Never go to bed angry & other terrible advice
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Some people swear by Dear Abby, others swear at Dear Abby. Today we look at some of Dear Abby's terrible advice. PLUS: Stay until the end to hear an important announcement about the podcast going on hiatus so Leah can take a well-deserved rest. Become a client: Support Leah's work: Full episode show notes:
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Road Trips and Sex Without Shame
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In this Pop Culture Pillow Talk, I talk with pop culture critic Kristen Meinzer about two great movies: Joy Ride Plan B You can find Kristen at: Become a client: Support the show: Full show notes:
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Bonus quickie
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Find the red flags! - Coaching Sophilia
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In this coaching episode, Sophilia asks: why does she keep ending up in relationships where things don’t feel right, and the entire weight of making it better falls on her? Leah works with Sophilia to: understand the red flags for this type of relationship, the communication skills that will help screen them out, rethink her own experience of being turned on. Sophilia is a 39-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as queer, single, and multi-racial with a white mother and Black father. In the past she’s been in monogamous relationships, but currently prefers the idea of being...
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When the man teaching consent is the one violating you
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Last year I found myself in the middle of a shitstorm for daring to expose a community leader's abusive behavior. Today I tell the whole story. The backlash was immediate and intense, with DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics used to paint me as the problem. Suddenly, I was not just standing as a representative of this man’s abuse, but also receiving harassment and ostracization from those I once considered my community. Sharing this story isn't just about telling you what’s going on; it's about shining a light on the dark corners of abuse and systemic failure....
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Pop Culture Pillow Talk: Starstruck on HBO
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What happens when your brain is so busy it can't slow down to enjoy having sexy time with the cute guy who's totally into you? In today's episode, we break down the first two episodes of the HBO show Starstruck with teen sex and relationship educator Julia Sheldon (who also happens to be Leah's dear friend.) We focus on lead character Jessie and how overthinking gets in the way of being present. Upcoming Beyond Permission class schedule: Thursday, Feb. 22 - Embracing your inner MILF with Danielle Tuesday, Feb. 27 - Dating at midlife with Leah Tuesday, March 5 - Sex toys show & tell...
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Having the best sex of my life at 63 - Debbie
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In this coaching/storytelling episode, Debbie talks about having the best sex of her life at age 63. Her question: Is that usual? While Debbie has always been multi-orgasmic, now she's having dozens of orgasms in a single sex session. And the connection with her new husband is a big part of the reason. Debbie is a 63 year old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, married. She describes her body as slender and athletic. And don't forget: the BEYOND PERMISSION workshop starts next week! Use coupon code "beyond20" to join us! BEYOND PERMISSION workshop...
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Why don't you want to have sex with me?
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Togetherness is an HBO show that explores the challenges of maintaining a healthy and active sex life in a long-term relationship with small children. In today's episode, Danielle Silverstein from the popular Marriage and Martinis podcast joins Leah to discuss the first two episodes of the show. They dive into the complexities of sexual fulfillment, gender roles, expectations and resentments. Join us for a deep, thought-provoking, and insightful conversation about challenges of maintaining intimacy in a long-term relationship. BEYOND PERMISSION workshop (use code "beyond20" for $20 off...
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Navigating the sex talk demons
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Leah joins Danielle of Marriage & Martinis to talk about why Danielle's conversation with her husband about intimacy and pleasure was explosive and chaotic. Leah breaks down what we need to remember during these very tough conversations: we’ve been conditioned differently from the time we’re very young, and are often simply adhering to the roles we’ve been instructed to fulfill. They talk about why we can’t always trust our bodies’ physical responses during intimacy, games that can be played in lieu of telling our partner, “we’re not satisfied” as means to get a...
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I wish they would SLOW DOWN - Coaching Maria
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In this coaching episode, Maria asks the age old question: why is it so hard to ask for what I want?! She's convinced that her problem is in poor communication skills, but it doesn't take long to discover that the issue lies in a complete different area. Leah works with Maria to: understand how gender dynamics are creating friction in the "what do you want?" conversation, rethink how her definition of "sex" makes asking so difficult, practice the way she'd like to initiate a conversation about sex with potential partners. Maria is a 27-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as...
info_outlineVoluptuous Leah is a plus-size model and Instagram influencer. At the time this episode is released, she has over 166,000 followers and she regularly posts photos of herself, her adorable dog Luna, cute plus-size fashion, and plus-size lingerie. You can find her on Instagram at Voluptuous Leah and her website at www.VoluptuousLeah.com
Voluptuous Leah is a 31-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, plus-size, and in a new relationship while going through a divorce from her previous husband.
The major theme in this episode is sex as a plus-sized women.
Here are some of the notable moments she shared with us:
- 6:40 – Leah’s first memory of sexual pleasure
- 9:00 – How she broke her ankle because she was looking at a boy that she had a crush with
- 12:15 - Her relationship with her ex-husband and how he fetishized her larger body
- 14:45 – Her new relationship and how he interacts with her and her body
The Lowdown – (15:20):
- Do you have sex during your period?
- What’s the approximate number of sex partners you’ve had?
- Do you prefer clit stimulation or penetration?
- Do you think it’s generally easy or challenging for you to orgasm?
- Have you ever faked an orgasm?
- What’s your favorite way to orgasm during sex?
- Do you need to make accommodations for sex in a larger body?
- Do you prefer the orgasm from masturbating or sex with another person?
- Can you orgasm from penetration alone without clit stimulation?
- What kind of touch do you enjoy most?
- What are your hard red lines?
- Are there sexual things you’ve tried that you never want to do again?
- How do you feel about your partner masturbating without you in the room?
- How do you feel about your partner watching porn?
- Do you have hair down there or are you bare?
- Have you ever had a threesome?
- Do you enjoy giving blow jobs?
- Do you enjoy receiving oral sex?
- Do you ever worry about your smell or taste?
- How do you feel about ass play?
- Do you enjoy dirty talk during sexual encounters?
- Do you enjoy laughter during sexual encounters?
- Have you ever felt a sexual urge that confused you?
- What’s your favorite part of your body?
- What’s your least favorite part of your body?
- What is something about your current sex life that isn’t quite as satisfying as you’d like it to be?
- What beliefs did you have about sex as a child or teenager that you wish you could correct her on now?
More links from this episode:
- Curvy Girl Sex book
- SheBop for sex toys - coupon code HUNKERDOWN (15% off online orders through at least March 31, 2020
- Sunny Megatron’s live stream about how to connect with partners and do sexy things when you're self-isolating due to the virus - bit.ly/sunnygetvokl
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Host – Leah Carey (Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, email)
Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Music by – Nazar Rybak