacy Tips
What separates good intimacy from exceptional intimacy? In this special year-end compilation, we round up the most powerful “Black Belt” sex and intimacy tips of 2025, the next-level insights that don’t come from technique alone, but from presence, awareness, confidence, communication, and desire. Featuring clips from some of the most impactful guests of the year, this episode explores how slowing down, tuning into your body, cultivating emotional safety, embracing confidence, and deepening awareness can transform your sexual connection. Whether you’re looking for practical ideas or profound mindset shifts, this episode invites you to go deeper, with yourself and your spouse. Resources and Events Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! Program: In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can !) NEW starting in January! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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279: Attachment Styles, Emotional Healing, and Being a Secure Lover in Marriage
12/19/2025
279: Attachment Styles, Emotional Healing, and Being a Secure Lover in Marriage
If you’ve ever felt not good enough, feared rejection, or found yourself reacting in ways you don’t even understand, this episode is for you. Marriage & family therapist Trevor () explains why so many couples get stuck in cycles of pursuit, shutdown, anxiety, and disconnection — and the emotional transformation required to break free. This conversation is raw, restorative, and deeply practical. In this episode you’ll learn: Why fear of abandonment and “I’m not enough” beliefs show up in marriage The two classic patterns: people-pleasing pursuer + shut-down withdrawer How emotional safety outside the bedroom changes intimacy inside it How to work with your inner child to create real healing A step-by-step framework for emotional transformation How secure partners show up differently in sex, connection, and conflict Why awareness alone isn’t enough — and what actually creates change Guest Links Instagram: Website: Resources and Events Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! Program: In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can !) NEW starting in January! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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278: Intimate Exposure: Boudoir & the Journey to Self-Acceptance with Lindsey Burns
12/12/2025
278: Intimate Exposure: Boudoir & the Journey to Self-Acceptance with Lindsey Burns
What if one photo session could shift the way you see your body and the way you show up in your marriage? Today’s guest, , is a boudoir photographer who helps women confront insecurities, dismantle shame, and increase their confidence, spirituality, and body image. In this episode you’ll learn: How a conservative Southern Baptist girl unexpectedly became a boudoir photographer Why boudoir isn’t vain or pornographic The transformation women experience when they finally see what their spouse sees How increasing self-confidence affects your marriage What happens in a boudoir session How to break the generational negative self-talk cycle A powerful technique for body-neutrality and self-acceptance Tips for husbands who want to suggest boudoir to their wives Lindsey’s “black belt sex tip” for deeper intimacy and better communication* We're so excited to have Lindsey join us on our upcoming cruise as our in-house (in-boat?) boudoir photographer! It's optional, but included in the total price of your cruise. You get to take away a fabulous momento from your sexy and intimate getaway! Apply to join us: *If you'd like some questions to ask your spouse (like Lindsey's tip), ! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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277: When ‘Good’ Gets In The way of Good Sex: 3 Mindset Shifts
12/05/2025
277: When ‘Good’ Gets In The way of Good Sex: 3 Mindset Shifts
Can “being good” actually get in the way of good sex? If you have spent your life "trying to be good," but still struggle to create a deep intimate connection with your spouse, you're not alone. In this episode, we talk about how to move beyond “good-boy/good-girl syndrome” and into the inherent goodness God designed in sexuality. If you grew up believing that sexual thoughts or desires were dangerous, shameful, or spiritually risky, this episode will help you see your sexuality through an entirely new lens—one grounded in joy, creativity, emotional connection, and spiritual maturity. You’ll learn: Why chastity and fidelity aren’t restrictions—they’re keys to true sexual freedom How your motivation for sex changes when obligation is removed Why the “dirty” parts of sex might be the very things that sanctify your marriage How embracing paradox and playfulness makes intimacy deeper and more meaningful This is an episode for every couple longing to move from anxiety-driven sex to soul-expanding intimacy. Resources and Events: Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! Program: In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can !) NEW Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January! Stand by for more information coming soon!
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276: Lingerie and Self-Confidence, with Melina Weekes of Dainty Lace
11/28/2025
276: Lingerie and Self-Confidence, with Melina Weekes of Dainty Lace
Purchasing and wearing lingerie can often be surrounded by comparison, insecurity, and pressure, but it doesn’t have to be! In this episode, Melina Weekes of Dainty Lace shares how fabrics, colors, mindset, and small daily practices can help women feel genuinely beautiful and confident in their own skin. Whether you’re brand-new to lingerie or wanting to rekindle confidence in your marriage, this episode offers practical, uplifting guidance rooted in self-worth and connection. In this episode, we cover: How comparison keeps women (and men) stuck The way different fabrics influence how you feel and why that matters in intimacy How to discover your color season and why the right tones instantly boost confidence Why lingerie isn’t “just for the wedding night” How Christian women can reclaim confidence without compromising values Lingerie shopping as a husband Melina’s surprising “black belt sex tip” (hint: it involves cowboys 😉) Learn more about Dainty Lace: Website: Instagram: Resources and Events: Apply for the next Get Your Marriage On! Program: In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can !) NEW Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January! Stand by for more information coming soon! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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275: Two Types of Intimacy You've Never Heard About
11/21/2025
275: Two Types of Intimacy You've Never Heard About
Most couples think intimacy is about communication or affection, but there are actually two different types of intimacy operating beneath the surface of every marriage. Chances are, you’ve only been using one of them… and it’s the one that keeps you stuck. In this episode, we break down the difference between other-validated intimacy and self-validated intimacy, and why shifting what type you develop can change everything about how you talk, connect, and experience sex in your marriage. In this episode, we cover: What the two types of intimacy actually are Why one leads to emotional gridlock Why the other opens the door to deeper connection How validation (or lack of it) affects both emotional and sexual intimacy Real-life examples from couples who transformed their connection The spiritual root of self-validated intimacy How your emotional reactivity is shaping your marriage Five practical ways to build self-validated intimacy today If you’ve ever wanted deeper conversation, more ease, or a more meaningful sexual connection, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air. Resources and Events: Apply for the next Get Your Marriage On! Program: In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can !) NEW Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January! Stand by for more information coming soon!
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274: The Challenge to Grow Up with Dr. Corey Allan
11/14/2025
274: The Challenge to Grow Up with Dr. Corey Allan
In today’s episode, Dr. Corey Allen joins us for a deep dive into fictional, but incredibly common, marriage scenarios that reveal surprising truths about desire, conflict, and emotional maturity. We explore how sexual and relational struggles aren’t mistakes—they are intentional invitations to grow up, become more courageous, and see our spouse more clearly. In this episode, we cover: Why sexual struggles are built into the work of marriage How meanings—not the issue itself—drive most conflicts How to own your part in the marriage Why many husbands unconsciously hedge their investment The danger of “minimum requirement” sex What real married love is What is actually better than "being happy" in marriage If you’re ready to see your marriage challenges from a whole new angle, this episode will change the way you think about intimacy and growth and the purpose of marriage. Links Mentioned: Apply for the next Get Your Marriage On! Program: Learn more about Dr. Corey Allen: (Sexy Marriage Radio) Events: In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can !) NEW Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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273: Financial Foreplay: The Unexpected Way to Build Trust and Turn On Intimacy, featuring Dan Ockey
11/07/2025
273: Financial Foreplay: The Unexpected Way to Build Trust and Turn On Intimacy, featuring Dan Ockey
Money and intimacy have more in common than most couples realize. In this episode, we sit down with financial coach to talk about financial intimacy — how the way you manage money together reflects the way you handle trust, communication, and teamwork in every other area of your marriage (yes, even the bedroom). You’ll hear Dan Ockey’s incredible story of turning debt, secrecy, and shame into a story of honesty, unity, and freedom — and how money challenges can actually strengthen your relationship if you face them together. In this episode: How financial habits mirror sexual habits in marriage Why secrecy and pride around money create the same distance as sexual disconnection Simple mindset shifts that restore trust and teamwork If you’ve ever argued about money, felt shame around spending, or struggled to get on the same page with your spouse — this episode will help you see finances not as a source of stress, but as a powerful tool for connection and intimacy. 👉 Learn more about Dan Oakey and Sensei Financial at 👉 Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! coaching program at getyourmarriageon.com/program Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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272: Firm Erections and Keeping Mr. Happy Happy, Part 2
10/31/2025
272: Firm Erections and Keeping Mr. Happy Happy, Part 2
Welcome to Part 2 of this special series on keeping your penis — and your marriage — healthy and happy. In this follow-up episode, we the practical side of sexual health: testosterone, nutrition, porn use, sleep, and yes… penis size. (Spoiler: your wife does care about your size, but it might not be in the area that you think.) You’ll learn: The truth about testosterone and how to boost it naturally The best foods for stronger erections How porn impacts sexual performance and confidence What’s actually normal when it comes to size What your penis does while you sleep We hope you benefit as we throw a little humor in with the science and practical wisdom to help you stay healthy, confident, and connected for years to come. 💡 Want help creating a more fulfilling sex life with your spouse? Check out our coaching program:
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271: Firm Erections and Keeping Mr. Happy Happy, Part 1
10/31/2025
271: Firm Erections and Keeping Mr. Happy Happy, Part 1
Let’s talk about one of God’s most incredible and misunderstood designs — the penis. In this episode (part one of two) we dive into the fascinating science behind erections — what makes them work, what shuts them down, and what you can do to keep things running at full power. From brain chemistry to heart health, this episode will change how you think about arousal, masculinity, and pleasure in marriage. It’s science, humor, and hope — all rolled into one episode that’ll help you appreciate just how wonderfully (and hilariously) you’re made. And don't miss part two where we tackle testosterone, penis size, and porn. This episode was inspired in part by 💡 Want to improve connection and sexual confidence in your marriage? Visit
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270: Mixed-orientation and Impossible Marriages with Laurie Krieg
10/24/2025
270: Mixed-orientation and Impossible Marriages with Laurie Krieg
What happens when your marriage feels impossible to sustain—but you believe God still has a plan? In this powerful episode, we sit down with author and speaker who shares her story of navigating a mixed-orientation marriage, wrestling with faith, desire, trauma, and the transformation that followed. In this episode, we cover: Laurie’s honest story of same-sex attraction and her decision to marry a man What it means to trust God when your marriage feels “impossible” Trauma, Jesus, and the healing process Practical ways to love your spouse through pain What Christians can do better to love and support LGBTQ+ individuals and families This episode will stretch your compassion, deepen your faith, and remind you that every marriage—no matter the struggle—can be a place of redemption and growth. Resources: 👉 Get our 👉 Apply for our coming up in the spring! 👉 And join our free private facebook group, Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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269: Q&A: Porn Alternative, Oral Sex, Sex & Spirituality, Low Desire & Discrepancies
10/17/2025
269: Q&A: Porn Alternative, Oral Sex, Sex & Spirituality, Low Desire & Discrepancies
In this special Q&A episode, we answer five anonymous listener questions about the most common struggles couples face in their intimate lives. Topics we cover: Healthy, uplifting alternatives to pornography for erotic inspiration Why some men struggle to orgasm from oral sex — and what helps Balancing strong sexual desire with your relationship with God How to get on the same page when you and your spouse want sex differently What to do when your own sexual desire feels low or disappears If you'd like to submit your questions for a future episode, submit your anonymous question on our website or in our private Facebook gorup. Mentioned in the episode:
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268: How to Love Through Your Sexuality, with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
10/10/2025
268: How to Love Through Your Sexuality, with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
For so many Christian couples, sexuality and spirituality can feel like they’re at odds. We’ve been taught that to be holy means to suppress desire—but what if our sexuality is actually one of the most powerful ways to love? In this deeply insightful episode, we talk with about how to integrate faith, desire, and embodiment. We explore how repressing our sexuality keeps us disconnected, how true intimacy begins with self-honesty, and why learning to love through our sexuality is a profoundly spiritual act. You’ll hear about: Why sexual integration, not suppression, leads to spiritual strength How ego, fear, and control distort connection—and what it means to love from the soul The difference between sex as validation vs. sex as communion How couples can cultivate that eros energy—aliveness, joy, and freedom—in their marriage Whether you’ve wrestled with shame around sexuality or you just want a richer, more connected relationship, this conversation will inspire you to see your body and your marriage in a whole new light. 👉 Check out Jennifer's brand new book, 👉 Get our 👉 Apply for our coming up in the spring! 👉 And join our free private facebook group,
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